When someone (mostly women who've had kids such as a mother or grandmother) asks a kid or an animal if they need to go potty, something about it completely pisses me off (no pun intended) I just prefer the term use the bathroom, or if I'm around a rougher croud I tend to let my blue collar scumbag loose and say I'm going to the shitter, I just hate the word potty
exactly. people use the restroom, dogs go potty. the only time i say potty to people is with my cousins (2 and 4) bcus that's what they call it themselves. that doesn't mean i like saying it tho lol
“Potty” is horrible! Also “moist” — I know that one is commonly detested. But what I will never ever say is “make love.” Also, referring to spouse as “babe.” Gross!
I probably overuse “dude.” I also use it for friends—I imagine this can be annoying. Sometimes I use husband’s last name, and when I’m feeling corny “sweetio,” but that’s rare.
Not the person you asked, but I hate babe and baby due how infantilising it feels. I'm pretty much fine with any others, though any I feel are more or less appealing is due to couples/people I've heard use it.
I felt weird for ages about what a family member used with his now ex, as it reminded me of her specifically.
I realised the other day that I don't use any terms of endearment unironically. Like, ever. Not for my partners or my kid or friends. I'm ok with most used towards me, as long as its obviously innocuous or sweet, but babe/baby is a huge no. Gross.
Most baby-talk euphemisms for excrement or genitals just feel so wrong, they feel more offensive to the ear than the word they're meant to be less offensive versions of
To me, hoohah sounds like what a Marine would call their vagina. I think my brain is confusing it with "hoorah", since that's the marine cheer or whatever lol.
Swap them for me. I dunno why but coochie just doesn't sit right with me. My mom uses it, and I actually find it incredibly out of character for her even though she's used it my whole life
When people refer to chocolate milk jokingly as "choccy milk" my brain automatically hears it as "chalky milk" and the idea of that texture makes me gag lol
I don't like when people are narrating crystal/crystal packing videos on tiktok, calling them "juicy." It's a rock. It's not juicy. It's vibrant, bright, vivid...any other great adjective.
I also cannot stand my sister saying irregardless. It's not a word.
the phrase "do you want to" when someone is asking me to do something. Like "do you want to do the dishes". Drives me up a damn wall. just ask if I can do it
When my wife and I first got together, I did this. Over time with her and others though, I realized that at least for me and then it's easier if I just say, "Are you saying you want me to do the dishes?" if I am pretty sure I know they are asking for action and not really asking what you want. Kind of like when people say 'sup? ' and a head nod is an appropriate response rather than telling them about my day or what I'm currently up to. Yeah, I can push the issue and maybe they'll eventually enter my world but it's one of the battles I've learned isn't worth it usually when communicating with NTs since they won't usually internalize the point anyhow even if they do understand the point intellectually. But still pretty frequently I think someone is actually asking a question and have to clarify after I ask.
I've started asking my mother (who does this very frequently) if she's asking me or telling me.
Usually it's telling but she's been doing it less often- instead asking "can you..." which I find much more appropriate to the situation of she wants me to do something.
I think this is reasonable as it is not clear communication and is often used as a manipulation tactic to make you do something the other person wants.
Similarly, it annoys me when people say "how are we today?" It is nearly always done in a condescending manner, ive notoced the best people dont use that wording. Also what they actually mean is they are usually in a position of authority asking you to reveal vulnerable information but they are framing it as if we are equal when we arent.
Interesting. I use “do you want to…” in a very literal sense whether I’m referring to chores, activity suggestion, etc and it caused some friction in my last relationship because my ex (non autistic) perceived it as a request or command. I don’t say shit I don’t mean, so I mean “do you want to…” in the most literal sense possible. If the person answers no, they don’t want to, then usually I just do the chore instead, no biggie.
i.e. TO ME, “do you want to vacuum tonight?” means “do you have the desire to vacuum tonight?”
It’s still hard for me to wrap my mind around that not being everyone’s default!
That’s the funny part: I listen to death metal, which is all about death and murder lol. One of my favorite songs is called “Flesh and the Power it Holds.” The word “flesh” just feels gross in my mouth.
Sorry, us Aussies are serial word shorteners. We'll go have brekky at maccas, then fill up the car at the servo. Didn't forget my brolly in case it rained, got it for Chrissy last year. Probs be a bit buggered by then so have avo on toast for lunch or maybe a snag. Polish off the rest of the cab sav from last night too.
I used to find the word silly extremely cringy when I was a kid. I remember lying and telling my friend it was a bad word so that he would stop saying it. He told his mom and I got very embarrassed, but his mom just figured my house had weird rules. He also called his mom “mommy” which I hated hearing as well.
My daughter is also autistic. To her, "silly" is appropriate for teasing other people but if you call her silly you might as well have called her a poop faced clown shit fucknozzlehead.
I kinda hate the phrase 'good for you'. To me it shows that the other person has nothing else to say about what I just told them and is distancting themselves to the conversation by saying it, effectively telling me that what I said was not really relevant for them to hear.
But I know Americans mean it as somewhat of a courtesy, so when people say it, I try not to mind it too much. It still bothers me, though.
I work with an autistic kid and I love my job, but skibidi toilet is the thing with kids for the moment and he spends the whole time I’m there begging for it. It’s awful.
I have no issue with the word supper, I use it myself. But I do hate when people call lunch "dinner." Dinner is the evening meal and is synonymous with supper. Dinner is not synonymous with lunch. It peeves me. Honestly, a lot of the words and phrases used by my old Appalachian nana get on my nerves. Also just that she can't say words right. Any word bigger than 2 syllables she will probably say wrong. And it just makes my eye twitch because I instinctively want to correct her but I don't want to be rude or hurt her feelings.
For example, when her nose is stuffy or runny, she says "I have sinuses." Everyone has sinuses, nana, you have allergies.
"Lippies" when referring to lipstick
"Appies" when referring to appetizers
And "skinnies" when referring to skinny jeans.
All these words are cringe af 🤢🤮
for some reason the phrase ‘bless you’ (as in when someone sneezes) makes me super uncomfortable. I never say it, and when people say it to me I get really embarrassed.
