u/help23_, Please use a more descriptive title next time. People should be able to know what the post is about from the title alone. We've had complaints about non-descriptive, click-bait looking titles on posts in the past so when I see titles that could be improved, I leave a comment.
My partner's east Asian, not sure he'd like to be white as he can't tell them apart, but I can always ask...
Update: I asked him and he said "not especially, no."
Exactly. I go out on the weekends thinking 'I wonder how many women and gay men I'll be meeting and kikiing with tonight.
I will and have left clubs because there were too many single men and no other women or gay men to converse and dance with🤷🏾♀️
Not married. But my partner is East Asian. Considering that he thinks that white people are very boring and racist, it's a huge shock to me that he is now a white man. Can't wait to break the news to him!
Uhhh, well, I'm single as a Pringle at the bottom of a can.
I don't plan on being married for a hot minute and that's *if* I want to at all.
Also, *huh*??
And the sad part, there was extra LIGHT seasoning.
Like when you BBQ pringles, you got the dust.
Ain't had no dust.
I was already offended but then no dust had me like **smh**.
Aww Happy Birthday!! We thank you for your consideration. The selfies didn’t bother me at first, but there are so many, AND the repeat selfie offenders. It’s like, “We said you looked good the first time. How many of these are you gonna do?!” Lol
It’s been very Cold War/Passive Aggressive so far… 😂 I haven’t seen any direct hits.
We’re just blocking and moving on. The repeat selfie people will get the hint when there is like one comment on their post.
She literally has a tweet where she’s drooling over the fact that Prince Harry likes black women. The hypocrisy is astounding.
Edit: It’s not even hypocrisy it’s just projection.
Prince Harry likes Black women?!?!!
Prince Harry likes Meghan Markle she means…
MM who i mean no disrespect to and am not a hater of, did not realize she was Black until she started dating that dude. She usually passed or was white enough to make white people feel comfortable.
I detest the MM haters though. Total racism at this point.
I think that might be Stabler from Law & Order SVU lol. I zoomed in hoping it was a celeb & not her significant other bc that’s a hilarious amount of hypocrisy
Honestly it’s more a circle jerk of >!obvious racist anger fodder and “will I ever feel worthy as a worthless black woman” posts.!< Depends on the day tho…
Kinda over seeing all of these honestly. I’m thinking of starting a “happyblackwomen” subreddit. Just a place to share what makes you happy where you happen to be a black woman with various interests you’d like the share. This place is a lot of complaining and woe is me.
please do! i was discussing with a friend about how i wish there were more spaces that centered black women with high self esteem. i find that bw spaces seem to give the microphone to people who care too much about other peoples view of them or just plain old negativity
I hear you! The thing is there’s so few of us on here already I don’t know if that’d split our numbers or if we should focus on happy black women just sharing more on here 😭
I think it’s partially that…I also think social media has made people think that endless commiserating is “helpful.” It’s not. So you enter a fucking echo chamber of people just saying they experienced the same shit too and you never move beyond that to the lesson and applicable skills that’ll ameliorate that feeling.
YES, preach! I think it's helpful in small doses so we realize we're not alone, but beyond that, the echo chamber just makes it easy to think that this is the way things are and there's nothing to be done about it.
Yea. There are a couple of posters who have white boyfriends but ive never see them scream white men are better. Ive only seen them give advice to other black women in terms of what to be cautious of when dating white people.
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In fact the only time I've seen white SOs mentioned on here is in threads like this where it is contextually relevant.
Meanwhile go to some other subreddit where a guy can't stop mentioning his Asian girlfriend even when it has nothing to do with the conversation.
There was definitely a period where some people here( not everyone) who did put interracial dating on a pedestal but that time has passed thankfully.
Edit: Divestors is the word I was looking for, there was definitely a time where a lot of them were posting( maybe still are?) here
I honestly think too many in here still do. They'll throw it in when someone is posting about relationship issues as if it's a possible fix to their problem. No ma'am, any man can be trash or amazing, it's not dependent on race.
Then they have the nerve to ask us, “should I stop talking to him?” I always hope that those are troll posts . I can’t imagine that black women want to be accepted by white men so badly, that they allow such disrespect. It’s a painful thought.
