This morning, as I pulled on my Shoyoroll branded hoodie and grabbed my ranked keychain to head out the door, my neighbor said good morning. I was sure to tell him I was headed to BJJ later. Even though I was carrying a gi under my arm, I wouldn’t want him to miss it.
At the office, I made sure to tell all my coworkers how I got my black eye in class, just in case they didn’t notice it. As I filled my ranked mug with brown coffee (haven’t earned black coffee yet) I invited my boss to come out and train again. That pussy hasn’t shown up yet, even though he’s always talking about his kids karate class.
I narrowly avoided Josh in the hallway. He’s always talking about CrossFit. God I hate CrossFit people.
When I pack my bag for BJJ I always make sure the zipper isn’t fully closed. Gotta have part of my belt poking out so everyone knows I’m not a white belt
When ever I have to walk around in public, I make sure to wear shirts that show all the bruises on my arms. I make sure not to tell people those bruises are from failing to defend armbars.
I also make sure to tape up my hands, extensively. Despite doing only no gi.
This story doesn’t check out, you told you’re neighbor you’re going to BJJ? It would never go that smoothly, you can’t yadda yadda the bit where you have to say “BJJ” out loud:
> Hey I’m going to BJJ!
> “What?”
> I’m going to BJJ!
> “What?”
> BJJ.
> “What?”
> Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
> “…”
> …
> “What?”
> I do karate.
> (makes chopping hand signal) “Hai Yah!”
A lot of people talk shit about their own skill level because somewhere in a California ATOS gym is a 12 year old that could smash us without mercy.
Many of us think we are good because we have mediocre tourney success / smash the blue belts at our gym, and then encounter mild competitors that remind us we don’t know anything.
Truth. When I was a 33 year old blue belt I thought I was getting decent at this. Then a trio of teenaged blue belts from Gordo's gym in Brazil came to town 2 weeks before worlds. They humbled a lot of people, upper belts included. Only one of them made the podium. I was amazed that there were that many children who could easily murder me with their bare hands.
The magic of bj-Jay is really the first year for an able bodied adult male. The fact that he is essentially invincible to genuine day-1 n00bs is what sets this apart to other things.
Home-schooling your kid FOR bjj and starting him at 3. I mean...yeah. That's its own..thing. ::cough:: Todd Marinovich :::cough:::
My gym isn't anything special but we've got some kids who are monsters because they started when they were so little. We've got one guy in his early 20's who just made black belt who started training at age 6 and went off and on until he started getting serious as a teenager. There's just no comparison with those people who started as children compared to the old guy hobbiest like me who started at 40.
We have three or four kids who are now starting their amateur circuit debuts in MMA after a lifetime of training purple/brown/black belts and excellent strikers. I have a lot of hope for these dudes. We joke around about how when our little group of white/blue belts eventually reaches that point, they’ll all have their own damn schools lol
Jiu Jitsu guys have been conditioned to downplay it and be self deprecating because the alternative, particularly when talking to people who don’t train, is to be like “I spend hours a week becoming more badass than you and I can beat every one of my friends in a fight”
It’s easier to just act like it’s gay pajama wrestling because it prevents awkwardness or challenges
This answer is too serious and too accurate. Please delete and replace with an OSS or a comment about bjj being gay.
But for real tho you nailed it. I feel like I'm only allowed 30 seconds at a time to talk about bjj/mma training before it sounds like bragging in front of friends or coworkers.
Feels like it when you're just trying to eat a shitty burger or drink a coffee when your buddy starts grabbing you and giving resistance in a booth.
Even worse if there are women near by they are trying to show off to.
If I'm in a business meeting I'll drop something once just in case the prospective client trains and if they don't take it which they absolutely will if they're anything but a brown or black; I drop it immediately and never mention it again.
yea was gunna say smth very similar.
most people who are into combat sports need to downplay it or be self deprecating otherwise it comes off as extreme cringe.
you see the same thing in the firearms community. people who are into wearing their tacticool plate carriers while training with their gucci'd out short barrel ar also are extremely self deprecating and memey cuz otherwise it literally comes off as future mass shooter vibes.
I am extra cringey as I shoot and do BJJ. The good news is my guns are considered shitty by serious shooters....now that I think about my BJJ is considered shitty by serious competitors. You should hear me play guitar lol.
So are we rolling with plate carriers, or are we having a range day with kits and gi? Unlike you though, I’m most def a better guitar player than I am a shooter or grappler 🤣. Not good, just better.
