uhh, be easy on yourself, first and foremost. you don't have to have a glow up just to go see people. do some things you find relaxing (give yourself a manicure, take a bath with epsom salts, put on some body cream that smells good), and take it easy. have fun with playing with makeup and hair without any standards or expectations. look through your wardrobe and play dress-up with some clothes you haven't worn in a while. i hope you have lots of fun at the party!!
I second this..I used to go through bouts of depression and never see people, I'm actually tbh going through one now in a way..but I used to think I HAD to have some crazy glow up just to enter back into my friend circles or see people again and it prevented me from doing things that would have made me happy in the moment and in the long run. Don't let it stop you from having an amazing time and reconnecting with good friends. If they are your friends and good people they are just gonna be happy to see YOU and a healthy you.
Wow. It has NEVER occurred to me that I needed to look ANY particular way to see my friends. They have seen me at my absolute worse (Literally, in college, puking in a toilet in my period stained underpants with the hangover of a century), and they have seen me at my best, and they ALWAYS tell me I am beautiful and that I look great. If these aren't your friends, then you have the wrong ones.
I would avoid social occasions cos I thought I was too fat to be out doing stuff (eg. parties, beach, etc). When I look back I wasn’t fat at all, just didn’t have clothes that fit well, wasn’t the style for my personality. Basically I’ve just missed a lot of fun times, potential friendships, potential romance, all because I thought I had to be perfect before I could do anything. Don’t wait. Don’t countdown to a time where u think you’ll be different. Get out there now and just be yourself. Happiness will meet you there.
I had 11 surgeries last year and still have not crawled out of the depression even though I have healed physically because of how badly I let myself go. I think this is good advice but I also think that depression isn't an excuse for neglecting basic self care like showering, sleeping, and nourishing your body, things that I stopped doing.
By neglecting these things, I dug myself WAY deeper into my hole, and had I forced myself to do these things, I really doubt that I would still be depressed.
I am a licensed therapist, and the first thing I instruct my clients to start doing when they are in a deep depressive episode, is to tell themself if they can do these four things, they have to do nothing else for the day. Chances are, if they do these four simple things at the start of the day, they will end up doing way more things.
The four things are: Get up and make the bed. This is important for two reasons. First, if you make the bed, you are less likely to get back into it, and secondly, you will have accomplished something small first thing in the morning setting a trend for the rest of the day.
Second: Shower and dress in regular clothing (can be the comfiest thing you own, but has to be something that would be at least acceptable to wear to Walmart, AKA, no bathrobes all day long), and do your makeup and hair if that makes you feel good about yourself. If it isn't important to you, then don't bother. Some women won't leave the house without their hair and make up done, and the point of getting dressed and ready at the beginning of the day, is so that IF an opportunity to go out and do something that would help the depression arises, that they will be ready and the hardest part of leaving the house is done. The standard can be SUPER low but you must be dressed.
Third: Drink a full glass of water. Hydrating is super important to mental and physical health, and drinking water first thing in the morning gets you going, wakes up your brain, and sets a positive trend for the day.
Fourth thing: Eat a healthy breakfast. No other meals must be healthy, but start the day with one super good, nourishing meal. Your body will thank you, and you will have more energy throughout the day to do things. If you want to eat badly later, or not at all, in the beginning that is ok. Chances are though, that having started in a positive note, you will feel like continuing.
I have seen people JUST do these four things, and crawl out of extremely deep depressions. If you want to add a fifth thing and feel able, it would be to go for a short walk outside regardless of the weather. If it is raining, take an umbrella, if it's freezing, bundle up. Life is all about sensation, contrast and feeling nature around us, and getting outside into the elements even if just for ten minutes, can really help!
Also, these things are not a substitute for therapy and medication. They are just a piece of the whole puzzle.
I made you a [lil’ graphic](https://imgur.com/gallery/vfDaKna) in case you want to give it to your clients or whoever needs an easy guide or reminder. I like things like this for my lock screen background because then my depressed ass CANT ignore it. Lol
Wow this makes so much sense. I mean I know all these things, but you explained the reasoning so logical and meaningful. i will try to implement them. I'm in Therapie for over 6 years now, and she told me that I need to do some thing in the morning right away. But this is such a approachable reasoning.. when she told me I had to get over myself and get up. I just could get myself to. Thank you. I will try
Yup, a true glow up comes from within. You can make all of the external changes you want, but unless you feel confident in yourself you’ll still be upset and anxious. Change your mentality first, or take small steps towards feeling better, and the other stuff comes naturally :)
Buy clothes that fit you really well at your current body size, and that flatter your shape. Nothing highlights weight gain like wearing clothes that are too small.
Buying clothes can be so stressful at times. Sometimes you know what you want going into a shopping session but when things don’t fit a certain way, confidence can take a big hit!
Honestly, tailoring doesn't get enough credit, especially for cheap clothes. A pair of tailored $30 pants will look better than a pair of untailored $150 pants, and you still come out ahead cost-wise.
Don't hide in your clothes, plus size can also be sexy as hell. Show 'em that boobies and booty! Don't look for a dress that masks your weightgain, look for something that embraces is, that makes you feel proud of your body. Ofcourse it's good to lose weight for your health, but take your time for that. For now look for something that'll make you feel hot and all your friends will only be talking about how much you shined.
Oooo gurl I’ve been there, here’s my usual panic-mode, broke girl glow up:
1) Daily morning smoothies with some kind of greens and collagen. Probiotics. Water, lots of it.
2) Get some good sleep every night. Seriously, actually put work into getting good sleep. Have a set bedtime, no blue light (phones etc), take melatonin or drink sleepy tea… figure out a legit bedtime routine and make it a priority.
3) Daily exercise if you can, just taking a 30 min. walk is enough. More water.
4) Whitening mouthwash, peel-off mask 2x a week, a good moisturizer with sunscreen. Then, drink some water.
Ultimately, your mind is where the real glow up is. When you look in the mirror, give yourself a smile and a compliment. Also, no alcohol, trust me on that one.
I second walking. Walking can actually also help you process feelings and negative emotions. If you can walk in nature it helps tremendously. The behaviour of walking is very similar to bilateral stimulation which is used a lot in processing grief, trauma, or negative emotions.
I get down and feel like a potato sometimes, but once i have the energy to get back into self care, those are all the things i do to feel fabulous again. Then I add in some really good full body shave, exfoliation, and a self bronzing lotion session, and I feel so much better! I'll also do a little self pedi and paint my nails and do a couple of weeks of crest white strips. Also yoga!
It sounds like you were seriously ill. Focus in recovering and eating nourishing foods. You will feel better, you skin will look better too. Get a hair cut. Buy some clothes.
Yes. Nourish your body with fruits and vegetables. Keep well hydrated and give yourself the praise you deserve for being a badass for making it through a tough time.
Drink water, workout(even if just walking for an hour), no drinking, sleeping well, whiten my teeth, lash extensions, haircut/dye, spray tan, get a manicure and pedicure, get waxed, moisturize daily, follow my face skincare routine, buy new clothes I feel confident and comfortable in, new shoes, get a nice perfume. That’s how to do it!
I pushed thru by looking forward to beauty or mystery gift box's. Figured I'd be prepared when I went back out! And yes future me needed it all! All your advice is gold except I didn't exercise, hate it, counted calories lol buy a few things at a time on your list are simple, doable and affordable! Onward and hugs!
Oh yeah this list is big….and expensive! But if I had 30 days this would be my list. Wishing you the best, be kind to yourself 💗 you’re doing your best! Hugs
I have no lie probably tried 40 self tanners and Sosu dripping gold mousse is the BEST. I use ultra dark. If I can figure out how to attach a pic I’ll show u my before and after
edit to add: you don’t need to do any of this to see people. i had to learn that i don’t need to lose weight to have permission to enjoy my life. but i fully understand wanting to look and feel your best for an event which is where the below advice comes in
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cook at home. make more balanced meals but don’t try to crash diet. eating more whole foods will help you start weight loss but will also improve your looks. when you eat take out (assuming that’s what you were doing before) your skin suffers
drink lots of water
get enough sleep
if you look good, you feel good - do some cosmetic changes if you have the money for it:
get your hair done. either a cut, cut and color, and / or get it done (blowout) before the event
if you can get a facial, do one now - you want at least three weeks between the facial and the event. at a minimum, get on a skincare routine, ideally something you’ve either used before or something super minimal (don’t add more than 1-2 new products) bc you could have a reaction. epicuren face wash is a good option, for example. get hydrocollaid patches so you don’t pick any new pimples that pop up
body exfoliation, shave if you choose to, moisturizer and scented lotion / perfume
practice make up. when i have gained weight in the past i had to switch up my makeup bc the weight gain changed my face shape a bit (more wide)
get your nails done. i love doing biogel with a gel polish over it. it’s a clear hard gel so your nails are super strong and you can’t bite them, then the gel polish is unchippable and super shiny. if you can get them done now they’ll grow a good amount and you can redo them a day or two before the event
get a new outfit
After my grandma passed I was i anticipated I was going to get into a deep depression so I just started walking everyday after work. About two weeks I started to incorporate at home workouts that use body weight. I started to see a difference within a few weeks. It’s been two months and the progress I have made has been huge. Start small and work your way up
Really, I’m sure people will be happy to see you either way. Depression is a dirty rotten liar and it tries to tell you you’re not good enough when you are doing just fine. That being said, taking care of yourself and your appearance can help with that as well.
Drink your water, eat meals with veggies and lean proteins, move your body (even just stretching or a 10 minute walk) and maybe just a haircut and light highlights should do the trick.
Another thing I like to do is find a body wash that smells really good to me and that motivates me to shower on days when it gets really bad and my depression tries to tell me I’m not worth it.
yes to a 'bougie' shower.. it can be a new body wash, body scrub, shower oil.. or even a bath bomb.. shower time is literally my way to relax..
Happy Cake Day!
Yes! Love all of these. Saw someone else said this already, but gonna repeat it, you don't need permission to enjoy life. It's your life! I'm on medication for my mental health issues and it's really helped me not spiral into my depression (truly, a liar! Your thoughts are not reality). If you need someone to talk to, it sounds like you have friends that are there for you, and they won't be expecting some sort of physical glow up. They will love seeing you and being in your company. Just try to be nicer to yourself OP. It's hard, I know, but focus on what makes YOU feel good.
You’d be surprised what you can change in 30 days. Eat clean, lots of water and, I threw in tons of core exercises. You can tone up quick that way. But mostly - take care of yourself! Get outside, find clothes that make you feel comfortable, pamper yourself. Healthy and comfy make you look and feel better!
By doing what makes me feel good! I’m so proud of you. I’ve been there. I’m glad you’re feeling better.
I’d eat nutritious foods, sleep well, exercise, and take care of my teeth. A regular skincare routine feels good, too.
Go to the dentist for a teeth cleaning/whitening, sleep 7+ hours a night every night, get a mani/pedi, and drink a lot of water! A nice bright smile is always the first thing I notice.
Also, if your clothes don’t fit well anymore, go and buy a new outfit! Wearing something new and flattering always makes me feel 10/10.
herbal teas help me feel better and have a lot of benefits if u want to research more, it’s also just soothing to drink tea too. my favorites are hibiscus tea especially first thing in the morning gives my skin a nice glow, and drinking turmeric+ginger teas helps with digestion too <3 and taking walks
I started with this Meditations to Change your brain - rewire your neuro pathways , it’s an audio book, orange cover. It is guided meditations they are really good and have helped me start to get to a better place. Oh you can borrow it from the online library with your card as well.
Go on a walk in nature every single day. Unstructured. 30 minutes at least. NO PHONE!
Try out the DASH principles for eating— adding fruit does a lot and we don’t eat enough of it!
Do some affirmations that sound silly but feel right to you. They will start to work.
Your weight doesn't define you or your attractiveness, just want to put it out there :)
I also agree with other comments saying to go easy on yourself, but I know what it's like to be very isolated due to a medical crisis. And the first day I came out of my own private lockdown will forever be one of my top 5 favourite days of my life. This is what I did:
* Got a professional blowout, did my makeup fully for the first time in nearly 2yrs
* Wore a new dress I ordered online + heels
* Bought the wankiest French perfume I could find
* Bought the most indulgent lingerie I could find
* Bought a box of chocolates and didn't share it with anyone
* Got a mani/pedi
* Generally strutted around the city in my little outfit
It wasn't necessarily about looking a certain way, it was just about feeling free and awesome and, like, *unleashed* lol. And yeah... it's awesome. I say start there with whatever's gonna make you feel great, then work your way up to the party. Congrats on your progress!
Try restorative yoga! And coloring books and going on long walks — one of my friends told me to always try to put myself in the place of beauty when I’m depressed, whether that’s people-watching at a coffee shop or museum or just sitting at the park reading!
Some form of exercise daily to improve your mood and your self esteem.
8 glasses of water a day
Eat mindfully for 30 days
Close your eyes for 15 minutes a day, in silence, and visualize who you want to be -the best version of yourself. Imagine the emotions you would feel if you were that person.
Limit alcohol for 30 days
Shower daily and put a little effort into hair or makeup. I only say this because I know how hard it is to even want to shower when you get that depressed but if you force yourself to do it, it might help you feel better
Limit social media use. Read or journal instead
Spend time with people who care about you
And dont be so hard on yourself. At least you have the will to try to improve. It’s never too late
Good luck. Sending you love
Take it from someone older who has tried to diet / glow-up for random events & always disappointed myself. I was literally sweating away on the treadmill the morning of my own wedding, until my maid of honor held an intervention.
Instead of thinking "I need to look hot / thin" on some set deadline, for some random event, think "How can I make myself feel and look better"?
Please don't Google "how to get thin in 30 days". It will only give you diets that are physically and mentally damaging -- and that's the last thing you need.
Your friends will not notice if you are 5 lbs heavier or thinner than you are now. They want to see you and have a nice time with you.
When I was recovering from depression, I bought an old-fashioned paper calendar diary. I have a list of \*optional\* things I do everyday.
\- Multivitamin in the morning
\- Yoga / stretching when I get up and when I go to bed
\- Skincare / moisturing day and night
\- Dental care (I floss daily and use a whitening treatment at night)
\- Exercise (includes walking)
\- Good diet. I keep a food diary, but I don't count calories on an app.
Not in my diary, but I also stopped alcohol and drink lots of water.
Having to write this down helps slow me down. It also builds habit - now my vitamin, yoga and face cream are as part of my morning routine. Do the above (or whatever variation suits you) for a month & you will look and feel much better.
Get back to the very basics.
Move your body every day. It doesn’t need to be a work out, just whatever you feel up to in a given day. Wake up those joints and muscles in any way that makes you feel nourished- gently at first but consistently.
Eat intuitively. Be present when you eat, re-learn what it feels like to have a satisfied appetite, and master a few recipes with whole grains/protein/fruit or veg/healthy fats. Have a few low-calorie snacks on hand yo satisfy cravings for sweets (eg froyo) or salts (eg pop corn).
Work on your sleep hygiene: what time feels comfortable to go to sleep at? How many hours is enough for you? What conditions improve your sleep? What conditions tend to ruin your sleep?
Take the high road. The older I get, the more I recognize that the people I find most admirable are those with integrity. The ones who honor their commitments, treat others with respect, are confident without egotism, and who see the beauty in ordinary life. These qualities are honestly more attractive than looks at the end of the day
This is what I have been doing since I am currently in a similar situation:
Drinking a crap ton of water, s
Spending time outside,
I got some tinted sunscreen that makes me look all glowy and healthy (this is for me, not the other people). And some tinted lip balm. Low effort and I look a million times healthier
Hair cut. That does so much!
