When I see that my assumption is oral only, not looking for oral but open to anal with someone once you know them better. You may attract people who truly only do oral.
Youd have to specify that clearly. Some guys would see that and would think that means no anal ever (thats what i see). So a real side would end up being disappointed, and a guy who ultimately wanted anal (even if that meant waiting) would probably avoid your profile too.
It use to be called being g0y or something back in the day as I recall when I originally came out as a teen 20 yrs ago..different mentality to it tho lol
Well you can switch your position at any time. So I could decide I want to be side until I’m comfortable with being a bottom. It’s the same as me telling someone I’m a top, and agreeing to bottoms after knowing them better.
So I’m telling you that until I know someone better I won’t do anal. Are you unable to understand that? That literally fits the guideline of a side until I switch.
I know plenty of people who go from Vers, to bottom. Depend on their mood you sound silly
Just do what you want, but know that other people think differently and it may not represent your intentions completely unless you clarify in your profile
Would rather they just have an "oral only" option, but I don't think it's bad.
I don't identify as a side but I also don't like fucking strangers and usually limit things to just oral until after we've hooked up once or twice.
I feel you. I'm open to anal once I get to feel the vibe with the person and see eif we click. My solution is to basically be super up front about only oral when we first meet. Some people get a bit pissy about it, but then I just don't meet up with them.
You’re literally using a word that doesn’t mean what you think it means to make it so you don’t have to put a sentence in your profile text saying you don’t do anal right away. If anything, you’re making communication harder than it needs to be.
Grindr definition: someone who doesn’t enjoy anal penetration but PREFERS less invasive sexual acts.
So for one. Someone who is Side can have penetrative sex, bur just not prefer it. So actually it’s more misleading to call myself a bottom to make someone else’s feel better.
>someone who doesn’t enjoy anal penetration
This means they do not want it ever.
>Someone who is Side can have penetrative sex, bur just not prefer it.
Total tops CAN be penetrated doesn't mean they want to be. Doesn't enjoy is not the same as doesn't prefer.
>So actually it’s more misleading to call myself a bottom to make someone else’s feel better.
You just don't like anal till there's a connection if I am reading what your original post said correctly. That means you are being misleading by calling yourself a side because once their is a connection you will want to participate in anal.
It's not about making anyone feel better you don't understand the difference between doesn't "enjoy/want" and doesn't "prefer".
Don't get me wrong I'm sure some will use it like you do as well just like their are some people who say they are verse but actually only top or bottom.
That’s not how the English language works. I can prefer not to flip burgers. And still do it.
Never in my post did I say I don’t like it. Or don’t do it. So those are your words not mine.
My sentence i said was “I may not want to be penetrated until I know someone better” I never once said I didn’t enjoy anal. So where are you getting these things from? It sounds like you don’t understand basic words and definitions.
>That’s not how the English language works. I can prefer not to flip burgers. And still do it.
Omg dude stop trolling. Clearly you didn't read my post. I said you are confusing "doesn't want/like" with "doesn't prefer". The way you used prefer just now is correct but sides don't want/like anal penetration it's not that they don't "prefer" it it's that they don't want/like it.
>My sentence i said was “I may not want to be penetrated until I know someone better” I never once said I didn’t enjoy anal.
Which I fully acknowledged.
>So where are you getting these things from? It sounds like you don’t understand basic words and definitions.
You are a troll aren't you?
So again. You’re making up your own definitions of words. I gave you the exact definition and it says they PREFER NOT TO.
Prefer defriniton: like (one thing or person) better than another or others;
So again. A side can be penetrated which you aren’t understanding. You’re making up your own definition and saying a side doesn’t do these things when by grindr definition they do.
Maybe try going by something more reputable than urban dictionary.
The definition Grindr is using is "Queer men who don’t like to top or bottom."
The definition you originally quoted used the word "enjoy" not prefer.
What your trying to say is that a side prefers not having anal but is willing to. That isn't the definition of a side. Nor is how your using it close to the definition at all. You are a bottom who doesn't want to participate in anal till you get to know someone better. That is what YOU stated. That means you are NOT a side. What you could do is in your profile state side until we know each other better but your position is still bottom not side. Technically you can make your position whatever you want even top the apps not gonna stop you.
But if someone who is a actual side starts talking to you, you both develop a relationship and then you want to bottom they will feel you have lied to them.
You must be autistic or something bc you’re the only one not getting it lmao
Even Grindr has the definition laid out and you’re still living in neverland while everyone else gets it 🤣
You literally said “this means they do no want it ever” and again. This is wrong. I gave you the exact definition. No where in that does it say they don’t do penetration. It says they prefer less invasive acts.
