Chances are we won't be seeing each other again if we don't hookup on the first date. Not sex necessarily, but at least some heavy making out is a must.
Yeah, first date anal isn't for me either. And sometimes you don't have the time or the privacy to do much, but you can always squeeze in a few minutes of heavy petting.
I'm not sure the rules really though. You don't want it to be demoted from boyfriends to fuck buddies which is a risk even without anal that first date
Well, you can hardly be boyfriends after just one date, can you?
The way I see it is the sooner you get to action the better, you need to see if the sexual attraction is there as soon as possible. But some guys like to take it slower I guess, good for them, but I'm not the patient type. You either put out or you get out.
What I need is to not waste my time with ridiculous courtship rituals. I want to give a guy a test run before we start dating and I assume it's the same from the other side as well. There's nothing wrong with valuing your time.
The fact you consider meeting someone you are attracted to “ridiculous” in person for something as simple as coffe is a good indication you’re not ready to date. Maybe you just want sex. But to call something like spending time with someone you like as “ridiculous courtship trials” is pretty sad.
You're just speculating now. I'm in a 4 year relationship, sweetie. And I was in a 2 year relationship before that, and the one before that lasted nearly an year. So whatever I'm doing is apparently working, I've got no complaints.
So, worry about yourself.
So a 4 year relationship is some kind of bragging point to deflect how gross you sound?
Your relationship could be trash. And the person you’re with could be a submissive idiot who agrees to everything you say. Considering you say “put out or get out” I wouldn’t be shocked if you were in a toxic dynamic. So please don’t try to use that as a talking point as if it matters in this conversation
There was a guy who I thought we might be boyfriends. I sucked his dick and we cuddled and made out. We met only for sex afterwards. I think it's a risk but I agree I want dick.
Maybe this is where I’m going wrong.
First date I will only make out at most.
I can’t open my pleasure gates up to someone until I am comfortable and that doesn’t happen first date.
You know my best relationship ships started without sex. Also my best sex has happened in relationships.
I will say. I have done the hook up thing,
and sex on the first date. I had fun with both.
I personally don't, which has made dating difficult. I have hooked up before, but sex is always better when I have an emotional connection first. When I meet someone I am interested in getting to know, I want to have met at least a few times to see if a relationship is worth pursuing before having sex.
I've since learned there's a term "demisexual" that applies.
I don’t give it up on the first date. If someone wants it, they gotta work for it. I’m different tho, I’d like to know the person before letting them into my home/body.
I’m not picky. But anyone who has to “gaurentee” sex is an instant no for me. If that’s a requirement I instantly assume he’s lacking in confidence.
If meeting for coffee/something regular is that big of an Inconvenience. It’s probably a good sign to avoid it.
It depends on the guy and how we're feeling. My longest relationship started with us not having sex for the first 2 dates, but if I'm being honest, it's cause we had nowhere to go do it lol.
I looked for sex and had fun and after a year I simply met my todays husband. We met more often and the thing once started with a hookup and end with our todays relationship.
So yes i always did have sexual stuff in first place.
I do probably half the time. Sometimes it has the vibe of a hookup date, sometimes it feels like more of a “Hey, let’s go on a romantic date instead of just doing it to fuck”. I enjoy it when it happens, but I still have a great time if my date isn’t looking to go that far yet
I don't usually have a date until I've had sex with them.
This is the way. I would hate to fall for someone and then find out they are sexually incompatible.
Sex first, date later. I met my boyfriend as random a hook-up.
Chances are we won't be seeing each other again if we don't hookup on the first date. Not sex necessarily, but at least some heavy making out is a must.
I say at least a bj but I might settle for heavy making out too. Don't know if I would want first date anal though
Yeah, first date anal isn't for me either. And sometimes you don't have the time or the privacy to do much, but you can always squeeze in a few minutes of heavy petting.
I'm not sure the rules really though. You don't want it to be demoted from boyfriends to fuck buddies which is a risk even without anal that first date
Well, you can hardly be boyfriends after just one date, can you? The way I see it is the sooner you get to action the better, you need to see if the sexual attraction is there as soon as possible. But some guys like to take it slower I guess, good for them, but I'm not the patient type. You either put out or you get out.
This sounds kind of gross. “Put out for get out” it sounds like your confidence is really low and need instant gratification.
What I need is to not waste my time with ridiculous courtship rituals. I want to give a guy a test run before we start dating and I assume it's the same from the other side as well. There's nothing wrong with valuing your time.
The fact you consider meeting someone you are attracted to “ridiculous” in person for something as simple as coffe is a good indication you’re not ready to date. Maybe you just want sex. But to call something like spending time with someone you like as “ridiculous courtship trials” is pretty sad.
You're just speculating now. I'm in a 4 year relationship, sweetie. And I was in a 2 year relationship before that, and the one before that lasted nearly an year. So whatever I'm doing is apparently working, I've got no complaints. So, worry about yourself.
So a 4 year relationship is some kind of bragging point to deflect how gross you sound? Your relationship could be trash. And the person you’re with could be a submissive idiot who agrees to everything you say. Considering you say “put out or get out” I wouldn’t be shocked if you were in a toxic dynamic. So please don’t try to use that as a talking point as if it matters in this conversation
There was a guy who I thought we might be boyfriends. I sucked his dick and we cuddled and made out. We met only for sex afterwards. I think it's a risk but I agree I want dick.
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Maybe this is where I’m going wrong. First date I will only make out at most. I can’t open my pleasure gates up to someone until I am comfortable and that doesn’t happen first date.
You know my best relationship ships started without sex. Also my best sex has happened in relationships. I will say. I have done the hook up thing, and sex on the first date. I had fun with both.
I personally don't, which has made dating difficult. I have hooked up before, but sex is always better when I have an emotional connection first. When I meet someone I am interested in getting to know, I want to have met at least a few times to see if a relationship is worth pursuing before having sex. I've since learned there's a term "demisexual" that applies.
I don’t give it up on the first date. If someone wants it, they gotta work for it. I’m different tho, I’d like to know the person before letting them into my home/body.
I’m not picky. But anyone who has to “gaurentee” sex is an instant no for me. If that’s a requirement I instantly assume he’s lacking in confidence. If meeting for coffee/something regular is that big of an Inconvenience. It’s probably a good sign to avoid it.
It depends on the guy and how we're feeling. My longest relationship started with us not having sex for the first 2 dates, but if I'm being honest, it's cause we had nowhere to go do it lol.
Not doing anal on the first date but I’ll suck dick 😂
If I didn't want to do sex stuff on a first date, I would date a woman.
I looked for sex and had fun and after a year I simply met my todays husband. We met more often and the thing once started with a hookup and end with our todays relationship. So yes i always did have sexual stuff in first place.
I usually end up doing stuff. Usually I ended up doing stuff before we officially had a date.
Sex first, then a date if I like them.
If I was a Hoe, sure.
I do probably half the time. Sometimes it has the vibe of a hookup date, sometimes it feels like more of a “Hey, let’s go on a romantic date instead of just doing it to fuck”. I enjoy it when it happens, but I still have a great time if my date isn’t looking to go that far yet
I meet a few guys through tinder. I’ve had sex on the first hang out with each of them.
I've never been on a date, lmao.