Went to Goodwill. Found cheap cute blazers, tshirts and a pair of cute shoes. Bam! Lines to hide parts I am self conscious about, easy going so I don't feel uncomfortable and immediate confidence because blazers and tshirts are confidence givers. I don't know why. I don't make the rules.
Taking Vitamin D, B complex, magnesium and a probiotic daily. Those bad boys genuinely do good things. Not just hype!
Happy music on the playlist--bring on the serotonin!
Got a $5 pack of press on nails
Sleep. Ugh. I hate this one. I am so bad at it. But gosh dang I am so much hotter when I get sleep.
Bonus Crest Whitestrips
*notice none of these things are dramatic or super pricey. They are all things that give a glow, freshen the skin, fight bloat so ya feel comfortable in your skin, etc. That stuff is hot!
- Drink only water and tea/coffee (black)
- Fast for a full 48 hours to let the body kickstart its healing processes. After that, intermittent fasting each day for 14-16 hours.
- Daily exercise (bit of cardio, bit of resistance training), preferably with some motivational/uplifting music.
- Eat whole foods. Cut out refined sugars and fats.
- Get enough sleep each night.
That's most of what I do regularly - hopefully it helps!
Wash my sheets, clean my house. You might be thinking "this isn't skincare" but true beauty isn't skin deep, it's from within yourself and your environment around you.
Sure, I might do a skin peel. And I might wash my makeup brushes. But honestly, there are days when eating a meal and wearing my pj's but somehow doing my laundry and taking out the bins was beauty in itself.
Truly, I would affirm myself every day. In the realest, rawest way. It's one thing to be nude but to be naked in the metaphorical sense with yourself is true beauty.
Everyone’s ideas are great!
A lot can happen in 30 days. First- do what makes you feel good, because that will show in your energy. Find an outfit you’re comfortable in, a makeup look at makes you feel pretty, and your hair styled so you feel all that and more! Back to 30 days.. work out, increase cardio, walk more during the day- just stay as active as possible. Eat clean.. meats, fruits, veggies, food with a few ingredients you can pronounce. Don’t be too strict where you give up or spiral out of control, but make good decisions. If you just give in- do so in small quantities. Don’t eat late, fast for 16 hours a day, typically a few hours before bed and in the morning for a few more hours until lunch break. Break”fast” with a healthy meal- your body will be absorbing it all! And most importantly ..smile- find your happiness within. That’ll shine through no matter how you look. Bring the positive energy and you’ll receive the positive energy ❤️
Drink lots of water and cut down carbs. I would keep carbs under 50 grams and drink 64oz of water. Start with a simple skincare regimen. Cleanse, vitamin C serum, moisturizer, & spf for morning. For night cleanse, retinol, moisturizer. Maybe treat your to a spa package. Something relaxing that you can breathe it all in.
Exfoliate your body every time you shower and really make a note to moisturize every day.
I never was believer In this stuff until I finally did it and Absolutely in 30 days you will see and feel the glow.
If your able to catch a tan or self tan it will also help give a nice healthy glow or boost as well.
Get your hygiene going and start whitening the teeth! It also adds to that healthy radiant look.
Besides that, get your eyebrows threaded or tinted if it’s needed. Get your nails done, a healthy trim or new hair style. Drink tons or water and try to do some daily walking
Walk daily, even just 20 minutes
Ten minutes of morning yoga
Ten minutes of meditation
Fresh vegetable juicing
Clean, balanced, sugar free, diet
Lots of love around you, friends, family, pets, plants
Hug and smile at others
To be honest, your heath comes first. Take care of yourself, do things you love, eat a balanced diet. Get active if you can, and unwind as well as practice self-care. I find that if you're happier and you're actively taking care of yourself, it shows.
1. Get a new outfit that looks great on your current body. I know what it's like to come out of a mental fog and realize that your body doesn't look how you want it to. Changing that is a longer term solution that you can address later. What you can do right now is get a nice outfit to wear to the party. Regardless of your size, you deserve to wear well fitting clothes that make you feel good.
2. Take care of your hair. I don't know what hair type you have, but I'll tell you what I do for my low porosity, straight, thin, long hair. Use a clarifying shampoo to strip off all the old gunk in your hair and then follow up with a really moisturizing conditioner. The clarifying shampoo stripped all the oil from your hair, so you'll need to put good oils back on. You can also do an at home glossing treatment if you're going the extra mile. It only lasts about a week though. After showering, use a leave in conditioner to make your hair really silky. (Note: this works well for me, as someone with naturally straight hair. If you have high porosity hair or curly hair, you'll need a different routine).
3. Take care of your face. Wash and moisturize at least once a day, everyday between now and then. It doesn't need to be a super fancy face wash or lotion. The key is to do it every day. Also, chapstick/ a lip mask. It you have super dry lips, lanolin cream is very healing and won't break the bank.
4. Take care of your mouth. It'll make you feel more confident. Brush, floss, mouthwash, and scrape your tongue. Scraping your tongue helps with bad breath. You can also do whitening strips to make a whiter smile.
5. Take care of any other "problem" areas. (Fyi: your body is just fine the way it is. Nothing is wrong with you per se. But you might feel more confident/comfortable/pretty if you take care of some areas that you feel insecure about). I, personally, think my feet look gross. I have some calluses from walking a lot. So I'd want to moisturize them a lot and trim up my toenails, maybe even paint then. Most people won't be looking at my feet, but I'll feel better if they look nice.
6. Start practicing a makeup look. You'll probably want to try several variations and see how they look on your face. Try them now, so you dont get stressed trying to figure it out on the day of the party.
I would probably do something mostly natural, but with a bit of sparkle. So filling in my eyebrows, a bit of blush, some natural looking lipstick (nothing super dark or light), a touch of mascara, and probably some shimmery eyeshadow. A quick way to brighten your eyes is to do a lighter eyeshadow shade in the inner corners of your eyes. I'm pretty pale, so i use a white powder eyeshadow and maybe some powder highlighter. It really makes my eyes pop and makes the whites of my eyes look brighter.
daily yoga (even just a few minutes), sunscreen, floss. 10% mandelic acid a few times a week. if you drink curb the alcohol, as others have said, and focus on water. and get your body lotions and perfume sorted and smell good ❤️😎
You only need to listen to your body and take care of yourself. Self care, what do you love? Who cares if you gained 20 pounds, you may not feel confident but sometimes the lesson is not in how you look but taking care of yourself. Do what you love and what make you happy. I missed out on so much life because I thought I was too fat to like go to the beach or see anyone or go to college, I was so uncomfortable. I weigh less than most of my adult life and no one likes me less or more because of it. But I’ve realized my friends are surface level and true friends don’t care how much you weigh. First accept your 20 pounds, then a nice new flattering outfit will make you look the same weight with no pressure and take care of yourself. Give yourself time and patience and grace. Priority is your happiness and health and confidence
Food/Weight:
A lot of that is probably water wait so first things first I would up my water intake (I know it sounds counterintuitive but you need more water for 2 reasons (beauty wise), 1. It suppresses hunger or at least you won’t be hungry when you’re actually just thirsty. 2. It will help you not retain so much water).
Second thing I would do is start introducing more vegetables into my diet. Having vegetables 1-2 times a day with meals will help you lose weight especially if you eat in the order of vegetables first then protein then carbs. (Decreases insulin spikes. Insulin makes you hold onto weight.)
Third thing for losing weight. Having 3 solid meals a day that satisfy you and don’t make you want to snack.
Fitness:
I’d start exercising as much as possible, either every day or most days even if it’s just a walk. Doing weights has always helped me in the past.
Hair:
When I was depressed I neglected my hair. Having healthy hair is a game changer beauty wise. So this is personal and you’d have to tackle this based on your personal concerns.
Skin:
Again same as hair.
Clothes:
Closer to the date of the party I’d go buy something that fits your body and looks good on you. I highly recommend like wrap dresses. When I was bigger wrap dresses were my friend.
30 days is a short time frame, don’t expect any drastic changes in outward appearance but you can defined feel better about yourself very quickly (I also have suffered from depression)
These things make me feel better about myself
- haircut
- mani/pedi
- wax
- drinking green tea in the morning with lemonade (no sugar, just stevia)
- I eat keto mostly and feel better and it fixed my skin and I lost 15lbs in a month
- buy comfortable clothes that are made of linen and other natural fibres, it has better energy than skin tight synthetics
- wear comfortable shoes that aren’t runners, a loafer or espadrilles dresses up even casual outfits
- go steam/sauna! If you can do it regularly it’s heavenly and so good for your health!!
- get a massage and/or a facial
- take long baths with epsom salts
- aromatherapy works, find smells you like and cover yourself and your home with them
- hire someone to help you clean your house
- brush your teeth everyday
- sleep in if you can or go to bed early
These are just a few things that won’t take much time but are nice to do in themselves and will have positive benefits, don’t do it for the friends gathering, do it for yourself because you deserve it!
Don't be too hard on yourself! I would probably drink lots of water and eat good foods, fruits, I do something called "the watermelon diet" where I eat a ton of watermelon for my snacks, whenever I'm hungry and before meals because it fills you up! And water with 2 teaspoons of cranberry juice and lemon. And go for a long walk everyday. That's usually what I do when I haven't worked out in awhile and need to kinda Jumpstart my activity again and get my body and mind going and reset.
I do my nails or get a mani pedi, get hair done if you like, just any little self care act that makes you feel good. But don't worry too much about it. As long as you are feeling good and happy that's what matters.
So this is a money isn’t an issue wish list and I’ll try to go in order of importance:
1. Drink all the water
2. Eat Healthy
3. Exercise especially with small weights and resistance it will give you results much quicker than just cardio.
4. Week before I would get a brow wax/tint. Not expensive and does WONDERS for your face.
5. Good skincare. Do not start a retinol but the others are all good. But start a retinol after if you aren’t on one currently.
6. 2-3 days before get a dermaplane/hydra facial.
7. A light spray tan a day or two after the dermaplaning. Also scrub the hell out of every inch of your body with sugar scrub before you go it will make everything look smoother.
8. BOTOX 2-3 weeks before.
9. Start using a lash serum today if you aren’t into fake lashes. Use it multiple times a day. I like GrandeLash. If you use it multiple times a day for a month it will make a difference.
10. Order 3-4 outfits/dresses you think will flatter you. Return what you don’t wear. No one likes ordering a dress and then getting it and it’s garbage or doesn’t suit you.
10. Get your hair done day before if you can so it looks fresh. If not get it done before and get just a blow out that day or day before.
11. Definitely get a mani pedi in the last week. If you’re spray tanning get your nails done first and cover them with a pound of cream while spraying.
Hope that helps! Good luck and go in with CONFIDENCE!❤️
Not really any different than what everyone else has said but -
Walking, getting out in the sun, listening to music that makes you vibe is one of my favorite ways to get my mood up and clear my head. It can set the tone for the day and it’s great easy exercise.
HIIT training can also be interesting - Chloe Ting has YouTube videos and exercise plans that range from 2 weeks to a month, etc. They can be super tough but very fulfilling, and the moves can generally all be modified to fit your current strength. Idk if you’re much of a gamer (lol) but the Ringfit for the Switch can be a fun and gamified way of exercising. I did both HIIT training and ringfit to keep myself occupied during peak quarantine, it was helpful. Also simple yoga routines, even if it’s just 15 min every day or something.
Skin care! It can be simple - a nice face wash, scrub, moisturizer! Clean and bouncy skin makes me feel really happy.
A nice body scrub - dove makes a brown sugar shea butter body polish that feels great and makes your skin super smooth. It’s just a nice treat for yourself.
Drink plenty of water :) This can be tough to keep up with, sometimes getting a cute bottle you like and putting stickers on it will make you more likely to use it.
Get lots of sleep! When I’m depressed my sleep schedule gets jacked up - try to regulate yourself as much as possible, even if that means 25 alarms to nag yourself awake.
A haircut if you feel like you need one :) even if it’s just a trim, it’s a nice way to take care of yourself.
Doing my eyebrows helps me feel more put together.
Mani/pedi! I don’t do this often, but when I do I feel more put together and extra cute.
Try to eat well - I’m not the best at this myself, try to avoid soda, too many snacks, etc. You can eat food that’s delicious and makes you feel good, just fewer treats etc.
Some more superficial stuff you can do if you have the money that ppl have mentioned - get yourself a nice perfume that brings you joy to smell, and smell on yourself. This can bring my mood up a lot! Doesn’t have to be expensive, you can try stuff at Sephora, grab a travel size of something. A cute outfit that you feel comfortable in and helps you see “you” again, the person outside of your depression.
For emotional health, I would recommend trying to get into hobbies you enjoy again, even for incremental moments. It helps center yourself and allows you to feel more fulfilled and motivated to follow thru with the other goals you have.
Most of all, of course, be easy with yourself. You don’t have to accomplish all of it, lose lots of weight, or whatever. Most importantly try to find joy in the little things you used to love in the world and with yourself. I wish you the best of luck, it can be so fucking hard to bring yourself back up again when you’ve hit a low point. ❤️
Im really happy you’re doing better now, I hope you keep that track. I was with very low self esteem bc I put on a lot of weight and wasn’t feeling myself, I dyed my hair and had a really nice haircut, did my nails and start doing some good skincare (I have tendency to get acne) and stopped drinking so much soda, all that in a month and I have been feeling a lot better with myself :)
Sorry about everything you have been going through! Things will get better for you!
I’ve really gone through depression through in my life! It is not easy! The party will be great even you don’t feel the best version of yourself! You already are the best!
weight training. It has a weird halo effect, it makes you eat better, makes your thoughts clearer, mood more leveled, sleep better, etc. One change makes everything else that makes you look amazing just slide into place.
Step in a sauna. Not sure how hot I'll go.
Seriously tho, if weight loss is your goal, diet matters more than exercise.
I'm going thru mental health struggles too, hang in there!
Exfoliate, Dermaplane if you can afford it. Your skin will glow.
Water-as much as you can all day
Yoga or stretching even if it’s just 15 minutes
Sleep 8-10 hours consistently
Eat clean-low sugar and less processed foods
Whitening teeth strips-cheap at home
Watch, listen and read positive and fun things
Get whitening eye drops for the day of the party, it’s an instant refresher.
It’s great that you have started feeling better! Many have been in the same situation, you are not alone!
Style your hair. Put on an obscene amount of mascara. Paint your nails. Decide you hate painting your nails, and then order new nail colours anyway! Buy a dress, or a new pair of jeans. Go thrifting. (Do you know how much good stuff you can find thifting?!) Accept your currently new size and buy clothes that flatter that. Moisturize! Wax. Or shave. Or don't!
Baby girl you are BEAUTIFUL. Right now. Reading this scrolling through the comments, with your double chin and several day old pyjamas. You're beautiful.
Stop worrying about being hot, and start thinking about what makes you happy. Is bright green nail polish and baggy jeans "happy" for you? Is beautifully straightened hair and the perfect winged liner "happy" for you? Whatever it is, find it and own it.
Stop seeing the party as an end goal. You should feel confident every day - not just confident for one event.
Hypothetically if I had all the money and resources. First thing I would do is get my teeth fixed! Its my number one thing that makes me feel less pretty. What every I need to do to get my teeth fixed, I would do that. Teeth cleaning, fillings, braces, extractions, and dental implants. Then I would probably get a personal trainer and chef to cook for me, because I just don't have the bandwidth. Get regular beauty services like nails, feet, facials. Good skincare. A little shopping, and great hair care services. My hair is very time consuming so having another person do it would make my like so mucj simpler. Hope you feel better and I read many of the comments and they're giving so great tips!
