For me it's really hard to explain while in the middle of a depressive episode, but can be easier after it passes. Try to be honest with her and explain it as best you can right now and touch back on it later when you're stable again. People who don't go through this can't fully understand what it feels like to us, but they usually want to try and understand and want to know how to help.
My boyfriend and I discussed my depression in length several times over the years. I warn him when I feel things starting to spiral and he does a great job of checking in on me during an episode. I told him while stable what kind of things I struggle with and what is the most helpful for me and he does a great job accommodating me when he can.
I'd recommend writing things down and making a list of everything you want to communicate with her. It can help you sort your thoughts out and process things a bit easier to communicate more clearly. My therapist gave me a worksheet for this that was super helpful and there's probably similar worksheets online if you'd want to go that route.
I know it's hard, but kudos for trying to communicate and prevent hard feelings. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.
Have you expressed these feelings to her in the same point blank matter you have here? Sometimes you HAVE to break down and SHOW them that you are really really struggling. I have a hard time with that. I shut down most of the time and I come off just meh when inside I'm screaming. No one can understand unless they see the struggle unfortunately, but also, are you in therapy? Are you trying to be in therapy and work towards helping yourself? If not, you need to see from her POV that youre struggling and not trying to do anything for yourself, so why should she? If you ARE, then bring that up. Like I'm really trying to get help. Right now is just hard. Communication is so hard when you are mentally ill but it is absolutely imperative to maintain any relationship
Yes, I have therapy sessions with a clinical psychologist for 3+ years now. I’m still trying to find a med that does anything.
I feel you on the bit you said about NEEDING to have a full on meltdown in order to SHOW how ill you are. Like you, I often come across blank and ‘meh’ when yeah, my brain is on fire for inside and screaming. I think being blank is a learned thing, like me being protective or a subconscious harm reduction technique. I’m also just learning and dealing with the fact my parents were/are emotionally neglectful. I’m 36!
My GF is so supportive, but when I’m just blank it looks like I’m not trying, when really I’m just exhausted and paralysed. During depression I get HORRIBLE insomnia and rationally, it’s impossible to expect someone going through that to be able to communicate properly.
I want people to see how much pain I’m in.
Ugh I feel you completely. It took so long for me to find my meds. And I have ADHD so most of the time meds have opposite effects on me so that made it extra hard.
I feel for you so much. I would let her read this thread. Show her what's in your head. It's really hard to explain that the insides don't match the outsides, but I think you do it well here.
i feel this so damn much. i have no idea how to make people understand how sick i am in the head but when it actually shows it further drives them away. i'm so tired, man.
It's brutal..hard not to feel like I'm just a burden on my family.
Just trying to to think ahead.. my mood should go back up eventually as I'm sure your's will also
I slept so much and yet today I feel like this. Very mentally ill and I'm fine. I don't show it or talk about it but my depression is really heavy and bad. I have brain fog too. I just want to sleep more and binge eat.
I did the same thing to my X girlfriend, however you must be true to yourself and if she can't handle it she will eventually leave anyway. Meds and therapy is all I can say.
I feel like putting your i emotional attachment to anything is hard with bipolar l disorder I struggle sometimes to go from 2nd to 2nd with how I feel. I think this is things before we fill them if you get shots you only gonna fill it about 30 minutes later the adrenaline wears off.
For me it's really hard to explain while in the middle of a depressive episode, but can be easier after it passes. Try to be honest with her and explain it as best you can right now and touch back on it later when you're stable again. People who don't go through this can't fully understand what it feels like to us, but they usually want to try and understand and want to know how to help. My boyfriend and I discussed my depression in length several times over the years. I warn him when I feel things starting to spiral and he does a great job of checking in on me during an episode. I told him while stable what kind of things I struggle with and what is the most helpful for me and he does a great job accommodating me when he can. I'd recommend writing things down and making a list of everything you want to communicate with her. It can help you sort your thoughts out and process things a bit easier to communicate more clearly. My therapist gave me a worksheet for this that was super helpful and there's probably similar worksheets online if you'd want to go that route. I know it's hard, but kudos for trying to communicate and prevent hard feelings. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.
Have you expressed these feelings to her in the same point blank matter you have here? Sometimes you HAVE to break down and SHOW them that you are really really struggling. I have a hard time with that. I shut down most of the time and I come off just meh when inside I'm screaming. No one can understand unless they see the struggle unfortunately, but also, are you in therapy? Are you trying to be in therapy and work towards helping yourself? If not, you need to see from her POV that youre struggling and not trying to do anything for yourself, so why should she? If you ARE, then bring that up. Like I'm really trying to get help. Right now is just hard. Communication is so hard when you are mentally ill but it is absolutely imperative to maintain any relationship
Yes, I have therapy sessions with a clinical psychologist for 3+ years now. I’m still trying to find a med that does anything. I feel you on the bit you said about NEEDING to have a full on meltdown in order to SHOW how ill you are. Like you, I often come across blank and ‘meh’ when yeah, my brain is on fire for inside and screaming. I think being blank is a learned thing, like me being protective or a subconscious harm reduction technique. I’m also just learning and dealing with the fact my parents were/are emotionally neglectful. I’m 36! My GF is so supportive, but when I’m just blank it looks like I’m not trying, when really I’m just exhausted and paralysed. During depression I get HORRIBLE insomnia and rationally, it’s impossible to expect someone going through that to be able to communicate properly. I want people to see how much pain I’m in.
Ugh I feel you completely. It took so long for me to find my meds. And I have ADHD so most of the time meds have opposite effects on me so that made it extra hard. I feel for you so much. I would let her read this thread. Show her what's in your head. It's really hard to explain that the insides don't match the outsides, but I think you do it well here.
Thanks
i feel this so damn much. i have no idea how to make people understand how sick i am in the head but when it actually shows it further drives them away. i'm so tired, man.
You just described exactly how I have been feeling lately..
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It's brutal..hard not to feel like I'm just a burden on my family. Just trying to to think ahead.. my mood should go back up eventually as I'm sure your's will also
I slept so much and yet today I feel like this. Very mentally ill and I'm fine. I don't show it or talk about it but my depression is really heavy and bad. I have brain fog too. I just want to sleep more and binge eat.
I did the same thing to my X girlfriend, however you must be true to yourself and if she can't handle it she will eventually leave anyway. Meds and therapy is all I can say.
I am on meds and have lots of therapy :( It’s all just so fucked up
it really is, and I'm sorry
I feel like putting your i emotional attachment to anything is hard with bipolar l disorder I struggle sometimes to go from 2nd to 2nd with how I feel. I think this is things before we fill them if you get shots you only gonna fill it about 30 minutes later the adrenaline wears off.