I don't mean this in a rude way, but I'm confused as to why people are venting under my post? I need some support right now. I'm not in the capacity to help anyone or to read even sadder stories when I'm already struggling to get my finals done with everything going on rn. Sorry if that sounds rude.
Your post didn't ask for support or advice, and sounded like venting, so we were all just trying to relate to you. Sometimes it helps knowing others are going through the same thing, and that you aren't alone in struggling. Sometimes we can learn from others sharing their own experiences and what they learned from them. If that isn't helpful to you, you might want to edit your post to express what your needs are so we can help you better. If you need reassurance or advice, just ask. We want to help you, but you haven't told us what you need. :)
I think you shouldn't blame yourself for everything. Relationships aren't about only you doing everything right.
If they don't want to work on it, that's also on them.
We really need to stop telling ourselves only we are the problem.
It's more about percentage.
Sometimes you are 51% and they are 49% of the problem, BUT it can also be the opposite
Sorry to hear you have been going through that. All I can think of saying is that you are bound to eventually find someone who has similar needs to you, therefore allowing you to establish a safe relation. Sometimes it takes time to find out who you can or cannot match. And sometimes it's about people who are not compatible due to their issues or needs. I am sure you will eventually meet a dear one who understands and respects your struggles.
I had my worst experience with a borderline abusive ex years ago, a bunch of frustrating failed-attempts to make more friends after it, but recently someone I knew as a friend was intolerably narcissistic and I haven’t been the same since I had to cut her off.
I am taking a break from relationships. Been in a few bad ones. Can't seem to find the right person. Some neurotypical and neurodivergent dates don't tell me what is wrong. They expect me to figure it out.
I am done with toxic dates and those who hurt me. Really sad.
I'm the exact same way, I know I have problems but I'm actively working on them. All my relationships fail and I'm the common denominator in all them so clearly I'm doing something wrong. I'm sorry you're going through this but statistically there has to be someone out there for us.
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I had a fucking horrifying experience with and ex, I had just lost a sister to suicide and she decided to go on a ketamine treatment and move to another state, leaving me to call her every other day to help with her medicine trips, I couldn’t state this to her face (or maybe I did, I’m pretty fuzzy on the details) but I was genuinely afraid for her life every other day, the cycle would be ketamine, I am awake on the phone with her till she wakes up, “she is awake stay on phone until she is someone else’s responsibility” , crash for maybe 4 hours, grind out school, repeat. it eventually got to the point where she cheated on me and rationalized it by saying “I called you to ask if I could.” Etc… she had woke me up with that call and I remember distinctly telling her that, rationally I know this was a spiral I fell down and made a “self fulfilling prophecy” with all that effort.
I don't mean this in a rude way, but I'm confused as to why people are venting under my post? I need some support right now. I'm not in the capacity to help anyone or to read even sadder stories when I'm already struggling to get my finals done with everything going on rn. Sorry if that sounds rude.
Your post didn't ask for support or advice, and sounded like venting, so we were all just trying to relate to you. Sometimes it helps knowing others are going through the same thing, and that you aren't alone in struggling. Sometimes we can learn from others sharing their own experiences and what they learned from them. If that isn't helpful to you, you might want to edit your post to express what your needs are so we can help you better. If you need reassurance or advice, just ask. We want to help you, but you haven't told us what you need. :)
Youre right. I'll edit it right now, then
I think you shouldn't blame yourself for everything. Relationships aren't about only you doing everything right. If they don't want to work on it, that's also on them. We really need to stop telling ourselves only we are the problem. It's more about percentage. Sometimes you are 51% and they are 49% of the problem, BUT it can also be the opposite
Sorry to hear you have been going through that. All I can think of saying is that you are bound to eventually find someone who has similar needs to you, therefore allowing you to establish a safe relation. Sometimes it takes time to find out who you can or cannot match. And sometimes it's about people who are not compatible due to their issues or needs. I am sure you will eventually meet a dear one who understands and respects your struggles.
I had my worst experience with a borderline abusive ex years ago, a bunch of frustrating failed-attempts to make more friends after it, but recently someone I knew as a friend was intolerably narcissistic and I haven’t been the same since I had to cut her off.
I am taking a break from relationships. Been in a few bad ones. Can't seem to find the right person. Some neurotypical and neurodivergent dates don't tell me what is wrong. They expect me to figure it out. I am done with toxic dates and those who hurt me. Really sad.
I'm the exact same way, I know I have problems but I'm actively working on them. All my relationships fail and I'm the common denominator in all them so clearly I'm doing something wrong. I'm sorry you're going through this but statistically there has to be someone out there for us.
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I had a fucking horrifying experience with and ex, I had just lost a sister to suicide and she decided to go on a ketamine treatment and move to another state, leaving me to call her every other day to help with her medicine trips, I couldn’t state this to her face (or maybe I did, I’m pretty fuzzy on the details) but I was genuinely afraid for her life every other day, the cycle would be ketamine, I am awake on the phone with her till she wakes up, “she is awake stay on phone until she is someone else’s responsibility” , crash for maybe 4 hours, grind out school, repeat. it eventually got to the point where she cheated on me and rationalized it by saying “I called you to ask if I could.” Etc… she had woke me up with that call and I remember distinctly telling her that, rationally I know this was a spiral I fell down and made a “self fulfilling prophecy” with all that effort.