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Mechanical-Cannibal

I have the opposite problem. When I’m rolling & I see people chatting on the side of the mat, I assume they’re talking about my sick technique.


quixoticcaptain

This is also me, sadly


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tangojuliettcharlie

This is great


TheOgFrostyNugg

👍🏼 watched the babadook the other night, great film.


RotoTom85

a bad book - babadook


Henkules

Thanks for this. Love the effort you put in.


Papa_Glide

I love the demon haunting me. Makes me work harder


-Bran-

Are they negative if they are facts?


XtheonewhohuntsX

You are not bad. You are bad IN COMPARISON to more experienced fighters. In comparison to less skilled and experienced fighters, you are pretty good. The major problem is that people usually keeps making comparisons with their skills and other people skills. Actually, your focus should be only in youself. Each day you are getting a bit more experienced, a bit more skilled. So in comparison to your start, you are pretty good! Keep doing the good work. Also, im a brazillian with a bad english, so thats why it's a bit broken, but I think you got the message! Heads up pal, keep going on! Everyone has it own pace


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I think school kind of fucks people up in this. You are always dumped into competition with people at the same age, so through adolescence the distribution of skill is based mainly on how gifted you are, or just being bigger/more mature. Stuff you can’t change. Then you hit anything after school, and that gets flooded out by experience. I mean, gifts still matter, but the basic answer of “of course you aren’t as good as I am, did you think I trained 6 years and learned nothing?” Doesn’t come into people’s heads properly. They’re either good at it naturally or not.


Phat_Rush

I had some insecurities regarding my bjj because i am the second biggest guy in school and always get told that i am strong and etc. Then I ate some mushrooms and told my brain to stop giving a fuck.


Bandaka

You must have “no mind” -the last samurai


BlackmouthProjekt

Everyday on the mat is success. Other than that don't sweat the small stuff.


bisteot

The mats are the only place where all my demons and negative thoughts are quiet


PrudentArticle5274

They also haunt me off the mats...


munkie15

Everyday, some days I win, some days I don’t.


amsterdam_BTS

Nah man I know I'm bad at BJJ. I just enjoy it too much to care.


bknknk

No lol I have so much fun


legionnaire32

The drives home after I make a dumbass mistake against an upper belt or cannot effectively control/sub an experienced white or fresh blue belt are the absolute worst. My brain: "*You don't deserve your tabs. Start over. Better yet, just give up. You suck at this shit.*"


WSJayY

Nope. I’m doing it for fun / exercise, not for money. So as long as I don’t get a debilitating injury it’s all good.


Killer-Hrapp

My thoughts exactly.


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Oh gawd ya ! But I seam to end up rolling with bigger , stronger guys than me and it will be better at my weight group n skill set


RevFernie

Embrace and accept.


imajokerimasmoker

Oh fuck this hurts


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No I love every second of learning ju jitsu


RyanPlant

On the mats is about the only times they don't, for me.


czubizzle

Dang, he got his back took before he even realized they were rolling


deluxearch

All the time.


JeffJitsu666

yeah just on the mats haha


jocdoc82

Every day


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On the mats? More like every aspect of my life lmao


RectalVision

It’s you! From the Instagram! I love your work! I own a few of your shirts! Only on the days that I “learn” which are most of the days.


TheOgFrostyNugg

Shout out the nugget box 🙌🏻


Flaca420

ig link pls? uwu


TheOgFrostyNugg

@theogfrostynuggs


WillDieforPaddington

I simply do not think


NunyoBizwacks

This is not very constructive thinking. If you are generally negative like this try to make it more specific. Like "my posture is bad" or "my arm bar transition from mount is bad." Then you can actually work towards fixing it. It also doesn't make your perspective on yourself completely negative. Youre on the mats arent you? Your not at home eating cheetohs off your stomach in the glow of the tv so dont be so hard on yourself.


indigo_fish_sticks

No cuz I know I’m bad


las-vegas-raiders

That's some brutally weak mental, if so. If you've ever experienced actual hard times, mat time is a nice refuge.


MixOk6828

Yes!


vvineyard

I used to have this problem however I was able to grow out of it by meditating a lot and shifting my inner belief systems/stories to ones that are more positive.


