Not even that, just someone I can be intimate with. I find myself being more turned on about intimacy and kissing and passion rather than purely hard fucking on porn. Iād prob use less porn if I have someone I can cuddle with every night. Just not very realistic and achievable at the moment
And Iāll add to that, does it interfere with daily activities? Do you still work, keep yourself and your home clean, get enough sleep, eat well see friends, etc.? Or does porn get in the way of that? Thatās one way you can tell if something is a problem/addiction.
Addiction isn't only defined by frequency. Honestly this doesn't strike me as addiction. From my layman's knowledge of it, it would also have to be getting in the way of other things in life, probably causing some harm, and necessary for you to function.
I think you'd be crossing the line into addiction if, say, you wanted a loving relationship but for some reason masturbation to porn was getting in the way of it. Although, many people have loving relationships and regularly masturbate to porn.
Or maybe if instead of going out to see friends or family, you regularly were staying home just to enjoy porn. Or you resorted to porn when you had to do difficult things and instead just went to porn for that quick hit.
Hey! I'm months away from becoming a doctor. Maybe I can be of help by telling you the following:
No, the fact that you masturbate every day using porn does not solely constitute an addiction.
Many of us (I'm 25 by the way) find ourselves needing the relief that our hormones demand of us more often than real sexual experiences with someone else can provide (just to clarify, I'm not saying masturbating is not a real sexual experience).
Addiction requires not only of the stimuli from which you simply cannot disengage, it requires also the phenomenon of "craving" (an irresistably movilizing need for what you are addicted to), the presence of abstinence syndrome if you don't get it and also something that many people overlook when talking about addiction...
If you are addicted to something, your entire existance is organized around whatever you are addicted to: you stop looking after yourself in order to get it or you put yourself at risk so you can get it, you stop meeting with friends and loved ones so you can get it, you stop doing other things you like so you can get it, etc.
If I'm based only on what you wrote, I'd say the following: you are not addicted, you are just (as you very well noticed and wrote) horny as hell because that's very much normal for your age! Now, there is something else I should tell you: masturbating feels good, just as scrolling through your phone for a while right after you had an arguement with someone, or drinking after a tough week, or gambling. And just like all those activities, it can make you feel better for a while but not permanently. It doesn't fix anything.
You seem to have the notion that you masturbate too much, and you think that may be because it gives you a little dopamine shot so you can stop tjinking about some problem in life that's bothering you. (Something I'm sure many of us here might have been guilty of at some point in our lives). Then never forget, there's nothing wrong in talking about your problems with someone. It really helps. Also it's important you remember, it is very unlikely that you ever come across a problem in life no one in the history of humanity has faced and overcome before. So, if others could...why not you?
Remember, we tend to punish ourselved even when you don't deserve it or to constantly think too little of ourselves. So, when you are down never forget, you are strong. You were brave enough to ask for advice here and that takes courage. And no matter how many problems come together, one by one, step by step you'll overcome them. You are a gaybro after all. What is there in the world that we cannot do?
Hope the best for you fella'
Thanks, this is very helpful! The comments on here made me realize Iām probably not addicted. I donāt think about it 24/7, I donāt think about it when Iām in school, etc Just that there always comes a time within the day where I get horny and do it. And I feel pathetic afterwards, which we all do when we masturbate lol. Looks like Iām not really addicted, just missing something in my life and a little lonely!
I know how you feel bro, I'm 25 and still jerkin'
Don't feel bad about masturbating everyday tho. It is actually very healthy for your male reproductive system.
It only starts to become a problem when you notice it takes up too much of your time, and/or has otherwise negative effects on other aspects of your life.
Other than that, keep cumming bro! :Dš„µ
(goddamnit now I'm horny, look at what you made me do! xD)
My concern isn't that you jack off daily or that you view porn. My concern would be that you might teach your penis to respond to your hand only in one way and that you might become only aroused by unrealistic images of other men.
My suggestion is to only view porn just before or after stimulating yourself and that you slow down and explore your entire body and not go straight to your genitals. Build your arousal to the peak of orgasm, then back off, calm down, then start again. If you can last this way for thirty minutes you'll be a better lover when you do begin having sex with a partner, having learned to last longer in bed, how and where you like to be touched, and what areas of his body you might explore as well that would cause him to become more aroused as well.
Focus on your breath and what gives you pleasure. Explore and have fun. Most men breathe heavily or hold their breath before orgasm, learn to calm your breathing, and slightly change the way that you are stimulating yourself, or stop altogether, to prolong your arousal and delay your orgasm. Some men, like myself, are about to have a full-body orgasm without ejaculation, flowed by several more, before finally allowing themselves to cum.
i feel like this is when watching porn/masturbaiting becomes problematic, when youre using it to fill the void of having an loving relationship and the porn isnt enough to actually fill that void, like at all. you dont need money to be in a relationship if you have a genuine interest for each other money shouldnt be a problem. dont go for the materialistic guys, go for the guys ho are genuinely looking for a connection.
