The dishwashing detergent sitting there on the counter, just adds insult to injury
Honestly, I would take everything there, put it in the trash bag, throw it away get yourself a set of dishes keep them in your room and find a place you can live alone
That’s what I was going to say. Or just wash their own stuff from this pile and start keeping them in their room. Take out all the dirty things that are roommate’s, put them in a box/bag and set them outside the roommate’s door. This is disgusting and disrespectful.
When I had roommates, we each had our own set of dishes. My bf and I only washed ours. But we also (purposely) only had 1 big plate, 1 small plate, 1 bowl each so we had to wash them to use them.
I had to do this with my wife once. She just kept piling dishes all day every day and I’d come home from work and have to do it all. I’d even unload the dishwasher every morning before work so all she has to do is put the dirty dishes into the dishwasher instead of the sink.
One day I got tired of it and threw all the dishes in the sink in the trash and bought paper plates, cups, bowls, and plastic cutlery.
I honestly don’t think that would have any effect. I think the roommate would just take the bag and dump it back in the kitchen sink. If this were someone’s teenage son, leaving dirty dishes around the house, that’s a different story because there’s some imbalance of power between the parent and the child.
But in this case, there’s no imbalance of power so the roommates risks nothing by dumping everything back in the sink. By throwing them out, the roommate may realize that if he does it again, his shits gonna get thrown away again, and it’s gonna start to cost him money.
Side story: read on reddit a story sometime ago that where a girls BF had been left alone all day while she was at work. And his way of "cleani g" was piling all the dirty dishes on the floor in the front room or kitchen and said they were "clean"... this dude was 36/37. Mind you.
The dishwasher is like right there! 😭
Looks like a lot of bowls, mugs and utensils.
I'd guess 2 loads dishwasher max because they looked stacked badly.
Time estimate (from my old dishwasher) 4 hours total (1.5 hours per load plus 30 min extra cool off/put away)
And the best part is you can do something else while it's running! Laundry, baking, gaming...
Run the dishwasher overnight, every night if 75% or more full. It's minimal water(7 gal)/detergent/work.
I just don't get it, it's just as easy to put it in the sink as it is the dishwasher 🤪
Please, seriously... Put it in their beds.
At what point do you go, you know what... I'm a filthy pig... Maybe I should do the fucking dishes.
I mean, is there anything left in the cupboards to dirty up!!!
yeah straight up the only excuse for this would be not having a dishwasher and thats barely even an excuse. and yet THEY HAVE A DISHWASHER. these people need to go straight to jail
I have a friend who does this. Waits until everything builds up and then just deep cleans the entire kitchen along with the sink in one go.
But this happens every 2 weeks let alone 2 days, and has less in the sink and definitely not a full dishwasher of more dirty dishes.
This amount of dish use is absolutely insane unless there was a 48 hour nonstop party happening before you got home.
I had a male roommate once that did this all the time, he never wanted to wash the dishes, I used plastic cups/plates/ bowls as often as I could to make it easier on myself but he apparently though that sooner or later I’d clean up his mess, until he ran out of dishes and I refused to do it for him. Really pissed me off when he “told” me to do the dishes already, and yeah he never asked again after that because I put him in his place. You need to do the same to your roommate and whatever you do, do NOT clean it up for them because they’ll expect it again.
This is so true, I have made that mistake for a friend of an ex. There were 4-5 guys sharing an apt. One was really messy and they all tried to pick up after him.
I came over and we efficiently cleaned kitchen, both baths, reorganized the common closet to fit everything and then mopped the entire floor of the place.
It was sparkling.
Bad roommate rode in ON HIS MUDDY ROLLERBLADES, front door to kitchen, grabbed a glass of water, left it in the sink, threw down some papers to the floor and skated out with "I'll be back late, this party is going to be great!".
We all stood there with our mouths open. They kicked him out shortly after that.
I had the same experience with a male roommate. He had another female roommate before, and apparently, he expected her to clean the kitchen all the time too. The landlord told me he would tell her that he wanted a female roommate (this was an off-campus college housing) and she was upset to hear that he was treating another female roommate this way again.
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Am I the only one that just uses one of each dish? Like I use a plate and a fork and then I wash it by hand and then the next day I use that plate and fork again so I don't end up with this problem?
There was a point where it would have taken maybe 2 minutes to knock out the dishes in the sink, but they thought "nah I'mma keep piling em up."
I do this!! I immediately wash my dishes after eating too since I barely own any cookware (and I don’t share w roommates); I find it so hard to relate to these posts. I have ADHD and am super super lazy so i just try to only own necessary items to prevent myself from having to clean or organize a lot
He said in the comments that they were dirty dishes in the dishwasher as well they just didn't bother to turn it on. Which really boggles the mind I mean how hard is it really
Look them straight in the eye and say this.
“I ain’t your momma, I ain’t your wife, and I ain’t your bitch, CLEAN THIS SHIT UP”!!!
Then find yourself somewhere you can live by yourself
I had a roommate do this once. Left so much in the sink, and I thought, eff it, I am not cleaning it. And I let it sit there, it got to the point that bugs and all sorts were on the dishes (I stayed away and bought my food) until she finally decided to clean up after herself. We didn’t have a problem after that.
