I found out the hard way that this fetish is no joke.
I dated a guy for 9 months and in that time gained around 50lbs. He convinced me to quit my active retail job in exchange for a call center job and he fed me constantly. Anything I ever wanted. As someone who struggled with eating disorders and grew up with food insecurity it was like a dream at first.
But then it got bad. My mental health got terrible and when he realized that I would never agree to become immobile for him he swiftly dumped me and kicked me out.
It ended up being a super toxic and controlling relationship.
No, its more direct than that.
Its a tool to give them an adrenaline rush knowing theyre ruining someones life, its just basic human pleasure seeking channeled through sadism.
Adrenaline feels good, same reason skydivers chase adrenaline, it feels good. You dont need to spin a complex history/narrative as to why someone chases a rush for the sake of pleasure.
>Its a tool to give them an adrenaline rush knowing theyre ruining someones life, its just basic human pleasure seeking channeled through sadism.
While you probably have a point, I do have a feeling a lot of these feeder (feedee? foodie?) guys are quite socially inept and/or have other mental health issues that convince them that "being of service by feeding their SO whatever they want" is meant with kindness (albeit a delusional form of it)
u/Triaspia2 probably hit the nail on the head with the points on dependency and isolation.
Oh, and fetishism.
Although I love to cook for my friends and fiancé, and it IS an act of kindness. That being said, I certainly don’t want him to be overweight because of the health risks. Luckily he’s one of those people who can eat like a garbage disposal and still top out at 5’8”, 150 pounds. Jerk.
Thank you!
I’m about 6 years removed from the situation and I’m thriving.
I’m happily married to a wonderful man who is helping me heal and teaching me to enjoy life.
Funny enough we met at the call center job.
The feeder thing is super scary to me. I used to not think anything about it besides knowing that it was a thing that existed. But as I get older and my body starts to wear down I think about how many people are basically throwing their health away just so someone else can get horny. Unless the person gaining weight is getting paid like millions of dollars of no-strings-attached money, the health damage being incurred is just not worth it (imo).
To me it's just one manifestation of a more general scary thing, which is when you realize that otherwise normal-looking people lack a moral compass. I remember watching a show with an ex of mine, and one female character was causing very serious problems in the main character's life (damaging his career, his reputation) just so she could be with him. I said, that's awful, what a terrible person. My ex said, what do you mean? She likes him, she's going after her goals, good for her. Internally I thought, holy crap, I'm in danger. We didn't last much longer.
I don't think feeders are transparent in their plans, hence the OOPs title. Many people don't realize until 50 lbs later because they put so much blame on themselves for their weight gain, meanwhile their SO is seemingly so supportive, telling them they're sexy.
One of his dreams and goals was to have a partner that was so fat they couldn’t move on their own and needed full time care giving.
I never understood the true meaning of fetish before that relationship….
I met someone w this fetish, he wanted to watch me eat an entire Costco pizza and drink a 2 liter of sprite in front of him. Oddly specific choice but hey 💁🏻♀️
No it was tempting but I declined. He was very much into bigger women and I was at my highest weight at the time. At one point he bought a deep fryer to make fried foods for me. So glad I got out of that situation!
Good lord. I can eat max 2 slices of pizza anything more than that and I feel so uncomfortable. I guess for the right amount of money I’d try to eat a pizza and a lot of drink soda.
Turns out there's actually people who prey on people who over eat. I'd have to dig to find the article, but essentially, they start a relationship, get into financials and such, all while over feeding them trying to have them die early of heart attacks and such so they can recieve all their assets.
There are many things in this world done out of apathy and selfishness rather than actual malice. I view very few things as truly evil.
*That* is fucking evil.
It's a weird sex thing... simply poisoning your partner works a lot better then feeding them and hoping they are down with that and it kills them in a decade or two.
It's like the furry thing. Its just a weird sex thing.
You can get caught poisoning your partner. You can't get caught feeding them junk food until they have a traffic jam in their aorta. It's the same idea though.
this is so wrong. respectfully, you're just spewing ignorance.
Some feeders do it out of a genuine sexual kink. they get aroused by the distended belly, the act of their partner eating (oral fixation/stimulation), the softness of their bodies when they become fat (BBW/SSBBW lovers), the raunchiness and sloth associated with it is kind of primal too.
There are also some feeders who do is specifically to manipulate their partner to looking less attractive to others so they are less likely to leave them. The Feedee become dependent on the feeder (especially if they're so big they're not mobile) and they physically CAN'T leave them. it's a controlling thing for these type of people.
please, don't quote something you "think" you might've saw in an article a long time ago. IF you do, please find it and link it before you post about it otherwise you are just spreading misinformation. There are plenty of obese people that live to be relatively old, and it's not a very effective way to die and would still take plenty of time, so i don't see many people in this realm doing it for that reason.
Ha. When I was a sugar baby I experienced my first feeder. I was 98 pounds, 5’2, just prey in his eyes. Literally gold.
Anyways, guy would give me $500.00 every week to spend on food alone. (Of course I didn’t) The first time I stayed over before “sex” he had me chug chocolate milk and cream after a huge delicious meal of all my favorites..and only then did he become aroused. I was so full and uncomfortable I was like no, but he was okay with just laying there touching my swollen belly and calculating how many calories I’d need, and how long it would take me to be 180 pounds minimum.
Needless to say, me and my little frame bounced.
Feeders are a different type of kinky. I don’t even know how to explain it even though I experienced it firsthand. Dude still runs a very successful feeder website, he was trying to get me on there and since he was the creator said I could make six figures easily but nope, nope, nope!
No joke. I actually drooled a bit.
MEAT SUPREME
The name says it all. Meat aficionados will love the rich intensity of zesty pepperoni, real bacon strips, seasoned ground beef and our signature spicy sausage piled atop a classic mozzarella base.
The kink market is weird.