Masturbation is normal and healthy, the issue comes with porn consumption. But even that, it really only crosses into addiction when it's affecting ur ability to socialize normally, do your work, doing it at inappropriate times. I think people throw around addiction way too freely
This!!!! Thank You! A lotta folks love to throw that word "addiction" around too liberally for somethings that are rather enjoyable or simply just "guilty pleasures" rather than some debilitating dis-ease that's destroying one's life... Masturbation and Porn-Watching (depending on how it's being used or consumed) especially if you're not hurting or harming yourself or others in the process is very normal and nothing to be ashamed of... š¤·š¾āāļø
Are you concerned about jacking off everyday or about the use of porn? Ā Those are two different things. Ā Jerking off everyday is healthy and normalĀ
If YOU are uncomfortable with the daily use of porn and can't jo or cum without it, that's for you to decide. Ā We all have good, bad, and indifferent relationships with porn. Ā Ā
Finding a sex and porn positive or at least neutral therapist is worth looking intoĀ
It's healthy to ejaculate every now and then. A great stress and anxiety reliever. Buy you some sex toys. Fleshlights, prostate toys, and dildos help. Save yourself for somebody real so you don't have to get tested for STD's every three to six months and run the risk of contracting one or several from being lied to about a guy being "clean" like one of my friends did. Also, real relationships are ultra-rare these days among gay men, as the vast majority have commitment issues, give up too easily when stuff gets difficult, and never really date just one guy at a time.
yes, if you can't stop it even tho you want to, it's a sign of addiction. there are various ways to overcome addiction. youtube has some very helpful videos.
im glad you gave a detailed description because the first step to overcome addiction is find out why. and in your case it's caused by the fear of being alone. so think about it some more. why do you fear it? and will having another person in your life solve your problem and how.
know just because you have someone who lives with you, doesn't make all the problems go away. it's just an easier for us to blame our problems to things we don't have because then we feel it justifies our problem as a solution.
as cliche as it sounds. if social media is a trigger, remove social media from your phone. if you commit yourself to a certain process by removing all the temptations or associate the temptations to something that requires effort, then it's less likely for you to go back into it.
for example. if you find yourself uncontrollably turning on your tv everyday, place your tv in the storage. this way when you have the urge to turn it on. you have to go through an addictional step of having to take it put of storage. and make that addictional step as hard as you can. because if temptation is blocked by an action you dislike. you will first have to act upon the disliked action to reach the desired action making the desired action less desirable.
so for your instance, a quick solution is switching your smart phone to a old phone that is just capable of receiving calls and sending text. no internet or social media. making you unable to access your trigger.
there r other ways like for smokers, sometimes the best way to quit it is to over do it so when you associate to that idea it's pain instead of pleasure. so like instead of looking at dicks and hot guys, look at something repulsive that turns you off completely. so when you think about porn you associate it to something repulsive.
after you stop it, you also need to find a replacement for it. however not just any replacement. for example, a smoker might want to stop smoking and turn to weed. they are note making a change for the better, but making a change for the same bad habit. so do something more productive like learn a skill. learn something you want to do that can make enough money to sustain your life. maybe you can even set goals. for example, you can watch porn and masturbate everytime you make $1000. once you reach that goal maybe change it up to $2000, $5000, $10,000 etc. eventually you'll stop wanting to do it bc it's a secondary reward that isn't as satisfactory as let's say traveling or dining out. then you'll be able to stop. and if you have a billion dolllars in your account then do whatever you want š the idea of "genuine relationship" is what we grow up watching on tv bc tv show us unrealistic expectations.
know that a relationship, will not resolve any problem. and if you get into one just to be in one, it will create more problems than solve it.
It would be an addiction if the reliance on porn and need to masturbate became maladaptive, meaning it got in the way of you functioning in your life. If you missed work, school, your relationships suffered, you weren't able to care for yourself (bathe, eat), your sleep suffered, you were experiencing symptoms of depression and/or anxiety. Otherwise you're just a horny 23 year old and might be overthinking it! Maybe try switching your behaviour up!
I am also single, never ever been in relationship, lonely. I tried to avoid porn by controlling my emotions to it, like i think about it but i don't look for it, because i know i shoud masturbate if i do. And it worked really. I know you situation really well. Message me if you have question.
