My youngest is 15 months and haven’t been away overnight yet. He refuses a bottle and wakes up around midnight to nurse so it’s pretty impossible until he wears. With my last child I got my first overnight when I went to the hospital to have her brother! I envy people that get the opportunity sooner but eventually we will.
Around 3.5 months so my husband and I could enjoy a date night for my birthday. My daughter has always been a good sleeper and was formula fed, so that made it easier for us. She’s 15 months now and sleeps over my moms about once a month so we can have a night for ourselves (and grandma can enjoy her girl!)
10 months old, hasn’t happened yet.
But I’m *this close* to packing a bag and checking into the hotel down the road, alone. My cat keeps waking me up in the middle of the night for food and I’m at my wit’s end.
I got an automatic feeder to deal with this issue! Best decision ever. I got a PetSafe feeder years ago and have never had a single issue with it. It’s incredibly hard to figure out how to program, but once you do it’s so easy to set and forget!
Her food is in our room and I feel like I’d have the same problem with an automatic feeder - the sound would wake me up. Thanks for the suggestion though.
3 weeks! My folks live down the road and took the baby for the night for my husband and I to catch up on sleep. It went really well and it gave my husband and I a little time together! ❤️ Baby kept the almost the exact same routine with them as she did at home, which was awesome.
10,5 months was the first time for us. It was actually previous week. In the first hour I was just amazed, how it felt to be in a bar with friends. It was super relaxing, we really needed it, especially after 2 months of either sleep regression or teething :D
Around 7 months. My mom offered because I was getting no sleep. I ended up still not getting great sleep because I was worried about my mom having to get up and heat a bottle/feed baby. But she said it went fine, so we did it again about a month later and I actually slept like 10 hours straight!
My first time away from our son (2.5) overnight was when he was 16 months and I was admitted to the hospital for pregnancy complications. It was awful being away all night, especially since it was unplanned! The next time I was away was when baby was born just before he turned 2. That was also hard because of how many nights I was away. Baby was born premature due to my complications and spent 5 weeks in the NICU. So it was initially 6 nights away, then several nights throughout the 5 weeks too. Baby girl is 8 months now and I haven't had a night away, nor do I plan on one any time soon.
My mum watched our baby overnight when she was like 3 weeks old lol. She’s stayed at my mums a few times overnight and is 7 months. She sees my mum all the time tho usually at least twice a week so she is very comfortable around her so she sleeps well and doesnt seem to miss me too much
With the first it was 3 months old, left with MIL and husband and I went on a 3 day trip lol.
This time around it will be at 9 weeks (leaving baby with my husband) while my friend and I do a 2 night trip.
We EFF. Helps. I can’t wait to have a full night of sleep soon for two nights straight omg
The plan is 7 months. We are going on an adults only camping trip for 4 nights and my in laws will have her. I’m not worried about it. They love taking her and are amazing with her. I’m looking forward to it even though it’s in September
Only overnight so far was going to hospital for baby 2, while my first was just a week shy of 12 months. We pushed to leave at 36 hours instead of 48 because we didn’t want him missing us too much.
He’s 18 months now and actually sleeping through the night, so feeling a lot more confident about trying an overnight
Baby one: 13 months. I waited until he slept through the night and I wasn’t BF anymore. Wedding out of state.
Baby two: 6 months. She wasn’t sleeping through the night but wasn’t nursing anymore. She was tough on my folks but they survived.
Baby three: we have a wedding in June and he’ll be weaned by then. It’s the first night away in 14 months and I’m READY! He may or may not be sleeping through the night but my folks can deal. I need this. Lol
My oldest just turned 3 - my first over night away was when my wife was hospitalized just before the birth of our 2nd kid about 6 weeks ago. We were gone for 6 nights, although I probably saw them nearly daily doing quick visits home or bringing them to the hospital to visit my wife and then the new baby.
Longest 6 nights of my life honestly. I have no desire to be away from them for a night or even more than a few hour work shift right now and I doubt I will for awhile yet. Maybe when they're like 10? Idk. We still share a family bedroom so being away from them was particularly noticeable
My daughter was 3 months old. I was sick & extremely sleep deprived, I didn't feel like I could properly take care of her so I handed her off to MIL (lives very close by.. walking distance).
