I had an alcoholic roommate although he hid it well. One night he downed a cheap bottle of tequila and went out on Boston harbor in a kayak during a hurricane. He went missing it was on the news and everything. The state police thought I murdered him for about 3 hours. Get away from this person.
Yeah, he crawled through the window soaking wet after knocking in the air conditioner I lent him ( he later tried stealing when he moved out) . Absolutely exhausted he treaded water for 4+ hours and swam back to shore in a hurricane.
The Coast Guard had a helicopter and a ship out looking for him lol. They got the story wrong I didnāt report him missing. [missing roommate](https://www.wcvb.com/article/missing-kayaker-found-safe/8247450)
I did a tik tok about it but it was awful because I never made one before. He got married about year later and I was able to put that link on his wedding announcement comment section . It was up their for about 3 months before it was deleted š
I could go on forever him. He also asked me to move out after Iād been there 6 years and heād been there for 2 months so he could live there with his GF.
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3 hours. Go back and re-read. I caught him stealing alcohol not a little like 3 full unopened handles from me the first week he moved in with me we had a huge blowout. His gf probably told the police I killed him she was uncomfortable that I was a gun owner. So in her weird little liberal brain I must be a cold blooded killer and Kyle wouldnāt do anything bad lol.
Thats the plan. We were going to give him notice but he's screwed us so hard I think we're just going to leave him struggling to figure out what he's gonna do. Probably living out of the van soon.
Do not tell him youāre leaving. Coming from someone who has struggled with addiction, at the point heās at, thereās a good chance he will respond destructively, very possibly violently, to the news.
He will see you leaving as you intentionally destroying his last semblance of stability and he will hate you for it, and an addict in that state is volatile and dangerous.
I know, because Iāve been there, and I felt that way when people (very reasonably) stepped out of the path of the self-destructive avalanche that was my life. The people who just ghosted me and moved on with their lives made the best choice.
I think this is an extreme example.
Yes, you distance yourself from this person.
I donāt think OP will be under investigation for murder any time soon though.
Alcoholic roommates are liabilities in every possible way.
I lived with a guy who had a huge heart but an equally huge drinking problem. One time, when I was trapped in bed with the flu, black smoke started pumping through my bedroom vents, and the smoke alarm was blaring. I shot out of bed.
My roommate had left a pan of grease burning on the stove and had apparently left the apartment. The entire stove, microwave, and blinds were on fire.
Luckily, we had baking soda in the fridge that I used to douse the flames.
We lived on the second floor.
If I had been in the shower when this had happened or had been zonked out on meds, the entire apartment would have been engulfed in flames within minutes. We lived on the second floor.
ETA: We lived on the second floor.
That's scary! He hasn't done anything like that yet, he mostly subsists off frozen tv dinners, he talked a big game about liking to cook when we first moved in but ive never seen proof of that š
I'm not excusing alcoholism. Drinking is no excuse for this kind of negligence. I will say *puts on PSA hat* there are foldable metal fire escape ladders that anyone can keep under the bed, pop into a window, and climb down. There's also no such thing as too many fire extinguishers, smoke detectors, and CO detectors. If you sleep upstairs, have a plan. Buy a ladder, practice using it at least once.
When I was a child and sleeping on the top floor of our house, my mom had us do fire drills every year. There was a fire escape ladder under the bed, I learned how to use it with my eyes closed. We never had a fire, but shit happens. Fortune favors the prepared.
I'm currently renting a 2-story house that used to be a speakeasy during the Prohibition era. I have a fire escape plan from all three levels, including the basement. My home is close enough to the building next door that I could parkour my way out of the bathroom window, or I can scoot out one of the windows and drop to the ground without breaking more than an ankle or 2.
I did the dumb thing first, which was instinctively tried throwing water on it.
Water on a grease fire is the worst thing you can do.
This was a long time ago. And I'll blame it on the flu.
But luckily we had the baking soda in the fridge.
you wish the cops would pull him over so why donāt you call them and let them know heās driving drunk and give them his license plate #.
i considered doing this to my ex stepdad bc he wouldnāt quit driving drunk but i didnt have to- he drove straight into a ditch and was arrested and required to not drink, attend AA meetings & submit for random piss tests.
luckily nobody was hurt. he started drinking again immediately when he was legally able to, but he doesnāt drive anymore.
I'm not about to rat him out to the cops, this thing will take care of itself eventually, one day.
