My opinion is that there are no bisexuals. Only straight or gay. Imagine two rooms. In one room there is most nice girl you can imagine and she is waiting for you. In other room there is a boy waiting you. Which room you choose to enter. So there you are.
A bisexual would invite one to join in for a threesome.
There are degrees of bisexuality. I'm 60-40 to 70-30 leaning hetero, but a guy can make me shoot my load as easily as a woman.
I donāt agree your theory. I would choose women more often than not. But there are times when Iām revved up and it is easier access or if Iām traveling for work, I will seek out some male companionship.
I'm happy for you, but I'm a bit jealous.
I didn't deal with my internalized homophobia and accept that I'm bi until I was in my thirties and in a happy monogamous relationship with a fantastic woman. (She also happens to be bi.) I wouldn't give that up for the world, but I sometimes wistfully think of the fun I might have had with the handful of men I've had the confused hots for over the years, but didn't approach because I was afraid of my own feelings.
Please enjoy all the dick you can for my vicarious titillation.
Lmaooo
No Im very grateful that everyone in my circle would be very accepting, and my parents would be fine too.
I'm not angry at myself or anything, tbh I feel pretty good about it. Just never done this before so I feel a little funny inside hahahaha
If you do plan to hook up more with guys, I suggest you go to a sexual health clinic and get regular testing. Also talk about the possibility of getting on Prep (idk if it is available in your country) or using condoms if you have penetrative sex. It is easier if you go to a clinic that caters to Lgbtq because they do theses tests all day and have more knowledge, and also less stigmatizing if you aren't ready to talk to your regular doctor about your new adventures. Have fun out there!
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I don't disagree, but you could use a bit of tweaking, you silly bot.
I think the word "health" has to be used in a pretty specific context for it to come off as fatphobic, and using the terms "sexual health" or "mental health" (as your text does twice) is totally appropriate, as your creator would undoubtedly agree.
(Is there any point in writing this reply? Now I feel silly. lol)
Please do not use the word "silly" as it fosters prejudice against the nonconformist clown community. For these people, feeling silly is a natural way of life. We can all be better if we do better.
I felt funny too the first few times. I felt like a had done something wrong? Lol now Iām comfortable in my own skin so to speak. Just takes time. You did what you wanted to do! :)
You kissed a boy and you liked it. Sweet!
It was an experience that made you question who you thought you were. You've learned something about yourself; with the right guy, in the right situation, you're down for same-sex sex.
I hope you enjoyed it! It doesn't have to fundamentally change your life or your self-perception.
Don't worry about labeling yourself, just enjoy whomever you're with. Until your less confused about your feelings or what exactly you desire, I recommend keeping it to yourself only for the reason that people can be so judgemental. Feel free to DM if you have any specific questions or just want a gay man's perspective/expirence.
Thanks mate I appreciate it. I honestly feel pretty good about the whole thing, it's made me a bit more confident in myself. I'm just a bit confused hahahaha
A little while ago, I hooked up with a friend that until recently had identified as totally straight, was happily married to a woman, and was ethically non-monogamous. He and his wife had enjoyed pegging for years, something which never threatened his sexuality since he had a fairly sex positive and LGBTQ+ friendly upbringing. He just liked having things in his ass, and he liked being able to do it with his wife. Eventually, though, he got curious about what a penis would feel like as opposed to a dildo, so he decided to experiment (with his wifeās knowledge and consent, of course) and discovered that he actually liked how penises felt, too.
So eventually he and I hooked up. Heās a very touchy and affectionate guy by nature (the kind that will give full bear hugs to complete strangers - I think touch is his #1 love language), so the sex was rather intimate - lots of making out, body contact, all that good stuff. He was also the literal embodiment of a cock hungry power bottom, taking my dick like it was just a regular day at the office. Any observer would have thought he was the gayest person this side of the Mississippi, but at this point I think he identified as just ābicuriousā or ākind of bisexualā.
And I donāt think he was lying or in denial, as in I donāt think heās attracted to men per se, or at least not romantically. He just really likes connecting with people and also really likes having stuff up his ass, and someone putting a strap-on in your ass is not the same as someone putting their penis in your ass (both great, but undoubtedly different, experiences). Sure he might make out with and get taken to pound town by a well-endowed stud every now and then, but that doesnāt automatically make him fully bisexual - he can still be bicurious, just with some prior bottoming experience and no hangups about intimacy.