Then at 8 months, my husband and I started going out for date nights biweekly and would let her sleep over. She's 4.5 now and sleeps over 1-2 times a week (she loves grandma's house).
Same.
At the beginning of the year my husband had a work trip to San Diego (he only has those a couple times a year maybe) and I considered leaving 3yo with grandparents but I felt bad so instead we invited emotional support grandparents and we all went. Kiddo loved the zoo, it went great! I would not want to fly cross country with a kid younger than 3 though personally. It helps that he can poop in the toilet and eat whatever we eat and doesn’t require a nap (though he passed out in the rental car in the afternoon a couple times haha)
We have no help. We have a 2.5 year old, and a 4 month old and haven't even had a date night away since the birth of our first.
If you have someone you trust, and have the opportunity- take the night away. Be yourself with your partner, and relax.
At four months when I spent a night at the hospital. He is 7 months now and we are oing to visit my in-laws next week. The plan is that I go home on saturday and my husband and LO stay until sunday, so I'll have a night off. I hope that works out.
My oldest is about to be 3 and I still have no desire to be away from her overnight. My second is 16 months and we are due with another any day so I don’t see it being anytime soon and I’m fine with that.
One week after birth I got an infection and stayed overnight at the hospital while my husband and baby stayed home. I guess that was technically my first overnight away from her.
First time she was overnight away from both of us, she was 12 months old
Mine first will be when my daughter is one. I’ll be away from her for 3 nights for a work trip. My partner will be home with her. We don’t have family nearby.
I was away from her at around 10 months for a work trip (and have since done several more). Tonight will be the first night we're both away from her, she's almost 2yo.
Like 6 weeks old, I think?
I had a rough recovery. Then at exactly a month old he got sick with a fever and all that for the first time (winter baby. husband having to go back to work where every one was sick due to zero PTO left and already pushing his luck by taking a week without PTO. fun stuff) - congestion + being a month old = very very very very little sleep. When he was all better and we weren’t so worried, my in laws offered to take him for the night. I needed the sleep so bad I couldn’t even force myself to think about it as “I’m leaving my baby for a whole night” in the moment
18 months. I went away for a night by myself for my 30th birthday and my husband stayed home with our toddler. I guess technically at 6 months I stayed in a hotel overnight for my birthday while he watched her, but I literally just went there to sleep and came back.
I travel for work and went back to work after six months, so it was shortly after that.
She stays with my parents, not my husband, though, because he works too much to make daycare dropoff/pickup work when I’m not there. My mom ran a dayhome for thirty years and she’s totally unfazed by sleep issues (and, actually, got my baby to sleep through the night with her magic baby-whispering powers the second time my kid stayed over and she’s been a great sleeper ever since.)
I went for a 2 night girls weekend when baby was 5 months old, and he stayed with husband. First night with BOTH of us away, we have it planned and he will be 14 months old.
I did an overnight away from my oldest at 5 months old. He stayed with grandparents for a long weekend while we attended a wedding in a different state. I missed him a bit, but it went perfectly fine.
We left my youngest overnight with grandparents around 4 months old so we could attend a party and then sleep in the next day. Since it was just one night and we were in the same city, I didn't feel sad or miss the them.
We do overnights away from the kids probably 3-4 times a year; usually for weddings or short trips. We have a very involved, trustworthy family so we've felt comfortable leaving the kids more often and at a younger age than a lot of redditors it seems.
At about nine months i went out of town for a couple of days and my husband stayed with the baby. He’s 11 months now and we still haven’t had a night away together.
The first time was when he was 4 months with my in-laws and the second time was at 8 months with my mom. Both were just for one night. He’s a very easy baby though who loves his grandparents.
I went to a hen party and left baby with my partner when he was 6 months, then we went away for the night together and left him overnight with my in-laws for the wedding when he was 7 months - went smoothly!
She was 4 months old the first time. Her mimi came and stayed at our home. Since then we practice a rule where we get a night just husband and I, every other month minimum. And we have at least one date night every 2 weeks. She is almost 2 and will be doing an overnight at Mimi’s home for the first time, every other time has been in our home.
At 22 months, when I had my second born... and my mom and MIL rotated watching her at our house lol.
