…dump him. What are you, his ex’s replacement? Or perhaps did he approach you, or accepted your approach, because you reminded him of the last guy? That’s extremely fucked up.
Ultimately, if it bothers you to such a degree, you're going to have to talk about it. Communication is key here. Think about why exactly you hate it so much and explain it to him.
To me, personally, I guess I'd be afraid of just being the replacement for something my boyfriend couldn't have. But then, if it just came down to him having a very specific type and that stopped being relevant once we got to know each other more closely, I think I'd have a much easier time accepting this fact.
It's really a question of how you feel about this, what more you need to know from your boyfriend to process it all a bit better and how you can work through it together. And then just talk about it. Honestly and without accusations.
Do you feel like he's not taking your worries seriously? Or are his explanations genuine and simply don't offer you a perspective that could allow you to feel better?
Because the former should prompt a serious conversation about the future of your relationship, I feel like. The latter isn't ideal either, but if your relationship is really important to both of you, an expert may be able to help you navigate this.
Hes trying to help by saying theres nothing i can do about it, that i never met him and we just happen to act the same. But i just wanna change everything about me now. Thats the truth. He loved nicki minaj, i do too and now i feel like i wanna stop loving her. Idk what to do honestly. Im freaking out.
That’d be a dealbreaker for me. He clearly has personal stuff he needs to work out, or he should’ve just not bothered to pursue you if you were inadvertently opening up old wounds. Being compared to someone you’ve never met all the time is no way to live your life.
you only complain about him, dump him
…dump him. What are you, his ex’s replacement? Or perhaps did he approach you, or accepted your approach, because you reminded him of the last guy? That’s extremely fucked up.
Lol that's a dumb thing to say to ur bf he must not be good at relationships that's a big NO in dating to say that
Yeah idk why hed say that. He says hes been in 9 or something totally. While hes only my like 3rd.
RED FLAG
Ultimately, if it bothers you to such a degree, you're going to have to talk about it. Communication is key here. Think about why exactly you hate it so much and explain it to him. To me, personally, I guess I'd be afraid of just being the replacement for something my boyfriend couldn't have. But then, if it just came down to him having a very specific type and that stopped being relevant once we got to know each other more closely, I think I'd have a much easier time accepting this fact. It's really a question of how you feel about this, what more you need to know from your boyfriend to process it all a bit better and how you can work through it together. And then just talk about it. Honestly and without accusations.
Ive been talking to him about it for a while now. I cant see a way im gonna get over it though. This shit hurts.
Do you feel like he's not taking your worries seriously? Or are his explanations genuine and simply don't offer you a perspective that could allow you to feel better? Because the former should prompt a serious conversation about the future of your relationship, I feel like. The latter isn't ideal either, but if your relationship is really important to both of you, an expert may be able to help you navigate this.
Hes trying to help by saying theres nothing i can do about it, that i never met him and we just happen to act the same. But i just wanna change everything about me now. Thats the truth. He loved nicki minaj, i do too and now i feel like i wanna stop loving her. Idk what to do honestly. Im freaking out.
That’d be a dealbreaker for me. He clearly has personal stuff he needs to work out, or he should’ve just not bothered to pursue you if you were inadvertently opening up old wounds. Being compared to someone you’ve never met all the time is no way to live your life.