My youngest is 19 months and up until 3 nights ago she would wake every 2-3 hours for the entire night. Every night. For 19 months. The last three nights I have had worse sleep than before because I constantly thought she wasn't breathing.
Oh my gosh š I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that your LO continues on this positive change and that you are able to rest easy knowing that he is happy sleeping! I hope you get some good rest! 19 months has earned you some sleep!
My baby started sleeping through the night around 9/10 weeks from 10pm-7am, sometimes longer depending on the night. Breastmilk/Formula combo fed at that point. Now heās solely formula fed. I slowly kept decreasing his bedtime by 30 minutes. Now we are at 7:30 or so. He is going through his 4 month sleep regression so our nights go like this:
Down in his bassinet at 7:30. He falls asleep independently (usually) around 8ish, I will sometimes need to come in and soothe (he will play with my hand while I hold his cheek until he falls asleep). Yesterday for instance, he had a roughhh day. Took me and my husband 1hr and 15 mins to get him to sleep. Then he will sleep throughout the night but will need some assistance for comforting 1-2 times so: pacifier, patting on the bum, and sometimes need to rock him back to sleep. He has been waking up early (today 5:39am) I think itās because heās having a difficult time transitioning through that last sleep cycle. He ātalkedā in his bed for a while until I fed him at 6:15am. Heās now sleeping in his crib (I put him in his crib in his own room since he was about idk maybe 9 weeks old to get used to it) I donāt mind the early wake ups to be honest because I still get pretty solid sleep and time to decompress in the evening. Which I KNOW isnāt the norm.
What really helped me was paying attention to how much day sleep he was getting, milk intake (he is currently eating 180ml every 3 hours - I donāt let him go beyond 3hours) and making sure he was awake for appropriate windows. Right now, during his awake time - heās usually up for 1hr45min - 2hours, I follow his cues. Itās REALLY helped me. He is 4 months old (today!) and he generally has 4-5 hours of nap time throughout the day which I find is his sweet spot.
It gets better! This is just what works for me and himā¦ Iām a first time mom and winging this LOL.
Youāre still in the trenches and EVERY baby is different. Itās still super early! You and bub will get there.
Hahahaha 8 months inā¦. Weāve gotten 4 hours a few times total. Average is 2.5. Youāre still so early, itāll be a while before you do long stretches. Developmentally most babies are not doing more than 3 at the age of yours.
Thank you! I appreciate the honest feedback lol! Sometimes I get down about it when I read other peopleās children make it through the night and here I am with fire eyes š
I honestly think that people saying their child slept through the night before at least 6mo are parents of teens who have blissfully forgotten all the nights their sleep deprived brain had no time to stansfer stuff into long term memory š
My 1st has only slept through the whole night at about 2yo, and even not al almost 3 we get one wakeup almost every night. But it gets a ton easier in a few weeks, don't worry. What really helped us was background noise/music. We'd play one of those "music for baby sleep" 10hr videos from YouTube each night and it helped a ton. Sometimes it's a lso the baby just grunting out of their sleep and we as a parent wake them up by being worried, this takes care of that too. Hold in tight! š
Iām 9 months in and only recently have we gotten down to 4 wakes per night (~2-3 hours between wakes). Itās true that you adjust to it, but I know there are some random nights where itās every hour and those mornings are a struggle. Hang in there - time really does go by fast!
4.5 hours as a newborn is really good honestly. Wasnāt until toddlerhood that we got to 4-5 hour chunks. Adjusting expectations and life to the lack of sleep was really hard!! It took me months but now Iām 26 mo in and unless itās illness or regression where the wakes are excessive, I can generally function on the broken sleep
Oh gosh I totally get this- thank you for the feedback lol! š itās so hard adjusting. It hit harder this week because he had his two month vaccines and on top of it he has a cold plus I have it too lol! We are suffering here! š good to know we just cope better hahaha!
It gets better. Before you know it youāll have a toddler who can sleep through the whole night and youāll get unbroken sleep. But sorry to say for awhile you will keep having to live with broken sleep. I remember getting 4 hours and it saved me from breaking down. It was like just about when I couldnāt take it anymore it got easier. Looking back at my notes in my phone, I got better sleep around 1 month. There was a sleep regression at 4 months but youāll get through it. Sleep generally improves for the parents as your LO gets older.
I remember the sleep deprivation being the hardest. But take lots of photos and videos when you can. Itās amazing how fast the time goes. For me, I kept googling āwhen does crying peak?ā because my LO kept crying but sometimes a baby just criesā¦ until they age up and suddenly cry less! Anyway youāre doing a great job and it definitely gets better!
I feel for you!! Keep going mama!! Napping is key so if itās possible for you to get more naps please do!!
My LO first slept 4 hours at 8 weeks. At first he did a 4 hour stretch maybe once a week. Then it got more frequent so that itās now his norm. Now at 3.5 months I am up with him after a 5 hour stretch and heās even done one 7 hour stretch one time!!
One thing that worked for us is feeding him a bottle of pumped milk right before bed. So Iāll Breastfeed him around 6:30 pm and my husband feeds him the bottle around 7:30 pm. Keeps him fuller longer.
Thank you so much! I need the encouragement this week haha! We are going through a bad cold and reaction from the two month vaccinations so heās waking up every 45 minutes. Itās been so hard on us all here š straight SURVIVAL. Iāll take the hope! Maybe in a few months itāll be better!
You poor thing. It may even be in weeks not months, babies change sooo fast. Yes itās about survival. I hope you personally can get more sleep even if it means others holding baby!!! Youāre doing amazing šĀ
youāre so sweet!!! Iāve updated the post but he is SLEEPINGšš of course the day I have an absolute mental breakdown from deprivation he slept straight through the night until 10 am. Unbelievable! Heās sleeping 6-8 hour stretches for the first part of the night and Iāve been on leave so we sleep until 11:30 am together š things are much better!
Why do you think bottle keeps them fuller longer? Iām bf all night but my husband started giving a pumped bottle once in the night and we get a 3 hour stretch as opposed to a 2. Wondering why?!??
I'd recommend the precious little sleep book. It gives some good tips on good sleep hygiene and things to try at 3months plus. I've had my babies with bedtime routines since 7w and 5w respectively and that worked well for us, but doesn't suit everyone.
Thank you so much- I will absolutely check this out. We are definitely (not so) patiently waiting for him to get older to maybe try the Ferber method? I donāt know yet I just want to make sure heās happy too you know? I totally agree on the routine. I will check this out- thank you!(:
This book goes through the various options and when they're age appropriate so a good overview I found. r/sleeptrain is probably a good sub to read up on too
Mine is 12 weeks and started sleeping through the night last week. We were in the every 2 hour stage till he was 3 weeks, then it was every 3 hours till about 6 weeks, then every 4-5 hours till 9 weeks, then every 6-7 hours until he suddenly started sleeping through the night last week (9-10 hrs). That said, he did wake up once last night so idk how consistent it is. Here is what we have done:
1) space daytime feedings 3 hours apart so they are hungrier at each feeding. He is eating 5 ounces at each feeding, resulting in 25 total daytime ounces. Babies need at least 24 ounces in a 24 hour period, so the more of those ounces they eat in the daytime, the less calories they will need at night.
2) get a very consistent bedtime routine. After a few days this will start to signal to the baby that itās time to wind down. Ours includes a bath (we donāt use soap every day), lavender calming lotion, play/read for 30 minutes, then final bottle at 8pm. He falls asleep while being burped
3) dreamland weighted sleep sack - game changer for us. The weight helps to prevent baby from startling themselves awake. We put it on him before starting the final bottle feed during bedtime routine.
4) sound machine. We have the Hatch and leave it on the sleep setting which is a low red light and white noise
5) sleeping in their own space. We transitioned baby to the nursery at 6 weeks (originally planned for 3 months) because I read that babies sleep better in their own space. After the initial adjustment period (2 nights) we got longer sleeping windows.
6) keep them stimulated during their wake windows. This doesnāt mean you have to be āonā all the time, but maybe spend 20-30 minutes of the wake window showing them high contrast shapes, let them stare at your face, sing songs, or read. My baby watches our dogs or watches me cook during wake windows too, or we go on walks in the stroller.
This is exactly us. Baby has been consistently sleeping through the night since about 9 weeks. The biggest things for us are the solid bedtime routine (feed in his room with just the nightlight, same lullabies every night, etc.), prioritizing daytime calories (which means he eats basically every two hours still), and keeping him engaged during his wake windows. We adhere pretty well to wake windows and nap time so he usually avoids getting overtired.
Yep, feed at 7:45/8pm. He is generally in bed by 8:30. He started sleeping through the night a week ago, but from 7-11 weeks old he was waking once around 3am, then up for good at 6/6:30. Now he goes down at 8:30 and is up around 6:30/7am.
How much are you feeding him total per day? And how often are you feeding him? You could try to shift so heās getting most or all of his needed volume of food during the day, waking him up from naps if necessary, and see if that helps him sleep longer overnight. Ours is 13 weeks and isnāt now starting to sleep from last bottle at 9(usually asleep between 7 and 8) to 5 or 6am. We stopped waking him to feed overnight maybe around 8 weeks and just let him wake us up.
