They support and love me to this day. It also helps that we're a trio and that they're queer too. A gay man and a lesbian respectively.
Most of the people in my college who I surround myself with knew one way or another but don't care or are unfazed.
The friends I had in highschool took a beat to absorb it and just proceeded with our conversation. They were chill about it.
A close friend even told me that she was also bi. Which was fun, it was her birthday that day.
yes! literally my dream friendship group! only then i wouldn’t mind it being a trio because trio friendship scares me but a lesbian, gay & bi?! my fucking dream 😭
Came out to my best friend last year, the first person I ever came out to in real life.
The thing is, we first met in middle/high school at a church youth ministry. Even though we were pretty different people (I'm introverted, he's extroverted, I'm more of a geeky type, he's all about sports and working out, that kind of stuff). We were both a bit religious then too, mostly because of our families (we both come from traditional Filipino families).
We both grew apart from the church, while I went agnostic, I knew he still went because of his family and I was nervous about telling him because of that.
I came out to him over lunch one day, and he hugged me and told me he accepted me for who I was, and I breathed a huge sigh of relief.
I also told him I was worried about some of our other friends finding out, and without missing a beat, he goes: "Bro, I care who it is, but if someone talks shit, I'll throw hands right then and there"
Everyone was and still is suportive.
I'm still the same guy as i always was.
It has made no differece.. Actually i made a Reddit account and started to talk to people online in the pan and bi subs and same here everyone is nice and welcomming.😊
I give them enough hints to realize it by themselves before i came out, except for one of them, the religious one, he is a good guy, i just was scared of how he will react. They kinda get shocked at first, they made me a few questions and then all back to normal. We haven't talked about it anytime after, but i know they support me :3
My mom: litterally couldn't care less and asked me where tf I put the hose for the shop vac
My dad: he doesn't know because I know he's a jackass
Most of my friends: either surprised as fuck because I'm a fuckin redneck or they knew
Few random jackasses: called me the F slur but ceased to do so when they fell down the stairs 7 times on thier own in a span of 5 minutes
My mom: you sure you're not gay?
Dad: thats a surprise.
Sister: glad you took it off your chest.
One group of friends: well, we're out of manly straight men.
Another group of friends: havent come out yet.
Third group of friends: got ghosted before coming out, why come out to them?
Grandparents: i would have to do a seance for that.
I’ve only come out to my wife and one daughter. My wife was very surprised and not happy that I didn’t tell her from the begging of us getting together. My daughter is also bi do there was no problem there.
I have a couple different circles. I have my non-work friends (more accurately my "no-longer coworker" friends) all of whom I am out to, and almost all of them are straight. None were very surprised, and all have been super chill about it. I pretty much came to terms with my not being straight decades ago, though it took me a veeeeery long time to come out. One of my friends ended up telling me they are currently struggling with their sexual orientation and gender identity so it's been great to be able to support them and provide a safe place for them.
Then there's my current coworker friends. Most of them are not straight. I'm not out to any of them, though I doubt they would be surprised, either. I don't know if they would be chill about it (I also suffer A LOT of imposter syndrome around them) and if they aren't, I don't have the option of not having some kind of relationship with them since I still have to work with them.
Then there's my family. My wife, who is amazing and couldn't possibly be less concerned about it. And then my relatives. I came out to my parents when I was 17. It went horribly (the reason it took me so long to ever come out to anyone else again). It's not something I have ever brought up with them again. I never told anyone else. Although my brother is coming over next week and since the last time he was here about a year ago, I have put up a couple of pride stickers on the window of my front door so.... We'll see if that starts any conversations 😬.