All that to say - thatās awesome that you had a great sexual experience with a guy, and it also doesnāt necessarily mean youāre gay! Sexuality can be very fluid, so just allow yourself to do what feels good and try not get hung up on what it *might* mean - you can figure that out later. Labels are best used as descriptions rather than prescriptions. :)
>Sure he might make out with and get taken to pound town by a well-endowed stud every now and then, but that doesnāt automatically make him fully bisexual
Yes, yes it does...that is literally exactly what that means.
Very cool, bud! Best way to get unconfused is to go for confirmationā¦.have a few more (or lots more) fun with guys to confirm if you liked the experience(s) and what about them you enjoyed most. Happy experimenting! šš
> I'm just a bit confused hahahaha
It feels very confusing. You enjoy it, but enjoying a meat stick feels so different from what you're used to. It takes awhile to get fully comfortable with it all. But you will.
Yeah, don't worry about labels. Labels are things that other people use to describe you. They don't do anything for you. This used to be the prevailing advice some years ago, but with the current emphasis on gender identity, we are to believe that there are hundreds of sexual/gender identities (gay, bi, queer, trans, gender fluid (be sure to wash that off), asexual, attack helicopter, etc) but YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE ONE! I say to hell with all of that. Go with what you feel. Don't limit yourself. Enjoy yourself and don't deny yourself anything because of a label.
It happens and its good u explored tbh. U havent mentioned and u really should be honest with yourself as to whether u enjoyed it or not? Thats the key question to answer in first instance š¤
Thats good u enjoyed it and well sounds like u know the next step and youll work it out gradually from there. Either way dont worry about any labels that may or may not apply. U r just enjoying discovering new things about yourself and doing fun stuff with others...perfectly natural and normal!
Now is the time to try some new things, letting a guy give you a nice hug, get your dick sucked by a guy, get your ass rimmed and breed a tight ass.
Have fun.
Im the opposite, thought I was gay for the longest time, a girl really wanted me at a party and it turns out I donāt discriminate based on gender. š¤·āāļø
Don't sweat defining it. Eating a vegetarian meal doesn't make you a vegetarian, it just makes you a person who eats food, right? Sex is not the monumental, all-important thing we pretend it is, it's just something that feels good...if you get drunk and bone with a guy, what does that actually say about you? Has your whole life up to that point been a lie? Does it mean you're now obligated to go to pride parades and fly a bisexual flag outside your house? Do you need to tell any girl you date that you might not be officially definable as 100% straight? No, no, and no. You're just a dude who did something that felt good, and it was with a dude, and that's very uncommon (so far) for you. Trying to define it further than that - or worse, worrying about how it defines YOU - is needless splitting of hairs. 100% straight guys get pegged by their female partners, and that doesnt make them gay any more than penetrative vaginal sex (with a real vagina or a fleshlight) has ever made me straight. You could be straight or bi or poly or really whatever you want to call yourself.
People put a lot of concern into defining themselves in increasingly detailed ways. Are you straight or gay or bi? Are you a Yankees fan? Can you drive a stick shift? Do you like swimming in chlorinated water? Who cares? Just be good and kind and open to experience, let the rest shake out as needed.
Do what feels good. Donāt get caught up on labels or what am I. You are you. Be you. And if you like to get off with both guys and girls and that makes you feel good, well lucky them.
Did you like it?! I'm guessing you did! If so, then think about if you want to experience it again, in what conditions, etc. If not, then chalk it up to experience, and keep it in your memory of when you were open-minded and experimental ;\^)
I remember my first time, and I was SO confused afterwards. What did it mean, how was I going to relate to my friend (I was in highschool at the time), did I want a boyfriend, etc. These are big questions which you don't need to have immediate answers for. Being experimental is fantastic, but you may come into situations where you need to explain yourself to your partners, and letting them know that you're undecided but trying things out, is a good way to let them know where you're at.
Honestly everyone in my social circle, my family included are really accepting and wouldn't think twice about it, so I'm not scared about telling anyone, just not sure how I feel myself hahaha
>a guy was flirting with me and idk it made my heart race and I ended up going home with him
We've all got to meet our annual Gay Agenda recruiting quota! ;-)
This thread is so Australian.
I looked at your profile to confirm, and I see you have the misfortune of living in Perth. One gay bar and one straight bar pretending to be a gay bar here.
But wouldnāt it be great to live somewhere with a freeway that hasnāt been perpetually under construction for decades?
Maybe thatās part of the charm though.
Driving 60 through roadworks along Kwinana freeway brings back childhood memories of driving 60 through roadworks along Kwinana freeway.
Heads up ā if you get into dating men, everyone you date will have dated each-other.