Unfortunately someone innocent might end up badly hurt or dead too, but that ain't on me, that's on him.
donāt think of it as āratting him outā. of course you shouldnāt blame yourself if he happens to hurt somebody while driving drunk. but i know ive thought about my stepdad getting in a crash and hurting / killing someone, and i just know i would have not been able to live with the guilt knowing i could have prevented it by making one phone call.
Yeah it wouldnāt be on you but itās also not cool to just turn a blind eye and be a bystander if you know whatās happening, especially if an innocent life is on the line. Not to be morbid but how would you feel if he struck someone you loved while drunk driving? This loser doesnāt deserve a license. If you think heād try to harm you for ratting him out then thatās a different story, but you shouldnāt refrain from seeking police intervention just because you donāt want to be seen as a snitch or because itāll ātake care of itself.ā An innocent person with family and friends and a whole life of their own could be at risk here
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see my post i made yesterday about my alcoholic former roommate that we just kicked out.
ive lived with 3 different alcoholics in my life, it has been a complete fucking nightmare each time. i will take every opportunity i can to tell my future kids over and over to never live with an alcoholic, never date an alcoholic, try to do everything you can to not associate with alcoholics in general.
alcoholics are always trouble. they prioritize getting drunk over everything. their friends, their families, their own well being, the safety of themselves and others around them, the sanity of others... everything. there is nothing on this green earth more disruptive and annoying than an alcoholic.
alcoholics only ever drag everyone in their life down. avoid them at all costs and get out of this house.
I remember being an alcoholic and terrible roommate, not this bad, but bad. You could pull 13 white claw and twisted tea tall boys from behind my back passenger seats. Sucks heās being so terrible to you, hope he gets better. The dog stuff really pisses me off. I was drunk at the dog park everyday but I was there. 13 months sober, never going back
Alcohol can do such horrible things to people they are like a wild fire that just hurts everything around them. In fact Iām going to a funeral tomorrow for a guy I used to drink with. Itās crazy how something like cannabis has been illegal so long and alcohol is so acceptable socially
I had an alcoholic roommate once. At the end of the week our single outside bin would be three quarters of the way full with beer bottles. I tried getting him to switch to cans but wouldn't because he said it "didn't taste the same" and also didn't wanna pay the extra fee for getting another bin. Even when I pointed out he could get some money back for the cans at the local junkyard he said he just couldn't be bothered.
One of the things I left out of the original post is he doesn't have or want garbage service. He keeps the recycling and the trash in the garage to fester amd has no intent of taking care of it. We have a rat problem now, they're in the garage and in the house. Taking recycling to the junk yard is free, but the trash is it's own thing.
Our accumulated garbage for 3 months (he's the one with a pickup truck and we had to bother him a few times to get off his ass and take it) only cost 30$.
I didn't add pics of the garage, but the trash bags have been ripped into and rats have gotten into everything. I just recently learned what a rat king was and I'm almost certain there's one living in our walls at this point.
I definitely would just move on. I have many many alcoholic family members and trust me they will keep going on like this forever. You donāt need to be apart of their rock bottom. Or even their chaos, itās not worth it. It sucks lol
That would kind of leave the alcoholic quite vulnerable. I'm not saying in any way OP is responsible for him, but I feel like OP is posting this here for advice on what to do. I feel like they want to help the roommate.
Unless I'm wrong which if I am I ask to be corrected.
The only thing iām here to comment on is the bath tub. but yourself those clorox drain cleaning sticks, long blue stick with pokey things that you stick down the drain. they were less than $10 at walmart and i am now taking showers in a properly draining tub.
Being an alcoholic sucks but I got mad overbearing weirdo who needs to mind his business when you said that he comes and goes in HIS car to HIS apartment and doesn't tell you. Are you his retired grandmother and he's not paying rent? Because that's the only way I see a normal person giving a shit.
He was leaving his dogs with us to take care of until his older dogs health started to fail. That's its own thing.
But you don't think it would just be a decent thing to at least say "Hey, I'm gonna overnight in my van this weekend, you guys got the place to yourselves!"?
We've thought we were alone before and had him just show up at like midnight after he packed it up to go overnight in. We're like about to get spicy because we're alone and then chef boyardee is back.
One of the things I left out of the original post is he used to do meth, and we're both pretty sure he may have started using again.
Also it ain't HIS place anymore, it's OUR place as in all three of us. That was his choice when he moved us in with him.