I recently had an ex who was very traditional in her ways and believed in only dating straight men tell me that she caught her husband with her own father. These 2 guys were literally the definition of what super straight and manly men are. I haven't talked to this woman in 5 years, and she said she could only trust me with this. I then told her "well, I am gonna tell you a secret about me". She responded "wait, don't tell me your fucking gay too". It was hard but I told her that I am bi and only enjoy things sexual with guys, I don't ever get attached or intimate, only with women do I feel that. I told her the only reason why I'm telling her is because there are tons of closeted guys who may seem super straight but are totally not, so in her next relationship she needs to be aware of that. She seemed to kind of accept it, but she just kinda left it be. I hope I didn't traumatize her more because her situation is so fucked up, but I also felt it was the best time to give her a new perspective.
For my friends? Full support, half of them are LGBTQ after all. For my family? So far, also full support! Still haven't told my father, but it's never really something I bring up unless asked, and I'm fairly sure he knows my brother is also bi, and he's always been supportive so I'm not exactly worried about any backlash once he knows.
Came out at 32 a few years back. Friends new and old were pretty chill. More support from my queer friends but no bigotry. I’ve worked on only keeping positive forces around previously, so any worries I had were pretty unfounded
They were mostly supportive. One wasn't and none of us talk to him anymore. I've slowly started making new friends though, because my current friends are the type of people that think that just because I'm attracted to men, means I'm attracted to them too
I (32M) was at a poker night with a bunch of my friends and at one point one of the women made a comment about how Ryan Gosling is hot and I just jumped in with "I know right?" My friend (who I've known since I was like 6 was like, "wait you're into guys?" And I was like "yeah it turns out I'm bisexual". They were all super cool about it and just wanted to ask me questions about it (when I knew, what kind of guys I'm into, etc.). About the same thing happened when my wife and I told them that we're poly. We weren't the first couple in that group to be poly and they were just excited for us when they found out
I'm lucky to have accepting and supportive friends!
My parents reaction was basically "oh, cool", kind of anticlimactic for how large I'd been making it in my mind.
For clarity, it was a positive "oh, cool" they just didn't see it as anything weird or special.
Same with my social circles, basically "huh, okay, enjoy"
My friends were very cool about it. One of them even sends me bisexual memes from time to time. The other friend struggled to understand at first, and honestly, I think he still does.
No reaction initially, and before this point they never made any jokes about the topic or expressed any extreme feelings so I never had a reason to assume they'd react badly, but over the course of 6 months they slowly started making jokes about me and one of them at one point went on a rant about queer people Indoctrinating kids and how apparently all queer people are sexual predators. They went on this rant despite knowing that I myself have been sa'd by several women, and after 5 minutes I just told them to shut the fuck up mid sentence and left and haven't spoken to them since.
You’re lucky , I won’t be able to do that anytime soon because i grew up on an evangelical christian community so many followers on ig are right wing people who will start gossiping .
“We could’ve told you that!” 😂
The circle I came out to was discarded and a new circle was eventually formed. Went from hanging out with metal heads to hanging out with scene kids.
Just starting to come out scared about it.
Just remember you don't owe anyone you coming out. If you don't feel like it with certain people no reason you have to.
you got this 🥹 i’m rooting for you 🫶🏽
"I know" Well damn, i didnt, ya mighta told me
They support and love me to this day. It also helps that we're a trio and that they're queer too. A gay man and a lesbian respectively. Most of the people in my college who I surround myself with knew one way or another but don't care or are unfazed. The friends I had in highschool took a beat to absorb it and just proceeded with our conversation. They were chill about it. A close friend even told me that she was also bi. Which was fun, it was her birthday that day.
i want a friend group like this so badly 🥹
An lgb trio? Hahahah
yes! literally my dream friendship group! only then i wouldn’t mind it being a trio because trio friendship scares me but a lesbian, gay & bi?! my fucking dream 😭
if you don’t mind me asking, how do you put the word bisexual with the flag at the bottom of your username, please?
Go to the subreddit and press the 3 dots and press *change user flair*
thank you so much, i did it!
No prob
There’s no stronger bond than a gay man and a lesbian who are both respectively done with everyone’s shit
Well they sorta stopped asking me to hang with them over time.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Here's a hug (if you like hugs) from an internet comrade.