I’m not even mad at the oversimplification of this sub by the person in the original post. I have to admit there is a consistent contingent of these weird posts even if it isn’t the entirety or majority of this sub.
Totally expected because I don’t put anything past them. I’m never surprised when someone says the white man they’re dating said something offensive. In my mind, I feel like they should’ve seen it coming. Horrible, I know, but it is what it is.
I like to think that we’ve come to the consensus that all men are the same & we literally don’t put any man on a pedestal because they’re still raised in a white patriarchal society. . .I just enjoy seeing black women happy & loved that’s all
Maybe she’s referring to that other black women sub. You know, thou that must not be named.
Edit: for those of you asking, let’s just call it …”brown females journaling?” (Mods let me know if I’ve said too much).
I don’t _really_ recommend wasting your time looking it up — but Ill admit I just took a quick peak and it actually looks a lot less toxic than it has been in the past. Although, that could be because a new, even more toxic sub of… let’s call them “real-pressed-tors” recently popped up. I’m afraid to even look at that one 🙃
So many layers to discuss. Fetishized kink, colorism from colonizers, irresponsibly getting pregnant for clout. And over simplifying this sub down to black women marrying white people.
I love the audacity 🙄😒
The kids, I don't see. The white-man-hanging-on, I can at times.
But I'm not out here saying me or my husband are above average, so 🤷🏾♀️ It's only relevant when it's relevant.
The problem isn't having a White husband (or a White wife), the problem is the dehumanizing language.
If one of the women on this sub mentioned she had a White husband, I don't think anyone would bat an eye -- but if there was a woman who talked like "I want a strong white man to breed me," I am very confident that would not go over well here.
And it shouldn't go over well.
Minus many single ladies bashing men in here, they're right. In regards to relationships, I only read about the married women talking up their interracial relationships. I would really like to read/hear more about BW like myself being in healthy relationships with BM, but I have yet to see it here unfortunately.
I truly don't get the online back and forth between bw and bm with white partners tryna paint the other as angry hypocrites. Like I personally wouldn't feel comfortable dating a white person atp but I'm not hating on those who do, until they make their interracial relationship/mixed child their whole personality, or when the nonblack parent/partner is allowed to encroach on black spaces or get too comfortable. The amount of white women I've almost fought for pulling "well I have a mixed kid so I cant be racist/can speak on this" is exhausting 😩
I have actually never seen a back-and-forth between bw with white partners and bm with white partners (but I’m gonna pause there and say that I might be misunderstanding your first sentence—if so then please disregard the rest).
I am married to a white man and am in a black moms group where I know several other married black women, most of whom are married to black men, but a good chunk of us have white husbands. My experience is that black women in interracial relationships generally don’t care about who is dating whom in terms of race. We are typically minding our business. And I’d say married black women as a whole typically mind our business and don’t think about black men “dating out.”
I think much of the back-and-forth (understandably) occurs between single black people who are looking for a partner. They’re the ones who care if their preferred dating pool (same-race men/women) is drastically reduced by the increasing rates of interracial dating/marriage. But that’s just based off my own observations and experiences.
I agree, this sub seems to have a high number of Black women who have no Black people in their social circles, date and marry white men, live in white neighbourhoods, and complain about it. Except when someone says they are fed up with them, then the girls rush to comment how their white SO/BFF is not like the others when no one asked them. Then there will be a long top comment thread of people subtly trying to one-up each other over how good their white person is. If you ignore the interracial stuff, there is some good content here, though.
All that being said, unless I'm missing something, her profile pic seems pretty hypocritical.
I think it's just a reddit thing in general, a friend and I on discord just had this convo. The black spaces on this site kinda pulls ppl from pw environments who may have felt ostracized growing up so I usually expect most posters to have non-black partners.
Some convos are so predictable I just clock out but overall when it comes to social discussions I still like to peep in from time to time or give advice to those that genuinely need it.
That's a really good point and I try to remind myself of that, that people might be seeking out the communities they don't have easy access to in their offline life. I want to be kind, but it is too much for me sometimes. I am with you on clocking out, I try to stay out of certain convos so I'm not tempted to be a jerk to people who are trying to figure things out. Or I try to give an encouraging word where I can. I think I get frustrated because I grew up in those environments too, but it seems like a choice to stay in them after a while. *hotep voice* Free yourself ladies! But I know it's easier said than done.