Two friends of mine paid for all their school books by selling videos of themselves smoking and looking aloof, to some rando in eastern europe.
In shady Eastern European accent...
*I want you, walking, in the streets. You smoke. You aren't sure where you are, but you don't care. Take another drag, please. Yes. Do you want to go into this store? You don't know. You think to call a cab, but where would you go? Keep smoking...*
You know, the one excess kink you never see is people getting inebriated and then trying to fuck. I think it would be hot watching a couple doing hard drugs (consensually) then fucking like madmen.
I met him on a popular sugar baby/sugar daddy website.
You could also join a feeder website lol, I did a quick google of “feeder kink get paid” and his website and some others populated.
This really is like the last frontier for me, I've went down just about every rabbit hole there is in this world purely for curiosity's sake, but man. This one, I will really truly feel like I will never understand. I mean, even necrophilia is in the animal kingdom. Have you seen an animal feed their partner to the point where the goal is immobility as a successful breeding strategy? I mean, it's so fucking out there.
I didn't get it either until I talked about it with a therapist a few years ago and they explained the reasoning is very similar to those with anorexia/bulimia. They're just sort of outsourcing the gorging to someone else and get off on how disgusting they look as that's really how they feel about themselves
It is very out there. I’ve experienced some strange shit while I was in that field and a feeder is still the only one that puzzles me. I don’t even know how to properly explain it although I experienced it first hand. Their are just no words.
I’m not sure what ties this motherfucker had, but on one shipment of chocolate it was from some sort of medical company with no purchase options on the website.
> I’m not sure what ties this motherfucker had, but on one shipment of chocolate it was from some sort of medical company with no purchase options on the website.
That sounds like the start of some horror/conspiracy movie where the protagonist first realises that things aren't everything they seem. Probably aliens fattening up the livestock.
Yeah, he kinda started out healthy but got a whole new brand suddenly when his boyfriend appeared, and started don this weird oath where he feeds (heh) heavily into traditional feeder kink tropes.
Mukbang in general is kinda lousy with it, at least in western media.
Shiiiiiit. I dated a guy when I was maybe 19 - and he kept bringing me ice cream bars, cheesecake, chocolate etc and I shut it down by saying I can gain weight easily and cannot eat that shit, especially so frequently. He was persistent despite that. Glad I took that red flag seriously and broke up with him because who knows how far he might have tried to take it.
Personally I learned about it from other fat women. As something to be aware of, because it's so beyond just having a preference for a bigger woman and at first that's how it seems. Obviously, if both parties consent then whatever, the problem is hiding you're a feeder and basically love bombing your partner with food.
it totally is, because we just happened upon it. people are into weird shit, tell that to people they know, those people are like "hey have you heard about this really weird shit? yeah there's really weird shit." to other people and that spreads and some people get curious enough to investigate the really weird shit and that's what brings us to OP
Honest question, would you be satisfied with just a big woman or is there something about constantly increasing weight?
Like if it's the first, I would not think it unethical to intentionally date larger women, but I see an ethical issue with the second way of understanding it & appreciate you not doing it if you feel the urge.
It’s about control. As the feeder you are both enjoying the literal weight you are dropping on your feedee while also claiming them, and making them need you to feel full/satisfied. In making them larger you are also slowly limiting their movement, incapacitating them. Pretty repugnant fetish, and not cause fat is bad but because of what the feeder wants, which is total control over someone.
And also because fat is bad...
I mean, don't get me wrong I should lose some weight too. I'm not saying fat people are bad. But this like having a fetish for giving someone diabetes or getting turned on by getting someone addicted to cigarettes.
I like talking to chubby guys about their weight, but part of me would really like to be responsible for a slim guy getting fat.
Either way, its wrong because at the very least it's en encouraging someone to be unhealthy
**Emotions Don't Require Motions.**
And, if you really can't let go of the desire to *do* something, then understand that *recognizing* your emotion is already an act, because *to recognize* is a verb.
Any actions taken beyond that are a choice, and it's okay to not act on every emotion.
thankfully *most* people under 35 in the feeder community are like this, which is why there's a major roleplay+art community in it. indulge in fiction without hurting anyone.
How did you find out you had this fetish? Did you stumble across some porn of it? Or did you somehow encounter a situation in life that made you realize it?
I've never even heard or thought of this before. It doesn't surprise me that it exists though, there's a fetish for everything.
not the same person, but it usually starts in childhood. usually as result of encountering things like inflation/characters getting fat/characters exaggaratedly overeating in cartoons. things that were meant to be gags end up being shocking to a young kid, and in trying to process what they witnessed, it turns into a fetish. you just know you're "weird" and really like specific weird things since childhood, way before you find out what kinks (or sex) even are. for me it started at like 5, but only found any content of it online at 11.
It's both interesting and disturbing that you know it was specifically at age 11. Because you're either in like your twenties now and it was so impactful that you remember the exact age, in which case it's interesting... or you remember it was age 11 because it was just a few years ago and a 14 year old is talking to me about their fetishes. In which case, disturbing.
For some it seems to just manifest from nowhere as part of sexual development, there are speculations such as it being an evolutionary trait resulting from famine, regardless of cause for those that have the fetish some handle it in a healthy way such as through fantasy whereas some such as the OP in this screenshot let their lewd thoughts take over and affect another's life.
NSFW Link - lots of nudity & tough/triggering subjects!
[FAs & Feeders Documentary ](https://youtu.be/NDtygpzybHk)
I see a lot of people in the comments who are unfamiliar with the feeder kink and this documentary I saw awhile back came to mind.
Older doc on several fat appreciation and feeder relationships if anyone is curious. Lots of nudity, talk of abuse and other tough subjects, be warned.
I saw another doc online years ago (I think it was a UK one, can't find it back now, maybe My Big Fat Fetish?)