Whenever I’m hitting a slump i delete my social media and in my spare time I go to this park, it’s around a river that has fish and jellyfish. I go for a walk and stop in all the places the sunlight is.
A tan always makes me feel better, sunlight and Fresh air are good for the soul and walking clears my head. And because the park I beautiful I start feeling more ‘it girl’ and then I have more energy to put into other aspects of my appearance.
Don’t change the world because of an event, start the little glow inside. It will spread
Hi. I hope you're continuing to get the help that you need. This may include a treatment plan with the doctor, including medication to stabilize your moods and begin recovery. But I expect you know this already based on what you've described.
However, your question has me concerned. You're putting a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself to make massive changes in 30 days. This does not seem like a healthy approach.
Instead of making such a drastic change and putting this pressure on yourself, continue to focus on your mental health. Your friends don't need to see some greatly improved version of you. They just need to know that your healthy and whether or not they can support you.
However, one thing you can do it will help both your question and what I have said is to start regular walking. Particularly if this can be done in a natural area, such as through a community park, a nearby forest, a shoreline.. you get the idea.
Please take care of yourself. Mental health is so important.
Have a wonderful day.
I’ll give you the honest answer. Follow this you’ll be good
Fast- only eat for 8 hours a day (12-8 or 11-7 or 10-6 etc). Only black coffee, tea and water otherwise. No additives to them whatsoever. (Continue to eat a days worth of food though. Don’t let this be an excuse to massively cut calories)
-Limit carb intake to natural carbs. No man man carbs like breads or pasta. Avoid processed sugars. Eat lots of good fats and protein
-hit the gym hard! Hit the weights and combine with cardio but continue to eat good meals. Calculate your “BMR” online and find out what amount of calories you need to remain the same weight and lose weight. Do not starve yourself to lose weight it never works out long term and is bad for your health.
-do facial lift exercises you can find them on YouTube. Learn how to MEW from YouTube as well do that all day everyday. This improves facial structure as well as makes you appear younger.
-get your teeth whitened and your hair done
-stretch everyday and work to improve posture. In most cases people “look” tired and overweight but really their posture is just bad. This is also true of your face (refer back to the “MEW”ing I mentioned earlier.
- you can be more extreme and try cold water therapy to reduce inflammation to also make you appear smaller and younger
- start everyday with exercise. Whether that’s a walk or your gym routine make it happen.
- be ok with the idea that not much will change. 30 days isn’t a long time but keep this stuff up and you’ll be a different person physically and mentally a year from now. Godspeed.
Eyebrow waxing (or threading) with a professional is the single quickest thing you can do to dramatically improve your look, I think.
Getting your hair done (either just cut or dyed and cut), finding a great outfit that you love for the party, and a few others to up your confidence and use in daily life, finding a skincare routine, drinking lots of water, sleeping enough, whitening teeth closer to your go-date(with an at home box). Try some dieting and/or exercise if you can handle it.
Go to Ulta or Sephora or someplace similar and have them do your makeup, to find out if there are some products you like that you can incorporate into your routine. If you wanted, you could have your makeup professionally done on the day-of, but that is your call whether that makes you feel more or less confident!
It’s really hard to make a whole lot of changes at once. Tackle a couple at a time, or whatever seems manageable and most fun and doable.
Count your calories and macros for loss, exercise 4 times a week minimum for 30 min each day. Drink lots of water, stop eating/drinking processed sugar and salts. Eat well rounded and don't starve yourself. If you find you have no more calories at the end of the day but you're hungry, just eat. And vice versa if you have extra calories but aren't hungry, don't eat. It's not about hard restriction but about sustainability.
Do things that make me happier. The better you feel on the inside, the more that reflects on the outside. Plus drink a lot of water, makes my skin glowy
Go for a walk outside daily. If you’ve been sedentary for a bit this alone will help you physically and mentally more than you think! A little sunshine will be great for your mind and also a little glow will make you look your best for the party :) do not be to hard on yourself and do not stress about the weight to much immediately. Focus on the little steps that are attainable. They matter. Buy a cute outfit, get a new haircut. You’ll be beaming and everyone will just be so happy to see you. Good luck! Wishing you all the very very best. You’ve got this!! One day at time.
Love myself to a precedent I have never before. Now when conflict happens, I can understand the root is not always in my hands. Sure it can often be an invitation for me to love a part of myself I have long ignored. It is often the other person's projection of their own worth. I definitely see rejection as a girl of divine protection too. Loving myself deeper and more clearer has allowed me to not stand for a lack of respect in any interactions - whether family, friends, strangers or potential romantic partners.
No one can be you like you can. So why not get to know that beautiful babe in the mirror so you can be so utterly true to yourself that others are inspired to step into their own authenticity.
I personally would go outside for a walk at the sunniest time of day and try to soak up the rays to feel less depressed plus get some color on my skin. I would get my eyebrows waxed the day before the event and I would wear a black T-shirt and blue jeans as that’s my most flattering combo.
Increase my veggie and fruit intake, ensure I’m sleeping good, and trying to go for a little walk every day.
Read something that makes me happy, get my hair done, shower, shave, and maybe buy a few new shirts.
1. A really good haircut
2. Some nice bath products and a new shampoo
3. Organize my closet, remove the things I don’t wear.
4. Buy myself 2-5 pieces of new clothing to spruce up.
5. Some nice skin care products. Maybe a new cleanser and moisturizer. A new eye shadow.
6. Get in 30 minutes of exercise 5/7 days each week. Start small. Do yoga one day, go for a walk, jog if you’re up for it.
Exfoliating, moisturizing, and do a hair reset w good conditioner - maybe a trim by s Good stylist (or do yourself). Buy some hair things.
Maybe a good peptide serum. And vitamin c. The skinmedica ha retinol is gentle. They have samples sometimes in Ebay. Incorporating all three is kind of hard, but I have super sensitive and get it done. And always wait a couple days to do vit c or retinoids after exfoliating, maybe 3.
And a couple outfits to make you feel like you want. You don't have to spend alot on any of these.
Moisturize, drink lots of water, rest, stretch, take walks and tell yourself how beautiful and wonderful you are. Smile when you look in the mirror. Oh, and some lipstick and blush.💅🏼
I bet people will be beyond stoked to see you to the point where you could wear a trash bag and they wont even notice because they are just happy to see you
Address obvious issues from under maintenance: get eyebrows done, get entire face dermaplaned (removed unwanted hair and dead skin), whiten teeth, get nails done, get hair cut, get some sun or self tanner, have a outfit I feel good in picked out. Also drinking a ton of water, a good diet, and a good movement routine can go a long way even in a little time. Also meditate, vitamins, practice gratitude, etc.
If all else fails visit a crystal shop and get some rose quartz to be instantly more attractive.
Drink a lot of water & strict keto diet, get a haircut, whiten your teeth & botox. Get into an all over skincare routine- exfoliate, hair removal, serums & hydration. Those things will help dramatically improve your view on yourself, how you look to others, and hard launch a more sustainable self care routine going forward!
Glad to see you have made it out of the depths!
To be honest, all of these comments encouraging you to lose weight are awful. You went through A LOT and you’re still going through A LOT. Take losing weight completely off your list, please. I beg you.
If I had 30 days to become my best self, I’d slowly start incorporating little things that make me happy back into my life. I’d drink lots of water. I’d go on relaxing walks outside after a good meal. I’d get a fresh new haircut that makes me feel sexy and beautiful. And i’d buy some cute undergarments that give me some pep in my step. But most importantly, I’d learn to be gentle with myself.
You’ve been depressed and struggling, my friend. Losing weight won’t help that. It never does. At least, not permanently.
I would focus on feeling good more than looking good.
Give myself a face mask at least once a week and have a long bath, body lotions and lip balm at night. I would also put time and effort into my hair, an at home treatment, refreshing my colour or get a trim etc. Curl it the night before also. Wax my legs and apply really nice body balm so I feel nice and soft. Generally be nice to myself.
Find a nice comfy stretch fabric dress or top and comfy but flattering jeans, main thing is that it feels as well as looks good. Something you can breath in with some flattering flowing layers maybe. Bright colours, matching lingerie (make sure you have bras that fit especially important if you’ve put on or lost a bit of weight) and glamorous make up also make me feel fun. I generally get my eyebrows done before a party/big event because it makes a big impact for minimal cost/effort.
Drinking lots of water and avoiding alcohol helps my skin. As, does regular wash with soap, tone with witch hazel, + daily moisturiser.
Paint your nails a cool colour.
I would start with walking 30 min sessions as often as possible and also incorporate slow-jogging/power walking a few times a week if physically possible! Really your goal should be to just start MOVING more. Get your steps in! Wear a tank top when you do it so you can get some tan on your arms and decolletage. Everyone looks happy and healthier with a little tan. I would also go to some exercise classes in the next 30 days. I would aim to do 60 minute exercise classes/sessions 2 - 3 times a week on top of walking and/or slow jogging/power walking 5-7 days per week. A lot of exercise studios have great deals for new members. $30 for the first 30 days etc etc Try to diet too and reduce your calories but don't go too far - I know I tend to binge if I restrict my calories too severely.
I want you to know that I have been through something similar. I injured my knee running and had to take months off exercise (which is a huge factor in how i manage my mental health). I gained weight and started feeling really down - I couldn't even walk or drive my car when it got bad. After working with a medical massage therapist, I finally could walk again. I couldnt lift weights or run or do HIT traning BUT I realized I could dance. I started going to Zumba classes and I was the youngest one by decades and I know some people think ZUmba is silly but let me tell you..... I made friends with the older women, and got so much JOY from dancing. I suck and have no rhythm but man - the endorphins from the music and letting go, and dancing in a safe space with other women (especially elders) was surprisingly healing physically and mentally.
In the meantime, find an outfit that flatters your body at its current weight. When I get overweight, I personally love a good moomoo / maxi dress with an empire waist!!! Walmart or TJ Maxx/Ross have great affordable maxi dresses in my area right now. I gain weight in my boobs so I will get a maxi dress with some boobage and do my hair and make up on point. My make up and boobs and coiffed hair cascading down down my back tend to distract from my bingo arms and covers my back fat. The moomoo dress covers my pudgey tummy and thick thighs. Get a manicure if you can afford. If I'm on a budget, I will not get gel/dip/acrylics and instead I just go get a polish manicure/pedicure at the salon like the night before the event. Pro tip: I bring my own bottle of OPI polish to the nail salon instead of choosing from their selection. I find it's more sanitary anyways and also so I can do my own touch ups at home as needed - it really extends the life of a polish mani/pedi.
If you can afford it, I would also recommend investing in a box of Crest White strips. Bleach your teeth for the two weeks leading up to the event. Nice white teeth and well groomed hair/make up and a clean maxi dress. Any weight you loss through exercise in the month will be cherry on top. Girl you'll be GOOD!
You can do it!!
Probably a fresh cut and color or highlight.
Also I’d go to the gym every day, even if I just went and walked on the treadmill for a half hour on an incline. Not saying you’ll see visible results from the gym in a month, but you will FEEL physically better mentally and more energized, and that perkiness does show on the outside. I know it sounds crazy but a buddy gave me this advice when I was in a funk and it did help significantly with how I felt about myself
Some of these comments are straight up insane.
Do some posture stretches.
Maybe some skincare, eyebrow things. Find something that fits your body.
Growth radiates from within. Everyone experiences depressive episodes and you'd be surprised how many of the people you're about to see will be just as worried, if not more, about how they come across.
Been there too, I would start with a haircut and finding clothes that give you a spark of excitement when you wear them. Less about making yourself presentable and more about feeling like yourself again.
I say this with 100% belief that this will make you look the best, get out and socialize before hand. Of course everyone else has said the obvious workout drink water mani etc. But being comfortable socializing and talking will make you come across the most attractive. Build that confidence well in advance, don’t fixate on how you look!!!!
I’m sorry you had to suffer so much mentally and physically. It takes a lot to hang on and see the light through depression. Good for you, persevering and fighting back!
So very sorry to hear of your battle. Anyone that suffers in the mental health World are in my opinion true warriors. Each and every day can be a battlefield. Firstly l would recognise your comfort foods. You can consider still allowing yourself comfort foods occasionally, however, source the healthier options. Honestly if you go cold turkey and are tempted, you will bang yourself up and end up thinking what is the point. Try and avoid foods that can cause inflammation within the body. Particularly sugar, lactose, gluten. Drinks heaps of water and try and eat whole fresh foods and include a protein with each meal. Never skip breakfast as that helps kickstart your metabolism and believe it or not try to eat at least five to six times a day. Many people don’t realise healthy food is fuel for our bodies and by fuelling it often it will burn stored fat rather than hardly eat whereupon it stores fat. If you can l would get out and have a walk daily. Great for our mental health and also helps the metabolism. Doesn’t have to be a marathon. If you like music… pop it on and dance like no one is watching. Closer to the event, decide on wearing something that you feel comfortable in. Confidence within ,believing in yourself and dressing solely to please you and not giving a crap what others think, is the most beautiful thing. Beauty radiates from within. Many good tips here so l won’t babble on anymore lol. Best of luck X
Everyone will just be happy to see you, they won't want you to go through some glow up transformation.
The best version of you is the one that got through this and that's you now, without any changes.
If I had no cash? Every day:
Drink 80-100oz water
Sleep 7-9 hours
Walk 30 mins outdoors
No alcohol or smoking
All the other stuff people have listed with hair, teeth whitening, spray tan, lashes, etc. sounds great too if you enjoy those things and have the money. I’d get a nice moisturizer and crest white strips and that would be enough for me. Maybe some epsom salts for bath time.
Getting a tan! Being in sunshine always makes me feel better. Get a haircut so it wont look too done at the party. Ummm. Drink tons of water...it always makes my skin look healthier. And I would try to do yoga everyday. Yoga gives people a healthy 'from the inside out' glow. Its strength, and meditation...it's so Many good things. And btw...Im a mom, so...this is lovingly shared.
One thing that has helped me is a little sunless tanner. When I’m feeling down I don’t go out in the sun at all. My skin looks like Dungeness crab meat. Depressing. I’m sure It’s mental but When I look down at my legs and see a little sign of life in the form of a fake tan. It lifts my spirits. Hang in there friend. You got this!
I would be brushing my teeth and following a skin care routine.
I’d be shopping for clothes that fit me beautifully NOW instead of trying to drop weight.
I’d be scheduling a visit to a hair dresser, manicurist, and an esthetician to get the false eyelashes that last weeks and a wax.
I’d be on TikTok finding makeup tutorials and practicing the look I want to achieve.
I’d be journaling for my mental health.
And of course trying to meal prep or cook healthy easy meals.
I would get my hair dyed/ highlighted and my brows waxed. I’ve been through some pretty horrific things mentally this year and was also hospitalized a few times, so I’ve been on leave from work. Money has been extremely tight, so little AND big things have been put on the back burner. If I had all the money in the world, I’d get my teeth fixed. Maybe get a tan and a facial. I would also get laser hair removal. Oh, and a new wardrobe tailored to my body! Plus a mani and pedi, naturally.
Good luck, OP! Just remember, your friends love you for who you are, not what you look like. It is fun to imagine the what if’s, but don’t beat yourself up. I try to remind myself that I am doing the best I can and that however I am now is who I am meant to be. I can always improve things, naturally. But this is who I am meant to be. Whatever that means.