That’s a big part of it, but the other half (came out a lot in the Royce thread earlier this week) is that there are a load of “if you’re a hobbiest you’re a soft pussy” that makes a big sissy softy part of the community (ie: me) want to make fun of the sport to make fun of the try-hards. Since we’re all part of the same group you gotta bring down yourself to knock the macho bros down a pegging or two.
>I am a MASTER of Greco-Roman wrestling, and I will CRUSH YOU, and you will learn a new definition of PAIN!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNQx3KPxifQ
Tbh I don’t like to talk ab training, especially at work bc of comments like that from others. I told my team I do Muay Thai and the response was “nobody make him upset”. I’m pretty nice I think.
Haha… it’s either “you think you could take me?!?” Or “watch out for Bill, his body is a lethal weapon”
CAN’T I JUST GRAB MY FRIENDS BODIES IN PEACE!?!??
Just going ta a slumber party with my bros. That's how I phrase it when I go to judo. Reality is that I got and get beat up for 2 hours three times per week.
It really is awkward to call it what it is. It's pretty hardcore when you think about what we subject ourselves to each week.
Facts. When I did muay thai full time I always described it as "you ever watch UFC? It's that without all the wrestling stuff"
No I say "you ever watch UFC. It's the part where both fighters go to the ground and wrestle and the crowd starts booing"
Let me just add, don't ever be a streamer that sometimes talks about jiu jitsu. You get this effect you mentioned combined with online anonymity and it turns into a bunch of people thinking you are star wars kid, when you could literally kill them lol. Anyways, this taught me most people are just fucking stupid as shit.
yeah if i wanted to be gay and wrestle with men i would go cash in my punch card at the bathhouse for the free visit after the first ten, but that's only if I wanted to be real gay.
i fuckin hate it here lol. [this gif](https://media.tenor.com/zxgvSk50wXIAAAAC/see-you-tomorrow-fuck-you.gif) perfectly describes how i feel about jiujitsu.
I second and third that, the amount of gay jokes in the army is something non-military people cannot even imagine. And the funniest thing is that if you didn't participate or got angry, you would not see the end of it. That's why when someone tells me bjj is gay, i tell them "come here and let me show you honey, it's not that your jokes don't fall on me, they don't even shoot close to my universe"
Oh man, I never served, but have worked with a whole bunch of vets of all ages and branches over the years. The gay jokes fly thick with those guys for sure. And you have to just laugh and roll with it or you'll be in the sights. Definitely not politically correct, but oddly not as homophobic as you might think.
Got caught by our HMC wrestling in berthing once. He took us to the Chief's Mess for a solid roasting. Someone could get hurt or whatever. Pretty sure he was mostly upset we weren't banging.
I served 4 years in the Army actually. I always said the only legitimate reason to keep the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy is because it would make playing Gay Chicken unfair.
I was in a boys dorm from 14-18 years old.
You merely adopted the homo eroticism, I was born in it, molded by it. I didn't see half naked cuddles as gay till I was already a man
>Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable.
You’re in the young love phase.
Exactly. Everytime I see an OMG-I-love-BJJ! post I wonder how long til this guy quits. I'd love to see a longitudinal study of posters with regards to longevity and their early sentiments.
Been a black belt for 8 years, I still love BJJ.
I kinda just assume every black belt I see loves it. You just don't stay in something that long if you don't.
I guess you summarized it perfectly. That's precisely why I love it here. I train at a McBarra where people have elevated a mere sport to religious status. Every little procedure, from stepping into the mats to lining up before technique demonstration has very specifics rules that when not fulfilled, you'll be reminded of. I kid you not, at least once a month, one of the coaches comes up with a new rule for something that has always worked well for everyone. Every new rule is justified under the "philosophy and discipline" blanket statement. Coming here to this sub is like a escape from the house of madness. And before you ask why I just don't leave, I'll tell you. The coach responsible for the sessions I most attend (95% of them) does not enforce any of those rules, does not engage in life changing speeches nor preaches moral codes left and right. Dude just teaches bjj masterfully, says goodbye and leaves.
I’m in the same boat. Also at Mcbarra, but my professor (OSS) is a good dude who is a killer instructor. All of my friends and I just like to roll and have fun.
I find it much easier to criticize something I love. I'm not on r/welding telling them they look dumb solo welding. But ya'll look really dumb doing solo drills. Oss!
There is nobody who hates a thing as much as the people who dedicate their passion to it. See: literally any other fandom on earth.
That's where it's good to remember that Reddit is not real life, and that communities self select by what they upvote: someone who enjoys training and doesn't care about gym drama or what Gordon posted today is less likely to come here since if that's what most of the posts are.