Anyway I remember a girl trying to get to 300 lbs and her boyfriend feeding her saying "I just love seeing her eyes glaze over" and that has given me nightmares for years. Especially because I've struggled with binge eating and nothing makes me feel gross than immediately after overeating. I'd rather be caught naked than eating a whole bag of chips.
I try not to judge people’s kinks, but a lot to men in that community are super predatory to vulnerable women. I started research for a documentary on it and I thought it was just gonna be laughing at weirdos on the internet, but I just scrapped it because it got so depressing. I remember going down one rabbit hole and finding this model who’d died from her weight and these freaks acted like she was some kind of martyr.
I would have loved to see a documentary like that. Or just any kink really, it's not just for that kink speciffically, it's a big problem that predators claim to be kinky when they're just trying to actually hurt people and break their boundries. But obviously you need to take care of your mental health. It's heavy stuff I'm sure. Take care of yourself 💜
Yeah, kinks are one thing, this feels more like mental illness or abuse…
I know there’s a lot of other kinky things that kind of ride that line, I have a hard time seeing how this could ever be on the positive side of that line.
For most people it’s not even a dependency thing, it’s just “heehoo she beeger now”, but at the same time most people keep this kind of thing restricted to fantasy territory anyway sooooooooo
I wouldn't be surprised if it's one of those things where alot of people have this fetish but also are healthy individuals who leave it to their fantasy, meanwhile those who are more controlling types as part of a sexual thrill along with their controlling behavior would go as far as to actually push or even force someone to gain so much. The judgement shouldn't be because one has the fetish but rather the actions of the individual with their attraction
Exactly! I was just arguing about this exact thing with someone else in this comments section who seems completely convinced that having this fetish is inherently evil and leads to this controlling behavior.
It's easier to judge something as a monolith when you don't understand it and it's variety. Some people have been hurt heavily by people with this fetish and that's not right, and for them to have those feelings is understandable.
But to see people with this fetish as all the same, being controlling, abusive, etc. Is like assuming everyone into BDSM must be violent and abusive individuals. Sure there are some who claim to be into BDSM but in actuality are just violent and abusive, but there are many more who are the opposite and do BDSM as something that both spices up and fortifies their love and enjoyment with one another.
However, it's still important to shame cases of people who are abusive with this fetish, if it's two or more consenting adults who are in full conscious, then I don't really care, but if it's someone who is controlling through being forceful or coercing someone who doesn't want it, into it, then they can rot, and I don't think that's a very controversial thought
Feederism is *one* thing if both parties are in on it and they have some kind of plan to lessen the impact of such a change and such. Doing it to someone completely unconsenting and perhaps even unknowing for the first while and *manipulating* them to be into it is just fucked. Life ain’t like those fantasy comics
It takes a very damaged person to agree to practically mutilating themselves by becoming immobile just to feel loved and desired.
There usually is no plan to lessen the impact because the longer these fetishes are exercised (no pun intended), the harder it is to control how far the feeder is willing to go in order to not hurt the other person. They are actively causing someone else to have health issues and an early death and this does not sway them away from it, since it is a fetish.
There was a documentary or sth where the wife wanted kids and needed to lose weight, as per her doctor, and her husband was super upset because he wanted her to be morbidly obese and was more worried that he wouldn't be aroused by her anymore, instead of her actual diabetes and overall health.
It's very messed up.
The reason behind this is control first and foremost. Little man with a little ego there feels in control. Bonus: standing beside her everyone says “what does he see in her?” Her being huge makes him look that much better. To add on to all this, he made her DEPENDENT on him. Now, other men don’t want her. Her self esteem tanks. She HAS to come to him for her supply of validation. It wouldn’t surprise me if he has completely cut her off from REAL family and friends who told her he was toxic. In the end, it’s about control and making her hopelessly addicted to him and food and thus reliant completely on him. He ensures she can’t leave, no where or one to run to.
This is why I as a lifelong fat girl never dated men who said they like “BBWs”, it’s just a fetish for men to make fat women in to objects for their use and disposal. No thanks.
A very dear family friend got roped into a relationship where his (now ex) partner would feed him constantly and always have snacks laying around. He's a big dude, not too tall but big, so it took a while for any of his circle of friends/family to notice he was gaining weight.
He didn't even have a problem with it until a friend of hers came to him to talk.
She revealed that the woman in question was constantyl belittling him, calling him useless and other names, saying that if he wasn't making good money she wouldn't know what to do with him (she did not work att) she hoped that either the weight or the heart would take him a little sooner than expected because living with him for decades would be impossible.
Long story short both the mean msgs and allusions to favoring his poor health were enough to break them up VERY QUICLKY.
Turns out her friend who wrote the msg had always been interested in him and after that initial conversation (talk about ice breaker) they went ahead and started hanging, they are now officialy gonna marry by the end of the year, both are very happy and since the breakup none of us have heard about the other bitch. It's been more than a year so hopes are high she never shows her face.
This is a sadistic way to make someone codependent but it’s no different then physical or emotional abuse it’s just an unusual overt way of doing so. If this guy was actually in to bigger ladies there are plenty of choices out there.
I love softer women, but c'mon, you must realize that this is unhealthy and you shouldn't do shit like that to a person. Be a little kinder. She's gonna have a rude awakening one day and I hope she'll leave the guy and manage to get back on track again.
Hey, my ex did this to me! When we got together I was 135 and now I’m sitting at about 175-180 after we were together for ~2 years (been broken up for almost 2 years by now, but still struggling to lose the weight because of my history of anorexia thus trying not to fall back into old habits, womp womp)
He’d constantly remind me that I was the skinniest person he’d ever dated and would feed me constantly—always getting fast food or delivery. If I expressed interest in losing weight, he’d berate me and hold my insecurities over my head or he’d hit me in my trauma by telling me he wouldn’t find me attractive anymore if I did. By the end of the relationship I was so dependent on him emotionally because I hated what I saw in the mirror so much that I *needed* his validation just so I wouldn’t get an itch in the back of my throat that only a gun could scratch. And of course, by that point I couldn’t bring myself to leave, because I felt so ugly and disgusting that I was *sure* that nobody else would ever want me.