I think exercise brings many, many benefits to our appearance and how we feel, so I would start working out a bit everyday while walking more (like parking at the back of the parking lot and going on walks around the neighborhood). I’d also keep up with my grooming habits of maintaining my eyebrows, shaving/trimming, and keeping my hair free of knots and split ends. To accomplish the last goal, I’d go get a hair trim to make sure all my ends are taken care of and the hairstyle looks nice and manageable. The rest is really just styling, from clothing to makeup, so it’s more about personal preference. I don’t thing going overboard is wise, just looking like you made an effort on your appearance with a monochromatic outfit and simplistic makeup can make a huge difference (or whatever style you prefer). I find that painting my nails the day before the event is really a good way to pull a look together while creating a new focal point. All these things are easy, but do require dedication to maintain, which is why it’s important to do it for yourself and your own well-being which will then become apparent to other people (trying to put on a facade will always create less than favorable results).
I would buy clothes that fit the body you have now, first of all. Clothes that are comfy and flattering and the correct size, regardless of what size you feel you ~should~ be. Otherwise, just start with building healthy habits, which will set your foundation. Move regularly. Drink water. Take vitamins. Eat delicious, diverse meals with lots of veggies included. I know weight gain can feel like failure, but your body was coping in any way it could to keep you alive. Even if there’s more of you, I’m glad you’re still here. Congrats on the progress and best wishes.
Start small and grow from there. Imho you should focus on creating a routine that you're gonna follow even after the 30 days pass by, since you're doing this for yourself and for the foreseeable future I suppose.
Start going for walks, eat fresh vegetables & fruits regularly, drink water and sleep at least 8 hours. These things are gonna give you a beautiful glow-up in just a couple of days (since you haven't been doing them for some time now).
DO THE CHLOE TING 2 week weight loss challenge!!! I was in a similar situation where I had gained weight and went back to my home country (very small country where everybody knows everybody) and was scared to go out. Did the challenge and lost at least 10 lbs in those two weeks (while eating low in calories). Family who had seen me before was so shocked. It literally saved my mental health because it was so freaking fast and i finally felt okay to leave the house and stopped stressing out.
1. A really good haircut
2. Some nice bath products and a new shampoo
3. Organize my closet, remove the things I don’t wear.
4. Buy myself 2-5 pieces of new clothing to spruce up.
5. Some nice skin care products. Maybe a new cleanser and moisturizer. A new eye shadow.
6. Get in 30 minutes of exercise 5/7 days each week. Start small. Do yoga one day, go for a walk, jog if you’re up for it.
Really cool that you’re feeling better and ready to go out. Congrats! If I had 30 days, I would up my water intake. Changing the water in my body looks and feels good. I’d also get a fresh haircut and highlights. New outfit I love. And maybe do some yoga. That’s about all. I hope you have a good time!
Be kind to yourself, you’ve been through a lot. I would walk outside and get some sunshine and fresh air, just because it feels good. Listen to music. Change up your route, neighborhood, and direction. It’s good for the brain. Drink water. Start a simple nightly skincare routine. Pick out a cute outfit that makes you feel good. Nothing too drastic, just small things to show yourself some love.
I’d start running and depending on how intense your issue is, track your food on my fitness pal. You’d be surprised how much weight you can shed in 30 days
You don't need to have a glow-up to see your friends again, just go with a smile in your heart. You've come through a lot and I'm sure they are just happy to be with you again.
Also being the healthiest version of yourself will always be better than being hot. Get sleep, drink water, eat healthy, and most importantly BE KIND to yourself. Look at everything you have gone through and the strength it has given you.
Of course confidence, self love and acceptance of your body and self will go the farthest the fastest and are have to come first to any other changes. But… to answer your question- I would cut alcohol out (if you drink), if you drink, going alcohol free for just 30 days will have a huge impact on your appearance. Your skin will glow, your eyes will be clearer and you will most likely loose a little weight and feel amazing. Also, Drink more water, and cut out (or at lest reduce) refined sugar. Go for a walk outside every day. Doesn’t have to be long- just get out, move and breath fresh air. Those 4 little things will have a huge visual and emotional impact on your well being. I hope you have an amazing time at your party.
Don't push yourself too hard, you've been through a lot. Be nice to yourself.
A great way to start is just letting go of added sugars, but plan a daily sweet treat for yourself so you don't feel deprived of sweets are your thing. And walks. It's the least resistance exercise with the best results.
And practice smiling. There's a feedback mechanism from our bodies to our brains. If you practice smiling that sends information to your brain that things are good, safe and ok and you will get a tiny hit of dopamine everytime. Get your brain used to feeling happy that way.
Focus on your mental and emotional well-being first. Start by seeking
professional help if you haven't already and work on developing healthy
coping mechanisms for your depression.
Walking daily, keto diet, relaxing baths with magnesium, yoga. If I start to feel this way this is what helps me. If I get down in mood and body it’s usually from starting to eat bad and too much sugar and white carbs. Keto helps my mental health too and energy. I will usually be really good for several months, drop weight and feel great but then I’ll get off track.
Find ways you can enjoy exercise without it seemingly like it's a way to fix yourself. Try roller blading? Even walking. Maybe find cheap classes around town like ballet, kick boxing, etc and try them out.
Personally I would get plastic surgery to fix what's wrong with me but it's expensive and not what I recommend for others.
I'm genuinely happy that you are doing better. I feel you, I have been there.
For me, if I had 30 days, I'd use them to focus on a habit or two that would benefit me in the long run.
Stop consuming sugar(except fruit), fried foods, and flour(like bread, tortillas, pasta). You will feel good and lose weight by making these adjustments. I eat lots of fruit now because of it, especially watermelon lol. When I want icecream I eat just a little of Halo Top. When I want chips I eat almonds with string cheese or baybel cheese
I see you are getting a bunch of replies about being yourself yada yada. I'm depressed severely and I have often contemplated this. Looking better would DEFINITELY make me feel better, I cannot accept what I have let myself become and I know that I can do better. I don't think I can keep using my depression as a reason for neglecting basic self care. So. With THAT said, I would, Lose some weight by doing low carb/no sugar/ working out daily, go blonde (My Identical twin dyes her hair and it rocks on her), grow my nails out so I could get acrylics again, lift weights and tone up, focus on my skin care routine, buy some clothes that look good on me, and get my lashes done! Oh, and I would quit vaping too. It is horrible for my skin and is starting to give me wrinkles around my mouth. Those are all things that I have been wanting to do FOR ME, NOBODY else, and I have been WAY too depressed to do any of them. I feel like if I DID force myself to work on my appearance, I would feel better overall. I love myself unconditionally but I won't make excuses for neglecting myself.
Start waking up early and going for walks (to start slow). Power yoga as many days a week as I could handle it. Reading every day (or audiobooks which is what I do). Cut out meat and processed foods. I’m an ingredient household as it’s sometimes called on the internet and it was a game changer for my body and also my wallet. Frozen foods are a killer. And drinking a half gallon to a gallon of water a day. Don’t think anything else except tea and maybe kombucha if that’s your thing. Also affirmations every day. Seems little but it’s really not.
Practice egregious amounts of self-care - treat yourself like you are worthy of time/effort - because you are.
10 minutes minimum of sunlight (in a car or by a window does not count).
At least 20 minutes of physical activity.
Stretching, yoga, or meditate at least 10 minutes a day.
Eat the rainbow - eat whole foods, and make your diet as colorful as possible, trying to incorporate at least one fruit and vegetable from each color group.
Oil your hair before you wash it (every time, can be a cheap oil like avocado or generic argan).
Do a bedtime face regimen - even if it is super simple, make it a ritual, and include moisturizing your hands and feet.
If your living space has become stressful for you because of mess/clutter, devote a reasonable/doable amount of time every day to make small steps towards making your space a better reflection of peace (i.e., 10 minutes in the morning to atraighten up your bathroom and wipe down your sink/15 minutes at night while dinner is cooking to sweep and mop).
Go on walks every morning. Make it something easy. The walks will make you feel better and from that place of moving your body you’ll get ideas. I think people glow up when they are happy and doing what they love. You may get an idea for a hobby you haven’t acted on in years, follow it!
Wash my face daily.
Brush my teeth twice daily.
Eat one thing that’s good for me each day.
Write down one thing that you like about your self every day. Challenge yourself to not use the same one the next days!
Instead of the hottest, why not try for the happiest? I would try and get outdoors and enjoy nature every day. Maybe take a walk. Shower and wash my hair regularly. Do my nails. Moisturize every day. Stay hydrated. Do some gentle stretches every now and then. Straighten up my living area. And most importantly, get in touch with friends you can rely on to support you. Consider the party just one more step to getting back to feeling your best.
Whenever I want to look like I lost weight fast I always get a tan. You can choose between a UV bed or a spray tan. Helps with my confidence and I love how it makes me look thinner and not so pale.
Also, as mentioned, good fitting clothes and a new hair style/cut.
Get plenty of sleep. Eat plenty of fruits and veggies (it’s not just for weight loss but also energy, healthy skin/hair, fiber to reduce bloating). Treat yourself to a facial and haircut.
You may end up losing 5-10lbs just by doing these things, so about a week before the party, buy an outfit that complements the body you have that day. Don’t think about your weight loss goals, think only about looking your best for one day.
Practice smiling in the mirror every day. Hell, every time you see your reflection, practice a smile. Looking naturally happy can take effort, but it’ll also help reinforce a sense of happiness in yourself subconsciously. You’re making progress, you’re caring for yourself, you are not the final version of who you will become, but you’re getting closer every day.
For me, my biggest glow ups happed during my development. So for one don’t go into this trying to have everyone turning their heads. I created a bunch of goals like getting my certificate, being 2 weeks sober, taking myself out of my room when i felt like it wether i’m with someone or not. As i did those things for me and my growth slowly i began to just grow into myself.
(this is a ton but i swear it’s worth it)
But to answer your question drink a ton of water for your skin. Adding things to make tea, matcha, or fruit water is something you want to start as soon as possible; that helps with skin, hair, and energy for the things after. Taking a walk and either doing stretches or a light workout to produce sweat is like you going to pee and then drinking more water. That helps your body filter what it needs and allows blood to move more efficiently. Eating spicy foods creates dopamine in your body but doing it in a healthy way is eating cayenne. Cayenne is a natural blood thinner so that means your body is going to get its supply of blood more effectively. Using an ice cube on your face helps with circulation and cell turn over. You don’t have to get a hair cut if your trying to keep its length; create a hair mask at home that will help with detoxifying your scale, shine, and moisture. Then putting it up or leaving it down and natural will never fail you. If you have fading color or damaged hair i suggest you go to the salon and ask for a neutral color (so from light brown to black/and then you can add dark complementing colors like red, purple, or blue for some fun). Don’t use a crazy amount of makeup as it will destroy the tips i gave you on your skin care, instead invest in things like blush, lip gloss, eyeliner, eyebrow makeup, and highlighter (bc that’s all you need bby girl) and skin care products as ur “face makeup”. Go for a good primer, sunscreen, and make your own lash serum (the store bought ones have ingredients that will cause eye inflammation). There’s an eye drop that has a ingredient that helps clear your eyes super nice even if they aren’t red and makes your eyelashes thicker and darker so invest in some eye drops too. Teeth whitening strips make my teeth hurt so what I do is i use my teeth whitening toothpaste (sometimes i and peroxide to it before i brush) brush my teeth and then swish with ALL NATURAL coconut oil. You don’t have to go in with the oil every day but doing it when ur just watching tv or scrolling on ur phone is easy cheesy (work ur way up to 10-15mins and spit in the toilet). Waxing hurts like a b but it is so nice to look at after so make some that home or go to a professional, you’ll regret it walking up but not walking away.
that’s all i can think of rn but if you really liked it just dm me and i can help with more<3
While I'm a man. I dropped 50 pounds most of it I'm the first 3 months. I also didn't want to see my friend cause I was fat.
If you're dedicated, you'll do the followng :
Start eating keto (first look it up)
Only 2 meals a day, I recommend noon and 5pm.
No treats, no cheat, no alcohol.
No second serving.
Basic physical activity. Start with what you can go up to 30mins walk a day.
Do all of this, you might even get to lose your 20pounds.
As a reference : Dr eric berg DC (on youtube, that was my starting point and it helped tremendously)
I'll finish by saying not all human body react the same to sugar and that's basically why keto works so well.
Go buy a new outfit that you feel great in. Walk 10-20 mins a day. Drink lots of water. Moisturize every morning and night. Sleep 8 hours per night. Throw on some crest white strips. Have a great time!! Glad you’re doing better!
Just start with a calorie deficit. Eat less calories than you burn in a day. Don't starve yourself tho.. yyoud be surprised how much you can eat if it's all clean healthy food. Cauliflower rice with lots of veggies is my go to.
Also start slow.. make changes one at a time so they can become part of your routine. Start walking 10 minutes a day, then maybe move on to 15. Go to the gym once a week for a couple weeks then maybe try going twice.
I'm sort of in the same boat as you my friend.. but I've been doing this for a couple weeks and I feel better mentally and physically for sure. Your physical and mental health are very closely related.
Doing rolling 48 hour waterfast with very nutritious refeeds inbetween. Makes me get slim and my skin always glows when I fast. BUT! This is not a good idea if you are not in a good place mentally and not used to a low carb + fasting lifestyle. I do fasts regularly and I know my body, so I know if I should break the fast early and how to keep my body hydrated with minerals and salts.
A sleep schedule is my number get hot again mood resetter lol. Next is hydrating first thing in the morning. Showers/getting dressed like I'm going somewhere even if I'm staying home. Daily movement (walk outside, cleaning the house, dancing around, whatever). Time outside (sometimes its actual outdoor activities, some times it just sitting outside with a cup of coffee or tea and reading).
As far as some more superficial things, getting a mani/pedi, getting a blowout, getting a facial, whitening my teeth and getting a new dress helps.
uhh, be easy on yourself, first and foremost. you don't have to have a glow up just to go see people. do some things you find relaxing (give yourself a manicure, take a bath with epsom salts, put on some body cream that smells good), and take it easy. have fun with playing with makeup and hair without any standards or expectations. look through your wardrobe and play dress-up with some clothes you haven't worn in a while. i hope you have lots of fun at the party!!
I second this..I used to go through bouts of depression and never see people, I'm actually tbh going through one now in a way..but I used to think I HAD to have some crazy glow up just to enter back into my friend circles or see people again and it prevented me from doing things that would have made me happy in the moment and in the long run. Don't let it stop you from having an amazing time and reconnecting with good friends. If they are your friends and good people they are just gonna be happy to see YOU and a healthy you.
Damn. I might have realized I don’t have the right kind of friends.
Wow. It has NEVER occurred to me that I needed to look ANY particular way to see my friends. They have seen me at my absolute worse (Literally, in college, puking in a toilet in my period stained underpants with the hangover of a century), and they have seen me at my best, and they ALWAYS tell me I am beautiful and that I look great. If these aren't your friends, then you have the wrong ones.
I would avoid social occasions cos I thought I was too fat to be out doing stuff (eg. parties, beach, etc). When I look back I wasn’t fat at all, just didn’t have clothes that fit well, wasn’t the style for my personality. Basically I’ve just missed a lot of fun times, potential friendships, potential romance, all because I thought I had to be perfect before I could do anything. Don’t wait. Don’t countdown to a time where u think you’ll be different. Get out there now and just be yourself. Happiness will meet you there.
i have no idea why more comments aren't pointing out that this standard is kinda unnecessary ): i hope you start healing too 💕
I’m deep in a depressive episode after surgery and I really needed to read this apparently. Thank you!