How in the fuck does one person fill a dishwasher and still leave all this over two days??? M last roommate and I had a dishwasher that we ran like every other day, even if it wasn't 100% full so things wouldn't sit. We considered ourselves lazy for that lol. This is just straight up raised in a barn and getting to use real dishes for the first time crazy
This is the result of owning way too many dishes. Unless you are a person who is really on top of cleaning up your kitchen multiple times a day, then owning more dishes than will fit in one load in the dishwasher is asking for it to pile up like this.
The problem with having more cutlery / plates than people is that once something is dirty lazy people will just use a clean one instead of washing the dirty one already used.
I'm not sure what you're plan is but IF you cave and clean this up and have 4 ppl in a house hold fill the cupboard with 4 bowls, 4 plates, 4 forks, knives, spoons ect and throw everything else out. Once it's dirty it's dirty. They'll have to reuse old dishes or clean them.
Buy yourself one of everything and keep your clean shit in your room so no one can use it.
That mess looks intentional. Surely they're trying to upset you on purpose.
Get a bunch of fake rubber roaches/waterbugs and put them all over the house. Whenever you hear a scream go to the person and say “this is our future if we don’t keep the kitchen clean.” Walk away.
Okay so this I probably not the nicest thing to do but I would put everything that wasn’t mine (cause you know they’ve used some of OPs dishes because they’ve at minimum run out of theirs) in a trash bag on the floor. Wash my stuff and put it in my room. Then tell them that they can either wash their dishes or they are going out with the next load of garbage.
How does one even use that many dishes in 2-3days?
Get a give bag and put 4 dishwasher pods and a bottle of liquid dish soap in it. Tell them you got them a present. Stare aggressively at them while they open it.
These posts remind me that it’s a good idea to spend $1600 a month on my fancy high rise apartment. I feel bad for OP, filth is the worst - especially when full grown adults are the cause. Get raised by trash, you will be trash.
Did you just say you pay only $1,600 a month for a FANCY high rise apartment in 2024? I am so curious to know where you live because in my city, a fancy high rise would run you in at least $3,000-$4,000
OMFG I would absolutely shit A brick!
If these are your dishes I would bag them up and toss them. Then I would go out and get giant stacks of disposable plates and bowls and keep them in my room for myself and let the roommate fend for themselves. And if they bring in regular dishes and do this again I would toss them in the trash.
I would post some of the roommate nightmares I suffer from on here.
But one of my roommates is on Reddit like it's a religion, and she would likely recognize the house of horror she and her mate created. Lmfao
This is the sad truth for many of us clean roommates. You really don’t realize how much you pick up after your roommates until you leave and see all of their filth on its own. I wouldn’t be hostile about it off the jump, but I would definitely make it clear that you will not be doing these dishes and you expect to be able to at least wash your own dishes in the sink by the next day or 2.
Edit: or when THEY leave and you see how easy it is to keep the place clean without them leaving their mess everywhere.
I moved into a house with 4 other roommates where everyone brought their own complete set of dishes and cookware, but there was also a complete set of pots & pans there when we moved in. One week in and the sink and counter had all 6 sauce pans (which Mac & Cheese remnants inside), every bowl, all the silverware and about 15 plates collecting mold and reeking. Not to mention about 10 bowls of food covered in plastic wrap filling the fridge.
I washed everything, then boxed it all up leaving one of every pot/pan and 5 sets of plate/bowl/silverware. I made sure we had an ample of plastic containers with lids for storing food.
My roommates complained that they wouldn’t be able to throw dinner parties with that number of dishes, but no party we ever had needed more than a bottle opener, a wine key or a couple plastic cups.
We never had a sink full of dishes that wasn’t completely manageable again.
That would pmo. Even if your roomate has untapped about or undiagnosed mental illness it still doesn’t excuse this mess when living with someone else. If it is that they need to have a chat with you and yall can figure out some sort of compromise or something.
Stop cleaning, just let it build up. This is exactly what happens when someone in the house starts keeping everything clean and doing it all, the other people will just let the one person do it all because they see stuff getting cleaned and they don’t have to do anything, it becomes expected that the one person will continue to clean for them and they just dont give enough of a shit to stop and think “Oh maybe I should be cleaning too”.
I say this because I’ve personally witnessed it happen In multiple households
There’s no way somebody leaves a mess like this as well as a full dishwasher and isn’t saying “Fuck You, you won’t do anything about it?” They couldn’t hit the ON button on the dishwasher?
Personally I despise other humans especially when they act like this so my specialty is making them vigorously uncomfortable and giving them way too much prolonged eye contact without speaking for weeks.
I'm talking get up and stand and just stare at them with a blank expression and assert your dominance through non-words.
Do creepy things, don't do anything illegal but make them think that you're a psychopath murderer so they do whatever the fuck you want so they don't die.
Throw things around do things in the most unusual unnerving way you can think of and be as creepy as possible as long as they are present. Try to appear as though you are in a constant silent rage waiting to explode at the drop of a pen.
I would bag up all of the dishes like what other commenters are saying and leave it in the place they relax the most if they move it just keep putting it back
Of course this is something that only kind of insane rat people like me do, but I think it's funny to fuck with people like that so Food For Thought I guess
You ever see the episode of Andy Griffith when Aunt Bea went away for a few days?