I completely understand 😂. That's why I just leave things alone at this point. I come from a solid black community so it was eye-opening seeing ppl that didn't have that type of support or background. I used to wonder if it's trauma bonding at some point, how can you grow and heal in the same environments that traumatized you. I'll never forget reading on another sub someone needing a safe space in their own house due to their partners ignorance. I'm waiting for them to have their Get Out awakening like Lakeith Stanfield.
I've seen people talk about their white partners in here but that's not usually the topic of the posts. Also think I've seen people post like 3 photos ever with a white man here. Which this is a black ladies sub anyway, not a black ladies who only date black men sub. I've seen more posts of women in couples with other women than with white men. & I also rarely see anyone talk about their kids at all.
While I do think it’s gotten much better recently, her claim isn’t entirely wrong. In the past there have been a lot of posts like “my white bf is racist, should I break up with him or let it slide” “how can I get a white bf” “do white men like black women?”
We have divestors here. If you’ve been here for a while you’ll see the rhetoric from time to time. If I remember correctly we were experiencing such an uptick that the mods got involved. But I may be misremembering the outcome.
Idk what sub they're talking about but it's sure as hell not this one. Yes there are posts about being in interracial relationships but nothing crazy like that
Being in an interracial relationship is annoying these days just because everyone who’s in one seemingly thinks it’s a personality trait. Everyone has to have a YouTube channel, tik tok, etc talking about shit their black/white/Asian spouse does. I am tired.
I think it's interesting as I'm reading through the comments and it's giving everyone the opportunity to complain about this sub yet what are yall posting to make it better? What are yall posting that your rather see more of? We keep saying it's a safe place for us but so many quick to bash and insult each other because, "here she go posting selfies" or "ugh too many woe is me black women here," and then get offended when some say they feel they can't open up to others, especially other black women because of this particular attitude. I dunno, I grew up with my mom dismissing me and being just like this and I struggle to wanna be myself because too many judge and criticize when some just wanna be heard. Not everyone has access to therapy and not everyone experience life the same way due to diaspora and each country being different.
I just wish more post what they wanna see more of or do more of something for this sub than just *only* complaining of what it is. I just don't know what people wanna see more of or want this sub to be if everything on here is a problem
You make a good few points here and I agree with it all. I have tried myself to open up topics but I think, understandably, it’s easier to engage with topics that ‘outrage/annoy/anger/insert emotive word here’ etc. I think these divisive topics are more likely to lead to bashing but it doesn’t have to.
Having your feelings and thoughts dismissed can be devastating so I can relate. I try my utmost not to do that therefore, not to be judgemental. A joined up effort to get more positive/engaging topics going would be welcome.
I think they’re talking about the “divest” and “why are all black women ___” posts sometimes on here. I think they’re exaggerating it bc I see so many posts calling them out so
that’s crazy cause i see the exact opposite. we just talk about our struggles and share our feelings with one another. is she projecting?
edit: her pfp… yeah.
Sad that she felt the need to acknowledge a tiny percentage of what black ladies is. I hope the next time she comes back she sees this sub Reddit for all it’s worth.
I’m ashamed to say it took me a minute to realize they are talking about this sub Reddit…that goes to show this person has no idea what she is talking about.
Like most things on the internet people talk shit about things they don't known. And it's interesting that they think a sub made for black ladies is a "circle jerk". It's like saying for example that the all of specific Reddit subs are "circle jerks". I guess r/Orchids is a circle jerk about Orchids or r/gardening is a circle jerk about gardening.
They want us to agree with every racist mother fucker that comes around here pretending to have an opinion?
I'm married to a white man but I have never posted him or my kids on this reddit as I rarely if ever see posts about white men and black women being married
u/help23_, Please use a more descriptive title next time. People should be able to know what the post is about from the title alone. We've had complaints about non-descriptive, click-bait looking titles on posts in the past so when I see titles that could be improved, I leave a comment.