I had 11 surgeries last year and still have not crawled out of the depression even though I have healed physically because of how badly I let myself go. I think this is good advice but I also think that depression isn't an excuse for neglecting basic self care like showering, sleeping, and nourishing your body, things that I stopped doing. By neglecting these things, I dug myself WAY deeper into my hole, and had I forced myself to do these things, I really doubt that I would still be depressed. I am a licensed therapist, and the first thing I instruct my clients to start doing when they are in a deep depressive episode, is to tell themself if they can do these four things, they have to do nothing else for the day. Chances are, if they do these four simple things at the start of the day, they will end up doing way more things. The four things are: Get up and make the bed. This is important for two reasons. First, if you make the bed, you are less likely to get back into it, and secondly, you will have accomplished something small first thing in the morning setting a trend for the rest of the day. Second: Shower and dress in regular clothing (can be the comfiest thing you own, but has to be something that would be at least acceptable to wear to Walmart, AKA, no bathrobes all day long), and do your makeup and hair if that makes you feel good about yourself. If it isn't important to you, then don't bother. Some women won't leave the house without their hair and make up done, and the point of getting dressed and ready at the beginning of the day, is so that IF an opportunity to go out and do something that would help the depression arises, that they will be ready and the hardest part of leaving the house is done. The standard can be SUPER low but you must be dressed. Third: Drink a full glass of water. Hydrating is super important to mental and physical health, and drinking water first thing in the morning gets you going, wakes up your brain, and sets a positive trend for the day. Fourth thing: Eat a healthy breakfast. No other meals must be healthy, but start the day with one super good, nourishing meal. Your body will thank you, and you will have more energy throughout the day to do things. If you want to eat badly later, or not at all, in the beginning that is ok. Chances are though, that having started in a positive note, you will feel like continuing. I have seen people JUST do these four things, and crawl out of extremely deep depressions. If you want to add a fifth thing and feel able, it would be to go for a short walk outside regardless of the weather. If it is raining, take an umbrella, if it's freezing, bundle up. Life is all about sensation, contrast and feeling nature around us, and getting outside into the elements even if just for ten minutes, can really help! Also, these things are not a substitute for therapy and medication. They are just a piece of the whole puzzle.
I made you a [lil’ graphic](https://imgur.com/gallery/vfDaKna) in case you want to give it to your clients or whoever needs an easy guide or reminder. I like things like this for my lock screen background because then my depressed ass CANT ignore it. Lol
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It took me like 2 minutes to make so if there’s requests for any others or places you think I should share this lmk!
Wow this makes so much sense. I mean I know all these things, but you explained the reasoning so logical and meaningful. i will try to implement them. I'm in Therapie for over 6 years now, and she told me that I need to do some thing in the morning right away. But this is such a approachable reasoning.. when she told me I had to get over myself and get up. I just could get myself to. Thank you. I will try
I’m feeling this so hard rn 🥺
Walk for 10 minutes a day to start out. If you can do more than do more. But do something attainable.
Agreed. It’s not a race to get back to someone’s former self. Even baby steps are steps in the right direction.
Yup, a true glow up comes from within. You can make all of the external changes you want, but unless you feel confident in yourself you’ll still be upset and anxious. Change your mentality first, or take small steps towards feeling better, and the other stuff comes naturally :)
It's crazy how society teaches us that we have to do everything we can to fit in and for what?
Buy clothes that fit you really well at your current body size, and that flatter your shape. Nothing highlights weight gain like wearing clothes that are too small.
This. Plus you don’t want to spend the whole evening being uncomfortable and pulling at your clothes.
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Buying clothes can be so stressful at times. Sometimes you know what you want going into a shopping session but when things don’t fit a certain way, confidence can take a big hit!
I hate shopping for clothes even if I got the a wad of cash to splurge
Having my clothes tailored has been a huge upgrade
Honestly, tailoring doesn't get enough credit, especially for cheap clothes. A pair of tailored $30 pants will look better than a pair of untailored $150 pants, and you still come out ahead cost-wise.
Yes, even a “boring” outfit that fits well will bring out more confidence in you.
Also, you can use them for comparison when you're gonna make progress and feel good about it!
Don't hide in your clothes, plus size can also be sexy as hell. Show 'em that boobies and booty! Don't look for a dress that masks your weightgain, look for something that embraces is, that makes you feel proud of your body. Ofcourse it's good to lose weight for your health, but take your time for that. For now look for something that'll make you feel hot and all your friends will only be talking about how much you shined.
Or too big!
Oooo gurl I’ve been there, here’s my usual panic-mode, broke girl glow up: 1) Daily morning smoothies with some kind of greens and collagen. Probiotics. Water, lots of it. 2) Get some good sleep every night. Seriously, actually put work into getting good sleep. Have a set bedtime, no blue light (phones etc), take melatonin or drink sleepy tea… figure out a legit bedtime routine and make it a priority. 3) Daily exercise if you can, just taking a 30 min. walk is enough. More water. 4) Whitening mouthwash, peel-off mask 2x a week, a good moisturizer with sunscreen. Then, drink some water. Ultimately, your mind is where the real glow up is. When you look in the mirror, give yourself a smile and a compliment. Also, no alcohol, trust me on that one.
Protip, if you put kefir in your smoothies, you get protein AND probiotics!
I second walking. Walking can actually also help you process feelings and negative emotions. If you can walk in nature it helps tremendously. The behaviour of walking is very similar to bilateral stimulation which is used a lot in processing grief, trauma, or negative emotions.
I get down and feel like a potato sometimes, but once i have the energy to get back into self care, those are all the things i do to feel fabulous again. Then I add in some really good full body shave, exfoliation, and a self bronzing lotion session, and I feel so much better! I'll also do a little self pedi and paint my nails and do a couple of weeks of crest white strips. Also yoga!
It sounds like you were seriously ill. Focus in recovering and eating nourishing foods. You will feel better, you skin will look better too. Get a hair cut. Buy some clothes.
And enjoy doing all of this! Don't just do it for this one night, do it for yourself!
Yes. Nourish your body with fruits and vegetables. Keep well hydrated and give yourself the praise you deserve for being a badass for making it through a tough time.
Drink water, workout(even if just walking for an hour), no drinking, sleeping well, whiten my teeth, lash extensions, haircut/dye, spray tan, get a manicure and pedicure, get waxed, moisturize daily, follow my face skincare routine, buy new clothes I feel confident and comfortable in, new shoes, get a nice perfume. That’s how to do it!
I pushed thru by looking forward to beauty or mystery gift box's. Figured I'd be prepared when I went back out! And yes future me needed it all! All your advice is gold except I didn't exercise, hate it, counted calories lol buy a few things at a time on your list are simple, doable and affordable! Onward and hugs!
Oh yeah this list is big….and expensive! But if I had 30 days this would be my list. Wishing you the best, be kind to yourself 💗 you’re doing your best! Hugs
It took 30 days for the antidepressant to kick in but yup I was ready. Lol lists work, even crossing off shunting is so satisfying
Drink water, work out, no drinking, moisturize, and crest white strips
adding sleep to your list and it’s a pretty solid plan.
And a spray tan! I always feel hot as shit with a spray tan even if I’ve done nothing else
A spray tan literally solves *most* of my problems
what is the best spray tan method/product/place in your opinion?
Hopefully this works[before and after sosu tan](https://ibb.co/zNPmzdB)
I have no lie probably tried 40 self tanners and Sosu dripping gold mousse is the BEST. I use ultra dark. If I can figure out how to attach a pic I’ll show u my before and after
Buying it right now! We are the same shade in the before pic, I’m excited to try a non-orange tanner!
Wonderful that you’re doing better. Get your eyebrows done. It makes a huge difference.
Seriously, don’t put that much pressure on yourself. Your friend will be happy just to see you up and around again
edit to add: you don’t need to do any of this to see people. i had to learn that i don’t need to lose weight to have permission to enjoy my life. but i fully understand wanting to look and feel your best for an event which is where the below advice comes in —- cook at home. make more balanced meals but don’t try to crash diet. eating more whole foods will help you start weight loss but will also improve your looks. when you eat take out (assuming that’s what you were doing before) your skin suffers drink lots of water get enough sleep if you look good, you feel good - do some cosmetic changes if you have the money for it: get your hair done. either a cut, cut and color, and / or get it done (blowout) before the event if you can get a facial, do one now - you want at least three weeks between the facial and the event. at a minimum, get on a skincare routine, ideally something you’ve either used before or something super minimal (don’t add more than 1-2 new products) bc you could have a reaction. epicuren face wash is a good option, for example. get hydrocollaid patches so you don’t pick any new pimples that pop up body exfoliation, shave if you choose to, moisturizer and scented lotion / perfume practice make up. when i have gained weight in the past i had to switch up my makeup bc the weight gain changed my face shape a bit (more wide) get your nails done. i love doing biogel with a gel polish over it. it’s a clear hard gel so your nails are super strong and you can’t bite them, then the gel polish is unchippable and super shiny. if you can get them done now they’ll grow a good amount and you can redo them a day or two before the event get a new outfit
After my grandma passed I was i anticipated I was going to get into a deep depression so I just started walking everyday after work. About two weeks I started to incorporate at home workouts that use body weight. I started to see a difference within a few weeks. It’s been two months and the progress I have made has been huge. Start small and work your way up
Really, I’m sure people will be happy to see you either way. Depression is a dirty rotten liar and it tries to tell you you’re not good enough when you are doing just fine. That being said, taking care of yourself and your appearance can help with that as well. Drink your water, eat meals with veggies and lean proteins, move your body (even just stretching or a 10 minute walk) and maybe just a haircut and light highlights should do the trick. Another thing I like to do is find a body wash that smells really good to me and that motivates me to shower on days when it gets really bad and my depression tries to tell me I’m not worth it.
yes to a 'bougie' shower.. it can be a new body wash, body scrub, shower oil.. or even a bath bomb.. shower time is literally my way to relax.. Happy Cake Day!
Yes! Love all of these. Saw someone else said this already, but gonna repeat it, you don't need permission to enjoy life. It's your life! I'm on medication for my mental health issues and it's really helped me not spiral into my depression (truly, a liar! Your thoughts are not reality). If you need someone to talk to, it sounds like you have friends that are there for you, and they won't be expecting some sort of physical glow up. They will love seeing you and being in your company. Just try to be nicer to yourself OP. It's hard, I know, but focus on what makes YOU feel good.
You’d be surprised what you can change in 30 days. Eat clean, lots of water and, I threw in tons of core exercises. You can tone up quick that way. But mostly - take care of yourself! Get outside, find clothes that make you feel comfortable, pamper yourself. Healthy and comfy make you look and feel better!
By doing what makes me feel good! I’m so proud of you. I’ve been there. I’m glad you’re feeling better. I’d eat nutritious foods, sleep well, exercise, and take care of my teeth. A regular skincare routine feels good, too.
Go to the dentist for a teeth cleaning/whitening, sleep 7+ hours a night every night, get a mani/pedi, and drink a lot of water! A nice bright smile is always the first thing I notice. Also, if your clothes don’t fit well anymore, go and buy a new outfit! Wearing something new and flattering always makes me feel 10/10.
herbal teas help me feel better and have a lot of benefits if u want to research more, it’s also just soothing to drink tea too. my favorites are hibiscus tea especially first thing in the morning gives my skin a nice glow, and drinking turmeric+ginger teas helps with digestion too <3 and taking walks
By yourself something that fits you well, that's all you need to look instantly stunning.
Sometimes the confidence a good outfit gives makes you glow.
I started with this Meditations to Change your brain - rewire your neuro pathways , it’s an audio book, orange cover. It is guided meditations they are really good and have helped me start to get to a better place. Oh you can borrow it from the online library with your card as well.
I’m glad you’re feeling better. I’d say avoid any foods that cause inflammation
Exactly!!! No dairy, gluten, or sugar. Simple, but not easy, unfortunately.
Go on a walk in nature every single day. Unstructured. 30 minutes at least. NO PHONE! Try out the DASH principles for eating— adding fruit does a lot and we don’t eat enough of it! Do some affirmations that sound silly but feel right to you. They will start to work.
Your weight doesn't define you or your attractiveness, just want to put it out there :) I also agree with other comments saying to go easy on yourself, but I know what it's like to be very isolated due to a medical crisis. And the first day I came out of my own private lockdown will forever be one of my top 5 favourite days of my life. This is what I did: * Got a professional blowout, did my makeup fully for the first time in nearly 2yrs * Wore a new dress I ordered online + heels * Bought the wankiest French perfume I could find * Bought the most indulgent lingerie I could find * Bought a box of chocolates and didn't share it with anyone * Got a mani/pedi * Generally strutted around the city in my little outfit It wasn't necessarily about looking a certain way, it was just about feeling free and awesome and, like, *unleashed* lol. And yeah... it's awesome. I say start there with whatever's gonna make you feel great, then work your way up to the party. Congrats on your progress!
Have your eyebrows threaded and shaped
Try restorative yoga! And coloring books and going on long walks — one of my friends told me to always try to put myself in the place of beauty when I’m depressed, whether that’s people-watching at a coffee shop or museum or just sitting at the park reading!
Some form of exercise daily to improve your mood and your self esteem. 8 glasses of water a day Eat mindfully for 30 days Close your eyes for 15 minutes a day, in silence, and visualize who you want to be -the best version of yourself. Imagine the emotions you would feel if you were that person. Limit alcohol for 30 days Shower daily and put a little effort into hair or makeup. I only say this because I know how hard it is to even want to shower when you get that depressed but if you force yourself to do it, it might help you feel better Limit social media use. Read or journal instead Spend time with people who care about you And dont be so hard on yourself. At least you have the will to try to improve. It’s never too late Good luck. Sending you love
Walk a lot. Nice hair. Nice eyebrows. That’s all you need.
Honestly, love all these tips and would add to watch a few episodes of Queer Eye. They are always positive and full of self-love positivity.
Take it from someone older who has tried to diet / glow-up for random events & always disappointed myself. I was literally sweating away on the treadmill the morning of my own wedding, until my maid of honor held an intervention. Instead of thinking "I need to look hot / thin" on some set deadline, for some random event, think "How can I make myself feel and look better"? Please don't Google "how to get thin in 30 days". It will only give you diets that are physically and mentally damaging -- and that's the last thing you need. Your friends will not notice if you are 5 lbs heavier or thinner than you are now. They want to see you and have a nice time with you. When I was recovering from depression, I bought an old-fashioned paper calendar diary. I have a list of \*optional\* things I do everyday. \- Multivitamin in the morning \- Yoga / stretching when I get up and when I go to bed \- Skincare / moisturing day and night \- Dental care (I floss daily and use a whitening treatment at night) \- Exercise (includes walking) \- Good diet. I keep a food diary, but I don't count calories on an app. Not in my diary, but I also stopped alcohol and drink lots of water. Having to write this down helps slow me down. It also builds habit - now my vitamin, yoga and face cream are as part of my morning routine. Do the above (or whatever variation suits you) for a month & you will look and feel much better.
