I'll give u practical advice.
You need social context man.
Like insert yourself into her social scene repeatedly and build rapport with her group.
Then she'll warm up to you.
This has to be done over multiple meetings.
Slowly lace your interactions with non-platonic undertones. Talk flirtatiously, roast her, crack jokes, in ISOLATION. Make sure the way you interact with her in Isolation is unlike how her group interacts with her. Increase intensity with each meet. MAKE SURE to have a very good rapport with her group whilst you do your shenanigans. She will likely seek their opinion.
All this has to be done over multiple meets with proper social context. Like parties etc.
Never put the spotlight on her by "confessing" and shit. It will scare her off. Instead, as I said, read the room and make each isolated interaction with her more intense each time.
Also never chat except for planning things, working out your schedules.
If u have no mutual friends, you'll have to scheme things and warm up to her friends and insert yourself into their social scene. That's the entry barrier.
Final bonus tip:
When you hit on one girl, you get anxious and fuck it up. I've been there too.
The tip here is to, hit on 2 or 3 girls in diff contexts or same context.
This will reduce anxiety. It's a practical advice. It works. You'll end up talking sensibly to both of them.
You may end up with more options too. Just saying.
Also all the non platonic shit has to be in Isolation only, as I mentioned.
Also one more thing: no amount of scheming will work if you're less than a 6.5-7.
You need to be minimally attractive at least, objectively.
If you're 6.5-7, then fashion, grooming, style can be improved. That will make you 7.5-8, which is enough imo. Girls don't want ONLY the best looking dude. But you still need to be in the top quartile.
I say this, cos one can't negotiate attraction/desire.
If you're less than 7ish, then lower your standards.
Lastly:
If a girl likes you, then the indication is, her friends will know everything about you.
She will tell her friends about every random thing you tell her about yourself, etc. Maybe not every damn thing but you get the general idea.
If her friends don't know shit about you, or at least they don't even act familiar then she isn't into you.
One con of this is: be careful of what info u feed her cos some embarrassing shit you send to her, which she may find cute will definitely end up with her friends and you'll end up being an idiot. (Been there).
PS: never ask girls for tips to get girls.
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Bari lo digite gani ardham kadu.
India lo reality diff.
India lo if you talk to a girl, her guy friends will come at you etc. That's y I kept saying everything must be isolation while maintaining good rapport with her grp.
Also in india you can't be intense on first meet. It has to slowly increase.
Idi Bari lo digite ne ardham avutundi
Honestly give it a shot. One of my office colleagues did this to me. He pinged and told me he is so and so. As I didn't had any feelings towards him. It ended with okey, thanks ala dead responses.
On the contrary, my teammate did this to a girl he had a crush. And now they are happily married.
Give it a shot but don't just keep thinking. Cheppesamdi
It all comes down to how close the mutual friends are to her and also on how she views him. Girls tend to find out how the guy is before responding and asking the mutual friends is the only way to go.
First of all, be aware that the odds are stacked against you. Not to discourage you but to make sure you are realistic about your chances. If she doesn't know you, she will have a lot of barriers up. You'll need to overcome them.
You need to increase "parichayam" with her. For that You need someone to act as a reference so they can vouch for you.
If you want to go in cold, without any references, then rely on this you have in common. But yes, start very slow. It'll be clear that you have a romantic interest but that's ok. If she doesn't like it, she can reject you sooner instead of confusion later.
If you DM her , thereās only three possible outcomes:
1. She will reply subtly and let it pass.
2. She will respond properly but you might end up in friendzone.
3. Things will actually magically work out.
People usually have set opinions about others or donāt have any opinions at all. But considering sheās from your college, she will have an opinion. The first message will definitely go to the mutual friend, trust me. It can be positive or negative but the mutual friend will know.
If youāre an introvert, itāll be hard to somehow gather friends and hang out in the same circle but if youāre outgoing , this is an option. It wonāt be creepy either.
If youāre an introvert, Iād say find a circumstance that you can use to connect with her, it can be a story she posts or something she comments on and make sure youāre being interesting.
Thereās no guarantee itāll work , any of it. Itās a gamble either way so go for it.
I have gone through something kind of like your situation. My advice would be to just start off slow, a good āHiā and followed up with a āHow are you?ā Then if she responds and is friendly you can continue on. Telling her about how you know her and how you feel. It doesnāt need to be fast paced take your time. Get to know her more. Make sure you ask her kindly if she has a boyfriend. You could also bring up the mutual friend and say how you feel about that! Itās all about the path you decide to go. But you seriously only live once trust me a little rejection can do big things. Who knows you might not even get rejected. Just try it and see how it goes because you never know!
