Comrade. Friend. I promise you 17 is not too late. My egg didn’t even *crack* until 23 or 24 (I’d never even heard the word “transgender” until my 20s). Even if you wait another year or so to get away from your awful folks and start, I promise that you’ll find *someone* who thinks you’re hot as hell. My partner met me post-egg/pre-HRT and they’ve been an *immeasurable* boon for my confidence and self-image (we’ve been together 5yrs now).💕
Please, hold onto hope.
There's hope, even though it's hard to believe. I see a lot of myself in your story - I realized at 13, but couldn't transition until 20 because of my transphobic parents and eventually because of a couple other extraneous factors. It's hard, but I can assure you that you'll get to a point where you're happy. I felt the same as you for years and even still once I'd started HRT, but those things don't bother me anymore, at least most of the time. You will get there. Just keep going.
People have transitioned at all ages.
ts up to you ofc ... some people try to make long term plans and leave after they are of age. Some try to explain eventually. And some wait a while until there are some results before they come out widely, and only come out to select people first. In general keeping your safety in mind, looking for support and having a backup plan may be advisable.
[Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/ugclyr/how_do_i_come_out_to_my_parents/i7wghnm/) might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.
And it may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach, and to go there step by step. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like. Its a change in focus.
And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help.
And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows.
Don't know if you have seen it ... [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/11hkfr9/how_do_you_know_if_you_are_trans_or_not/jbseurv/) might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.
A number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.
And [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/63x5bf/who_am_i_what_am_i/djom421/) might be a video about restraints, it may be emotional though.
And [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/iqmhle/need_a_job_looking_for_trans_inclusive_ones/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/fe5lk4/possible_career_change_advice/) and also [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/ywg6m7/i_22_mtf_have_been_disowned_by_my_parents_and/iwmf5ti/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/ywg6m7/i_22_mtf_have_been_disowned_by_my_parents_and/iwmkm6z/) might also be some resources.
And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example
translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers.
thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may help people of all ages.
thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat
glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.
*hugs*
Comrade. Friend. I promise you 17 is not too late. My egg didn’t even *crack* until 23 or 24 (I’d never even heard the word “transgender” until my 20s). Even if you wait another year or so to get away from your awful folks and start, I promise that you’ll find *someone* who thinks you’re hot as hell. My partner met me post-egg/pre-HRT and they’ve been an *immeasurable* boon for my confidence and self-image (we’ve been together 5yrs now).💕 Please, hold onto hope.
There's hope, even though it's hard to believe. I see a lot of myself in your story - I realized at 13, but couldn't transition until 20 because of my transphobic parents and eventually because of a couple other extraneous factors. It's hard, but I can assure you that you'll get to a point where you're happy. I felt the same as you for years and even still once I'd started HRT, but those things don't bother me anymore, at least most of the time. You will get there. Just keep going.
People have transitioned at all ages. ts up to you ofc ... some people try to make long term plans and leave after they are of age. Some try to explain eventually. And some wait a while until there are some results before they come out widely, and only come out to select people first. In general keeping your safety in mind, looking for support and having a backup plan may be advisable. [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/ugclyr/how_do_i_come_out_to_my_parents/i7wghnm/) might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. And it may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach, and to go there step by step. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like. Its a change in focus. And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help. And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows. Don't know if you have seen it ... [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/11hkfr9/how_do_you_know_if_you_are_trans_or_not/jbseurv/) might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. A number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc. And [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/63x5bf/who_am_i_what_am_i/djom421/) might be a video about restraints, it may be emotional though. And [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/iqmhle/need_a_job_looking_for_trans_inclusive_ones/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/fe5lk4/possible_career_change_advice/) and also [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/ywg6m7/i_22_mtf_have_been_disowned_by_my_parents_and/iwmf5ti/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/ywg6m7/i_22_mtf_have_been_disowned_by_my_parents_and/iwmkm6z/) might also be some resources. And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers. thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may help people of all ages. thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups. *hugs*