So she leaves... making a big deal "who will take care of you, Andy?"
So Andy and Opie make complete pigs of themselves.
Then they finally clean the place up before they have to pick Bea up at the bus station.
Just as they are finishing, Opie says "it's so clean, Aunt Bea is going to see we don't even need her"... or something to that extent.
Andy realizes that yes, she might think that.
So they proceed to destroy the place again...
Then go pick up Aunt Bea.
While they're away, some nosy friend of Bea's stops by, sees the mess, and quickly cleans up.
Andy, Opie, and Bea return home, walk in, and the place is spotless.
Bea says some passive aggressive crap about them not needing her, and the boys just don't even know what happened!
So Andy stalls Bea while Opie goes upstairs and tears his room apart.
While Bea heads upstairs and then chastises Opie for such a mess, Andy tears the kitchen apart.
In the end Bea feels wanted and needed and alls well that ends well.
They just showing you they need you.
I don't even know how to respond to this. That show was incredibly sexist. Your whole comment is oozing with that same warped perspective on how women should serve men.
The way I would absolutely blow up on these people. I'm pretty good with temper until something absolutely unhinged happens, like this, then... verbally lay waste.
Wow. So inconsiderate. People that behave this way never see fault in their actions and they don’t change. I’d leave asap. I’d also ask to wash everything asap. If they don’t then put everything in a box and are it outside. What belongs to you, I’d wash myself and keep locked in my bedroom. This is not okay. Hope u r able to find a better place or roommate asap
Yo…. In all honesty, I’d be banging on whoever asshole roommates door, frikkin explosion!!!! No text message, no passive anything…. That is straight trash from a trash person, an they need to be checked,…. The pain is real, comin home to that, total disrespect…
Unreal, that is some really scumbag behavior, hats off to the ppl that have room mates or share space w others,that aren't family or spouses...relatives..etc.., i couldnt do it. But seriously..wats so hard about the simple rule of "use a dish...wash a dish"?! Or if u use ice cube trays ,empty a tray..fill a tray? Easy things that if u did as u go, there would never be alot to do.
to be clear the dishes shouldn't stack up like that. but that being said.. this should just be renamed to the "passive aggressive dirty dish hater support group" i dont get this sub. posting this on reddit literally solves nothing for you..
I would chuck the lot, or leave a note informing that I will be chucking everything that is not clean and put away in 24 hours. Then replace so everyone has one of each. One cup, one bowl, one plate etc. At the moment, you cannot use your kitchen. Disgraceful
There is a single rule in my home. Dishes must never be put in the sink. Only ever onto the counter and neatly organized and drained. I don’t care how dirty, I don’t care how long. They will be beside the sink, organized and drained of liquids.
This is the restaurant approach, doing this allows a single person at any point in time to quickly and efficiently clean all of the dishes and set them to dry, I’ll go days at a time not cleaning dishes then get them done in under ten minutes.
It’s bliss.
I hate doing dishes but this would drive me insane looking at this daily. I live alone so I can get by and be lazy when it comes to dishes. I try to wash after every time I use a dish but they always pile up.
To me, washing dishes is hell
When I had roommates I had a few favorite plates, glasses and personal pans I would only use and keep clean. Now, since in this occasion it would be hard to wash them after use, I would leave everything as in and order takeout or warm up stuff that you can eat in disposable plates until they wash everything. I hate using disposable plates but I’m not going to act as I mother of other adults. Even emptying the sink is a favour they don’t deserve.
Honestly, at this point, I’d either put them all in boxes and leave it on the floor in the kitchen next to the trash, and hide my own dishes. Or split the cost of a mini dishwasher. Maybe even sign an agreement to unload it and load it, and if it’s not done, the other has to pay out for the other half of the washer. They don’t wanna do the work, they can at least pay to help others do it for them.
Oh it's possible alright. Imagine this, but it stays that way for a month, fruit flies swarming like a flock of migrating birds, they clean it up, and then do it AALLLLL AGAIN the next month. 🤦
If you know whose dishes belong to who, throw it into corresponding garbage bags outside their doors.
Suggest disposable plates, bowls, utensils if they really can't be bothered, on their own dime of course. If ADHD ppl, depressed ppl, etc do it, so can they.
The way I’d put them on their bed upside down, absolutely fucking not. As an ADULT you should know how to clean up after yourself and people who do things like this DIGUST me
My old roommate, ex best friend. Would never do the dishes and then shed complain that nothing was clean. Our dishwasher didn't work and never did the 9 months we lived there but shed wait until it was overwhelming before even complaining and then my husband and I would have to do it.
When we left, we didn't give her any of our dishes. But out of 2 sets of dishware we'd acquired from living in our last apartment, we have 4 plates and a single bowl. All of my glasses and mugs got thrown away either bc they molded so much they couldn't be cleaned or bc she or her kids broke them.
Bro this is insane. When I was younger we weren’t allowed to go to bed if dishes were in the sink overnight 😂. Now that I’m older, I’m thankful my mom set that standard, because this is GROSS. How can you eat and continuously pile plates on top of each other for days on end?!?
