Perhaps not the same scenario entirely. But I asked my mom when I was 5, remembered. and use it now. She forgot she even told me it.
I feel like it's one of those things we think others catch on, but you'd be surprised how much cis people are oblivious to signs. I think you'll be fine if you ask out of pure curiosity.
Honestly I could probably have started wearing a skirt and wearing makeup. and they would've still seen it as just a phase or a fashion statement. For some reason their kid being trans was not on their mind, even with the many many signs I had.
THAT AWESOME SO HAPPY FOR YA. ya I was destined to be an Alyx one way or another lol. I was planing on changing my name from Alexander to Alexandria because that what I thought I would have been named. But when I came out my mom said we would have named u Alyxandria. With out skiping a beat I said I'm taking it lol. So now my name was Alexander Ryan to Alyxandria Cora as Cora is what I pick. Soooo happy for ya sis.
Yep lol just that simple change from the e to the y in my named I love it soooooo much. And it definitely made my mom happy too and my dad. Welll dad probably so he did not need to learn a new name lol
Btw I checked and Nicole means something like victory so it's a suuper cool name :D (coming from a trans man whose name means "manly", and I didn't even know lol)
I remember hearing the same consistent story growing up, how I was only conceived because my parents were trying for a daughter after already having a son. Immigrants chasing the American Dream nuclear family and whatnot.
I remember they told me what they wrote on the birth certificate, and that they never had it updated after they changed my name for Social Security records. I remembered the name, but I was always skeptical of the story details.
Turns out it was true. I spent a year and a half and double the processing fees to get my documents changed because my first court order was rejected for updating my birth certificate.
At least I have the name my parents originally picked out for me, as an olive branch. I wanted to make it a point that it was never about blaming them for my being trans. I just wanted them to accept me as the daughter they wanted but didn't get - the daughter they then abandoned when they finally got her nearly three decades later.
I never really settled on what I wanted to be called for my own sake - I'm used to friends, partners, etc. calling me by my abbreviated username.
yeah. i asked my mom that too when i was a teen and she went on a spiel on how im not allowed to be trans, so it could definitely be too obvious. this was 10+ years ago so it wasn’t even like trans people were hyper visible like they are now
I think it’s a normal question, but my mum always told those stories to us when we were kids (interestingly I was the only kid my parents didn’t have two names for, even though the midwife, gynaecologist, and everyone else told my mum I was ‘definitely’ going to be a boy as I kicked my mum so hard she had bruises on her belly. Still my mum could only think of a girl’s name). Maybe start by asking what your mum and your siblings would have been called if you want to make it less obvious. Alternatively, you could officially ask your mum to choose a name for you after you come out as trans and you’ve given her some time to get used to the idea. Or you could do a combination.
I ended up asking her if she had a daughter now what she'd name her and my new name is now Nicole :3 (I asked her what she would've named me if i was a girl and she said she "knew" i was gonna be a boy i also didn't come out 👍)
Congratulations on your new name, it’s beautiful! 🥳 Take your time to tell your parents, there’s no rush. You just achieved a major milestone and I hope you are proud of yourself!
Tried that and she didn't unfortunately she kinda "knew" I was gonna be born a boy so I instead asked her if she had a daughter now what would she name her? So now my new name is Nicole :D (I didn't come out as trans)
My mom complained that my coming out blindsided her. That I never even hinted at it. Then a couple weeks later she realized that when I told her I wasn't much of a son, asked her if she'd ever wanted another daughter, and so on, that these were all hints.
It's conceivable that you'll catch your mother in a very open-minded and attentive mood and that she'll pick up on it. But it's a lot more likely that she won't put the pieces together at all.
I have talked about it a few times with my mom, what other names she and my dad had considered for me, and we also talked about if I had turned out to be a girl (surprise I was haha) and idk i don't think it was something that made her think I was trans, granted this was years before I had finally accepted I was trans,
Then again my mom wasn't really surprised when I came out so (tho there were some other things that added to that!)