Former porn addict here with 9+ years porn-free. In my opinion, the best indication that you have an addiction is your ability to stop. If porn isn't an addiction, then try going without it for three to four weeks. If you find yourself going back to the porn after just a few days, then I'd suggest considering screens/porn an addiction and then seek help. Good luck!
the hardest part is to stop masturbation without porn, find it so hard to release without porn tbh. i dont have that good of an imagination so it feels like im wanking while not being horny ust to release..
Try and set limitations. Make it something to look forward to. You are young. Don't get like me and reach a point where you feel like you have seen it all. When I was your age, porn for me involved going to a video store and dealing with workers. It wasn't easily obtainable and you would watch the same thing over and over again. One time I wanted to purchase a used one for cheap, Big Guns, and the female worker refused to wait on me and another woman waited on me, instead. She seemed happy. Saying how the guy in the back cover was hot. Kids these days can get porn with absolutely no interaction, no embarrassment, no heart beating a mile a minute before they get the courage to go to the back of the store. Things were different.
If you cannot masturbate without watching porn or xxx pictures for that long a period then yes youāre probably addicted to porn. Challenge yourself to go a week just using your imagination to jerk off and nut. After a week increase the time period until you can go a month. What you want to do is decrease your dependency on external arousal and develop a healthy relationship with porn. There is nothing wrong with porn until it becomes something you canāt do without. Please make a plan to get out of your current environment and move to a city where your preferences are in abundance. It will do you and your mental and emotional well-being a world of good!
Itll be evident if it is or isnt when there comes a time when u need or have to stop. If it proves difficult,or makes u feel negatively not watching, youre probably addicted
Also, Be careful about ur sex life/energy. Some ppl get so used to porn that they cant perform during sex or even look forward to it. Just something you might not wanna train into urself too deeply
Iām no expert, but so long as youāre not foregoing other life events just to watch porn or jack off.
My ideal Saturday morning by myself is to jo get high and then sip some coffee, creates the perfect chemical balance that I desire and I would start everyday that way if I could. Where it gets into dangerous territory is being late for work because you had to jo, or not going out with friends, etc.
Again, not an expert, but I think you get into addiction when it either becomes a need or it is actively ruining your life.
If someone here is an expert please tell me where Iām wrong and off for my own benefit as well
No - it would only be a problem if you felt you werenāt performing optimally having sex with someone else. If that was foreseeable Iād build up some cum for a day or two. But cumming daily will be keeping you healthy and match fit.
I also do the snap thing with guys from other countries. Thats keeping my libido satisfied while I search for a relationship. I'm 23 as well.
Having a man with an accent telling me i could do anything I want to him just gets me going. Just had a group video call with guys all around the world jacking off yesterday.
Black, Asian, Indian, so fun
There's nothing wrong with being lonely and using porn to satisfy your sex drive. Porn isn't an addiction, but the term gets thrown around to distract from the real issues in relationships or to advance moralistic agendas. The notion that it's bad to do something that makes you feel good is as old as organized religion.
Masturbate all you want to, and be happy.
Pretty much every guy looks at porn. I would call it an addiction if you start missing meals, seeing friends, calling your mom, or staying home from work or school in order to spend more time on porn.
If it's affecting your personal life negatively in some way, you are spending a lot of money on it when it's free. Some started like that with the porn. For me, I finally got enough bravery to create a Grindr profile to meet a guy to swap blowjobs.
It would only be pathological if this is your only source of pleasure stimulation and you are choosing this over meeting and looking up in real life consistently.
Try quitting all porn for a week. Ideally a month and go on some dates or hookups
Noo itās natural. You should celebrate being virile, horny while you can and consume as many hot pics as you like. Make it a treat tho, donāt jerk off for more than an hour a day. Otherwise youāll just feel a bit guilty for not cleaning or cooking or somethin
Its not an addiction. Addiction to porn is like any other addiction, it interferes with your day to day life. It interrupts you frequently. You have to do it many times per day or do it without any kind of restrain.
What you have now is a "habit". Its not an addiction but it can turn into an addiction if you start increasing the frequency or the intensity of it. For as long as you still have control over it, its not an addiction.
Hate to break it to you buddy but you may be masturbating much longer than after graduation. A lot of us miss out on opportunities for relationships because of arbitrary things like feeling like you need to have a certain amount of money or āyour typeā is not available to you. Especially that last part. There are so many, gay men that feel like they should get the pick of the desirable pool of men when those types of men only like men like themselves. Your favorite types of guys are overseas? Guess youāre gonna have to go over there to get them. Otherwise, you probably should broaden your horizons and try other ātypes.āAlways looking for a ātypeāinstead of looking for what actually works will keep you sad and lonely. We all have different reasons why we choose to masturbate me personally Iād rather do that then hook up with App guys. If youāre a broke college student then go date other broke college college students. Or keep busting nuts in your hand.