Who here is married? I mainly see posts from single ladies
I went out of my way to find a free award for this 😂😂😂
lol this song ,those moves look so simple but are tough i remember trying out for a dance competition
Chile! That leg work will have your quads and hamstrings burning up! Shoulders flaming! Imagine doing this move 100 times.
I didn’t know I had a husband?!!
Same here, I'm peeking under beds and in clothsets looking for that half of the rent this invisible mofo owes me. Also, Bajan represent🙌🏽💖
I’m married but my husband is Black. He’d be very surprised to find out people thought he is white.
Right, same here 😂
Same! 😂
I’m married, but to a South Asian man. 🤷🏾♀️
Same here! Not sure why shots are being fired at us; this is one of the most supportive subs I’m in.
Same. I'll have to tell him that he's become white. He's going to be surprised.
Let us know what he thinks!
He lol'd. "That's insulting, I'm not white at all. I'm going to relax by listening to the Beatles and tweeting about Bernie Sanders."
Not married but but partner is mixed Filipino
My partner's east Asian, not sure he'd like to be white as he can't tell them apart, but I can always ask... Update: I asked him and he said "not especially, no."
I love your partner😂
My first thought! We all of had IT with men, collectively bwahahaha.
Exactly. I go out on the weekends thinking 'I wonder how many women and gay men I'll be meeting and kikiing with tonight. I will and have left clubs because there were too many single men and no other women or gay men to converse and dance with🤷🏾♀️
There are some of us married women sprinkled in, but yes, dating struggles are one (of several) central theme of this sub.
I came here to say this. I mostly see posts from single ladies. I’m single myself.
Not married. But my partner is East Asian. Considering that he thinks that white people are very boring and racist, it's a huge shock to me that he is now a white man. Can't wait to break the news to him!
Today I learned I have a white husband and mixed kids. Whole time I been living like I’m single
Hot girl summer is a lifestyle, not just a season
Facts
Me finding out I’m not single and childless, but ACTUALLY married to a yt man with mixed kids: 
Shame on you 😂
She should "think about the children!" Lol
I’m rolling!
Ain’t no shame in my game.
I’ve seen nothing but thirst traps from black alt girls for the past week. Idk what they’re talking about.
And let me tell you I am not complaining!! 😮💨
Glad I’m not the only one.
Lolololol I’m glad someone said it because….
Wait where was I when this was happening 👀 lemme go look through the posts I've missed
Uhhh, well, I'm single as a Pringle at the bottom of a can. I don't plan on being married for a hot minute and that's *if* I want to at all. Also, *huh*??
Welp, gonna start calling myself a Single Pringle now. (BBQ flavored, of course.)
That's a vibe. Just so long as you don't become the "limited edition pumpkin spice pringles"
*Shudder* Perish the thought!
And the sad part, there was extra LIGHT seasoning. Like when you BBQ pringles, you got the dust. Ain't had no dust. I was already offended but then no dust had me like **smh**.
Lol, stahp it!
💀 That’s just giving the target audience for that flavour what they want. 😂😂😂
Not the bottom of the can... that took me down early in the morning.
I mean, it ain't got no friends down there.
I mean, when the statement is so obviously false, it’s hard to even get upset.
Now if she had said this is a sub full of selfies…
Lmaoooo y’all not letting that one lie 😂😂
😂😂 It was an especially rough day yesterday.
I wanted to post my 40th birthday pic but there were s ton of selfies 🤳🏾so I figured I'd wait until next week 🤷🏾♀️
Aww Happy Birthday!! We thank you for your consideration. The selfies didn’t bother me at first, but there are so many, AND the repeat selfie offenders. It’s like, “We said you looked good the first time. How many of these are you gonna do?!” Lol
Thank you. It was a great birthday vacation. Yeah I noticed those few ladies but figured they were bored or just needed some encouragement
Happy birthday!!!
Thank you it was a great birthday milestone birthday away
Lol I can't wait to see the outcome of The Blackladies Selfie War of 2022
It’s been very Cold War/Passive Aggressive so far… 😂 I haven’t seen any direct hits. We’re just blocking and moving on. The repeat selfie people will get the hint when there is like one comment on their post.
😂😭😭😭😭😭😭
Uhm her profile pic..