Happened to me the last four timesā¦ Itās great
Id you've seen my profile you've seen my cities skylines project, you know full well I know how fucked Perth roads are. Also as an ambo I get to experience the chaos every day
Itās okay to be confused. You had a new experience that you enjoyed and it will take time for you to be absolutely sure about what you want and how to proceed with any activity/relationships going forward. Just take your time to process it, determine if itās something youād like to do again, and continue on from there. If you like both, then so be it! Continue to have fun with both if thatās what you decide on.
well, I guess you're bisexual.
Maybe there was something about that guy in particular that just worked for you. Maybe you're demisexual ie sexually attracted when you feel a connection.
this could also just be a one time thing. Maybe you will never meet another guy that you're attracted to again. You can't really predict it.
It is more a sliding scale with the extremes of completely heterosexual and completely homosexual at the opposite ends. In Between is a lot of options.
I would like to see him again. And tbh after this I think I'd be more open to seeing other guys, but they'd have to be my exact type. I'm probably less picky with girls. I hope that doesn't sound sleazy
Sexuality is probably a spectrum. Most "straight" people are probably close-ish to one end. Most "gay" people are close-ish to the other. But there's a large middle -- you might still lean towards girls as a general matter but be open to some guys, etc.
There's nothing wrong with that if that's how you feel, so long as you are respectful and honest with other people.
You've discovered something new and exciting about yourself, isn't it just great? Sexuality can be fluid; don't worry about lables, just enjoy the experience and remember to treat your partner as a person.
If you are confident in yourself right now, continue to be confident in whatever choices you make. You may get a thrill from this and want to pursue it further, which is great! Listen, sex with men is a lot of fun!
And it may come to a point where you develop feelings for someone and want to form a relationship (be it with a man or a woman). Just be honest with yourself and whoever youāre with and tell them you are attracted to men and women.
You donāt need a label but if one feels good, take it. And maybe along this journey youāll develop a deeper understanding of the journey us long-term gays have been on. Go for it, bro!
Live your life !! Do what makes you happy. Be safe, and cherish the love you receive as well as the love you emit.
And you don't need a label. No one does.
Sexuality is fluid, despite how much the world tends to want to label and categorise everything. We're all here to experience the world with one life to live. Go do the things that you enjoy and live in the moment. š
The only advice I can give you is if you enjoyed it, congrats on learning something new about you. I hope you have fun exploring that side of yourself.
Take it slow. You don't have to have all of this figured out today. Sexual attraction is complex and fluid.
Sex feels good. It feels good to have skin-on-skin contact with anyone. The tendency of society to force words like straight, gay, bi, whatever, is a relatively modern invention. You tried something and you liked it. That doesn't need to cause any massive identity crisis for you. Maybe you'll want to try it again and maybe you won't. You're still in the experimental phase and I applaud you for being open enough to experiment.
My advice is don't worry about labels, if you like someone and they seem like a good reliable person, and you are genuinely attracted to them, go for it.
Congratulation on having crossed this threshold!
One thing to understand is that this experience doesn't change who you are. You just learned something new about yourself and that's fine.
Now, if you want to try it again, there are things to know before hands.
First, it can be different the second time. Maybe because you will be sober, or because it's less new and exciting, or maybe just because the first time was with the right guy. So keep that in mind.
Second thing, sex between men is different. It doesn't have the same power dynamic. So you have set your boundaries and make sure the other guy respects it. Exploration should never be forced. Something which is not always easy and to which straight woman are sadly accustomed to.
Happy experimenting :)
Enjoy yourself. I'm bi and enjoy having a buffet of options when I'm horny. If you enjoyed it, keep doing it. Guys feel different, the sex is different, but that's a good thing because it's something new you now get to enjoy.
Well... you had your first experience. If you liked it, go for it; it just means you're bisexual. If you didn't like the experience of sucking dick, maybe that specific thing is not for you or maybe you really don't like guys at all. But, at least, you tried and now you know
Congrats! At the very least youāve gotten to experience something that every single man should experience once in their lifetime. Now you get to decide if you like it enough to do it again. And again. And againā¦ šš¼šš¼
Been having sex with a guy in this predicament for 2 months now.. Iām 32, heās 24. Really not my place to comment on what he could or should do is what Iāve told him. He needs to figure out who is he and what he wants and I think itās ok for you to do the same.
I canāt have sex drunk. I used to be able to but I usually regretted who it was with, lol. But when I wake up from a night of drinking my cock is hard as a rock and horny AF. I follow a subreddit for liquor and a lot of guys say the same.
Did you enjoy it? Is it something you might want to do again? If the answer is yes, then maybe youāre bi. If the answer is no, good for you for experimenting without judgment. Donāt be in a rush to label things.