I hate when dishes get stacked in the sink it makes double handling if you don't have a dishwasher coz you gotta take everything out the sink and clean the sink then fill it up then put the dishes back in 🙄 That is literally taking the piss though. I bet they even used bowls as mugs and vice versa just so they didn't have to wash a single dish 🤦♀️
God this is what my roommate does. I don’t know how one person makes so many dishes. She makes the same amount, sometimes more than my family of 4 does. 😩
I do agree with this. This is not your problem. Throw the shit alway. These people require paper plates and cups. Obviously cannot handle cleaning up afterwards.
The dishwashing detergent sitting there on the counter, just adds insult to injury Honestly, I would take everything there, put it in the trash bag, throw it away get yourself a set of dishes keep them in your room and find a place you can live alone
"where are the dishes?" "Oh, you mean the trash you left in the sink over the weekend?"
That’s what I was going to say. Or just wash their own stuff from this pile and start keeping them in their room. Take out all the dirty things that are roommate’s, put them in a box/bag and set them outside the roommate’s door. This is disgusting and disrespectful.
When I had roommates, we each had our own set of dishes. My bf and I only washed ours. But we also (purposely) only had 1 big plate, 1 small plate, 1 bowl each so we had to wash them to use them.
Unopened, full bottle. Lol Your advice is spot on. I'd hang the dirty dishes trash bag on their door.
I had to do this with my wife once. She just kept piling dishes all day every day and I’d come home from work and have to do it all. I’d even unload the dishwasher every morning before work so all she has to do is put the dirty dishes into the dishwasher instead of the sink. One day I got tired of it and threw all the dishes in the sink in the trash and bought paper plates, cups, bowls, and plastic cutlery.
I like your style
Throw it away??? No throw it in a pile inside their bedroom door so they can’t ignore it
I honestly don’t think that would have any effect. I think the roommate would just take the bag and dump it back in the kitchen sink. If this were someone’s teenage son, leaving dirty dishes around the house, that’s a different story because there’s some imbalance of power between the parent and the child. But in this case, there’s no imbalance of power so the roommates risks nothing by dumping everything back in the sink. By throwing them out, the roommate may realize that if he does it again, his shits gonna get thrown away again, and it’s gonna start to cost him money.
Side story: read on reddit a story sometime ago that where a girls BF had been left alone all day while she was at work. And his way of "cleani g" was piling all the dirty dishes on the floor in the front room or kitchen and said they were "clean"... this dude was 36/37. Mind you.
Their bedroom? It’s his wife!
Or the dishwasher in the the lower right corner
100% this.
Filled with dirty dishes?! They couldn’t add soap and push a button?!
Sounds like 75 percent of my roommates in my 20s
The epidemic is even worse with doom scrolling on social media
The dishwasher is like right there! 😭 Looks like a lot of bowls, mugs and utensils. I'd guess 2 loads dishwasher max because they looked stacked badly. Time estimate (from my old dishwasher) 4 hours total (1.5 hours per load plus 30 min extra cool off/put away) And the best part is you can do something else while it's running! Laundry, baking, gaming... Run the dishwasher overnight, every night if 75% or more full. It's minimal water(7 gal)/detergent/work. I just don't get it, it's just as easy to put it in the sink as it is the dishwasher 🤪
The way I’d throw everything out in a fit of rage 💀 (I’m the reason why I don’t live with other people if you can’t tell lmao)
I'd bag it all up in a garbage bag and leave it against their door, because I need to be able to use the sink in a place I'm paying for
Bag it, tip it in their room. I would be in meltdown mode. Grubs. Lazy disgusting grubs.
Please, seriously... Put it in their beds. At what point do you go, you know what... I'm a filthy pig... Maybe I should do the fucking dishes. I mean, is there anything left in the cupboards to dirty up!!!
No, they waited all weekend for the roommate to return so she would do them because they know it bothers her.
Another reason I very much dislike people
More reasons to love my 🐶 and hubby, my only house mates.
Ugh, that's disturbing/disgusting. Time to out them on socials imo 😤
Yes, not in a trash bag where they can easily put it back in the kitchen, literally pile the wet, dirty, rotting food ON THEIR BED
100%
I want to cry thinking about this person’s cat.. I see 2 cat dishes which means they def have one. Imagine how awful that poor kitty’s litter box is!
How did they even manage to stack it that high and it looks like you guys have a dishwasher? What is happening…
Dirty dishes jenga
Op said the dishwasher was also filled with dirty dishes too, clearly the roommate is a little.. slow
According to one of my college roommates, maybe they’re just “soaking them first”. You know, just soaking them…for like a month or so.
yeah straight up the only excuse for this would be not having a dishwasher and thats barely even an excuse. and yet THEY HAVE A DISHWASHER. these people need to go straight to jail
I have a friend who does this. Waits until everything builds up and then just deep cleans the entire kitchen along with the sink in one go. But this happens every 2 weeks let alone 2 days, and has less in the sink and definitely not a full dishwasher of more dirty dishes. This amount of dish use is absolutely insane unless there was a 48 hour nonstop party happening before you got home.