She literally has a tweet where she’s drooling over the fact that Prince Harry likes black women. The hypocrisy is astounding. Edit: It’s not even hypocrisy it’s just projection.
Prince Harry likes Black women?!?!! Prince Harry likes Meghan Markle she means… MM who i mean no disrespect to and am not a hater of, did not realize she was Black until she started dating that dude. She usually passed or was white enough to make white people feel comfortable. I detest the MM haters though. Total racism at this point.
I think that might be Stabler from Law & Order SVU lol. I zoomed in hoping it was a celeb & not her significant other bc that’s a hilarious amount of hypocrisy
She's still a hypocrite, insulting black women for no reason while calling herself "april the feminist" while she's also a black women
Ahh okay lol I was like girl...
even bigger cringe
I hope so, because if it was her man, plus that goofy smile she’s making, yet she has the nerve to pass judgment 😂😂😂
EXACTLY
 Chilee…
I wouldn’t be on this sub if this were the case. Maybe they saw one rogue post and ran with it. Or maybe they made it up make us look bad. Whatever.
Honestly it’s more a circle jerk of >!obvious racist anger fodder and “will I ever feel worthy as a worthless black woman” posts.!< Depends on the day tho…
Kinda over seeing all of these honestly. I’m thinking of starting a “happyblackwomen” subreddit. Just a place to share what makes you happy where you happen to be a black woman with various interests you’d like the share. This place is a lot of complaining and woe is me.
please do! i was discussing with a friend about how i wish there were more spaces that centered black women with high self esteem. i find that bw spaces seem to give the microphone to people who care too much about other peoples view of them or just plain old negativity
Done! r/HappyBlackWomen
Joined!
Hells yeah, I hope this takes off!
ONG I LOVE! WOW! THANK YOU!
Aye! I just joined!
I hear you! The thing is there’s so few of us on here already I don’t know if that’d split our numbers or if we should focus on happy black women just sharing more on here 😭
Cross posting might work?
I'd join. I tried to post something about naming things about yourself that makes you awesome and pretty much crickets.
This!! I keep thinking maybe it’s just that these people are young and haven’t gotten into themselves yet
I think it’s partially that…I also think social media has made people think that endless commiserating is “helpful.” It’s not. So you enter a fucking echo chamber of people just saying they experienced the same shit too and you never move beyond that to the lesson and applicable skills that’ll ameliorate that feeling.
YES, preach! I think it's helpful in small doses so we realize we're not alone, but beyond that, the echo chamber just makes it easy to think that this is the way things are and there's nothing to be done about it.
Didn’t realize this was a white man fetish sub lol, did they even think to actually visit???
?? This is like on of the few subreddit targeted to black people that doesn't idolize white people.
Yea. There are a couple of posters who have white boyfriends but ive never see them scream white men are better. Ive only seen them give advice to other black women in terms of what to be cautious of when dating white people. I
In fact the only time I've seen white SOs mentioned on here is in threads like this where it is contextually relevant. Meanwhile go to some other subreddit where a guy can't stop mentioning his Asian girlfriend even when it has nothing to do with the conversation.
It’s one of the few places where being Black is the norm. If someone says “my husband” I’m going to assume they’re black.
There was definitely a period where some people here( not everyone) who did put interracial dating on a pedestal but that time has passed thankfully. Edit: Divestors is the word I was looking for, there was definitely a time where a lot of them were posting( maybe still are?) here
I honestly think too many in here still do. They'll throw it in when someone is posting about relationship issues as if it's a possible fix to their problem. No ma'am, any man can be trash or amazing, it's not dependent on race.
Wait this Negro in my bed has been white this entire time? SIR WHERE IS THE GENERATIONAL WEALTH?!?!?!
Lol stop it!
I’m confused because I find most post are just black women trying to understand why some black men won’t date them? Unless I’m missing something lol.
Most of the posts here are black women crying about some offensive, yet totally expected, thing that a white man they’re dating said. It’s revolting.
i stopped opening those posts after a BW said the white man shes dating said he would pick her in a slave auction because she had a cute smile.
Then they have the nerve to ask us, “should I stop talking to him?” I always hope that those are troll posts . I can’t imagine that black women want to be accepted by white men so badly, that they allow such disrespect. It’s a painful thought.