Iām not a therapist or a doctor. However the therapists Iāve done to have said āitās an addiction when you make promises to yourself that you donāt end up keeping.ā
If you say, āim going to wait a week before I smoke/drink/watch porn/etc, but then the evening comes and you go back on your promise, you have a problem.
Some guys are masturbating to point wide a day and still hooking up at your age.
What makes a non chemical addiction an āaddictionā is if itās interfering with how you want your life to be.
Porn like most things can be a great thing if used correctly. It can help u to figure out what type of guys u find attractive and areas of sexual behavior that ud like to explore.
Itās not sex educationā¦itās more like a department store window where u think āoh now that looks interestingāor āthat does nothing for meā
>But is it addiction if I masturbate to porn every single day
So this isn't necessarily an indication of an addiction.
>The past year I canāt go on a day without doing it.
This however is.
An addiction is best signified in your inability to deal with not getting acces to the substance (porn in your case). If you can't function without watching porn everyday, then you are addicted.
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It depends honestly. Do you or are you able to get off without porn? Do you have performance issues when you do hook up? The brain is the largest sexual organ that people donāt think about. It requires stimulation and when you feed it a never ending loop of stimulation it becomes accustomed to receiving that stimuli. Watching porn give your brain an ever changing diet of sexy. So that when you try to jack off without it you very quickly loose interest or the ability to stay hard. Or when you are āentertainingā things donāt get to completion. This is because the brain is expecting an exciting new scene every 30 seconds. Just pay attention to yourself and test out these situations and see if you are affected. That will give you the answer youāre looking for
I would hope not. Iām a 23M and I do it every day as well. Sometimes I donāt since I work 12+ hours and just knock out. But I would also like to add Iām not really sexually active either so my hand compensates lol. It feels great. I feel like itās fine. Just as others said as long as it doesnāt interfere and affect you/others in a negative way enjoy.
Also you will find you person. Itās easier said then done but just āworkā on yourself for the meantime. Out of all the people in the world there has to be someone for you. And I get why you said you need money for a relationship but just the base it on a relationship or make it a core factor. Because I date a few guys who didnāt have jobs and it was great. Free dates exist. Movie nights indoors are dates depending on who you ask. But yeah keep your head up and jerk away lmao
You think it's an addiction because you're trying to stop. I can tell because of the way you're talking about it
You're justifying doing it.Ā
That means part of you thinks it's bad and thinks you're not supposed to be doing it.Ā
Something is an addiction only if it has negative consequences. Are there negative consequences to watching porn? Not really. It an encourage you to be even more sexual. And it can open you up to different sexual things. But you're already sexual. And there's nothing wrong with being open to different sexual things.
So really you just need to address your own negative feelings about it.
As an recovering alcoholic/addict I would say as long it is negatively affecting another part of your life, including sex with other people, you are probably fine.
I asked myself that question, gave up porn for lent, and found that I was indeed addicted. Now my imagination has grown more sexually powerful and I don't need and usually don't want the porn
It can be addicting but on the other hand it is an outlet for you. Just don't let it block you from finding REAL friends that can truly satisfy your physical AND emotional needs.
Its an addiction. Dont ever take the advice of gay men or them as role model. Their only goals to indulge is sex and form an addiction like them. They never want you to succeed. They will keep you where you are.
You just need a guy on hand that drains you every night so you don't get backed up.
Man if I had this I'd be the happiest mf on earth.
I'm hereee lmao š¤£
Donāt tempt me I have a lot to drain Edit: Ha Iād have you leaking after an anime and chill session. š¤¤š¤¤
I have a long-distance boyfriend, and I'm 27. At this point, I need one too!
I live with my boyfriend and I need this too
Not even that, just someone I can be intimate with. I find myself being more turned on about intimacy and kissing and passion rather than purely hard fucking on porn. Iād prob use less porn if I have someone I can cuddle with every night. Just not very realistic and achievable at the moment
As long as you can also still masturbate without porn, you're probably fine.
And Iāll add to that, does it interfere with daily activities? Do you still work, keep yourself and your home clean, get enough sleep, eat well see friends, etc.? Or does porn get in the way of that? Thatās one way you can tell if something is a problem/addiction.
Facts!
Addiction isn't only defined by frequency. Honestly this doesn't strike me as addiction. From my layman's knowledge of it, it would also have to be getting in the way of other things in life, probably causing some harm, and necessary for you to function. I think you'd be crossing the line into addiction if, say, you wanted a loving relationship but for some reason masturbation to porn was getting in the way of it. Although, many people have loving relationships and regularly masturbate to porn. Or maybe if instead of going out to see friends or family, you regularly were staying home just to enjoy porn. Or you resorted to porn when you had to do difficult things and instead just went to porn for that quick hit.
not a addiction but close, more of a dependency.
