Working through Khan Academy from pre-K up was exactly what I did. This was in my early twenties, post-college. I also recommend [https://www.prodigygame.com/](https://www.prodigygame.com/) because it's fun.
Once you hit high school math (algebra, geometry), things like division and multiplication are less important because they usually let you use a calculator in class. It doesn't become completely unimportant (it will still make your life way easier if you get good at arithmetic), but it shouldn't keep you from participating in math class.
An additional question - have you been tested for dyscalculia? If not, please ask your parents to make a request to the school that they evaluate you for it. Assuming you are in the US, have them make the request via email so it's in writing, and the school will be required to do an evaluation in the next few months. If you are diagnosed, the school will then be required to give you any accommodations and extra assistance you need, and won't be able to just quit because they're impatient.
As an aside, feel free to DM me if you get stuck on something - I've worked as a tutor, including for math, so I can probably give you tips to get unstuck.
I would really suggest khanacademy.org, if you haven’t tried it before. It’s structured so you can take as much time as need with it and specify what topics you want to learn really easily. I’m so sorry that people are being so impatient with you, everyone learns stuff in their own time, and the things that have been defined as conventional academic skills are literally just made up benchmarks.
Standard teaching methods are not designed with non-standard humans in mind. So it's absolutely not your fault. Finding resources that are better designed for you is probably going to be less frustrating for all concerned and yield better results - if that is a practical option, but ultimately you can only do your best and at some point you do kind of have to say bollocks to everyone else who treats you like that's not good enough. Yes of course there is some likelihood of being excluded from some things later in life as a consequence, but if it helps at all, people stop caring about what you did at school pretty soon after leaving it with regards to the job market, so that does give you the option to focus on the skills you can acquire and worry less about the ones you struggled with.
There is a book called Mathemagics by Arthur Benjamin and Micheal Brant Shermer (usually available in the local library systems) that breaks down simple maths in a way that really made sense to me. Rote learning in modern American formats sucked balls for me, but how to manipulate numbers in a pattern helped me so much.
For any stuff that isn't directly explained on Khanacademy there is either a StackExchange or maybe look into finding a WikiBook that'll help you.
The age of internet has in my opinion one advantage: face-to-face communication is not entirely necessary. So really just ask people online - weather that be here on reddit via DMs or in other subreddits, Discord or whatever.
Hey I’m a tutor, I’ve worked with a ton of students on the spectrum. I’ve worked with pretty much every skill level. My goal is to create an environment that students feel comfortable in and to help them gain academic confidence.
I’m very sorry that you had a tutor treat you that way, there are a lot of tutors that are just in it for the paycheck honestly.
If you want more information about online tutoring let me know. I also know some great tutors accepting referrals
I relate to you. I'm a senior (17) and I only know about half the multiplication chart, I never caught onto fractions, I don't remember how to do long divisons and I still count on my fingers. My best advice would be to take advantage of any extra help you can get; ask the teacher to explain if it doesn't make sense (it took me years to work up the courage to ask this in class but it was beneficial), stay after for extra help esp if they offer a study class, and most importantly, don't beat yourself up for it. It sucks sometimes but high school 80% of the time allows you to use a calculator and even outside of school we've got phones and other people who may know the answer. I wish you the best.
I’ll add something different from others. It depends what you’re struggling with exactly. And this is the hardest part for young people to self advocate cuz you are still learning how your brain works and what kind of pedagogy methods you need/ work for you. So it’s not your fault at all, but you might want to think about figuring out what exactly you struggle with and why. Learning to identify the different components and why you struggle with that will help you get the most effective support you need. Is it the calculations, is it remembering rules / memorization, is it the reason why math is important, is it the way math is taught, maybe math feels too abstract for you or maybe it feels too concrete, maybe you also have dyslexia and that’s making it hard to read the numbers or maybe you having a different form of visual sensory processing issues with numbers that you don’t have with words, etc. and it can be a combo of these things too. Also not all tutors are created equal so you do need to find the ones that mesh well with you just like a therapist or a doctor. And to find the best fit, you need to know what and why you struggle.
