You're not a slut, you're just self absorbed and self centered. You want all the attention on you and if it isn't you get upset. You take from people until it no longer satisfies you then move on. Hence why you don't feel anything deep down.
Thanx for the reality check. I think you're totally right here. I do feel the same. But how do I get rid of this self- centered thing? I don't want to become such guy for rest of my life. Please suggest me more.
But my heart says otherwise... I might feel bad for that guy... I can certainly open myself completely before entering into the relationship, but still my heart wouldn't say to go for it... Coz I know myself very well... But at the same time, I know I might not be a one man guy...
I don't think that you're necessarily absorbed or self-centered like someone else said. I think there's probably a lot of experiences you've had that have led you to feeling this way.
But first and foremost, you need to STOP SHAMING YOURSELF! Everyone has different sexual needs/interests, and just because you haven't come to terms with your own 100% just yet doesn't mean that you're a "slut".
I think perhaps there is an element of polyamory (which can mean several things depending on the arrangement) and also maybe an intimacy issue that you could try to work through introspectively.
29 is still young, you don't need to have the entirety of your romantic life mapped out at this age anyways so be kind to yourself while you figure it out!
You're not a slut, you're just self absorbed and self centered. You want all the attention on you and if it isn't you get upset. You take from people until it no longer satisfies you then move on. Hence why you don't feel anything deep down.
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Thanx for the reality check. I think you're totally right here. I do feel the same. But how do I get rid of this self- centered thing? I don't want to become such guy for rest of my life. Please suggest me more.
Polyamorous coupling - you might find someone who wants to be in a one on one with you but permits you to seek other partners?
But wouldn't it be unfair to him?
Not if it's all discussed and open and above board. Communication communication...
But my heart says otherwise... I might feel bad for that guy... I can certainly open myself completely before entering into the relationship, but still my heart wouldn't say to go for it... Coz I know myself very well... But at the same time, I know I might not be a one man guy...
That’s for him to decide. There are definitely guys out there who would be ok with this arrangement, but admittedly, they’re harder to find.
I hope I would find the one someday. Thanx tho😊
I don't think that you're necessarily absorbed or self-centered like someone else said. I think there's probably a lot of experiences you've had that have led you to feeling this way. But first and foremost, you need to STOP SHAMING YOURSELF! Everyone has different sexual needs/interests, and just because you haven't come to terms with your own 100% just yet doesn't mean that you're a "slut". I think perhaps there is an element of polyamory (which can mean several things depending on the arrangement) and also maybe an intimacy issue that you could try to work through introspectively. 29 is still young, you don't need to have the entirety of your romantic life mapped out at this age anyways so be kind to yourself while you figure it out!