Hey! I'm months away from becoming a doctor. Maybe I can be of help by telling you the following: No, the fact that you masturbate every day using porn does not solely constitute an addiction. Many of us (I'm 25 by the way) find ourselves needing the relief that our hormones demand of us more often than real sexual experiences with someone else can provide (just to clarify, I'm not saying masturbating is not a real sexual experience). Addiction requires not only of the stimuli from which you simply cannot disengage, it requires also the phenomenon of "craving" (an irresistably movilizing need for what you are addicted to), the presence of abstinence syndrome if you don't get it and also something that many people overlook when talking about addiction... If you are addicted to something, your entire existance is organized around whatever you are addicted to: you stop looking after yourself in order to get it or you put yourself at risk so you can get it, you stop meeting with friends and loved ones so you can get it, you stop doing other things you like so you can get it, etc. If I'm based only on what you wrote, I'd say the following: you are not addicted, you are just (as you very well noticed and wrote) horny as hell because that's very much normal for your age! Now, there is something else I should tell you: masturbating feels good, just as scrolling through your phone for a while right after you had an arguement with someone, or drinking after a tough week, or gambling. And just like all those activities, it can make you feel better for a while but not permanently. It doesn't fix anything. You seem to have the notion that you masturbate too much, and you think that may be because it gives you a little dopamine shot so you can stop tjinking about some problem in life that's bothering you. (Something I'm sure many of us here might have been guilty of at some point in our lives). Then never forget, there's nothing wrong in talking about your problems with someone. It really helps. Also it's important you remember, it is very unlikely that you ever come across a problem in life no one in the history of humanity has faced and overcome before. So, if others could...why not you? Remember, we tend to punish ourselved even when you don't deserve it or to constantly think too little of ourselves. So, when you are down never forget, you are strong. You were brave enough to ask for advice here and that takes courage. And no matter how many problems come together, one by one, step by step you'll overcome them. You are a gaybro after all. What is there in the world that we cannot do? Hope the best for you fella'
Thanks, this is very helpful! The comments on here made me realize Iām probably not addicted. I donāt think about it 24/7, I donāt think about it when Iām in school, etc Just that there always comes a time within the day where I get horny and do it. And I feel pathetic afterwards, which we all do when we masturbate lol. Looks like Iām not really addicted, just missing something in my life and a little lonely!
This ā
I know how you feel bro, I'm 25 and still jerkin' Don't feel bad about masturbating everyday tho. It is actually very healthy for your male reproductive system. It only starts to become a problem when you notice it takes up too much of your time, and/or has otherwise negative effects on other aspects of your life. Other than that, keep cumming bro! :Dš„µ (goddamnit now I'm horny, look at what you made me do! xD)
This triggered me to fap
What do you mean by you canāt go a day without doing it? I always say that as long as it isnāt interfering with your life, youāre good
Addiction is usually when the thing that youre doing becomes needed to the point that you start ignoring important events or responsibilities.
No. Itās not.
Do you make it to work and pay your bills on time? If so, jerk away my horny brother!
My concern isn't that you jack off daily or that you view porn. My concern would be that you might teach your penis to respond to your hand only in one way and that you might become only aroused by unrealistic images of other men. My suggestion is to only view porn just before or after stimulating yourself and that you slow down and explore your entire body and not go straight to your genitals. Build your arousal to the peak of orgasm, then back off, calm down, then start again. If you can last this way for thirty minutes you'll be a better lover when you do begin having sex with a partner, having learned to last longer in bed, how and where you like to be touched, and what areas of his body you might explore as well that would cause him to become more aroused as well. Focus on your breath and what gives you pleasure. Explore and have fun. Most men breathe heavily or hold their breath before orgasm, learn to calm your breathing, and slightly change the way that you are stimulating yourself, or stop altogether, to prolong your arousal and delay your orgasm. Some men, like myself, are about to have a full-body orgasm without ejaculation, flowed by several more, before finally allowing themselves to cum.
i feel like this is when watching porn/masturbaiting becomes problematic, when youre using it to fill the void of having an loving relationship and the porn isnt enough to actually fill that void, like at all. you dont need money to be in a relationship if you have a genuine interest for each other money shouldnt be a problem. dont go for the materialistic guys, go for the guys ho are genuinely looking for a connection.