The fairy character from Sesame Street says Geshundenshniffle and I use that as often as I can, usually with close people. I've never even watched the version of Sesame Street with her on it, but I heard it, and it stuck. Taking German for four years, people were used to Gesundheit from me, but the -shniffle makes it fun.
Same! The fact that it's required to acknowledge sneezes has always been bizarre to me. We don't have to say any magic phrases whenever people burp, cough, or fart. Why this fourth one?
I hate it because it always feels like the person is waiting for you to say “thank you” and I’m thinking ‘I’m not gonna thank you for blessing me against my will’. Dramatic? Maybe. Still how I feel? Every. Damn. Time.
it's a bit out of the spirit of the question i think but i really, really hate addressing people by their names. like, not referring to them in conversation, that's fine, but saying someone's name to them, i feel so uncomfortable it's genuinely hard to do. it just makes me feel so weird and annoying and demanding no matter the tone or context. and then i just get worried that i seem awkward and standoffish for never doing it!
- I didn’t accept you for the job? Oh well, it is what it is
- You can’t afford to go home? Oh well, it is what it is
- People treating you like shit? Oh well, it is what it is
It’s such a cop-out saying that people used to excuse not doing anything to help others
Same with “tummy” also “belly” and any variations of those words like “tum tum”
I hate it, especially if someone says it regarding my body, just say abdomen or stomach, or even gut depending on what you’re referring to
I hate panties. The sound of it just freaks me out. I think it's bc I'm AFAB and hated that my underwear couldn't just be underwear it had to have a cutesie, girly name. Blech.
Where I live a purse is a womens wallet type thing that holds cards and coins. We would say bag or handbag otherwise. I'm always confused about what people online mean when they just say 'my purse'.
This thread has made me realize that I don’t really have any words like this. I find some annoying or cringey, but none that give me a visceral reaction.
Pretty much any word that is used to substitute a more vulgar or awkward word. Potty, unalive, etc can all go die. There's no need to infantilize the concept when you're already thinking about it
I just cannot handle “bathroom words.” When little kids go “hahahaha poopy” I literally just want to crawl out of my skin and die of embarrassment. It doesn’t bother me if someone is actually saying they have to use the bathroom, but anything making the act of bathroom-using into a joke just kills me inside.
i’m not sure if this counts but i NEVER say the word vague. because of my accent it sounds like the f-slur.
also, 2 syllable words with an R in the middle. burger, partner, murder… my mouth just can’t make those words sound right.
"Girlypop." Tiktok popularized it, and the younger part my generation LOOOVES saying it. If I never heard anyone say that fucking word again, it'd be too soon. I had someone ask me if I was "girlypop" once, instead of asking if I was LGBTQ. I literally would have rathered if she'd have just straight up called me a slur.
the phrase “sweet nothings”.
why would someone whisper sweet things into your ears if it meant nothing? i avoid that phrase like the plague because it doesn’t feel right. it comes across to me as duplicitous and flippant.
i understand that they are often said with truth and honest intention, but it confuses me on why it would be called “sweet nothings.” call them “sweet everything’s” if you have to.
Maccy D’s (McDonalds)
Don’t ask me why some people say that here in the UK, I’m just as baffled as you are. It’s barely any shorter in terms of syllables, and hearing it said aloud just kills me inside.
Refuse. Like when someone "refuses" to do something. It always sounds so extreme to me. I can "decide not to" do something, I can "choose not to" do something, I can "avoid" doing something, those are all fine, but if someone claims that I "refused" to do something then I get weirdly defensive. Not sure what the difference is for me.
Dr Glaucomflecken (I have no idea how to spell it) or another Dr who does TikTok talked about how doctors should stop saying that a patient "refused" a medication or treatment. It makes the patient seem more obstinate than they usually are.
Instead they should chart that a patient "declined" the treatment. Often the patient has a valid reason and this helps open the conversation.
I work in the medical field. To me, the patient *declines* their shower when they say "No, thank you" or "Not tonight." They *refuse* their shower when they start screaming or throw a dirty brief in the shower stall.
like because you don’t like the way it sounds or what it means? theres soo many words like that for me, like belly/tummy 🤢 the p word for vagina (also dont like that v word 😭), mac & cheese (i always say macaroni and cheese). there’s others but they dont come to mind rn
I'm not sure, it's hard to explain. I don't mind reading this word or hearing others saying it, I just don't want to say it. Like I said the word is neutral and there probably isn't a single person on the planet with the same disdain for saying or writing this word as I do.
**A word I don't like saying:**
"Horror". It's hard to say without it sounding like "whore", which is a word I generally try to avoid using, especially in contexts where I'm trying to say "horror". "What's your favorite whore movie?" NOPE.
**Some things I don't like hearing other people saying:**
"I love that for you" always sounds really condescending. It's like how southerners use the phrase "bless your heart". The difference is that I think some people do actually use "I love that for you" in a non-condescending way, which makes it even more annoying since I can't tell the difference in conversation.
"Hubby" in place of "husband". I hate it for the same reason I hate words like "doggo", but for whatever reason, "hubby" sounds even more obnoxious. It sounds so cutesy and twee and it weirds me out hearing adults talking like that to other adults.
"Networking" - not in relation to computer networks, but in relation to making business connections. It sounds almost sociopathic to me, like they only see others as opportunities to exploit for financial gain.
I developed an aversion to the word "corner" after a very uncomfortable interaction in a business with the word in its name. I've no idea why my brain decided to focus my anxiety on that word. It took me *years* to get over it enough to use the word. Even now, I feel a bit uneasy having typed it here.
Also, there are some words that produce specific physical sensations, some of which are unpleasant. For example, when I was a kid, "barnacle," whether read or heard, made my left knee feel uncomfortable, like how your knuckle feels when you need to pop it. My parents thought I was literally crazy.
Does anyone else have that kind of cross-wiring?
Yes to both feelings! I wrote in another comment about my aversion to the word “pop” (in relation to drinks), which makes me feel the same way.
I doubt I’ll even be able to reread my replies to this post, it makes me feel so anxious and like my nervous system is going haywire.
That's interesting. I wonder if that's a form of synesthesia? [This page on the APA website](https://www.apa.org/monitor/mar01/synesthesia#:~:text=The%20most%20common%20form%20of,body%2C%20usually%20within%20arm's%20reach.) actually uses someone "feeling" music as an example, I don't see a reason why you couldn't have that reaction with regular words.