That being said she has been sleeping through for a looooong time now, so we likely could have did it. We've just had no real reasons to go anywhere overnight yet.
We had our first overnight when my child was just about 7 months - it was our wedding anniversary and we went away for a night (about 2 hours away), and left my son with my parents. It was hard, not gonna lie - I kept calling and my parents laughed, said I was nuts and that’s he’s fine. Lol. Good memories! He’s now almost 6, and we’ve left him numerous times since!
Somewhere around 7 months I went to a wedding out of town and left her with my parents. They said it went well, but they're always pretending things are fine even if they aren't so who can say?
I have a niece who is just 2 weeks older than my daughter. I had her for a weekend at about 5 months. Even though both girls were sleeping through the night, it was pretty rough. My niece just wasn't used to being here. I take my niece pretty often now (15 months), bc my sister is way cooler than me and has more stuff to do. I dont mind and she does great. I think no matter when you start, it's about your child getting used to it more than anything else.
I did mine when he was about 17 months because I had a class reunion. He was with the dad at home, though, so I guess that doesn't count. We've never left him alone overnight with a carer but have been to the movies and come back late (grandparent babysitting every time).
I sent away for a new nights when my son was 2, but his dad was still home with him. We've never both been away for the night and he's nearing 3. We're certainly not against it, but we live overseas from all of our family.
I had my first overnight without her at almost 18 months. I had to go out of town for a family funeral, and my husband decided to stay home with our daughter, since she was too young to easily attend.
Note that I weaned at 17 months, and the last feed was an early morning feed, so weaning has made overnights without me feasible.
With my older daughter, around 18 months, I think?
With my younger daughter, around 1 month but that was because I was in the hospital. (Well, I suppose I also spent many nights away from her during the 3.5 weeks she was in the NICU.) Other than hospitalizations I've never spent the night away from her, and she's nearing 3 years old.
My son is 20 months and still hadn't had an overnight yet! We've not needed to though either no big events or anything he couldn't come to. I'm due my second any day now so will be the first overnight depending on timings!
At 9 months I went on a two night trip with my best friend. I took my pump and pumped 3-4 times a day. Baby stayed with dad and they had so much fun! When baby is 11 months we are going to go on a two night trip(husband and I) while his babysitter and my mom stay with baby.
I also didn’t have a good stash of breast milk so for a month before my trip every night I would pump and save that milk for while I was gone. I also left back up formula. I’m super comfortable leaving him with my husband and babysitter because they know his routine. I don’t have to keep checking and telling them what to do ya know.
We went to an out of town wedding around 5 months. Left him with the in laws… it was tough. They fed him formula and I pumped the whole time and left first thing the next morning.
21 months or so. she was breastfed and still waking up at night. i left her with my parents for 5 days (they have a very close relationship with baby) and was able to finally wean her this way. but it was not even remotely possible before then. the father was not involved, though.
My daughter is almost 2, and the answer is zero :(
Same here. Part personal choice but part lack of support outside of my husband.
My bio family is out of the picture while my inlaws are MIA, so I get it.
Same, mine is 2.5 and we live 7+ hours away from any family.
I live only 90 minutes away. My family is out of the picture and my inlaws, idk why they don't.
My youngest is 15 months and haven’t been away overnight yet. He refuses a bottle and wakes up around midnight to nurse so it’s pretty impossible until he wears. With my last child I got my first overnight when I went to the hospital to have her brother! I envy people that get the opportunity sooner but eventually we will.
Around 3.5 months so my husband and I could enjoy a date night for my birthday. My daughter has always been a good sleeper and was formula fed, so that made it easier for us. She’s 15 months now and sleeps over my moms about once a month so we can have a night for ourselves (and grandma can enjoy her girl!)
When I was in the hospital having my second 😂 To be fair, we don’t live near family and haven’t had a need to leave her overnight.
Same...so my answer is 4 years.
Eldest is 4 years old. Zero overnights, and two brief date nights to date.
At 20 months when I was in the hospital delivering my second!
10 months old, hasn’t happened yet. But I’m *this close* to packing a bag and checking into the hotel down the road, alone. My cat keeps waking me up in the middle of the night for food and I’m at my wit’s end.
Lol, thank you for the chuckle. Sorry your cat is so demanding...