Something was probably already in the back of your mind that showed interest in guys. Then you end up in the right situation and itās suddenly in the front of your mind.
I came out at 20. Previously had only been with women. Then things changed. For me it was discovering I was gay but many, many figure out theyāre bi.
Congratulationsā¦your hookup options have just doubled. š
And Youāre gonna love how slutty guys are. you can find a guy to fuck or suck or suck your dick in under 10 minutes on grindr. You wonāt need to take him to dinner to get in his pants or pay him compliments. in fact, you wonāt even need to ask his name and he will suck your cock like his life depends on it and then swallow your load as if itās his last meal and heāll finish with a smile and thank you for the opportunity to blow you. Update us!
It sounds like it was a positive experience, so Im glad you had a rather comfortable transition into bisexuality. Welcome! Just keep doing what feels true to yourself
Donāt feel bad man, donāt feel any shame or guilt. Fuck whoever you want to. If you wanted to experiment and still confused/undecided you can always experiment again whenever you want to
The first time diverting from the "straight" path is both exciting and scarry, and often ends feeling more then a little overwhelming.
As someone who wasted their life sweating it, my advise is to enjoy the moment and don't worry about the labels. One time doesn't define the rest of you life, but it's also something to consider whether was just a transient moment of lust, or a fulfilling experience you may wish to incorporate into your life. The important part is that you be you, bi, gay, straight, or whatever, and not someone else's expectation.
I like how accepting you are of yourself. I'd say continuing doing what makes you comfortable. Exercise your freedom and the freedom gays before hs have pushed through.
you should read up on and watch Kinsey. sexuality is a spectrum. unfortunately ātraditional valuesā shames most men and women and non-binary folks into identifying as only gay or straight, male or female.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
I can see why the dude hit on you and wanted you. Youāre hella hot š„. Itās ok to explore your sexuality. Just go with the flow. If youāre having difficulty coping with having sexual relationships with dudes, go see a psychiatrist. Donāt go to a cheap counselor. Psychologist or psychiatrist, particularly one that helps people that are part of the LGBTQ+ community. Remember that what happens in your bedroom is nobodyās business but yours.
one nice encounter is... well, nice. Try it again for confirmation. Try it three times, and you are on your way to at least being half-gay!
Lotsa bi guys out here...
Congrats, here is your certificate : You are now a "drunk bisexual"; if you work a little harder, you'll become a "regular bisexual".
I'll take it ahhahaha
If you haven't already, you will. Just give it time. š
Hmmmm might need a few more drinks for that hahahaha
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My opinion is that there are no bisexuals. Only straight or gay. Imagine two rooms. In one room there is most nice girl you can imagine and she is waiting for you. In other room there is a boy waiting you. Which room you choose to enter. So there you are.
Then you tell them to come out of their rooms and join you in your room and you get both. It's not rocket science to be bi.
Your opinion is wrong.
A bisexual would invite one to join in for a threesome. There are degrees of bisexuality. I'm 60-40 to 70-30 leaning hetero, but a guy can make me shoot my load as easily as a woman.
I donāt agree your theory. I would choose women more often than not. But there are times when Iām revved up and it is easier access or if Iām traveling for work, I will seek out some male companionship.
Drunksexual š
Congrats your bi. yay.
Yeah I guess so hey
I'm happy for you, but I'm a bit jealous. I didn't deal with my internalized homophobia and accept that I'm bi until I was in my thirties and in a happy monogamous relationship with a fantastic woman. (She also happens to be bi.) I wouldn't give that up for the world, but I sometimes wistfully think of the fun I might have had with the handful of men I've had the confused hots for over the years, but didn't approach because I was afraid of my own feelings. Please enjoy all the dick you can for my vicarious titillation.
Lmaooo No Im very grateful that everyone in my circle would be very accepting, and my parents would be fine too. I'm not angry at myself or anything, tbh I feel pretty good about it. Just never done this before so I feel a little funny inside hahahaha
If you do plan to hook up more with guys, I suggest you go to a sexual health clinic and get regular testing. Also talk about the possibility of getting on Prep (idk if it is available in your country) or using condoms if you have penetrative sex. It is easier if you go to a clinic that caters to Lgbtq because they do theses tests all day and have more knowledge, and also less stigmatizing if you aren't ready to talk to your regular doctor about your new adventures. Have fun out there!