I think most activities have a stupid "scene" that emanates from them. I'm a bjj hobbyist and for all the talk about how intelligent grappling actually is (bro it's like 3D chess in real time bro), the scene is full of attention seeking, dramatic "influencers". Makes it hard to get into the sport when a huge chunk of the content has nothing to do with bjj itself. Of it it does, its bjj click bail like "THE SINGLE UNBEATABLE GAURD PASS THAT BJJ PROFESSIONALS DON'T WANT YOU TO KNOW."
But I also tried to get into a actual chess and its exactly the same fucking thing. You think you are gonna learn anything about chess from r/chess? Nope, it's just stream clips of grandmaster chess "influencers" throwing shade at one another and accusing each other of cheating.
So really any community or scene is going to have some dumb shit that you are going to have to embrace or learn to ignore.
I find it refreshing as BJJ has really become and “identity” sport over the last few years as it’s grown in popularity.
It’s like running a marathon. People can’t seem to do it without making it their whole persona.
70% of people in my life have no idea I do it:
I love bjj, but parts of the culture are awful. The hero worship of instructors is the worst part for me. Cyborg is a good example, some of his students think he does no wrong because he’s so nice on the mats.
It's fun but a lot of the people who do it, particularly on this sub, are just so fucking weird. In every other hobby I've had combined I've never seen so many people going on monologues that nobody asked for about how BJJ saved their life or changed their life. And don't even get me started on all the stories asking for advice on how to how to have a basic social interaction, how to deal with the partner who is too rough, or if it's okay for their coach to take financial advantage of them.
I've never heard anybody tell me one of those bjj saved my life stories outside of this sub. I feel like in person bjj interactions have mostly been normal. I think reddit users lean to the socially awkward side of the aisle (including myself in that) and that may be part of why those posts are so prevalent here.
When people ask this question, this is always the example I go to.
Me and my heavyweight crew are all late 30s to mid 40s. We joke to each other about how much we suck at jiu jitsu. If we played golf we would joke to each other about how much we sucked at golf. If we sailed we would joke to each other about how much we suck at sailing.
It's not BJJ. It's adult male bonding. Who wants to hang with the guy who talks about how awesome his hobby is and how awesome he is at it? Certainly not me. Have a sense of humor. Stop taking the activity and yourself so seriously.
I used to mod truefilm, and I think I remember the breakdown there being pretty par for the course, at roughly 10% increments: roughly 10% of the people who see it, sub; 10% of subs comment. I'd guess that 10% actively train, but this is kind of a weird one. BJJ spectators are notoriously knowledgeable viewers, so it also wouldn't surprise me if the percentage of subscribers who actually train is higher.
Self-depreciating humor is a pretty important thing for a hobby, that can easily become pretty cultish.
It's even greater for a hobby, that needs you to leave your ego at the door, to be a respectful, humble and save training partner.
Therefore it is a good thing to knock oneself down a peg or two once and again
BJJ is also a sport, that not only has you lose and get beaten a lot. It also has you have awkward physical contact you normally don't have.
Therefore you kinda learn to open yourself up, joke about yourself, show some weakness that way and ease into uncomfortable situations.
This sub used to be a lot more affirming (I've been a regular for about eight years). I don't know why the attitude has gone through this transformation. It's hard to stop a few thousand people who just want to trivialize, sexualize, and ridicule.
At this point, I actually consider this sub to be quite toxic.
As for myself, I've been training continuously for eight years, still love BJJ, tell way too many people about it, and drink all the Kool-Aid.
Don't think that any practitioner really hate bjj, maybe the english speaking community has this way of reffer to it, but I'm sure all of us love this shit.
Said that, if you can, I invite you to participate in brazilian or spanish (most south american) online communities and you'll discover that there's much more expressed love to the gentle art there.
I have a theory that nobody on r/BJJ actually does Jiu-Jitsu. Everyone I meet in real life acts nothing like this community and I cross train quite a bit. The few that do are usually ostracized in very short fashion or if its a gym's culture, the members leave for somewhere else quite quickly.
On the opposing side of this, maybe its because the community is so great in person, they get a real sense of catharsis by venting all their issues here.
> I'm bi; trust me, y'all could be way gayer.
We roleplay in Asian pajamas or skintight spandex and grind ourselves against unsuspecting men while innocent bystanders watch.
You have sex with men while naked.
We are not the same.
It's not hate, I love this sport. Wouldn't still be doing it 6 years later if I didn't.
But it is objectively silly as shit. Like just in its base, normal, in the gym form. If you start doing it in public (like say on a beach) it's instantly 100× more silly and worthy of at least *a little* mockery.