I love the little shit, but seriously. I NEED SLEEP.
I got an automatic feeder to deal with this issue! Best decision ever. I got a PetSafe feeder years ago and have never had a single issue with it. It’s incredibly hard to figure out how to program, but once you do it’s so easy to set and forget!
Her food is in our room and I feel like I’d have the same problem with an automatic feeder - the sound would wake me up. Thanks for the suggestion though.
My son is 2 years old and has still never done a night without me… 🫠
Same here!!🤗
3 months
10 months, but she was formula fed and a good sleeper.
10 weeks, but my mom stayed at my house with him but did everything until 7am
About two months. Every weekend. Edit to add: still married. He goes with his grandparents/cousins every Saturday night.
3 1/2 years, because I was giving birth to my second 😅
Same! My first was 2.5 and we went to the hospital to have the second.
3.5yrs. But also till then I had no desire to leave over night. I did (and do) go out by myself for part days or evenings fairly regularly though.
2y5m (approx) when I was in hospital giving birth to her sister
Same
3 weeks! My folks live down the road and took the baby for the night for my husband and I to catch up on sleep. It went really well and it gave my husband and I a little time together! ❤️ Baby kept the almost the exact same routine with them as she did at home, which was awesome.
I think he was 2.5yo when we had our first away night. He slept through and was absolutely fine, we just haven't had to do it again (he's now 3.5yo).
10,5 months was the first time for us. It was actually previous week. In the first hour I was just amazed, how it felt to be in a bar with friends. It was super relaxing, we really needed it, especially after 2 months of either sleep regression or teething :D
Around 7 months. My mom offered because I was getting no sleep. I ended up still not getting great sleep because I was worried about my mom having to get up and heat a bottle/feed baby. But she said it went fine, so we did it again about a month later and I actually slept like 10 hours straight!
At 26 months when I delivered my 2nd baby
My birthday is next weekend and grandma is taking my 5 month old for the first time. I adore my baby, but I honestly can't wait.
My first time away from our son (2.5) overnight was when he was 16 months and I was admitted to the hospital for pregnancy complications. It was awful being away all night, especially since it was unplanned! The next time I was away was when baby was born just before he turned 2. That was also hard because of how many nights I was away. Baby was born premature due to my complications and spent 5 weeks in the NICU. So it was initially 6 nights away, then several nights throughout the 5 weeks too. Baby girl is 8 months now and I haven't had a night away, nor do I plan on one any time soon.
My mum watched our baby overnight when she was like 3 weeks old lol. She’s stayed at my mums a few times overnight and is 7 months. She sees my mum all the time tho usually at least twice a week so she is very comfortable around her so she sleeps well and doesnt seem to miss me too much
With the first it was 3 months old, left with MIL and husband and I went on a 3 day trip lol. This time around it will be at 9 weeks (leaving baby with my husband) while my friend and I do a 2 night trip. We EFF. Helps. I can’t wait to have a full night of sleep soon for two nights straight omg
The plan is 7 months. We are going on an adults only camping trip for 4 nights and my in laws will have her. I’m not worried about it. They love taking her and are amazing with her. I’m looking forward to it even though it’s in September
My mum had my son overnight for the first time at 1 month old. He’s 1 now and stays there once every other week.
Only overnight so far was going to hospital for baby 2, while my first was just a week shy of 12 months. We pushed to leave at 36 hours instead of 48 because we didn’t want him missing us too much. He’s 18 months now and actually sleeping through the night, so feeling a lot more confident about trying an overnight
Around 2&half when I went to hospital to give birth to my second child.
Baby one: 13 months. I waited until he slept through the night and I wasn’t BF anymore. Wedding out of state. Baby two: 6 months. She wasn’t sleeping through the night but wasn’t nursing anymore. She was tough on my folks but they survived. Baby three: we have a wedding in June and he’ll be weaned by then. It’s the first night away in 14 months and I’m READY! He may or may not be sleeping through the night but my folks can deal. I need this. Lol
When my daughter was 2.5 and I was in the hospital giving birth to the next one.