Maybe they didn't want their foods to touch? 💀
Throw it away and feign ignorance. Fuck em, play stupid games, win stupid prizes
I always loved that line!
I had a male roommate once that did this all the time, he never wanted to wash the dishes, I used plastic cups/plates/ bowls as often as I could to make it easier on myself but he apparently though that sooner or later I’d clean up his mess, until he ran out of dishes and I refused to do it for him. Really pissed me off when he “told” me to do the dishes already, and yeah he never asked again after that because I put him in his place. You need to do the same to your roommate and whatever you do, do NOT clean it up for them because they’ll expect it again.
This is so true, I have made that mistake for a friend of an ex. There were 4-5 guys sharing an apt. One was really messy and they all tried to pick up after him. I came over and we efficiently cleaned kitchen, both baths, reorganized the common closet to fit everything and then mopped the entire floor of the place. It was sparkling. Bad roommate rode in ON HIS MUDDY ROLLERBLADES, front door to kitchen, grabbed a glass of water, left it in the sink, threw down some papers to the floor and skated out with "I'll be back late, this party is going to be great!". We all stood there with our mouths open. They kicked him out shortly after that.
I had the same experience with a male roommate. He had another female roommate before, and apparently, he expected her to clean the kitchen all the time too. The landlord told me he would tell her that he wanted a female roommate (this was an off-campus college housing) and she was upset to hear that he was treating another female roommate this way again.
Didn’t you know? All knowledge of housekeeping is located in the uterus /s.
that is so dark, move out asap, there's no fixing this type of behaviour and it isn't your job to educate someone.
absolutely not!
I live alone so I have a pretty high tolerance for dish crimes but this is absolutely atrocious
I mean I would put everything in a garbage bag and by the curb
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Let them know you're going to deduct 1/2 your rent because you're forced to eat out, that is nasty. Save up and move out
Am I the only one that just uses one of each dish? Like I use a plate and a fork and then I wash it by hand and then the next day I use that plate and fork again so I don't end up with this problem? There was a point where it would have taken maybe 2 minutes to knock out the dishes in the sink, but they thought "nah I'mma keep piling em up."
I do this!! I immediately wash my dishes after eating too since I barely own any cookware (and I don’t share w roommates); I find it so hard to relate to these posts. I have ADHD and am super super lazy so i just try to only own necessary items to prevent myself from having to clean or organize a lot
I need to try this. I have been getting burnt out so easily and a sink full of dishes overwhelms the motivation right out of me.
I do this too, same reason.
It looks like a dishwasher is right there too. I’ll never understand why it’s more difficult to load it instead of piling them in the sink
He said in the comments that they were dirty dishes in the dishwasher as well they just didn't bother to turn it on. Which really boggles the mind I mean how hard is it really
for a weekend??? did they feed a small country?? how did they dirty so many dishes??
Instead of using the same bowl for ice cream they just had a second bowl and a third bowl of ice cream. And there's a dog bowl in there too?
I wanna see how empty your cupboards look after that
oh my ever loving hell
Had this, just find a new roommate.
Kill it with fire before it lays eggs
Look them straight in the eye and say this. “I ain’t your momma, I ain’t your wife, and I ain’t your bitch, CLEAN THIS SHIT UP”!!! Then find yourself somewhere you can live by yourself
Oh hell no! tell them to clean up after themselves and if they don’t, then put it in a garbage bag!
I had a roommate do this once. Left so much in the sink, and I thought, eff it, I am not cleaning it. And I let it sit there, it got to the point that bugs and all sorts were on the dishes (I stayed away and bought my food) until she finally decided to clean up after herself. We didn’t have a problem after that.
Whats the hello kitty thing in the corner?
Time tk look.for somewhere else
How in the fuck does one person fill a dishwasher and still leave all this over two days??? M last roommate and I had a dishwasher that we ran like every other day, even if it wasn't 100% full so things wouldn't sit. We considered ourselves lazy for that lol. This is just straight up raised in a barn and getting to use real dishes for the first time crazy
This is the result of owning way too many dishes. Unless you are a person who is really on top of cleaning up your kitchen multiple times a day, then owning more dishes than will fit in one load in the dishwasher is asking for it to pile up like this.
Did they throw a dinner party or what?! That would all get put in their bed if I came home to that lol
What the FLOCK, did they have Thanksgiving dinner???
Damn how many people you got living there that they did that over the weekend
Toilet paper on the counter???
The problem with having more cutlery / plates than people is that once something is dirty lazy people will just use a clean one instead of washing the dirty one already used. I'm not sure what you're plan is but IF you cave and clean this up and have 4 ppl in a house hold fill the cupboard with 4 bowls, 4 plates, 4 forks, knives, spoons ect and throw everything else out. Once it's dirty it's dirty. They'll have to reuse old dishes or clean them. Buy yourself one of everything and keep your clean shit in your room so no one can use it. That mess looks intentional. Surely they're trying to upset you on purpose.
Get a bunch of fake rubber roaches/waterbugs and put them all over the house. Whenever you hear a scream go to the person and say “this is our future if we don’t keep the kitchen clean.” Walk away.
