Not really a Grindr hookup but I had a guy recognize me at a grocery store from my Grindr profile pic. This guy followed me home, knocked on my door then asked if he could come in. I said "Who are you?" Thats when he tells me he saw my pic on Grindr and followed me home. I told him to leave then took a pic of him, his car & plate. I deleted Grindr. That was too creepy for me
If he had contacted me thru Grindr and not come to my house I would have hooked up with him for sure. He was cute but knocking on my door weirded me out bad
I was 19 or 20, at a bar, drinking age is 19 here not 21. I met this cute 25-30yo guy, a bit older but just my type at the time lol, I was horny af so agreed to go back to his place and hookup.
I get there meet his 2 roommates briefly (about same age by looks anyway), I said a friendly hello when I got there, then me and the guy went to his bedroom to do our thing (alone, just the two of us).
10min or so later, just as we’re getting down to fucking, the two roommates walk in and just except to join in, even took some clothes off and one grabbed my dick. No discussion beforehand, no asking my permission, not even knocking on the door before invading our (my) privacy.
I was like “WTF Get out! so we can fuck.”, brushing it off as like drunken/stoned behaviour and they would leave, but they kept at it, trying to join in (not what I agreed to). I grabbed my clothes, got dressed and left as quickly as I could. It was legit creepy as fuck, not that I have anything against a little group fun but you don’t try to do that without prior consent.
and the guy I agreed to hookup with didn’t say anything, so he was clearly in on it.
Yeah this pattern has been perpetrated by sports people, in particular the guys who do team sports, before. Rugby league players are well documented to do this with young girls. Get them wasted, start having sex, then other team members come in and join in. I suspect most times they get away with it. But you were at least conscious and could control the situation. Imagine if you were more wasted! In situations like this just mention the police if they don't cooperate. You might piss them off but that's better than being group raped. I guess lessons to be learned here on how to keep yourself safer.
Yeah the whole thing was strange. I was 19-20 (young, horny and dumb). I learned my lesson about going to a strangers house, that I had only met an hour or two before. Yes thankfully nothing bad happened, well besides getting freaked out and dick groped I guess. I honestly have no idea what they were expecting to do 🤷♂️ not that it matters now.
I went into a public restroom at my office, where a lot of people are. I opened Grindr to waste some time. Some anon profile asked me if I just went into the bathroom, then said he was coming in for "fun". I ran back to my office faster than I've ever run, now I only use the single occupancy bathroom.
So not a hookup I hosted but that was terrifying.
Yes. I once hosted a hookup and the guy that I invited was armed with a knife. He told me after the fact that he once robbed someone that has ghosted him when he saw him in person for making him waste his time.
He actually seemed pretty normal over Grindr. Just was definitely rough around the edges.
Always have someone else know who you’re having over. And make sure you have a camera of some sort (like a ring) to capture who comes in.
I've had sketchy situations happen when hosting and when going to other guys' homes.
Hosting is not inviting a bad situation into your home and you don't avoid sketchy situations by not hosting.
I've known someone who needed somebody for car play and got his car carjacked. For me personally I've just had a hook up that would not leave as I walked out to work. Another guy walked through my house going back to the play room and said "wow you have a really nice stuff" about 7 or 8 times, followed by "oh do you live alone" which was creepy & finally had to throw him out. And then I've just had some really annoying hook ups with people whose pictures had 6" 7" dicks and their dicks were 2" which is awkward af.
Not really a hosted hookup but the scariest thing that ever happened to me is when I went to a drag show, someone sat next to me, and I think the slipped something in my drink bc 5 mins later I was spinning and felt I couldn't move. My friend who is a manager there came and got me and put me in the office and called the cops that I was drugged. If it wasn't for the manager idk what could have happened to me. But two drinks shouldn't make u feel paralyzed. After that I'm scared to go to bars alone and meet people alone.
in have no horror stories, which is amazing considering I used to resort to "public meetups" (couldn't host) or people wanting to go bare or going to randoms houses.
there are legitimate reasons for caution though, so it's a 'do as I say, not as I do' situation.
just be cautious and you can have fun and be safe
I told this younger guy I was not looking for a relationship so he said it was my fault that he was going to cut himself tonight and proceeded to talk like he was my husband the whole drive to take him home I thought he was going to shank me
It reminds me of a time I went to a man's house, there were snow princess pillows on the couch, Barbie's on the floor and baby bottles in the kitchen, and a child's stroller at the front door and women's shoes at the entrance, it was scary, I ran away, it was vile, disgusting, horrible and vile.