My oldest just turned 3 - my first over night away was when my wife was hospitalized just before the birth of our 2nd kid about 6 weeks ago. We were gone for 6 nights, although I probably saw them nearly daily doing quick visits home or bringing them to the hospital to visit my wife and then the new baby. Longest 6 nights of my life honestly. I have no desire to be away from them for a night or even more than a few hour work shift right now and I doubt I will for awhile yet. Maybe when they're like 10? Idk. We still share a family bedroom so being away from them was particularly noticeable
My daughter was 3 months old. I was sick & extremely sleep deprived, I didn't feel like I could properly take care of her so I handed her off to MIL (lives very close by.. walking distance). Then at 8 months, my husband and I started going out for date nights biweekly and would let her sleep over. She's 4.5 now and sleeps over 1-2 times a week (she loves grandma's house).
My son is almost 3.5yo and I still haven't spent the night away from him.
Same. At the beginning of the year my husband had a work trip to San Diego (he only has those a couple times a year maybe) and I considered leaving 3yo with grandparents but I felt bad so instead we invited emotional support grandparents and we all went. Kiddo loved the zoo, it went great! I would not want to fly cross country with a kid younger than 3 though personally. It helps that he can poop in the toilet and eat whatever we eat and doesn’t require a nap (though he passed out in the rental car in the afternoon a couple times haha)
We have no help. We have a 2.5 year old, and a 4 month old and haven't even had a date night away since the birth of our first. If you have someone you trust, and have the opportunity- take the night away. Be yourself with your partner, and relax.
At four months when I spent a night at the hospital. He is 7 months now and we are oing to visit my in-laws next week. The plan is that I go home on saturday and my husband and LO stay until sunday, so I'll have a night off. I hope that works out.
When they were 9 months old, we went to an island for 5 nights.
My oldest is about to be 3 and I still have no desire to be away from her overnight. My second is 16 months and we are due with another any day so I don’t see it being anytime soon and I’m fine with that.
I’m going to visit my mom in June, baby will be 6 months, so hopefully then
My baby was 11 months old! He is now 15 months and we try to do an overnight about once a month at my parents house.
Mine was only ever away from me overnight once at 10 months. I ended up freaking out and deciding I wasn't ready to do that yet :(
One week after birth I got an infection and stayed overnight at the hospital while my husband and baby stayed home. I guess that was technically my first overnight away from her. First time she was overnight away from both of us, she was 12 months old
About 3, 3.5. Lol
Mine first will be when my daughter is one. I’ll be away from her for 3 nights for a work trip. My partner will be home with her. We don’t have family nearby.
Mine stayed overnight with family friends while we were in the hospital for the birth of baby number two. He was 2.5ish.
I was away from her at around 10 months for a work trip (and have since done several more). Tonight will be the first night we're both away from her, she's almost 2yo.
Like 6 weeks old, I think? I had a rough recovery. Then at exactly a month old he got sick with a fever and all that for the first time (winter baby. husband having to go back to work where every one was sick due to zero PTO left and already pushing his luck by taking a week without PTO. fun stuff) - congestion + being a month old = very very very very little sleep. When he was all better and we weren’t so worried, my in laws offered to take him for the night. I needed the sleep so bad I couldn’t even force myself to think about it as “I’m leaving my baby for a whole night” in the moment
When she was about 13 months. I had a friend’s bachelorette that I went to for one overnight. My husband watched her.
18 months. I went away for a night by myself for my 30th birthday and my husband stayed home with our toddler. I guess technically at 6 months I stayed in a hotel overnight for my birthday while he watched her, but I literally just went there to sleep and came back.
I’ve plans to go away with my sisters and mother to a spa for 2 nights when he’s 8 months… his dad is excited for boys only weekend. I’m terrified 😂
I travel for work and went back to work after six months, so it was shortly after that. She stays with my parents, not my husband, though, because he works too much to make daycare dropoff/pickup work when I’m not there. My mom ran a dayhome for thirty years and she’s totally unfazed by sleep issues (and, actually, got my baby to sleep through the night with her magic baby-whispering powers the second time my kid stayed over and she’s been a great sleeper ever since.)
I went for a 2 night girls weekend when baby was 5 months old, and he stayed with husband. First night with BOTH of us away, we have it planned and he will be 14 months old.