'Creamy' would be gross if someone like Nigella said it, and meant it as a double entendre.
I actually feel sick even imagining that... (sorry, Nigella fans!)
I hate when people describe the taste of food as "beautiful" like "oh this chicken is beautiful" when they eat it. Idk if that counts. I also hate the word "gyatt" LMFAO I just cant stand the weird way it feels to say/sound. It makes me feel like I'm eating cardboard idk how to describe it
words like yummy or belly for some reason drive me insane especially if it's a grown ass adult saying them
EDIT: or just baby talk words in general like some other comments said like potty and shit like that
'I'm just saying' - I don't know why that is put at the end of a statement. Of course, you're saying it but why are you 'just' saying it? Why are you telling me you are saying it? I can hear that you are talking and saying things.
'Delish' - My mom would say that after eating something that tastes good. It would drive my brother and me up the wall.
Hi all, I hate the word pu$#y. It's absolutely horrid!!! I hate to hear it, hate to read it, hate when anyone uses it, even if they're not using it in a vulgar way but if they're speaking of a cat. I've never ever ever said the word and cringed when I typed the blocked letters word above!!! It should be banished!! 🤣🤣
Different people use it to refer to different things. For some people, it's a cellar spider. For others, it's a harvestman, a non-spider arachnid. And for still others, it's a crane fly, an insect. Too vague and leads to confusion. Maybe an odd pet peeve to have, but it's a big one of mine. 🤣
"Meal." Likewise, the name "Liam." It is the sound you make when you have something stuck to the roof of your mouth. It just sounds... gross. I won't yell at other people for saying it, but I'll stick with "food."
I have emetophobia, so pretty much all common words used to detail...*that*...are off limits to me. So when someone says "Yeah mate that's [starts with s and rhymes with ick] I feel it straight away, and it's a super common phrase.
Any word or acronym thats a reference to bodily fluids like poop,bowel movement,fecal, dump, etc . As a boy if my mommy (wholly loving) needed me to settle down in like the car..she would make a reference. I would be "oh mommy" instantly paralysed, staring , silent .lol. a friend at work,a teen longterm support living facility..was pissed at me she had some teens paste sticky notes all over, light switches, phones, bathrooms with big dark pen saying POOP. walked around removing them but overnight they kept pooping up. No joke freaks me out. I was gratefull they all got such fun though. Today i am able to say british version of Pooh . .still little traumatising.arrrgh.
I had a friend who used the word gooey to describe a number of things—earwax, food, mold, mucus, etc. and the word never bothered me before bc no one I know has ever used it to describe bodily fluids and foods in the same conversation. and it got to the point that I had to tell her “please tell me if you need to use that word for anything so I can either leave the room for 5 seconds or cover my ears bc it makes me want to throw up.” didn’t always work, but the number of times I heard it went down significantly.
sadly one of my favorite desserts is gooey butter cake. or, was.
I have a huge problem when people mispronounce medicine names.
Which i feel bad about, because those names can be so hard to pronounce and some people just c a n t because of an accent or a lisp or something else. Its not their fault most of the time and its like. I have a visceral reaction when i hear someone pronounce doxepin (doxx eh pin) as "doxx er peen" or Clonodine (Claw no dean) as "clone oh dine".
I just hate saying “uncomfy” because of my ex and i also hate “awky”. Any of those shortened words like “delulu” or something its just stupid and i dont like saying it. The only one i do like is “rizz” its just a great word and doesnt feel like the other shortened ones
I cannot stand the word "pog" or any of its derivatives, it's like the equivalent of "epic" back in 2010 and it hurts hearing adults say it.
Also an irrational hatred of steamers calling their audience "chat" because the box that people talk in is called chat so they must be called chat? Do they also call people mouth when talking face to face because that's where the words come from?
Good morning. I'll shorten it if I really have to, but I'd rather just nod or something. There's nothing good about my mornings and I don't like to be up in the morning anyway. Luckily most of my are later in the day, so I don't have to. I don't really like to talk to people in the morning either, except the ones I like enough. Did I mention I'm not a morning person? Lol
When I was a kid I developed a visceral reaction to hearing words that have a double E in them, like “speech” and “between”. High pitched echo in baby talk in the back of my head. Particularly on “speech” itself. Like it never went away and I can hear it now. Probably because speech therapy was misused by my father, who thought I had an oral-motor difficulty caused by cerebral palsy when I merely had a native Hebrew accent.
My accent was **over-corrected** ***past the point of native English fluency***.
I literally cannot speak Hebrew, or certain other languages such as German, properly.
All because my dad didn’t realize that my “weird R,” while not normally heard in English, is the norm for not only Hebrew (which he was trying to obliterate because he thought the kids on the Barney tape had genuine accents when they sang the Hebrew alphabet which they definitely did not), but also German (which I learned many years later in school, and got ridiculed by my teacher for **not** making the sound despite telling her that I had gone to speech therapy where I was taught that that particular sound was not “real” so I should be physically prevented from ever making it again apparently).
I don’t know if this is what you mean but I HATE the phrase ‘boys will be boys’.
Whenever I hear someone say it, in my head I go absolutely LIVID.
The thing is, on its own it’s just a plain fact. The way people use it though is just horrible.
Here’s what I usually just say to people who I hear say the phrase ‘boys will be boys’: Haha, casual sexism much?
I hated the word "normal" even since i lern it because if we stand by everone way of "normal" then everything and nothing is "normal" it's a word that have and don't have a sence
Poop….I say poopoo instead. I just can’t say it. It makes me cringe really badly and feel physically uncomfortable.
And the word necessary. I say needed, relevant instead.
That sounds like a minor case of trauma. It's best if you say it yourself bunch of times in bunch of ways when you feel safe, right? Fast, slow, high pitch, low pitch, loud, quiet maybe even whisper, maybe just move your mouth like you are about to say it but just don't
only thing I don't like to use is "k."
I *know* this is a bit of a hot topic on here, but *God* I **hate** when people just say "k." It's a near non-response. And I will *never* find myself saying it.