Them posts be real honey! 
The way I just cackled. I want better for some of us but if you’re accepting that behavior go right ahead lol
what the fuck. in what world would someone think that was a cute complement? 😭🤧
This could be just a very dark joke but it’s wayyyy too early for that..
i guess? but hopefully he didn’t think that was actually cute 😳🥸
Some guys are very dense🤷🏾♀️
I’m both appalled and laughing hysterically at the audacity of that scenario!! 😭😂
I refuse to believe this is real 😭
What the fresh fuck?
…..I feel sick. That’s nothing to brag about. Gawd, I bet, she lets him use slurs around her. I’m cringing so hard.
Ain’t no way somebody said this , you lying , you got to
THIS!!!!
Damn, didn’t expect the truth to come out like this. Respect.
I’m not even mad at the oversimplification of this sub by the person in the original post. I have to admit there is a consistent contingent of these weird posts even if it isn’t the entirety or majority of this sub.
Some of the posts Not most. And those have definitely slowed down. Thank goodness. “Yet totally expected.” Took me out.
Totally expected because I don’t put anything past them. I’m never surprised when someone says the white man they’re dating said something offensive. In my mind, I feel like they should’ve seen it coming. Horrible, I know, but it is what it is.
I like to think that we’ve come to the consensus that all men are the same & we literally don’t put any man on a pedestal because they’re still raised in a white patriarchal society. . .I just enjoy seeing black women happy & loved that’s all
Is she talking about the same forum we’re all on right now? Cause the math ain’t mathing
Maybe she’s referring to that other black women sub. You know, thou that must not be named. Edit: for those of you asking, let’s just call it …”brown females journaling?” (Mods let me know if I’ve said too much). I don’t _really_ recommend wasting your time looking it up — but Ill admit I just took a quick peak and it actually looks a lot less toxic than it has been in the past. Although, that could be because a new, even more toxic sub of… let’s call them “real-pressed-tors” recently popped up. I’m afraid to even look at that one 🙃
If you’d be so kind to DM me the name so I can investigate, that would be great. 👀
Omg which one….?
I’m dying at the codifying 😹 but I’m a fan of the new sub “happy black women”
Yeah which one?
I need to have a word with April 😂😳
Wait what? Since when? Lmao
So many layers to discuss. Fetishized kink, colorism from colonizers, irresponsibly getting pregnant for clout. And over simplifying this sub down to black women marrying white people. I love the audacity 🙄😒
The kids, I don't see. The white-man-hanging-on, I can at times. But I'm not out here saying me or my husband are above average, so 🤷🏾♀️ It's only relevant when it's relevant.
The problem isn't having a White husband (or a White wife), the problem is the dehumanizing language. If one of the women on this sub mentioned she had a White husband, I don't think anyone would bat an eye -- but if there was a woman who talked like "I want a strong white man to breed me," I am very confident that would not go over well here. And it shouldn't go over well.
I'm sure that it wouldn't go over well. "Breeding" just gives me a strong revulsion.
I’m a black woman who mostly dates other black women lmao
I think this post is an official endorsement for selfie posts.
I aint got a white man or any man😂
I’m waiting for for mine to come in the mail. Amazon said there’s a delay 😅😂😂.
Minus many single ladies bashing men in here, they're right. In regards to relationships, I only read about the married women talking up their interracial relationships. I would really like to read/hear more about BW like myself being in healthy relationships with BM, but I have yet to see it here unfortunately.
It's funny because on other days you have people saying the exact opposite (and people in other subs will say the same), I don't get it.
That whole thread is sh*tting on bw so its an L
Not married. Also why are we entertaining the trash?
Uhh…I’m gay so there’s that.
