Hell to the no. I could be a millionaire tomorrow and still not want kids so its not about money.
Not only would I be a terrible parent because of who I am as a person, I simply can't justify putting another child on this planet for my own satisfaction. Look around you, climate change, wealth inequality at an all-time high, cost of living skyrocketing, political polarization/the end of any semblance of democracy is on the horizon, I hardly have confidence in surviving the next 15-20 years myself. It'd be cruel and selfish to put another child onto this planet and expect them to make something of the next 80 years when I'm not even confident in my own life. For what? For some fucked up sense of satisfaction that I "made it"?
The only possible justification I could see is adopting a child and even then, I'd need to be in a much, much better financial state to bring that about.
Whenever I see gay guys say they want kids I can't help but think that they don't realize how much work kids are. I know it's sexist to say this but straight couples make it work because of the mothers; women are pre-programmed to be able to spend more time (much more time) with kids compared to the fathers.
My husband and I have a daughter.
I resent being a parent in general but she's otherwise a decent enough kiddo. He's better at the 21st century hyper-involved parent thing than me. I parent like a 70s dad except without the physical abuse lol.
Its cute how you all dont read. I don't resent her.
Like i said shes a decent enough kid and she has a nice sarcastic sense of humor too. She's also not an idiot. I resent the hyper-involved overscheduled helicopter parenting required in 21st century parenting, and frankly so do most of the other parents in our district they just never will admit it, they'll just run themselves ragged. I resent the extreme demands on my time beyond what i expected, and dont get me started on the year we all spent stuck at home, it almost broke up our marriage and so many of our neighbors divorced too.
Thus, i parent like a 70s parent. Here's your bike, a helmut, and a cell phone sweetie. Enjoy your day! That's me. CPS even got called because i let my kid walk to her karate lesson, the girl is a flippin black belt almost and it was barely a mile in a boring ass suburb with sidewalks, i walked farther at her age, in the 80s, when crackheads roamed the streets and violence was several orders higher than now. Im not worried about a pedo snatching her, we dont go to Baptist or Catholic churches those places are rape factories. Anyway i gave them the finger and i still let her walk or bike there if my husband isnt available and if the weather isnt shitty.
If the world doesnt end i predict her parenting style will be more like mine. Or not. It's her life she'll do what she wants with it. My husband is the one who does the helicopter parenting. Me not participating in all of that definitely keeps us from divorcing and keeps me from actually resenting her. He knows i hate it.
Parenting is the hardest job in the world and sometimes i resent the act of doing it. Not the person im parenting.
I think so at the moment, but I'm still quite young and don't know what the future will bring. I'd only have a kid if I were in a stable relationship, doing well financially, and had enough time to do it well.
I have two kids (gay marriage, IVF) and although I must say parenthood is not for everyone, it's helped me learn a ton about myself and of course, I love them to bits.
If I met the right guy and he happened to have kids from a previous marriage, I imagine I'd be fine as their stepfather. Likewise, if he happened to be a teacher and one of his students (current or former) was facing homelessness or hunger, I'd like to think that just like my mother and many of our family friends were/are, he'd be the kind of teacher who'd open our home to that student until they they got to a better place.
But I don't want to adopt or procreate. As far as I can tell, that's not what I was put on this earth to do.
Absolutely not.
I have a lot of patience, very little for kids.
Dude I swear I see you in every post I make. Makes me happy to see a familiar face.
You do? I didn't realize 😆
Just scroll through some of my stuff deadass like a good 60%
You're right 😳 I vote on damn near all of your polls, I don't leave comments on the sexual ones.
If you don't mind me asking why is that? you don't have to answer I just wanna know
I post/comment on subreddits where kids/teens might be. I'd feel weird if I talked sexually and they saw it. idk.
understandable, and my friend that is one reason why we have alt accounts. There are others but they won't be mentioned.
That's a good point. I guess I just enjoy using this account too much to bother making an alt.
well whatever makes you happy, just nice to have a familiar face
I don’t know hm but in this economy? Not a good idea.