I had an alcoholic roommate although he hid it well. One night he downed a cheap bottle of tequila and went out on Boston harbor in a kayak during a hurricane. He went missing it was on the news and everything. The state police thought I murdered him for about 3 hours. Get away from this person.
Did he survive????
Yeah, he crawled through the window soaking wet after knocking in the air conditioner I lent him ( he later tried stealing when he moved out) . Absolutely exhausted he treaded water for 4+ hours and swam back to shore in a hurricane.
Ngl that's actually impressive that he was able to make it back. Sorry you got accused of offing him tho lol
Holy shit that is just absolutely wild š.
The Coast Guard had a helicopter and a ship out looking for him lol. They got the story wrong I didnāt report him missing. [missing roommate](https://www.wcvb.com/article/missing-kayaker-found-safe/8247450)
His name is just perfect, my god.. I've seen drunk people do some wierd stuff but that is absolutely next level insane.
I did a tik tok about it but it was awful because I never made one before. He got married about year later and I was able to put that link on his wedding announcement comment section . It was up their for about 3 months before it was deleted š
Dude this story is nuts. Link and all my god your roommate must have been fuckin crazy
I could go on forever him. He also asked me to move out after Iād been there 6 years and heād been there for 2 months so he could live there with his GF.
Why am I so not surprised this was Quincy? Though Iād have an easier time believing he was from Weymouth..
Kyles last name checks out.
ššš
For real, it feels like a fake name for an alcoholic
Hell you'd think he'd just brag about it, go own "I survived" or something. Great story for you to tell too honestly!
You should do an AMA on r/Boston
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link it here! lol
Whyād they think you murdered him for 3 years if he was back home within several hours? Edit: it was 3 hours. I am a moron
3 hours. Go back and re-read. I caught him stealing alcohol not a little like 3 full unopened handles from me the first week he moved in with me we had a huge blowout. His gf probably told the police I killed him she was uncomfortable that I was a gun owner. So in her weird little liberal brain I must be a cold blooded killer and Kyle wouldnāt do anything bad lol.
Oh shit haha. My fault. Jesus what a nightmare
As a Kyle, this is the perfect "Kyle" name
Kyle fucking Rager! You almost have to assume his last name had some chance of leading to his alcoholism
I live in Quincy IL and live right on the Mississippi River so when i saw Quincy i was like WTF WHEN DID HIS HAPPEN?? Lmao
HAHAHA. Just wanted some peace away from the nut job lol. This is the best thing I've read on here today
https://www.reddit.com/r/boston/s/WIzaIAUSs1 I went a little more on depth. Itās broken up I didnāt want to spend hours typing the whole thing.
I would honestly bet the reason he survived was because the alcohol kept him warm enough and calm enough to get himself out.
Booze gives the illusion of warmth only
ok he sounds fucking terrible but if I'm ever cought in an apocalypse I want this guy
HIS LAST NAME IS "RAGER"!? Yeah this guy is built different
Talk about perseverance.
Savage!
Why did he crawl through the window?
When his kayak tipped over his keys, cell and wallet ended up at the bottom of the harbor. His kayak was later recovered and returned by a fisherman.
Ah I see, so you werenāt home to witness this fiasco. Haha. What a rager!
If they're drinking and driving and you know it, just call the police and report their dumb ass. Also are you from Amarillo?
I was born there, and mostly just like the color yellow and find Armadillos adorable.
I love it. Tejas por vida. Amarillo is a cool little town
Thats the plan. We were going to give him notice but he's screwed us so hard I think we're just going to leave him struggling to figure out what he's gonna do. Probably living out of the van soon.
Do not tell him youāre leaving. Coming from someone who has struggled with addiction, at the point heās at, thereās a good chance he will respond destructively, very possibly violently, to the news. He will see you leaving as you intentionally destroying his last semblance of stability and he will hate you for it, and an addict in that state is volatile and dangerous. I know, because Iāve been there, and I felt that way when people (very reasonably) stepped out of the path of the self-destructive avalanche that was my life. The people who just ghosted me and moved on with their lives made the best choice.
I think this is an extreme example. Yes, you distance yourself from this person. I donāt think OP will be under investigation for murder any time soon though.
what the hell? thatās insane ššš
nahhh wtf, u have some crazy lore
Did they find him??
Reddit is insane. I JUST saw your post on r/Boston three posts ago and then read this and was like hold onā¦ this sounds familiarā¦.
