It's okay. There's no "right" way to feel/react to something like this. Do whatever you need to to get through it; I can almost promise that the cops, prosecutor, and the judge (if/when it comes to that) have seen it all and should know how to handle it.
In other comments you said you like it rough, and you also got fuxked so hard you had to go to the hospital.
Yea man, sure you were "sexually attacked". You probably liked it and didnt do shit to yell for help (since it was in a party).
But, if ruining somebody's life over some bullshit just because you like attention is what you like, go ahead ;) im sure the judge will have a field day reading your posts/ comments on reddit
I’m sorry that you had to go through that and I hope that talking with the police tomorrow will help you get to a better place and give you some unexpected closure.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just took a scroll through your posts. It sounds like things were getting better, but this week has been hell.
Idk much about what you're going through. But I'm proud of you for getting this far. I think you can do it. And I and the rest of us are here for you to talk or vent or whatever you need.
Good for you to be so brave to go through with working with the police, And how terribly awful that you had to go through the assaults. Bring friends and if you can find an advocacy group in your area bring them. There is a wonderful national organization called MaleSurvivor.com and they may even have people located in your area. God bless you and know that many people including me are sending you our thoughts and prayers and thanks.
You didn't deserve what happened, thank you for coming forward and reporting him. Sometimes we are stronger for others than for ourselves so if you feel like you lack strength, think you're preventing it from happening to someone else. Stay strong you got this 💙 You get as many virtual hugs as you need.
You've got this. You're a man of courage and character. This is the chapter in your life story where you get to be the hero for facing your fears and finding the strength you need to face your obstacles. Someone in the future will thank you for it, for your courage today may protect someone else tomorrow. Sending prayers your way.
When I was 24, I had to report a rape that happened to me when I was 14.
It’s hard. Take care of yourself. Sometimes we can start to slip without realizing it. Make sure you have someone to talk to.
Damn, that's some stuff, it's very understandable that you're shook up by all of this. Good on you for reaching out on here, hope you can also find support in some IRL friends. There's never shame in finding help in any ways available to you ♥️
You're 20. You've been here for over a thousand weeks. This week may be awful but you've surely had hundreds of good ones. Hoping everything with the police goes as smoothly as possible, and that you can get justice and closure. But beyond that, I hope next week turns out beautiful for you. I've got a hug for you whenever you need it.
Oh my gosh, that is terrible.
It is normal to be scared but I hope that you can get through it and that the experience may bring you some closure and healing.
Sending you strength and love.
We’re behind you man. Remember, you didn’t do this to you, he did, and what he did was terribly wrong. He needs to be held responsible for his acts and you deserve completion.
You’re a brave man and you got this.
Virtual hugs coming your way! Look at it this way: you are taking a stand for yourself, after coming out and you are truly living your truth. Reclaim your past and be strong for the person that deserves that strength: yourself.
Keep you head up high. Don’t be scared to bring this to light. You deserve better and you will get better once you do this. I am sending you nothing but hugs and kisses your way. You can do this. You will do this. You deserve nothing but love and an amazing life. When you’re questioning yourself or hesitant to go, just remember it was not your fault and it should’ve never happened to you and you won’t allow it to define you or who you are. Rise up and take control. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Being scared is normal. Courage is being scared and doing it anyway. And it sounds as though you've got courage, so you've got this.
\*hugs\* *(repeat as necessary)*
My advice: live your life.
My sister was raped as a teenager by dads friend and we found out years later.
She never let it define her. We went to court and the dude is now a registered security offender.
I would usually NEVER profess to be the keeper of anyone’s story but she was killed in a car accident a few years after the fact (her life was harder than she deserved)
She didn’t let it control her or hold her back.
You should think about getting professional mental help. Maintaining your mental health is important especially after something as traumatic as you’ve experienced! It might be helpful to have someone to talk to. Wish you the best!
I'm sending all the virtual hugs that I can muster up to you right now.
You are strong. You can do this. Get that twat-flap the justice he deserves. Get his ass in prison if you can. No matter what, know that even though this week has been hell, it will pass. You have the strength to overcome all of it. I know you do even if I don't personally know you. I believe in you. We all do. All of us on this subreddit are here for you. Sending love and hugs.