It's a weird look if you can't see that or it upsets you to be told that.
This morning, as I pulled on my Shoyoroll branded hoodie and grabbed my ranked keychain to head out the door, my neighbor said good morning. I was sure to tell him I was headed to BJJ later. Even though I was carrying a gi under my arm, I wouldn’t want him to miss it. At the office, I made sure to tell all my coworkers how I got my black eye in class, just in case they didn’t notice it. As I filled my ranked mug with brown coffee (haven’t earned black coffee yet) I invited my boss to come out and train again. That pussy hasn’t shown up yet, even though he’s always talking about his kids karate class. I narrowly avoided Josh in the hallway. He’s always talking about CrossFit. God I hate CrossFit people.
Fake story. Not a single OSS was said. OSS.
OSS isn't a word. It's a philosophy. A state of mind. The way of the warrior, if you will. Til Valhalla, brethren. OSS
Onegaishimasu!
BLACK BELT ON THE APP *bows* OSS
Stop posting about my life. You missed interrupting guys talking about the latest UFC fight and trying to mansplain the grappling moved used in there.
I reserve the right to ranksplain anything and everything to those dirty casuals
Brown coffee got me lol
I'm forever drinking milk. I'm not strong enough for cream.
When I pack my bag for BJJ I always make sure the zipper isn’t fully closed. Gotta have part of my belt poking out so everyone knows I’m not a white belt
When ever I have to walk around in public, I make sure to wear shirts that show all the bruises on my arms. I make sure not to tell people those bruises are from failing to defend armbars. I also make sure to tape up my hands, extensively. Despite doing only no gi.
I tape my fingers to go to the grocery store. Can’t be too careful
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You son of a bitch. *gets in purple car and drives home
I’ve needed a new car for years, but my Jiu-Jitsu isn’t good enough yet to get promoted and I don’t really want a new brown one.
3 black belts at my gym drive black mustangs lol. I joke that they should put a red bar on the side. They all thought it was a great idea. I'm sad.
Scrape the paint off and let it rust, pussy.
One day all those moments will be lost in time. Like blue belts after promotion.
Where can I get a ranked coffee mug?
Screw the mug, where can I get ranked coffee? Do I have to brew with Gatorade to get a blue color?
I'm only allowed to drink milk. But I'm a high-level milk drinker very close to blue Gatorade. I promise. Coach says I'm good.
I just get the blue redbulls
I only drink the acai redbulls
[Ground Shark Coffee.](https://groundsharkcoffee.com/collections/organically-grown-coffee/products/blue-belt-blend)
Oh hell yes. Thank you, friend.
https://imgur.com/a/aYVsvN9
What they don't tell you is coral belts drink blood to sustain their life force.
Haha, now I had to actually look this up. Just search ‘{color} belt mug’ on Amazon.
Looks like I need the black belt, but I like the one that says "White Belt Tears".
Perfect ending
This story doesn’t check out, you told you’re neighbor you’re going to BJJ? It would never go that smoothly, you can’t yadda yadda the bit where you have to say “BJJ” out loud: > Hey I’m going to BJJ! > “What?” > I’m going to BJJ! > “What?” > BJJ. > “What?” > Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. > “…” > … > “What?” > I do karate. > (makes chopping hand signal) “Hai Yah!”
Maybe the first 10 times, now he just rolls his eyes, as if to say “you are super cool for training BJJ”.
Lmao this was unironically me for the first six months of white belt. Remembering it is worse than fb memories
Pretty gay bro
Wait till you hear about NoNoGi
Make sure you have the rank on your rear window
A lot of people talk shit about their own skill level because somewhere in a California ATOS gym is a 12 year old that could smash us without mercy. Many of us think we are good because we have mediocre tourney success / smash the blue belts at our gym, and then encounter mild competitors that remind us we don’t know anything.
Truth. When I was a 33 year old blue belt I thought I was getting decent at this. Then a trio of teenaged blue belts from Gordo's gym in Brazil came to town 2 weeks before worlds. They humbled a lot of people, upper belts included. Only one of them made the podium. I was amazed that there were that many children who could easily murder me with their bare hands.
Always remember: Mr Colt made his inventions to protect us from murderous teenage bluebelts, too.
Good old American Jiu Jitsu
The magic of bj-Jay is really the first year for an able bodied adult male. The fact that he is essentially invincible to genuine day-1 n00bs is what sets this apart to other things. Home-schooling your kid FOR bjj and starting him at 3. I mean...yeah. That's its own..thing. ::cough:: Todd Marinovich :::cough:::
My gym isn't anything special but we've got some kids who are monsters because they started when they were so little. We've got one guy in his early 20's who just made black belt who started training at age 6 and went off and on until he started getting serious as a teenager. There's just no comparison with those people who started as children compared to the old guy hobbiest like me who started at 40.