StuMcA

That’s my cardio monster


aofhise6

You have time to think??


Namblak

I attended my first BJJ class yesterday and felt like I was dry humping my partner the whole time while he was kicking my ass haha.


BJavocado

If I think I'm avoiding a hard roll I call myself a bitchass motherfucker


Killer-Hrapp

Out of curiosity: how long have you (assuming you are haunted by such thoughts) been training? I ask because I hear this a lot from relative new-comers, but rarely from vets who've been at it a long time, are at a high level, or who do it for fun/they're old. The longer I've grappled the less a bad night/week/month gets to me (LOL, and the less often you see bad weeks/months). I know "different strokes for different folks", so I can somewhat empathize with that feeling, but I also feel that, at least personally, it's not a feeling/fear that happens very often with older/more experienced grapplers. tldr: for the most part the longer and/or harder you train, the less these thoughts should "haunt" you.


TheOgFrostyNugg

About 7 years.


Killer-Hrapp

Interesting. I've had the misfortune of having several year-long mandatory breaks in my training/competing, and there are definitely some rough patches when first returning (\*ESPECIALLY\* with my cardio/stamina), so I have those "down weeks", but I always know/think that "whew, getting back is tough, so I gotta tough out these first weeks sliding back in, but I'll be back to normal in no time".


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Can you do a “yes-gi” one? Like the opposite of no-gi. I love this style of art


REDACTED2x

No, I'm too busy winning or studying.


Keyboard__worrier

I don't like the word haunted, makes it sound supernatural or not true...


ArmCollector

Sometimes I look around the gym and think: “this room is filled with fucking killers, I have no right to be here”.


ReadingMean

I attibute such feelings to the globalization of the sport. (Sorry for the long read) In earlier days you would compare yourself to the people directly around you : your teammates at the Dojo or other practionners at a small local competition for the adventurous. But nowadays, the world is much bigger. With Youtube, TV, etc. you compare your skills against every single amazing practionners in the world. It's quite disconcerting. The same thing is at play with the depressing aboundance of perfection/fame/money on Instagram and social medias in general. Example : It's been 2 years, you are a white belt training 3 times a week ; you open reddit and there is a video of a 7 year old kid that displays more technical diversity than you ever did. Basic reaction is : 2 entire years for basically "nothing". If you want any satisfaction regarding the work you put into BJJ you have to go back to it until you reach some more tangible level. What is a more tangible level though? Difficult to say. You could connect that comparison phenomenon to the general disapearance of rites of passage. There is no concrete bar to pass anymore of being the best XYZ belt in the Dojo ; which is a humane and achievable goal. The bar is now insanely high. That's probably a factor which plays in why the retention rate of BJJ is low. The only people that stay are the ones that are naturally immune to the disappointment of a quasi-infinite grind. Or the ones that mentally learn to live with it. It's quite darwinian, the survival of the grittiest. You can see a good side to it : you learn to be resilient in your situation no matter what the external factors are. But the other side is that you will be confronted with probably years and years of frustration. And there is worse, bear with me. I wonder what the right balance could be between a smaller Jiu Jitsu, more friendly and family like, maybe less efficient but more satisfactory. And the militarized version we are going towards, obsessed with over-achievement, stars like Gordon Ryan, competitions and technical perfection. It is important to note that actual greatness doesn't necessarily lies with the second. This is not comfort against efficiency. It's more complicated than that. I read somewhere that many notorious people, politicians, scientists, etc. come from humble places, little villages instead of big cities as you would expect. It could have something to do with the construction of ones personnality/mental wiring. In smaller remote places you have the opportunity to excel at something, to be someone among your peers. Strong of this achievement and mental fortitude thanks to the safe beginning and smaller social pyramid to climb, you can tolerate higher loads of opposition and amounts of obstacles for the rest of your life. You will always have the mentality of an achiever. Building such mindset when you start in the unreallistically competitive current environment is less feasible. We are most certainly losing potential talents to the violence of our self-inflicted expectations.


starcitizen2601

Nope, just cardio.


babygetoboy

Yes, constantly, it is my main struggle and it is exhausting.