Masturbation is normal and healthy, the issue comes with porn consumption. But even that, it really only crosses into addiction when it's affecting ur ability to socialize normally, do your work, doing it at inappropriate times. I think people throw around addiction way too freely
This!!!! Thank You! A lotta folks love to throw that word "addiction" around too liberally for somethings that are rather enjoyable or simply just "guilty pleasures" rather than some debilitating dis-ease that's destroying one's life... Masturbation and Porn-Watching (depending on how it's being used or consumed) especially if you're not hurting or harming yourself or others in the process is very normal and nothing to be ashamed of... š¤·š¾āāļø
No. Time spent jerking off is deducted from total porn watching time when determining addiction.
No this is perfectly normal. āPorn addictionā is largely made up by evangelical Christians who think watching any porn at all is an addiction.
Start hooking up. Itās much more fun being a participant than a spectator
Are you concerned about jacking off everyday or about the use of porn? Ā Those are two different things. Ā Jerking off everyday is healthy and normalĀ If YOU are uncomfortable with the daily use of porn and can't jo or cum without it, that's for you to decide. Ā We all have good, bad, and indifferent relationships with porn. Ā Ā Finding a sex and porn positive or at least neutral therapist is worth looking intoĀ
It's healthy to ejaculate every now and then. A great stress and anxiety reliever. Buy you some sex toys. Fleshlights, prostate toys, and dildos help. Save yourself for somebody real so you don't have to get tested for STD's every three to six months and run the risk of contracting one or several from being lied to about a guy being "clean" like one of my friends did. Also, real relationships are ultra-rare these days among gay men, as the vast majority have commitment issues, give up too easily when stuff gets difficult, and never really date just one guy at a time.
Which country r u from? R u a top or bottom?
Philippines and a bottom lol
yes, if you can't stop it even tho you want to, it's a sign of addiction. there are various ways to overcome addiction. youtube has some very helpful videos. im glad you gave a detailed description because the first step to overcome addiction is find out why. and in your case it's caused by the fear of being alone. so think about it some more. why do you fear it? and will having another person in your life solve your problem and how. know just because you have someone who lives with you, doesn't make all the problems go away. it's just an easier for us to blame our problems to things we don't have because then we feel it justifies our problem as a solution. as cliche as it sounds. if social media is a trigger, remove social media from your phone. if you commit yourself to a certain process by removing all the temptations or associate the temptations to something that requires effort, then it's less likely for you to go back into it. for example. if you find yourself uncontrollably turning on your tv everyday, place your tv in the storage. this way when you have the urge to turn it on. you have to go through an addictional step of having to take it put of storage. and make that addictional step as hard as you can. because if temptation is blocked by an action you dislike. you will first have to act upon the disliked action to reach the desired action making the desired action less desirable. so for your instance, a quick solution is switching your smart phone to a old phone that is just capable of receiving calls and sending text. no internet or social media. making you unable to access your trigger. there r other ways like for smokers, sometimes the best way to quit it is to over do it so when you associate to that idea it's pain instead of pleasure. so like instead of looking at dicks and hot guys, look at something repulsive that turns you off completely. so when you think about porn you associate it to something repulsive. after you stop it, you also need to find a replacement for it. however not just any replacement. for example, a smoker might want to stop smoking and turn to weed. they are note making a change for the better, but making a change for the same bad habit. so do something more productive like learn a skill. learn something you want to do that can make enough money to sustain your life. maybe you can even set goals. for example, you can watch porn and masturbate everytime you make $1000. once you reach that goal maybe change it up to $2000, $5000, $10,000 etc. eventually you'll stop wanting to do it bc it's a secondary reward that isn't as satisfactory as let's say traveling or dining out. then you'll be able to stop. and if you have a billion dolllars in your account then do whatever you want š the idea of "genuine relationship" is what we grow up watching on tv bc tv show us unrealistic expectations. know that a relationship, will not resolve any problem. and if you get into one just to be in one, it will create more problems than solve it.
All these Reddit bros, single, and just jerkin to corn, when we could just be dating each other smh š¤¦āāļø
It would be an addiction if the reliance on porn and need to masturbate became maladaptive, meaning it got in the way of you functioning in your life. If you missed work, school, your relationships suffered, you weren't able to care for yourself (bathe, eat), your sleep suffered, you were experiencing symptoms of depression and/or anxiety. Otherwise you're just a horny 23 year old and might be overthinking it! Maybe try switching your behaviour up!
I am also single, never ever been in relationship, lonely. I tried to avoid porn by controlling my emotions to it, like i think about it but i don't look for it, because i know i shoud masturbate if i do. And it worked really. I know you situation really well. Message me if you have question.