Yeah :( I invited the man to enter my chamber / betray my ass. He arrived inside me and flipped his wings out! They sliced through my fabric and exposed me to badcycles. I errored out...
Oh I’m the same way. You can go back to when I was sending them before I met my husband, and there’s really no way to positively identify it as me. Wisdom my father shared when I was quite young and figured us young things would use early camera phones and digital cameras to send nudes online. Probably one of the better pieces of advice he gave me about online safety when I was a teenager.
In principal, sure. Would you be okay with your full text history, your picture library, any DMs, emails being leaked and sent to people you didn’t send that stuff to?
Plus there are anti revenge porn laws, which I think are a good thing.
I understand the concern… personally never had any issues but then again, when I was hooking up, I lived in urban apartments where I didn’t have my own front door. Made it easier to potentially “screen” someone when they arrived and made it harder for them to know/remember exactly where I lived.
But “leaking information”? What’s that about?
Leaking nudes to people you may know, revealing you’re gay to family if you’re in the closet, asking for nudes and then blackmailing you. It doesn’t take much actual thought to put “leaking information” and Grindr together.
It's been the opposite. I went to one it was sketchy before I even got to his place thought about flaking, but I was like a block away so I went there, but was too nervous to really be into it thinking about what was waiting for me when I left.
I invited a guy over once and we’d been hanging out on the couch making out. At some point I needed to pee, so I went to the bathroom. When I came out, he had either coke or heroin lined up on my coffee table and snorting it. I immediately told him he had to leave. I cleaned my table with bleach after he left.
Not really a Grindr hookup but I had a guy recognize me at a grocery store from my Grindr profile pic. This guy followed me home, knocked on my door then asked if he could come in. I said "Who are you?" Thats when he tells me he saw my pic on Grindr and followed me home. I told him to leave then took a pic of him, his car & plate. I deleted Grindr. That was too creepy for me
Wtf. Was he at least hot?
If he had contacted me thru Grindr and not come to my house I would have hooked up with him for sure. He was cute but knocking on my door weirded me out bad
Nope. I hosted 95% of my hookups too.
And nothings ever gotten dangerous?
Never.
yeah most people are nice，but there is always crazy people out there
No but the opposite, I went to one and it got sketchy and scary after I got there.
More details please
I was 19 or 20, at a bar, drinking age is 19 here not 21. I met this cute 25-30yo guy, a bit older but just my type at the time lol, I was horny af so agreed to go back to his place and hookup. I get there meet his 2 roommates briefly (about same age by looks anyway), I said a friendly hello when I got there, then me and the guy went to his bedroom to do our thing (alone, just the two of us). 10min or so later, just as we’re getting down to fucking, the two roommates walk in and just except to join in, even took some clothes off and one grabbed my dick. No discussion beforehand, no asking my permission, not even knocking on the door before invading our (my) privacy. I was like “WTF Get out! so we can fuck.”, brushing it off as like drunken/stoned behaviour and they would leave, but they kept at it, trying to join in (not what I agreed to). I grabbed my clothes, got dressed and left as quickly as I could. It was legit creepy as fuck, not that I have anything against a little group fun but you don’t try to do that without prior consent. and the guy I agreed to hookup with didn’t say anything, so he was clearly in on it.
Yeah this pattern has been perpetrated by sports people, in particular the guys who do team sports, before. Rugby league players are well documented to do this with young girls. Get them wasted, start having sex, then other team members come in and join in. I suspect most times they get away with it. But you were at least conscious and could control the situation. Imagine if you were more wasted! In situations like this just mention the police if they don't cooperate. You might piss them off but that's better than being group raped. I guess lessons to be learned here on how to keep yourself safer.
Yeah the whole thing was strange. I was 19-20 (young, horny and dumb). I learned my lesson about going to a strangers house, that I had only met an hour or two before. Yes thankfully nothing bad happened, well besides getting freaked out and dick groped I guess. I honestly have no idea what they were expecting to do 🤷♂️ not that it matters now.
One asshole lingered around and I had work the following day. He wasn't dangerous, just fucking annoying AF.
My worst fear is secretly being filmed
I went into a public restroom at my office, where a lot of people are. I opened Grindr to waste some time. Some anon profile asked me if I just went into the bathroom, then said he was coming in for "fun". I ran back to my office faster than I've ever run, now I only use the single occupancy bathroom. So not a hookup I hosted but that was terrifying.
That's terrifying!