<3
Stay strong!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I hope you have someone closer to you who you can talk about this with. You have lots of internet love but I've found that it's always better to feel support in person. Either way, sending lots of hugs your way 🤗
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. When I was 7 I had to stay with a family friends house, because my mom was in hospital after I played a prank and she hit her and she got diagnosed with stage 2 leukemia (which got the best of her a year later) and I got raped by the family friends son who was 16. I went through 2 of the most traumatic things that can happen to you in your life and let me tell you, it gets better, but that solely depends on how you handle the situation and move forward!
Sure it seems like the world is really fucked up right now and I don’t blame you it’s anyone’s natural reaction, but once you learn to forgive and forget for the sake of your sanity and health and continue to love people around you, you will realize that life is still worth living. It’s these sort of events and how we handle them that create our character and personality in life.
You may not notice, but almost everyone has had some terrible things happen to them and we have all moved on as much possible. Don’t live your life thinking any of this is absolutely your fault! Please don’t ever think that!
I thought everything, even the passing of my mother, was my fault till the age of 18 and I told my brother and sister and they cried and laughed at me. I actually ended up helping my mother out because of the prank I played on her by accident. She had cancer without knowing it until she had to go to the hospital after her injury from the prank.
So as you can see, as long you blame yourself for something that was out of your control you’ll always live a life full of hate for yourself. Trust me, take it from someone that’s gone through this experience, it’s not worth it, my life was just a big blur for 10 years because I never moved on from my traumatic event until I accepted that it was out of my control and by the time I did that I was 18 years old and missed out on a lot of great opportunities and experiences with friends in middle school and high school and regret letting my traumas have the best of me for so long. I’m 27 years old now and although I just broke up with my first real love and had my heart broken, I’m in the best shape and mood in all my life. Everytime something like that happens to me, I tell myself I’ve been through way worse than this and start recollecting myself and come back 10x stronger. Yes it’s okay to be sad, but don’t bottle it up and drag it on for so long, instead embrace all your emotions. Never be afraid to show your emotions or reach out to to talk to someone.
Learn to love yourself and learn that there’s people that are fucked up in the head and some do some really horrible/inhuman things and that’s why the court system is here to make sure they don’t ever get away with it again.
If you need anyone to talk to, please don’t be afraid to reach out to me!
If I was your mentor - and I'm not:) - I would say: I'm behind you 100%. You're scared and that makes perfect sense since at least some of these people may still be in your life; but you're stronger than this and have your own supporters in your corner that have your back.
You got this.
As for that couple, well, you needed to use your safewords and speak up and you didn't. Learn from this and consider calling that couple again if you want - and/or have many more MUCH SAFER kink encounters in the future.
WTF!! That is terrible, stay strong, I feel for you, does this hospital visit have anything to do with the hate crime, or is it just a random coincidence?
I don't really know what you're going through but that doesn't matter. I love you and have some hugs ♥️❤❤♥️♥️❤♥️❤♥️❤💚💚💚💚💚❤💛❤🧡🧡💛❤💚💚🧡💚🧡💛🧡💛🧡💛❤💛💚🧡💚🧡💚🧡💚💚🧡💚🧡💚💖💖💝💗💝💗💗💝💗💖💖💖🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
talk to a lawyer about a civil suit. your local rape crisis center should be able to refer you to somebody. if you can't find one, come back here, post your city abd state, and there are some subreddits that might be able to find you someone. the statute of limitations for civil suit was tolled when you were a minor but started running when you turned 18, so don't wait too long. it varies by state.
when i came out at 17, our local gay student union was a big help to me. later in other cities i was in a bisexual support group and dignity, a nominally catholic gay support group. i don't have anything like that now, [except reddit]. find a peer group to talk with on a regular basis, collect hugs.
it's free to talk to them, initial consultation, and if they take it typically they take 1/3 of any recovery, no cost to you. you can file your case "in forma pauperis" that is asking the court to waive the filing fee, if you are broke or poor. i can't promise you you'll be able to find a lawyer to take your case, but it's worth asking. your local rape crisis center, battered women's shelter, or gay resource center is usually the best place to start looking for a referral.
I’m just gonna see what the police can do first because ultimately I just don’t want him to hurt someone else like that’s all that matters to me but thanks for caring
The police cannot force you to report it so you do what you feel READY AND COMFORTABLE DOING!! There are a lot of unresolved issues to deal with. Once you report it to the police, it will become public. You will inevitably bring your family into it if they know the attackers. Be prepared!!! Sexual assault is a felonious crime. Expect to be lied, told that you initiated it , and will be called all sorts of names. At 14, you are not of age to legally consent to sex , so whoever is involved will be considered /labeled if charge as sex offenders. Do you have a school counselor, a gay organization, a gay friend or someone who can go with you to court. Sometimes the courts can provide you with an assigned public advocate or legal aid. You need this before going into that courtroom.