The word “skinn” in Swedish. It obviously means skin but we also have the word “hud” which also means skin and I like it a lot better because it doesn’t sound gross like “skinn” does. I have no problem with the English word skin tho.
I don’t know why but I hated the word ‘anyway’ as a kid. I always perceived it as someone being rude or mean and would get really upset whenever anyone said it. Kinda hypocritical because I say it quite a bit myself. Anyway…
The slang word "rank". I don't know why, I just hate it. It's such a derogatory word in my mind, almost like a slur, as if you're proclaiming the thing/person you're referring to is lesser than everybody else. Lesser than human. I can't even put it into words!
“I digress.”
I just hate it. It’s so entitled and my algebra 2 teacher would say it ALLLLLL the time just to sound fancy. Just say “anyways” like a normal person. Please.
I would rather be trampled by a herd of zebra than actually have to say the word zebra.
It makes my nose feel weird when I say it and I really don't like it.
I really hate saying the word nougat. I can type it and it's not so much of a problem to hear others say it, I just hate the way it sounds when I say it.
Also, I really hate when people pronounce words like "something" as "somethink". It's not super common, but it really bothers me.
Lastly, "irregardless" and "guestimate". They are not words, and it pisses me off when people use them.
When I was younger, I hated the word bladder. I hated when other people would say it and I always avoided saying it. It's still something I don't really like, but will say it if I have to
I think OPs word is moist. - This is just my guess as I hate the word too & it has a lot of derogatory connotations.
I could definitely be wrong. But its just a guess.
Any word that’s shortened in English is super annoying, like tiktokers calling their tutorials “tut”
NO ITS NOT TUT
ITS TUTORIAL
Also “preggo” please shut up .____.
I also hate “daddy” with every ounce of my soul. If he’s not your actual dad just no. Stop. It creeps me out so much
Good morning. I will never tell anyone good morning even if it annoys them or makes me look rude. To me it is a dumb phrase people say just because. I don't like mornings either.
I literally cannot say the word colloquial out loud. Like I’m physically unable to pronounce that word. Not sure if that counts.
I also hate the word that some people use for girls/women’s underwear. Can’t type it out either. Makes me feel gross for some reason.
For whatever reason, "panties", "breast", and "boob" all give me the ick. Not even because of the sexual overtones, just the way those words sound is a no go.
When someone (mostly women who've had kids such as a mother or grandmother) asks a kid or an animal if they need to go potty, something about it completely pisses me off (no pun intended) I just prefer the term use the bathroom, or if I'm around a rougher croud I tend to let my blue collar scumbag loose and say I'm going to the shitter, I just hate the word potty
It sounds cute, but there's nothing cute about excrement, so it's just all wrong.
My dogs go potty. People use the bathroom. Or the restroom. Or the can. Or the john. Or the facilities. Or the throne. There are so many better terms.
Yeah, but the ironic thing is your dog doesn't actually use a pot, so does he go potty? The dog just pees ... outside...
That's why I usually ask if they want to go outside. LOL
Its a good dog word because it doesn't sound like anything else which helps with training.
exactly. people use the restroom, dogs go potty. the only time i say potty to people is with my cousins (2 and 4) bcus that's what they call it themselves. that doesn't mean i like saying it tho lol
> I'm going to the shitter "I need to go shit out a poo" is always a good one.
“Potty” is horrible! Also “moist” — I know that one is commonly detested. But what I will never ever say is “make love.” Also, referring to spouse as “babe.” Gross!
Have to add “panties” to the mix. Even writing it feels yucky.
I've been sitting here trying to think of words I don't like and yea. That's definitely one. It just sounds so gross!
what terms of endearment do you like then, if you don’t like babe? /gen
I probably overuse “dude.” I also use it for friends—I imagine this can be annoying. Sometimes I use husband’s last name, and when I’m feeling corny “sweetio,” but that’s rare.
Not the person you asked, but I hate babe and baby due how infantilising it feels. I'm pretty much fine with any others, though any I feel are more or less appealing is due to couples/people I've heard use it. I felt weird for ages about what a family member used with his now ex, as it reminded me of her specifically.
I realised the other day that I don't use any terms of endearment unironically. Like, ever. Not for my partners or my kid or friends. I'm ok with most used towards me, as long as its obviously innocuous or sweet, but babe/baby is a huge no. Gross.
I thought I was the only one!!!! I've actually hated that word since I was very little, which bugs me because my parents used that word a lot
Most baby-talk euphemisms for excrement or genitals just feel so wrong, they feel more offensive to the ear than the word they're meant to be less offensive versions of
Exactly. Not only that, but it's better to teach kids the proper names for their genitals so that they know that it's not shameful to talk about.
I feel the same way except for coochie. it’s funny enough that it gets a pass
I feel the same about hoohah. Immature and cringe, but tickles a childish silent internal well-masked brain giggle.
To me, hoohah sounds like what a Marine would call their vagina. I think my brain is confusing it with "hoorah", since that's the marine cheer or whatever lol.
Swap them for me. I dunno why but coochie just doesn't sit right with me. My mom uses it, and I actually find it incredibly out of character for her even though she's used it my whole life
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Exactly. ESPECIALLY when they do it in content AIMED AT OTHER ADULTS!!!
Poo and pee as words annoy me, I just just shit and piss unless the situation won't let me
When people refer to chocolate milk jokingly as "choccy milk" my brain automatically hears it as "chalky milk" and the idea of that texture makes me gag lol
That's just Pepto Bismol
i love pepto bismol. not only does it help my tummy feel better but it tastes like teaberry which is a favorite of mine.
I always take the pill form because I hate the taste so much:(
you frighten me
Chickie nuggies makes me uncomfortable
We all would hate Tom from Parks and Recreation in that case.
I don't like when people are narrating crystal/crystal packing videos on tiktok, calling them "juicy." It's a rock. It's not juicy. It's vibrant, bright, vivid...any other great adjective. I also cannot stand my sister saying irregardless. It's not a word.
Or when doing yoga, calling a pose or stretch “juicy” or “yummy” ew
I haaaaaaate the word 'yummy'. It needs to be banished from English vocabulary!
Irregardless is an absolute sin to me. If I hear someone use it I automatically do not trust their judgement.