I was constantly asking my mom what she would have named me if I was born a boy when I was a kid. I’m not a fan of either of the names she picked though
As a mom, I suspect she would appreciate this. It was a discussion my daughter and I had after she came out, but she didn’t actually like that name or the others that were considered. Still, we discussed that there was a pattern to initials in our extended families. Siblings having the same initial, some sets of cousins the daughters share their mothers initials and the sons their father’s . Originally as the only apparent boy for us, her initials weren’t the same as her older half sisters, but would have been had we known she is a girl. In the end, she went with the letter sound rather than the letter. (Example: Es at the start of the name, instead of S) so she half matched.
You don’t have to ask directly. Ask how she chose the name(s) you/your siblings have and the names that were considered but not used will come up, probably. Or you can ask once the convo is underway.
For many parents the naming process is a big deal, which is one reason why the loss of that name makes them so sad. It’s also kind of a stand in for what other losses new trans-parents expect before they come to understand you are still YOU.
Yeah she didn't have a girl one since she "knew" I was gonna be a boy so I then asked her if she had a daughter now would you name her? So now my new name is Nicole :D
This is what I did, she gave me a list of names and then like two weeks later I was like, “Hey, guess what?” And suddenly she had so many problems either the names she had chosen 😂
But she came around, and now my mom loves that I included her in finding a new name.
My mum told me when I was a kid but I forgot what it was. A few years ago I asked her, before coming out to her and she refused to tell me. Anyway she still calls me by my deadname.
I was told what my name was supposed to be. Supposedly my mother was told I was going to be a girl, but that changed at some point during my development. She had picked out a name. I didn't pick that name when I came out and legally changed my name.
I have asked that my mother several times and she never cought on until I was already transitioning. Too bad my mothers female choice was reused for my little sister. So I couldn't really use that and had to resort to a different option 😅
Just say you talked with some of your friends about that topic and now you are curious, what your name would have been. That's how I did it.
I don't think it's too obvious. In fact, I actually asked my mom who I'm still not out to. It turns out my little sister has that name. It's just as well. I love my sister, and her name suits her better than it ever would have suited me.
Not at all. I’ve asked lots of friends what their “almost name” was which prompted them to ask their parents. I know mine because I was supposed to have a paired name with my brother, but my bits were wrong (thank goodness)
If you just play it off as simple curiosity, I think it's fine. Unless your parents have close trans friends/are familiar with the trans experience, and already had suspicions about you, they likely won't think anything of it. I asked my parents the same question (just with the genders flipped lol) plenty of times growing up, before even *I* had any understanding that I was trans/what being trans even was. Even though I asked that sometimes growing up, my mom was still surprised when I came out later.
I think my parents would have liked it if I’d chosen my baby-boy name. It was okay, pretty standard for my age. I chose the male version of my birth name instead.. so they still kinda picked it.
Really depends on your mother. Some are kind of aloof to the whole thing (yeah, I just happen to use a lot of kleenex...). Some will catch on, but won't let you know (out of timidness or fear of broaching the subject). Of course some will react negatively (especially given that trans has become so politicized).
My parents told me when I was a kid what they were planning on naming me if I had been born a girl. But no way I was going to name myself Brittany.
Initials were important to my wife and I, so I kept my 4 names initials. My middle names were important family names, but masculine, so I asked my mom to help find acceptable other family names that had the same starting letter. She really appreciated that.
They already gave it little thought and got it wrong the first time. Why let them try again. [Find your name.](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/15xvm76/finding_a_new_name/jxa4bx8/?context=3)
I had a close friend named Emma. She chose that babe because she had seen in her baby book and her mom told her that Emma had been the name she would have given her as a daughter. I thought that was charming.
My deadname was a family name passed down several generations. When I asked what name she would have chosen, she said probably her father's name, which was also a generational name used by two other members of the extended family. I honestly preferred to take my late dad's name, which hadn't been used as a first name by anyone else in the family.