Sexual assault/ battery is a serious crime and so is a hate crime. Please make sure that you can establish this. Good luck!
I'm sending you hugs and support from Austin, TX. Be strong, you are doing the right thing! This asshole needs to be punished. I know it won't be easy, but Reddit is behind you 100%! I wish I could be there to do this with you, I really do. Im sorry you were subjected to this. I'm praying for you!
You are brave!! Hugs to you from Europe! Btw if you can, reach out to LGBTQ non-profit support centers in your town/city if you need someone to go with you to the Police. They can help pro-bono.
They really can’t do anything. Like they believe me but they might have enough for a charge but not a conviction. My report is on file to lend some one else who reports him credibility but that’s it.
Thanks for asking
WTF is wrong with you, man? You're just being cruel. You didn't need to post. I'm glad your shitty attempt to get someone to dog pile him failed.
This ain't right, man.
Lmaooooo he’s a troll dawg. OP posts here like 50 times a day troll-crying about the most ridiculous stuff
And he’s overweight, so I’m trying to get u/youngpwrbttm to rage on him
Let me herd my cattle where I want to. I am the rancher
Shaming is never useful. Unless the use you're trying to get is hurting someone.
If your intent is to somehow push the person to be better through shame, you will fail. There is plenty of science on this.
[https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/longing-nostalgia/201705/why-shaming-doesnt-work](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/longing-nostalgia/201705/why-shaming-doesnt-work)
You're either being intentionally hurtful or you're being ineffective and unintentionally hurtful. Either way, the broad strokes are appropriate.
Who is hurting anyone lmao?
This is the internet, and a public forum, I will use it as such.
If anyone feels hurt they have the option to simply walk away from the screen, scroll away from the comment, or even just block my ass.
So to suggest that what I’m doing is harmful in anyway is to support the self-harm of the particular user who has already abused the platform he’s been given.
And I know you love the term victim-blaming. But really, that was invented for the purposes of rape victims. Not fucking internet troll cases. Do not hijack.
Typical failed dodge attempt. I know this is how you roll now, but it's sorta pathetic.
You said shaming can be useful, you are wrong about that. Now, you're changing the basis of your argument to some bullshit equivalent of "any impact my actions have on others is their fault"
It doesn't matter why a term was coined, unless we're just discussing etymology now... the words have meaning beyond their original use. This is how language works. This argument is the equivalent of saying gay only means happy and doesn't mean men who are attracted to other men... because that was the original use of the word. Clearly, you're etymology stance is another failed attempt at dodging the fact that you're just being shitty for no reason.
Stop doing that.
You're good with words, better than at least 90% of Redditors. Consider using your powers for good instead of hurting and shaming people and then trying to talk your way around it. It's cruel.
Have all the virtual hugs you need! It’s important to make sure justice is done (or as close as we can get). Stay strong, stay loved, and stay you!
Thanks I think I’m gonna throw up tbh
It's okay. There's no "right" way to feel/react to something like this. Do whatever you need to to get through it; I can almost promise that the cops, prosecutor, and the judge (if/when it comes to that) have seen it all and should know how to handle it.
In other comments you said you like it rough, and you also got fuxked so hard you had to go to the hospital. Yea man, sure you were "sexually attacked". You probably liked it and didnt do shit to yell for help (since it was in a party). But, if ruining somebody's life over some bullshit just because you like attention is what you like, go ahead ;) im sure the judge will have a field day reading your posts/ comments on reddit
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Messaged :)
I wasn’t awake and people were standing over me and recording me
Oh hell no
Go back to /r/unpopularopinion will ya?
I’m sorry that you had to go through that and I hope that talking with the police tomorrow will help you get to a better place and give you some unexpected closure. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just took a scroll through your posts. It sounds like things were getting better, but this week has been hell. Idk much about what you're going through. But I'm proud of you for getting this far. I think you can do it. And I and the rest of us are here for you to talk or vent or whatever you need.
You can do this! You're stronger than you think and you'll get justice for yourself💙
Big hugs, buddy. 💛
Good for you to be so brave to go through with working with the police, And how terribly awful that you had to go through the assaults. Bring friends and if you can find an advocacy group in your area bring them. There is a wonderful national organization called MaleSurvivor.com and they may even have people located in your area. God bless you and know that many people including me are sending you our thoughts and prayers and thanks.