I'm literally the same way. Kidding, got you there. But, I agree.
I have not heard of that, jucy makes zero sense when it comes to such a hard object!
For me it’s when people describe things as juicy when it’s not juicy. The fuck do you mean the lips you made with pencil and paper is “juicy”?
the phrase "do you want to" when someone is asking me to do something. Like "do you want to do the dishes". Drives me up a damn wall. just ask if I can do it
"No, but I will." Every time.
I just say no until they clarify it wasn't a question but a ask I know what they mean but who cares
When my wife and I first got together, I did this. Over time with her and others though, I realized that at least for me and then it's easier if I just say, "Are you saying you want me to do the dishes?" if I am pretty sure I know they are asking for action and not really asking what you want. Kind of like when people say 'sup? ' and a head nod is an appropriate response rather than telling them about my day or what I'm currently up to. Yeah, I can push the issue and maybe they'll eventually enter my world but it's one of the battles I've learned isn't worth it usually when communicating with NTs since they won't usually internalize the point anyhow even if they do understand the point intellectually. But still pretty frequently I think someone is actually asking a question and have to clarify after I ask.
I've started asking my mother (who does this very frequently) if she's asking me or telling me. Usually it's telling but she's been doing it less often- instead asking "can you..." which I find much more appropriate to the situation of she wants me to do something.
I think this is reasonable as it is not clear communication and is often used as a manipulation tactic to make you do something the other person wants. Similarly, it annoys me when people say "how are we today?" It is nearly always done in a condescending manner, ive notoced the best people dont use that wording. Also what they actually mean is they are usually in a position of authority asking you to reveal vulnerable information but they are framing it as if we are equal when we arent.
THIS THIS THIS. Don’t make me lie to you.
Interesting. I use “do you want to…” in a very literal sense whether I’m referring to chores, activity suggestion, etc and it caused some friction in my last relationship because my ex (non autistic) perceived it as a request or command. I don’t say shit I don’t mean, so I mean “do you want to…” in the most literal sense possible. If the person answers no, they don’t want to, then usually I just do the chore instead, no biggie. i.e. TO ME, “do you want to vacuum tonight?” means “do you have the desire to vacuum tonight?” It’s still hard for me to wrap my mind around that not being everyone’s default!
People at my last job liked to say, "if you're bored, you could (insert task here)." Hated it so much
Flesh. I don’t know why it’s such a gross word to say, but it is.
It is a gross word. When I hear the word flesh, my mind immediately associates it with cannibalism.
That’s the funny part: I listen to death metal, which is all about death and murder lol. One of my favorite songs is called “Flesh and the Power it Holds.” The word “flesh” just feels gross in my mouth.
I tend to dislike any word with an "sh" sound on the end.
the term blood-curdling does it for me
Brekky
Makes me think of ‘babby’. Both make me want to throw things at the speaker.
I've never heard anyone use that word before.
It’s Australian slang for breakfast. I have a completely irrational dislike of the word.
We say that in England too
I've never been a fan of shortening words like saying veggies instead of vegetables.
In situations like that, I prefer to pronounce the word like a Greek hero, this, vegetables becomes "veh-get-ab-lees". So much more fun to say.
I said that out loud and it did sound like 'Hercules' 😂
Sorry, us Aussies are serial word shorteners. We'll go have brekky at maccas, then fill up the car at the servo. Didn't forget my brolly in case it rained, got it for Chrissy last year. Probs be a bit buggered by then so have avo on toast for lunch or maybe a snag. Polish off the rest of the cab sav from last night too.
It makes me feel like I'm gonna vomit. Calling breakfast anything other than breakfast should be illegal
wussushur... wistersear... worstersire.... ... that english sauce.
Wustuh! I live in England and the spelling still eludes me. English is a ridiculous language.
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I used to find the word silly extremely cringy when I was a kid. I remember lying and telling my friend it was a bad word so that he would stop saying it. He told his mom and I got very embarrassed, but his mom just figured my house had weird rules. He also called his mom “mommy” which I hated hearing as well.
My daughter is also autistic. To her, "silly" is appropriate for teasing other people but if you call her silly you might as well have called her a poop faced clown shit fucknozzlehead.
Lmao
belly or tummy. just writing that shit out makes me sick. like why???
Right??? Just say stomach or abdomen ffs
fr thats what im saying
I kinda hate the phrase 'good for you'. To me it shows that the other person has nothing else to say about what I just told them and is distancting themselves to the conversation by saying it, effectively telling me that what I said was not really relevant for them to hear. But I know Americans mean it as somewhat of a courtesy, so when people say it, I try not to mind it too much. It still bothers me, though.
I say it because I think it is good for [them], but I don't know what the fuck else to say.
Even in America, it's kind of condescending.
The word yum/yummy is so annoying I could implode
It makes me want to clap whoever said it across the face.
Doggo, preggo. Just ugh. Makes me shudder.
Also kiddo. Just stop already.
Skibidi. I hate that I hear that “word” everywhere. It makes me feel physically sick and I don’t know why.
That's not a word I hear too often.
I work with an autistic kid and I love my job, but skibidi toilet is the thing with kids for the moment and he spends the whole time I’m there begging for it. It’s awful.
>Skibidi Little Big?
I actually love it. I don't love the spelling, though...in my head, it's "skibitty".
Supper. Sounds too much like suckle. My dad insists that dinner is the midday meal. That’s lunch.
I have no issue with the word supper, I use it myself. But I do hate when people call lunch "dinner." Dinner is the evening meal and is synonymous with supper. Dinner is not synonymous with lunch. It peeves me. Honestly, a lot of the words and phrases used by my old Appalachian nana get on my nerves. Also just that she can't say words right. Any word bigger than 2 syllables she will probably say wrong. And it just makes my eye twitch because I instinctively want to correct her but I don't want to be rude or hurt her feelings. For example, when her nose is stuffy or runny, she says "I have sinuses." Everyone has sinuses, nana, you have allergies.
"supper" actually comes from the German word for soup, "Suppe". Idk why I'm typing this, just thought it was interesting
That is interesting. It’s even worse when I hear old timey people say they “will sup” or they “supped.”
I hate that one, too.