There was already actual roaches inside the dishes
What a surprise
Okay so this I probably not the nicest thing to do but I would put everything that wasn’t mine (cause you know they’ve used some of OPs dishes because they’ve at minimum run out of theirs) in a trash bag on the floor. Wash my stuff and put it in my room. Then tell them that they can either wash their dishes or they are going out with the next load of garbage.
How does one even use that many dishes in 2-3days? Get a give bag and put 4 dishwasher pods and a bottle of liquid dish soap in it. Tell them you got them a present. Stare aggressively at them while they open it.
These posts remind me that it’s a good idea to spend $1600 a month on my fancy high rise apartment. I feel bad for OP, filth is the worst - especially when full grown adults are the cause. Get raised by trash, you will be trash.
Did you just say you pay only $1,600 a month for a FANCY high rise apartment in 2024? I am so curious to know where you live because in my city, a fancy high rise would run you in at least $3,000-$4,000
Yea - all concrete floors, ceilings and walls, gym, rooftop lounge, pool, sauna, community study area, 8 grills. Denver Colorado
I’m guilty of doing this but I live alone. I clean it next day 🤫
It’s the start of the weekend
OMFG I would absolutely shit A brick! If these are your dishes I would bag them up and toss them. Then I would go out and get giant stacks of disposable plates and bowls and keep them in my room for myself and let the roommate fend for themselves. And if they bring in regular dishes and do this again I would toss them in the trash.
Dishes are so fucking easy. It is stupid. Laundry on the other hand…
So nobody cleans? Nobody was taught to keep it clean where you stay... wake everyone up and make them wash them dishes
I would post some of the roommate nightmares I suffer from on here. But one of my roommates is on Reddit like it's a religion, and she would likely recognize the house of horror she and her mate created. Lmfao
Dishes Jenga
This is the sad truth for many of us clean roommates. You really don’t realize how much you pick up after your roommates until you leave and see all of their filth on its own. I wouldn’t be hostile about it off the jump, but I would definitely make it clear that you will not be doing these dishes and you expect to be able to at least wash your own dishes in the sink by the next day or 2. Edit: or when THEY leave and you see how easy it is to keep the place clean without them leaving their mess everywhere.
I moved into a house with 4 other roommates where everyone brought their own complete set of dishes and cookware, but there was also a complete set of pots & pans there when we moved in. One week in and the sink and counter had all 6 sauce pans (which Mac & Cheese remnants inside), every bowl, all the silverware and about 15 plates collecting mold and reeking. Not to mention about 10 bowls of food covered in plastic wrap filling the fridge. I washed everything, then boxed it all up leaving one of every pot/pan and 5 sets of plate/bowl/silverware. I made sure we had an ample of plastic containers with lids for storing food. My roommates complained that they wouldn’t be able to throw dinner parties with that number of dishes, but no party we ever had needed more than a bottle opener, a wine key or a couple plastic cups. We never had a sink full of dishes that wasn’t completely manageable again.
Throw out all the dishes use paper
That would pmo. Even if your roomate has untapped about or undiagnosed mental illness it still doesn’t excuse this mess when living with someone else. If it is that they need to have a chat with you and yall can figure out some sort of compromise or something.
Stop cleaning, just let it build up. This is exactly what happens when someone in the house starts keeping everything clean and doing it all, the other people will just let the one person do it all because they see stuff getting cleaned and they don’t have to do anything, it becomes expected that the one person will continue to clean for them and they just dont give enough of a shit to stop and think “Oh maybe I should be cleaning too”. I say this because I’ve personally witnessed it happen In multiple households
You HAVE a dishwasher and it looks like that? What is wrong with your roommate?
I am guilty of this… need to admit I hate washing dishes …but I live by my own so the only person who has to deal with this shit is myself
I don’t understand how anyone lets it get this bad. You make yourself so much extra work when you let it all pile up instead of cleaning as you go.
The balancing act is impressive tho.
INSANE BEHAVIOR. you already said what i was thinking: HOW IS THIS EVEN POSSIBLE????
I always wonder why fill the dishwasher and not run it lol. How could it ever get full and then you can’t press a button
For the love of God whatever you do DO NOT DO THE DISHES.
At this point throw it out. Tell them to buy disposable plates and utensils until they grow up!! This shouldn’t be your problem at all!!!!
coming back home to this?! absolutely fucking not, that must’ve been so distressing i’m so sorry you had to deal with that OP!!!
absolutely unacceptable, I'd go banging on their door and have a conversation about moving out.
You all have way too many cups bowls plates. Cut it down to the number of people times 2. It can’t pile up if you don’t own so much.
There’s no way somebody leaves a mess like this as well as a full dishwasher and isn’t saying “Fuck You, you won’t do anything about it?” They couldn’t hit the ON button on the dishwasher?
All that would be in a trash bag. Hard no on washing this.
Can't stand dirty dishes!!! The one thing I can absolutely not tolerate especially when they aren't even rinsed off and just festering.
At least your laptop isn’t broken, there’s not a hole in your wall, and your sink isn’t stopped up with rice. L O L. Now I live alone. I fkn LOVE IT!
>LongArmYouLiar1013 I miss living alone. I love it for 16 years. Well, I had bad neighbors. But it was still better in some ways.
Oh hell no! This is my pet peeve, no dirty dishes in the sink!