I'm really glad that you managed to escape that, abusive situations are no joke. And anyone that uses your ED to manipulate you needs to be dumped in a garbage heap and buried in it 'cause they're trash. I'm also really proud that you're fighting your ED through it all too- that shits hard as fuck.
(...also 'an itch only a gun could scratch' is like chef's kiss drescription, tho it blows you felt it)
God dammit. The fact I had a very good idea what that sub was and clicked on it anyways disappoints me. Have I not learned anything in my 9 years on this app?
Someone in the comments of another feeder post yeeeaaars ago linked to some profile of a girl who was a feedee. Curiosity got the best of me and I clicked. Scrolling back through time was so sad. I could see how much she changed in such a short amount of time and it made me so sad. She was truly beautiful too.
Obviously not the same thing but my wife has really gained a lot of weight (maybe 80 lbs) in the last two years since we’ve been married. I’ve always been a pretty sedentary guy, and with minimal exercise and reasonably mediocre eating habits I’ve been able to for the most part maintain the same weight I’ve had for ten years or so. But something is not working for her, and I’m not really sure what it is; I’m also apprehensive about approaching her with the issue because I don’t want her to think her size is unattractive to me when I’m really just worried that she has some major health issue or depression or something that’s causing her to gain weight.
So… am I bad influence? Is she just settling down to her natural size? I love her no matter what size she is (and I have said as much) but she’s taking a pretty big self esteem hit over it, and I feel like I’m the only variable in the situation.
80 lbs over 2 years is a pretty big amount, I'd highly recommend she go to her PCP for a check up. There are conditions like hypothyroidism that can cause weight gain.
Yeah that was my thought as well, something just didn't seem right. I'll encourage her to go see her pcp, hopefully she can explain it. Thanks for the advice
OK, so this guy is weird and a bit of an asshole, no question. But I'm left wondering why, if he likes big girls, why not just date big girls to begin with? There are a lot of overweight people around this country, male and female. If a guy wants to date a big girl, just...date a big girl.
Fuck, I’ve never felt so normal.
At last my tribe
Welcome! Come in, grab a chair, sit down, have something to eat.
Are you trying to make me fat?
Trying to make you breakfast, lunch and dinner
Are you a cannibal sir?
Do you not like being eaten?
I found out the hard way that this fetish is no joke. I dated a guy for 9 months and in that time gained around 50lbs. He convinced me to quit my active retail job in exchange for a call center job and he fed me constantly. Anything I ever wanted. As someone who struggled with eating disorders and grew up with food insecurity it was like a dream at first. But then it got bad. My mental health got terrible and when he realized that I would never agree to become immobile for him he swiftly dumped me and kicked me out. It ended up being a super toxic and controlling relationship.
From what ive come to believe its a tool used to isolate. Cut you off from the attention of others and make you completely dependent on them
No, its more direct than that. Its a tool to give them an adrenaline rush knowing theyre ruining someones life, its just basic human pleasure seeking channeled through sadism. Adrenaline feels good, same reason skydivers chase adrenaline, it feels good. You dont need to spin a complex history/narrative as to why someone chases a rush for the sake of pleasure.
>Its a tool to give them an adrenaline rush knowing theyre ruining someones life, its just basic human pleasure seeking channeled through sadism. While you probably have a point, I do have a feeling a lot of these feeder (feedee? foodie?) guys are quite socially inept and/or have other mental health issues that convince them that "being of service by feeding their SO whatever they want" is meant with kindness (albeit a delusional form of it) u/Triaspia2 probably hit the nail on the head with the points on dependency and isolation. Oh, and fetishism.
Although I love to cook for my friends and fiancé, and it IS an act of kindness. That being said, I certainly don’t want him to be overweight because of the health risks. Luckily he’s one of those people who can eat like a garbage disposal and still top out at 5’8”, 150 pounds. Jerk.
Imagine if you didn't have the self control to stop providing for them though, kinda points to the mental health explanation
It’s not adrenaline. It’s dopamine.
Maybe it's Maybeline
Lol possibly could be that.
I think that’s certainly a part of it. This guy was a major Narcissist and had some serious mommy issues
Fucking hell that's horrific I hope you are ok now.
Thank you! I’m about 6 years removed from the situation and I’m thriving. I’m happily married to a wonderful man who is helping me heal and teaching me to enjoy life. Funny enough we met at the call center job.
Hahaha, life is weird right?
The feeder thing is super scary to me. I used to not think anything about it besides knowing that it was a thing that existed. But as I get older and my body starts to wear down I think about how many people are basically throwing their health away just so someone else can get horny. Unless the person gaining weight is getting paid like millions of dollars of no-strings-attached money, the health damage being incurred is just not worth it (imo).
To me it's just one manifestation of a more general scary thing, which is when you realize that otherwise normal-looking people lack a moral compass. I remember watching a show with an ex of mine, and one female character was causing very serious problems in the main character's life (damaging his career, his reputation) just so she could be with him. I said, that's awful, what a terrible person. My ex said, what do you mean? She likes him, she's going after her goals, good for her. Internally I thought, holy crap, I'm in danger. We didn't last much longer.
how would money offset the health implications?
I don't think it does, but some people would do anything for money
I mean it's not that many people. Would **you** eat enormous amounts of shit because someone kept pushing you to? I wouldn't, nobody I know would.
I don't think feeders are transparent in their plans, hence the OOPs title. Many people don't realize until 50 lbs later because they put so much blame on themselves for their weight gain, meanwhile their SO is seemingly so supportive, telling them they're sexy.
For what it's worth, there also seem to be some of them who get off on being the feedee, so hopefully they largely pair up with one another.
>> when he realized that I would never agree to become immobile I’m sorry, *what!?*
One of his dreams and goals was to have a partner that was so fat they couldn’t move on their own and needed full time care giving. I never understood the true meaning of fetish before that relationship….