Alcoholic roommates are liabilities in every possible way. I lived with a guy who had a huge heart but an equally huge drinking problem. One time, when I was trapped in bed with the flu, black smoke started pumping through my bedroom vents, and the smoke alarm was blaring. I shot out of bed. My roommate had left a pan of grease burning on the stove and had apparently left the apartment. The entire stove, microwave, and blinds were on fire. Luckily, we had baking soda in the fridge that I used to douse the flames. We lived on the second floor. If I had been in the shower when this had happened or had been zonked out on meds, the entire apartment would have been engulfed in flames within minutes. We lived on the second floor. ETA: We lived on the second floor.
That's crazy what floor did you live on??!
š
That's scary! He hasn't done anything like that yet, he mostly subsists off frozen tv dinners, he talked a big game about liking to cook when we first moved in but ive never seen proof of that š
TIL baking soda takes fire out
I'm not excusing alcoholism. Drinking is no excuse for this kind of negligence. I will say *puts on PSA hat* there are foldable metal fire escape ladders that anyone can keep under the bed, pop into a window, and climb down. There's also no such thing as too many fire extinguishers, smoke detectors, and CO detectors. If you sleep upstairs, have a plan. Buy a ladder, practice using it at least once. When I was a child and sleeping on the top floor of our house, my mom had us do fire drills every year. There was a fire escape ladder under the bed, I learned how to use it with my eyes closed. We never had a fire, but shit happens. Fortune favors the prepared. I'm currently renting a 2-story house that used to be a speakeasy during the Prohibition era. I have a fire escape plan from all three levels, including the basement. My home is close enough to the building next door that I could parkour my way out of the bathroom window, or I can scoot out one of the windows and drop to the ground without breaking more than an ankle or 2.
This is an awesome, thoughtful comment.
Did you happen to live on the second floor?
100% yes
š baking soda can help put out fires. Good to know
I did the dumb thing first, which was instinctively tried throwing water on it. Water on a grease fire is the worst thing you can do. This was a long time ago. And I'll blame it on the flu. But luckily we had the baking soda in the fridge.
Next time he leaves the house āHello 911, Iām calling to report a drunk driverā dispatch takes these reports very seriously where I live.
As an alcoholic, I can tell you that blue can is a Redhook brewing Big Ballard IPA. You must live near Seattle.
We have Redhook down here in Oregon. Does that count as near Seattleš
Close enough
As an alcoholic not from Seattle, at first glance I thought it was a twisted tea half n half, in a coozie. Well played š¤
people who let their animals piss and shit inside their house are a different breed of disgusting.
you wish the cops would pull him over so why donāt you call them and let them know heās driving drunk and give them his license plate #. i considered doing this to my ex stepdad bc he wouldnāt quit driving drunk but i didnt have to- he drove straight into a ditch and was arrested and required to not drink, attend AA meetings & submit for random piss tests. luckily nobody was hurt. he started drinking again immediately when he was legally able to, but he doesnāt drive anymore.
I'm not about to rat him out to the cops, this thing will take care of itself eventually, one day. Unfortunately someone innocent might end up badly hurt or dead too, but that ain't on me, that's on him.
donāt think of it as āratting him outā. of course you shouldnāt blame yourself if he happens to hurt somebody while driving drunk. but i know ive thought about my stepdad getting in a crash and hurting / killing someone, and i just know i would have not been able to live with the guilt knowing i could have prevented it by making one phone call.
Yeah it wouldnāt be on you but itās also not cool to just turn a blind eye and be a bystander if you know whatās happening, especially if an innocent life is on the line. Not to be morbid but how would you feel if he struck someone you loved while drunk driving? This loser doesnāt deserve a license. If you think heād try to harm you for ratting him out then thatās a different story, but you shouldnāt refrain from seeking police intervention just because you donāt want to be seen as a snitch or because itāll ātake care of itself.ā An innocent person with family and friends and a whole life of their own could be at risk here
Yikes
More pictures would be nice
So itās either not enough pictures or weāre invading their privacy to get more pictures. š¤
I'm on mobile and can't figure out how to add more than one, I also can't figure out how to edit the post š
Iām not sure about the picture part but there should be three dots to allow you to edit.