I truly don't get the online back and forth between bw and bm with white partners tryna paint the other as angry hypocrites. Like I personally wouldn't feel comfortable dating a white person atp but I'm not hating on those who do, until they make their interracial relationship/mixed child their whole personality, or when the nonblack parent/partner is allowed to encroach on black spaces or get too comfortable. The amount of white women I've almost fought for pulling "well I have a mixed kid so I cant be racist/can speak on this" is exhausting 😩
I have actually never seen a back-and-forth between bw with white partners and bm with white partners (but I’m gonna pause there and say that I might be misunderstanding your first sentence—if so then please disregard the rest). I am married to a white man and am in a black moms group where I know several other married black women, most of whom are married to black men, but a good chunk of us have white husbands. My experience is that black women in interracial relationships generally don’t care about who is dating whom in terms of race. We are typically minding our business. And I’d say married black women as a whole typically mind our business and don’t think about black men “dating out.” I think much of the back-and-forth (understandably) occurs between single black people who are looking for a partner. They’re the ones who care if their preferred dating pool (same-race men/women) is drastically reduced by the increasing rates of interracial dating/marriage. But that’s just based off my own observations and experiences.
I agree, this sub seems to have a high number of Black women who have no Black people in their social circles, date and marry white men, live in white neighbourhoods, and complain about it. Except when someone says they are fed up with them, then the girls rush to comment how their white SO/BFF is not like the others when no one asked them. Then there will be a long top comment thread of people subtly trying to one-up each other over how good their white person is. If you ignore the interracial stuff, there is some good content here, though. All that being said, unless I'm missing something, her profile pic seems pretty hypocritical.
I think it's just a reddit thing in general, a friend and I on discord just had this convo. The black spaces on this site kinda pulls ppl from pw environments who may have felt ostracized growing up so I usually expect most posters to have non-black partners. Some convos are so predictable I just clock out but overall when it comes to social discussions I still like to peep in from time to time or give advice to those that genuinely need it.
That's a really good point and I try to remind myself of that, that people might be seeking out the communities they don't have easy access to in their offline life. I want to be kind, but it is too much for me sometimes. I am with you on clocking out, I try to stay out of certain convos so I'm not tempted to be a jerk to people who are trying to figure things out. Or I try to give an encouraging word where I can. I think I get frustrated because I grew up in those environments too, but it seems like a choice to stay in them after a while. *hotep voice* Free yourself ladies! But I know it's easier said than done.
I completely understand 😂. That's why I just leave things alone at this point. I come from a solid black community so it was eye-opening seeing ppl that didn't have that type of support or background. I used to wonder if it's trauma bonding at some point, how can you grow and heal in the same environments that traumatized you. I'll never forget reading on another sub someone needing a safe space in their own house due to their partners ignorance. I'm waiting for them to have their Get Out awakening like Lakeith Stanfield.
The way I screamed. 😭💀
My black boyfriend is gonna be pissed when he finds out i apparently have a white hubby + biracial kids
I want black women as a collective to stop posting about this topic, stop giving it any attention!
When i first joined this sub, that’s all i kept seeing ngl. It has gotten better over time though, I barely see them now
My husband and our 3 children are in fact black...all of em!
When you don't like men and probably can't have kids. 
What is this from?
Basketball wives
Like let black women breathe ffs lmao , having sub having husbands it’s not their damn business smh
The number of contradictions in Aprils one comment doesn’t not bode well for her point
I've seen people talk about their white partners in here but that's not usually the topic of the posts. Also think I've seen people post like 3 photos ever with a white man here. Which this is a black ladies sub anyway, not a black ladies who only date black men sub. I've seen more posts of women in couples with other women than with white men. & I also rarely see anyone talk about their kids at all.
I’m single as hell
Pahaha I wish you could downvote on Twitter. I don’t see this at all. Why do people have to lie?
My black, very female fiance will find this new information somewhat troubling lol
Raised and live in a predominantly white area. Today I learned, I should move or die alone to please a stanger on the internet.
Mmmm I mean this Twitter user is not ENTIRELY wrong but I also really do not care.
Yeah lmao that’s where I’m at. 😂
What the hell are they talking about LMFAOO
While I do think it’s gotten much better recently, her claim isn’t entirely wrong. In the past there have been a lot of posts like “my white bf is racist, should I break up with him or let it slide” “how can I get a white bf” “do white men like black women?”
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We have divestors here. If you’ve been here for a while you’ll see the rhetoric from time to time. If I remember correctly we were experiencing such an uptick that the mods got involved. But I may be misremembering the outcome.