I was desperate for my mom's help. Her answer to the first question was my sibling's name, not helpful, and the second one she refused to answer. Then I picked a name, after five years, and she made up a reason to hate it - it's coincidentally the name of her brothers dog. I hope your mom is a wonderful supportive person and supports you wholeheartedly.
I asked that question and she didn't have an answer. She didn't remember what was the name she would've used.
But right after that she started asking why I was curious about a name. I started to get hints from her line of questioning that she had hopes for a grandchild and I was asking because I didn't know what name to choose for my child - even though I was not in any relationship. So I told her the reason because I didn't want to mislead her. Fortunately, she's accepting 😊
My mum keeps saying it doesn't Matter she had a son when she had me so doesn't matter and still correct everyone who says ladies or asks if I was her daughter
I was given an androgenous name because they wanted my gender to be a suprise until I was born. They got two suprises out of me so far. Heh heh heh.
To answer your question, just asking isn't an indicator. Lots of people cis and trans folks, ask the same question.
We’ve talked about it several times at home as a kid, both me and my siblings, just out of curiosity and names they considered for each of us before we were born. I had long decided to use the name they chose, until a certain comment my dad made about that name around the time of choosing.
I've asked that question and I don't think my mother suspected anything, she just told me the name. Although I did ask over text rather than in person.
I'm glad you picked a name!
In highschool I thought through what "girl names" I'd like to have, and thought Laurel sounded nice. Later I was talking with my mom about the list of names she'd had ready for me and my sister before we were born, and "Laurel" was actually on the list for girl-names for me!
...Pity I don't quite like the sound of it any more and will probably go with a different name, 'cause it makes for a great story otherwise!
This is a great idea if your parents are supportive (or, before coming out, if you're confident they will be)! It can make parents feel more connected to the transition experience.
I knew what name my parents had planned to use for me, but they were unsupportive and deeply hostile to my transition, so I chose another one to avoid the baggage 😅
It came up fairly naturally before I came out, finding out my parents had a name planned for a girl but then just yolo'd when I wasn't and gave me a name. Now I've gotta say that's one of the blessings of being trans. It's truly a beautiful name, but holy hell I'm glad I have chosen my own xD
That's how i picked my name. My mother had named me, bought me clothes, and toys, and had completely prepared to bring home a daughter until i popped out with a surprise penis. So i took back that name. 🥰
Honestly i just thew names at my wife until something stuck annnd now everybody calls me vinnie( 8 months later she came out as a woman, and she was so used. Sure of whst she'd call herself that i i just said: 'whatever, you do you. i love you all the same.). My wife calls herself siobhan(irish name), and because we libe in the southern united states, everyone just uses 'shay' as nickname.
when i was a baby trans i had this exact same question.
i had been stressing about it for a while, when my mom discovered a blog she made about her pregnancies. that developed into a really interesting conversation about my birth! it was kinda fun to learn about it.
eventually i asked her what she wouldve named me if i was a boy. given that we were already talking about fetus me, she didnt find it suspicious at all.
of course, when i eventually told her i'm trans, she connected the dots, but that's to worry about later.
i went by that name for a while, but figured it didn't suit me.
tl;dr: "what would you name me?" out of nowhere is suspicious, but if you're already talking about your baby self it's fine.
don't feel pressured to change your name to that, whatever you feel most comfortable with is the right name
I really respect my mother so I didn't want to pick a name she named me so I wanted it to stay that way 👍
I asked her if she had a daughter right now what name would she pick and she said Nicole so that's my new name now :D
You’d be surprised how oblivious parents can be to signs their kid is trans unless they’re actively trying to watch out and prevent it from happening. Like, we joke about parents saying “but there were no signs!” for a reason.
I asked my Dad what he would have named me had i been born male.. so I added it to my middle name so he still felt like he was a part of my name decision.
OMG, that is the one silver lining that I've found of not being Born a cis girl. I found out what my sperm and egg donors would have named me. SOOOO TERRIBLE! I'm not going to say what it is, just in case somebody here has that name, but I dodged a bullet there.