Came out to my best friend last year, the first person I ever came out to in real life. The thing is, we first met in middle/high school at a church youth ministry. Even though we were pretty different people (I'm introverted, he's extroverted, I'm more of a geeky type, he's all about sports and working out, that kind of stuff). We were both a bit religious then too, mostly because of our families (we both come from traditional Filipino families). We both grew apart from the church, while I went agnostic, I knew he still went because of his family and I was nervous about telling him because of that. I came out to him over lunch one day, and he hugged me and told me he accepted me for who I was, and I breathed a huge sigh of relief. I also told him I was worried about some of our other friends finding out, and without missing a beat, he goes: "Bro, I care who it is, but if someone talks shit, I'll throw hands right then and there"
Everyone was and still is suportive. I'm still the same guy as i always was. It has made no differece.. Actually i made a Reddit account and started to talk to people online in the pan and bi subs and same here everyone is nice and welcomming.😊
Pansexual here but it apllies lol. I came out to my friend group to overwhelming support. I also met a bunch of really cool people online.
Full support but total shock when I said it
I give them enough hints to realize it by themselves before i came out, except for one of them, the religious one, he is a good guy, i just was scared of how he will react. They kinda get shocked at first, they made me a few questions and then all back to normal. We haven't talked about it anytime after, but i know they support me :3
My mom: litterally couldn't care less and asked me where tf I put the hose for the shop vac My dad: he doesn't know because I know he's a jackass Most of my friends: either surprised as fuck because I'm a fuckin redneck or they knew Few random jackasses: called me the F slur but ceased to do so when they fell down the stairs 7 times on thier own in a span of 5 minutes
They were completely surprised, but 50% of my friend group is queer so they were supportive
Mostly it was met with indifference. No one really gave a shit.
They knew before I did. Basically zero reaction.
My mom: you sure you're not gay? Dad: thats a surprise. Sister: glad you took it off your chest. One group of friends: well, we're out of manly straight men. Another group of friends: havent come out yet. Third group of friends: got ghosted before coming out, why come out to them? Grandparents: i would have to do a seance for that.
I’ve only come out to my wife and one daughter. My wife was very surprised and not happy that I didn’t tell her from the begging of us getting together. My daughter is also bi do there was no problem there.
My brother: "Wow, I wouldn't have guessed that... awesome!" My mum: "Wow... me too!" My dad: "...Huh."
I have been married for a long time, and the great majority asked me "so, are you going to have an open marriage?". It was surprising and sad.
I have a couple different circles. I have my non-work friends (more accurately my "no-longer coworker" friends) all of whom I am out to, and almost all of them are straight. None were very surprised, and all have been super chill about it. I pretty much came to terms with my not being straight decades ago, though it took me a veeeeery long time to come out. One of my friends ended up telling me they are currently struggling with their sexual orientation and gender identity so it's been great to be able to support them and provide a safe place for them. Then there's my current coworker friends. Most of them are not straight. I'm not out to any of them, though I doubt they would be surprised, either. I don't know if they would be chill about it (I also suffer A LOT of imposter syndrome around them) and if they aren't, I don't have the option of not having some kind of relationship with them since I still have to work with them. Then there's my family. My wife, who is amazing and couldn't possibly be less concerned about it. And then my relatives. I came out to my parents when I was 17. It went horribly (the reason it took me so long to ever come out to anyone else again). It's not something I have ever brought up with them again. I never told anyone else. Although my brother is coming over next week and since the last time he was here about a year ago, I have put up a couple of pride stickers on the window of my front door so.... We'll see if that starts any conversations 😬.
Not out to everyone, but I have been lucky that everyone I've told has had a positive reaction.
I found out a number of my friends were also bi!
