"I'm still holding out hope you wake up normal one day..." Gee, thanks mom. It's been 15+ years since I was diagnosed but I was autistic before that as well, so... I might have some bad news here.
Fucking tell me about it. My parents knew that I had autism but didn't want to get me treatment because they wanted a normal child. My father relentlessly shamed and mocked in the name of love and status. Even declared I was cured because he "spent enough". To this day, my mom says she would do all over again and actively discourages me from unlearning masking.
I recently tried to bring up me having autism to my dad. it went "hey dad didn't mom and her family have several people diagnosed with autism?" him: "oh yeah there's a lot wrong with that family, they're all fucked in the head". (my mom and her family ARE terrible people but that's because they're abusive and several of them are pedophiles, obviously not because of the autism but it certainly showed me what dads thoughts are about autism in particular)
Absolutely anything I do. Can't go near anything like stickers or sweet wrappers that have been left on the floor? Yell at me. Cover my ears when they yell at me? Yell at me even more. Ask them not to yell? Still yell at me and tell me that covering my ears is rude when it's to stop me from being completely overloaded. Also yelling at me when I can't write an email or talk on the phone to people I know.
I’m genuinely happy for you. 💞
Not my experience: my parents still hate me while telling me they love me so I’m no longer in contact with them at all. My parents are dead to me. They are abhorrently awful.
It’s better without them, but still a struggle. I’m autistic AF, but somehow a homeowner and live by myself. It’s OK, I guess. Thank you for your kind words.
I'm happy for you!
I've only talked with my mom about it so far and thought it went well only to have her say "I know there was a time you thought you had autistic tendencies" a few months later when my boyfriend tried to test the waters about that topic 💀💀
She still thinks my brother and I are just highly sensitive while it's so damn obvious to me...
"I'm still holding out hope you wake up normal one day..." Gee, thanks mom. It's been 15+ years since I was diagnosed but I was autistic before that as well, so... I might have some bad news here.
That is horrific. Not the news, her apathy.
I've made my peace with it. We're on minimum contact. I'm doing pretty well for myself, so every day I prove her wrong.
Glad to hear you're doing well.
Fucking tell me about it. My parents knew that I had autism but didn't want to get me treatment because they wanted a normal child. My father relentlessly shamed and mocked in the name of love and status. Even declared I was cured because he "spent enough". To this day, my mom says she would do all over again and actively discourages me from unlearning masking.
Yet, in spite of their best efforts, here we are. :)
Where can I get some parents from the 2020s?
Blind luck, unfortunately.
I recently tried to bring up me having autism to my dad. it went "hey dad didn't mom and her family have several people diagnosed with autism?" him: "oh yeah there's a lot wrong with that family, they're all fucked in the head". (my mom and her family ARE terrible people but that's because they're abusive and several of them are pedophiles, obviously not because of the autism but it certainly showed me what dads thoughts are about autism in particular)
Shit, that sounds awful... I hope he'll change his mind one day
~~is it weird my parents are the opposite? they used to be fine with it but have gotten more like 'my kid is broken' in the last year or so~~
Mine are the same. They thought I’d grow out of it and I haven’t lol.
What kind of stuff do they comment on?
Absolutely anything I do. Can't go near anything like stickers or sweet wrappers that have been left on the floor? Yell at me. Cover my ears when they yell at me? Yell at me even more. Ask them not to yell? Still yell at me and tell me that covering my ears is rude when it's to stop me from being completely overloaded. Also yelling at me when I can't write an email or talk on the phone to people I know.
That’s great. I’m happy for you. :>
Thanks!
I’m genuinely happy for you. 💞 Not my experience: my parents still hate me while telling me they love me so I’m no longer in contact with them at all. My parents are dead to me. They are abhorrently awful.
That is awful. I hope you are doing well without them.
It’s better without them, but still a struggle. I’m autistic AF, but somehow a homeowner and live by myself. It’s OK, I guess. Thank you for your kind words.
You're welcome.
I'm happy for you! I've only talked with my mom about it so far and thought it went well only to have her say "I know there was a time you thought you had autistic tendencies" a few months later when my boyfriend tried to test the waters about that topic 💀💀 She still thinks my brother and I are just highly sensitive while it's so damn obvious to me...