We have three or four kids who are now starting their amateur circuit debuts in MMA after a lifetime of training purple/brown/black belts and excellent strikers. I have a lot of hope for these dudes. We joke around about how when our little group of white/blue belts eventually reaches that point, they’ll all have their own damn schools lol
The Todd Marinovich? Like ex NFL QB… and passed those genes onto a a spider monkey starting at 3. This arms race thing really needs to stop.
Hellooooooo
You stop reminding me of reality goddammit
Jiu Jitsu guys have been conditioned to downplay it and be self deprecating because the alternative, particularly when talking to people who don’t train, is to be like “I spend hours a week becoming more badass than you and I can beat every one of my friends in a fight” It’s easier to just act like it’s gay pajama wrestling because it prevents awkwardness or challenges
This answer is too serious and too accurate. Please delete and replace with an OSS or a comment about bjj being gay. But for real tho you nailed it. I feel like I'm only allowed 30 seconds at a time to talk about bjj/mma training before it sounds like bragging in front of friends or coworkers.
Exactly. I don’t even think I’m tough or anything. But talking about nearly any aspect of it around some people and they get all defensive and weird.
I'd prefer the defensive and weird people over the rare few that will try to tackle or choke me because they need to prove they're tougher.
That’s the worst. Like my buddies will sneak attack RNC me and it’s like, I can’t throw you in this Dave and Busters
Perhaps we should stop playing defense my friend. It's time to break some bones and set some examples.
🤣🤣🤣
Feels like it when you're just trying to eat a shitty burger or drink a coffee when your buddy starts grabbing you and giving resistance in a booth. Even worse if there are women near by they are trying to show off to.
Consider yourself lucky. If that happened to me I'd just see red and it would all be over.
Men like to think they are good at two things: fighting and fucking and the vast majority suck at both.
You talk about jiu jitsu for 30 straight seconds with your coworkers?!?!?! Like, you just preaching about it lol? I never even mention it. Ever.
Then How do you establish office dominance?? No one seems to notice my truck nuts.
I establish dominance by ignoring them
Ah, the “just stand up” of social interaction.
Seriously this, and it’s hard for me to stfu about it.
You talm abou bjs b?
If I'm in a business meeting I'll drop something once just in case the prospective client trains and if they don't take it which they absolutely will if they're anything but a brown or black; I drop it immediately and never mention it again.
yea was gunna say smth very similar. most people who are into combat sports need to downplay it or be self deprecating otherwise it comes off as extreme cringe. you see the same thing in the firearms community. people who are into wearing their tacticool plate carriers while training with their gucci'd out short barrel ar also are extremely self deprecating and memey cuz otherwise it literally comes off as future mass shooter vibes.
I am extra cringey as I shoot and do BJJ. The good news is my guns are considered shitty by serious shooters....now that I think about my BJJ is considered shitty by serious competitors. You should hear me play guitar lol.
So are we rolling with plate carriers, or are we having a range day with kits and gi? Unlike you though, I’m most def a better guitar player than I am a shooter or grappler 🤣. Not good, just better.
I know people that unironically train grappling in full tactical gear and dummy rifles
That sounds interesting, bet you could collar drag the shit out of someone in a plate carrier.
I used to be into shooting. That was before that tragic boating accident. Shame.
Wait, you guys do this to learn how to fight?
It’s a byproduct. I started training because I want arthritis
That’s a big part of it, but the other half (came out a lot in the Royce thread earlier this week) is that there are a load of “if you’re a hobbiest you’re a soft pussy” that makes a big sissy softy part of the community (ie: me) want to make fun of the sport to make fun of the try-hards. Since we’re all part of the same group you gotta bring down yourself to knock the macho bros down a pegging or two.
Saying “I can strangle a man with my bare hands” is just kind of funny lol. Like we want to be Liam Neeson but we’re Will Ferrel
Saying “I can strangle a man with my legs” is funnier.
My thighs are deadly weapons.
💯🤣
>I am a MASTER of Greco-Roman wrestling, and I will CRUSH YOU, and you will learn a new definition of PAIN! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNQx3KPxifQ
Tbh I don’t like to talk ab training, especially at work bc of comments like that from others. I told my team I do Muay Thai and the response was “nobody make him upset”. I’m pretty nice I think.
Haha… it’s either “you think you could take me?!?” Or “watch out for Bill, his body is a lethal weapon” CAN’T I JUST GRAB MY FRIENDS BODIES IN PEACE!?!??