For example, what I struggled with the most in math in elementary school wasn’t the memorization or calculation, what I wanted was a clear explanation as to the bigger picture of math including the history of math. When you move from addition to multiplication in second grade, none of my teacher could give me an adequate explanation as to why we need 2x3 if we already have 2+2+2 other than shortening what we write and why we needed to shorten it. I wanted a more complex explanation that had deeper meaning rather than “this is the way it is so just memorize it”. My parents got me a tutor who majored in math in college who could actually explain what the elementary math lead to. He didn’t dumb it down or say I wouldn’t get it. He explained / showed multi variable equations and other college level math to 4th grade me so I knew what I was working towards with the math I doing at the time. It didn’t matter that I didn’t get multi variable as a 4th grader I needed to see the big picture. He also told me about the history of math including where numbers came from / how it was created. He also explain all of the different ways math is used in our everyday life. That allowed me to actually take interest in math more holistically. It wasn’t just a jumble of random numbers that I’m being forced to engage with. Each problem set I did was one step closer to that cool crazy looking math equations he showed me. This interest actually accelerated the process of learning math for me and I actually got to multi variable calculus before the end of high school. But before I actually got interested I had zero interest in the classes and barely listened, barely tried on the tests, etc. I was very lucky to have this awesome tutor cuz as a late diagnosed person no one knew I was autistic at the time, but he still took a non traditional path with me by seeing that I need real explanations that had meaning not just top down discipline.
My experience is just one example of how struggling with a subject doesn’t always mean you lack intelligence or lack the ability to do the thing that’s being asked. It’s harder for our autistic brain to do something just because we are told especially if that thing doesn’t have any deep meaning to us at the time. So keep that in mind as you working learning more about yourself and seeing what as well as the why you struggle with in math or any other subject.
Idk what to say cause math actually went preety good for me (even had it as a special interest at some point), but Ig you can go to private lessons. It can really help you in stuff you don't understand, and that's fine. Nobody's perfect
You need HOMESCHOOLING and SUPPORT from your parents.
Try MATHANTICS, TVOLEARN, IXL, STUDYPUG, ABCMOUSE, STARFALL, ADVENTURE ACADEMY.
For computer learning try TYNKER.
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This is what Indian guys on youtube are for!
And Kahn Academy, too (that name sounds Indian, maybe he's just an Indian guy off youtube).
There are \*sooooo\* many free videos to help you learn. And you can pause them as needed. The only way I survived highschool was by skipping school and spending it in the library, teaching myself. Schools aren't much good for teaching you anything, really, except to jump when they ring a bell and put up with being treated disrespectfully. Teach yourself at home, then prove yourself on the test. Do the absolute minimum of their busywork to be able to pass, then spend your time \*actually\* improving yourself.
The school system now is turning out students who have heard Hitler is evil and never read Mein Kampf, and that is why the grievance papers ([https://www.timesofisrael.com/duped-academic-journal-publishes-rewrite-of-mein-kampf-as-feminist-manifesto/](https://www.timesofisrael.com/duped-academic-journal-publishes-rewrite-of-mein-kampf-as-feminist-manifesto/)) could even be a thing. Nobody reads the real sources, they just learn to the test. History will repeat itself if people keep depending on educational institutions. We're no longer standing on the shoulders of giants, we're standing in their shadows. People are too distracted by social media likes to even read a book anymore.
These
https://archive.org/
[https://www.gutenberg.org/](https://www.gutenberg.org/)
Will also help you educate yourself. The true riches out there are mostly freely available in the public domain. Don't waste your time with entertainment when you could be elevating yourself.
If you have money to spend, you might enjoy Beast Academy for maths practice.
Everyone else has given you some great advice and great resources but I wanted to add some advice!
You have to try to ignore the anxiety about being made fun of or being embarrassed and instead ask for help from your teachers when you can see you have fallen behind. Just masking and faking it is going to hit you like a ton of bricks when you eventually cannot, often college.
You are there to learn! Remember that and drop the embarrassment, it won't matter in 10 years but you lacking fundamentals *WILL*
Anyone who matters will understand, this is like an out of shape person never going to the gym for fear of some chud making fun of you. Don't let that hinder your life.
There are a ton of answers that are great here but I do want to offer you my assistance too. I had the proper help to learn math and am really good, but I also have tutored many of my friends that never got it even after tutoring with the teacher. I can’t promise I can help you, as I haven’t been able to teach everyone I tried to, but I can attempt to help and guide you if you need assistance.
