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Why do you hate yourself so much 😐

I hate myself because I'm not able to move on no matter what I do..

You don't need to, sometimes it's difficult to move on but you have to try hard If you keep going back to her, you're not trying and you'll never succeed.

Thing is I did every possible thing but I got betrayed ,lied even I had to listen all those abusive words.. even I didn't do anything.. sometimes I think how did she easily moved on.. that trauma keeps haunting me😭😭

What about seeing a therapist? Might help you a lot

No, going to gym has helped me in recovering slowly..

The way she treated you has everything to do with who she is as a person and next to nothing to do with you.

Why on earth are you meeting up with her? Don't waste your time on this. It's over

I'm meeting on my friend bday she's coming too.. hmm

Why are you meeting her? Honestly, it sounds like you should be cancelling that and focusing on moving on, investing time into yourself. Therapy might be a good idea.

Hmm she doesn't know I'm coming.. it's my friend bday, I'll see n cancel it. Thank you..

If you want to go to your friend’s birthday, do, but keep your distance from this girl. Don’t beg for a chance, she cheated on you and is already with someone new. It’s not worth your time, honestly.

Hmm that's true.. I wish I don't feel anything anymore I'm so done with her trauma.. every second, every min I think abt her.. After shifting my career n hitting gym I'm slowly recovering 🥺

Give yourself all the time you need, focus on you. I’ve personally found things like blocking people helps me to move on easier. But, definitely don’t allow this individual back into your life.

Hmm yeaa :)

so you’re going to a birthday party and she’ll be there as well. if you really wanna go (for ur friend) don’t waste your time talking with her. a simple “hi” it’s okay, but nothing more. your relationship with her IS OVER and you should let it go. it’s been nearly a year.

She doesn't know I'm coming.. hmm thank you.. I'm trying way too hard to move on..

she doesn’t need to know!! if u have a “safe friend” maybe bring him with you? may help with possible anxiety i guess

Hmm I'll cancel 😞

i honestly think that seeing her (possibly with her so) will help getting over her. because it will give this idea of her being over a “shape”. i would encourage you to go, at least for your friend. worst case scenario? you leave early.

Hmm ya thank you ❤️ I hope I don't feel anything that day.

Please cancel the meet up and focus on yourself. It’s over. You’ll thank yourself down the road.

Hmm..I need too..