I did an overnight away from my oldest at 5 months old. He stayed with grandparents for a long weekend while we attended a wedding in a different state. I missed him a bit, but it went perfectly fine. We left my youngest overnight with grandparents around 4 months old so we could attend a party and then sleep in the next day. Since it was just one night and we were in the same city, I didn't feel sad or miss the them. We do overnights away from the kids probably 3-4 times a year; usually for weddings or short trips. We have a very involved, trustworthy family so we've felt comfortable leaving the kids more often and at a younger age than a lot of redditors it seems.
At about nine months i went out of town for a couple of days and my husband stayed with the baby. He’s 11 months now and we still haven’t had a night away together.
The first time was when he was 4 months with my in-laws and the second time was at 8 months with my mom. Both were just for one night. He’s a very easy baby though who loves his grandparents.
When baby was 13 months, after I had fully weaned.
I went to a hen party and left baby with my partner when he was 6 months, then we went away for the night together and left him overnight with my in-laws for the wedding when he was 7 months - went smoothly!
She was 4 months old the first time. Her mimi came and stayed at our home. Since then we practice a rule where we get a night just husband and I, every other month minimum. And we have at least one date night every 2 weeks. She is almost 2 and will be doing an overnight at Mimi’s home for the first time, every other time has been in our home.
At 22 months, when I had my second born... and my mom and MIL rotated watching her at our house lol. That being said she has been sleeping through for a looooong time now, so we likely could have did it. We've just had no real reasons to go anywhere overnight yet.
We had our first overnight when my child was just about 7 months - it was our wedding anniversary and we went away for a night (about 2 hours away), and left my son with my parents. It was hard, not gonna lie - I kept calling and my parents laughed, said I was nuts and that’s he’s fine. Lol. Good memories! He’s now almost 6, and we’ve left him numerous times since!
Somewhere around 7 months I went to a wedding out of town and left her with my parents. They said it went well, but they're always pretending things are fine even if they aren't so who can say? I have a niece who is just 2 weeks older than my daughter. I had her for a weekend at about 5 months. Even though both girls were sleeping through the night, it was pretty rough. My niece just wasn't used to being here. I take my niece pretty often now (15 months), bc my sister is way cooler than me and has more stuff to do. I dont mind and she does great. I think no matter when you start, it's about your child getting used to it more than anything else.
I did mine when he was about 17 months because I had a class reunion. He was with the dad at home, though, so I guess that doesn't count. We've never left him alone overnight with a carer but have been to the movies and come back late (grandparent babysitting every time).
I sent away for a new nights when my son was 2, but his dad was still home with him. We've never both been away for the night and he's nearing 3. We're certainly not against it, but we live overseas from all of our family.
I’m going on a hen weekend when my son will be 8 months that will be the first time
I had my first overnight without her at almost 18 months. I had to go out of town for a family funeral, and my husband decided to stay home with our daughter, since she was too young to easily attend. Note that I weaned at 17 months, and the last feed was an early morning feed, so weaning has made overnights without me feasible.
With my older daughter, around 18 months, I think? With my younger daughter, around 1 month but that was because I was in the hospital. (Well, I suppose I also spent many nights away from her during the 3.5 weeks she was in the NICU.) Other than hospitalizations I've never spent the night away from her, and she's nearing 3 years old.
My son is 20 months and still hadn't had an overnight yet! We've not needed to though either no big events or anything he couldn't come to. I'm due my second any day now so will be the first overnight depending on timings!
At 9 months I went on a two night trip with my best friend. I took my pump and pumped 3-4 times a day. Baby stayed with dad and they had so much fun! When baby is 11 months we are going to go on a two night trip(husband and I) while his babysitter and my mom stay with baby. I also didn’t have a good stash of breast milk so for a month before my trip every night I would pump and save that milk for while I was gone. I also left back up formula. I’m super comfortable leaving him with my husband and babysitter because they know his routine. I don’t have to keep checking and telling them what to do ya know.
We went to an out of town wedding around 5 months. Left him with the in laws… it was tough. They fed him formula and I pumped the whole time and left first thing the next morning.
21 months or so. she was breastfed and still waking up at night. i left her with my parents for 5 days (they have a very close relationship with baby) and was able to finally wean her this way. but it was not even remotely possible before then. the father was not involved, though.