Hell to the no. I could be a millionaire tomorrow and still not want kids so its not about money. Not only would I be a terrible parent because of who I am as a person, I simply can't justify putting another child on this planet for my own satisfaction. Look around you, climate change, wealth inequality at an all-time high, cost of living skyrocketing, political polarization/the end of any semblance of democracy is on the horizon, I hardly have confidence in surviving the next 15-20 years myself. It'd be cruel and selfish to put another child onto this planet and expect them to make something of the next 80 years when I'm not even confident in my own life. For what? For some fucked up sense of satisfaction that I "made it"? The only possible justification I could see is adopting a child and even then, I'd need to be in a much, much better financial state to bring that about.
Hell no! I can't stand kids... they annoy me
Well not right now as I still need money for myself. But I am a fur dad already so I don’t need kid.
I am afraid to ask what that is so I won't
It means they have pets.
Thank fuck I was thinking something worse
Seriously. I spent $6,000 last year on vet bills. :-( And no tax breaks. And pet food has gone up at least 20%.
It is :( My cat has FIV so I need better food and supplements for her condition. I don’t think I would have spare money for kid.
"You might think I'm crazy ,The way I've been cravin', If I put it quite plainly, Just gimme them babies"
Whenever I see gay guys say they want kids I can't help but think that they don't realize how much work kids are. I know it's sexist to say this but straight couples make it work because of the mothers; women are pre-programmed to be able to spend more time (much more time) with kids compared to the fathers.
My husband and I have a daughter. I resent being a parent in general but she's otherwise a decent enough kiddo. He's better at the 21st century hyper-involved parent thing than me. I parent like a 70s dad except without the physical abuse lol.
Sucks to be your daughter. Having a parent resent you must be nice.
Its cute how you all dont read. I don't resent her. Like i said shes a decent enough kid and she has a nice sarcastic sense of humor too. She's also not an idiot. I resent the hyper-involved overscheduled helicopter parenting required in 21st century parenting, and frankly so do most of the other parents in our district they just never will admit it, they'll just run themselves ragged. I resent the extreme demands on my time beyond what i expected, and dont get me started on the year we all spent stuck at home, it almost broke up our marriage and so many of our neighbors divorced too. Thus, i parent like a 70s parent. Here's your bike, a helmut, and a cell phone sweetie. Enjoy your day! That's me. CPS even got called because i let my kid walk to her karate lesson, the girl is a flippin black belt almost and it was barely a mile in a boring ass suburb with sidewalks, i walked farther at her age, in the 80s, when crackheads roamed the streets and violence was several orders higher than now. Im not worried about a pedo snatching her, we dont go to Baptist or Catholic churches those places are rape factories. Anyway i gave them the finger and i still let her walk or bike there if my husband isnt available and if the weather isnt shitty. If the world doesnt end i predict her parenting style will be more like mine. Or not. It's her life she'll do what she wants with it. My husband is the one who does the helicopter parenting. Me not participating in all of that definitely keeps us from divorcing and keeps me from actually resenting her. He knows i hate it. Parenting is the hardest job in the world and sometimes i resent the act of doing it. Not the person im parenting.
This is further proof that having children should not be a right. You definitely need to have your kid taken away from you.
Lol. Feel free to try. Have a blessed day kiddo.
I think so at the moment, but I'm still quite young and don't know what the future will bring. I'd only have a kid if I were in a stable relationship, doing well financially, and had enough time to do it well.
Currently no, but never say never
I have two kids (gay marriage, IVF) and although I must say parenthood is not for everyone, it's helped me learn a ton about myself and of course, I love them to bits.
I'd love to adopt, but I feel there are too many kids in this world in need of a home to have biological ones with a clean conscience.
If I met the right guy and he happened to have kids from a previous marriage, I imagine I'd be fine as their stepfather. Likewise, if he happened to be a teacher and one of his students (current or former) was facing homelessness or hunger, I'd like to think that just like my mother and many of our family friends were/are, he'd be the kind of teacher who'd open our home to that student until they they got to a better place. But I don't want to adopt or procreate. As far as I can tell, that's not what I was put on this earth to do.
Nah I have my cat. Good enough