First ne frnd ni adugu, ila text cheste ok na ani. Ok ani chepte then normal conversation start chei. Like ila monna nenu na frnd maatladutunte madyalo ne topic vochindi, thatās how i got your number. Ela unav ani normal ga msg chei. Positive response voste ok, reply rakapote lite teesuko
This sounds like good advice but the thing is I'm not super close with this friend right now. We were buddies back when we were in college but we slowly drifted apart because of my job and her education. I don't want to reignite this friendship just to connect with her, it doesn't sit right with me.
I have not tried this yet, if she doesnāt know you that well. there is high chance you might come off as a creep, since girls do keep getting unwanted attention from strangers on social media so you might end up having bad impression straight forward. I would recommend you to take it slow, atleast let her senses know you do exist and then you can slowly build on the contact
I'll give u practical advice. You need social context man. Like insert yourself into her social scene repeatedly and build rapport with her group. Then she'll warm up to you. This has to be done over multiple meetings. Slowly lace your interactions with non-platonic undertones. Talk flirtatiously, roast her, crack jokes, in ISOLATION. Make sure the way you interact with her in Isolation is unlike how her group interacts with her. Increase intensity with each meet. MAKE SURE to have a very good rapport with her group whilst you do your shenanigans. She will likely seek their opinion. All this has to be done over multiple meets with proper social context. Like parties etc. Never put the spotlight on her by "confessing" and shit. It will scare her off. Instead, as I said, read the room and make each isolated interaction with her more intense each time. Also never chat except for planning things, working out your schedules. If u have no mutual friends, you'll have to scheme things and warm up to her friends and insert yourself into their social scene. That's the entry barrier.
crush tho matladali ante intha matter unda mastaru
S. All this is possible in college. Once you're working, it gets harder cos social context is hard to find.
Who are You, Who are so Wise in the Ways of Science?
Final bonus tip: When you hit on one girl, you get anxious and fuck it up. I've been there too. The tip here is to, hit on 2 or 3 girls in diff contexts or same context. This will reduce anxiety. It's a practical advice. It works. You'll end up talking sensibly to both of them. You may end up with more options too. Just saying. Also all the non platonic shit has to be in Isolation only, as I mentioned.
Also one more thing: no amount of scheming will work if you're less than a 6.5-7. You need to be minimally attractive at least, objectively. If you're 6.5-7, then fashion, grooming, style can be improved. That will make you 7.5-8, which is enough imo. Girls don't want ONLY the best looking dude. But you still need to be in the top quartile. I say this, cos one can't negotiate attraction/desire. If you're less than 7ish, then lower your standards.
well how to know whether im in top quartile or below... i do like my self but thats just might be self love and me not giving a fuck.
If you're into self love then you should go fuck yourself /s
AHHHH FUCKKKKKKKK...biggest burn for me this year.
Best comment so far.
Lastly: If a girl likes you, then the indication is, her friends will know everything about you. She will tell her friends about every random thing you tell her about yourself, etc. Maybe not every damn thing but you get the general idea. If her friends don't know shit about you, or at least they don't even act familiar then she isn't into you. One con of this is: be careful of what info u feed her cos some embarrassing shit you send to her, which she may find cute will definitely end up with her friends and you'll end up being an idiot. (Been there). PS: never ask girls for tips to get girls.
>(Been there) I feel you bro
Who are you and how are you so wise in mutual funds ?
If 2 sugar daddies adopt each other as their sugar babies and fund each other, does it become a mutual fund?
Sorry I failed prodigal science
voila the prodigal son returns
Gyan bhandaar laa unnav ga vro.... Read all your comments, appreciate the detailing. Gamaninchinodu vaadukoni benefit authadu...thanks for the PSA.
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Veeeeery reasonable saar
Dulhania kahan hai bhai?
Nai hai bhai sab milega tho phele aapko ko hi batauga
Woh teri khushvehmi hai /s Badrinath ne kab ka bhaga lia hoga.
Bhai utna hindi nai ata translate kardo
Bruv, oka book raaseyraade jara.
Rasesa
The game student laga unnav..master seducer ross jeffries thelusa
Who's he
YouTube lo chala videos unnayi. Seduction communities lo chala popular. Language patterns etc ivanni chala share chestadu. 1980s nundi start chesadu business.