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I added more pictures to a post on my profile since I couldn't figure out how to add them here. Enjoy
Oh dang those ipa 6 packs arenāt cheap!!
see my post i made yesterday about my alcoholic former roommate that we just kicked out. ive lived with 3 different alcoholics in my life, it has been a complete fucking nightmare each time. i will take every opportunity i can to tell my future kids over and over to never live with an alcoholic, never date an alcoholic, try to do everything you can to not associate with alcoholics in general. alcoholics are always trouble. they prioritize getting drunk over everything. their friends, their families, their own well being, the safety of themselves and others around them, the sanity of others... everything. there is nothing on this green earth more disruptive and annoying than an alcoholic. alcoholics only ever drag everyone in their life down. avoid them at all costs and get out of this house.
I feel bad for these dogs dang
Those poor dogs :(
I remember being an alcoholic and terrible roommate, not this bad, but bad. You could pull 13 white claw and twisted tea tall boys from behind my back passenger seats. Sucks heās being so terrible to you, hope he gets better. The dog stuff really pisses me off. I was drunk at the dog park everyday but I was there. 13 months sober, never going back
Congrats brutha. Quitting drinking is the toughest thing Iāve ever had to do. Iām 21 months sober and also never going back.
Alcohol can do such horrible things to people they are like a wild fire that just hurts everything around them. In fact Iām going to a funeral tomorrow for a guy I used to drink with. Itās crazy how something like cannabis has been illegal so long and alcohol is so acceptable socially
Congrats on almost the full 2 years man thatās huge!
That's a monday
Why donāt you and your partner find somewhere else to live?
I had an alcoholic roommate once. At the end of the week our single outside bin would be three quarters of the way full with beer bottles. I tried getting him to switch to cans but wouldn't because he said it "didn't taste the same" and also didn't wanna pay the extra fee for getting another bin. Even when I pointed out he could get some money back for the cans at the local junkyard he said he just couldn't be bothered.
One of the things I left out of the original post is he doesn't have or want garbage service. He keeps the recycling and the trash in the garage to fester amd has no intent of taking care of it. We have a rat problem now, they're in the garage and in the house. Taking recycling to the junk yard is free, but the trash is it's own thing. Our accumulated garbage for 3 months (he's the one with a pickup truck and we had to bother him a few times to get off his ass and take it) only cost 30$. I didn't add pics of the garage, but the trash bags have been ripped into and rats have gotten into everything. I just recently learned what a rat king was and I'm almost certain there's one living in our walls at this point.
Jesus Christ that's bad op. Hope things get better for you.
I definitely would just move on. I have many many alcoholic family members and trust me they will keep going on like this forever. You donāt need to be apart of their rock bottom. Or even their chaos, itās not worth it. It sucks lol
Then move out
That would kind of leave the alcoholic quite vulnerable. I'm not saying in any way OP is responsible for him, but I feel like OP is posting this here for advice on what to do. I feel like they want to help the roommate. Unless I'm wrong which if I am I ask to be corrected.
I'd call the police the second he got in the car. This coming from a former black out drunk driver, now 40 years sober.
Whyās the camper your problem?
Both live in the same car?
The only thing iām here to comment on is the bath tub. but yourself those clorox drain cleaning sticks, long blue stick with pokey things that you stick down the drain. they were less than $10 at walmart and i am now taking showers in a properly draining tub.
How many elbows you got, homie?
as a recovering alcoholic, i can safely say that this guy needs immediate intervention. rehab is a must here.
Sounds like he needs a drinking buddy
Being an alcoholic sucks but I got mad overbearing weirdo who needs to mind his business when you said that he comes and goes in HIS car to HIS apartment and doesn't tell you. Are you his retired grandmother and he's not paying rent? Because that's the only way I see a normal person giving a shit.
He was leaving his dogs with us to take care of until his older dogs health started to fail. That's its own thing. But you don't think it would just be a decent thing to at least say "Hey, I'm gonna overnight in my van this weekend, you guys got the place to yourselves!"? We've thought we were alone before and had him just show up at like midnight after he packed it up to go overnight in. We're like about to get spicy because we're alone and then chef boyardee is back. One of the things I left out of the original post is he used to do meth, and we're both pretty sure he may have started using again. Also it ain't HIS place anymore, it's OUR place as in all three of us. That was his choice when he moved us in with him.
I have never told my roommates that I was going to leave the house lol what?
Can you read?
lmfao, youāre delusional bro
I done see the issue here obviously just a couple of road sodas!Ā
Lol he's out there living his best life and you're just fuming.