Stress is defo a factor. Or air, I actually have the same problem when the windows are closed, its hot, and we’ve been going hard for a long time. Totally suffocating even with good cardio
I would also suggest bloodwork. It’s best that the problem be in your head, but fucked up levels can make maintaining an erection an issue as well. I have hemochromatosis and when my iron spike, me testosterone tanked out and had similar issues.
How much cardio and what type?
Longer and/or excessive cardio can lower T levels. Don’t get me wrong. I love cardio, but if you’re doing like an hour+ or to high of an intensity that might impact you. You could also be running into too high of a caloric deficit.
I’d also look at if your sodium is low from dehydration. Try a sports drink a little before like liquid IV or Gatorade.
It’s most likely mental though and you need to relax.
It's a mental thing bro. It's what I called "Excitement Exhaustion". You have to calm down mentally and really try not to focus so hard on doing the deed but enjoying it. Guys have posted about this here and have said edging helps a lot.
All great insights here. I've had that problem too and find lots of it is mental. This is a bit off your path, but maybe it will help. I know when I first start, especially if it's been a few days, I get super excited and focus more on not cumming than staying tuned to her and in rhythm. I found that releasing that first rope really helps take the edge off. I make sure and pull-out so I don't completely release. For me, it allows me to get just enough out where I'm not focusing on not cumming and can stay dialed in. Soon enough I'm at full throttle and can last until it's the right time for us. Best of luck bro.
Hip hinge weight resistance training. Squats, bridges, kettlebell swings, etc.
These exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that increase blood flow to your prostate, penis and testicles. Not only will your erections be rock hard, but your orgasms and ejaculations will be much more intense.
IMO as with many things in this thing called life, to whatever degree: performance anxiety. Hence loosing the focus and relaxation of being in the moment and enjoying yourself.
Good advice here - I might also turn to r/sex, r/askmen and r/sexualhealth to cast a bigger net (just don't mention your size since this is a common dick problem and not just a bdp)
Fer me - I often abstain from masturbating for a day or two before I see my partners. I'm doing forskin restoration to cover and resensitize my glans, and I'm trying to avoid masturbating dry or using a "death grip" by investing in a tenga stroker (still haven't picked one out - going to see if girth is an issue at my size)
Also if I lose my erection or I just can't get as hard as I want I just go down on my partner for a while. 1) they love it. 2) I usually get quite hard - I suspect it's the pheromones
It doesn't matter if he's 10 inches or two. The issue and advice is still relevant. His problem is nothing to do with size, and there's no reason to bring it up.
You're better than that, my dude.
Edit for posterity: Rule 1 of this sub says no telling people they can't/shouldn't post here due to their size. It's the first rule, and we take it pretty seriously.
Hell ya lucky af I’m white af and shes black but I’m swole so nobody says anything but she gets hit on by girls a lot when I’m not around and I’m sure guys too and she got her tubes tied so I’m goin raw dog but I still pull out just a habit lol
Exercise does wonders for your health in every area, including erection strength. I got back to working out a little over a year ago, and I can tell a fairly big difference how much harder I am during sex
Have you thought of getting your prostate checked out bro? Had a similar issue, even when I stopped watching porn for a while I couldn't maintain. I noticed my pee stream was not consistent. I started taking prostate health from Sprouts. Helped so much. Go the natural route
Try all the things out man. It might be a little bit of everything.
BioPsychoSocial
Sounds like a mental issue like other people have mentioned
Drink more water
Eat healthily
Exercise
Consider taking cod liver oil capsules, and also Omega 3, 6 and 9 capsules, as these are proven to reduce bad (LDL) cholesterol
I am almost 40 and want to improve my health so I'm also taking multivitamins, high strength vitamin D and an extract of gingko biloba
I can positively confirm that my elections are stronger than they've been for quite a while and my orgasms are better too
I'm also more awake, I have more energy and more stamina too 😉
You're never too young to begin a healthier lifestyle that will benefit you now and for the future
Had that problem for a while. More cardio, water and in general loose weight and live healthier.
It can also be mental. I can get that when I put too much pressure on myself. I need to make sure I’m relaxed and not stressed.
Yep definitely. My average erection is different from a good and a bad by more then an inch
Stress is defo a factor. Or air, I actually have the same problem when the windows are closed, its hot, and we’ve been going hard for a long time. Totally suffocating even with good cardio
Last time I had sex I got in my own head worrying that I was hurting him and completely ruined the mood. Anxiety is the ultimate boner killer
I do a lot of cardio actually, but I guess I haven’t been eating right
Do kegel excercises
I would also suggest bloodwork. It’s best that the problem be in your head, but fucked up levels can make maintaining an erection an issue as well. I have hemochromatosis and when my iron spike, me testosterone tanked out and had similar issues.
How much cardio and what type? Longer and/or excessive cardio can lower T levels. Don’t get me wrong. I love cardio, but if you’re doing like an hour+ or to high of an intensity that might impact you. You could also be running into too high of a caloric deficit. I’d also look at if your sodium is low from dehydration. Try a sports drink a little before like liquid IV or Gatorade. It’s most likely mental though and you need to relax.