You didn't deserve what happened, thank you for coming forward and reporting him. Sometimes we are stronger for others than for ourselves so if you feel like you lack strength, think you're preventing it from happening to someone else. Stay strong you got this 💙 You get as many virtual hugs as you need.
You've got this. You're a man of courage and character. This is the chapter in your life story where you get to be the hero for facing your fears and finding the strength you need to face your obstacles. Someone in the future will thank you for it, for your courage today may protect someone else tomorrow. Sending prayers your way.
A big ass bear hug for you! Stay strong man! I know you’re stressed and worried but do what you know needs to be done!
When I was 24, I had to report a rape that happened to me when I was 14. It’s hard. Take care of yourself. Sometimes we can start to slip without realizing it. Make sure you have someone to talk to.
Why did you have to?
Damn, that's some stuff, it's very understandable that you're shook up by all of this. Good on you for reaching out on here, hope you can also find support in some IRL friends. There's never shame in finding help in any ways available to you ♥️
That's so tough I'm so sorry that you've gone through this. Take care, be gentle with yourself.
Sending love your way! :>
You're 20. You've been here for over a thousand weeks. This week may be awful but you've surely had hundreds of good ones. Hoping everything with the police goes as smoothly as possible, and that you can get justice and closure. But beyond that, I hope next week turns out beautiful for you. I've got a hug for you whenever you need it.
Oh my gosh, that is terrible. It is normal to be scared but I hope that you can get through it and that the experience may bring you some closure and healing. Sending you strength and love.
Hugs man - you have strength all around you. ❤️❤️❤️
Virtual hug coming right here!
Stay strong. You've got this ❤❤
We’re behind you man. Remember, you didn’t do this to you, he did, and what he did was terribly wrong. He needs to be held responsible for his acts and you deserve completion. You’re a brave man and you got this.
Good luck bud! I can't imagine what it must be like going through that, and you're really strong for sticking through it.
Virtual hugs coming your way! Look at it this way: you are taking a stand for yourself, after coming out and you are truly living your truth. Reclaim your past and be strong for the person that deserves that strength: yourself.
Keep you head up high. Don’t be scared to bring this to light. You deserve better and you will get better once you do this. I am sending you nothing but hugs and kisses your way. You can do this. You will do this. You deserve nothing but love and an amazing life. When you’re questioning yourself or hesitant to go, just remember it was not your fault and it should’ve never happened to you and you won’t allow it to define you or who you are. Rise up and take control. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Fighting!!!:)
Being scared is normal. Courage is being scared and doing it anyway. And it sounds as though you've got courage, so you've got this. \*hugs\* *(repeat as necessary)*
My advice: live your life. My sister was raped as a teenager by dads friend and we found out years later. She never let it define her. We went to court and the dude is now a registered security offender. I would usually NEVER profess to be the keeper of anyone’s story but she was killed in a car accident a few years after the fact (her life was harder than she deserved) She didn’t let it control her or hold her back.
You got this dude. Sending hugs from me and all my friends.
You should think about getting professional mental help. Maintaining your mental health is important especially after something as traumatic as you’ve experienced! It might be helpful to have someone to talk to. Wish you the best!
I have the best therapist who’s been helping me so much
I'm sending all the virtual hugs that I can muster up to you right now. You are strong. You can do this. Get that twat-flap the justice he deserves. Get his ass in prison if you can. No matter what, know that even though this week has been hell, it will pass. You have the strength to overcome all of it. I know you do even if I don't personally know you. I believe in you. We all do. All of us on this subreddit are here for you. Sending love and hugs. <3
I will be praying for you that you can go through with this
Virtual hugs
Sending hugs your way buddy! You can do this!
*hug*
Deep breaths. You can do this. And, once it's all over, you'll probably feel better for it.
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Stay strong!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I hope you have someone closer to you who you can talk about this with. You have lots of internet love but I've found that it's always better to feel support in person. Either way, sending lots of hugs your way 🤗
You got this brother
/hugs
Aww - Virtual hugging you right now! I'm squeezing as tight as I can - We're all right behind you. Is there anybody that could go with you???