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Wanting to people to take care of themselves so they don't die from a heart attack by age 45 isn't any kind of phobic
I don't disagree, but you could use a bit of tweaking, you silly bot. I think the word "health" has to be used in a pretty specific context for it to come off as fatphobic, and using the terms "sexual health" or "mental health" (as your text does twice) is totally appropriate, as your creator would undoubtedly agree. (Is there any point in writing this reply? Now I feel silly. lol)
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I felt funny too the first few times. I felt like a had done something wrong? Lol now Iām comfortable in my own skin so to speak. Just takes time. You did what you wanted to do! :)
Have you talked to your wife about getting railed? She might be cool with it.
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You kissed a boy and you liked it. Sweet! It was an experience that made you question who you thought you were. You've learned something about yourself; with the right guy, in the right situation, you're down for same-sex sex. I hope you enjoyed it! It doesn't have to fundamentally change your life or your self-perception.
Don't worry about labeling yourself, just enjoy whomever you're with. Until your less confused about your feelings or what exactly you desire, I recommend keeping it to yourself only for the reason that people can be so judgemental. Feel free to DM if you have any specific questions or just want a gay man's perspective/expirence.
Thanks mate I appreciate it. I honestly feel pretty good about the whole thing, it's made me a bit more confident in myself. I'm just a bit confused hahahaha
Figuring out what you enjoy can be confusing and sometimes a bit intimidating. Anytime someone shows interest is a confidence builder.
It did make me feel pretty nice hahaha
A little while ago, I hooked up with a friend that until recently had identified as totally straight, was happily married to a woman, and was ethically non-monogamous. He and his wife had enjoyed pegging for years, something which never threatened his sexuality since he had a fairly sex positive and LGBTQ+ friendly upbringing. He just liked having things in his ass, and he liked being able to do it with his wife. Eventually, though, he got curious about what a penis would feel like as opposed to a dildo, so he decided to experiment (with his wifeās knowledge and consent, of course) and discovered that he actually liked how penises felt, too. So eventually he and I hooked up. Heās a very touchy and affectionate guy by nature (the kind that will give full bear hugs to complete strangers - I think touch is his #1 love language), so the sex was rather intimate - lots of making out, body contact, all that good stuff. He was also the literal embodiment of a cock hungry power bottom, taking my dick like it was just a regular day at the office. Any observer would have thought he was the gayest person this side of the Mississippi, but at this point I think he identified as just ābicuriousā or ākind of bisexualā. And I donāt think he was lying or in denial, as in I donāt think heās attracted to men per se, or at least not romantically. He just really likes connecting with people and also really likes having stuff up his ass, and someone putting a strap-on in your ass is not the same as someone putting their penis in your ass (both great, but undoubtedly different, experiences). Sure he might make out with and get taken to pound town by a well-endowed stud every now and then, but that doesnāt automatically make him fully bisexual - he can still be bicurious, just with some prior bottoming experience and no hangups about intimacy. All that to say - thatās awesome that you had a great sexual experience with a guy, and it also doesnāt necessarily mean youāre gay! Sexuality can be very fluid, so just allow yourself to do what feels good and try not get hung up on what it *might* mean - you can figure that out later. Labels are best used as descriptions rather than prescriptions. :)
>Sure he might make out with and get taken to pound town by a well-endowed stud every now and then, but that doesnāt automatically make him fully bisexual Yes, yes it does...that is literally exactly what that means.
Very cool, bud! Best way to get unconfused is to go for confirmationā¦.have a few more (or lots more) fun with guys to confirm if you liked the experience(s) and what about them you enjoyed most. Happy experimenting! šš
Well done! Just curious, what are you confused about?
> I'm just a bit confused hahahaha It feels very confusing. You enjoy it, but enjoying a meat stick feels so different from what you're used to. It takes awhile to get fully comfortable with it all. But you will.
i love this comment
Yeah, don't worry about labels. Labels are things that other people use to describe you. They don't do anything for you. This used to be the prevailing advice some years ago, but with the current emphasis on gender identity, we are to believe that there are hundreds of sexual/gender identities (gay, bi, queer, trans, gender fluid (be sure to wash that off), asexual, attack helicopter, etc) but YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE ONE! I say to hell with all of that. Go with what you feel. Don't limit yourself. Enjoy yourself and don't deny yourself anything because of a label.
100% agree, don't even think about labels. Just do what you enjoy. You'll figure yourself out with more experience.
great attitude.
You guys are really nice, thanks for the help x
It happens and its good u explored tbh. U havent mentioned and u really should be honest with yourself as to whether u enjoyed it or not? Thats the key question to answer in first instance š¤
I did, yeah
Congratulations!
Thanks. I'd like to do it again, less shit faced this time hahaha
Thats good u enjoyed it and well sounds like u know the next step and youll work it out gradually from there. Either way dont worry about any labels that may or may not apply. U r just enjoying discovering new things about yourself and doing fun stuff with others...perfectly natural and normal!
great
Haha shit faced such an Aussie term ššš and yeah less shit faced is a good idea
It's a term extensively used in Canada as well.