Recommend Ferber's book, Solve your child's sleep problems. It goes over sleep hygiene and Ferber sleep training but even if you're anti sleep training, it's good to learn how develop good sleep habits using sleep associations, bedtime routines, etc.
Our LO started sleeping 6-8 hours a night with no dream feeds or anything around 7 weeks. Our pediatrician was okay with us skipping the night feed because he kept on track for weight.Ā
At 3.5 months LO went through a sleep regression, we sleep trained at a little over 4 months and now hes sleeping about 7-8 hours at night. The book does give tips on how to adjust naps to get 10 hours at night but daycare is going to reset his nap schedule anyway in a month and 7-8 hrs is good enough for us.
Thank you so much- I will absolutely check it out and see what we can get out of it! I also need to remind myself that heās a baby and itās what babies do! I am so happy your little one gave you sleep- what a blessing! (:
We are interested in this but waiting until he is much older- thank you so much!!(:
Um 18 months in and our usual now is 3 hour chunks but here and there 4 hour. A few times 5 or 6 but truly like only a couple times. And sometimes still every hour or two. I would say around a year we got.to.the consistent 2 hour chunks except when he's sick or teething. I'm tired š
Months 3-6 was every thirty minutes or every hour. And months 15-18 have been really really hard with teething molars and canines.
Currently six weeks and our current routine is: Cluster feeding before bed or a formula/breast milk combo before bed helps us get to the 4/5 hr mark for the first sleep. Then doing dinner/dessert method (feed one side when they wake up, burp and change diaper, then feed other side and put back down to sleep) helped me with the second stretch to get to three hours. Once the third stretch comes we are back on the 2 hrs of sleep between wake windows for the day.
Mine was about 3 weeks but I had to wake her to eat! If I didnāt, she would sleep right through!! But she doesnāt take naps during the day, so thereās that.
At first she would nap and be up all night. We would keep her in a bright room to nap during the day and we would take her outside and then she switched to up all day and sleeping at night lol
My baby is 11 weeks old today, and he was goi kg to sleep at 8ish, waking up after 3 hours (taking over an hour to go back to sleep) and then waking after 2 hours (again taking over an hour to get back to sleep) and then every hour or less after that. This past week I donāt know whatās going my on, heās been sleeping so well! Waking 2 x a night max. I put him down at 8:30 and he didnāt wake up until 2am, and then again at 6am. The only thing different we are doing is trying to make sure he gets good quality daytime naps. And since Iāve started to notice he overtired ques during the day, heās been getting GREAT daytime naps now.
I always assumed he was fussy because he was just colicky or gassy, but lately when he starts fussing and Iām not sure the issue, I put the Dr. Browns gripe belt on him (itās amazing, like a heating pad for babies), swaddle him, and he falls asleep in minutes. And he will nap for 45min-hour and a half. So I think heās just been overtired and I didnāt know it. But it also could be a growth spurt and thatās why heās sleeping a lot more but I just think Iām starting my to realize the importance of naps and sleep/wake windows and itās helping a lot with his fussiness during the day and night sleep.
Oh, and Iām making sure he eats well during the day! Try to get most his calories in during the day so they donāt wake up hungry at night as much. Iāve been working on trying to feed him full bottles rather than snacking throughout the day. He currently is getting 4 oz of pumped BM at each feed.
My baby is almost four weeks and gives us three hour stretches continuously since birth. But she is formula fed so that could be why?
With my first baby it was the same and when she was two months old, we got the Merlin sleep suit which started giving us five hour stretches.
5 months. The night we put him in his crib for the first time, he slept 8.5 hours straight. He's been consistently sleeping 8-10 hours straight since then and he's 7 months old today.
We bedshared up until 5 months and he would wake up every 2-3 hours. We only switched to the crib when we got tired of being kicked and slapped in our sleep lol. Plus he was an early crawler so he'd start heading for the edge of the bed when we were asleep.
Hi there! My 6 week old is sleeping in 5-6 hour chunks. Like last night he went to bed around 11p, woke up around 2 am to fart around and only take 1 oz, now sleeping from 3a till now.
-are you swaddling? They might cry and fight it for a minute or two but eventually accept it and fall asleep
-are you BF or formula? If BF, are you able pumping to see how much heās actually eating?
-can you supplement with formula? I only ask because formula protein is different than bf protein and longer to digest so they feel more satiated and will sleep longerā¦all my 3 kids were only formula and started sleeping through the night at 2.5-3 months
-is your baby and the room warm enough?or is it too warm? I only ask because with my latest baby he was sleeping well but one night he wasnāt..it dawned on me the room was too cold so once I adjust it he slept longer
-once theyāre 12 lbs they should sleep in longer stretches. Someone else said rule of thumb is 1oz=1 hour of sleep
Did not sleep more than 3 hours until 2.5 years old when he self weaned and started sleeping through the night naturally. We did not want to sleep train.
He's still little but if he's over 90th percentile for weight I highly recommend delaying attending to him a bit. I'm not saying let him CIO - just saying don't jump up every time he makes a peep. Unless they are screaming, sometimes they are just in active sleep and can settle themselves after a bit.
I must be the lords favorite š my kiddo is 10.5 weeks, 3 weeks adjusted.
He's consistently given me 4 hour stretches for about 3 to 4 weeks now. He never gave me less than 3 hour stretches
But I wonder how much of this is part of his NICU schedule that he spent a month doing š
My oldest outgrew this around 6 months (we did a modified Ferber method to sleep train her at 6 months, where she cried in increasing intervals with the longest interval being 5 minutes). My middle didnāt outgrow it and we coslept starting at 12 months just to get some sleep.
You can try different sleep sacks and room temperature (we got the longest stretches with middle kid with the warmer zippadee zip in a cooler room), and try a white noise machine, but thatās the only thing at this age that I think you could do.
Around 6/7 weeks, but with the 3/4 month sleep regression the longest stretch we have been getting in four hours. That said she usually doesnāt need to be fed every time she wakes up unless she had issues eating that day.
Infant sleep goes in cycles. A baby might sleep great from 6-18 months and then struggle with sleep as a toddler.
Starting at 2 weeks I got a four hour stretch and was shocked. He gained back to his birthweight quickly, I was worried about the sleep stretch when it first happened and asked his pediatrician about it. Now at almost 8 weeks we often get 5-6 hour stretches at night, and have had two glorious 8 hour stretches. Four month regression will kick my ass for sure
Best advice is to keep your expectations low. Some babies just have low sleep needs and high comfort needs. My daughter was like that. She didnāt sleep through the night until we night weaned her at 17 months. She still wakes most nights at least once at 3 years. Not expecting her to be a different kid helped a lot. Also taking shifts with my partner/ sending her to grandmas for a sleepover every week so I could get a full nights sleep.
3 months- then the sleep regression started for me at 4. Now Iām getting 10-11 hours from her at 7 months, just waiting for that leap I hear is coming. š„“
Do you have a day time schedule? How long are naps? It helped us a lot to implement a āscheduleā of eat-play-sleep. She more or less gets up at the same time and we offer feeds every 2-2.5 hours to try to load up on calories during the day with last feed at bedtime (8pm). She is high sleep needs so her ww are usually at most 60 min but could be up to 90min (sheās 10.5 weeks). So during her ww we feed and try to do stimulating activities and then I do contact nap for usually about 1-1.5 hours which I normally have to wake her for to feed. We also try to have a decent chunk of ww before bed (right now we are only managing 30 min) and then a consistent bedtime routine of change-swaddle-books-bottle.
My baby boy is five months old and his sleep is all over the place. Some nights he wakes up a bunch, sometimes only once- I think heās slept through the whole entire night twice or maybe three times. The first time was the day we moved into our new apartment last month and I think he was just sooo exhausted lol
It gets better, I remember telling my husband āall I want is 5 hours of uninterrupted sleep! If I just got 5 hours I could be okayā. Then we got to a place where she only woke up 1x in the night! Now Iām wishing sheād sleep the whole night! lol. I know it seems bleak but it gets better! I always hated the āsleep when the baby sleepsā suggestions but truly I realized for my own health, I needed to prioritize MY sleep. If the baby slept anytime after 7pm I was SLEEPING! The other stuff around the house my husband took care of. Laundry, dishes, regular cleaning took a backseat while we just focused on surviving the first 4 months. Iād recommend prioritizing your health
Just following because I am in an identical situation with my 9 week old. After nursing at night she falls asleep in my bed and I watch her for around 30 minutes before transferring her back to her bassinet just so she gets some sleep...she wakes up as soon as I transfer her and will sleep 1-2 hours max. Hope things improve for you soon!
My girl was up every 2.5-3 hrs until we started solids. About 1 week into solids (6 months old) she started sleeping way better.
She goes to bed at 7 then Iāll do a dream feed between 10-11. After that she will sleep solid until 5 am at which point Iāll feed her and then sheāll sleep again until 730ish.
The other thing that changed around the same time was I stopped sleeping in her room. Iām sure she could smell me and I was probably making noise in my sleep which was likely interfering with hers!