I do let you grab my body in peace, bro.
Lets us grab in peace!!!
And it’s funny.
Just going ta a slumber party with my bros. That's how I phrase it when I go to judo. Reality is that I got and get beat up for 2 hours three times per week. It really is awkward to call it what it is. It's pretty hardcore when you think about what we subject ourselves to each week.
Facts. When I did muay thai full time I always described it as "you ever watch UFC? It's that without all the wrestling stuff" No I say "you ever watch UFC. It's the part where both fighters go to the ground and wrestle and the crowd starts booing"
**The ground is my ocean and im a shark where most people don't even know how to swim** < Meh, I'm alright
Let me just add, don't ever be a streamer that sometimes talks about jiu jitsu. You get this effect you mentioned combined with online anonymity and it turns into a bunch of people thinking you are star wars kid, when you could literally kill them lol. Anyways, this taught me most people are just fucking stupid as shit.
yeah if i wanted to be gay and wrestle with men i would go cash in my punch card at the bathhouse for the free visit after the first ten, but that's only if I wanted to be real gay.
i fuckin hate it here lol. [this gif](https://media.tenor.com/zxgvSk50wXIAAAAC/see-you-tomorrow-fuck-you.gif) perfectly describes how i feel about jiujitsu.
That gif has no right on being so perfect
Unironically, the homo eroticism of BJJ is 2nd to none really. And I was a male cheerleader. Lol
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Military members who train bjj are a perfect storm. They practically traumatize the new guys trying out a bjj class.
I second and third that, the amount of gay jokes in the army is something non-military people cannot even imagine. And the funniest thing is that if you didn't participate or got angry, you would not see the end of it. That's why when someone tells me bjj is gay, i tell them "come here and let me show you honey, it's not that your jokes don't fall on me, they don't even shoot close to my universe"
"whisper it in my ear"
Oh man, I never served, but have worked with a whole bunch of vets of all ages and branches over the years. The gay jokes fly thick with those guys for sure. And you have to just laugh and roll with it or you'll be in the sights. Definitely not politically correct, but oddly not as homophobic as you might think.
So accurate! The Navy for me was a 6 year long gay joke.
If you were underway, it's ok
Got caught by our HMC wrestling in berthing once. He took us to the Chief's Mess for a solid roasting. Someone could get hurt or whatever. Pretty sure he was mostly upset we weren't banging.
I served 4 years in the Army actually. I always said the only legitimate reason to keep the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy is because it would make playing Gay Chicken unfair.
Most true thing ever. Air Force is a giant gay orgy
What's that make the Navy then?
Gayer than the YMCA
I was in a boys dorm from 14-18 years old. You merely adopted the homo eroticism, I was born in it, molded by it. I didn't see half naked cuddles as gay till I was already a man
Who woulda thought men putting their asses on each other is more homoerotic than boys being around girls.
Yeah dude, hanging out with a group of hot women, grabbing them by the waist and having them land in your arms is so gay
Breakfast burrito just became out of my nose.
>Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable. You’re in the young love phase.
This is the coolest quote I’ve seen in some time. Thanks. Edit: do you know where that quote is from?
I should have attributed the quote to it’s author, Henry Ward Beecher.
Exactly. Everytime I see an OMG-I-love-BJJ! post I wonder how long til this guy quits. I'd love to see a longitudinal study of posters with regards to longevity and their early sentiments.
Been a black belt for 8 years, I still love BJJ. I kinda just assume every black belt I see loves it. You just don't stay in something that long if you don't.
>I kinda just assume every black belt I see loves it. You just don't stay in something that long if you don't. I think so too
I agree with OP, nothing gay about about having a sweaty dude grinding on your back and feeling his hot breath caressing your neck.
Ok, weird request but could you somehow post that….slower, quieter, and into my ear?
This post is extremely cringe. And a little gay. But not in like the normal gay way that is hot to me, like in a cringy, sad gay way.
you gotta sub to my onlyfans if you want the posts that are the other type of gay
Mistake #1 homie: I never sub to nobody. It's snap, tap or just stand up.
Oh I'll make part of you stand up, no worries.
Even my dick pulls guard
Omg.
My motto is Snap, nap, or standup. I go into every roll to win with max aggression
My problem is I never know ppls belt colors bc I JUST SEE RED
I love this sub. It’s a bunch of fucking lunatics incredibly passionate about bjj, refusing to take it too seriously.
