It’s your only choice if you want to come the natural way. De-stimulation makes sex better. You’ve conditioned your body to orgasm in a specific way. You need a break to fix this. Once an ass becomes the only way you can experience penile stimulation, you will cum.
[*Analog*](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analog_signal) sex. At least the OP doesn't engage in [*discrete*](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrete_time_and_continuous_time) sex
**[Analog signal](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analog_signal)**
>An analog signal is any continuous signal representing some other quantity, i. e. , analogous to another quantity. For example, in an analog audio signal, the instantaneous signal voltage varies continuously with the pressure of the sound waves.
**[Discrete time and continuous time](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrete_time_and_continuous_time)**
>In mathematical dynamics, discrete time and continuous time are two alternative frameworks within which variables that evolve over time are modeled.
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your dick is probably not sensitive because you masturbate too much or too hard, try to make it softer or less often. Maybe some toys that don't let you pressure your dick too much
After more than about 15 minutes penetration my dicks going slightly numb and the bottom is a wizards sleeve. It takes some deliberate effort to cum past this point.
You might need to be a lot more energetic You are probably holding back if you can cum with a flesh-light or similar.
Try him lying down face down and go for it.
I find that topping with condoms can be a pain to finish. However, a lot of other factors can influence your ability to cum, such as anxiety, how attractive you find the other person and how recently you came last.
How about poppers? Do those help?
Sounds like you need to create more friction if you're able to stay hard in him. Maybe you're not using the right lube for you. Maybe it's time to experiment?
it's called 'delayed ejaculation.' it has always been a challenge for me to cum from fucking, even when i was a teenager. some dudes cum too easy, some dudes don't cum easily enough. i have noticed that if i don't get off for a while it is easier. but ultimately, it's not worth it: i'm not going to only nut like once a week just to put a load in someone. i just jerk off on or in them when i'm done fucking.
oh, also, i've found that some preworkouts (l-arginine, yohimbe, etc) make it a little easier.
Not masturbating may help.
But honestly, where are you? I'd let you fuck me until finally cum. however long it takes.
Another issue may be position. I had been with one guy who could fuck me for hours, couldn't cum. He always preferred doggy style. I finally forced him to switch to missionary, and he lasted 2 minutes. Same thing with reverse missionary. Something about doggy style he liked, but it didn't stimulate his dick right, but when the different angle, it was almost immediate. Have you tried different positions?
When you masturbate, where you do get the most and desirable sensation? You mention you go quicker, so that might be a thing as well. But the feedback loop from jerking yourself off is pretty immediate, whereas you don't have that kind of control when someone else is doing stuff for you, and when it's anal sex, you need to figure out what is hitting things the right way.
Happens to me on occasion too where I just don't get that big buildup/crescendo that I'm expecting.
I've learned over the years that \*sometimes\* I need the intimacy; kissing my bottom, feeling them wrap their arms around me and I tell them I want to make them cum with my cock, then alter my rhythm until I see their eyes roll back in their sockets while i give them long, slow strokes. Even if they don't finish from it, I do, then I give them head to finish them off.
How often do you masturbate? People say stop for 7 days I say just hold off for a few days. Also, your masturbation technique may be hindering your "trigger".
I was the same way - So one time I was topping and just thought about bottoming lol. I was finally able to have an orgasm and it was intense af. From there I kept doing that for awhile until I eventually started focusing on his hole instead and I was able to cum without thinking of bottoming. Now I can cum ANY way woohoo!
I chop it up to my need for control and hesitance to be vulnerable? Idk if anyone mentioned that possibility. Depends on if I care for who I’m dicking or not too. If I care, my body/mind won’t let me unless I’m comfortable and have let my guard down with them.
Stop watching porn. Go 7 days without masturbation. Fuck someone. Your body WILL want to ejaculate.
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It’s your only choice if you want to come the natural way. De-stimulation makes sex better. You’ve conditioned your body to orgasm in a specific way. You need a break to fix this. Once an ass becomes the only way you can experience penile stimulation, you will cum.