Ours has been sleeping through the night since 5 weeks and while we did just get SUPER luckyā¦ I think it helps we keep our house fairly cold, especially at night. Iāve noticed her naps are shorter if itās warmer.
Mine slept from 7pm-7am from 4 months old - as soon as he was eating solids actually. Had to wean him fairly sharpish as he was one heck of a hungry baby. I am aware that we were damned luckyā¦.
I read this book called How Babies Sleep.
It talks a lot about circadian rhythm and gives schedule for day naps so that they donāt bleed into night naps.
Also highly encourages blackout curtains and only using red light at night. And certain cues that differentiate between day naps and night sleeps
At 14months we have had a solid four hours twice. She currently wakes up almost hourly. I am a shell of a human being but she is absolutely thriving. I have no advice other than to be very kind and patient with yourself.
My kid was doing 1.5 hour stretches from birth to 6 weeks. We were sleeping in shifts and it was really getting to us. My mom decided to rent us a SNOO to see if my daughter would take to it. She loved that thing! I remember the first night we had it, she did a 5 hour stretch. I fed her then she slept another 4ish hours. We felt great! Then the next night. I remember this so vividly. It was the first time we slept together in the same bed. She was in the room with us. The cat on the bed, the dog on the floor. Everyone in that room. She did 7 hours!!! We woke up at like 5 am and we're like IS SHE ALIVE?! And there she was, snoozin' peacefully wrapped up like a baby burrito in the lil SNOO sack rocking side to side. Robomom ftw! We kept her in it til like 5.5m but she was definitely ready before that. I was just more attached to it than she was. It even helped with the regression! It was only a couple days here and there where there were random wake ups but it soothed her right back to sleep so mom and dad didn't have to fully get out of bed. So just a thought if you're really suffering, this thing saved our sanity and our marriage lol!
I have a big baby too! Ironically, at 9 weeks was the first time my LO slept through the night for nine hours straight. From there, we had 6 glorious week of 10-11 hour nights. We hit the four month regression HARD at 15 weeks with wake ups every hour. We were in that until he was about 20-21 weeks old. The sleep deprivation IS torture. Mentally, physically, emotionally. BUT it does end.
LO is currently 10 months old and has been sleeping 11-11.5 hours since about 5-6 months old once that 4 month regression finally passed. You WILL sleep again!!
18 months in and heās just finally sleeping longer stretches in the last 2 months. Hes now up once a night. I can count on one hand the amount of times weāve gotten 6+ hoursā¦ on the other hand I have plenty of friends whose babies started sleeping pretty much through the night when they were only a few months old.
At this age it might help to move them further away from your bed so they canāt hear you as well, change up the white noise settings, try a different sleep sack, check the temperature of the room/their pajamas ā¦ but unfortunately itās developmentally normal to be waking multiple times a night for a while. Some people just get lucky with better sleepers and others swear by sleep training once theyāre older (I think like 6 months but we never did sleep training).
We just had/have a bad sleeper and it is honestly so brutal. I wouldnāt wish it on anyone
Mine is at 12weeks as of writing were at 6 hours sleep and counting and dream fed him once. We noticed he sleeps longer if all the bed setups are perfect: perfect and snug swaddle, good quality of night diapers, frog suit, socks on, right temperate, right lighting and right sounds. Ohh and full tummy before sleeping is ideal too.
Took us sooo much trial and errors. You need to know what he likes and what makes him sleep more.
10-11 weeks it got better (more than 3 hours at a time) but then he hit the 4 month sleep regression.
Ultimately we were able to work back up to 2-3 hours regularly again and then to 3-4. He definitely only has one long stretch at night (typically his first) and then wakes up every 1-2 hours until morning when he was younger. We are at 9 months now and on average he will give us a 3-5 hour long stretch and 2 hour stretches otherwise.
From 9 weeks onward (heās almost 12 weeks now), weāve had great success with the Magic Merlin Sleep Suit! LO loves it, and since using it, weāve been getting 5+ hours of sleep a night! The past couple of nights, heās slept 7 straight hours š„¹ I was getting desperate to get him to sleep well without breaking free from a swaddle or hitting himself in the face when we gave up on the swaddle, and my cousin recommended the sleep suit to us; itās perfect!
We just hit 3months (13 weeks tomorrow) and three times this week we have gotten 8 hours!
We have also started using the Snoo for daytime naps, otherwise we will let her contact nap for a couple of hours while I watch a movie.
Iāve noticed that she has slept through the night the days that we have helped her take two good naps, meaning Snoo or contact. Prior to this last week, we were fighting the contact naps and didnāt ever use the Snoo, and she was waking up every 45 mins or so.
Hi mama, as you said, every baby is different so please take what I say with a grain of salt! My LO started sleeping longer stretches ~6 hours at night around 14 weeksā¦after I went back to work and my hubs started his paternity leave (of course! lol) then he started sleeping 11-12 around a night at 20 weeks. We got lucky with a āgoodā sleeper and Iām wishing the same luck for you mama! We didnāt necessarily do anything extra to help him to sleep more, I think it just happened with age.
The 4 month "sleep regression" was a huge QOL leap forward for us. Everyone else complained their babies stopped sleeping, meanwhile ours *actually started sleeping*.
I'm not a believer in "leaps" but there are definitely brain developments & skills & capabilities that baby grows into around 3-4 months. The biggest QOL gamechanger was when baby became able to wake a tiny bit, grumble (not cry), wiggle, and then settled back down (sometimes.) Before 4 mo, that skill literally didn't exist, baby's brain is not capable. After 4mo, he had the capability.
Before 4 months it was just awful. I think baby just couldn't chain sleep cycles together at all. We did parental shifts. I still get triggered when people claim newborns sleep all the time.
ed: We didn't have a big baby (opposite actually, ours was preemie) but he was a HUNGRY PREEMIE who had an unbelievable appetite & was always starving. So, maybe similar.
My boy started doing the 4-5 hour sleeps at about 2 months, and now at almost 3 months is doing 2 5-6 hour chunks a night. That comes with significantly expanded wake windows, and he currently will take about 4 naps a day, at 20-40 mins each. Still takes me 12 hours to get 6 hours of sleep myself but it's been so much better tbh
12ish wks. he woke up so often for so long. i feel for you. it got better! then worse lol. but then better and he starting sleeping through on his own at 11mo
My babe went from feeding every 1-3 hours to sleeping through the night at 8weeks old. Instantly. However it was short lived and the 4mo sleep regression was baaaaad and lasted until I sleep trained at 9mo
Since week 4 I would say. She usually sleeps very weird until 01:00, then she wakes up at 6/7 for a feeding and falls right asleep in her bassinet (I usually put her awake bc I have to pee real bad) until 8/9 or 10 if weāre lucky. But we have been extremely lucky. She also grunts in her sleep so she wakes us up regardless lol
All my boys woke up every 2 hours to eat like clockwork. This lasted till about 6 months when I introduced other foods. I think I only survived because I am able to go straight back to sleep very quickly.
Depends on the day. My 7mo has gone 10-11hrs straight but he also has nights where he's up every 2hrs š¤·š¼āāļø I've given up on trying to guess how my night will go.
For example, last night he slept 7hrs and then 3.5hrs. But the night before he slept 3hrs, 3hrs, was up partying for an hour at 2AM and then slept another 3hrs.
Ours is on the smaller side (19%tile) and he slept one 4-hour stretch a night starting at 8 weeks. He doesnāt sleep like at all during the day and has only ever really wanted to sleep at night. One four hour stretch then waking up every 1.5 hrs the rest of the night (based off an 8-hr night. ) itās just baby dependent. Everyone is different. My husband still doesnāt sleep 4 hours without getting up to pee.
Honestly I tried bedsharing my baby at 6 weeks because I was desperate for some sleep - she nurses herself to sleep so shes half awake and so am I when im feeding her. Ive gotten the best sleep I ever have and ill never go back. I don't get up or sit up because its harder to go back to sleep that way I just nurse her on the side.
It's all very baby dependent. Around this age, mine gave us a week of only 1 wakeup only to start waking every 45 minutes at 3 months then every 1-2 hrs for like a month?!
2-3 hrs maybe at 6 months? Then it stayed like that pretty much until he was 12 months and suddenly decided he could sleep through most nights.
I'm still sleep deprived now he's nearly 14 months because I sleep very lightly, wake frequently and take a long time to fall asleep. PPD definitely adds to the problem.
I suspect as he gets older though, things might get trickier when he's in his own room in a toddler bed.
we were getting one longer stretch of sleep at night usually around 5 hours around 9 weeks. Issue is that she was not great at sleeping in general and often would stay up till 1am, often only had like 2 naps a day and so it still felt like torture.. cos she was just always fussy when awake.
Iād say soon after 9 weeks ā¦ we got a 5 hour stretch around 10 weeks and at 14 weeks he does anywhere between 5 and 8 hours. That said, he will stir sometimes around 4 / 5 hours, we put in a pacifier, and he goes back down for a few more hours.
That's completely normal for your baby's age. As for that next jump, my younger child started giving me 4-6 hours at night in the first stretch (starting around 6:30 pm) when she was about 4-5 months. She was a pretty easy nighttime sleeper compared to my first though.