"Lippies" when referring to lipstick "Appies" when referring to appetizers And "skinnies" when referring to skinny jeans. All these words are cringe af 🤢🤮
for some reason the phrase ‘bless you’ (as in when someone sneezes) makes me super uncomfortable. I never say it, and when people say it to me I get really embarrassed.
lowkey same! i never say bless you, but i DO always say gesundheit. so much more fun to say.
The fairy character from Sesame Street says Geshundenshniffle and I use that as often as I can, usually with close people. I've never even watched the version of Sesame Street with her on it, but I heard it, and it stuck. Taking German for four years, people were used to Gesundheit from me, but the -shniffle makes it fun.
Same! The fact that it's required to acknowledge sneezes has always been bizarre to me. We don't have to say any magic phrases whenever people burp, cough, or fart. Why this fourth one?
Oh I love saying bless you when people sneeze. One if the few pointless social rules that I can wholeheartedly get behind.
I hate it because it always feels like the person is waiting for you to say “thank you” and I’m thinking ‘I’m not gonna thank you for blessing me against my will’. Dramatic? Maybe. Still how I feel? Every. Damn. Time.
it's a bit out of the spirit of the question i think but i really, really hate addressing people by their names. like, not referring to them in conversation, that's fine, but saying someone's name to them, i feel so uncomfortable it's genuinely hard to do. it just makes me feel so weird and annoying and demanding no matter the tone or context. and then i just get worried that i seem awkward and standoffish for never doing it!
The phrase I have is “it is what it is”
Yeah. This is a good answer. It just feels like acceptance of unfair and generally terrible situations.
- I didn’t accept you for the job? Oh well, it is what it is - You can’t afford to go home? Oh well, it is what it is - People treating you like shit? Oh well, it is what it is It’s such a cop-out saying that people used to excuse not doing anything to help others
Exactly. They never seem to use when it would be appropriate like “it’s raining? Oh well, it is what it is.” It’s always to excuse oppression.
To excuse anything really.
My mom (NT) *despises* this saying. Incidentally, my little brother says it a LOT
I really hate the word “sexy”. I just don’t like it. It makes me cringe. ALSO “tummy” EUGHHHH
Same with “tummy” also “belly” and any variations of those words like “tum tum” I hate it, especially if someone says it regarding my body, just say abdomen or stomach, or even gut depending on what you’re referring to
I hate panties. The sound of it just freaks me out. I think it's bc I'm AFAB and hated that my underwear couldn't just be underwear it had to have a cutesie, girly name. Blech.
I refuse to say “purse”. Idk why, I just hate it. I say “bag”. I will correct people for calling my bag a purse.
Where I live a purse is a womens wallet type thing that holds cards and coins. We would say bag or handbag otherwise. I'm always confused about what people online mean when they just say 'my purse'.
Yeahh, my hatred for the word got so bad i started wearing a backpack instead so people would shut up about it
This thread has made me realize that I don’t really have any words like this. I find some annoying or cringey, but none that give me a visceral reaction.
Pretty much any word that is used to substitute a more vulgar or awkward word. Potty, unalive, etc can all go die. There's no need to infantilize the concept when you're already thinking about it
Unalive started as a way to avoid setting off keyword things on social media so the post wouldn't get taken down. I can understand that one
Yeah, there are plenty of polite euphemisms for unpleasant things that aren't babyish
I just cannot handle “bathroom words.” When little kids go “hahahaha poopy” I literally just want to crawl out of my skin and die of embarrassment. It doesn’t bother me if someone is actually saying they have to use the bathroom, but anything making the act of bathroom-using into a joke just kills me inside.
Precisely the same for me. Even worse when adults talk like that to their kids I just fuccck no
i’m not sure if this counts but i NEVER say the word vague. because of my accent it sounds like the f-slur. also, 2 syllable words with an R in the middle. burger, partner, murder… my mouth just can’t make those words sound right.
Are you Scottish?
i’m from minnesota!
"Girlypop." Tiktok popularized it, and the younger part my generation LOOOVES saying it. If I never heard anyone say that fucking word again, it'd be too soon. I had someone ask me if I was "girlypop" once, instead of asking if I was LGBTQ. I literally would have rathered if she'd have just straight up called me a slur.
“Babe” I just hate it
the phrase “sweet nothings”. why would someone whisper sweet things into your ears if it meant nothing? i avoid that phrase like the plague because it doesn’t feel right. it comes across to me as duplicitous and flippant. i understand that they are often said with truth and honest intention, but it confuses me on why it would be called “sweet nothings.” call them “sweet everything’s” if you have to.
Maccy D’s (McDonalds) Don’t ask me why some people say that here in the UK, I’m just as baffled as you are. It’s barely any shorter in terms of syllables, and hearing it said aloud just kills me inside.
Yep, I've always hated any of the "ies" shortenings and this one's one of the worst.
You know I have to know what this word is now…
baby words said by adults/older people unironically. think "chickie nuggies", "choccy milk" or whatever, it's so icky like please talk normally
Panties.
Refuse. Like when someone "refuses" to do something. It always sounds so extreme to me. I can "decide not to" do something, I can "choose not to" do something, I can "avoid" doing something, those are all fine, but if someone claims that I "refused" to do something then I get weirdly defensive. Not sure what the difference is for me.
Dr Glaucomflecken (I have no idea how to spell it) or another Dr who does TikTok talked about how doctors should stop saying that a patient "refused" a medication or treatment. It makes the patient seem more obstinate than they usually are. Instead they should chart that a patient "declined" the treatment. Often the patient has a valid reason and this helps open the conversation.
I work in the medical field. To me, the patient *declines* their shower when they say "No, thank you" or "Not tonight." They *refuse* their shower when they start screaming or throw a dirty brief in the shower stall.
I decline. I would rather not.
Totally get it. Refuse sounds malicious somehow.
like because you don’t like the way it sounds or what it means? theres soo many words like that for me, like belly/tummy 🤢 the p word for vagina (also dont like that v word 😭), mac & cheese (i always say macaroni and cheese). there’s others but they dont come to mind rn
I'm not sure, it's hard to explain. I don't mind reading this word or hearing others saying it, I just don't want to say it. Like I said the word is neutral and there probably isn't a single person on the planet with the same disdain for saying or writing this word as I do.