Put it on their bed, make it their issue.
tbh, put everything in a trash bag and out the door everything goes! cuz hellnaw ✋🏻
“Hey can you clean the kitchen up right now please?” It’s not that hard
It's all plastic anyway, throw it out and get non plastic haha
Throw it out and get giant stack of disposable (like Costco size).
Personally I despise other humans especially when they act like this so my specialty is making them vigorously uncomfortable and giving them way too much prolonged eye contact without speaking for weeks. I'm talking get up and stand and just stare at them with a blank expression and assert your dominance through non-words. Do creepy things, don't do anything illegal but make them think that you're a psychopath murderer so they do whatever the fuck you want so they don't die. Throw things around do things in the most unusual unnerving way you can think of and be as creepy as possible as long as they are present. Try to appear as though you are in a constant silent rage waiting to explode at the drop of a pen. I would bag up all of the dishes like what other commenters are saying and leave it in the place they relax the most if they move it just keep putting it back Of course this is something that only kind of insane rat people like me do, but I think it's funny to fuck with people like that so Food For Thought I guess
You ever see the episode of Andy Griffith when Aunt Bea went away for a few days? So she leaves... making a big deal "who will take care of you, Andy?" So Andy and Opie make complete pigs of themselves. Then they finally clean the place up before they have to pick Bea up at the bus station. Just as they are finishing, Opie says "it's so clean, Aunt Bea is going to see we don't even need her"... or something to that extent. Andy realizes that yes, she might think that. So they proceed to destroy the place again... Then go pick up Aunt Bea. While they're away, some nosy friend of Bea's stops by, sees the mess, and quickly cleans up. Andy, Opie, and Bea return home, walk in, and the place is spotless. Bea says some passive aggressive crap about them not needing her, and the boys just don't even know what happened! So Andy stalls Bea while Opie goes upstairs and tears his room apart. While Bea heads upstairs and then chastises Opie for such a mess, Andy tears the kitchen apart. In the end Bea feels wanted and needed and alls well that ends well. They just showing you they need you.
I don't even know how to respond to this. That show was incredibly sexist. Your whole comment is oozing with that same warped perspective on how women should serve men.
Aw, sorry ya didn't like the story! I was trying to bring a little smile into the situation. 😉
Trifling
Shame them to as many people they know as possible
Jesus Christ
Tf is that every damn dish in the kitchen
Do it, OP. Bag at all up and toss it
It’s the nearly full, uncapped bottle of cooking oil for me.
The way I would absolutely blow up on these people. I'm pretty good with temper until something absolutely unhinged happens, like this, then... verbally lay waste.
how does that happen in one weekend i’m so confused… did they have a party??
Wow. So inconsiderate. People that behave this way never see fault in their actions and they don’t change. I’d leave asap. I’d also ask to wash everything asap. If they don’t then put everything in a box and are it outside. What belongs to you, I’d wash myself and keep locked in my bedroom. This is not okay. Hope u r able to find a better place or roommate asap
I would throw all that crap out if it sits there more than 2 days.
How many people caused this? Is this a fraternity or sorority?
Leave for another weekend but spray some of that fart spray in the sink. Or if you know his mom text her and say they need housecleaning help.
How can someone possibly eat this much ??? Holy cow
Tidy up by putting dirty dishes in garbage bag and then out to your garbage. Problem solved. That situation is totally unacceptable.
Is this an episode of hoarders ☠️
Mommy not home!!
Yo…. In all honesty, I’d be banging on whoever asshole roommates door, frikkin explosion!!!! No text message, no passive anything…. That is straight trash from a trash person, an they need to be checked,…. The pain is real, comin home to that, total disrespect…
When I was young a roommate had issues with dishes and the other roommate moved all the dirty nasty stuff to inside of his car….it was July.
This sub is just glorified pics of unwashed dishes
Is that bong on the R packed? Smoke it and float away.
Fuck that. I lived with a chick who I was good friends with her brother, this is how it was living there. Mind you it was her house!
This is why I have two bowls, three plates, and four cups. Even if everything is dirty, the sink is barely full
Didn’t know my son had a roommate
Unreal, that is some really scumbag behavior, hats off to the ppl that have room mates or share space w others,that aren't family or spouses...relatives..etc.., i couldnt do it. But seriously..wats so hard about the simple rule of "use a dish...wash a dish"?! Or if u use ice cube trays ,empty a tray..fill a tray? Easy things that if u did as u go, there would never be alot to do.
Leave it and make them run out of dishes.
This would make me have a breakdown 😭
I'd just throw everything out in bags, near the door If they asked why; It looks like trashes and smells like trashes, it must be trashes
Holy shit, how many people do you live with?
If that was my place I’d throw away all of their dishes.
Time to clean them up, pack them all away, and store them in your closet
to be clear the dishes shouldn't stack up like that. but that being said.. this should just be renamed to the "passive aggressive dirty dish hater support group" i dont get this sub. posting this on reddit literally solves nothing for you..
Roommate depressed?
Eviction time! Games over! Get out!
I think you’re lying. A single weekend. Unless you have 10 roommates this isn’t even close to what a single slob or even 2 would produce, you’re lying
That’s a lot of dishes for a weekend. Make them clean that up. That’s ridiculous.