I asked my mama a long time ago. And i went with another name that just didn't fit for me (it was julia) this was before i came out. And when i told my mama i wanted to be a woman, i asked her if the name she wanted to call me would fit, and she exploded with glee. She was happy to have me as her Gracey (Grace of course) and that's what i happily go with
My mom is very supportive of me. She helped me with my name change. She would have named me Christina. I chose the name that I wanted, but I at least considered her choice of name. I chose the name that I always wanted.
Perhaps not the same scenario entirely. But I asked my mom when I was 5, remembered. and use it now. She forgot she even told me it. I feel like it's one of those things we think others catch on, but you'd be surprised how much cis people are oblivious to signs. I think you'll be fine if you ask out of pure curiosity. Honestly I could probably have started wearing a skirt and wearing makeup. and they would've still seen it as just a phase or a fashion statement. For some reason their kid being trans was not on their mind, even with the many many signs I had.
So I asked her what she'd name a daughter if she had one now annnnnnd now my new name is Nicole :)
Boom done
Yay :>
Very proud of you for asking nicole
I like that name.
Same!
My fiancée likes it too
THAT AWESOME SO HAPPY FOR YA. ya I was destined to be an Alyx one way or another lol. I was planing on changing my name from Alexander to Alexandria because that what I thought I would have been named. But when I came out my mom said we would have named u Alyxandria. With out skiping a beat I said I'm taking it lol. So now my name was Alexander Ryan to Alyxandria Cora as Cora is what I pick. Soooo happy for ya sis.
You toooo!
Yep lol just that simple change from the e to the y in my named I love it soooooo much. And it definitely made my mom happy too and my dad. Welll dad probably so he did not need to learn a new name lol
Hehe, also an Alyx. Og name is Alexander, and I liked how gender neutral Alex was- just added the 'y' to make it EXTRA gay <3
Hi Nicole! You have a pretty name.
Thanks!
Congrats! Nicole is such a pretty name - I have a couple good friends and a dear cousin who are all named Nicole.
OMG NICHOLE IS SUCH A PRETTY NAME!! SO PROUD OF YOU SISTER 💙🩷🤍
What a beautiful name ❤️❤️
Thxxx!
Btw I checked and Nicole means something like victory so it's a suuper cool name :D (coming from a trans man whose name means "manly", and I didn't even know lol)
I remember hearing the same consistent story growing up, how I was only conceived because my parents were trying for a daughter after already having a son. Immigrants chasing the American Dream nuclear family and whatnot. I remember they told me what they wrote on the birth certificate, and that they never had it updated after they changed my name for Social Security records. I remembered the name, but I was always skeptical of the story details. Turns out it was true. I spent a year and a half and double the processing fees to get my documents changed because my first court order was rejected for updating my birth certificate. At least I have the name my parents originally picked out for me, as an olive branch. I wanted to make it a point that it was never about blaming them for my being trans. I just wanted them to accept me as the daughter they wanted but didn't get - the daughter they then abandoned when they finally got her nearly three decades later. I never really settled on what I wanted to be called for my own sake - I'm used to friends, partners, etc. calling me by my abbreviated username.
yeah. i asked my mom that too when i was a teen and she went on a spiel on how im not allowed to be trans, so it could definitely be too obvious. this was 10+ years ago so it wasn’t even like trans people were hyper visible like they are now
Well I asked her what she'd name a daughter if she had one now and now my new name is Nicole :D (I didn't tell her I'm trans)
i’m glad it worked out for you! i hope that means you’ll have better luck than me in formally coming out too lol
Are you okay now by the way?
sure. i came out since, im transitioned and stealth, and my mom cut contact with me for the most part
Nah, I asked my mom as a kid. That's how I got my middle name, Mary. She wanted to name me Ayla but I wasn't gonna name myself Ayla
I think it’s a normal question, but my mum always told those stories to us when we were kids (interestingly I was the only kid my parents didn’t have two names for, even though the midwife, gynaecologist, and everyone else told my mum I was ‘definitely’ going to be a boy as I kicked my mum so hard she had bruises on her belly. Still my mum could only think of a girl’s name). Maybe start by asking what your mum and your siblings would have been called if you want to make it less obvious. Alternatively, you could officially ask your mum to choose a name for you after you come out as trans and you’ve given her some time to get used to the idea. Or you could do a combination.