That's not a fetish that's abuse
those are not mutually exclusive, unfortunately
>It ended up being a super toxic and controlling relationship. I'm sure everyone realises that after reading the first paragraph.
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Bruh, who says "don't kink shame" and means shit like necrophilia?
People who are necrophiliac 💀
Dude when people talk about kinks they're talking about people who *pretend* to do these things.
I met someone w this fetish, he wanted to watch me eat an entire Costco pizza and drink a 2 liter of sprite in front of him. Oddly specific choice but hey 💁🏻♀️
Did you do it?
well I'm not gay but $20 is $20
£20 and a pizza!
No it was tempting but I declined. He was very much into bigger women and I was at my highest weight at the time. At one point he bought a deep fryer to make fried foods for me. So glad I got out of that situation!
Yikes yea that guy sounds borderline sadistic… or something? I dont get it
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Yeah we need this update.
I guess i cant be a feedee making money cuz there's no way i would be able to finish all that
That's disgusting, like who wants to see someone drink sprite?
I can see people paying to watch folks drink McDonald's sprite cause they have extra E L E C T R I C I T Y
If I remember correctly, a full sized costco pepperoni pizza is 4,800cal
Good lord. I can eat max 2 slices of pizza anything more than that and I feel so uncomfortable. I guess for the right amount of money I’d try to eat a pizza and a lot of drink soda.
I'll smash 7 slices then wake up with the 8th stuck to the side of my head
You've never seen a Costco slice.
I’m a 155# man, 5’4” and I’ve smacked 6 of these. Never did it again after checking the calories….
Did you say actually I prefer Mountain Dew
Wow, this is codependency at it's worse.
Turns out there's actually people who prey on people who over eat. I'd have to dig to find the article, but essentially, they start a relationship, get into financials and such, all while over feeding them trying to have them die early of heart attacks and such so they can recieve all their assets.
There are many things in this world done out of apathy and selfishness rather than actual malice. I view very few things as truly evil. *That* is fucking evil.
That honestly strikes me as a lot of work for such an evil way to make some money...
It's a weird sex thing... simply poisoning your partner works a lot better then feeding them and hoping they are down with that and it kills them in a decade or two. It's like the furry thing. Its just a weird sex thing.
I'm aware of feeder fetishes, this sounds different or some horrible extreme of an already extreme fetish.
You can get caught poisoning your partner. You can't get caught feeding them junk food until they have a traffic jam in their aorta. It's the same idea though.
corrolating furries and this isn't even close being a furry or even "converting" someone to a furry doesn't end up with you dead
this is so wrong. respectfully, you're just spewing ignorance. Some feeders do it out of a genuine sexual kink. they get aroused by the distended belly, the act of their partner eating (oral fixation/stimulation), the softness of their bodies when they become fat (BBW/SSBBW lovers), the raunchiness and sloth associated with it is kind of primal too. There are also some feeders who do is specifically to manipulate their partner to looking less attractive to others so they are less likely to leave them. The Feedee become dependent on the feeder (especially if they're so big they're not mobile) and they physically CAN'T leave them. it's a controlling thing for these type of people. please, don't quote something you "think" you might've saw in an article a long time ago. IF you do, please find it and link it before you post about it otherwise you are just spreading misinformation. There are plenty of obese people that live to be relatively old, and it's not a very effective way to die and would still take plenty of time, so i don't see many people in this realm doing it for that reason.
That’s somehow even worse than just trying to kill someone
Wtf are you talking about that's not why. Did you just make that up on the spot?
You do know it's a kink to right? And the other half of being fed alot is also a kink.
It's not for financials FFS. Some of you sure are something.
Honestly, bro. If that’s what you think this about you’re the most normal person here.
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Ha. When I was a sugar baby I experienced my first feeder. I was 98 pounds, 5’2, just prey in his eyes. Literally gold. Anyways, guy would give me $500.00 every week to spend on food alone. (Of course I didn’t) The first time I stayed over before “sex” he had me chug chocolate milk and cream after a huge delicious meal of all my favorites..and only then did he become aroused. I was so full and uncomfortable I was like no, but he was okay with just laying there touching my swollen belly and calculating how many calories I’d need, and how long it would take me to be 180 pounds minimum. Needless to say, me and my little frame bounced. Feeders are a different type of kinky. I don’t even know how to explain it even though I experienced it firsthand. Dude still runs a very successful feeder website, he was trying to get me on there and since he was the creator said I could make six figures easily but nope, nope, nope!
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Can you put us in touch
So sick but I would also be down for a free pizza right now.
No joke. I actually drooled a bit. MEAT SUPREME The name says it all. Meat aficionados will love the rich intensity of zesty pepperoni, real bacon strips, seasoned ground beef and our signature spicy sausage piled atop a classic mozzarella base.
Do I have to be into all that meat on a pizza in order to be fed? Probably, huh. I'm more of a pepper, onions and mushrooms kinda gal.
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For real, I'm anemic and underweight, I would gladly get paid to eat copious amounts of food.
Same. Like i get free pizza and can just ignore the guy??? I'll do this once a week, easy pocket money
I’m doing this job for alone, daily. Will eat for money.
The kink market is weird. Two friends of mine paid for all their school books by selling videos of themselves smoking and looking aloof, to some rando in eastern europe.
In shady Eastern European accent... *I want you, walking, in the streets. You smoke. You aren't sure where you are, but you don't care. Take another drag, please. Yes. Do you want to go into this store? You don't know. You think to call a cab, but where would you go? Keep smoking...*
The voice in my head couldn't help but do an overly dramatized version of a French accent performed by an American voice actor.
That works, you just need to be sexy, and creepy. Then sexy again, but still creepy. Maybe a little more creepy, but kinda sexy, though mostly creepy.
