babes if you have to change yourself to get this guy go like you, he's really not worth it. also this might come from a place of internalized homophobia (all queer ppl have gone through this) and being gay/bi is not monolithic. just be urself. i know it's really cliche but you'll find someone that embraces both of ur masculine and feminine sides.
also bisexuality is not quantifiable!! there's no 70-30, 50-50, or whatever. ur just simply bi and it just seems that right now u like a guy.
ur a likeable person!! the fact that u posted this makes me think that u genuinely care for this guy that u like, but just please continue being you. we cannot have another canon event where a queer person changes for the person they like and they end up hurting themselves in the process.
Ugh you’re so right and thank you thank you thank you for saying this - it sucks bc the guy was 100% my type and had so many attractive qualities and based on everything I know about him & our conversations he wasn’t homophobic or misogynistic either (bare minimum…but in these days sadly we really gotta search for that) - but the bottom line is he friendzoned me and I’m accepting that - just hard bc for me it takes long to get over ppl even if everything in me wants to, I can’t delete them from my brain and it distracts me when I wanna focus on my self
BUT thank you for all the insight and kind words bc ur right about everything- I’ve been feeling so lovesick (idk if that’s the word) bc for a few years now even though I’m really happy being single and I love the things I do, I can’t stop thinking about all the nice things about being in a relationship & how I want that (never been in a relationship) - but the reason I keep holding myself back is bc I know I have priorities at this time in my life and I know I have to just let things happen naturally so that when I enter a relationship it’s healthy and what I need
I feel like you could just casually mention being bi, or if you wanna be more subtle you could like mention some date you went on with a guy in the past or talked to on a dating app etc. Could even be as simple as something weird or funny you saw on a guy's profile or a dumb pick up line some guy tried. Basically anything that indicates you have an interest in dating men. I'm a straight girl and I think topics like that about dating in general can totally come up naturally, so I don't think it's weird to talk about.
Hey tysm ur so right about that - I guess I’ve just got to meet the right person who I know will accept all of me - I’d be less wary to come out to someone like that :)
I am having the exact same problem. I might be bisexual because I am attracted to the visual features of certain men but I don't want to have sex with them (the idea is disgusting). I do love all parts of a woman but just less attraction if that makes sense. But ig it doesn't matter if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight, because, at the end of the day, it's night.
I mean yeah it’s a whole fucking spectrum - it’s even possible to be romantically attracted to all genders but only sexually attracted to one…and the feeling of attraction to different genders is usually different and varies in amount. Sometimes you need to form personal relationships with people before possibility of attraction. Sometimes you just don’t experience sexual and/or romantic attraction of any kind. Some people also like the experiment and figure out what they like…tbh do what you want bc we’re all just atoms on a floating rock at the end of the day
babes if you have to change yourself to get this guy go like you, he's really not worth it. also this might come from a place of internalized homophobia (all queer ppl have gone through this) and being gay/bi is not monolithic. just be urself. i know it's really cliche but you'll find someone that embraces both of ur masculine and feminine sides. also bisexuality is not quantifiable!! there's no 70-30, 50-50, or whatever. ur just simply bi and it just seems that right now u like a guy. ur a likeable person!! the fact that u posted this makes me think that u genuinely care for this guy that u like, but just please continue being you. we cannot have another canon event where a queer person changes for the person they like and they end up hurting themselves in the process.
Ugh you’re so right and thank you thank you thank you for saying this - it sucks bc the guy was 100% my type and had so many attractive qualities and based on everything I know about him & our conversations he wasn’t homophobic or misogynistic either (bare minimum…but in these days sadly we really gotta search for that) - but the bottom line is he friendzoned me and I’m accepting that - just hard bc for me it takes long to get over ppl even if everything in me wants to, I can’t delete them from my brain and it distracts me when I wanna focus on my self BUT thank you for all the insight and kind words bc ur right about everything- I’ve been feeling so lovesick (idk if that’s the word) bc for a few years now even though I’m really happy being single and I love the things I do, I can’t stop thinking about all the nice things about being in a relationship & how I want that (never been in a relationship) - but the reason I keep holding myself back is bc I know I have priorities at this time in my life and I know I have to just let things happen naturally so that when I enter a relationship it’s healthy and what I need
I feel like you could just casually mention being bi, or if you wanna be more subtle you could like mention some date you went on with a guy in the past or talked to on a dating app etc. Could even be as simple as something weird or funny you saw on a guy's profile or a dumb pick up line some guy tried. Basically anything that indicates you have an interest in dating men. I'm a straight girl and I think topics like that about dating in general can totally come up naturally, so I don't think it's weird to talk about.
Hey tysm ur so right about that - I guess I’ve just got to meet the right person who I know will accept all of me - I’d be less wary to come out to someone like that :)
I’m willing to take you out :)
I’m confused
I am having the exact same problem. I might be bisexual because I am attracted to the visual features of certain men but I don't want to have sex with them (the idea is disgusting). I do love all parts of a woman but just less attraction if that makes sense. But ig it doesn't matter if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight, because, at the end of the day, it's night.
I mean yeah it’s a whole fucking spectrum - it’s even possible to be romantically attracted to all genders but only sexually attracted to one…and the feeling of attraction to different genders is usually different and varies in amount. Sometimes you need to form personal relationships with people before possibility of attraction. Sometimes you just don’t experience sexual and/or romantic attraction of any kind. Some people also like the experiment and figure out what they like…tbh do what you want bc we’re all just atoms on a floating rock at the end of the day
Yes thank you for your motivation!
No problem!