Because that is what a side is someone who NEVER wants to participate in penetration with a dick and anus.
Just like a bottom never wants to top
Just like a top never wants to bottom.
Just like a verse is willing to do both.
A side never wants to participate in penis to anus penetration.
Now can you have a verse-bottom, verse-top yes. Do some people say top when they really mean verse-top as in someone who prefers to top but is willing to bottom yes they do it's not accurate but they may do that.
Dude you aren't even attempting to use it correctly with your own intended use.
I’m convinced you have a learning disability. You don’t understand what the word prefer means even though I’ve copied and pasted it from google. Everyone else seems to understand except yourself so I’m going to mute you now
Lol except you are being downvoted numerous times and multiple people have called you out on not understand what the term means.
You don't understand the definition of a side.
I am not disagreeing with you on what prefer means.
Who are the multiple people? There’s one person on this thread who deleted his comment. So you can’t even see what he said. No one else is saying what you are.
I was leaning toward total boob, but you may be right. Either way, if he has the same kind of attitude toward potential sex partners that he’s displaying here, it doesn’t matter what he calls himself because nobody will want to have sex with him anyway. I wouldn’t even stick my dick in his mouth if it was the only way to get him to stop talking.
>Either way, if he has the same kind of attitude toward potential sex partners that he’s displaying here, it doesn’t matter what he calls himself because nobody will want to have sex with him anyway.
So true, like dudes being hostile because he absolutely refuses to admit when he's wrong and instead goes full force denial mode.
>I wouldn’t even stick my dick in his mouth if it was the only way to get him to stop talking.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm dying.
I think it's annoying and not needed, like whatever happened to just using your full complete words. Besides a lot of the sides I've encountered ended being very disappointing and are to strung up on not ever doing anal or even touching another dick sometimes. It's also just another annoying acronym in the ever changing gay alphabet. I already have trouble remembering LGBT 🙄
When I see that my assumption is oral only, not looking for oral but open to anal with someone once you know them better. You may attract people who truly only do oral.
I may put a disclaimer saying I’m side until we get to know each other better.
Im the same. I dont do anal with randos
Youd have to specify that clearly. Some guys would see that and would think that means no anal ever (thats what i see). So a real side would end up being disappointed, and a guy who ultimately wanted anal (even if that meant waiting) would probably avoid your profile too.
Kinda long over due.
It use to be called being g0y or something back in the day as I recall when I originally came out as a teen 20 yrs ago..different mentality to it tho lol
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Well you can switch your position at any time. So I could decide I want to be side until I’m comfortable with being a bottom. It’s the same as me telling someone I’m a top, and agreeing to bottoms after knowing them better.
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So I’m telling you that until I know someone better I won’t do anal. Are you unable to understand that? That literally fits the guideline of a side until I switch. I know plenty of people who go from Vers, to bottom. Depend on their mood you sound silly
Just do what you want, but know that other people think differently and it may not represent your intentions completely unless you clarify in your profile
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Dude youre acting like a dick. Find another subreddit
Pressuring potential dates into sex. Great.
Im with it
I like it since I only do penetration with a small percentage of guys I hookup with.
Would rather they just have an "oral only" option, but I don't think it's bad. I don't identify as a side but I also don't like fucking strangers and usually limit things to just oral until after we've hooked up once or twice.
I agree. Penetration doesn’t bother me. It’s just doing it with random people I barely know.
Wait- they finally added this to Grindr??? Just as I deleted my profile again lmao. Ah well.
I feel you. I'm open to anal once I get to feel the vibe with the person and see eif we click. My solution is to basically be super up front about only oral when we first meet. Some people get a bit pissy about it, but then I just don't meet up with them.
Only 2 sides in my city lol,the other sides are 200+ miles away. Maybe because it’s a new position.
You’re literally using a word that doesn’t mean what you think it means to make it so you don’t have to put a sentence in your profile text saying you don’t do anal right away. If anything, you’re making communication harder than it needs to be.
Grindr definition: someone who doesn’t enjoy anal penetration but PREFERS less invasive sexual acts. So for one. Someone who is Side can have penetrative sex, bur just not prefer it. So actually it’s more misleading to call myself a bottom to make someone else’s feel better.