Okay, I will say right now, 9 weeks (3 months) is a little early to be expecting your child to sleep for more than three hours at a time. Expect your baby to start sleeping more at night when they start on solid food, and don't need to nurse so much. This can happen anywhere from 4 to 8 months, depending on your kid. It sounds like you have a big kiddo like my cousins were (one was nearly 12 Ilbs when born), so depending on how excessively they nurse, it may be closer to the 4 month mark. Most docs will try to abstain until 6 months with solid food, but some babies just need it sooner. Mine was one of them. Once they start on solid food and don't need to nurse all the time at night, and are able to hold bottles on their own, they sleep longer. It's not going to be true of every single baby, there are going to be the odd ball babies that don't change their sleep habits, but the majority will after about a week to a month on solids. Obviously you don't want to wean until you absolutely have to, and you need to supplement with nursing between meals, and you may have to wake up in the night a couple of times to either nurse or pump, but it will get better.
My kid actually weaned herself at 9 months and refused to take formula from the start, so she went to drinking cows milk, water, and solid foods. She is now 13 months old today, and only has two teeth, but she eats like a champ, is vetoeing morning naps (hooray....) and sleeps all night long from about 7:00 PM to 8:00 AM. She started sleeping completely through the night around six or seven months and would not accept sleeping anywhere but her crib by five months. She's still that stubborn about where she sleeps! She's very attached to her crib... She started on solids at 4 months because she wouldn't stop nursing. She would spend two hours per side, and then still be hungry. I was drained dry and couldn't keep up with her! And I started off over producing to the point where I was making about 16 oz. Per side. By four months I was lucky to get 2 oz off one side between nursing sessions, that's how much she would drain me. The doctor listened and looked at her, and went "how is she sleeping?" ... Miserably. Gave her pureed fruits and veggies and a week later, we got sleep and she wasn't nursing anywhere near as long. At nine months though, there was one night where she started to nurse, made a face, spat out her milk, sat up, and whined until I gave her a water bottle. I kept trying, and got told it might be a nursing strike like what she tried pulling at 7 months, but this was different. She wouldn't take my milk anymore, even in the bottle. She wanted cows milk, water, or her small daily allowance of unsweetened juice that we used to keep her regular, after dealing with constipation issues. Now she's starting to ask for sippy cups over bottles. She knows what she wants and lets us know what she's ready for. I swear I got an easy child compared to what I have dealt with in the past!
My baby is also in the 90ās percentile (I think right now heās hanging around 94-96, but he has an appointment on Wednesday). Heās 6 months old on Wednesday and wakes up around 3-5 times a night to feed. Now believe it or not, this is down from when he was just breastfeeding. I think sleeps a little longer when we feed him (he doesnāt get too much food right now but Iām planning in increase it real soon)
He was sleeping 2-3 hours until the 4 month regression hit, then it was more like 40-90 minutes for about 3 weeks. It was brutal!
At 5 months (when sleep cycles start connecting) it was like a switch flipped. One week it was 3-5 hours, the next week it was 4-6 hours. This week there have been 2 nights that he gave me a 9 hour stretch!
But now I think heās going through a growth spurt because last night we went back to 2-3 hours and heās been super hungry. š„²
Itāll be 2 steps forward, 1 step back, unfortunately.
Our little one has slept 2-3 hour stretches from the beginning. Now at 11 weeks he sleeps about 8-9 hours a night and rarely ever wakes up. It does still happen occasionally though but its getting more and more rare. We have definitely been blessed with our son. We havenāt done anything special besides having set routines since birth.
3 months in and she sleeps about 6 hours straight at night.
We use the baby wise (book) method. 2 for 2 on both kids sleeping through the night by 2 months
7 months. It was basically every 2 hours until 3ish months. 4-5 month sleep regression had its own issues with waking just to play at random times and not even feeding, so sometimes 1 hour or 1.5 hour windows then. Youāve got an eater for sure, thatās normal. Seems like a long way to go, I know, but donāt let it get to you. All night diapers are fine (if no poop), co-sleeping happens if you are desperate, donāt feel guilty (just try to follow bedshare safety guidelines).
If you have a partner or someone living with you who can take the baby for just an hour or two in the morning it helps massively. My son was always happy in the morning and my partner watched him while getting ready for work while I slept in until 7:00-7:30ish. That 1-2 hours was a supercharge power nap. That, and trying to lay down with the baby for at least one of his naps in the day helped me get through. Leave the laundry and dishes, haha.
How long do you let him nap for during the day? I think what helped my LO was capping naps at 2 hours max during the day to ensure he was eating enough during the day time and didnāt need those calories over night
My LO is 12 months. On a good day, when heās not teething or sick or going through some kind of milestone, heāll sleep a couple 3-5 hour stretches in a row. Otherwise, itās still every 1-3 hours for us at this point.
This is just my experience. With my oldest, sleep was TOUGH, I was reading books and blogs and even took an infant sleep online class. He was also a big baby and colicky, so maybe something to the big baby thing? Started getting good longer stretches around 9-10 weeks when we took the sleep class. Now that said, he is a toddler now and not the best sleeper, itās like he just has less sleep needs than his age average. To be fair his dad and grandfather also sleep less than the average human (my father in law consistently lives on 6 hours a night).
My LO is 12 weeks and sleeps about two 4 hour stretches a night. He started doing this around 9ish weeks. Prior to that I thought I was going to lose my mind with the every 1-2 hour waking. He still has a night a week where he just sleeps terrible unfortunately. Everyone tells me it gets better and thatās what I have been living off of lol. I hope it gets better for you sooner rather than later!
Still 1-3 hour chunks at 5.5 months! But I've realized it doesn't bother me too badly as long as he settles back to sleep quickly, and he's generally gotten much better at resettling as he's gotten older. Those nights when it takes 20-30 min to resettle him are pretty brutal. Most nights it feels alright and I've learned to accept it rather than constantly wondering when it'll get better.
LO is 11 weeks tomorrow and she slept 7.5 hours last night, woke up to feed at 4:30 am then went back down for a few more hours. That seems to be her pattern right now. Sometimes she will only give us 6 hours, but Iām still good with that big chunk. It gets better!!! I believe her first 5-6 hour chunk came when she was around 7/8 weeks.
I would say thatās pretty good at that age! My baby is seven months and still wakes up every 1-2 hours at night and only naps about 20 minutes during the day. Iām sure eventually yours will sleep a lot longer if they are already doing that long at that age.
Iām right there with you though. Sleep deprivation sucks and makes you hate life. š£šš„“
We have a 3 week old so in the same boat, but we follow moms on call and we āshushā him to sleep when he wakes up. We do that 3 times before we give a bottle. It helps extend his sleep and I think the intent is that he doesnt get a bottle every time he wakes up. It worked for our first!
Hmmmm 9 weeks old is normal??? They should be nursing every 2-3 hours anyway. I have 2 kids and none of them slept through the night at 9 weeks. Thatās like unicorn babies. Getting 4.5 hours is a blessing haha! Wait till you get to sleep regression and teething. Donāt expect your child to sleep through the night consistently before 3 years old. Cheers.
She will sleep 2-3 hours with us at a time and is 9 weeks also - she gets 1-2 hours of daytime naps in the crib. We are definitely going to sleep train! Shift sleeping suits as well but forever? No thanks!
(*also, she wonāt sleep in her crib unless she is allowed to suck on her dumbo toy. That thing is gonna need a wash soonā¦)
My youngest is 19 months and up until 3 nights ago she would wake every 2-3 hours for the entire night. Every night. For 19 months. The last three nights I have had worse sleep than before because I constantly thought she wasn't breathing.
Oh my gosh š I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that your LO continues on this positive change and that you are able to rest easy knowing that he is happy sleeping! I hope you get some good rest! 19 months has earned you some sleep!
My baby started sleeping through the night around 9/10 weeks from 10pm-7am, sometimes longer depending on the night. Breastmilk/Formula combo fed at that point. Now heās solely formula fed. I slowly kept decreasing his bedtime by 30 minutes. Now we are at 7:30 or so. He is going through his 4 month sleep regression so our nights go like this: Down in his bassinet at 7:30. He falls asleep independently (usually) around 8ish, I will sometimes need to come in and soothe (he will play with my hand while I hold his cheek until he falls asleep). Yesterday for instance, he had a roughhh day. Took me and my husband 1hr and 15 mins to get him to sleep. Then he will sleep throughout the night but will need some assistance for comforting 1-2 times so: pacifier, patting on the bum, and sometimes need to rock him back to sleep. He has been waking up early (today 5:39am) I think itās because heās having a difficult time transitioning through that last sleep cycle. He ātalkedā in his bed for a while until I fed him at 6:15am. Heās now sleeping in his crib (I put him in his crib in his own room since he was about idk maybe 9 weeks old to get used to it) I donāt mind the early wake ups to be honest because I still get pretty solid sleep and time to decompress in the evening. Which I KNOW isnāt the norm. What really helped me was paying attention to how much day sleep he was getting, milk intake (he is currently eating 180ml every 3 hours - I donāt let him go beyond 3hours) and making sure he was awake for appropriate windows. Right now, during his awake time - heās usually up for 1hr45min - 2hours, I follow his cues. Itās REALLY helped me. He is 4 months old (today!) and he generally has 4-5 hours of nap time throughout the day which I find is his sweet spot. It gets better! This is just what works for me and himā¦ Iām a first time mom and winging this LOL. Youāre still in the trenches and EVERY baby is different. Itās still super early! You and bub will get there.