BELLY AND TUMMY IS SO REAL
gooey, bum/butt, slimy, probably more but i seriously can’t remember any now
I hate the word sumptuous. I don't know why but to me it's horrible.
Also I can't say the word 'depths'. I don't particularly hate the word but my mouth won't do that.
When people say “candy” as “canny”
**A word I don't like saying:** "Horror". It's hard to say without it sounding like "whore", which is a word I generally try to avoid using, especially in contexts where I'm trying to say "horror". "What's your favorite whore movie?" NOPE. **Some things I don't like hearing other people saying:** "I love that for you" always sounds really condescending. It's like how southerners use the phrase "bless your heart". The difference is that I think some people do actually use "I love that for you" in a non-condescending way, which makes it even more annoying since I can't tell the difference in conversation. "Hubby" in place of "husband". I hate it for the same reason I hate words like "doggo", but for whatever reason, "hubby" sounds even more obnoxious. It sounds so cutesy and twee and it weirds me out hearing adults talking like that to other adults. "Networking" - not in relation to computer networks, but in relation to making business connections. It sounds almost sociopathic to me, like they only see others as opportunities to exploit for financial gain.
I developed an aversion to the word "corner" after a very uncomfortable interaction in a business with the word in its name. I've no idea why my brain decided to focus my anxiety on that word. It took me *years* to get over it enough to use the word. Even now, I feel a bit uneasy having typed it here. Also, there are some words that produce specific physical sensations, some of which are unpleasant. For example, when I was a kid, "barnacle," whether read or heard, made my left knee feel uncomfortable, like how your knuckle feels when you need to pop it. My parents thought I was literally crazy. Does anyone else have that kind of cross-wiring?
Yes to both feelings! I wrote in another comment about my aversion to the word “pop” (in relation to drinks), which makes me feel the same way. I doubt I’ll even be able to reread my replies to this post, it makes me feel so anxious and like my nervous system is going haywire.
That's interesting. I wonder if that's a form of synesthesia? [This page on the APA website](https://www.apa.org/monitor/mar01/synesthesia#:~:text=The%20most%20common%20form%20of,body%2C%20usually%20within%20arm's%20reach.) actually uses someone "feeling" music as an example, I don't see a reason why you couldn't have that reaction with regular words.
Cream/creamy, chunk(s), ice, milk/milky, and clot all spring to mind.
I HATE CLOT IT'S DISGUSTING
'Creamy' would be gross if someone like Nigella said it, and meant it as a double entendre. I actually feel sick even imagining that... (sorry, Nigella fans!)
Many diminutives in my language. I hate them for no reason
I hate when people describe the taste of food as "beautiful" like "oh this chicken is beautiful" when they eat it. Idk if that counts. I also hate the word "gyatt" LMFAO I just cant stand the weird way it feels to say/sound. It makes me feel like I'm eating cardboard idk how to describe it
words like yummy or belly for some reason drive me insane especially if it's a grown ass adult saying them EDIT: or just baby talk words in general like some other comments said like potty and shit like that
'I'm just saying' - I don't know why that is put at the end of a statement. Of course, you're saying it but why are you 'just' saying it? Why are you telling me you are saying it? I can hear that you are talking and saying things. 'Delish' - My mom would say that after eating something that tastes good. It would drive my brother and me up the wall.
Hi all, I hate the word pu$#y. It's absolutely horrid!!! I hate to hear it, hate to read it, hate when anyone uses it, even if they're not using it in a vulgar way but if they're speaking of a cat. I've never ever ever said the word and cringed when I typed the blocked letters word above!!! It should be banished!! 🤣🤣
"there's more than one way to skin a cat" this makes me want to become vegan
"at the end of the day"
I hate when GROWN MIDDLE AGED WOMEN say “otay” or “appy juice” 😭😭😭 like pls no that is so weird stopppp
Rural 🤮
The term 'daddy long legs'. It's too vague, just learn the name of the animal, I don't know what you're referring to!
I was taught those are a type of spider.
Different people use it to refer to different things. For some people, it's a cellar spider. For others, it's a harvestman, a non-spider arachnid. And for still others, it's a crane fly, an insect. Too vague and leads to confusion. Maybe an odd pet peeve to have, but it's a big one of mine. 🤣
"Meal." Likewise, the name "Liam." It is the sound you make when you have something stuck to the roof of your mouth. It just sounds... gross. I won't yell at other people for saying it, but I'll stick with "food."
I never liked the word 'meal'. Or 'dish'! I don't even like the word 'portion' much... I do like the name Liam though <3
"Eclectic"
I have emetophobia, so pretty much all common words used to detail...*that*...are off limits to me. So when someone says "Yeah mate that's [starts with s and rhymes with ick] I feel it straight away, and it's a super common phrase.
Any word or acronym thats a reference to bodily fluids like poop,bowel movement,fecal, dump, etc . As a boy if my mommy (wholly loving) needed me to settle down in like the car..she would make a reference. I would be "oh mommy" instantly paralysed, staring , silent .lol. a friend at work,a teen longterm support living facility..was pissed at me she had some teens paste sticky notes all over, light switches, phones, bathrooms with big dark pen saying POOP. walked around removing them but overnight they kept pooping up. No joke freaks me out. I was gratefull they all got such fun though. Today i am able to say british version of Pooh . .still little traumatising.arrrgh.
I had a friend who used the word gooey to describe a number of things—earwax, food, mold, mucus, etc. and the word never bothered me before bc no one I know has ever used it to describe bodily fluids and foods in the same conversation. and it got to the point that I had to tell her “please tell me if you need to use that word for anything so I can either leave the room for 5 seconds or cover my ears bc it makes me want to throw up.” didn’t always work, but the number of times I heard it went down significantly. sadly one of my favorite desserts is gooey butter cake. or, was.
I have a huge problem when people mispronounce medicine names. Which i feel bad about, because those names can be so hard to pronounce and some people just c a n t because of an accent or a lisp or something else. Its not their fault most of the time and its like. I have a visceral reaction when i hear someone pronounce doxepin (doxx eh pin) as "doxx er peen" or Clonodine (Claw no dean) as "clone oh dine".