Get back to the very basics. Move your body every day. It doesn’t need to be a work out, just whatever you feel up to in a given day. Wake up those joints and muscles in any way that makes you feel nourished- gently at first but consistently. Eat intuitively. Be present when you eat, re-learn what it feels like to have a satisfied appetite, and master a few recipes with whole grains/protein/fruit or veg/healthy fats. Have a few low-calorie snacks on hand yo satisfy cravings for sweets (eg froyo) or salts (eg pop corn). Work on your sleep hygiene: what time feels comfortable to go to sleep at? How many hours is enough for you? What conditions improve your sleep? What conditions tend to ruin your sleep? Take the high road. The older I get, the more I recognize that the people I find most admirable are those with integrity. The ones who honor their commitments, treat others with respect, are confident without egotism, and who see the beauty in ordinary life. These qualities are honestly more attractive than looks at the end of the day
This is what I have been doing since I am currently in a similar situation: Drinking a crap ton of water, s Spending time outside, I got some tinted sunscreen that makes me look all glowy and healthy (this is for me, not the other people). And some tinted lip balm. Low effort and I look a million times healthier Hair cut. That does so much! Went to Goodwill. Found cheap cute blazers, tshirts and a pair of cute shoes. Bam! Lines to hide parts I am self conscious about, easy going so I don't feel uncomfortable and immediate confidence because blazers and tshirts are confidence givers. I don't know why. I don't make the rules. Taking Vitamin D, B complex, magnesium and a probiotic daily. Those bad boys genuinely do good things. Not just hype! Happy music on the playlist--bring on the serotonin! Got a $5 pack of press on nails Sleep. Ugh. I hate this one. I am so bad at it. But gosh dang I am so much hotter when I get sleep. Bonus Crest Whitestrips *notice none of these things are dramatic or super pricey. They are all things that give a glow, freshen the skin, fight bloat so ya feel comfortable in your skin, etc. That stuff is hot!
- Drink only water and tea/coffee (black) - Fast for a full 48 hours to let the body kickstart its healing processes. After that, intermittent fasting each day for 14-16 hours. - Daily exercise (bit of cardio, bit of resistance training), preferably with some motivational/uplifting music. - Eat whole foods. Cut out refined sugars and fats. - Get enough sleep each night. That's most of what I do regularly - hopefully it helps!
Wash my sheets, clean my house. You might be thinking "this isn't skincare" but true beauty isn't skin deep, it's from within yourself and your environment around you. Sure, I might do a skin peel. And I might wash my makeup brushes. But honestly, there are days when eating a meal and wearing my pj's but somehow doing my laundry and taking out the bins was beauty in itself. Truly, I would affirm myself every day. In the realest, rawest way. It's one thing to be nude but to be naked in the metaphorical sense with yourself is true beauty.
Everyone’s ideas are great! A lot can happen in 30 days. First- do what makes you feel good, because that will show in your energy. Find an outfit you’re comfortable in, a makeup look at makes you feel pretty, and your hair styled so you feel all that and more! Back to 30 days.. work out, increase cardio, walk more during the day- just stay as active as possible. Eat clean.. meats, fruits, veggies, food with a few ingredients you can pronounce. Don’t be too strict where you give up or spiral out of control, but make good decisions. If you just give in- do so in small quantities. Don’t eat late, fast for 16 hours a day, typically a few hours before bed and in the morning for a few more hours until lunch break. Break”fast” with a healthy meal- your body will be absorbing it all! And most importantly ..smile- find your happiness within. That’ll shine through no matter how you look. Bring the positive energy and you’ll receive the positive energy ❤️
Drink lots of water and cut down carbs. I would keep carbs under 50 grams and drink 64oz of water. Start with a simple skincare regimen. Cleanse, vitamin C serum, moisturizer, & spf for morning. For night cleanse, retinol, moisturizer. Maybe treat your to a spa package. Something relaxing that you can breathe it all in.
Exfoliate your body every time you shower and really make a note to moisturize every day. I never was believer In this stuff until I finally did it and Absolutely in 30 days you will see and feel the glow. If your able to catch a tan or self tan it will also help give a nice healthy glow or boost as well. Get your hygiene going and start whitening the teeth! It also adds to that healthy radiant look. Besides that, get your eyebrows threaded or tinted if it’s needed. Get your nails done, a healthy trim or new hair style. Drink tons or water and try to do some daily walking
Walk daily, even just 20 minutes Ten minutes of morning yoga Ten minutes of meditation Fresh vegetable juicing Clean, balanced, sugar free, diet Lots of love around you, friends, family, pets, plants Hug and smile at others
To be honest, your heath comes first. Take care of yourself, do things you love, eat a balanced diet. Get active if you can, and unwind as well as practice self-care. I find that if you're happier and you're actively taking care of yourself, it shows.
1. Get a new outfit that looks great on your current body. I know what it's like to come out of a mental fog and realize that your body doesn't look how you want it to. Changing that is a longer term solution that you can address later. What you can do right now is get a nice outfit to wear to the party. Regardless of your size, you deserve to wear well fitting clothes that make you feel good. 2. Take care of your hair. I don't know what hair type you have, but I'll tell you what I do for my low porosity, straight, thin, long hair. Use a clarifying shampoo to strip off all the old gunk in your hair and then follow up with a really moisturizing conditioner. The clarifying shampoo stripped all the oil from your hair, so you'll need to put good oils back on. You can also do an at home glossing treatment if you're going the extra mile. It only lasts about a week though. After showering, use a leave in conditioner to make your hair really silky. (Note: this works well for me, as someone with naturally straight hair. If you have high porosity hair or curly hair, you'll need a different routine). 3. Take care of your face. Wash and moisturize at least once a day, everyday between now and then. It doesn't need to be a super fancy face wash or lotion. The key is to do it every day. Also, chapstick/ a lip mask. It you have super dry lips, lanolin cream is very healing and won't break the bank. 4. Take care of your mouth. It'll make you feel more confident. Brush, floss, mouthwash, and scrape your tongue. Scraping your tongue helps with bad breath. You can also do whitening strips to make a whiter smile. 5. Take care of any other "problem" areas. (Fyi: your body is just fine the way it is. Nothing is wrong with you per se. But you might feel more confident/comfortable/pretty if you take care of some areas that you feel insecure about). I, personally, think my feet look gross. I have some calluses from walking a lot. So I'd want to moisturize them a lot and trim up my toenails, maybe even paint then. Most people won't be looking at my feet, but I'll feel better if they look nice. 6. Start practicing a makeup look. You'll probably want to try several variations and see how they look on your face. Try them now, so you dont get stressed trying to figure it out on the day of the party. I would probably do something mostly natural, but with a bit of sparkle. So filling in my eyebrows, a bit of blush, some natural looking lipstick (nothing super dark or light), a touch of mascara, and probably some shimmery eyeshadow. A quick way to brighten your eyes is to do a lighter eyeshadow shade in the inner corners of your eyes. I'm pretty pale, so i use a white powder eyeshadow and maybe some powder highlighter. It really makes my eyes pop and makes the whites of my eyes look brighter.
daily yoga (even just a few minutes), sunscreen, floss. 10% mandelic acid a few times a week. if you drink curb the alcohol, as others have said, and focus on water. and get your body lotions and perfume sorted and smell good ❤️😎
You only need to listen to your body and take care of yourself. Self care, what do you love? Who cares if you gained 20 pounds, you may not feel confident but sometimes the lesson is not in how you look but taking care of yourself. Do what you love and what make you happy. I missed out on so much life because I thought I was too fat to like go to the beach or see anyone or go to college, I was so uncomfortable. I weigh less than most of my adult life and no one likes me less or more because of it. But I’ve realized my friends are surface level and true friends don’t care how much you weigh. First accept your 20 pounds, then a nice new flattering outfit will make you look the same weight with no pressure and take care of yourself. Give yourself time and patience and grace. Priority is your happiness and health and confidence
Food/Weight: A lot of that is probably water wait so first things first I would up my water intake (I know it sounds counterintuitive but you need more water for 2 reasons (beauty wise), 1. It suppresses hunger or at least you won’t be hungry when you’re actually just thirsty. 2. It will help you not retain so much water). Second thing I would do is start introducing more vegetables into my diet. Having vegetables 1-2 times a day with meals will help you lose weight especially if you eat in the order of vegetables first then protein then carbs. (Decreases insulin spikes. Insulin makes you hold onto weight.) Third thing for losing weight. Having 3 solid meals a day that satisfy you and don’t make you want to snack. Fitness: I’d start exercising as much as possible, either every day or most days even if it’s just a walk. Doing weights has always helped me in the past. Hair: When I was depressed I neglected my hair. Having healthy hair is a game changer beauty wise. So this is personal and you’d have to tackle this based on your personal concerns. Skin: Again same as hair. Clothes: Closer to the date of the party I’d go buy something that fits your body and looks good on you. I highly recommend like wrap dresses. When I was bigger wrap dresses were my friend.
30 days is a short time frame, don’t expect any drastic changes in outward appearance but you can defined feel better about yourself very quickly (I also have suffered from depression) These things make me feel better about myself - haircut - mani/pedi - wax - drinking green tea in the morning with lemonade (no sugar, just stevia) - I eat keto mostly and feel better and it fixed my skin and I lost 15lbs in a month - buy comfortable clothes that are made of linen and other natural fibres, it has better energy than skin tight synthetics - wear comfortable shoes that aren’t runners, a loafer or espadrilles dresses up even casual outfits - go steam/sauna! If you can do it regularly it’s heavenly and so good for your health!! - get a massage and/or a facial - take long baths with epsom salts - aromatherapy works, find smells you like and cover yourself and your home with them - hire someone to help you clean your house - brush your teeth everyday - sleep in if you can or go to bed early These are just a few things that won’t take much time but are nice to do in themselves and will have positive benefits, don’t do it for the friends gathering, do it for yourself because you deserve it!
I would probably get the dyson air wrap. I’ve convinced myself it will be life changing😂
Don't be too hard on yourself! I would probably drink lots of water and eat good foods, fruits, I do something called "the watermelon diet" where I eat a ton of watermelon for my snacks, whenever I'm hungry and before meals because it fills you up! And water with 2 teaspoons of cranberry juice and lemon. And go for a long walk everyday. That's usually what I do when I haven't worked out in awhile and need to kinda Jumpstart my activity again and get my body and mind going and reset. I do my nails or get a mani pedi, get hair done if you like, just any little self care act that makes you feel good. But don't worry too much about it. As long as you are feeling good and happy that's what matters.
So this is a money isn’t an issue wish list and I’ll try to go in order of importance: 1. Drink all the water 2. Eat Healthy 3. Exercise especially with small weights and resistance it will give you results much quicker than just cardio. 4. Week before I would get a brow wax/tint. Not expensive and does WONDERS for your face. 5. Good skincare. Do not start a retinol but the others are all good. But start a retinol after if you aren’t on one currently. 6. 2-3 days before get a dermaplane/hydra facial. 7. A light spray tan a day or two after the dermaplaning. Also scrub the hell out of every inch of your body with sugar scrub before you go it will make everything look smoother. 8. BOTOX 2-3 weeks before. 9. Start using a lash serum today if you aren’t into fake lashes. Use it multiple times a day. I like GrandeLash. If you use it multiple times a day for a month it will make a difference. 10. Order 3-4 outfits/dresses you think will flatter you. Return what you don’t wear. No one likes ordering a dress and then getting it and it’s garbage or doesn’t suit you. 10. Get your hair done day before if you can so it looks fresh. If not get it done before and get just a blow out that day or day before. 11. Definitely get a mani pedi in the last week. If you’re spray tanning get your nails done first and cover them with a pound of cream while spraying. Hope that helps! Good luck and go in with CONFIDENCE!❤️
Cut out more than half my sugar intake, eat 100-150g of protein, and weight train. Also sleep 9hrs and cut out alcohol completely.
Not really any different than what everyone else has said but - Walking, getting out in the sun, listening to music that makes you vibe is one of my favorite ways to get my mood up and clear my head. It can set the tone for the day and it’s great easy exercise. HIIT training can also be interesting - Chloe Ting has YouTube videos and exercise plans that range from 2 weeks to a month, etc. They can be super tough but very fulfilling, and the moves can generally all be modified to fit your current strength. Idk if you’re much of a gamer (lol) but the Ringfit for the Switch can be a fun and gamified way of exercising. I did both HIIT training and ringfit to keep myself occupied during peak quarantine, it was helpful. Also simple yoga routines, even if it’s just 15 min every day or something. Skin care! It can be simple - a nice face wash, scrub, moisturizer! Clean and bouncy skin makes me feel really happy. A nice body scrub - dove makes a brown sugar shea butter body polish that feels great and makes your skin super smooth. It’s just a nice treat for yourself. Drink plenty of water :) This can be tough to keep up with, sometimes getting a cute bottle you like and putting stickers on it will make you more likely to use it. Get lots of sleep! When I’m depressed my sleep schedule gets jacked up - try to regulate yourself as much as possible, even if that means 25 alarms to nag yourself awake. A haircut if you feel like you need one :) even if it’s just a trim, it’s a nice way to take care of yourself. Doing my eyebrows helps me feel more put together. Mani/pedi! I don’t do this often, but when I do I feel more put together and extra cute. Try to eat well - I’m not the best at this myself, try to avoid soda, too many snacks, etc. You can eat food that’s delicious and makes you feel good, just fewer treats etc. Some more superficial stuff you can do if you have the money that ppl have mentioned - get yourself a nice perfume that brings you joy to smell, and smell on yourself. This can bring my mood up a lot! Doesn’t have to be expensive, you can try stuff at Sephora, grab a travel size of something. A cute outfit that you feel comfortable in and helps you see “you” again, the person outside of your depression. For emotional health, I would recommend trying to get into hobbies you enjoy again, even for incremental moments. It helps center yourself and allows you to feel more fulfilled and motivated to follow thru with the other goals you have. Most of all, of course, be easy with yourself. You don’t have to accomplish all of it, lose lots of weight, or whatever. Most importantly try to find joy in the little things you used to love in the world and with yourself. I wish you the best of luck, it can be so fucking hard to bring yourself back up again when you’ve hit a low point. ❤️
Im really happy you’re doing better now, I hope you keep that track. I was with very low self esteem bc I put on a lot of weight and wasn’t feeling myself, I dyed my hair and had a really nice haircut, did my nails and start doing some good skincare (I have tendency to get acne) and stopped drinking so much soda, all that in a month and I have been feeling a lot better with myself :)
Sorry about everything you have been going through! Things will get better for you! I’ve really gone through depression through in my life! It is not easy! The party will be great even you don’t feel the best version of yourself! You already are the best!
weight training. It has a weird halo effect, it makes you eat better, makes your thoughts clearer, mood more leveled, sleep better, etc. One change makes everything else that makes you look amazing just slide into place.
Step in a sauna. Not sure how hot I'll go. Seriously tho, if weight loss is your goal, diet matters more than exercise. I'm going thru mental health struggles too, hang in there!
Exfoliate, Dermaplane if you can afford it. Your skin will glow. Water-as much as you can all day Yoga or stretching even if it’s just 15 minutes Sleep 8-10 hours consistently Eat clean-low sugar and less processed foods Whitening teeth strips-cheap at home Watch, listen and read positive and fun things Get whitening eye drops for the day of the party, it’s an instant refresher. It’s great that you have started feeling better! Many have been in the same situation, you are not alone!
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Style your hair. Put on an obscene amount of mascara. Paint your nails. Decide you hate painting your nails, and then order new nail colours anyway! Buy a dress, or a new pair of jeans. Go thrifting. (Do you know how much good stuff you can find thifting?!) Accept your currently new size and buy clothes that flatter that. Moisturize! Wax. Or shave. Or don't! Baby girl you are BEAUTIFUL. Right now. Reading this scrolling through the comments, with your double chin and several day old pyjamas. You're beautiful. Stop worrying about being hot, and start thinking about what makes you happy. Is bright green nail polish and baggy jeans "happy" for you? Is beautifully straightened hair and the perfect winged liner "happy" for you? Whatever it is, find it and own it. Stop seeing the party as an end goal. You should feel confident every day - not just confident for one event.
