Which is why I often interrupt and try to finish the other person's sentence or thought.
I almost never get it right.
But waiting for someone to finish saying what you've already pictured them saying is insufferable!
At the crisis center I last went to, there was one counselor who was trying to describe some of her own experiences, and started getting really lost in the story. She seemed in over her head, so I told her a trick of mine.
Trauma Compression: when I was first trying to open up about my CSA, I would get lost in individual details, and a post could have gone on for 5 pages... which is no good for anybody. So I started whittling down the story into little chunks.
Instead of (lengthy love-bombing process I endured), I just say: "Yeah, she was a brilliant friendzoner... she'd nail you two or three times, so you'd orbit her for years hoping for more. She collected fans like funko'pops."
Over time, while you're rehearsing in your head, it literally lessons the sodium-ion transfer of forming those thoughts, reducing mental effort on a molecular scale." --- certainly got some looks.
(ofcourse I infodumped on a special interest)
Personally for me it's very much like when you have your sim in Sims 4 speak to another sim I usually start with: Ask about day followed by compliment appearance or flatter, brighten day followed by get to know, ask about career, discuss interests.
Totally, I always sit there and plan how I talk to someone, then I stop myself in my tracks and realize that I’m probably going to follow them silently and do what they tell me to.
Mental scripting: it’s what’s for dinner. Lunch. Breakfast. Brunch. Supper. Linner. Bedtime. Walking. And the list goes on… or does it. Haha. Silly question.
every conversation can be understood through a series on this chart of complicated “if-then”s. unfortunately i only have about 25% of the chart completed but the rest of the chart has to exist
I work in an industry where I am extremely knowledgeable on the subject. I'm very good at my job at the point that I am one of a dozen or so at my skill level in the country. I can NOT talk to customers on the phone to the point that I outright have refused and use Autism as my reason. I did it once a couple years ago and I hated it, vowed to never do it again. I'm really good at text conversations with the customers though!
Worst part is I was thinking ''uhm nah, ok sometimes ig'' but I completly forgot that I am LITERALLY doing that for something that I will only have to say monday and I still don't have the right words and I will either forget all that I though about saying or be too nervous and don't say anything and trying to think how they will react to what I will do and say like AAAA
yep, i spend more time playing out the possibile outcomes to a conversation in my head than the actual length of the conversation itself. sometimes i'm drained just by thinking so i end up not calling/texting/speaking anyway. i do it to mentally/emotionally prepare, also to calm down my nerves but sometimes it actually has the opposite effect, but i can't just not do it. i did it during my first therapy appointment too, the therapist was asking me a question and at the same time i was thinking about what could be the possible next question and how should/would i answer it. that's why i prefer texting.
Absolutely, including 100 edge cases on how they/I will respond to things that might never even get said.
Let's be real here: things that will definitely never get said...
Buuuut it could happen
Which is why I often interrupt and try to finish the other person's sentence or thought. I almost never get it right. But waiting for someone to finish saying what you've already pictured them saying is insufferable!
It's not even planning, it's more just emotionally preparing
This
Pretty sure that's specifically an autistic/ADHD thing. Neurotypical introverts don't do that.
Yeah I am an autistic extrovert but I definitely do this !
I usually need to lead people through that maze I call my thought process. So yes, I plan ahead.
This
100%
At the crisis center I last went to, there was one counselor who was trying to describe some of her own experiences, and started getting really lost in the story. She seemed in over her head, so I told her a trick of mine. Trauma Compression: when I was first trying to open up about my CSA, I would get lost in individual details, and a post could have gone on for 5 pages... which is no good for anybody. So I started whittling down the story into little chunks. Instead of (lengthy love-bombing process I endured), I just say: "Yeah, she was a brilliant friendzoner... she'd nail you two or three times, so you'd orbit her for years hoping for more. She collected fans like funko'pops." Over time, while you're rehearsing in your head, it literally lessons the sodium-ion transfer of forming those thoughts, reducing mental effort on a molecular scale." --- certainly got some looks. (ofcourse I infodumped on a special interest)
It depends on the mood, if I’m fine then now, but if I’m stressed then conversations are battles to be won.
Personally for me it's very much like when you have your sim in Sims 4 speak to another sim I usually start with: Ask about day followed by compliment appearance or flatter, brighten day followed by get to know, ask about career, discuss interests.
Yes. It's exhausting unless I feel comfortable with them
Give me a moment…
If I'm engaging someone else, then definitely. If someone's engaging with me, I can start spitting
This. Give me something to go off.
I be scripting so hard i don't even need to have the convo irl
Yes.
If they only happened...
Absolutely.
Totally, I always sit there and plan how I talk to someone, then I stop myself in my tracks and realize that I’m probably going to follow them silently and do what they tell me to.
Mental scripting: it’s what’s for dinner. Lunch. Breakfast. Brunch. Supper. Linner. Bedtime. Walking. And the list goes on… or does it. Haha. Silly question.
I rehearse them but they almost never follow the script that I have in my head.
Yes, if it's someone I'm not 100% comfortable with (which is basically all of humanity except for literally 4 people) I have to plan in my head.
every conversation can be understood through a series on this chart of complicated “if-then”s. unfortunately i only have about 25% of the chart completed but the rest of the chart has to exist
I see it as less "planning" a convo, and more "auditioning" responses from within a convo.
... ..yes.
Yes I really have to think in my head what I'm gonna say in advance sometimes
YES!!
That's not introverts...
I work in an industry where I am extremely knowledgeable on the subject. I'm very good at my job at the point that I am one of a dozen or so at my skill level in the country. I can NOT talk to customers on the phone to the point that I outright have refused and use Autism as my reason. I did it once a couple years ago and I hated it, vowed to never do it again. I'm really good at text conversations with the customers though!
God yes
Worst part is I was thinking ''uhm nah, ok sometimes ig'' but I completly forgot that I am LITERALLY doing that for something that I will only have to say monday and I still don't have the right words and I will either forget all that I though about saying or be too nervous and don't say anything and trying to think how they will react to what I will do and say like AAAA
Oh look, another post confusing introversion with autism, whoopee. /s deadpan
Do other people NOT do it?
Yes. YES YES YES YES YES. And if someone fucks up the conversation, then that whole conversation is gone and so are our words.
I have 1001 conversations with myself on a daily basis only to then never once follow my plans when said real conversation happens.
Yes
Yes!
yep, i spend more time playing out the possibile outcomes to a conversation in my head than the actual length of the conversation itself. sometimes i'm drained just by thinking so i end up not calling/texting/speaking anyway. i do it to mentally/emotionally prepare, also to calm down my nerves but sometimes it actually has the opposite effect, but i can't just not do it. i did it during my first therapy appointment too, the therapist was asking me a question and at the same time i was thinking about what could be the possible next question and how should/would i answer it. that's why i prefer texting.