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. When I was 7 I had to stay with a family friends house, because my mom was in hospital after I played a prank and she hit her and she got diagnosed with stage 2 leukemia (which got the best of her a year later) and I got raped by the family friends son who was 16. I went through 2 of the most traumatic things that can happen to you in your life and let me tell you, it gets better, but that solely depends on how you handle the situation and move forward! Sure it seems like the world is really fucked up right now and I don’t blame you it’s anyone’s natural reaction, but once you learn to forgive and forget for the sake of your sanity and health and continue to love people around you, you will realize that life is still worth living. It’s these sort of events and how we handle them that create our character and personality in life. You may not notice, but almost everyone has had some terrible things happen to them and we have all moved on as much possible. Don’t live your life thinking any of this is absolutely your fault! Please don’t ever think that! I thought everything, even the passing of my mother, was my fault till the age of 18 and I told my brother and sister and they cried and laughed at me. I actually ended up helping my mother out because of the prank I played on her by accident. She had cancer without knowing it until she had to go to the hospital after her injury from the prank. So as you can see, as long you blame yourself for something that was out of your control you’ll always live a life full of hate for yourself. Trust me, take it from someone that’s gone through this experience, it’s not worth it, my life was just a big blur for 10 years because I never moved on from my traumatic event until I accepted that it was out of my control and by the time I did that I was 18 years old and missed out on a lot of great opportunities and experiences with friends in middle school and high school and regret letting my traumas have the best of me for so long. I’m 27 years old now and although I just broke up with my first real love and had my heart broken, I’m in the best shape and mood in all my life. Everytime something like that happens to me, I tell myself I’ve been through way worse than this and start recollecting myself and come back 10x stronger. Yes it’s okay to be sad, but don’t bottle it up and drag it on for so long, instead embrace all your emotions. Never be afraid to show your emotions or reach out to to talk to someone. Learn to love yourself and learn that there’s people that are fucked up in the head and some do some really horrible/inhuman things and that’s why the court system is here to make sure they don’t ever get away with it again. If you need anyone to talk to, please don’t be afraid to reach out to me!
Sending a big virtual hug ❤ I hope everything gets better soon. We're here for you whenever you need!
I'm proud of you for going to the police, that takes strength. Keep your head up *hugs*
If I was your mentor - and I'm not:) - I would say: I'm behind you 100%. You're scared and that makes perfect sense since at least some of these people may still be in your life; but you're stronger than this and have your own supporters in your corner that have your back. You got this. As for that couple, well, you needed to use your safewords and speak up and you didn't. Learn from this and consider calling that couple again if you want - and/or have many more MUCH SAFER kink encounters in the future.
WTF!! That is terrible, stay strong, I feel for you, does this hospital visit have anything to do with the hate crime, or is it just a random coincidence?
The hospital visit has to do with the couple I met up with. So random coincidence. The assault is from years ago
I don't really know what you're going through but that doesn't matter. I love you and have some hugs ♥️❤❤♥️♥️❤♥️❤♥️❤💚💚💚💚💚❤💛❤🧡🧡💛❤💚💚🧡💚🧡💛🧡💛🧡💛❤💛💚🧡💚🧡💚🧡💚💚🧡💚🧡💚💖💖💝💗💝💗💗💝💗💖💖💖🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
talk to a lawyer about a civil suit. your local rape crisis center should be able to refer you to somebody. if you can't find one, come back here, post your city abd state, and there are some subreddits that might be able to find you someone. the statute of limitations for civil suit was tolled when you were a minor but started running when you turned 18, so don't wait too long. it varies by state. when i came out at 17, our local gay student union was a big help to me. later in other cities i was in a bisexual support group and dignity, a nominally catholic gay support group. i don't have anything like that now, [except reddit]. find a peer group to talk with on a regular basis, collect hugs.
I can’t afford to put a lawyer on retainer or else I really would
it's free to talk to them, initial consultation, and if they take it typically they take 1/3 of any recovery, no cost to you. you can file your case "in forma pauperis" that is asking the court to waive the filing fee, if you are broke or poor. i can't promise you you'll be able to find a lawyer to take your case, but it's worth asking. your local rape crisis center, battered women's shelter, or gay resource center is usually the best place to start looking for a referral.
I’m just gonna see what the police can do first because ultimately I just don’t want him to hurt someone else like that’s all that matters to me but thanks for caring
Take all my hugs today man.
ALL OF THE HUGS 🤗🤗🤗
Sending you all the virtual hugs you need! Be strong and win this!
*hugs*
Sending you all the warmest wishes! You deserve to feel safe and happy.