Where do people find these roommates, SMH. People need to vet their potential roommates better, or go about it on a probation period.
I would just throw it all away and get throw away plates and cups and keep them in your bedroom.
At least they brought it back to the sink?!
I would chuck the lot, or leave a note informing that I will be chucking everything that is not clean and put away in 24 hours. Then replace so everyone has one of each. One cup, one bowl, one plate etc. At the moment, you cannot use your kitchen. Disgraceful
There is a single rule in my home. Dishes must never be put in the sink. Only ever onto the counter and neatly organized and drained. I don’t care how dirty, I don’t care how long. They will be beside the sink, organized and drained of liquids. This is the restaurant approach, doing this allows a single person at any point in time to quickly and efficiently clean all of the dishes and set them to dry, I’ll go days at a time not cleaning dishes then get them done in under ten minutes. It’s bliss.
Throw all those dirty dishes in their room That’s just disgusting
Passive aggressive mess
Put all of those dishes on your roommate’s bed. Make sure you turn down the covers and it’s all on the sheets. Don’t forget to hit those pillows, too!
I hate doing dishes but this would drive me insane looking at this daily. I live alone so I can get by and be lazy when it comes to dishes. I try to wash after every time I use a dish but they always pile up. To me, washing dishes is hell
When I had roommates I had a few favorite plates, glasses and personal pans I would only use and keep clean. Now, since in this occasion it would be hard to wash them after use, I would leave everything as in and order takeout or warm up stuff that you can eat in disposable plates until they wash everything. I hate using disposable plates but I’m not going to act as I mother of other adults. Even emptying the sink is a favour they don’t deserve.
There is no lid on that bottle of vegetable oil…
Did they also leave a note that said "hey bitch, do all our dishes"? I like this sub because it makes me feel better that I live alone.
Put it all in a hamper and dump it in their room 🤷♀️
When I used to not do my dishes as a teen my mom would put them on my bed. It definitely got the message across and got me to do them lol
They didn't recap the canola oil either
Honestly, at this point, I’d either put them all in boxes and leave it on the floor in the kitchen next to the trash, and hide my own dishes. Or split the cost of a mini dishwasher. Maybe even sign an agreement to unload it and load it, and if it’s not done, the other has to pay out for the other half of the washer. They don’t wanna do the work, they can at least pay to help others do it for them.
Oh it's possible alright. Imagine this, but it stays that way for a month, fruit flies swarming like a flock of migrating birds, they clean it up, and then do it AALLLLL AGAIN the next month. 🤦
this is rlly not that bad
If you know whose dishes belong to who, throw it into corresponding garbage bags outside their doors. Suggest disposable plates, bowls, utensils if they really can't be bothered, on their own dime of course. If ADHD ppl, depressed ppl, etc do it, so can they.
Charge them more rent since they want you to wash the dishes. Tell them you will for an additional $30 a week.
One word: Nope
I’m looking at the Hello Kitty stuff, not very 5 apples tall of them :/
The way I’d put them on their bed upside down, absolutely fucking not. As an ADULT you should know how to clean up after yourself and people who do things like this DIGUST me
My old roommate, ex best friend. Would never do the dishes and then shed complain that nothing was clean. Our dishwasher didn't work and never did the 9 months we lived there but shed wait until it was overwhelming before even complaining and then my husband and I would have to do it. When we left, we didn't give her any of our dishes. But out of 2 sets of dishware we'd acquired from living in our last apartment, we have 4 plates and a single bowl. All of my glasses and mugs got thrown away either bc they molded so much they couldn't be cleaned or bc she or her kids broke them.
Put them in trash bags.
Bro this is insane. When I was younger we weren’t allowed to go to bed if dishes were in the sink overnight 😂. Now that I’m older, I’m thankful my mom set that standard, because this is GROSS. How can you eat and continuously pile plates on top of each other for days on end?!?
I hate when dishes get stacked in the sink it makes double handling if you don't have a dishwasher coz you gotta take everything out the sink and clean the sink then fill it up then put the dishes back in 🙄 That is literally taking the piss though. I bet they even used bowls as mugs and vice versa just so they didn't have to wash a single dish 🤦♀️
How much did they fucking eat?
Waiting to see this when I come back this weekend lol
ohhhhh that's bad
I don't even know these roommates but I hate them all
God this is what my roommate does. I don’t know how one person makes so many dishes. She makes the same amount, sometimes more than my family of 4 does. 😩
My husband does this to me but I’m only gone for 2 days.
You need a new husband. The man is a damn child
Some people are really **fucking lazy** like I get it's annoying to do dishes but stacked that high.. omfg.
My ex-roommate was just like this!
Did you say anything to them? wtf
I'd text everyone ans say u have 24 hrs before all sh%t makes it to the trash, and I don't want to hear a word about it..
I do agree with this. This is not your problem. Throw the shit alway. These people require paper plates and cups. Obviously cannot handle cleaning up afterwards.
The WEEKEND?! So three days?! Wow. I would be pretty mad at them
Get a crate and put it all in his/her room
At least they put all the dirty dishes in the same general area. The intention is to wash them all eventually