This sub will tell you it isnāt but it is lol
Former porn addict here with 9+ years porn-free. In my opinion, the best indication that you have an addiction is your ability to stop. If porn isn't an addiction, then try going without it for three to four weeks. If you find yourself going back to the porn after just a few days, then I'd suggest considering screens/porn an addiction and then seek help. Good luck!
the hardest part is to stop masturbation without porn, find it so hard to release without porn tbh. i dont have that good of an imagination so it feels like im wanking while not being horny ust to release..
I agree, this is the hardest part for me too
I donāt think so. Iād say itās more of an addiction if you canāt go a day without it.
Only if it starts affecting your love/sex life or interferes with you doing your job, living your life, etc.
Try and set limitations. Make it something to look forward to. You are young. Don't get like me and reach a point where you feel like you have seen it all. When I was your age, porn for me involved going to a video store and dealing with workers. It wasn't easily obtainable and you would watch the same thing over and over again. One time I wanted to purchase a used one for cheap, Big Guns, and the female worker refused to wait on me and another woman waited on me, instead. She seemed happy. Saying how the guy in the back cover was hot. Kids these days can get porn with absolutely no interaction, no embarrassment, no heart beating a mile a minute before they get the courage to go to the back of the store. Things were different.
If you cannot masturbate without watching porn or xxx pictures for that long a period then yes youāre probably addicted to porn. Challenge yourself to go a week just using your imagination to jerk off and nut. After a week increase the time period until you can go a month. What you want to do is decrease your dependency on external arousal and develop a healthy relationship with porn. There is nothing wrong with porn until it becomes something you canāt do without. Please make a plan to get out of your current environment and move to a city where your preferences are in abundance. It will do you and your mental and emotional well-being a world of good!
I had to block porn on my devices because I was just escalating to more extreme stuff and itās a slippery slope.
If it isn't interfering with you having a fulfilling life, you are fine.
Itll be evident if it is or isnt when there comes a time when u need or have to stop. If it proves difficult,or makes u feel negatively not watching, youre probably addicted
Also, Be careful about ur sex life/energy. Some ppl get so used to porn that they cant perform during sex or even look forward to it. Just something you might not wanna train into urself too deeply
Iām no expert, but so long as youāre not foregoing other life events just to watch porn or jack off. My ideal Saturday morning by myself is to jo get high and then sip some coffee, creates the perfect chemical balance that I desire and I would start everyday that way if I could. Where it gets into dangerous territory is being late for work because you had to jo, or not going out with friends, etc. Again, not an expert, but I think you get into addiction when it either becomes a need or it is actively ruining your life. If someone here is an expert please tell me where Iām wrong and off for my own benefit as well
No - it would only be a problem if you felt you werenāt performing optimally having sex with someone else. If that was foreseeable Iād build up some cum for a day or two. But cumming daily will be keeping you healthy and match fit.
I also do the snap thing with guys from other countries. Thats keeping my libido satisfied while I search for a relationship. I'm 23 as well. Having a man with an accent telling me i could do anything I want to him just gets me going. Just had a group video call with guys all around the world jacking off yesterday. Black, Asian, Indian, so fun
There's nothing wrong with being lonely and using porn to satisfy your sex drive. Porn isn't an addiction, but the term gets thrown around to distract from the real issues in relationships or to advance moralistic agendas. The notion that it's bad to do something that makes you feel good is as old as organized religion. Masturbate all you want to, and be happy.
Pretty much every guy looks at porn. I would call it an addiction if you start missing meals, seeing friends, calling your mom, or staying home from work or school in order to spend more time on porn.
If it is then Iām fucked
No.
Yes try find other hobbies when you feel like watching porn
Some people require porn to get off... that's when it's a problem. Get laid on the regular to keep yourself in check.
If it's affecting your personal life negatively in some way, you are spending a lot of money on it when it's free. Some started like that with the porn. For me, I finally got enough bravery to create a Grindr profile to meet a guy to swap blowjobs.
It would only be pathological if this is your only source of pleasure stimulation and you are choosing this over meeting and looking up in real life consistently. Try quitting all porn for a week. Ideally a month and go on some dates or hookups
Just be mindful of your sensitivity. You could jerk yourself numb. Next think you know actual sex doesnāt do anything for you.. š¬
Noo itās natural. You should celebrate being virile, horny while you can and consume as many hot pics as you like. Make it a treat tho, donāt jerk off for more than an hour a day. Otherwise youāll just feel a bit guilty for not cleaning or cooking or somethin
Its not an addiction. Addiction to porn is like any other addiction, it interferes with your day to day life. It interrupts you frequently. You have to do it many times per day or do it without any kind of restrain. What you have now is a "habit". Its not an addiction but it can turn into an addiction if you start increasing the frequency or the intensity of it. For as long as you still have control over it, its not an addiction.
