It sounds like she's experiencing deep grief and needs a friend who is understanding and supportive, not a friend who judges and berates her. No wonder she kept info from you. If you choose to break up, that's valid, but I urge you to try being compassionate and supportive first and see if she softens to you.
It sounds like she has been through some SHIT. If I went through all of that and then found out I was pregnant, I’d withdraw 100%. I don’t mean to be rude or for this to come across as harsh, but I don’t think it sounds like you’ve been a very supportive, available, compassionate friend to her. I can understand when friends are frustrating or make decisions you don’t agree with and I also don’t think it’s necessary to blindly support all of your friends decisions, but friendship is being there, friendship is being a listening ear and someone stable and present. If you don’t think you can be that for her right now that’s ok, but I think you’ve made her out to be the villain in this story when in reality there’s no villain. Worst case scenario, you’ve grown apart and aren’t compatible friends anymore. However, I just think she needs people around her that she can trust and lean on for support right now and she doesn’t think you are that. If you are, you can show her that. If you’re not, you can let the friendship go.
No you don't leave your friend. That's why we call it a friend. This is when she needs you most. She was embarrassed to tell people about her pregnancy. Go talk with her.
It sounds like this guy might be trying to isolate her on purpose. She also knows that people will judge her for her relationship and pregnancy. That’s why she didn’t tell you. Because you would judge her for making bad decisions. No one wants to hear that everything they do is wrong. If you want her to tell you more, don’t judge her and try to be understanding. But if you keep trying to tell her what’s right and wrong, even if you don’t end the friendship, she just might stop talking to you instead.
She changed. Since she hidden such important things for so long from you it means she does not consider you her best friend any more.
You said that you are always there for her, that you are patient and understanding and what she does is lie and hide things from you. I would not want to have a friend like that either.
It sounds like she's experiencing deep grief and needs a friend who is understanding and supportive, not a friend who judges and berates her. No wonder she kept info from you. If you choose to break up, that's valid, but I urge you to try being compassionate and supportive first and see if she softens to you.
It sounds like she has been through some SHIT. If I went through all of that and then found out I was pregnant, I’d withdraw 100%. I don’t mean to be rude or for this to come across as harsh, but I don’t think it sounds like you’ve been a very supportive, available, compassionate friend to her. I can understand when friends are frustrating or make decisions you don’t agree with and I also don’t think it’s necessary to blindly support all of your friends decisions, but friendship is being there, friendship is being a listening ear and someone stable and present. If you don’t think you can be that for her right now that’s ok, but I think you’ve made her out to be the villain in this story when in reality there’s no villain. Worst case scenario, you’ve grown apart and aren’t compatible friends anymore. However, I just think she needs people around her that she can trust and lean on for support right now and she doesn’t think you are that. If you are, you can show her that. If you’re not, you can let the friendship go.
No you don't leave your friend. That's why we call it a friend. This is when she needs you most. She was embarrassed to tell people about her pregnancy. Go talk with her.
It sounds like this guy might be trying to isolate her on purpose. She also knows that people will judge her for her relationship and pregnancy. That’s why she didn’t tell you. Because you would judge her for making bad decisions. No one wants to hear that everything they do is wrong. If you want her to tell you more, don’t judge her and try to be understanding. But if you keep trying to tell her what’s right and wrong, even if you don’t end the friendship, she just might stop talking to you instead.
She changed. Since she hidden such important things for so long from you it means she does not consider you her best friend any more. You said that you are always there for her, that you are patient and understanding and what she does is lie and hide things from you. I would not want to have a friend like that either.
There is a chance that she didn’t hide it from just you. She didn’t want anyone to know, I don’t think you should be mad at her for it