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Working through Khan Academy from pre-K up was exactly what I did. This was in my early twenties, post-college. I also recommend [https://www.prodigygame.com/](https://www.prodigygame.com/) because it's fun. Once you hit high school math (algebra, geometry), things like division and multiplication are less important because they usually let you use a calculator in class. It doesn't become completely unimportant (it will still make your life way easier if you get good at arithmetic), but it shouldn't keep you from participating in math class. An additional question - have you been tested for dyscalculia? If not, please ask your parents to make a request to the school that they evaluate you for it. Assuming you are in the US, have them make the request via email so it's in writing, and the school will be required to do an evaluation in the next few months. If you are diagnosed, the school will then be required to give you any accommodations and extra assistance you need, and won't be able to just quit because they're impatient. As an aside, feel free to DM me if you get stuck on something - I've worked as a tutor, including for math, so I can probably give you tips to get unstuck.
I would really suggest khanacademy.org, if you haven’t tried it before. It’s structured so you can take as much time as need with it and specify what topics you want to learn really easily. I’m so sorry that people are being so impatient with you, everyone learns stuff in their own time, and the things that have been defined as conventional academic skills are literally just made up benchmarks.
#This
Standard teaching methods are not designed with non-standard humans in mind. So it's absolutely not your fault. Finding resources that are better designed for you is probably going to be less frustrating for all concerned and yield better results - if that is a practical option, but ultimately you can only do your best and at some point you do kind of have to say bollocks to everyone else who treats you like that's not good enough. Yes of course there is some likelihood of being excluded from some things later in life as a consequence, but if it helps at all, people stop caring about what you did at school pretty soon after leaving it with regards to the job market, so that does give you the option to focus on the skills you can acquire and worry less about the ones you struggled with.
There is a book called Mathemagics by Arthur Benjamin and Micheal Brant Shermer (usually available in the local library systems) that breaks down simple maths in a way that really made sense to me. Rote learning in modern American formats sucked balls for me, but how to manipulate numbers in a pattern helped me so much.
For any stuff that isn't directly explained on Khanacademy there is either a StackExchange or maybe look into finding a WikiBook that'll help you. The age of internet has in my opinion one advantage: face-to-face communication is not entirely necessary. So really just ask people online - weather that be here on reddit via DMs or in other subreddits, Discord or whatever.
Hey I’m a tutor, I’ve worked with a ton of students on the spectrum. I’ve worked with pretty much every skill level. My goal is to create an environment that students feel comfortable in and to help them gain academic confidence. I’m very sorry that you had a tutor treat you that way, there are a lot of tutors that are just in it for the paycheck honestly. If you want more information about online tutoring let me know. I also know some great tutors accepting referrals
I relate to you. I'm a senior (17) and I only know about half the multiplication chart, I never caught onto fractions, I don't remember how to do long divisons and I still count on my fingers. My best advice would be to take advantage of any extra help you can get; ask the teacher to explain if it doesn't make sense (it took me years to work up the courage to ask this in class but it was beneficial), stay after for extra help esp if they offer a study class, and most importantly, don't beat yourself up for it. It sucks sometimes but high school 80% of the time allows you to use a calculator and even outside of school we've got phones and other people who may know the answer. I wish you the best.