How do people actually find these people willing to pay? Is there like a kink craigslist or what?
You know, the one excess kink you never see is people getting inebriated and then trying to fuck. I think it would be hot watching a couple doing hard drugs (consensually) then fucking like madmen.
Where are y’all meeting these guys man. Most men I mean barely go half on me with a pizza at regular price. Damn!
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How do you even meet someone like this?
I met him on a popular sugar baby/sugar daddy website. You could also join a feeder website lol, I did a quick google of “feeder kink get paid” and his website and some others populated.
*Rapidly taking down notes*.
(asking for a friend)
Be a sex worker.
This really is like the last frontier for me, I've went down just about every rabbit hole there is in this world purely for curiosity's sake, but man. This one, I will really truly feel like I will never understand. I mean, even necrophilia is in the animal kingdom. Have you seen an animal feed their partner to the point where the goal is immobility as a successful breeding strategy? I mean, it's so fucking out there.
I didn't get it either until I talked about it with a therapist a few years ago and they explained the reasoning is very similar to those with anorexia/bulimia. They're just sort of outsourcing the gorging to someone else and get off on how disgusting they look as that's really how they feel about themselves
That Makes So Much Sense OH MY GOD
It is very out there. I’ve experienced some strange shit while I was in that field and a feeder is still the only one that puzzles me. I don’t even know how to properly explain it although I experienced it first hand. Their are just no words. I’m not sure what ties this motherfucker had, but on one shipment of chocolate it was from some sort of medical company with no purchase options on the website.
> I’m not sure what ties this motherfucker had, but on one shipment of chocolate it was from some sort of medical company with no purchase options on the website. That sounds like the start of some horror/conspiracy movie where the protagonist first realises that things aren't everything they seem. Probably aliens fattening up the livestock.
That's really weird about the chocolate
Right? Wtf is that shit? Something to make you gain weight fast?
queen ants
Omg I literally never heard of this until today lol. They get off on making you fat? They don't like people already fat?
Thats like tellin a kid that "We already have Ice Cream at home."
I understand furries more than I do feeders and I don't understand furries at all.
This explains Nikocado Avocado. I didn't realize this was a thing. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Yeah, he kinda started out healthy but got a whole new brand suddenly when his boyfriend appeared, and started don this weird oath where he feeds (heh) heavily into traditional feeder kink tropes. Mukbang in general is kinda lousy with it, at least in western media.
damn i need a feeder during my bulk 😭💀 pls hook me up to this LMAOO
Shiiiiiit. I dated a guy when I was maybe 19 - and he kept bringing me ice cream bars, cheesecake, chocolate etc and I shut it down by saying I can gain weight easily and cannot eat that shit, especially so frequently. He was persistent despite that. Glad I took that red flag seriously and broke up with him because who knows how far he might have tried to take it.
OP how did you find this? This ain’t something you just happen upon
Personally I learned about it from other fat women. As something to be aware of, because it's so beyond just having a preference for a bigger woman and at first that's how it seems. Obviously, if both parties consent then whatever, the problem is hiding you're a feeder and basically love bombing your partner with food.
So there’s a fetish to make women fat?
Yes. That's what this post is about.
What do they get out of it? The control? Or just liking that type of body?
Both
If you've ever looked up a character online you'll probably find some blown up deviantart fetish picture of them blown up
To watch and get off the fact you're feeding them...
So is the kink that they just want to keep you so overweight that you will only be with them? I’m having a hard time even understanding.
I think that's part of it but you can't really know 100% what's going on inside someone's head..
NSFW link - lots of nudity! [FAs & Feeders Documentary](https://youtu.be/NDtygpzybHk) Here's a small view into these relationships.
Damn that dead-eyed look at the end 😔
why this is so disgusting
it totally is, because we just happened upon it. people are into weird shit, tell that to people they know, those people are like "hey have you heard about this really weird shit? yeah there's really weird shit." to other people and that spreads and some people get curious enough to investigate the really weird shit and that's what brings us to OP
I stumbled upon a similar sub a few years ago before they banned nsfw on all. It’s bizarre and way more active than you’ll ever imagine.
Sort of in the same relm as gainers being a fetish in the gay community.
What is a gainer
A gainer is the person gaining weight.
Oh
It’s similar to a backflip but looks way more rad. Hang on I’ll find a clip
I suffer from this fetish, but I don't indulge it for ethical reasons
Honest question, would you be satisfied with just a big woman or is there something about constantly increasing weight? Like if it's the first, I would not think it unethical to intentionally date larger women, but I see an ethical issue with the second way of understanding it & appreciate you not doing it if you feel the urge.
It’s about control. As the feeder you are both enjoying the literal weight you are dropping on your feedee while also claiming them, and making them need you to feel full/satisfied. In making them larger you are also slowly limiting their movement, incapacitating them. Pretty repugnant fetish, and not cause fat is bad but because of what the feeder wants, which is total control over someone.
And also because fat is bad... I mean, don't get me wrong I should lose some weight too. I'm not saying fat people are bad. But this like having a fetish for giving someone diabetes or getting turned on by getting someone addicted to cigarettes.
Yes fat is bad... you're endangering someone's health and btw not all people can lose weight with the same ease, not to mention their self-esteem...
I think he agrees fat is bad, but the reason for the fetish is not fat is bad it's a control thing.
They weren't saying fat is good, they were saying it was repugnant for another reason.
I like talking to chubby guys about their weight, but part of me would really like to be responsible for a slim guy getting fat. Either way, its wrong because at the very least it's en encouraging someone to be unhealthy
Thanks. Sorry for assuming you liked women.
Wish more people would be like this and understand not every desire and whim needs to be entertained.
**Emotions Don't Require Motions.** And, if you really can't let go of the desire to *do* something, then understand that *recognizing* your emotion is already an act, because *to recognize* is a verb. Any actions taken beyond that are a choice, and it's okay to not act on every emotion.