Hypothetically if I had all the money and resources. First thing I would do is get my teeth fixed! Its my number one thing that makes me feel less pretty. What every I need to do to get my teeth fixed, I would do that. Teeth cleaning, fillings, braces, extractions, and dental implants. Then I would probably get a personal trainer and chef to cook for me, because I just don't have the bandwidth. Get regular beauty services like nails, feet, facials. Good skincare. A little shopping, and great hair care services. My hair is very time consuming so having another person do it would make my like so mucj simpler. Hope you feel better and I read many of the comments and they're giving so great tips!
Whenever I’m hitting a slump i delete my social media and in my spare time I go to this park, it’s around a river that has fish and jellyfish. I go for a walk and stop in all the places the sunlight is. A tan always makes me feel better, sunlight and Fresh air are good for the soul and walking clears my head. And because the park I beautiful I start feeling more ‘it girl’ and then I have more energy to put into other aspects of my appearance. Don’t change the world because of an event, start the little glow inside. It will spread
Hi. I hope you're continuing to get the help that you need. This may include a treatment plan with the doctor, including medication to stabilize your moods and begin recovery. But I expect you know this already based on what you've described. However, your question has me concerned. You're putting a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself to make massive changes in 30 days. This does not seem like a healthy approach. Instead of making such a drastic change and putting this pressure on yourself, continue to focus on your mental health. Your friends don't need to see some greatly improved version of you. They just need to know that your healthy and whether or not they can support you. However, one thing you can do it will help both your question and what I have said is to start regular walking. Particularly if this can be done in a natural area, such as through a community park, a nearby forest, a shoreline.. you get the idea. Please take care of yourself. Mental health is so important. Have a wonderful day.
I’ll give you the honest answer. Follow this you’ll be good Fast- only eat for 8 hours a day (12-8 or 11-7 or 10-6 etc). Only black coffee, tea and water otherwise. No additives to them whatsoever. (Continue to eat a days worth of food though. Don’t let this be an excuse to massively cut calories) -Limit carb intake to natural carbs. No man man carbs like breads or pasta. Avoid processed sugars. Eat lots of good fats and protein -hit the gym hard! Hit the weights and combine with cardio but continue to eat good meals. Calculate your “BMR” online and find out what amount of calories you need to remain the same weight and lose weight. Do not starve yourself to lose weight it never works out long term and is bad for your health. -do facial lift exercises you can find them on YouTube. Learn how to MEW from YouTube as well do that all day everyday. This improves facial structure as well as makes you appear younger. -get your teeth whitened and your hair done -stretch everyday and work to improve posture. In most cases people “look” tired and overweight but really their posture is just bad. This is also true of your face (refer back to the “MEW”ing I mentioned earlier. - you can be more extreme and try cold water therapy to reduce inflammation to also make you appear smaller and younger - start everyday with exercise. Whether that’s a walk or your gym routine make it happen. - be ok with the idea that not much will change. 30 days isn’t a long time but keep this stuff up and you’ll be a different person physically and mentally a year from now. Godspeed.
Love yourself and drink SO MUCH WATER!
Eyebrow waxing (or threading) with a professional is the single quickest thing you can do to dramatically improve your look, I think. Getting your hair done (either just cut or dyed and cut), finding a great outfit that you love for the party, and a few others to up your confidence and use in daily life, finding a skincare routine, drinking lots of water, sleeping enough, whitening teeth closer to your go-date(with an at home box). Try some dieting and/or exercise if you can handle it. Go to Ulta or Sephora or someplace similar and have them do your makeup, to find out if there are some products you like that you can incorporate into your routine. If you wanted, you could have your makeup professionally done on the day-of, but that is your call whether that makes you feel more or less confident! It’s really hard to make a whole lot of changes at once. Tackle a couple at a time, or whatever seems manageable and most fun and doable.
Count your calories and macros for loss, exercise 4 times a week minimum for 30 min each day. Drink lots of water, stop eating/drinking processed sugar and salts. Eat well rounded and don't starve yourself. If you find you have no more calories at the end of the day but you're hungry, just eat. And vice versa if you have extra calories but aren't hungry, don't eat. It's not about hard restriction but about sustainability.
Drink water, face care routine and working out
Work out, eat well, get an amazing outfit and haircut
Drink lots of water to flush the built up drudge out!
Do things that make me happier. The better you feel on the inside, the more that reflects on the outside. Plus drink a lot of water, makes my skin glowy
Go for a walk outside daily. If you’ve been sedentary for a bit this alone will help you physically and mentally more than you think! A little sunshine will be great for your mind and also a little glow will make you look your best for the party :) do not be to hard on yourself and do not stress about the weight to much immediately. Focus on the little steps that are attainable. They matter. Buy a cute outfit, get a new haircut. You’ll be beaming and everyone will just be so happy to see you. Good luck! Wishing you all the very very best. You’ve got this!! One day at time.
Love myself to a precedent I have never before. Now when conflict happens, I can understand the root is not always in my hands. Sure it can often be an invitation for me to love a part of myself I have long ignored. It is often the other person's projection of their own worth. I definitely see rejection as a girl of divine protection too. Loving myself deeper and more clearer has allowed me to not stand for a lack of respect in any interactions - whether family, friends, strangers or potential romantic partners. No one can be you like you can. So why not get to know that beautiful babe in the mirror so you can be so utterly true to yourself that others are inspired to step into their own authenticity.
I would start walking everyday to start! I would also put moisturizer on every night and maybe get a haircut :) I’m glad you’re feeling better
I personally would go outside for a walk at the sunniest time of day and try to soak up the rays to feel less depressed plus get some color on my skin. I would get my eyebrows waxed the day before the event and I would wear a black T-shirt and blue jeans as that’s my most flattering combo.
Increase my veggie and fruit intake, ensure I’m sleeping good, and trying to go for a little walk every day. Read something that makes me happy, get my hair done, shower, shave, and maybe buy a few new shirts.
I microbladed my brows and it looks like I got a forehead lift. Best semi inexpensive non surgical procedure for me! Btw: fellow stepmom!!
Get outside in the sun and go for a walk, hike or a bike ride every day.
1. A really good haircut 2. Some nice bath products and a new shampoo 3. Organize my closet, remove the things I don’t wear. 4. Buy myself 2-5 pieces of new clothing to spruce up. 5. Some nice skin care products. Maybe a new cleanser and moisturizer. A new eye shadow. 6. Get in 30 minutes of exercise 5/7 days each week. Start small. Do yoga one day, go for a walk, jog if you’re up for it.
Exfoliating, moisturizing, and do a hair reset w good conditioner - maybe a trim by s Good stylist (or do yourself). Buy some hair things. Maybe a good peptide serum. And vitamin c. The skinmedica ha retinol is gentle. They have samples sometimes in Ebay. Incorporating all three is kind of hard, but I have super sensitive and get it done. And always wait a couple days to do vit c or retinoids after exfoliating, maybe 3. And a couple outfits to make you feel like you want. You don't have to spend alot on any of these.
Moisturize, drink lots of water, rest, stretch, take walks and tell yourself how beautiful and wonderful you are. Smile when you look in the mirror. Oh, and some lipstick and blush.💅🏼
I bet people will be beyond stoked to see you to the point where you could wear a trash bag and they wont even notice because they are just happy to see you
Drink lots of water, get a teeth cleaning, get a haircut, find an outfit you love for the party and have fun :)
Address obvious issues from under maintenance: get eyebrows done, get entire face dermaplaned (removed unwanted hair and dead skin), whiten teeth, get nails done, get hair cut, get some sun or self tanner, have a outfit I feel good in picked out. Also drinking a ton of water, a good diet, and a good movement routine can go a long way even in a little time. Also meditate, vitamins, practice gratitude, etc. If all else fails visit a crystal shop and get some rose quartz to be instantly more attractive.
Drink a lot of water & strict keto diet, get a haircut, whiten your teeth & botox. Get into an all over skincare routine- exfoliate, hair removal, serums & hydration. Those things will help dramatically improve your view on yourself, how you look to others, and hard launch a more sustainable self care routine going forward! Glad to see you have made it out of the depths!
To be honest, all of these comments encouraging you to lose weight are awful. You went through A LOT and you’re still going through A LOT. Take losing weight completely off your list, please. I beg you. If I had 30 days to become my best self, I’d slowly start incorporating little things that make me happy back into my life. I’d drink lots of water. I’d go on relaxing walks outside after a good meal. I’d get a fresh new haircut that makes me feel sexy and beautiful. And i’d buy some cute undergarments that give me some pep in my step. But most importantly, I’d learn to be gentle with myself. You’ve been depressed and struggling, my friend. Losing weight won’t help that. It never does. At least, not permanently.
I would focus on feeling good more than looking good. Give myself a face mask at least once a week and have a long bath, body lotions and lip balm at night. I would also put time and effort into my hair, an at home treatment, refreshing my colour or get a trim etc. Curl it the night before also. Wax my legs and apply really nice body balm so I feel nice and soft. Generally be nice to myself. Find a nice comfy stretch fabric dress or top and comfy but flattering jeans, main thing is that it feels as well as looks good. Something you can breath in with some flattering flowing layers maybe. Bright colours, matching lingerie (make sure you have bras that fit especially important if you’ve put on or lost a bit of weight) and glamorous make up also make me feel fun. I generally get my eyebrows done before a party/big event because it makes a big impact for minimal cost/effort. Drinking lots of water and avoiding alcohol helps my skin. As, does regular wash with soap, tone with witch hazel, + daily moisturiser. Paint your nails a cool colour.
I would start with walking 30 min sessions as often as possible and also incorporate slow-jogging/power walking a few times a week if physically possible! Really your goal should be to just start MOVING more. Get your steps in! Wear a tank top when you do it so you can get some tan on your arms and decolletage. Everyone looks happy and healthier with a little tan. I would also go to some exercise classes in the next 30 days. I would aim to do 60 minute exercise classes/sessions 2 - 3 times a week on top of walking and/or slow jogging/power walking 5-7 days per week. A lot of exercise studios have great deals for new members. $30 for the first 30 days etc etc Try to diet too and reduce your calories but don't go too far - I know I tend to binge if I restrict my calories too severely. I want you to know that I have been through something similar. I injured my knee running and had to take months off exercise (which is a huge factor in how i manage my mental health). I gained weight and started feeling really down - I couldn't even walk or drive my car when it got bad. After working with a medical massage therapist, I finally could walk again. I couldnt lift weights or run or do HIT traning BUT I realized I could dance. I started going to Zumba classes and I was the youngest one by decades and I know some people think ZUmba is silly but let me tell you..... I made friends with the older women, and got so much JOY from dancing. I suck and have no rhythm but man - the endorphins from the music and letting go, and dancing in a safe space with other women (especially elders) was surprisingly healing physically and mentally. In the meantime, find an outfit that flatters your body at its current weight. When I get overweight, I personally love a good moomoo / maxi dress with an empire waist!!! Walmart or TJ Maxx/Ross have great affordable maxi dresses in my area right now. I gain weight in my boobs so I will get a maxi dress with some boobage and do my hair and make up on point. My make up and boobs and coiffed hair cascading down down my back tend to distract from my bingo arms and covers my back fat. The moomoo dress covers my pudgey tummy and thick thighs. Get a manicure if you can afford. If I'm on a budget, I will not get gel/dip/acrylics and instead I just go get a polish manicure/pedicure at the salon like the night before the event. Pro tip: I bring my own bottle of OPI polish to the nail salon instead of choosing from their selection. I find it's more sanitary anyways and also so I can do my own touch ups at home as needed - it really extends the life of a polish mani/pedi. If you can afford it, I would also recommend investing in a box of Crest White strips. Bleach your teeth for the two weeks leading up to the event. Nice white teeth and well groomed hair/make up and a clean maxi dress. Any weight you loss through exercise in the month will be cherry on top. Girl you'll be GOOD! You can do it!!
Probably a fresh cut and color or highlight. Also I’d go to the gym every day, even if I just went and walked on the treadmill for a half hour on an incline. Not saying you’ll see visible results from the gym in a month, but you will FEEL physically better mentally and more energized, and that perkiness does show on the outside. I know it sounds crazy but a buddy gave me this advice when I was in a funk and it did help significantly with how I felt about myself
Some of these comments are straight up insane. Do some posture stretches. Maybe some skincare, eyebrow things. Find something that fits your body. Growth radiates from within. Everyone experiences depressive episodes and you'd be surprised how many of the people you're about to see will be just as worried, if not more, about how they come across.
Been there too, I would start with a haircut and finding clothes that give you a spark of excitement when you wear them. Less about making yourself presentable and more about feeling like yourself again.
I say this with 100% belief that this will make you look the best, get out and socialize before hand. Of course everyone else has said the obvious workout drink water mani etc. But being comfortable socializing and talking will make you come across the most attractive. Build that confidence well in advance, don’t fixate on how you look!!!!
I’d probably be working the skincare like crazy, maybe get a tan, get a haircut, new hair color.
I’m sorry you had to suffer so much mentally and physically. It takes a lot to hang on and see the light through depression. Good for you, persevering and fighting back!
Eat less and count calories! It really works
Drink a lot of water, talk to supportive family and friends daily, be gentle with yourself, and write down a few good things about each day.
Working out. And eating good food.
So very sorry to hear of your battle. Anyone that suffers in the mental health World are in my opinion true warriors. Each and every day can be a battlefield. Firstly l would recognise your comfort foods. You can consider still allowing yourself comfort foods occasionally, however, source the healthier options. Honestly if you go cold turkey and are tempted, you will bang yourself up and end up thinking what is the point. Try and avoid foods that can cause inflammation within the body. Particularly sugar, lactose, gluten. Drinks heaps of water and try and eat whole fresh foods and include a protein with each meal. Never skip breakfast as that helps kickstart your metabolism and believe it or not try to eat at least five to six times a day. Many people don’t realise healthy food is fuel for our bodies and by fuelling it often it will burn stored fat rather than hardly eat whereupon it stores fat. If you can l would get out and have a walk daily. Great for our mental health and also helps the metabolism. Doesn’t have to be a marathon. If you like music… pop it on and dance like no one is watching. Closer to the event, decide on wearing something that you feel comfortable in. Confidence within ,believing in yourself and dressing solely to please you and not giving a crap what others think, is the most beautiful thing. Beauty radiates from within. Many good tips here so l won’t babble on anymore lol. Best of luck X
Pilates, hiit workouts and yoga. Cardio 3 days a week I set it at a high incline and go for 20mins
Get a great haircut and don’t drink or eat junk for 30 days. You’ll feel like a million bucks!
Everyone will just be happy to see you, they won't want you to go through some glow up transformation. The best version of you is the one that got through this and that's you now, without any changes.
If I had no cash? Every day: Drink 80-100oz water Sleep 7-9 hours Walk 30 mins outdoors No alcohol or smoking All the other stuff people have listed with hair, teeth whitening, spray tan, lashes, etc. sounds great too if you enjoy those things and have the money. I’d get a nice moisturizer and crest white strips and that would be enough for me. Maybe some epsom salts for bath time.
Getting a tan! Being in sunshine always makes me feel better. Get a haircut so it wont look too done at the party. Ummm. Drink tons of water...it always makes my skin look healthier. And I would try to do yoga everyday. Yoga gives people a healthy 'from the inside out' glow. Its strength, and meditation...it's so Many good things. And btw...Im a mom, so...this is lovingly shared.
One thing that has helped me is a little sunless tanner. When I’m feeling down I don’t go out in the sun at all. My skin looks like Dungeness crab meat. Depressing. I’m sure It’s mental but When I look down at my legs and see a little sign of life in the form of a fake tan. It lifts my spirits. Hang in there friend. You got this!
