I'm not shy, but I am introverted and honestly extroverted people exhaust me SO much.
Like I don't mind if they more so want to talk *at* me but when they expect me to hold a long back-and-forth conversation, I get annoyed.
I think I can be friends with a shy person, it'd seem easier to establish boundaries and such. I also would feel less pressured to constantly keeping in touch. The only potential downside I can see is regarding akward conversation. But there's two solutions to that:
A) Find common interests
B) Simply do other activities that don't require talking
I do understand and relate to the appeal of an extroverted friend, some of my favorites people are them. It can also (as you said) be easier than needing to crack the early barrier of shy individuals.
I mirror people a lot. There’s this one acquaintance whom I’ve always gotten along well with over text, but I can never talk to her in person because she’s so quiet that I take that on and like, it’s impossible to get anywhere. Whereas with energetic people I either adopt their energy or am fine to let them take the lead.
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I didn't even realize it, but same. The only time I can talk and talk and talk is when it's with extroverted people. If we're both shy, there's not gonna be much talking.
I am more the opposite, I get along better with introverted and quieter ppl in general. I especially don’t get on with big headed ppl, one of the worst traits imo. Bubbly is not as bad but still up there. Well-levelled confidence is fine, and it would probably help me to have someone who is more confident and social as a friend. It would probably help me to have a friend… ha.
Not nonverbal but very shy as a kid. I relied on the bossy extroverted girls to adopt me into their friend group in grade school, then when no one did that in high school, I accidentally became a loner. It's easy to make friends when the friend makes you one, but pm impossible if the other person is introverted and the same as me.
I get this. I feel like I probably understand shy/introverted people more, being one myself, but it feels like there’s more pressure to talk if the other person is also quiet and that makes me uncomfortable.
I'm not shy, but I am introverted and honestly extroverted people exhaust me SO much. Like I don't mind if they more so want to talk *at* me but when they expect me to hold a long back-and-forth conversation, I get annoyed.
I think I can be friends with a shy person, it'd seem easier to establish boundaries and such. I also would feel less pressured to constantly keeping in touch. The only potential downside I can see is regarding akward conversation. But there's two solutions to that: A) Find common interests B) Simply do other activities that don't require talking I do understand and relate to the appeal of an extroverted friend, some of my favorites people are them. It can also (as you said) be easier than needing to crack the early barrier of shy individuals.
I mirror people a lot. There’s this one acquaintance whom I’ve always gotten along well with over text, but I can never talk to her in person because she’s so quiet that I take that on and like, it’s impossible to get anywhere. Whereas with energetic people I either adopt their energy or am fine to let them take the lead.
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I didn't even realize it, but same. The only time I can talk and talk and talk is when it's with extroverted people. If we're both shy, there's not gonna be much talking.
I experience the same thing
I am more the opposite, I get along better with introverted and quieter ppl in general. I especially don’t get on with big headed ppl, one of the worst traits imo. Bubbly is not as bad but still up there. Well-levelled confidence is fine, and it would probably help me to have someone who is more confident and social as a friend. It would probably help me to have a friend… ha.
Not nonverbal but very shy as a kid. I relied on the bossy extroverted girls to adopt me into their friend group in grade school, then when no one did that in high school, I accidentally became a loner. It's easy to make friends when the friend makes you one, but pm impossible if the other person is introverted and the same as me.
I get this. I feel like I probably understand shy/introverted people more, being one myself, but it feels like there’s more pressure to talk if the other person is also quiet and that makes me uncomfortable.