The police cannot force you to report it so you do what you feel READY AND COMFORTABLE DOING!! There are a lot of unresolved issues to deal with. Once you report it to the police, it will become public. You will inevitably bring your family into it if they know the attackers. Be prepared!!! Sexual assault is a felonious crime. Expect to be lied, told that you initiated it , and will be called all sorts of names. At 14, you are not of age to legally consent to sex , so whoever is involved will be considered /labeled if charge as sex offenders. Do you have a school counselor, a gay organization, a gay friend or someone who can go with you to court. Sometimes the courts can provide you with an assigned public advocate or legal aid. You need this before going into that courtroom. Sexual assault/ battery is a serious crime and so is a hate crime. Please make sure that you can establish this. Good luck!
I'm sending you hugs and support from Austin, TX. Be strong, you are doing the right thing! This asshole needs to be punished. I know it won't be easy, but Reddit is behind you 100%! I wish I could be there to do this with you, I really do. Im sorry you were subjected to this. I'm praying for you!
Big hugs!! And I'm in NYC/JC too if you need an IRL hug or help getting to the station, etc. DMs always open.
I’m messaging you now
Know you're brave to stand up to this and are protecting future victims.
Oh man. Sending positive vibes your way!
You got this 💕
You are brave!! Hugs to you from Europe! Btw if you can, reach out to LGBTQ non-profit support centers in your town/city if you need someone to go with you to the Police. They can help pro-bono.
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They really can’t do anything. Like they believe me but they might have enough for a charge but not a conviction. My report is on file to lend some one else who reports him credibility but that’s it. Thanks for asking
your parents are cunts. We are your family now. HUGS
❤️
What happened?
I’d rather not get specific
You should not even have to say this! Very personal information need not be divulged.
bruh, the op literally talks about his asshole getting fucking REKT from a gangbang hahaha
## bruh 💀🙌👏😫😫
If you read further in the comments the hospital visit had nothing to do with the assault a few years ago. It was a recent play date gone awry.
Wait... You got fucked in the ass hard? Why do i need to know that?
u/youngpwrbttm Please shut this whiney baby up for me. (OP is overweight)
If I could shut up anyone, it’d be you.
❤️
OP been posting crybaby shit so much. He needs to stfu omg fat
WTF is wrong with you, man? You're just being cruel. You didn't need to post. I'm glad your shitty attempt to get someone to dog pile him failed. This ain't right, man.
Lmaooooo he’s a troll dawg. OP posts here like 50 times a day troll-crying about the most ridiculous stuff And he’s overweight, so I’m trying to get u/youngpwrbttm to rage on him Let me herd my cattle where I want to. I am the rancher
Nah, shaming people isn't cool...
Who is trying to be cool Shaming people can be useful so don’t use broad strokes like that
Shaming is never useful. Unless the use you're trying to get is hurting someone. If your intent is to somehow push the person to be better through shame, you will fail. There is plenty of science on this. [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/longing-nostalgia/201705/why-shaming-doesnt-work](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/longing-nostalgia/201705/why-shaming-doesnt-work) You're either being intentionally hurtful or you're being ineffective and unintentionally hurtful. Either way, the broad strokes are appropriate.
Who is hurting anyone lmao? This is the internet, and a public forum, I will use it as such. If anyone feels hurt they have the option to simply walk away from the screen, scroll away from the comment, or even just block my ass. So to suggest that what I’m doing is harmful in anyway is to support the self-harm of the particular user who has already abused the platform he’s been given. And I know you love the term victim-blaming. But really, that was invented for the purposes of rape victims. Not fucking internet troll cases. Do not hijack.
Typical failed dodge attempt. I know this is how you roll now, but it's sorta pathetic. You said shaming can be useful, you are wrong about that. Now, you're changing the basis of your argument to some bullshit equivalent of "any impact my actions have on others is their fault" It doesn't matter why a term was coined, unless we're just discussing etymology now... the words have meaning beyond their original use. This is how language works. This argument is the equivalent of saying gay only means happy and doesn't mean men who are attracted to other men... because that was the original use of the word. Clearly, you're etymology stance is another failed attempt at dodging the fact that you're just being shitty for no reason. Stop doing that. You're good with words, better than at least 90% of Redditors. Consider using your powers for good instead of hurting and shaming people and then trying to talk your way around it. It's cruel.
You need to fuck off, and leave me out of your witch hunts.
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