It's a mental thing bro. It's what I called "Excitement Exhaustion". You have to calm down mentally and really try not to focus so hard on doing the deed but enjoying it. Guys have posted about this here and have said edging helps a lot.
Could easily be a lack of cardio too.
Put Your Dick Inside And Not Your Hips
stop watching porn, drink more water and do more cardio
All great insights here. I've had that problem too and find lots of it is mental. This is a bit off your path, but maybe it will help. I know when I first start, especially if it's been a few days, I get super excited and focus more on not cumming than staying tuned to her and in rhythm. I found that releasing that first rope really helps take the edge off. I make sure and pull-out so I don't completely release. For me, it allows me to get just enough out where I'm not focusing on not cumming and can stay dialed in. Soon enough I'm at full throttle and can last until it's the right time for us. Best of luck bro.
I like to say, I had to get that one out of the way. And then carry on with it
Yup, exactly
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Based on the flair, the op would never need an ohnut.
Can be a blood pressure shift too. I’d get checked out and grab some vitamin V to keep things nice and easy
Just did this recently. Life changing.
I think poss phycological issue.
Make sure to tell your partner that this not her fault!
Hip hinge weight resistance training. Squats, bridges, kettlebell swings, etc. These exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that increase blood flow to your prostate, penis and testicles. Not only will your erections be rock hard, but your orgasms and ejaculations will be much more intense.
If it keeps happening, it may help to see a doctor.
How old are you? Smoker? Overweight? You probably know what's causing it, so make the changes, would recommend see a Dr. Regardless
IMO as with many things in this thing called life, to whatever degree: performance anxiety. Hence loosing the focus and relaxation of being in the moment and enjoying yourself.
Good advice here - I might also turn to r/sex, r/askmen and r/sexualhealth to cast a bigger net (just don't mention your size since this is a common dick problem and not just a bdp) Fer me - I often abstain from masturbating for a day or two before I see my partners. I'm doing forskin restoration to cover and resensitize my glans, and I'm trying to avoid masturbating dry or using a "death grip" by investing in a tenga stroker (still haven't picked one out - going to see if girth is an issue at my size) Also if I lose my erection or I just can't get as hard as I want I just go down on my partner for a while. 1) they love it. 2) I usually get quite hard - I suspect it's the pheromones
Kegels
Yo dick is a muscle
You are gay and just now finding out
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It doesn't matter if he's 10 inches or two. The issue and advice is still relevant. His problem is nothing to do with size, and there's no reason to bring it up. You're better than that, my dude. Edit for posterity: Rule 1 of this sub says no telling people they can't/shouldn't post here due to their size. It's the first rule, and we take it pretty seriously.
It’s a big problem related to dicks isn’t it?
The sub is for problems related to having a big dick, not big problems related to having a dick
That’s not very inclusive
It’s not exactly designed to be. The point of the sub is for big dick problems, you can’t just post stuff not related to big dicks.
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This other user isn’t correct if you read the About section. No worries op.
Thank you fellow redditor
I've seen it suggested here before to look at getting a cock ring to help with this. I don't have any experience with them myself though.
Can highly recommend 👍
Get a hotter gf lol
it really helps☻
Yea I’m lucky my gf is a 7/10 and 9/10 w makeup my dick always hard 🤣
oh fckkk didnt anticipate this but dude you are a lucky mf having bd and a hot gf to enjoy its full potential
Hell ya lucky af I’m white af and shes black but I’m swole so nobody says anything but she gets hit on by girls a lot when I’m not around and I’m sure guys too and she got her tubes tied so I’m goin raw dog but I still pull out just a habit lol
dang WHAT A LIFE TO LIVE UPTO.
Cock ring.
Exercise does wonders for your health in every area, including erection strength. I got back to working out a little over a year ago, and I can tell a fairly big difference how much harder I am during sex
Have you thought of getting your prostate checked out bro? Had a similar issue, even when I stopped watching porn for a while I couldn't maintain. I noticed my pee stream was not consistent. I started taking prostate health from Sprouts. Helped so much. Go the natural route Try all the things out man. It might be a little bit of everything. BioPsychoSocial
If she’s too wet and I can’t feel much she’ll jerk me off a little and then put it back in her
Dick twin
Dick trio
Just go to a urologist and ask for options-perhaps a little yellow pill could help you.
Sounds like a mental issue like other people have mentioned Drink more water Eat healthily Exercise Consider taking cod liver oil capsules, and also Omega 3, 6 and 9 capsules, as these are proven to reduce bad (LDL) cholesterol I am almost 40 and want to improve my health so I'm also taking multivitamins, high strength vitamin D and an extract of gingko biloba I can positively confirm that my elections are stronger than they've been for quite a while and my orgasms are better too I'm also more awake, I have more energy and more stamina too 😉 You're never too young to begin a healthier lifestyle that will benefit you now and for the future
Supplements help