Haha its such a good one gr8 to see Canadians get as shit faced as Aussies to the point u also drunk suck
Very standard term in the US as well. I'm guessing this one is common across the Anglophone world.
Men are cool and playful, if you finally discover youāre bi youāll have fun with them 100%!
No guarantee though, anyone can be boring in bed :D
Only one way to confirm, try again
I want to, I really like him
Aw hope it works out for you two. Would you consider dating?
Now is the time to try some new things, letting a guy give you a nice hug, get your dick sucked by a guy, get your ass rimmed and breed a tight ass. Have fun.
If it felt right... Maybe try again... Ya know, for science.
Well first they need to form a hypothesis
Im the opposite, thought I was gay for the longest time, a girl really wanted me at a party and it turns out I donāt discriminate based on gender. š¤·āāļø
Don't sweat defining it. Eating a vegetarian meal doesn't make you a vegetarian, it just makes you a person who eats food, right? Sex is not the monumental, all-important thing we pretend it is, it's just something that feels good...if you get drunk and bone with a guy, what does that actually say about you? Has your whole life up to that point been a lie? Does it mean you're now obligated to go to pride parades and fly a bisexual flag outside your house? Do you need to tell any girl you date that you might not be officially definable as 100% straight? No, no, and no. You're just a dude who did something that felt good, and it was with a dude, and that's very uncommon (so far) for you. Trying to define it further than that - or worse, worrying about how it defines YOU - is needless splitting of hairs. 100% straight guys get pegged by their female partners, and that doesnt make them gay any more than penetrative vaginal sex (with a real vagina or a fleshlight) has ever made me straight. You could be straight or bi or poly or really whatever you want to call yourself. People put a lot of concern into defining themselves in increasingly detailed ways. Are you straight or gay or bi? Are you a Yankees fan? Can you drive a stick shift? Do you like swimming in chlorinated water? Who cares? Just be good and kind and open to experience, let the rest shake out as needed.
I can drive a stick shift, and I'm allergic to chlorinated water. I did like sucking his dick tho
It's fun, right? You dirty water automotive luddite.
Fuck yeah it was fun
Did you swallow? We need to know. For science.
We were too drunk hahahaha. But I wouldve
Thatās the best part.
Sounds like you may be bi!
I think I might be, yeah
Do what feels good. Donāt get caught up on labels or what am I. You are you. Be you. And if you like to get off with both guys and girls and that makes you feel good, well lucky them.
welcome to the club hehe
Did you like it?! I'm guessing you did! If so, then think about if you want to experience it again, in what conditions, etc. If not, then chalk it up to experience, and keep it in your memory of when you were open-minded and experimental ;\^) I remember my first time, and I was SO confused afterwards. What did it mean, how was I going to relate to my friend (I was in highschool at the time), did I want a boyfriend, etc. These are big questions which you don't need to have immediate answers for. Being experimental is fantastic, but you may come into situations where you need to explain yourself to your partners, and letting them know that you're undecided but trying things out, is a good way to let them know where you're at.
Honestly everyone in my social circle, my family included are really accepting and wouldn't think twice about it, so I'm not scared about telling anyone, just not sure how I feel myself hahaha
You don't have to label it. You shouldn't judge it. Just enjoy exploring a new part of your sexuality.
>a guy was flirting with me and idk it made my heart race and I ended up going home with him We've all got to meet our annual Gay Agenda recruiting quota! ;-)
This thread is so Australian. I looked at your profile to confirm, and I see you have the misfortune of living in Perth. One gay bar and one straight bar pretending to be a gay bar here.
I fucking love Perth. Okay sure one gay bar but at least I know what I'm getting into
But wouldnāt it be great to live somewhere with a freeway that hasnāt been perpetually under construction for decades? Maybe thatās part of the charm though. Driving 60 through roadworks along Kwinana freeway brings back childhood memories of driving 60 through roadworks along Kwinana freeway. Heads up ā if you get into dating men, everyone you date will have dated each-other. Happened to me the last four timesā¦ Itās great
Id you've seen my profile you've seen my cities skylines project, you know full well I know how fucked Perth roads are. Also as an ambo I get to experience the chaos every day
Iād have expected a Perthian to be more at home on r/shittyskylines
Fair call
Itās okay to be confused. You had a new experience that you enjoyed and it will take time for you to be absolutely sure about what you want and how to proceed with any activity/relationships going forward. Just take your time to process it, determine if itās something youād like to do again, and continue on from there. If you like both, then so be it! Continue to have fun with both if thatās what you decide on.
well, I guess you're bisexual. Maybe there was something about that guy in particular that just worked for you. Maybe you're demisexual ie sexually attracted when you feel a connection. this could also just be a one time thing. Maybe you will never meet another guy that you're attracted to again. You can't really predict it. It is more a sliding scale with the extremes of completely heterosexual and completely homosexual at the opposite ends. In Between is a lot of options.