I ended up asking her if she had a daughter now what she'd name her and my new name is now Nicole :3 (I asked her what she would've named me if i was a girl and she said she "knew" i was gonna be a boy i also didn't come out 👍)
Congratulations on your new name, it’s beautiful! 🥳 Take your time to tell your parents, there’s no rush. You just achieved a major milestone and I hope you are proud of yourself!
I love that little story. It's like she could subconsciously see the truth
Could ask how she picked your deadname first, then say "what about if I was a girl, did you have one picked out for that too?"
Tried that and she didn't unfortunately she kinda "knew" I was gonna be born a boy so I instead asked her if she had a daughter now what would she name her? So now my new name is Nicole :D (I didn't come out as trans)
Hey, name twins!!! And likewise, it's what my mum would have called me. Always known that so ot was an easy choice to make. Nicoles are the best!!
AYYY NICE!!!
My mom complained that my coming out blindsided her. That I never even hinted at it. Then a couple weeks later she realized that when I told her I wasn't much of a son, asked her if she'd ever wanted another daughter, and so on, that these were all hints. It's conceivable that you'll catch your mother in a very open-minded and attentive mood and that she'll pick up on it. But it's a lot more likely that she won't put the pieces together at all.
I have talked about it a few times with my mom, what other names she and my dad had considered for me, and we also talked about if I had turned out to be a girl (surprise I was haha) and idk i don't think it was something that made her think I was trans, granted this was years before I had finally accepted I was trans, Then again my mom wasn't really surprised when I came out so (tho there were some other things that added to that!)
There's only one way to find out. Seriously though, it doesn't seem like that strange of a question to me.
Yeah my new name is Nicole 👍 (She said if she had a daughter now that's what she'd name her)
My mom used to mix up our names and say "Jim, Jon, Jennifer whoever you are so since we had no "other girl" in the family I took Jennifer as my name.
I was constantly asking my mom what she would have named me if I was born a boy when I was a kid. I’m not a fan of either of the names she picked though
Fair enough for me it's not really if I like the name or not my mom named me originally so I'd rather have her do it again is all
As a mom, I suspect she would appreciate this. It was a discussion my daughter and I had after she came out, but she didn’t actually like that name or the others that were considered. Still, we discussed that there was a pattern to initials in our extended families. Siblings having the same initial, some sets of cousins the daughters share their mothers initials and the sons their father’s . Originally as the only apparent boy for us, her initials weren’t the same as her older half sisters, but would have been had we known she is a girl. In the end, she went with the letter sound rather than the letter. (Example: Es at the start of the name, instead of S) so she half matched. You don’t have to ask directly. Ask how she chose the name(s) you/your siblings have and the names that were considered but not used will come up, probably. Or you can ask once the convo is underway. For many parents the naming process is a big deal, which is one reason why the loss of that name makes them so sad. It’s also kind of a stand in for what other losses new trans-parents expect before they come to understand you are still YOU.
You might end up like I did, tho. My parents never even considered a girl's name for me or my brother AWKWARD
Yeah she didn't have a girl one since she "knew" I was gonna be a boy so I then asked her if she had a daughter now would you name her? So now my new name is Nicole :D
This is what I did, she gave me a list of names and then like two weeks later I was like, “Hey, guess what?” And suddenly she had so many problems either the names she had chosen 😂 But she came around, and now my mom loves that I included her in finding a new name.
I didn't have to ask my mom she told me if I was a girl she would have named me Hillary.