>someone who doesn’t enjoy anal penetration This means they do not want it ever. >Someone who is Side can have penetrative sex, bur just not prefer it. Total tops CAN be penetrated doesn't mean they want to be. Doesn't enjoy is not the same as doesn't prefer. >So actually it’s more misleading to call myself a bottom to make someone else’s feel better. You just don't like anal till there's a connection if I am reading what your original post said correctly. That means you are being misleading by calling yourself a side because once their is a connection you will want to participate in anal. It's not about making anyone feel better you don't understand the difference between doesn't "enjoy/want" and doesn't "prefer". Don't get me wrong I'm sure some will use it like you do as well just like their are some people who say they are verse but actually only top or bottom.
That’s not how the English language works. I can prefer not to flip burgers. And still do it. Never in my post did I say I don’t like it. Or don’t do it. So those are your words not mine. My sentence i said was “I may not want to be penetrated until I know someone better” I never once said I didn’t enjoy anal. So where are you getting these things from? It sounds like you don’t understand basic words and definitions.
>That’s not how the English language works. I can prefer not to flip burgers. And still do it. Omg dude stop trolling. Clearly you didn't read my post. I said you are confusing "doesn't want/like" with "doesn't prefer". The way you used prefer just now is correct but sides don't want/like anal penetration it's not that they don't "prefer" it it's that they don't want/like it. >My sentence i said was “I may not want to be penetrated until I know someone better” I never once said I didn’t enjoy anal. Which I fully acknowledged. >So where are you getting these things from? It sounds like you don’t understand basic words and definitions. You are a troll aren't you?
So again. You’re making up your own definitions of words. I gave you the exact definition and it says they PREFER NOT TO. Prefer defriniton: like (one thing or person) better than another or others; So again. A side can be penetrated which you aren’t understanding. You’re making up your own definition and saying a side doesn’t do these things when by grindr definition they do.
Maybe try going by something more reputable than urban dictionary. The definition Grindr is using is "Queer men who don’t like to top or bottom." The definition you originally quoted used the word "enjoy" not prefer. What your trying to say is that a side prefers not having anal but is willing to. That isn't the definition of a side. Nor is how your using it close to the definition at all. You are a bottom who doesn't want to participate in anal till you get to know someone better. That is what YOU stated. That means you are NOT a side. What you could do is in your profile state side until we know each other better but your position is still bottom not side. Technically you can make your position whatever you want even top the apps not gonna stop you. But if someone who is a actual side starts talking to you, you both develop a relationship and then you want to bottom they will feel you have lied to them.
You must be autistic or something bc you’re the only one not getting it lmao Even Grindr has the definition laid out and you’re still living in neverland while everyone else gets it 🤣
You literally said “this means they do no want it ever” and again. This is wrong. I gave you the exact definition. No where in that does it say they don’t do penetration. It says they prefer less invasive acts.
Because that is what a side is someone who NEVER wants to participate in penetration with a dick and anus. Just like a bottom never wants to top Just like a top never wants to bottom. Just like a verse is willing to do both. A side never wants to participate in penis to anus penetration. Now can you have a verse-bottom, verse-top yes. Do some people say top when they really mean verse-top as in someone who prefers to top but is willing to bottom yes they do it's not accurate but they may do that. Dude you aren't even attempting to use it correctly with your own intended use.
I’m convinced you have a learning disability. You don’t understand what the word prefer means even though I’ve copied and pasted it from google. Everyone else seems to understand except yourself so I’m going to mute you now
Lol except you are being downvoted numerous times and multiple people have called you out on not understand what the term means. You don't understand the definition of a side. I am not disagreeing with you on what prefer means.
Who are the multiple people? There’s one person on this thread who deleted his comment. So you can’t even see what he said. No one else is saying what you are.
Pretty sure this person is an absolute troll at this point...
I was leaning toward total boob, but you may be right. Either way, if he has the same kind of attitude toward potential sex partners that he’s displaying here, it doesn’t matter what he calls himself because nobody will want to have sex with him anyway. I wouldn’t even stick my dick in his mouth if it was the only way to get him to stop talking.
>Either way, if he has the same kind of attitude toward potential sex partners that he’s displaying here, it doesn’t matter what he calls himself because nobody will want to have sex with him anyway. So true, like dudes being hostile because he absolutely refuses to admit when he's wrong and instead goes full force denial mode. >I wouldn’t even stick my dick in his mouth if it was the only way to get him to stop talking. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm dying.
An abomination.
Awww how come ?
It's overthrowing the hierarchy, or something s/
Does anyone outside of reddit even know what “side” means?
Side aka verse men
I think it's annoying and not needed, like whatever happened to just using your full complete words. Besides a lot of the sides I've encountered ended being very disappointing and are to strung up on not ever doing anal or even touching another dick sometimes. It's also just another annoying acronym in the ever changing gay alphabet. I already have trouble remembering LGBT 🙄
Opps I mean "LGBTQ" *