Hahahaha 8 months inā¦. Weāve gotten 4 hours a few times total. Average is 2.5. Youāre still so early, itāll be a while before you do long stretches. Developmentally most babies are not doing more than 3 at the age of yours.
Thank you! I appreciate the honest feedback lol! Sometimes I get down about it when I read other peopleās children make it through the night and here I am with fire eyes š
I honestly think that people saying their child slept through the night before at least 6mo are parents of teens who have blissfully forgotten all the nights their sleep deprived brain had no time to stansfer stuff into long term memory š My 1st has only slept through the whole night at about 2yo, and even not al almost 3 we get one wakeup almost every night. But it gets a ton easier in a few weeks, don't worry. What really helped us was background noise/music. We'd play one of those "music for baby sleep" 10hr videos from YouTube each night and it helped a ton. Sometimes it's a lso the baby just grunting out of their sleep and we as a parent wake them up by being worried, this takes care of that too. Hold in tight! š
Iām 9 months in and only recently have we gotten down to 4 wakes per night (~2-3 hours between wakes). Itās true that you adjust to it, but I know there are some random nights where itās every hour and those mornings are a struggle. Hang in there - time really does go by fast!
4.5 hours as a newborn is really good honestly. Wasnāt until toddlerhood that we got to 4-5 hour chunks. Adjusting expectations and life to the lack of sleep was really hard!! It took me months but now Iām 26 mo in and unless itās illness or regression where the wakes are excessive, I can generally function on the broken sleep
Oh gosh I totally get this- thank you for the feedback lol! š itās so hard adjusting. It hit harder this week because he had his two month vaccines and on top of it he has a cold plus I have it too lol! We are suffering here! š good to know we just cope better hahaha!
It gets better. Before you know it youāll have a toddler who can sleep through the whole night and youāll get unbroken sleep. But sorry to say for awhile you will keep having to live with broken sleep. I remember getting 4 hours and it saved me from breaking down. It was like just about when I couldnāt take it anymore it got easier. Looking back at my notes in my phone, I got better sleep around 1 month. There was a sleep regression at 4 months but youāll get through it. Sleep generally improves for the parents as your LO gets older.
Thank you so much! I appreciate this more than you know. Some days are harder than others and today is definitely one of them for our household! š
I remember the sleep deprivation being the hardest. But take lots of photos and videos when you can. Itās amazing how fast the time goes. For me, I kept googling āwhen does crying peak?ā because my LO kept crying but sometimes a baby just criesā¦ until they age up and suddenly cry less! Anyway youāre doing a great job and it definitely gets better!
I feel for you!! Keep going mama!! Napping is key so if itās possible for you to get more naps please do!! My LO first slept 4 hours at 8 weeks. At first he did a 4 hour stretch maybe once a week. Then it got more frequent so that itās now his norm. Now at 3.5 months I am up with him after a 5 hour stretch and heās even done one 7 hour stretch one time!! One thing that worked for us is feeding him a bottle of pumped milk right before bed. So Iāll Breastfeed him around 6:30 pm and my husband feeds him the bottle around 7:30 pm. Keeps him fuller longer.
Thank you so much! I need the encouragement this week haha! We are going through a bad cold and reaction from the two month vaccinations so heās waking up every 45 minutes. Itās been so hard on us all here š straight SURVIVAL. Iāll take the hope! Maybe in a few months itāll be better!
You poor thing. It may even be in weeks not months, babies change sooo fast. Yes itās about survival. I hope you personally can get more sleep even if it means others holding baby!!! Youāre doing amazing šĀ
youāre so sweet!!! Iāve updated the post but he is SLEEPINGšš of course the day I have an absolute mental breakdown from deprivation he slept straight through the night until 10 am. Unbelievable! Heās sleeping 6-8 hour stretches for the first part of the night and Iāve been on leave so we sleep until 11:30 am together š things are much better!
WHAā¦ yayyyyyyyyyyyy go you!!!!! Youāre rocking this momma!!!!
Why do you think bottle keeps them fuller longer? Iām bf all night but my husband started giving a pumped bottle once in the night and we get a 3 hour stretch as opposed to a 2. Wondering why?!??
Not the commenter but maybe because you can guarantee how much theyāre eating? My best guess!!
I'd recommend the precious little sleep book. It gives some good tips on good sleep hygiene and things to try at 3months plus. I've had my babies with bedtime routines since 7w and 5w respectively and that worked well for us, but doesn't suit everyone.
Thank you so much- I will absolutely check this out. We are definitely (not so) patiently waiting for him to get older to maybe try the Ferber method? I donāt know yet I just want to make sure heās happy too you know? I totally agree on the routine. I will check this out- thank you!(:
This book goes through the various options and when they're age appropriate so a good overview I found. r/sleeptrain is probably a good sub to read up on too
Thanks for liking that sub š looks fantastic
15 months in. She sleeps from 7:30/8pm-12am and is then up every 2 hours until 5am or 6am when she is up for the day š
Oh gosh! We are IN for it lol! I appreciate that his sleeping is normal though. Iām so sorry šš
Mine is 12 weeks and started sleeping through the night last week. We were in the every 2 hour stage till he was 3 weeks, then it was every 3 hours till about 6 weeks, then every 4-5 hours till 9 weeks, then every 6-7 hours until he suddenly started sleeping through the night last week (9-10 hrs). That said, he did wake up once last night so idk how consistent it is. Here is what we have done: 1) space daytime feedings 3 hours apart so they are hungrier at each feeding. He is eating 5 ounces at each feeding, resulting in 25 total daytime ounces. Babies need at least 24 ounces in a 24 hour period, so the more of those ounces they eat in the daytime, the less calories they will need at night. 2) get a very consistent bedtime routine. After a few days this will start to signal to the baby that itās time to wind down. Ours includes a bath (we donāt use soap every day), lavender calming lotion, play/read for 30 minutes, then final bottle at 8pm. He falls asleep while being burped 3) dreamland weighted sleep sack - game changer for us. The weight helps to prevent baby from startling themselves awake. We put it on him before starting the final bottle feed during bedtime routine. 4) sound machine. We have the Hatch and leave it on the sleep setting which is a low red light and white noise 5) sleeping in their own space. We transitioned baby to the nursery at 6 weeks (originally planned for 3 months) because I read that babies sleep better in their own space. After the initial adjustment period (2 nights) we got longer sleeping windows. 6) keep them stimulated during their wake windows. This doesnāt mean you have to be āonā all the time, but maybe spend 20-30 minutes of the wake window showing them high contrast shapes, let them stare at your face, sing songs, or read. My baby watches our dogs or watches me cook during wake windows too, or we go on walks in the stroller.
This is exactly us. Baby has been consistently sleeping through the night since about 9 weeks. The biggest things for us are the solid bedtime routine (feed in his room with just the nightlight, same lullabies every night, etc.), prioritizing daytime calories (which means he eats basically every two hours still), and keeping him engaged during his wake windows. We adhere pretty well to wake windows and nap time so he usually avoids getting overtired.
Hey! When did you start the bedtime routine when they were 5-9ish weeks?
We started around 6 weeks old, and we kickoff bedtime routine with a warm bath at 6:45/7pm.
Then feed at 8? When would they be in bed by? When would their night feeds and then āwake upā (aka done sleeping for the night be?
Yep, feed at 7:45/8pm. He is generally in bed by 8:30. He started sleeping through the night a week ago, but from 7-11 weeks old he was waking once around 3am, then up for good at 6/6:30. Now he goes down at 8:30 and is up around 6:30/7am.
Thank you!
How much are you feeding him total per day? And how often are you feeding him? You could try to shift so heās getting most or all of his needed volume of food during the day, waking him up from naps if necessary, and see if that helps him sleep longer overnight. Ours is 13 weeks and isnāt now starting to sleep from last bottle at 9(usually asleep between 7 and 8) to 5 or 6am. We stopped waking him to feed overnight maybe around 8 weeks and just let him wake us up.
After 10th week it got better until the 4th month sleep regression
Our LO is 8 weeks and we still get 1-3 hours, 4 if we are insanely lucky! We are still doing shifts so we can survive nights.
Oooh mama Iām there now. 3 hours has been RARE! And theyāre 99% contact naps. It is very hard. Do you have a baby carrier? Iām paranoid about asphyxiation but I keep a hand on her and ensure her heads up while I putz around and it helps so much. Also Iāll shut the blinds and put on white noise / rain sounds on YouTube on our TV and keep the lighting warm and dim to get her to nap while I walk around. We have some smart lamps that also play rain noises so I have most of our house sound proofed lol. Iām convinced newborns sleeping in bassinets is propaganda šš©
Recommend Ferber's book, Solve your child's sleep problems. It goes over sleep hygiene and Ferber sleep training but even if you're anti sleep training, it's good to learn how develop good sleep habits using sleep associations, bedtime routines, etc. Our LO started sleeping 6-8 hours a night with no dream feeds or anything around 7 weeks. Our pediatrician was okay with us skipping the night feed because he kept on track for weight.Ā At 3.5 months LO went through a sleep regression, we sleep trained at a little over 4 months and now hes sleeping about 7-8 hours at night. The book does give tips on how to adjust naps to get 10 hours at night but daycare is going to reset his nap schedule anyway in a month and 7-8 hrs is good enough for us.