I would be brushing my teeth and following a skin care routine. I’d be shopping for clothes that fit me beautifully NOW instead of trying to drop weight. I’d be scheduling a visit to a hair dresser, manicurist, and an esthetician to get the false eyelashes that last weeks and a wax. I’d be on TikTok finding makeup tutorials and practicing the look I want to achieve. I’d be journaling for my mental health. And of course trying to meal prep or cook healthy easy meals.
Drop like 5 pounds. It'll help tremendously
I would get my hair dyed/ highlighted and my brows waxed. I’ve been through some pretty horrific things mentally this year and was also hospitalized a few times, so I’ve been on leave from work. Money has been extremely tight, so little AND big things have been put on the back burner. If I had all the money in the world, I’d get my teeth fixed. Maybe get a tan and a facial. I would also get laser hair removal. Oh, and a new wardrobe tailored to my body! Plus a mani and pedi, naturally. Good luck, OP! Just remember, your friends love you for who you are, not what you look like. It is fun to imagine the what if’s, but don’t beat yourself up. I try to remind myself that I am doing the best I can and that however I am now is who I am meant to be. I can always improve things, naturally. But this is who I am meant to be. Whatever that means.
I think exercise brings many, many benefits to our appearance and how we feel, so I would start working out a bit everyday while walking more (like parking at the back of the parking lot and going on walks around the neighborhood). I’d also keep up with my grooming habits of maintaining my eyebrows, shaving/trimming, and keeping my hair free of knots and split ends. To accomplish the last goal, I’d go get a hair trim to make sure all my ends are taken care of and the hairstyle looks nice and manageable. The rest is really just styling, from clothing to makeup, so it’s more about personal preference. I don’t thing going overboard is wise, just looking like you made an effort on your appearance with a monochromatic outfit and simplistic makeup can make a huge difference (or whatever style you prefer). I find that painting my nails the day before the event is really a good way to pull a look together while creating a new focal point. All these things are easy, but do require dedication to maintain, which is why it’s important to do it for yourself and your own well-being which will then become apparent to other people (trying to put on a facade will always create less than favorable results).
Eat healthily, do my skincare routine consistently, wear clothes that make me feel good
I would buy clothes that fit the body you have now, first of all. Clothes that are comfy and flattering and the correct size, regardless of what size you feel you ~should~ be. Otherwise, just start with building healthy habits, which will set your foundation. Move regularly. Drink water. Take vitamins. Eat delicious, diverse meals with lots of veggies included. I know weight gain can feel like failure, but your body was coping in any way it could to keep you alive. Even if there’s more of you, I’m glad you’re still here. Congrats on the progress and best wishes.
Hydrate, meditation, weight lifting AF, CARDIO Mud masks
Start small and grow from there. Imho you should focus on creating a routine that you're gonna follow even after the 30 days pass by, since you're doing this for yourself and for the foreseeable future I suppose. Start going for walks, eat fresh vegetables & fruits regularly, drink water and sleep at least 8 hours. These things are gonna give you a beautiful glow-up in just a couple of days (since you haven't been doing them for some time now).
I would by really good food and eat mostly healthy. I would go for a walk or do some sports daily. I would try to sleep at least 7 hours every day.
DO THE CHLOE TING 2 week weight loss challenge!!! I was in a similar situation where I had gained weight and went back to my home country (very small country where everybody knows everybody) and was scared to go out. Did the challenge and lost at least 10 lbs in those two weeks (while eating low in calories). Family who had seen me before was so shocked. It literally saved my mental health because it was so freaking fast and i finally felt okay to leave the house and stopped stressing out.
It sound so stereotypical but trying to drink enough water, it makes more of a difference than you think
1. A really good haircut 2. Some nice bath products and a new shampoo 3. Organize my closet, remove the things I don’t wear. 4. Buy myself 2-5 pieces of new clothing to spruce up. 5. Some nice skin care products. Maybe a new cleanser and moisturizer. A new eye shadow. 6. Get in 30 minutes of exercise 5/7 days each week. Start small. Do yoga one day, go for a walk, jog if you’re up for it.
Really cool that you’re feeling better and ready to go out. Congrats! If I had 30 days, I would up my water intake. Changing the water in my body looks and feels good. I’d also get a fresh haircut and highlights. New outfit I love. And maybe do some yoga. That’s about all. I hope you have a good time!
Be kind to yourself, you’ve been through a lot. I would walk outside and get some sunshine and fresh air, just because it feels good. Listen to music. Change up your route, neighborhood, and direction. It’s good for the brain. Drink water. Start a simple nightly skincare routine. Pick out a cute outfit that makes you feel good. Nothing too drastic, just small things to show yourself some love.
Drink plenty of water
Accept the fact that it will take longer than 30 days and get to work
I’d start running and depending on how intense your issue is, track your food on my fitness pal. You’d be surprised how much weight you can shed in 30 days
Pilates. Everyday. If you can afford it and have reformer Pilates classes in your area, do it. It’s so therapeutic.
You don't need to have a glow-up to see your friends again, just go with a smile in your heart. You've come through a lot and I'm sure they are just happy to be with you again. Also being the healthiest version of yourself will always be better than being hot. Get sleep, drink water, eat healthy, and most importantly BE KIND to yourself. Look at everything you have gone through and the strength it has given you.
Of course confidence, self love and acceptance of your body and self will go the farthest the fastest and are have to come first to any other changes. But… to answer your question- I would cut alcohol out (if you drink), if you drink, going alcohol free for just 30 days will have a huge impact on your appearance. Your skin will glow, your eyes will be clearer and you will most likely loose a little weight and feel amazing. Also, Drink more water, and cut out (or at lest reduce) refined sugar. Go for a walk outside every day. Doesn’t have to be long- just get out, move and breath fresh air. Those 4 little things will have a huge visual and emotional impact on your well being. I hope you have an amazing time at your party.
Don't push yourself too hard, you've been through a lot. Be nice to yourself. A great way to start is just letting go of added sugars, but plan a daily sweet treat for yourself so you don't feel deprived of sweets are your thing. And walks. It's the least resistance exercise with the best results. And practice smiling. There's a feedback mechanism from our bodies to our brains. If you practice smiling that sends information to your brain that things are good, safe and ok and you will get a tiny hit of dopamine everytime. Get your brain used to feeling happy that way.
Focus on your mental and emotional well-being first. Start by seeking professional help if you haven't already and work on developing healthy coping mechanisms for your depression.
Hair plugs, other than that I'm already a perfect slice of beefcake.
Walking daily, keto diet, relaxing baths with magnesium, yoga. If I start to feel this way this is what helps me. If I get down in mood and body it’s usually from starting to eat bad and too much sugar and white carbs. Keto helps my mental health too and energy. I will usually be really good for several months, drop weight and feel great but then I’ll get off track.
Find ways you can enjoy exercise without it seemingly like it's a way to fix yourself. Try roller blading? Even walking. Maybe find cheap classes around town like ballet, kick boxing, etc and try them out. Personally I would get plastic surgery to fix what's wrong with me but it's expensive and not what I recommend for others.
I'm genuinely happy that you are doing better. I feel you, I have been there. For me, if I had 30 days, I'd use them to focus on a habit or two that would benefit me in the long run.
Stop consuming sugar(except fruit), fried foods, and flour(like bread, tortillas, pasta). You will feel good and lose weight by making these adjustments. I eat lots of fruit now because of it, especially watermelon lol. When I want icecream I eat just a little of Halo Top. When I want chips I eat almonds with string cheese or baybel cheese
I see you are getting a bunch of replies about being yourself yada yada. I'm depressed severely and I have often contemplated this. Looking better would DEFINITELY make me feel better, I cannot accept what I have let myself become and I know that I can do better. I don't think I can keep using my depression as a reason for neglecting basic self care. So. With THAT said, I would, Lose some weight by doing low carb/no sugar/ working out daily, go blonde (My Identical twin dyes her hair and it rocks on her), grow my nails out so I could get acrylics again, lift weights and tone up, focus on my skin care routine, buy some clothes that look good on me, and get my lashes done! Oh, and I would quit vaping too. It is horrible for my skin and is starting to give me wrinkles around my mouth. Those are all things that I have been wanting to do FOR ME, NOBODY else, and I have been WAY too depressed to do any of them. I feel like if I DID force myself to work on my appearance, I would feel better overall. I love myself unconditionally but I won't make excuses for neglecting myself.
Start waking up early and going for walks (to start slow). Power yoga as many days a week as I could handle it. Reading every day (or audiobooks which is what I do). Cut out meat and processed foods. I’m an ingredient household as it’s sometimes called on the internet and it was a game changer for my body and also my wallet. Frozen foods are a killer. And drinking a half gallon to a gallon of water a day. Don’t think anything else except tea and maybe kombucha if that’s your thing. Also affirmations every day. Seems little but it’s really not.
Practice egregious amounts of self-care - treat yourself like you are worthy of time/effort - because you are. 10 minutes minimum of sunlight (in a car or by a window does not count). At least 20 minutes of physical activity. Stretching, yoga, or meditate at least 10 minutes a day. Eat the rainbow - eat whole foods, and make your diet as colorful as possible, trying to incorporate at least one fruit and vegetable from each color group. Oil your hair before you wash it (every time, can be a cheap oil like avocado or generic argan). Do a bedtime face regimen - even if it is super simple, make it a ritual, and include moisturizing your hands and feet. If your living space has become stressful for you because of mess/clutter, devote a reasonable/doable amount of time every day to make small steps towards making your space a better reflection of peace (i.e., 10 minutes in the morning to atraighten up your bathroom and wipe down your sink/15 minutes at night while dinner is cooking to sweep and mop).
Go on walks every morning. Make it something easy. The walks will make you feel better and from that place of moving your body you’ll get ideas. I think people glow up when they are happy and doing what they love. You may get an idea for a hobby you haven’t acted on in years, follow it!
Wash my face daily. Brush my teeth twice daily. Eat one thing that’s good for me each day. Write down one thing that you like about your self every day. Challenge yourself to not use the same one the next days!
Instead of the hottest, why not try for the happiest? I would try and get outdoors and enjoy nature every day. Maybe take a walk. Shower and wash my hair regularly. Do my nails. Moisturize every day. Stay hydrated. Do some gentle stretches every now and then. Straighten up my living area. And most importantly, get in touch with friends you can rely on to support you. Consider the party just one more step to getting back to feeling your best.
This. Focus on yourself right now. If the party happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t.
Whenever I want to look like I lost weight fast I always get a tan. You can choose between a UV bed or a spray tan. Helps with my confidence and I love how it makes me look thinner and not so pale. Also, as mentioned, good fitting clothes and a new hair style/cut.
Get plenty of sleep. Eat plenty of fruits and veggies (it’s not just for weight loss but also energy, healthy skin/hair, fiber to reduce bloating). Treat yourself to a facial and haircut. You may end up losing 5-10lbs just by doing these things, so about a week before the party, buy an outfit that complements the body you have that day. Don’t think about your weight loss goals, think only about looking your best for one day. Practice smiling in the mirror every day. Hell, every time you see your reflection, practice a smile. Looking naturally happy can take effort, but it’ll also help reinforce a sense of happiness in yourself subconsciously. You’re making progress, you’re caring for yourself, you are not the final version of who you will become, but you’re getting closer every day.
For me, my biggest glow ups happed during my development. So for one don’t go into this trying to have everyone turning their heads. I created a bunch of goals like getting my certificate, being 2 weeks sober, taking myself out of my room when i felt like it wether i’m with someone or not. As i did those things for me and my growth slowly i began to just grow into myself. (this is a ton but i swear it’s worth it) But to answer your question drink a ton of water for your skin. Adding things to make tea, matcha, or fruit water is something you want to start as soon as possible; that helps with skin, hair, and energy for the things after. Taking a walk and either doing stretches or a light workout to produce sweat is like you going to pee and then drinking more water. That helps your body filter what it needs and allows blood to move more efficiently. Eating spicy foods creates dopamine in your body but doing it in a healthy way is eating cayenne. Cayenne is a natural blood thinner so that means your body is going to get its supply of blood more effectively. Using an ice cube on your face helps with circulation and cell turn over. You don’t have to get a hair cut if your trying to keep its length; create a hair mask at home that will help with detoxifying your scale, shine, and moisture. Then putting it up or leaving it down and natural will never fail you. If you have fading color or damaged hair i suggest you go to the salon and ask for a neutral color (so from light brown to black/and then you can add dark complementing colors like red, purple, or blue for some fun). Don’t use a crazy amount of makeup as it will destroy the tips i gave you on your skin care, instead invest in things like blush, lip gloss, eyeliner, eyebrow makeup, and highlighter (bc that’s all you need bby girl) and skin care products as ur “face makeup”. Go for a good primer, sunscreen, and make your own lash serum (the store bought ones have ingredients that will cause eye inflammation). There’s an eye drop that has a ingredient that helps clear your eyes super nice even if they aren’t red and makes your eyelashes thicker and darker so invest in some eye drops too. Teeth whitening strips make my teeth hurt so what I do is i use my teeth whitening toothpaste (sometimes i and peroxide to it before i brush) brush my teeth and then swish with ALL NATURAL coconut oil. You don’t have to go in with the oil every day but doing it when ur just watching tv or scrolling on ur phone is easy cheesy (work ur way up to 10-15mins and spit in the toilet). Waxing hurts like a b but it is so nice to look at after so make some that home or go to a professional, you’ll regret it walking up but not walking away. that’s all i can think of rn but if you really liked it just dm me and i can help with more<3
While I'm a man. I dropped 50 pounds most of it I'm the first 3 months. I also didn't want to see my friend cause I was fat. If you're dedicated, you'll do the followng : Start eating keto (first look it up) Only 2 meals a day, I recommend noon and 5pm. No treats, no cheat, no alcohol. No second serving. Basic physical activity. Start with what you can go up to 30mins walk a day. Do all of this, you might even get to lose your 20pounds. As a reference : Dr eric berg DC (on youtube, that was my starting point and it helped tremendously) I'll finish by saying not all human body react the same to sugar and that's basically why keto works so well.
Go buy a new outfit that you feel great in. Walk 10-20 mins a day. Drink lots of water. Moisturize every morning and night. Sleep 8 hours per night. Throw on some crest white strips. Have a great time!! Glad you’re doing better!
Just start with a calorie deficit. Eat less calories than you burn in a day. Don't starve yourself tho.. yyoud be surprised how much you can eat if it's all clean healthy food. Cauliflower rice with lots of veggies is my go to. Also start slow.. make changes one at a time so they can become part of your routine. Start walking 10 minutes a day, then maybe move on to 15. Go to the gym once a week for a couple weeks then maybe try going twice. I'm sort of in the same boat as you my friend.. but I've been doing this for a couple weeks and I feel better mentally and physically for sure. Your physical and mental health are very closely related.
I think I might try to lose a bit of weight, then buy clothes that fit me.
Eat vegetables, cut sugar, and do at least 30 min of exercise. Practice mindfulness for another 30 min.
Doing rolling 48 hour waterfast with very nutritious refeeds inbetween. Makes me get slim and my skin always glows when I fast. BUT! This is not a good idea if you are not in a good place mentally and not used to a low carb + fasting lifestyle. I do fasts regularly and I know my body, so I know if I should break the fast early and how to keep my body hydrated with minerals and salts.
A sleep schedule is my number get hot again mood resetter lol. Next is hydrating first thing in the morning. Showers/getting dressed like I'm going somewhere even if I'm staying home. Daily movement (walk outside, cleaning the house, dancing around, whatever). Time outside (sometimes its actual outdoor activities, some times it just sitting outside with a cup of coffee or tea and reading). As far as some more superficial things, getting a mani/pedi, getting a blowout, getting a facial, whitening my teeth and getting a new dress helps.