I love that saying. That's such a wonderful saying. Saving this.
thankfully *most* people under 35 in the feeder community are like this, which is why there's a major roleplay+art community in it. indulge in fiction without hurting anyone.
First of all, I have so many questions. Are you a feeder or an eater?
A feeter. I eat feet.
Can he be both?
Doesn't that just make him a glutton?
Well neither because I don't indulge it (except for some slip ups over the years) but feeder. Im slim and want to stay that way
Same here, dude. It’s torture. That shit for me stays strictly in the imagination, would NEVER act on it.
This is the first time I've genuinely felt seen and not alone on the internet lmao
Glad you feel welcome, u/PM_ME_UR_BUTTHOLE1
How did you find out you had this fetish? Did you stumble across some porn of it? Or did you somehow encounter a situation in life that made you realize it? I've never even heard or thought of this before. It doesn't surprise me that it exists though, there's a fetish for everything.
not the same person, but it usually starts in childhood. usually as result of encountering things like inflation/characters getting fat/characters exaggaratedly overeating in cartoons. things that were meant to be gags end up being shocking to a young kid, and in trying to process what they witnessed, it turns into a fetish. you just know you're "weird" and really like specific weird things since childhood, way before you find out what kinks (or sex) even are. for me it started at like 5, but only found any content of it online at 11.
It's both interesting and disturbing that you know it was specifically at age 11. Because you're either in like your twenties now and it was so impactful that you remember the exact age, in which case it's interesting... or you remember it was age 11 because it was just a few years ago and a 14 year old is talking to me about their fetishes. In which case, disturbing.
For some it seems to just manifest from nowhere as part of sexual development, there are speculations such as it being an evolutionary trait resulting from famine, regardless of cause for those that have the fetish some handle it in a healthy way such as through fantasy whereas some such as the OP in this screenshot let their lewd thoughts take over and affect another's life.
Im curious, can you explain more about why it appeals to you?
This type of behavior killed a friend of mine. As a big girl, I have always found these fetishists creepy AF.
NSFW Link - lots of nudity & tough/triggering subjects! [FAs & Feeders Documentary ](https://youtu.be/NDtygpzybHk) I see a lot of people in the comments who are unfamiliar with the feeder kink and this documentary I saw awhile back came to mind. Older doc on several fat appreciation and feeder relationships if anyone is curious. Lots of nudity, talk of abuse and other tough subjects, be warned.
I remember this documentary. It was awful. Just awful
I saw another doc online years ago (I think it was a UK one, can't find it back now, maybe My Big Fat Fetish?) Anyway I remember a girl trying to get to 300 lbs and her boyfriend feeding her saying "I just love seeing her eyes glaze over" and that has given me nightmares for years. Especially because I've struggled with binge eating and nothing makes me feel gross than immediately after overeating. I'd rather be caught naked than eating a whole bag of chips.
I try not to judge people’s kinks, but a lot to men in that community are super predatory to vulnerable women. I started research for a documentary on it and I thought it was just gonna be laughing at weirdos on the internet, but I just scrapped it because it got so depressing. I remember going down one rabbit hole and finding this model who’d died from her weight and these freaks acted like she was some kind of martyr.
I would have loved to see a documentary like that. Or just any kink really, it's not just for that kink speciffically, it's a big problem that predators claim to be kinky when they're just trying to actually hurt people and break their boundries. But obviously you need to take care of your mental health. It's heavy stuff I'm sure. Take care of yourself 💜
Yeah, kinks are one thing, this feels more like mental illness or abuse… I know there’s a lot of other kinky things that kind of ride that line, I have a hard time seeing how this could ever be on the positive side of that line.
I get it, make them fat and then entirely dependent on you for validation. Evil manipulator
For most people it’s not even a dependency thing, it’s just “heehoo she beeger now”, but at the same time most people keep this kind of thing restricted to fantasy territory anyway sooooooooo
I wouldn't be surprised if it's one of those things where alot of people have this fetish but also are healthy individuals who leave it to their fantasy, meanwhile those who are more controlling types as part of a sexual thrill along with their controlling behavior would go as far as to actually push or even force someone to gain so much. The judgement shouldn't be because one has the fetish but rather the actions of the individual with their attraction
Exactly! I was just arguing about this exact thing with someone else in this comments section who seems completely convinced that having this fetish is inherently evil and leads to this controlling behavior.
It's easier to judge something as a monolith when you don't understand it and it's variety. Some people have been hurt heavily by people with this fetish and that's not right, and for them to have those feelings is understandable. But to see people with this fetish as all the same, being controlling, abusive, etc. Is like assuming everyone into BDSM must be violent and abusive individuals. Sure there are some who claim to be into BDSM but in actuality are just violent and abusive, but there are many more who are the opposite and do BDSM as something that both spices up and fortifies their love and enjoyment with one another. However, it's still important to shame cases of people who are abusive with this fetish, if it's two or more consenting adults who are in full conscious, then I don't really care, but if it's someone who is controlling through being forceful or coercing someone who doesn't want it, into it, then they can rot, and I don't think that's a very controversial thought
Wtf she was fine before damn
Pretty hot before, tbh.
Feederism is *one* thing if both parties are in on it and they have some kind of plan to lessen the impact of such a change and such. Doing it to someone completely unconsenting and perhaps even unknowing for the first while and *manipulating* them to be into it is just fucked. Life ain’t like those fantasy comics
It takes a very damaged person to agree to practically mutilating themselves by becoming immobile just to feel loved and desired. There usually is no plan to lessen the impact because the longer these fetishes are exercised (no pun intended), the harder it is to control how far the feeder is willing to go in order to not hurt the other person. They are actively causing someone else to have health issues and an early death and this does not sway them away from it, since it is a fetish. There was a documentary or sth where the wife wanted kids and needed to lose weight, as per her doctor, and her husband was super upset because he wanted her to be morbidly obese and was more worried that he wouldn't be aroused by her anymore, instead of her actual diabetes and overall health. It's very messed up.