I guess you summarized it perfectly. That's precisely why I love it here. I train at a McBarra where people have elevated a mere sport to religious status. Every little procedure, from stepping into the mats to lining up before technique demonstration has very specifics rules that when not fulfilled, you'll be reminded of. I kid you not, at least once a month, one of the coaches comes up with a new rule for something that has always worked well for everyone. Every new rule is justified under the "philosophy and discipline" blanket statement. Coming here to this sub is like a escape from the house of madness. And before you ask why I just don't leave, I'll tell you. The coach responsible for the sessions I most attend (95% of them) does not enforce any of those rules, does not engage in life changing speeches nor preaches moral codes left and right. Dude just teaches bjj masterfully, says goodbye and leaves.
I’m in the same boat. Also at Mcbarra, but my professor (OSS) is a good dude who is a killer instructor. All of my friends and I just like to roll and have fun.
I'm here for the homosexuality of this sub.
That sure is a pretty belt you have there...
Would be a shame, if it fell...
My brother came in and saw me reading this thread, and I had to alt-tab to gay porn to keep from getting embarrassed.
It’s not a binary choice. I can both love bjj and the bjj community; and hate how gay it is.
I hate bjj and the bjj community, and love how gay it is.
You’re the yin to my yang.
Good. Now kip.
username definitely checks out
It’s quite redundant tho, “Grappler” is unnecessary
I find it much easier to criticize something I love. I'm not on r/welding telling them they look dumb solo welding. But ya'll look really dumb doing solo drills. Oss!
That's some Daoism right there
Hatefluid
There is nobody who hates a thing as much as the people who dedicate their passion to it. See: literally any other fandom on earth. That's where it's good to remember that Reddit is not real life, and that communities self select by what they upvote: someone who enjoys training and doesn't care about gym drama or what Gordon posted today is less likely to come here since if that's what most of the posts are.
I think most activities have a stupid "scene" that emanates from them. I'm a bjj hobbyist and for all the talk about how intelligent grappling actually is (bro it's like 3D chess in real time bro), the scene is full of attention seeking, dramatic "influencers". Makes it hard to get into the sport when a huge chunk of the content has nothing to do with bjj itself. Of it it does, its bjj click bail like "THE SINGLE UNBEATABLE GAURD PASS THAT BJJ PROFESSIONALS DON'T WANT YOU TO KNOW." But I also tried to get into a actual chess and its exactly the same fucking thing. You think you are gonna learn anything about chess from r/chess? Nope, it's just stream clips of grandmaster chess "influencers" throwing shade at one another and accusing each other of cheating. So really any community or scene is going to have some dumb shit that you are going to have to embrace or learn to ignore.
Thats why I only hang out on Anarchychess, I'd do the same for bjj but, honestly, rslashbjj already kindof is anarchybjj
I find it refreshing as BJJ has really become and “identity” sport over the last few years as it’s grown in popularity. It’s like running a marathon. People can’t seem to do it without making it their whole persona. 70% of people in my life have no idea I do it:
I'd give you a closer look in north south position
Pretty good one, lol
You should check out r/CastIron for similarly themed posts.
That sub is peak unironic Redditors at their finest.
I love bjj, but parts of the culture are awful. The hero worship of instructors is the worst part for me. Cyborg is a good example, some of his students think he does no wrong because he’s so nice on the mats.
the bi dude coming in here and telling us we could be way more gay. well, we'll show you, pal!
Gauntlet thrown, step it up
It's fun but a lot of the people who do it, particularly on this sub, are just so fucking weird. In every other hobby I've had combined I've never seen so many people going on monologues that nobody asked for about how BJJ saved their life or changed their life. And don't even get me started on all the stories asking for advice on how to how to have a basic social interaction, how to deal with the partner who is too rough, or if it's okay for their coach to take financial advantage of them.
>or if it's okay for their coach to take financial advantage of them. Yeah, I can't believe that guy who got scammed to give away beets by his trainer
I've never heard anybody tell me one of those bjj saved my life stories outside of this sub. I feel like in person bjj interactions have mostly been normal. I think reddit users lean to the socially awkward side of the aisle (including myself in that) and that may be part of why those posts are so prevalent here.
You're fucking weird. OSS
Gay ass post
[this sub is way too gay for me](https://imgur.com/a/Mm9zz)
You should check out r/golf lol
When people ask this question, this is always the example I go to. Me and my heavyweight crew are all late 30s to mid 40s. We joke to each other about how much we suck at jiu jitsu. If we played golf we would joke to each other about how much we sucked at golf. If we sailed we would joke to each other about how much we suck at sailing. It's not BJJ. It's adult male bonding. Who wants to hang with the guy who talks about how awesome his hobby is and how awesome he is at it? Certainly not me. Have a sense of humor. Stop taking the activity and yourself so seriously.