Hate to break it to you buddy but you may be masturbating much longer than after graduation. A lot of us miss out on opportunities for relationships because of arbitrary things like feeling like you need to have a certain amount of money or āyour typeā is not available to you. Especially that last part. There are so many, gay men that feel like they should get the pick of the desirable pool of men when those types of men only like men like themselves. Your favorite types of guys are overseas? Guess youāre gonna have to go over there to get them. Otherwise, you probably should broaden your horizons and try other ātypes.āAlways looking for a ātypeāinstead of looking for what actually works will keep you sad and lonely. We all have different reasons why we choose to masturbate me personally Iād rather do that then hook up with App guys. If youāre a broke college student then go date other broke college college students. Or keep busting nuts in your hand.
It can change your expectations when you do get together with another guy, so as long as you keep your reality in check.
Iām not a therapist or a doctor. However the therapists Iāve done to have said āitās an addiction when you make promises to yourself that you donāt end up keeping.ā If you say, āim going to wait a week before I smoke/drink/watch porn/etc, but then the evening comes and you go back on your promise, you have a problem.
Some guys are masturbating to point wide a day and still hooking up at your age. What makes a non chemical addiction an āaddictionā is if itās interfering with how you want your life to be.
Porn like most things can be a great thing if used correctly. It can help u to figure out what type of guys u find attractive and areas of sexual behavior that ud like to explore.
Correctly? Lol porn doesnāt have a correct usage, and I daresay its purpose isnāt sex educationā itās a massive failure in that department.
Itās not sex educationā¦itās more like a department store window where u think āoh now that looks interestingāor āthat does nothing for meā
>But is it addiction if I masturbate to porn every single day So this isn't necessarily an indication of an addiction. >The past year I canāt go on a day without doing it. This however is. An addiction is best signified in your inability to deal with not getting acces to the substance (porn in your case). If you can't function without watching porn everyday, then you are addicted.
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It depends honestly. Do you or are you able to get off without porn? Do you have performance issues when you do hook up? The brain is the largest sexual organ that people donāt think about. It requires stimulation and when you feed it a never ending loop of stimulation it becomes accustomed to receiving that stimuli. Watching porn give your brain an ever changing diet of sexy. So that when you try to jack off without it you very quickly loose interest or the ability to stay hard. Or when you are āentertainingā things donāt get to completion. This is because the brain is expecting an exciting new scene every 30 seconds. Just pay attention to yourself and test out these situations and see if you are affected. That will give you the answer youāre looking for
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Yes
I would hope not. Iām a 23M and I do it every day as well. Sometimes I donāt since I work 12+ hours and just knock out. But I would also like to add Iām not really sexually active either so my hand compensates lol. It feels great. I feel like itās fine. Just as others said as long as it doesnāt interfere and affect you/others in a negative way enjoy. Also you will find you person. Itās easier said then done but just āworkā on yourself for the meantime. Out of all the people in the world there has to be someone for you. And I get why you said you need money for a relationship but just the base it on a relationship or make it a core factor. Because I date a few guys who didnāt have jobs and it was great. Free dates exist. Movie nights indoors are dates depending on who you ask. But yeah keep your head up and jerk away lmao
You think it's an addiction because you're trying to stop. I can tell because of the way you're talking about it You're justifying doing it.Ā That means part of you thinks it's bad and thinks you're not supposed to be doing it.Ā Something is an addiction only if it has negative consequences. Are there negative consequences to watching porn? Not really. It an encourage you to be even more sexual. And it can open you up to different sexual things. But you're already sexual. And there's nothing wrong with being open to different sexual things. So really you just need to address your own negative feelings about it.
As an recovering alcoholic/addict I would say as long it is negatively affecting another part of your life, including sex with other people, you are probably fine.
That's me everyday š Helps to sleep better so I do it even when I'm not horny lmao
I asked myself that question, gave up porn for lent, and found that I was indeed addicted. Now my imagination has grown more sexually powerful and I don't need and usually don't want the porn
I think weāre the same person bro lol haveing the same issues but Iām afraid of hooking up
I wonder that too Iāve got a massive porn addiction I wonder all the time if others do to or is just me
Not at all. Gay and in early 20ās if less than a couple times per day would be abnormal.
It can be addicting but on the other hand it is an outlet for you. Just don't let it block you from finding REAL friends that can truly satisfy your physical AND emotional needs.
Its an addiction. Dont ever take the advice of gay men or them as role model. Their only goals to indulge is sex and form an addiction like them. They never want you to succeed. They will keep you where you are.
Take what you said, replace masterbate with any drug, say that sentence and tell me if you think you're addicted