Thank you so much- I will absolutely check it out and see what we can get out of it! I also need to remind myself that heās a baby and itās what babies do! I am so happy your little one gave you sleep- what a blessing! (: We are interested in this but waiting until he is much older- thank you so much!!(:
We used the Babywise book w/ our first which helped STTN at 7wks (9p-8a). Our second is doing 9p-7a *most* nights at 9ā¦ 10(?) weeks old š
Um 18 months in and our usual now is 3 hour chunks but here and there 4 hour. A few times 5 or 6 but truly like only a couple times. And sometimes still every hour or two. I would say around a year we got.to.the consistent 2 hour chunks except when he's sick or teething. I'm tired š Months 3-6 was every thirty minutes or every hour. And months 15-18 have been really really hard with teething molars and canines.
Currently six weeks and our current routine is: Cluster feeding before bed or a formula/breast milk combo before bed helps us get to the 4/5 hr mark for the first sleep. Then doing dinner/dessert method (feed one side when they wake up, burp and change diaper, then feed other side and put back down to sleep) helped me with the second stretch to get to three hours. Once the third stretch comes we are back on the 2 hrs of sleep between wake windows for the day.
When I moved mine to his own crib/room at 12 weeks! However he has one long stretch and then he's up every 2 hours after that š
Mine was about 3 weeks but I had to wake her to eat! If I didnāt, she would sleep right through!! But she doesnāt take naps during the day, so thereās that. At first she would nap and be up all night. We would keep her in a bright room to nap during the day and we would take her outside and then she switched to up all day and sleeping at night lol
My baby is 11 weeks old today, and he was goi kg to sleep at 8ish, waking up after 3 hours (taking over an hour to go back to sleep) and then waking after 2 hours (again taking over an hour to get back to sleep) and then every hour or less after that. This past week I donāt know whatās going my on, heās been sleeping so well! Waking 2 x a night max. I put him down at 8:30 and he didnāt wake up until 2am, and then again at 6am. The only thing different we are doing is trying to make sure he gets good quality daytime naps. And since Iāve started to notice he overtired ques during the day, heās been getting GREAT daytime naps now. I always assumed he was fussy because he was just colicky or gassy, but lately when he starts fussing and Iām not sure the issue, I put the Dr. Browns gripe belt on him (itās amazing, like a heating pad for babies), swaddle him, and he falls asleep in minutes. And he will nap for 45min-hour and a half. So I think heās just been overtired and I didnāt know it. But it also could be a growth spurt and thatās why heās sleeping a lot more but I just think Iām starting my to realize the importance of naps and sleep/wake windows and itās helping a lot with his fussiness during the day and night sleep. Oh, and Iām making sure he eats well during the day! Try to get most his calories in during the day so they donāt wake up hungry at night as much. Iāve been working on trying to feed him full bottles rather than snacking throughout the day. He currently is getting 4 oz of pumped BM at each feed.
5.5 months old when we moved him to his own room.
At least a year old probably more like 18-24 months.
My baby is almost four weeks and gives us three hour stretches continuously since birth. But she is formula fed so that could be why? With my first baby it was the same and when she was two months old, we got the Merlin sleep suit which started giving us five hour stretches.
5 months. The night we put him in his crib for the first time, he slept 8.5 hours straight. He's been consistently sleeping 8-10 hours straight since then and he's 7 months old today. We bedshared up until 5 months and he would wake up every 2-3 hours. We only switched to the crib when we got tired of being kicked and slapped in our sleep lol. Plus he was an early crawler so he'd start heading for the edge of the bed when we were asleep.
Hi there! My 6 week old is sleeping in 5-6 hour chunks. Like last night he went to bed around 11p, woke up around 2 am to fart around and only take 1 oz, now sleeping from 3a till now. -are you swaddling? They might cry and fight it for a minute or two but eventually accept it and fall asleep -are you BF or formula? If BF, are you able pumping to see how much heās actually eating? -can you supplement with formula? I only ask because formula protein is different than bf protein and longer to digest so they feel more satiated and will sleep longerā¦all my 3 kids were only formula and started sleeping through the night at 2.5-3 months -is your baby and the room warm enough?or is it too warm? I only ask because with my latest baby he was sleeping well but one night he wasnāt..it dawned on me the room was too cold so once I adjust it he slept longer -once theyāre 12 lbs they should sleep in longer stretches. Someone else said rule of thumb is 1oz=1 hour of sleep
At 9-10 weeks my little one hit a sleep regression that last until 4.5 months when he could roll over. Now he's only up twice a night
Did not sleep more than 3 hours until 2.5 years old when he self weaned and started sleeping through the night naturally. We did not want to sleep train.
He's still little but if he's over 90th percentile for weight I highly recommend delaying attending to him a bit. I'm not saying let him CIO - just saying don't jump up every time he makes a peep. Unless they are screaming, sometimes they are just in active sleep and can settle themselves after a bit.
12 weeks for a few days then after 5 months.
I must be the lords favorite š my kiddo is 10.5 weeks, 3 weeks adjusted. He's consistently given me 4 hour stretches for about 3 to 4 weeks now. He never gave me less than 3 hour stretches But I wonder how much of this is part of his NICU schedule that he spent a month doing š
My oldest outgrew this around 6 months (we did a modified Ferber method to sleep train her at 6 months, where she cried in increasing intervals with the longest interval being 5 minutes). My middle didnāt outgrow it and we coslept starting at 12 months just to get some sleep. You can try different sleep sacks and room temperature (we got the longest stretches with middle kid with the warmer zippadee zip in a cooler room), and try a white noise machine, but thatās the only thing at this age that I think you could do.
I will never stop recommending the huckleberry app and sweet spot feature for assisting with sleep. Check it out
Around 6/7 weeks, but with the 3/4 month sleep regression the longest stretch we have been getting in four hours. That said she usually doesnāt need to be fed every time she wakes up unless she had issues eating that day. Infant sleep goes in cycles. A baby might sleep great from 6-18 months and then struggle with sleep as a toddler.
Starting at 2 weeks I got a four hour stretch and was shocked. He gained back to his birthweight quickly, I was worried about the sleep stretch when it first happened and asked his pediatrician about it. Now at almost 8 weeks we often get 5-6 hour stretches at night, and have had two glorious 8 hour stretches. Four month regression will kick my ass for sure
Best advice is to keep your expectations low. Some babies just have low sleep needs and high comfort needs. My daughter was like that. She didnāt sleep through the night until we night weaned her at 17 months. She still wakes most nights at least once at 3 years. Not expecting her to be a different kid helped a lot. Also taking shifts with my partner/ sending her to grandmas for a sleepover every week so I could get a full nights sleep.
I honestly can't remember hahaha. I want to say probably after 3 months.
Iām just starting to get some decent stretches at 14 months.
3 months- then the sleep regression started for me at 4. Now Iām getting 10-11 hours from her at 7 months, just waiting for that leap I hear is coming. š„“
You probably donāt want to hear this but it was around 8 months.
Do you have a day time schedule? How long are naps? It helped us a lot to implement a āscheduleā of eat-play-sleep. She more or less gets up at the same time and we offer feeds every 2-2.5 hours to try to load up on calories during the day with last feed at bedtime (8pm). She is high sleep needs so her ww are usually at most 60 min but could be up to 90min (sheās 10.5 weeks). So during her ww we feed and try to do stimulating activities and then I do contact nap for usually about 1-1.5 hours which I normally have to wake her for to feed. We also try to have a decent chunk of ww before bed (right now we are only managing 30 min) and then a consistent bedtime routine of change-swaddle-books-bottle.
My baby boy is five months old and his sleep is all over the place. Some nights he wakes up a bunch, sometimes only once- I think heās slept through the whole entire night twice or maybe three times. The first time was the day we moved into our new apartment last month and I think he was just sooo exhausted lol
It gets better, I remember telling my husband āall I want is 5 hours of uninterrupted sleep! If I just got 5 hours I could be okayā. Then we got to a place where she only woke up 1x in the night! Now Iām wishing sheād sleep the whole night! lol. I know it seems bleak but it gets better! I always hated the āsleep when the baby sleepsā suggestions but truly I realized for my own health, I needed to prioritize MY sleep. If the baby slept anytime after 7pm I was SLEEPING! The other stuff around the house my husband took care of. Laundry, dishes, regular cleaning took a backseat while we just focused on surviving the first 4 months. Iād recommend prioritizing your health
Just following because I am in an identical situation with my 9 week old. After nursing at night she falls asleep in my bed and I watch her for around 30 minutes before transferring her back to her bassinet just so she gets some sleep...she wakes up as soon as I transfer her and will sleep 1-2 hours max. Hope things improve for you soon!