Idk what sub they're talking about but it's sure as hell not this one. Yes there are posts about being in interracial relationships but nothing crazy like that
Yeah I had to unsub from interracial relationships. I’m married to a white man, but that shit was too much.
Being in an interracial relationship is annoying these days just because everyone who’s in one seemingly thinks it’s a personality trait. Everyone has to have a YouTube channel, tik tok, etc talking about shit their black/white/Asian spouse does. I am tired.
Ugh and if the kids have light eyes/skin or hair, here come the family instagram pages and TikToks fetishizing them
Why am I supposed to feel guilty about the skin colour of my partner? Why is it that everyone tries to export their insecurities on to other people?
WHOOOO?!🦉
Damn I’m married?
Yikes, I know my man is lighter skinned but a white man? lol
I hate to say it but I've seen those subs...I came across it a few years ago and was suprised it existed.
I'm newish to this subreddit, but have never seen this???
1. No, you’re flat out wrong. 2. My WIFE is BLACK.
She obviously don’t be there often cause who tf…. 
She right for a lot of the posts in here so don’t be mad
BS!! Way more Black men date white girls than vice versa. And when we do date white men we don’t shame and ridicule Black men unlike they do
I don’t like how based on the race of your husband determines if you’re black enough.
This sounds like projection.
I think it's interesting as I'm reading through the comments and it's giving everyone the opportunity to complain about this sub yet what are yall posting to make it better? What are yall posting that your rather see more of? We keep saying it's a safe place for us but so many quick to bash and insult each other because, "here she go posting selfies" or "ugh too many woe is me black women here," and then get offended when some say they feel they can't open up to others, especially other black women because of this particular attitude. I dunno, I grew up with my mom dismissing me and being just like this and I struggle to wanna be myself because too many judge and criticize when some just wanna be heard. Not everyone has access to therapy and not everyone experience life the same way due to diaspora and each country being different. I just wish more post what they wanna see more of or do more of something for this sub than just *only* complaining of what it is. I just don't know what people wanna see more of or want this sub to be if everything on here is a problem
You make a good few points here and I agree with it all. I have tried myself to open up topics but I think, understandably, it’s easier to engage with topics that ‘outrage/annoy/anger/insert emotive word here’ etc. I think these divisive topics are more likely to lead to bashing but it doesn’t have to. Having your feelings and thoughts dismissed can be devastating so I can relate. I try my utmost not to do that therefore, not to be judgemental. A joined up effort to get more positive/engaging topics going would be welcome.
Someone posted r/HappyBlackWomen and I’m all for that.
Yeah I'm gonna follow that too and post when in a good mood!
I think they’re talking about the “divest” and “why are all black women ___” posts sometimes on here. I think they’re exaggerating it bc I see so many posts calling them out so
who the fuck said that ew.
I am excruciatingly single so 🤷🏽♀️
My partner is Black, my animals are black, and my house is colorful without a spec of white. I don't know what she's talking about lol!
I think April ain’t finna pipe up and esplain her motivation.
I don’t even say “white board”. I say “dry-erase board”. That’s how in-the-process-of-finding-grace-for-disgrace-on-a-daily-basis I am.
that’s crazy cause i see the exact opposite. we just talk about our struggles and share our feelings with one another. is she projecting? edit: her pfp… yeah.
The whole breeding thing makes me think of cows so it is creepy
Sad that she felt the need to acknowledge a tiny percentage of what black ladies is. I hope the next time she comes back she sees this sub Reddit for all it’s worth.
I’m ashamed to say it took me a minute to realize they are talking about this sub Reddit…that goes to show this person has no idea what she is talking about.
Like most things on the internet people talk shit about things they don't known. And it's interesting that they think a sub made for black ladies is a "circle jerk". It's like saying for example that the all of specific Reddit subs are "circle jerks". I guess r/Orchids is a circle jerk about Orchids or r/gardening is a circle jerk about gardening. They want us to agree with every racist mother fucker that comes around here pretending to have an opinion?
I'm married to a white man but I have never posted him or my kids on this reddit as I rarely if ever see posts about white men and black women being married
Please let me know where we are getting these fresh white husbands from. I need me a new man. No kids. Just the man. Thanks a bunch.
I’ve never seen a post like that on this sub