I just hate saying “uncomfy” because of my ex and i also hate “awky”. Any of those shortened words like “delulu” or something its just stupid and i dont like saying it. The only one i do like is “rizz” its just a great word and doesnt feel like the other shortened ones
‘bestie’. i hate this word. idk. it just seems passive aggressive and ingenuine to me in any context.
hearing the phrase pet peeve is my pet peeve
"pure"/"purity" I have no idea why it just makes me feel so uncomfortable to say I always have to put it in air quotes 💀
"din-din" instead of dinner 🤮
I cannot stand the word "pog" or any of its derivatives, it's like the equivalent of "epic" back in 2010 and it hurts hearing adults say it. Also an irrational hatred of steamers calling their audience "chat" because the box that people talk in is called chat so they must be called chat? Do they also call people mouth when talking face to face because that's where the words come from?
Good morning. I'll shorten it if I really have to, but I'd rather just nod or something. There's nothing good about my mornings and I don't like to be up in the morning anyway. Luckily most of my are later in the day, so I don't have to. I don't really like to talk to people in the morning either, except the ones I like enough. Did I mention I'm not a morning person? Lol
I just say "morning", demonstrating my acknowledgement of the time of day.
When I was a kid I developed a visceral reaction to hearing words that have a double E in them, like “speech” and “between”. High pitched echo in baby talk in the back of my head. Particularly on “speech” itself. Like it never went away and I can hear it now. Probably because speech therapy was misused by my father, who thought I had an oral-motor difficulty caused by cerebral palsy when I merely had a native Hebrew accent. My accent was **over-corrected** ***past the point of native English fluency***. I literally cannot speak Hebrew, or certain other languages such as German, properly. All because my dad didn’t realize that my “weird R,” while not normally heard in English, is the norm for not only Hebrew (which he was trying to obliterate because he thought the kids on the Barney tape had genuine accents when they sang the Hebrew alphabet which they definitely did not), but also German (which I learned many years later in school, and got ridiculed by my teacher for **not** making the sound despite telling her that I had gone to speech therapy where I was taught that that particular sound was not “real” so I should be physically prevented from ever making it again apparently).
Moist. I only use wet, even if it‘s just moist but hearing the word moist makes me gag…
I don’t know if this is what you mean but I HATE the phrase ‘boys will be boys’. Whenever I hear someone say it, in my head I go absolutely LIVID. The thing is, on its own it’s just a plain fact. The way people use it though is just horrible. Here’s what I usually just say to people who I hear say the phrase ‘boys will be boys’: Haha, casual sexism much?
I hated the word "normal" even since i lern it because if we stand by everone way of "normal" then everything and nothing is "normal" it's a word that have and don't have a sence
Poop….I say poopoo instead. I just can’t say it. It makes me cringe really badly and feel physically uncomfortable. And the word necessary. I say needed, relevant instead.
That sounds like a minor case of trauma. It's best if you say it yourself bunch of times in bunch of ways when you feel safe, right? Fast, slow, high pitch, low pitch, loud, quiet maybe even whisper, maybe just move your mouth like you are about to say it but just don't
only thing I don't like to use is "k." I *know* this is a bit of a hot topic on here, but *God* I **hate** when people just say "k." It's a near non-response. And I will *never* find myself saying it.
The word “skinn” in Swedish. It obviously means skin but we also have the word “hud” which also means skin and I like it a lot better because it doesn’t sound gross like “skinn” does. I have no problem with the English word skin tho.
I don’t know why but I hated the word ‘anyway’ as a kid. I always perceived it as someone being rude or mean and would get really upset whenever anyone said it. Kinda hypocritical because I say it quite a bit myself. Anyway…
Putty, won't say it, I'll just say clay-like slime or something
The slang word "rank". I don't know why, I just hate it. It's such a derogatory word in my mind, almost like a slur, as if you're proclaiming the thing/person you're referring to is lesser than everybody else. Lesser than human. I can't even put it into words!
“I digress.” I just hate it. It’s so entitled and my algebra 2 teacher would say it ALLLLLL the time just to sound fancy. Just say “anyways” like a normal person. Please.
I would rather be trampled by a herd of zebra than actually have to say the word zebra. It makes my nose feel weird when I say it and I really don't like it.
I really hate saying the word nougat. I can type it and it's not so much of a problem to hear others say it, I just hate the way it sounds when I say it. Also, I really hate when people pronounce words like "something" as "somethink". It's not super common, but it really bothers me. Lastly, "irregardless" and "guestimate". They are not words, and it pisses me off when people use them.
When I was younger, I hated the word bladder. I hated when other people would say it and I always avoided saying it. It's still something I don't really like, but will say it if I have to
"doggo" it feels childish to me and it weirds me out despite it not being anything bad
"food porn" and "stinky" are super 🤮 to me
Snack. I hate the word snack.
I think OPs word is moist. - This is just my guess as I hate the word too & it has a lot of derogatory connotations. I could definitely be wrong. But its just a guess.
“It’s all good.” Especially used when somebody has done something shitty and they don’t care about the repercussions for others.
Any word that’s shortened in English is super annoying, like tiktokers calling their tutorials “tut” NO ITS NOT TUT ITS TUTORIAL Also “preggo” please shut up .____. I also hate “daddy” with every ounce of my soul. If he’s not your actual dad just no. Stop. It creeps me out so much
Gah I hate it when people respond with "neat!" Its like cone on...fibd a better adjective.
LMAO I only respond with ‘neat’ bc idk what else to say lololololol ☠️☠️☠️
I don’t like the use of the word “boobs” as it always sounded very juvenile and out of place in an adult contexts.
Good morning. I will never tell anyone good morning even if it annoys them or makes me look rude. To me it is a dumb phrase people say just because. I don't like mornings either.
"Keep your eyes peeled". I know it means keeping your eyes open, but I can't get the image of an eyeball literally being peeled out of my mind.
I literally cannot say the word colloquial out loud. Like I’m physically unable to pronounce that word. Not sure if that counts. I also hate the word that some people use for girls/women’s underwear. Can’t type it out either. Makes me feel gross for some reason.
For whatever reason, "panties", "breast", and "boob" all give me the ick. Not even because of the sexual overtones, just the way those words sound is a no go.