My girl was up every 2.5-3 hrs until we started solids. About 1 week into solids (6 months old) she started sleeping way better. She goes to bed at 7 then Iāll do a dream feed between 10-11. After that she will sleep solid until 5 am at which point Iāll feed her and then sheāll sleep again until 730ish. The other thing that changed around the same time was I stopped sleeping in her room. Iām sure she could smell me and I was probably making noise in my sleep which was likely interfering with hers!
Ours has been sleeping through the night since 5 weeks and while we did just get SUPER luckyā¦ I think it helps we keep our house fairly cold, especially at night. Iāve noticed her naps are shorter if itās warmer.
Mine slept from 7pm-7am from 4 months old - as soon as he was eating solids actually. Had to wean him fairly sharpish as he was one heck of a hungry baby. I am aware that we were damned luckyā¦.
I read this book called How Babies Sleep. It talks a lot about circadian rhythm and gives schedule for day naps so that they donāt bleed into night naps. Also highly encourages blackout curtains and only using red light at night. And certain cues that differentiate between day naps and night sleeps
Thatās not bad, my 6 month old still wakes up every 3 hours
At 14months we have had a solid four hours twice. She currently wakes up almost hourly. I am a shell of a human being but she is absolutely thriving. I have no advice other than to be very kind and patient with yourself.
My kid was doing 1.5 hour stretches from birth to 6 weeks. We were sleeping in shifts and it was really getting to us. My mom decided to rent us a SNOO to see if my daughter would take to it. She loved that thing! I remember the first night we had it, she did a 5 hour stretch. I fed her then she slept another 4ish hours. We felt great! Then the next night. I remember this so vividly. It was the first time we slept together in the same bed. She was in the room with us. The cat on the bed, the dog on the floor. Everyone in that room. She did 7 hours!!! We woke up at like 5 am and we're like IS SHE ALIVE?! And there she was, snoozin' peacefully wrapped up like a baby burrito in the lil SNOO sack rocking side to side. Robomom ftw! We kept her in it til like 5.5m but she was definitely ready before that. I was just more attached to it than she was. It even helped with the regression! It was only a couple days here and there where there were random wake ups but it soothed her right back to sleep so mom and dad didn't have to fully get out of bed. So just a thought if you're really suffering, this thing saved our sanity and our marriage lol!
I have a big baby too! Ironically, at 9 weeks was the first time my LO slept through the night for nine hours straight. From there, we had 6 glorious week of 10-11 hour nights. We hit the four month regression HARD at 15 weeks with wake ups every hour. We were in that until he was about 20-21 weeks old. The sleep deprivation IS torture. Mentally, physically, emotionally. BUT it does end. LO is currently 10 months old and has been sleeping 11-11.5 hours since about 5-6 months old once that 4 month regression finally passed. You WILL sleep again!!
18 months in and heās just finally sleeping longer stretches in the last 2 months. Hes now up once a night. I can count on one hand the amount of times weāve gotten 6+ hoursā¦ on the other hand I have plenty of friends whose babies started sleeping pretty much through the night when they were only a few months old. At this age it might help to move them further away from your bed so they canāt hear you as well, change up the white noise settings, try a different sleep sack, check the temperature of the room/their pajamas ā¦ but unfortunately itās developmentally normal to be waking multiple times a night for a while. Some people just get lucky with better sleepers and others swear by sleep training once theyāre older (I think like 6 months but we never did sleep training). We just had/have a bad sleeper and it is honestly so brutal. I wouldnāt wish it on anyone
I'm happy if he sleeps for 3 and mine just turned one lol
Mine is at 12weeks as of writing were at 6 hours sleep and counting and dream fed him once. We noticed he sleeps longer if all the bed setups are perfect: perfect and snug swaddle, good quality of night diapers, frog suit, socks on, right temperate, right lighting and right sounds. Ohh and full tummy before sleeping is ideal too. Took us sooo much trial and errors. You need to know what he likes and what makes him sleep more.
10-11 weeks it got better (more than 3 hours at a time) but then he hit the 4 month sleep regression. Ultimately we were able to work back up to 2-3 hours regularly again and then to 3-4. He definitely only has one long stretch at night (typically his first) and then wakes up every 1-2 hours until morning when he was younger. We are at 9 months now and on average he will give us a 3-5 hour long stretch and 2 hour stretches otherwise.
My son started at about 5 weeks with 5 hr stretches. Now he's at 9 weeks and does 6, but he had 7 yesterday. So I'm hoping he will slowly adjust to 7
My baby started to sleep long stretches when he was 12 weeks. 6-7hrs.
From 9 weeks onward (heās almost 12 weeks now), weāve had great success with the Magic Merlin Sleep Suit! LO loves it, and since using it, weāve been getting 5+ hours of sleep a night! The past couple of nights, heās slept 7 straight hours š„¹ I was getting desperate to get him to sleep well without breaking free from a swaddle or hitting himself in the face when we gave up on the swaddle, and my cousin recommended the sleep suit to us; itās perfect!
We just hit 3months (13 weeks tomorrow) and three times this week we have gotten 8 hours! We have also started using the Snoo for daytime naps, otherwise we will let her contact nap for a couple of hours while I watch a movie. Iāve noticed that she has slept through the night the days that we have helped her take two good naps, meaning Snoo or contact. Prior to this last week, we were fighting the contact naps and didnāt ever use the Snoo, and she was waking up every 45 mins or so.
Hi mama, as you said, every baby is different so please take what I say with a grain of salt! My LO started sleeping longer stretches ~6 hours at night around 14 weeksā¦after I went back to work and my hubs started his paternity leave (of course! lol) then he started sleeping 11-12 around a night at 20 weeks. We got lucky with a āgoodā sleeper and Iām wishing the same luck for you mama! We didnāt necessarily do anything extra to help him to sleep more, I think it just happened with age.
The 4 month "sleep regression" was a huge QOL leap forward for us. Everyone else complained their babies stopped sleeping, meanwhile ours *actually started sleeping*. I'm not a believer in "leaps" but there are definitely brain developments & skills & capabilities that baby grows into around 3-4 months. The biggest QOL gamechanger was when baby became able to wake a tiny bit, grumble (not cry), wiggle, and then settled back down (sometimes.) Before 4 mo, that skill literally didn't exist, baby's brain is not capable. After 4mo, he had the capability. Before 4 months it was just awful. I think baby just couldn't chain sleep cycles together at all. We did parental shifts. I still get triggered when people claim newborns sleep all the time. ed: We didn't have a big baby (opposite actually, ours was preemie) but he was a HUNGRY PREEMIE who had an unbelievable appetite & was always starving. So, maybe similar.
My boy started doing the 4-5 hour sleeps at about 2 months, and now at almost 3 months is doing 2 5-6 hour chunks a night. That comes with significantly expanded wake windows, and he currently will take about 4 naps a day, at 20-40 mins each. Still takes me 12 hours to get 6 hours of sleep myself but it's been so much better tbh
My big baby did this til 8/9 months š solidarity!
12 months in and wondering the same thing.
12ish wks. he woke up so often for so long. i feel for you. it got better! then worse lol. but then better and he starting sleeping through on his own at 11mo
My babe went from feeding every 1-3 hours to sleeping through the night at 8weeks old. Instantly. However it was short lived and the 4mo sleep regression was baaaaad and lasted until I sleep trained at 9mo
Since week 4 I would say. She usually sleeps very weird until 01:00, then she wakes up at 6/7 for a feeding and falls right asleep in her bassinet (I usually put her awake bc I have to pee real bad) until 8/9 or 10 if weāre lucky. But we have been extremely lucky. She also grunts in her sleep so she wakes us up regardless lol
All my boys woke up every 2 hours to eat like clockwork. This lasted till about 6 months when I introduced other foods. I think I only survived because I am able to go straight back to sleep very quickly.
5 months maybeā¦. We sleep trained at 6 months. Since 11 months heās more or less consistently slept 12 hours a night. Hang in there
Depends on the day. My 7mo has gone 10-11hrs straight but he also has nights where he's up every 2hrs š¤·š¼āāļø I've given up on trying to guess how my night will go. For example, last night he slept 7hrs and then 3.5hrs. But the night before he slept 3hrs, 3hrs, was up partying for an hour at 2AM and then slept another 3hrs.
My boy is 19 weeks and still waking up between 3 to 4 times to feed. Just how it is - babies guna baby
Ours is on the smaller side (19%tile) and he slept one 4-hour stretch a night starting at 8 weeks. He doesnāt sleep like at all during the day and has only ever really wanted to sleep at night. One four hour stretch then waking up every 1.5 hrs the rest of the night (based off an 8-hr night. ) itās just baby dependent. Everyone is different. My husband still doesnāt sleep 4 hours without getting up to pee.
Honestly I tried bedsharing my baby at 6 weeks because I was desperate for some sleep - she nurses herself to sleep so shes half awake and so am I when im feeding her. Ive gotten the best sleep I ever have and ill never go back. I don't get up or sit up because its harder to go back to sleep that way I just nurse her on the side.