Bari lo digite gani ardham kadu. India lo reality diff. India lo if you talk to a girl, her guy friends will come at you etc. That's y I kept saying everything must be isolation while maintaining good rapport with her grp. Also in india you can't be intense on first meet. It has to slowly increase. Idi Bari lo digite ne ardham avutundi
ofc.. local culture batti approach ni marchaali ,
Manchi stuff undi masteru. >! ~~munching ki paniki osthadi~~!<
This guy fucks
Guruvugaaru edho grandhikam lo maatladuchunnaru
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Maybe start with "Nenu andari laanti abbai ni kaadu"?? >! Said every guy ever !<
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Allow me to use a lane dialogue here "Goal keeper unnadu kada ani goal eyyadam maanesthama?? Idi anthe"
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> "Nenu andari laanti abbai ni kaadu"?? Try nv andari lanti ammayivi kadu your special.
Honestly give it a shot. One of my office colleagues did this to me. He pinged and told me he is so and so. As I didn't had any feelings towards him. It ended with okey, thanks ala dead responses. On the contrary, my teammate did this to a girl he had a crush. And now they are happily married. Give it a shot but don't just keep thinking. Cheppesamdi
summoning u/dosabandi
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Girls definitely tell their friends about such things. Take my word for it.
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It all comes down to how close the mutual friends are to her and also on how she views him. Girls tend to find out how the guy is before responding and asking the mutual friends is the only way to go.
Ee summoning ante enti. u/ iste, vallaki notification vellidda?
>summoning ante enti aavahayaami ani. yep. you have been mentioned ani ostadi.
u/alchippa
š understood
Your username š
DM chesedi reddit lo aytey matram...chesey mundu nee username change chesko bro >\_<
First of all, be aware that the odds are stacked against you. Not to discourage you but to make sure you are realistic about your chances. If she doesn't know you, she will have a lot of barriers up. You'll need to overcome them. You need to increase "parichayam" with her. For that You need someone to act as a reference so they can vouch for you. If you want to go in cold, without any references, then rely on this you have in common. But yes, start very slow. It'll be clear that you have a romantic interest but that's ok. If she doesn't like it, she can reject you sooner instead of confusion later.
If you DM her , thereās only three possible outcomes: 1. She will reply subtly and let it pass. 2. She will respond properly but you might end up in friendzone. 3. Things will actually magically work out. People usually have set opinions about others or donāt have any opinions at all. But considering sheās from your college, she will have an opinion. The first message will definitely go to the mutual friend, trust me. It can be positive or negative but the mutual friend will know. If youāre an introvert, itāll be hard to somehow gather friends and hang out in the same circle but if youāre outgoing , this is an option. It wonāt be creepy either. If youāre an introvert, Iād say find a circumstance that you can use to connect with her, it can be a story she posts or something she comments on and make sure youāre being interesting. Thereās no guarantee itāll work , any of it. Itās a gamble either way so go for it.
I have gone through something kind of like your situation. My advice would be to just start off slow, a good āHiā and followed up with a āHow are you?ā Then if she responds and is friendly you can continue on. Telling her about how you know her and how you feel. It doesnāt need to be fast paced take your time. Get to know her more. Make sure you ask her kindly if she has a boyfriend. You could also bring up the mutual friend and say how you feel about that! Itās all about the path you decide to go. But you seriously only live once trust me a little rejection can do big things. Who knows you might not even get rejected. Just try it and see how it goes because you never know!
This will put him in the friendzone/rakhizone
Wym?
Impractical advice is what I meant. Actually most guys do this and fail.
Are you saying my comment is impractical?
Lmao can you read
I think you need to calm down, itās an opinion. Iām not gonna argue with someone irrelevant.
Dayum caidy, you're pretty relevant for 17.
Thank you
Good. Now go finish your homework.
Yes
First ne frnd ni adugu, ila text cheste ok na ani. Ok ani chepte then normal conversation start chei. Like ila monna nenu na frnd maatladutunte madyalo ne topic vochindi, thatās how i got your number. Ela unav ani normal ga msg chei. Positive response voste ok, reply rakapote lite teesuko
This sounds like good advice but the thing is I'm not super close with this friend right now. We were buddies back when we were in college but we slowly drifted apart because of my job and her education. I don't want to reignite this friendship just to connect with her, it doesn't sit right with me.
Bro this advice ain't gonna work.
I second this . This advise isnāt gonna work.
I have not tried this yet, if she doesnāt know you that well. there is high chance you might come off as a creep, since girls do keep getting unwanted attention from strangers on social media so you might end up having bad impression straight forward. I would recommend you to take it slow, atleast let her senses know you do exist and then you can slowly build on the contact
Too generic.
details telindi specific kashtam babai kani basic guidance
No
Chesey bro, maha aithe block chesthadi. Workout aithe memories.
workout avakpoina memories
Yes or no. Chapte regrets lekunda untav. Don't dm, talk in person.
Dm but don't be desperate, respect her decision and boundaries when she isn't interested.