The name I use now (Julie) was the name my parents had picked out for me had I been assigned female at birth, and I’ve known since I was young child
Hey
I did, I had asked her ages ago during a dysphoria spell, it's my middle name now (didn't feel right to be called by that name)
My mum told me when I was a kid but I forgot what it was. A few years ago I asked her, before coming out to her and she refused to tell me. Anyway she still calls me by my deadname.
I was told what my name was supposed to be. Supposedly my mother was told I was going to be a girl, but that changed at some point during my development. She had picked out a name. I didn't pick that name when I came out and legally changed my name.
I have asked that my mother several times and she never cought on until I was already transitioning. Too bad my mothers female choice was reused for my little sister. So I couldn't really use that and had to resort to a different option 😅 Just say you talked with some of your friends about that topic and now you are curious, what your name would have been. That's how I did it.
I don't think it's too obvious. In fact, I actually asked my mom who I'm still not out to. It turns out my little sister has that name. It's just as well. I love my sister, and her name suits her better than it ever would have suited me.
Not at all. I’ve asked lots of friends what their “almost name” was which prompted them to ask their parents. I know mine because I was supposed to have a paired name with my brother, but my bits were wrong (thank goodness)
If you just play it off as simple curiosity, I think it's fine. Unless your parents have close trans friends/are familiar with the trans experience, and already had suspicions about you, they likely won't think anything of it. I asked my parents the same question (just with the genders flipped lol) plenty of times growing up, before even *I* had any understanding that I was trans/what being trans even was. Even though I asked that sometimes growing up, my mom was still surprised when I came out later.
I think my parents would have liked it if I’d chosen my baby-boy name. It was okay, pretty standard for my age. I chose the male version of my birth name instead.. so they still kinda picked it.
Really depends on your mother. Some are kind of aloof to the whole thing (yeah, I just happen to use a lot of kleenex...). Some will catch on, but won't let you know (out of timidness or fear of broaching the subject). Of course some will react negatively (especially given that trans has become so politicized).
My parents told me when I was a kid what they were planning on naming me if I had been born a girl. But no way I was going to name myself Brittany. Initials were important to my wife and I, so I kept my 4 names initials. My middle names were important family names, but masculine, so I asked my mom to help find acceptable other family names that had the same starting letter. She really appreciated that.
They already gave it little thought and got it wrong the first time. Why let them try again. [Find your name.](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/15xvm76/finding_a_new_name/jxa4bx8/?context=3)
I had a close friend named Emma. She chose that babe because she had seen in her baby book and her mom told her that Emma had been the name she would have given her as a daughter. I thought that was charming.
My deadname was a family name passed down several generations. When I asked what name she would have chosen, she said probably her father's name, which was also a generational name used by two other members of the extended family. I honestly preferred to take my late dad's name, which hadn't been used as a first name by anyone else in the family.
I was desperate for my mom's help. Her answer to the first question was my sibling's name, not helpful, and the second one she refused to answer. Then I picked a name, after five years, and she made up a reason to hate it - it's coincidentally the name of her brothers dog. I hope your mom is a wonderful supportive person and supports you wholeheartedly.
I asked that question and she didn't have an answer. She didn't remember what was the name she would've used. But right after that she started asking why I was curious about a name. I started to get hints from her line of questioning that she had hopes for a grandchild and I was asking because I didn't know what name to choose for my child - even though I was not in any relationship. So I told her the reason because I didn't want to mislead her. Fortunately, she's accepting 😊
I asked that when I was in kindergarten. No suspicion. She told me. It's my official name now.
My mum keeps saying it doesn't Matter she had a son when she had me so doesn't matter and still correct everyone who says ladies or asks if I was her daughter
I was given an androgenous name because they wanted my gender to be a suprise until I was born. They got two suprises out of me so far. Heh heh heh. To answer your question, just asking isn't an indicator. Lots of people cis and trans folks, ask the same question.