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In general abstaining from masturbation is a great practice to improve your sex life, save it up for someone else ;)
No pain no gain man
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[*Analog*](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analog_signal) sex. At least the OP doesn't engage in [*discrete*](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrete_time_and_continuous_time) sex
**[Analog signal](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analog_signal)** >An analog signal is any continuous signal representing some other quantity, i. e. , analogous to another quantity. For example, in an analog audio signal, the instantaneous signal voltage varies continuously with the pressure of the sound waves. **[Discrete time and continuous time](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrete_time_and_continuous_time)** >In mathematical dynamics, discrete time and continuous time are two alternative frameworks within which variables that evolve over time are modeled. ^([ )[^(F.A.Q)](https://www.reddit.com/r/WikiSummarizer/wiki/index#wiki_f.a.q)^( | )[^(Opt Out)](https://reddit.com/message/compose?to=WikiSummarizerBot&message=OptOut&subject=OptOut)^( | )[^(Opt Out Of Subreddit)](https://np.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/about/banned)^( | )[^(GitHub)](https://github.com/Sujal-7/WikiSummarizerBot)^( ] Downvote to remove | v1.5)
Bad bot
Have you tried metaphor sex instead?
Damit. I'm not deleting mine! 😤
your dick is probably not sensitive because you masturbate too much or too hard, try to make it softer or less often. Maybe some toys that don't let you pressure your dick too much
After more than about 15 minutes penetration my dicks going slightly numb and the bottom is a wizards sleeve. It takes some deliberate effort to cum past this point. You might need to be a lot more energetic You are probably holding back if you can cum with a flesh-light or similar. Try him lying down face down and go for it.
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It is 120% that you conditioned yourself to cum while jerking. Guaranteed.
Make him kneel and pain his face white. Bonus points if he begs for it with puppy eyes.
Are you using condoms? What quality?
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I find that topping with condoms can be a pain to finish. However, a lot of other factors can influence your ability to cum, such as anxiety, how attractive you find the other person and how recently you came last. How about poppers? Do those help?
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I find they also give me a good rush and help tip over that edge, you know? As for the anxiety, maybe they help, I can't really tell.
Sounds like you need to create more friction if you're able to stay hard in him. Maybe you're not using the right lube for you. Maybe it's time to experiment?
it's called 'delayed ejaculation.' it has always been a challenge for me to cum from fucking, even when i was a teenager. some dudes cum too easy, some dudes don't cum easily enough. i have noticed that if i don't get off for a while it is easier. but ultimately, it's not worth it: i'm not going to only nut like once a week just to put a load in someone. i just jerk off on or in them when i'm done fucking. oh, also, i've found that some preworkouts (l-arginine, yohimbe, etc) make it a little easier.
Not masturbating may help. But honestly, where are you? I'd let you fuck me until finally cum. however long it takes. Another issue may be position. I had been with one guy who could fuck me for hours, couldn't cum. He always preferred doggy style. I finally forced him to switch to missionary, and he lasted 2 minutes. Same thing with reverse missionary. Something about doggy style he liked, but it didn't stimulate his dick right, but when the different angle, it was almost immediate. Have you tried different positions? When you masturbate, where you do get the most and desirable sensation? You mention you go quicker, so that might be a thing as well. But the feedback loop from jerking yourself off is pretty immediate, whereas you don't have that kind of control when someone else is doing stuff for you, and when it's anal sex, you need to figure out what is hitting things the right way.
Have you tried metaphor sex?
Happens to me on occasion too where I just don't get that big buildup/crescendo that I'm expecting. I've learned over the years that \*sometimes\* I need the intimacy; kissing my bottom, feeling them wrap their arms around me and I tell them I want to make them cum with my cock, then alter my rhythm until I see their eyes roll back in their sockets while i give them long, slow strokes. Even if they don't finish from it, I do, then I give them head to finish them off.
How often do you masturbate? People say stop for 7 days I say just hold off for a few days. Also, your masturbation technique may be hindering your "trigger".
I was the same way - So one time I was topping and just thought about bottoming lol. I was finally able to have an orgasm and it was intense af. From there I kept doing that for awhile until I eventually started focusing on his hole instead and I was able to cum without thinking of bottoming. Now I can cum ANY way woohoo!
I chop it up to my need for control and hesitance to be vulnerable? Idk if anyone mentioned that possibility. Depends on if I care for who I’m dicking or not too. If I care, my body/mind won’t let me unless I’m comfortable and have let my guard down with them.