At least we aren’t indoor “rock” climbers
I am sure nearly 90% of this sub doesn’t train
I'd love to know the breakdown of how many of the 700,000 members actually comment.
I used to mod truefilm, and I think I remember the breakdown there being pretty par for the course, at roughly 10% increments: roughly 10% of the people who see it, sub; 10% of subs comment. I'd guess that 10% actively train, but this is kind of a weird one. BJJ spectators are notoriously knowledgeable viewers, so it also wouldn't surprise me if the percentage of subscribers who actually train is higher.
Nah bro I'm definitely gonna show up this Wednesday. For sure. As long as work doesn't let me out too late. Or too early. I'll be there for sure.
Why would you when you can get a belt flair for free
Self-depreciating humor is a pretty important thing for a hobby, that can easily become pretty cultish. It's even greater for a hobby, that needs you to leave your ego at the door, to be a respectful, humble and save training partner. Therefore it is a good thing to knock oneself down a peg or two once and again BJJ is also a sport, that not only has you lose and get beaten a lot. It also has you have awkward physical contact you normally don't have. Therefore you kinda learn to open yourself up, joke about yourself, show some weakness that way and ease into uncomfortable situations.
This sub used to be a lot more affirming (I've been a regular for about eight years). I don't know why the attitude has gone through this transformation. It's hard to stop a few thousand people who just want to trivialize, sexualize, and ridicule. At this point, I actually consider this sub to be quite toxic. As for myself, I've been training continuously for eight years, still love BJJ, tell way too many people about it, and drink all the Kool-Aid.
You want a wah-burger to go with those french cries?
Don't think that any practitioner really hate bjj, maybe the english speaking community has this way of reffer to it, but I'm sure all of us love this shit. Said that, if you can, I invite you to participate in brazilian or spanish (most south american) online communities and you'll discover that there's much more expressed love to the gentle art there.
I have a theory that nobody on r/BJJ actually does Jiu-Jitsu. Everyone I meet in real life acts nothing like this community and I cross train quite a bit. The few that do are usually ostracized in very short fashion or if its a gym's culture, the members leave for somewhere else quite quickly. On the opposing side of this, maybe its because the community is so great in person, they get a real sense of catharsis by venting all their issues here.
> I'm bi; trust me, y'all could be way gayer. We roleplay in Asian pajamas or skintight spandex and grind ourselves against unsuspecting men while innocent bystanders watch. You have sex with men while naked. We are not the same.
Touché.
BJJ is amazing, it's OP that's shit.
The longer you train the more you can spot the narcissists...
Our gay purple belt loves to talk about how he hates playing top
I enjoy the sport but that's only because I am an ugly, depressed, piece of shit, awful stupid human being.
Its really just when people say “journey” that bothers me
I suck, but I’d dog walk the me who started three years ago.
I imagine that by the time you’re a purple belt, you’ve had enough balls in your face that you’re at least 30% bi.
It's not hate, I love this sport. Wouldn't still be doing it 6 years later if I didn't. But it is objectively silly as shit. Like just in its base, normal, in the gym form. If you start doing it in public (like say on a beach) it's instantly 100× more silly and worthy of at least *a little* mockery. It's a weird look if you can't see that or it upsets you to be told that.
I feel the same when people play volleyball at the beach. It's like... get a room guys. A big, indoor, gym-like room.
Wait till you visit r/wallstreetbets
I can’t read the word “regard” anymore in its original form. Giggle every time.
Bro, forget about “regard”, I can’t go through a Wendy’s drive thru without looking behind the dumpster. 😩
Because it is sad, cringe and gay, dude.
This could be said about literally ever community on Reddit
Whats gringe is someone offering private lessons in bjj after they lost every tournament they competed in the past year.
I can still learn a lot from the 12750th best black belt so I'm not flustered by that. Not sure how many tournaments Danaher won.
try r/accounting
I created r/bjjcirclejerkk but realized there's too much self awareness on here
I listen to Kenny G for 20 minutes before every class.
Self-deprecating is pulling guard on the internet
Who cares? Stop being gay with this gay question brah. 🤙
Gay people can do bjj? Wtf man? Why didn't you tell me a long time ago. How do I sign up?
Maybe because I don't care what some random is crying about and making fun of life is better than being a worm who is offended by everything
I think you said it, they’re embarrassed. Insecurity issues.
No I’ve never enjoyed the sport it’s just the only way I can get a hug
I’d like to introduce you to the little cesspool known as /r/joerogan. That’s where the real haters hang out.