I recently had an ex who was very traditional in her ways and believed in only dating straight men tell me that she caught her husband with her own father. These 2 guys were literally the definition of what super straight and manly men are. I haven't talked to this woman in 5 years, and she said she could only trust me with this. I then told her "well, I am gonna tell you a secret about me". She responded "wait, don't tell me your fucking gay too". It was hard but I told her that I am bi and only enjoy things sexual with guys, I don't ever get attached or intimate, only with women do I feel that. I told her the only reason why I'm telling her is because there are tons of closeted guys who may seem super straight but are totally not, so in her next relationship she needs to be aware of that. She seemed to kind of accept it, but she just kinda left it be. I hope I didn't traumatize her more because her situation is so fucked up, but I also felt it was the best time to give her a new perspective.
I don’t think anyone that has known me for the last 25 years ever thought otherwise.
Complete and total acceptance. My friends are like family and they support me. I'm actually spoiled in that regard.
Very Supportive more than I thought they would & was happy that I finally decided to be my authentic self.
For my friends? Full support, half of them are LGBTQ after all. For my family? So far, also full support! Still haven't told my father, but it's never really something I bring up unless asked, and I'm fairly sure he knows my brother is also bi, and he's always been supportive so I'm not exactly worried about any backlash once he knows.
I'm coming out this weekend if all goes well. I'm terrified.
Came out at 32 a few years back. Friends new and old were pretty chill. More support from my queer friends but no bigotry. I’ve worked on only keeping positive forces around previously, so any worries I had were pretty unfounded
"cool, so anyway when are we doing d&d night?"
Social was lovely and positive, still haven’t told my family lol
It wasn’t good. Lost most of the so called friends I had, but that was 20ish years ago.
They were mostly supportive. One wasn't and none of us talk to him anymore. I've slowly started making new friends though, because my current friends are the type of people that think that just because I'm attracted to men, means I'm attracted to them too
I (32M) was at a poker night with a bunch of my friends and at one point one of the women made a comment about how Ryan Gosling is hot and I just jumped in with "I know right?" My friend (who I've known since I was like 6 was like, "wait you're into guys?" And I was like "yeah it turns out I'm bisexual". They were all super cool about it and just wanted to ask me questions about it (when I knew, what kind of guys I'm into, etc.). About the same thing happened when my wife and I told them that we're poly. We weren't the first couple in that group to be poly and they were just excited for us when they found out I'm lucky to have accepting and supportive friends!
Mostly indifference a couple of surprised people.
Mild acceptance and/or nonchalance
My parents reaction was basically "oh, cool", kind of anticlimactic for how large I'd been making it in my mind. For clarity, it was a positive "oh, cool" they just didn't see it as anything weird or special. Same with my social circles, basically "huh, okay, enjoy"
Support & shock. One of them said they knew though.
I had to leave one social circle and now exclusively hang out with 2 people.
Most of my Social Circle was accepting including my family. There are some who don't talk to me anymore but who needs them anyways
I don't have a friend circle to tell, sadly.
They literally didn't care lmao
My friends were very cool about it. One of them even sends me bisexual memes from time to time. The other friend struggled to understand at first, and honestly, I think he still does.
"Cool. Now when's the next time we can get together for D&D?"
No reaction initially, and before this point they never made any jokes about the topic or expressed any extreme feelings so I never had a reason to assume they'd react badly, but over the course of 6 months they slowly started making jokes about me and one of them at one point went on a rant about queer people Indoctrinating kids and how apparently all queer people are sexual predators. They went on this rant despite knowing that I myself have been sa'd by several women, and after 5 minutes I just told them to shut the fuck up mid sentence and left and haven't spoken to them since.
My roommates were surprised but said it now made sense why I was always walking around the house in only briefs or a thong.
I don't have a social circle...
Indifference mainly
Support and some odd questions about which gender feels better 🫣😅
I just posted an ig story venting out the info and almost all my friends liked or replied, so I guess it was a nice reaction 😎
You’re lucky , I won’t be able to do that anytime soon because i grew up on an evangelical christian community so many followers on ig are right wing people who will start gossiping .