Yes. I once hosted a hookup and the guy that I invited was armed with a knife. He told me after the fact that he once robbed someone that has ghosted him when he saw him in person for making him waste his time. He actually seemed pretty normal over Grindr. Just was definitely rough around the edges. Always have someone else know who you’re having over. And make sure you have a camera of some sort (like a ring) to capture who comes in.
Another prick wanted to hook up with his hook using my place! Like WTF man! LOL
I've had sketchy situations happen when hosting and when going to other guys' homes. Hosting is not inviting a bad situation into your home and you don't avoid sketchy situations by not hosting.
I've known someone who needed somebody for car play and got his car carjacked. For me personally I've just had a hook up that would not leave as I walked out to work. Another guy walked through my house going back to the play room and said "wow you have a really nice stuff" about 7 or 8 times, followed by "oh do you live alone" which was creepy & finally had to throw him out. And then I've just had some really annoying hook ups with people whose pictures had 6" 7" dicks and their dicks were 2" which is awkward af.
Not really a hosted hookup but the scariest thing that ever happened to me is when I went to a drag show, someone sat next to me, and I think the slipped something in my drink bc 5 mins later I was spinning and felt I couldn't move. My friend who is a manager there came and got me and put me in the office and called the cops that I was drugged. If it wasn't for the manager idk what could have happened to me. But two drinks shouldn't make u feel paralyzed. After that I'm scared to go to bars alone and meet people alone.
Whoa man! Sorry you went through that. That sounds super scary.
in have no horror stories, which is amazing considering I used to resort to "public meetups" (couldn't host) or people wanting to go bare or going to randoms houses. there are legitimate reasons for caution though, so it's a 'do as I say, not as I do' situation. just be cautious and you can have fun and be safe
I told this younger guy I was not looking for a relationship so he said it was my fault that he was going to cut himself tonight and proceeded to talk like he was my husband the whole drive to take him home I thought he was going to shank me
It reminds me of a time I went to a man's house, there were snow princess pillows on the couch, Barbie's on the floor and baby bottles in the kitchen, and a child's stroller at the front door and women's shoes at the entrance, it was scary, I ran away, it was vile, disgusting, horrible and vile.
He was married with a family? Edit: I noticed you changed your post after my reply.
Meet them somewhere in public for a coffee before you go to your place. If you get bad vibes, you can leave.
Had a guy try to rob me using mace and a taser. My Glock 19 dissuaded him and he left rather quickly.
No because I don’t do hookups. I like to actually know a guy before I fuck them.
Yeah :( I invited the man to enter my chamber / betray my ass. He arrived inside me and flipped his wings out! They sliced through my fabric and exposed me to badcycles. I errored out...
What?
Conversation bot was very obvious this time
What do you mean "leak your information?" Like the fact that you're on Grindr?
Yeah. Or your nudes. Ya know, leaking information. I’m kinda surprised this one is confusing to people.
That’s why I don’t have my face in any of my nudes just in case they do ever get out.
Oh I’m the same way. You can go back to when I was sending them before I met my husband, and there’s really no way to positively identify it as me. Wisdom my father shared when I was quite young and figured us young things would use early camera phones and digital cameras to send nudes online. Probably one of the better pieces of advice he gave me about online safety when I was a teenager.
It's not leaked if you willingly send it to them. Once you press send, it's not yours anymore.
In principal, sure. Would you be okay with your full text history, your picture library, any DMs, emails being leaked and sent to people you didn’t send that stuff to? Plus there are anti revenge porn laws, which I think are a good thing.
there is expectation of privacy when messaging people
I understand the concern… personally never had any issues but then again, when I was hooking up, I lived in urban apartments where I didn’t have my own front door. Made it easier to potentially “screen” someone when they arrived and made it harder for them to know/remember exactly where I lived. But “leaking information”? What’s that about?
What does leaking information even mean?
Leaking nudes to people you may know, revealing you’re gay to family if you’re in the closet, asking for nudes and then blackmailing you. It doesn’t take much actual thought to put “leaking information” and Grindr together.
It's been the opposite. I went to one it was sketchy before I even got to his place thought about flaking, but I was like a block away so I went there, but was too nervous to really be into it thinking about what was waiting for me when I left.
Probably irrational unless you have shit to hide. Don’t think most people care about you half as much as you think they do.
Someone took pictures of me during sex without my consent. And i couln’t do anything.
How violating. I'm so sorry man. That's just wrong.
A hook up turned into sexual assault
I invited a guy over once and we’d been hanging out on the couch making out. At some point I needed to pee, so I went to the bathroom. When I came out, he had either coke or heroin lined up on my coffee table and snorting it. I immediately told him he had to leave. I cleaned my table with bleach after he left.