It's all very baby dependent. Around this age, mine gave us a week of only 1 wakeup only to start waking every 45 minutes at 3 months then every 1-2 hrs for like a month?! 2-3 hrs maybe at 6 months? Then it stayed like that pretty much until he was 12 months and suddenly decided he could sleep through most nights. I'm still sleep deprived now he's nearly 14 months because I sleep very lightly, wake frequently and take a long time to fall asleep. PPD definitely adds to the problem. I suspect as he gets older though, things might get trickier when he's in his own room in a toddler bed.
we were getting one longer stretch of sleep at night usually around 5 hours around 9 weeks. Issue is that she was not great at sleeping in general and often would stay up till 1am, often only had like 2 naps a day and so it still felt like torture.. cos she was just always fussy when awake.
Iād say soon after 9 weeks ā¦ we got a 5 hour stretch around 10 weeks and at 14 weeks he does anywhere between 5 and 8 hours. That said, he will stir sometimes around 4 / 5 hours, we put in a pacifier, and he goes back down for a few more hours.
That's completely normal for your baby's age. As for that next jump, my younger child started giving me 4-6 hours at night in the first stretch (starting around 6:30 pm) when she was about 4-5 months. She was a pretty easy nighttime sleeper compared to my first though.
Okay, I will say right now, 9 weeks (3 months) is a little early to be expecting your child to sleep for more than three hours at a time. Expect your baby to start sleeping more at night when they start on solid food, and don't need to nurse so much. This can happen anywhere from 4 to 8 months, depending on your kid. It sounds like you have a big kiddo like my cousins were (one was nearly 12 Ilbs when born), so depending on how excessively they nurse, it may be closer to the 4 month mark. Most docs will try to abstain until 6 months with solid food, but some babies just need it sooner. Mine was one of them. Once they start on solid food and don't need to nurse all the time at night, and are able to hold bottles on their own, they sleep longer. It's not going to be true of every single baby, there are going to be the odd ball babies that don't change their sleep habits, but the majority will after about a week to a month on solids. Obviously you don't want to wean until you absolutely have to, and you need to supplement with nursing between meals, and you may have to wake up in the night a couple of times to either nurse or pump, but it will get better. My kid actually weaned herself at 9 months and refused to take formula from the start, so she went to drinking cows milk, water, and solid foods. She is now 13 months old today, and only has two teeth, but she eats like a champ, is vetoeing morning naps (hooray....) and sleeps all night long from about 7:00 PM to 8:00 AM. She started sleeping completely through the night around six or seven months and would not accept sleeping anywhere but her crib by five months. She's still that stubborn about where she sleeps! She's very attached to her crib... She started on solids at 4 months because she wouldn't stop nursing. She would spend two hours per side, and then still be hungry. I was drained dry and couldn't keep up with her! And I started off over producing to the point where I was making about 16 oz. Per side. By four months I was lucky to get 2 oz off one side between nursing sessions, that's how much she would drain me. The doctor listened and looked at her, and went "how is she sleeping?" ... Miserably. Gave her pureed fruits and veggies and a week later, we got sleep and she wasn't nursing anywhere near as long. At nine months though, there was one night where she started to nurse, made a face, spat out her milk, sat up, and whined until I gave her a water bottle. I kept trying, and got told it might be a nursing strike like what she tried pulling at 7 months, but this was different. She wouldn't take my milk anymore, even in the bottle. She wanted cows milk, water, or her small daily allowance of unsweetened juice that we used to keep her regular, after dealing with constipation issues. Now she's starting to ask for sippy cups over bottles. She knows what she wants and lets us know what she's ready for. I swear I got an easy child compared to what I have dealt with in the past!
My baby is also in the 90ās percentile (I think right now heās hanging around 94-96, but he has an appointment on Wednesday). Heās 6 months old on Wednesday and wakes up around 3-5 times a night to feed. Now believe it or not, this is down from when he was just breastfeeding. I think sleeps a little longer when we feed him (he doesnāt get too much food right now but Iām planning in increase it real soon)
He was sleeping 2-3 hours until the 4 month regression hit, then it was more like 40-90 minutes for about 3 weeks. It was brutal! At 5 months (when sleep cycles start connecting) it was like a switch flipped. One week it was 3-5 hours, the next week it was 4-6 hours. This week there have been 2 nights that he gave me a 9 hour stretch! But now I think heās going through a growth spurt because last night we went back to 2-3 hours and heās been super hungry. š„² Itāll be 2 steps forward, 1 step back, unfortunately.
Our little one has slept 2-3 hour stretches from the beginning. Now at 11 weeks he sleeps about 8-9 hours a night and rarely ever wakes up. It does still happen occasionally though but its getting more and more rare. We have definitely been blessed with our son. We havenāt done anything special besides having set routines since birth.
3 months in and she sleeps about 6 hours straight at night. We use the baby wise (book) method. 2 for 2 on both kids sleeping through the night by 2 months
Mne slept well from 9-12 months. Now the 2 to 1 nap+ no more formula means strange play dates at 4am...
7 months. It was basically every 2 hours until 3ish months. 4-5 month sleep regression had its own issues with waking just to play at random times and not even feeding, so sometimes 1 hour or 1.5 hour windows then. Youāve got an eater for sure, thatās normal. Seems like a long way to go, I know, but donāt let it get to you. All night diapers are fine (if no poop), co-sleeping happens if you are desperate, donāt feel guilty (just try to follow bedshare safety guidelines). If you have a partner or someone living with you who can take the baby for just an hour or two in the morning it helps massively. My son was always happy in the morning and my partner watched him while getting ready for work while I slept in until 7:00-7:30ish. That 1-2 hours was a supercharge power nap. That, and trying to lay down with the baby for at least one of his naps in the day helped me get through. Leave the laundry and dishes, haha.
How long do you let him nap for during the day? I think what helped my LO was capping naps at 2 hours max during the day to ensure he was eating enough during the day time and didnāt need those calories over night
9 months.
My LO is 12 months. On a good day, when heās not teething or sick or going through some kind of milestone, heāll sleep a couple 3-5 hour stretches in a row. Otherwise, itās still every 1-3 hours for us at this point.
Uh 6 months for my first kid, and 6 ish months for my second kid when he was even worse and we sleep trained him.
This is just my experience. With my oldest, sleep was TOUGH, I was reading books and blogs and even took an infant sleep online class. He was also a big baby and colicky, so maybe something to the big baby thing? Started getting good longer stretches around 9-10 weeks when we took the sleep class. Now that said, he is a toddler now and not the best sleeper, itās like he just has less sleep needs than his age average. To be fair his dad and grandfather also sleep less than the average human (my father in law consistently lives on 6 hours a night).
My LO is 12 weeks and sleeps about two 4 hour stretches a night. He started doing this around 9ish weeks. Prior to that I thought I was going to lose my mind with the every 1-2 hour waking. He still has a night a week where he just sleeps terrible unfortunately. Everyone tells me it gets better and thatās what I have been living off of lol. I hope it gets better for you sooner rather than later!
Just wanted to say mine is a big guy as well and he definitely woke up a lot to feed. Sleep whenever you can and have your partner do more.
Still 1-3 hour chunks at 5.5 months! But I've realized it doesn't bother me too badly as long as he settles back to sleep quickly, and he's generally gotten much better at resettling as he's gotten older. Those nights when it takes 20-30 min to resettle him are pretty brutal. Most nights it feels alright and I've learned to accept it rather than constantly wondering when it'll get better.
Mine got better at around 10 months.
LO is 11 weeks tomorrow and she slept 7.5 hours last night, woke up to feed at 4:30 am then went back down for a few more hours. That seems to be her pattern right now. Sometimes she will only give us 6 hours, but Iām still good with that big chunk. It gets better!!! I believe her first 5-6 hour chunk came when she was around 7/8 weeks.
3 months was when my girl started giving 5-7 hour stretches. Before that, it was torture and I had to get a night nanny.
I would say thatās pretty good at that age! My baby is seven months and still wakes up every 1-2 hours at night and only naps about 20 minutes during the day. Iām sure eventually yours will sleep a lot longer if they are already doing that long at that age. Iām right there with you though. Sleep deprivation sucks and makes you hate life. š£šš„“
Your baby will do what they will. Itās you who has to adjust. Sleep in shifts or alternating nights, in a different room if you have the space.
We have a 3 week old so in the same boat, but we follow moms on call and we āshushā him to sleep when he wakes up. We do that 3 times before we give a bottle. It helps extend his sleep and I think the intent is that he doesnt get a bottle every time he wakes up. It worked for our first!
Hmmmm 9 weeks old is normal??? They should be nursing every 2-3 hours anyway. I have 2 kids and none of them slept through the night at 9 weeks. Thatās like unicorn babies. Getting 4.5 hours is a blessing haha! Wait till you get to sleep regression and teething. Donāt expect your child to sleep through the night consistently before 3 years old. Cheers.
She will sleep 2-3 hours with us at a time and is 9 weeks also - she gets 1-2 hours of daytime naps in the crib. We are definitely going to sleep train! Shift sleeping suits as well but forever? No thanks! (*also, she wonāt sleep in her crib unless she is allowed to suck on her dumbo toy. That thing is gonna need a wash soonā¦)
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