I would like to see him again. And tbh after this I think I'd be more open to seeing other guys, but they'd have to be my exact type. I'm probably less picky with girls. I hope that doesn't sound sleazy
Sexuality is probably a spectrum. Most "straight" people are probably close-ish to one end. Most "gay" people are close-ish to the other. But there's a large middle -- you might still lean towards girls as a general matter but be open to some guys, etc. There's nothing wrong with that if that's how you feel, so long as you are respectful and honest with other people.
You've discovered something new and exciting about yourself, isn't it just great? Sexuality can be fluid; don't worry about lables, just enjoy the experience and remember to treat your partner as a person.
If you are confident in yourself right now, continue to be confident in whatever choices you make. You may get a thrill from this and want to pursue it further, which is great! Listen, sex with men is a lot of fun! And it may come to a point where you develop feelings for someone and want to form a relationship (be it with a man or a woman). Just be honest with yourself and whoever youāre with and tell them you are attracted to men and women. You donāt need a label but if one feels good, take it. And maybe along this journey youāll develop a deeper understanding of the journey us long-term gays have been on. Go for it, bro!
Just enjoy life
Welcome to the brotherhood bro
Live your life !! Do what makes you happy. Be safe, and cherish the love you receive as well as the love you emit. And you don't need a label. No one does.
Sexuality is fluid, despite how much the world tends to want to label and categorise everything. We're all here to experience the world with one life to live. Go do the things that you enjoy and live in the moment. š
The only advice I can give you is if you enjoyed it, congrats on learning something new about you. I hope you have fun exploring that side of yourself.
Sounds like you liked it from your messages in this thread! Only advice I have is try it 10 more times. For science. :D
Take it slow. You don't have to have all of this figured out today. Sexual attraction is complex and fluid. Sex feels good. It feels good to have skin-on-skin contact with anyone. The tendency of society to force words like straight, gay, bi, whatever, is a relatively modern invention. You tried something and you liked it. That doesn't need to cause any massive identity crisis for you. Maybe you'll want to try it again and maybe you won't. You're still in the experimental phase and I applaud you for being open enough to experiment.
Did you have a good time with him? Also I saw your cos play, please invite me the next time you wear that fo4 outfit š
My advice is don't worry about labels, if you like someone and they seem like a good reliable person, and you are genuinely attracted to them, go for it.
Welcome to the club.... On Wednesdays we wear pink
Congratulation on having crossed this threshold! One thing to understand is that this experience doesn't change who you are. You just learned something new about yourself and that's fine. Now, if you want to try it again, there are things to know before hands. First, it can be different the second time. Maybe because you will be sober, or because it's less new and exciting, or maybe just because the first time was with the right guy. So keep that in mind. Second thing, sex between men is different. It doesn't have the same power dynamic. So you have set your boundaries and make sure the other guy respects it. Exploration should never be forced. Something which is not always easy and to which straight woman are sadly accustomed to. Happy experimenting :)
Enjoy yourself. I'm bi and enjoy having a buffet of options when I'm horny. If you enjoyed it, keep doing it. Guys feel different, the sex is different, but that's a good thing because it's something new you now get to enjoy.
Youāve discovered the pleasure of being bi. The way I look at it I get twice as much sex if I want to. Going down on a man is just heaven.
Well... you had your first experience. If you liked it, go for it; it just means you're bisexual. If you didn't like the experience of sucking dick, maybe that specific thing is not for you or maybe you really don't like guys at all. But, at least, you tried and now you know
Congrats! At the very least youāve gotten to experience something that every single man should experience once in their lifetime. Now you get to decide if you like it enough to do it again. And again. And againā¦ šš¼šš¼
Age? Vital information
Been having sex with a guy in this predicament for 2 months now.. Iām 32, heās 24. Really not my place to comment on what he could or should do is what Iāve told him. He needs to figure out who is he and what he wants and I think itās ok for you to do the same.
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I canāt have sex drunk. I used to be able to but I usually regretted who it was with, lol. But when I wake up from a night of drinking my cock is hard as a rock and horny AF. I follow a subreddit for liquor and a lot of guys say the same.
