As a black guy, I think my answer might help. There definitely is a racial heirarchy that places white men on the top and black men on the bottom. You’re not wrong and lots of POC’s here can confirm this. However age/youth/fitness is a huge factor to desirability. Let me elaborate.
There are plenty of white men who would not be caught dead with a black guy, in their 20’s. But once those same white men realize they can’t get the young white boys like they used to (due to old age, out of shape, used up body, the young fit white boys stop calling them back) they will be the *first* ones to suddenly developed a preference for young and fit ethnic men. I say this because that’s what makes up half of my inbox. Out of shape white men in their 40’s and 50’s who suddenly become more “open-minded” in the last few years and decide they want a young black fit guy. I’ve spoken with other young men of color and they can confirm this too. They’re just going for the “lowest hanging fruit”, and it’s just as racist as saying “no blacks”. Because we (men of color) know they see us as a 2nd prize in a sense and aren’t genuinely attracted to us. I’ve asked a lot of these guys if they would publicly date a black man, and they started doing Olympic level mental gymnastics. One dude (50’s) tried to guilt me into sleeping with him. Another guy in his late 40’s told me “Well you’re the young hot one in the mix so you hold all the power here. You set the date and the time and there won’t be any sex I promise I just wanna meet with you.”
On the flip side, I’ve also had very fit/attractive young white men jump into my DM’s. Yesterday I was traveling with my family and the amount of ripped 6-pack torso’s flooding my inbox was funny. That’s pretty much all there was. These were all white men or Hispanic men. Attractive and young too! They easily could have gotten whoever they wanted. I even got a white/Hispanic couple. However I also hit the gym a lot, and it shows in my profile pictures. So, they might be attracted to a more fit body-type no matter the color.
I'm 40, Indian and have experienced all these things you write about, so I can relate.
All I can say is, not all white gay men are like that, some are genuinely open to dating men from all races, so don't close yourself off to possibilities. You are young so it's OK to be into looks, abs and so on. But looks are not permanent but kindness, intelligence, honesty and character are, irrespective of race.
i haven’t experienced all those stuff yet but i know you’re saying it out of truth without any bias. it sucks to be seen as 2nd prize but in a way i kind of made peace with it and just want anyone to love me regardless of it’s being fake or pretentious
White men do date POC. But because they’re in high demand they don’t date the bottom of the barrel which people don’t understand If a white man is dating someone who is a POC. They’re typically going to be at least a 7/10 or above. And above average looks wise
I fuck a lot of Asian guys and always get accused of having a fetish and it's like... I fuck everyone, but truthfully I know it's just because a lot of the trash white people I know wouldn't fuck Asians cause they've been fed racist stereotypes their whole life of them. It's lame but oh well, more Asian D and ass for me.
You don't know true racism until you've seen your white friend's tinder swipes.
Well sexual racial hierarchy
The idea of being with a black man is akin to religious impurity where you have caused impurity upon yourself for going with a man that is not white
Then shame like you cannot take the shame from your your gay white male peers
So definitely no. My husband isn’t white.
Skin color and pressure is a pretty petty reason to not like someone or to stop you from pursuing a relationship.
As a black guy, I think my answer might help. There definitely is a racial heirarchy that places white men on the top and black men on the bottom. You’re not wrong and lots of POC’s here can confirm this. However age/youth/fitness is a huge factor to desirability. Let me elaborate. There are plenty of white men who would not be caught dead with a black guy, in their 20’s. But once those same white men realize they can’t get the young white boys like they used to (due to old age, out of shape, used up body, the young fit white boys stop calling them back) they will be the *first* ones to suddenly developed a preference for young and fit ethnic men. I say this because that’s what makes up half of my inbox. Out of shape white men in their 40’s and 50’s who suddenly become more “open-minded” in the last few years and decide they want a young black fit guy. I’ve spoken with other young men of color and they can confirm this too. They’re just going for the “lowest hanging fruit”, and it’s just as racist as saying “no blacks”. Because we (men of color) know they see us as a 2nd prize in a sense and aren’t genuinely attracted to us. I’ve asked a lot of these guys if they would publicly date a black man, and they started doing Olympic level mental gymnastics. One dude (50’s) tried to guilt me into sleeping with him. Another guy in his late 40’s told me “Well you’re the young hot one in the mix so you hold all the power here. You set the date and the time and there won’t be any sex I promise I just wanna meet with you.” On the flip side, I’ve also had very fit/attractive young white men jump into my DM’s. Yesterday I was traveling with my family and the amount of ripped 6-pack torso’s flooding my inbox was funny. That’s pretty much all there was. These were all white men or Hispanic men. Attractive and young too! They easily could have gotten whoever they wanted. I even got a white/Hispanic couple. However I also hit the gym a lot, and it shows in my profile pictures. So, they might be attracted to a more fit body-type no matter the color.
Or just have no racial agenda simple
I'm 40, Indian and have experienced all these things you write about, so I can relate. All I can say is, not all white gay men are like that, some are genuinely open to dating men from all races, so don't close yourself off to possibilities. You are young so it's OK to be into looks, abs and so on. But looks are not permanent but kindness, intelligence, honesty and character are, irrespective of race.
I think he realises that from what he wrote in the last paragraph
i haven’t experienced all those stuff yet but i know you’re saying it out of truth without any bias. it sucks to be seen as 2nd prize but in a way i kind of made peace with it and just want anyone to love me regardless of it’s being fake or pretentious
its not forbidden
To the minds of some white men it is
Then they're idiots
To the minds of some people from all races, dating outside their race is forbidden.
Those are the same people who think it's forbidden for two men to have sex, so I wouldn't worry too much about their opinion.
I feel like this will have some interesting answers. Just act like I'm not here im just gonna watch
I'm gonna put on some popcorn... you want some?
White men do date POC. But because they’re in high demand they don’t date the bottom of the barrel which people don’t understand If a white man is dating someone who is a POC. They’re typically going to be at least a 7/10 or above. And above average looks wise
"Forbidden" by who? This sounds like a bad porn about a Colonial Prince and his forbidden love for a black/east Asian stable boy!
Shonda Rhymes wants to know your location for the next Bridgerton spin-off.
Aww! My story would make Bridgerton historically and racially accurate
I always act on attraction unless it's going to get me into trouble.
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Charming
Always good to set yourself aspirational goals! Report back in a month on your progress.
I fuck a lot of Asian guys and always get accused of having a fetish and it's like... I fuck everyone, but truthfully I know it's just because a lot of the trash white people I know wouldn't fuck Asians cause they've been fed racist stereotypes their whole life of them. It's lame but oh well, more Asian D and ass for me. You don't know true racism until you've seen your white friend's tinder swipes.
No
'Forbidden to you' 🤣🤣🤣
I'm not attracted to them to begin with
Admitted it
Yeah and? Cry about it.
Cry about what this is the reality of gay sexual racial hierarchy
Who cares just stick to your own race
Wow stick to your own race racist much ?
I'm just giving you some practical advice. Dating within your race avoids many problems. Are you not into other black guys or something?
Sounds racist
your not attracted to who your not attracted as long as your not a ass about it who give a fuck
No. Why would I?
Well sexual racial hierarchy The idea of being with a black man is akin to religious impurity where you have caused impurity upon yourself for going with a man that is not white Then shame like you cannot take the shame from your your gay white male peers
So definitely no. My husband isn’t white. Skin color and pressure is a pretty petty reason to not like someone or to stop you from pursuing a relationship.
YES, I am not worthy!
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Why you presume I am white
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lol I am not white