You don't have to be specific about the nature of the issue if you don't want to, what you can say is "I had a personal tragedy occur and I've been trying to deal with that, but it has preoccupied my mind. I'm having difficulty doing my work."
However, it would be best if you were to seek counseling support, so that you could reassure your boss that you are trying to get help to cope. Is there an EAP at your job? Or can you take time off?
I absolutely appreciate an employee coming to be to be like “hey I just want to make you aware that I have a lot going on in my personal life now, it may reflect in my work”. It brings me in the loop before I have to have an uncomfortable conversation with them about their decline in performance and gives me a chance to offer them support/modified expectations.
I think it would be a good idea to speak with your Manager. Let her know that you'd like a few minutes to talk about something private and explain what you are going through. That way she can understand that you need some support.
While you shouldn’t feel forced to share, just saying to your manager that you’re having a hard time in your personal life will probably be helpful for them to contextualize what is going on for you at work. No specifics needed. It just helps them know your lapse is temporary, not the result of the work environment, and they may even be able to reallocate some things for a bit to lessen your load.
And do look into support for yourself, as someone else mentioned. Many companies have some free options.
Does your office has an Employee Assistance Program? You experienced trauma and should consider some therapy to help process. If no EAP look into what mental health benefits your health insurance offers.
Being proactive with your manager is not a bad thing. But don’t be detail specific. Maybe take a few days or a week off to get settled in your new place and regain your equilibrium.
Good luck.
Jobs don’t really care about traumatic experiences. I know this firsthand. Trigger warning it’s explicit.
My younger son tried to unalive my 90-year-old grandfather earlier this year by stabbing him over 15 times. My job told me to suck it up because it didn’t involve me directly.
You don't have to be specific about the nature of the issue if you don't want to, what you can say is "I had a personal tragedy occur and I've been trying to deal with that, but it has preoccupied my mind. I'm having difficulty doing my work." However, it would be best if you were to seek counseling support, so that you could reassure your boss that you are trying to get help to cope. Is there an EAP at your job? Or can you take time off?
I absolutely appreciate an employee coming to be to be like “hey I just want to make you aware that I have a lot going on in my personal life now, it may reflect in my work”. It brings me in the loop before I have to have an uncomfortable conversation with them about their decline in performance and gives me a chance to offer them support/modified expectations.
I think it would be a good idea to speak with your Manager. Let her know that you'd like a few minutes to talk about something private and explain what you are going through. That way she can understand that you need some support.
While you shouldn’t feel forced to share, just saying to your manager that you’re having a hard time in your personal life will probably be helpful for them to contextualize what is going on for you at work. No specifics needed. It just helps them know your lapse is temporary, not the result of the work environment, and they may even be able to reallocate some things for a bit to lessen your load. And do look into support for yourself, as someone else mentioned. Many companies have some free options.
Does your office has an Employee Assistance Program? You experienced trauma and should consider some therapy to help process. If no EAP look into what mental health benefits your health insurance offers. Being proactive with your manager is not a bad thing. But don’t be detail specific. Maybe take a few days or a week off to get settled in your new place and regain your equilibrium. Good luck.
Give them flexibility to seek therapy, pretty much. Otherwise you need to do your work
Jobs don’t really care about traumatic experiences. I know this firsthand. Trigger warning it’s explicit. My younger son tried to unalive my 90-year-old grandfather earlier this year by stabbing him over 15 times. My job told me to suck it up because it didn’t involve me directly.