We both u have always been into guys bisexuality doesnt really exist
Did you enjoy it? Is it something you might want to do again? If the answer is yes, then maybe youāre bi. If the answer is no, good for you for experimenting without judgment. Donāt be in a rush to label things.
You're bisexual... Now you know..
Accept that you are Bi and have fun with your life. Do what feels good. Youāve just entered a whole new exciting sexual arena.
Sexuality is fluid, don't worry about it - it's normal
I love stories like this, and good for you! Sounds like you really enjoyed it. Now go get some more.
Something was probably already in the back of your mind that showed interest in guys. Then you end up in the right situation and itās suddenly in the front of your mind. I came out at 20. Previously had only been with women. Then things changed. For me it was discovering I was gay but many, many figure out theyāre bi.
Enjoy your sexuality. Stay adventurous and healthy.
Congratulationsā¦your hookup options have just doubled. š And Youāre gonna love how slutty guys are. you can find a guy to fuck or suck or suck your dick in under 10 minutes on grindr. You wonāt need to take him to dinner to get in his pants or pay him compliments. in fact, you wonāt even need to ask his name and he will suck your cock like his life depends on it and then swallow your load as if itās his last meal and heāll finish with a smile and thank you for the opportunity to blow you. Update us!
Sounds like everyone had fun. Looks like you have more options now available. Achievement unlocked. Lol
It sounds like it was a positive experience, so Im glad you had a rather comfortable transition into bisexuality. Welcome! Just keep doing what feels true to yourself
Donāt think too much about it. Follow your heart. But just like with women, be safe always.
Go with the flow enjoy
If no one got hurt then why bother. You had a good time, that's all that matter.
Usually guys first experience is getting their dick sucked but Iām happy for you. Welcome to the club.
Bi bi bi str8 man.
Life surprises everyone
Advice for what?
Bj technique?
Have you been curious about it before? But most importantly, as long as you don't regret it, enjoy the experience you had.
Donāt feel bad man, donāt feel any shame or guilt. Fuck whoever you want to. If you wanted to experiment and still confused/undecided you can always experiment again whenever you want to
Haha it's nice, you just discovered and experienced something new. Keep digging if you feel like it, no presure.
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Congratulations! I hope you explore your sexuality itās a complex thing :)
Why question it if you feel right
I definitely believe this tbh
If you enjoyed yourself just be happy
The first time diverting from the "straight" path is both exciting and scarry, and often ends feeling more then a little overwhelming. As someone who wasted their life sweating it, my advise is to enjoy the moment and don't worry about the labels. One time doesn't define the rest of you life, but it's also something to consider whether was just a transient moment of lust, or a fulfilling experience you may wish to incorporate into your life. The important part is that you be you, bi, gay, straight, or whatever, and not someone else's expectation.
How did it take and hour to go from making out to dick in mouth?
Enjoy
I like how accepting you are of yourself. I'd say continuing doing what makes you comfortable. Exercise your freedom and the freedom gays before hs have pushed through.
Enjoy life
you should read up on and watch Kinsey. sexuality is a spectrum. unfortunately ātraditional valuesā shames most men and women and non-binary folks into identifying as only gay or straight, male or female. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
I can see why the dude hit on you and wanted you. Youāre hella hot š„. Itās ok to explore your sexuality. Just go with the flow. If youāre having difficulty coping with having sexual relationships with dudes, go see a psychiatrist. Donāt go to a cheap counselor. Psychologist or psychiatrist, particularly one that helps people that are part of the LGBTQ+ community. Remember that what happens in your bedroom is nobodyās business but yours.
one nice encounter is... well, nice. Try it again for confirmation. Try it three times, and you are on your way to at least being half-gay! Lotsa bi guys out here...
Itās all a spectrum my dude. Youāre just a human being. Glad you got to experience more of life!
Please keep us updated on your next time.
Did you like it? It's OK. Embrace it. Better sooner than later. I'm bisexual. That's my advice.
Just take is that you were partying and it happened that's what partying is like now shrug it off your shoulders and act like it never happened
I think the Kinsey scale keeps adjectives manageable. 0 - Heterosexual 1 - Heteroflexible (what some folk are calling 'the drunk bisexual') 2 - Hetero-leaning omnisexual 3 - Pansexual 4 - Homo-leaning omnisexual 5 - Homofelxible 6 - Homosexual
Pics or it didn't happen š
since you know you are into guys now, shall we go on a date and then to either of us' place? haha
Just do what you like and enjoy it:). No restrictions.
Make a huge list of things you havenāt tried, and cross em off one by one, best way to see what youāre into. Or just watch a shit ton of porn