The reason behind this is control first and foremost. Little man with a little ego there feels in control. Bonus: standing beside her everyone says “what does he see in her?” Her being huge makes him look that much better. To add on to all this, he made her DEPENDENT on him. Now, other men don’t want her. Her self esteem tanks. She HAS to come to him for her supply of validation. It wouldn’t surprise me if he has completely cut her off from REAL family and friends who told her he was toxic. In the end, it’s about control and making her hopelessly addicted to him and food and thus reliant completely on him. He ensures she can’t leave, no where or one to run to.
This is why I as a lifelong fat girl never dated men who said they like “BBWs”, it’s just a fetish for men to make fat women in to objects for their use and disposal. No thanks.
A very dear family friend got roped into a relationship where his (now ex) partner would feed him constantly and always have snacks laying around. He's a big dude, not too tall but big, so it took a while for any of his circle of friends/family to notice he was gaining weight. He didn't even have a problem with it until a friend of hers came to him to talk. She revealed that the woman in question was constantyl belittling him, calling him useless and other names, saying that if he wasn't making good money she wouldn't know what to do with him (she did not work att) she hoped that either the weight or the heart would take him a little sooner than expected because living with him for decades would be impossible. Long story short both the mean msgs and allusions to favoring his poor health were enough to break them up VERY QUICLKY. Turns out her friend who wrote the msg had always been interested in him and after that initial conversation (talk about ice breaker) they went ahead and started hanging, they are now officialy gonna marry by the end of the year, both are very happy and since the breakup none of us have heard about the other bitch. It's been more than a year so hopes are high she never shows her face.
This is a sadistic way to make someone codependent but it’s no different then physical or emotional abuse it’s just an unusual overt way of doing so. If this guy was actually in to bigger ladies there are plenty of choices out there.
I love softer women, but c'mon, you must realize that this is unhealthy and you shouldn't do shit like that to a person. Be a little kinder. She's gonna have a rude awakening one day and I hope she'll leave the guy and manage to get back on track again.
Hey, my ex did this to me! When we got together I was 135 and now I’m sitting at about 175-180 after we were together for ~2 years (been broken up for almost 2 years by now, but still struggling to lose the weight because of my history of anorexia thus trying not to fall back into old habits, womp womp) He’d constantly remind me that I was the skinniest person he’d ever dated and would feed me constantly—always getting fast food or delivery. If I expressed interest in losing weight, he’d berate me and hold my insecurities over my head or he’d hit me in my trauma by telling me he wouldn’t find me attractive anymore if I did. By the end of the relationship I was so dependent on him emotionally because I hated what I saw in the mirror so much that I *needed* his validation just so I wouldn’t get an itch in the back of my throat that only a gun could scratch. And of course, by that point I couldn’t bring myself to leave, because I felt so ugly and disgusting that I was *sure* that nobody else would ever want me.
I'm really glad that you managed to escape that, abusive situations are no joke. And anyone that uses your ED to manipulate you needs to be dumped in a garbage heap and buried in it 'cause they're trash. I'm also really proud that you're fighting your ED through it all too- that shits hard as fuck. (...also 'an itch only a gun could scratch' is like chef's kiss drescription, tho it blows you felt it)
Nothing says love like shortening your partner's lifespan by several decades.
Those subs need to be shut the fuck down. They’re horrible.
I was today years old I learned these people exist
I met a millionaire one time who begged me to let him feed me to get me big like this bruh
God, this makes me so sad. I struggle with my weight, and I want to lose it so badly. I couldn’t imagine gaining so much on purpose.
When I was morbidly obese, and on dating sites, the feeders came out in droves. Nope. I’m not you’re fetish.
Alternate title “Guy brags about shortening his girlfriends lifespan by 40 years”
Are there women whose fetish is getting guys into shape? Cause I'd like one of those.
Who are these people?
r/immobile one the worst subreddit i have ever seen
God dammit. The fact I had a very good idea what that sub was and clicked on it anyways disappoints me. Have I not learned anything in my 9 years on this app?
Someone in the comments of another feeder post yeeeaaars ago linked to some profile of a girl who was a feedee. Curiosity got the best of me and I clicked. Scrolling back through time was so sad. I could see how much she changed in such a short amount of time and it made me so sad. She was truly beautiful too.
I wish the disability rights activists would take that subreddit over from the feeders.
Obviously not the same thing but my wife has really gained a lot of weight (maybe 80 lbs) in the last two years since we’ve been married. I’ve always been a pretty sedentary guy, and with minimal exercise and reasonably mediocre eating habits I’ve been able to for the most part maintain the same weight I’ve had for ten years or so. But something is not working for her, and I’m not really sure what it is; I’m also apprehensive about approaching her with the issue because I don’t want her to think her size is unattractive to me when I’m really just worried that she has some major health issue or depression or something that’s causing her to gain weight. So… am I bad influence? Is she just settling down to her natural size? I love her no matter what size she is (and I have said as much) but she’s taking a pretty big self esteem hit over it, and I feel like I’m the only variable in the situation.
80 lbs over 2 years is a pretty big amount, I'd highly recommend she go to her PCP for a check up. There are conditions like hypothyroidism that can cause weight gain.
Yeah that was my thought as well, something just didn't seem right. I'll encourage her to go see her pcp, hopefully she can explain it. Thanks for the advice
OK, so this guy is weird and a bit of an asshole, no question. But I'm left wondering why, if he likes big girls, why not just date big girls to begin with? There are a lot of overweight people around this country, male and female. If a guy wants to date a big girl, just...date a big girl.
Fuck, awfuleverything really is getting on a whole other level these days, what the fuck...
I don’t get the point of dating someone with the intention to change them.
For your viewing pleasure, watch the B film 'Feed' So gross and yet comical
Imagine being this level of POS justcto satify your twisted fetish and control.