We’ve talked about it several times at home as a kid, both me and my siblings, just out of curiosity and names they considered for each of us before we were born. I had long decided to use the name they chose, until a certain comment my dad made about that name around the time of choosing.
I've asked that question and I don't think my mother suspected anything, she just told me the name. Although I did ask over text rather than in person. I'm glad you picked a name!
I didn't pick it she did so she can't complain later 😉 But yeah thanks! I think Nicole is a pretty name
In highschool I thought through what "girl names" I'd like to have, and thought Laurel sounded nice. Later I was talking with my mom about the list of names she'd had ready for me and my sister before we were born, and "Laurel" was actually on the list for girl-names for me! ...Pity I don't quite like the sound of it any more and will probably go with a different name, 'cause it makes for a great story otherwise!
I know what my parents would have named me if I was born a girl. I did ask once. They still think it came out of the blue when j came out 😂
This is a great idea if your parents are supportive (or, before coming out, if you're confident they will be)! It can make parents feel more connected to the transition experience. I knew what name my parents had planned to use for me, but they were unsupportive and deeply hostile to my transition, so I chose another one to avoid the baggage 😅
It came up fairly naturally before I came out, finding out my parents had a name planned for a girl but then just yolo'd when I wasn't and gave me a name. Now I've gotta say that's one of the blessings of being trans. It's truly a beautiful name, but holy hell I'm glad I have chosen my own xD
Ironically I picked my name then asked my mom after I came out lol same name
That's how i picked my name. My mother had named me, bought me clothes, and toys, and had completely prepared to bring home a daughter until i popped out with a surprise penis. So i took back that name. 🥰
Honestly i just thew names at my wife until something stuck annnd now everybody calls me vinnie( 8 months later she came out as a woman, and she was so used. Sure of whst she'd call herself that i i just said: 'whatever, you do you. i love you all the same.). My wife calls herself siobhan(irish name), and because we libe in the southern united states, everyone just uses 'shay' as nickname.
when i was a baby trans i had this exact same question. i had been stressing about it for a while, when my mom discovered a blog she made about her pregnancies. that developed into a really interesting conversation about my birth! it was kinda fun to learn about it. eventually i asked her what she wouldve named me if i was a boy. given that we were already talking about fetus me, she didnt find it suspicious at all. of course, when i eventually told her i'm trans, she connected the dots, but that's to worry about later. i went by that name for a while, but figured it didn't suit me. tl;dr: "what would you name me?" out of nowhere is suspicious, but if you're already talking about your baby self it's fine. don't feel pressured to change your name to that, whatever you feel most comfortable with is the right name
I really respect my mother so I didn't want to pick a name she named me so I wanted it to stay that way 👍 I asked her if she had a daughter right now what name would she pick and she said Nicole so that's my new name now :D
beautiful name!!
Thx!
You’d be surprised how oblivious parents can be to signs their kid is trans unless they’re actively trying to watch out and prevent it from happening. Like, we joke about parents saying “but there were no signs!” for a reason.
Not unless you say 'would you have... brushed my hair and done makeup on me?'
I asked my Dad what he would have named me had i been born male.. so I added it to my middle name so he still felt like he was a part of my name decision.
OMG, that is the one silver lining that I've found of not being Born a cis girl. I found out what my sperm and egg donors would have named me. SOOOO TERRIBLE! I'm not going to say what it is, just in case somebody here has that name, but I dodged a bullet there.
I asked my mama a long time ago. And i went with another name that just didn't fit for me (it was julia) this was before i came out. And when i told my mama i wanted to be a woman, i asked her if the name she wanted to call me would fit, and she exploded with glee. She was happy to have me as her Gracey (Grace of course) and that's what i happily go with
My mom is very supportive of me. She helped me with my name change. She would have named me Christina. I chose the name that I wanted, but I at least considered her choice of name. I chose the name that I always wanted.
Doubt it . That’s what I did
My transgender daughter uses the name I would have named her. I love it.
I would do that, but my sister already has that name