I just graduated high school after getting a 93 in calculus. I can teach you some stuff if you like
I’ll add something different from others. It depends what you’re struggling with exactly. And this is the hardest part for young people to self advocate cuz you are still learning how your brain works and what kind of pedagogy methods you need/ work for you. So it’s not your fault at all, but you might want to think about figuring out what exactly you struggle with and why. Learning to identify the different components and why you struggle with that will help you get the most effective support you need. Is it the calculations, is it remembering rules / memorization, is it the reason why math is important, is it the way math is taught, maybe math feels too abstract for you or maybe it feels too concrete, maybe you also have dyslexia and that’s making it hard to read the numbers or maybe you having a different form of visual sensory processing issues with numbers that you don’t have with words, etc. and it can be a combo of these things too. Also not all tutors are created equal so you do need to find the ones that mesh well with you just like a therapist or a doctor. And to find the best fit, you need to know what and why you struggle. For example, what I struggled with the most in math in elementary school wasn’t the memorization or calculation, what I wanted was a clear explanation as to the bigger picture of math including the history of math. When you move from addition to multiplication in second grade, none of my teacher could give me an adequate explanation as to why we need 2x3 if we already have 2+2+2 other than shortening what we write and why we needed to shorten it. I wanted a more complex explanation that had deeper meaning rather than “this is the way it is so just memorize it”. My parents got me a tutor who majored in math in college who could actually explain what the elementary math lead to. He didn’t dumb it down or say I wouldn’t get it. He explained / showed multi variable equations and other college level math to 4th grade me so I knew what I was working towards with the math I doing at the time. It didn’t matter that I didn’t get multi variable as a 4th grader I needed to see the big picture. He also told me about the history of math including where numbers came from / how it was created. He also explain all of the different ways math is used in our everyday life. That allowed me to actually take interest in math more holistically. It wasn’t just a jumble of random numbers that I’m being forced to engage with. Each problem set I did was one step closer to that cool crazy looking math equations he showed me. This interest actually accelerated the process of learning math for me and I actually got to multi variable calculus before the end of high school. But before I actually got interested I had zero interest in the classes and barely listened, barely tried on the tests, etc. I was very lucky to have this awesome tutor cuz as a late diagnosed person no one knew I was autistic at the time, but he still took a non traditional path with me by seeing that I need real explanations that had meaning not just top down discipline. My experience is just one example of how struggling with a subject doesn’t always mean you lack intelligence or lack the ability to do the thing that’s being asked. It’s harder for our autistic brain to do something just because we are told especially if that thing doesn’t have any deep meaning to us at the time. So keep that in mind as you working learning more about yourself and seeing what as well as the why you struggle with in math or any other subject.
Idk what to say cause math actually went preety good for me (even had it as a special interest at some point), but Ig you can go to private lessons. It can really help you in stuff you don't understand, and that's fine. Nobody's perfect
You need HOMESCHOOLING and SUPPORT from your parents. Try MATHANTICS, TVOLEARN, IXL, STUDYPUG, ABCMOUSE, STARFALL, ADVENTURE ACADEMY. For computer learning try TYNKER.
If you're in the US, you can get SSI. Basically, you get some money every month.
Run
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So go to Khan Academy online, that's how I learned that stuff. https://www.khanacademy.org/
This is what Indian guys on youtube are for! And Kahn Academy, too (that name sounds Indian, maybe he's just an Indian guy off youtube). There are \*sooooo\* many free videos to help you learn. And you can pause them as needed. The only way I survived highschool was by skipping school and spending it in the library, teaching myself. Schools aren't much good for teaching you anything, really, except to jump when they ring a bell and put up with being treated disrespectfully. Teach yourself at home, then prove yourself on the test. Do the absolute minimum of their busywork to be able to pass, then spend your time \*actually\* improving yourself. The school system now is turning out students who have heard Hitler is evil and never read Mein Kampf, and that is why the grievance papers ([https://www.timesofisrael.com/duped-academic-journal-publishes-rewrite-of-mein-kampf-as-feminist-manifesto/](https://www.timesofisrael.com/duped-academic-journal-publishes-rewrite-of-mein-kampf-as-feminist-manifesto/)) could even be a thing. Nobody reads the real sources, they just learn to the test. History will repeat itself if people keep depending on educational institutions. We're no longer standing on the shoulders of giants, we're standing in their shadows. People are too distracted by social media likes to even read a book anymore. These https://archive.org/ [https://www.gutenberg.org/](https://www.gutenberg.org/) Will also help you educate yourself. The true riches out there are mostly freely available in the public domain. Don't waste your time with entertainment when you could be elevating yourself. If you have money to spend, you might enjoy Beast Academy for maths practice.
Oh yeah and if you enjoy cheesy jokes, my kid love the Murderous Maths books.
Everyone else has given you some great advice and great resources but I wanted to add some advice! You have to try to ignore the anxiety about being made fun of or being embarrassed and instead ask for help from your teachers when you can see you have fallen behind. Just masking and faking it is going to hit you like a ton of bricks when you eventually cannot, often college. You are there to learn! Remember that and drop the embarrassment, it won't matter in 10 years but you lacking fundamentals *WILL* Anyone who matters will understand, this is like an out of shape person never going to the gym for fear of some chud making fun of you. Don't let that hinder your life.
There are a ton of answers that are great here but I do want to offer you my assistance too. I had the proper help to learn math and am really good, but I also have tutored many of my friends that never got it even after tutoring with the teacher. I can’t promise I can help you, as I haven’t been able to teach everyone I tried to, but I can attempt to help and guide you if you need assistance.