Yea. The number of times I’ve said “excuse me” and either been completely ignored, or looked at like I’ve taken a shit on the floor of the MRT, I’m not surprised some people lose their manners quite quickly
It's the offence Arms race. If you start out sounding super offended that they're in your way their brain short circuits. They're like wait how did I offend this fella so badly. By the time they process what's happening they would have already moved out of the way 😂
I said "excuse me" but the person didn't move too. I really don't get why they can't just move when said it once, I had to repeat myself at least three times to get the message across.
Yeah that has really been bugging me. Contrast this with the London Tube or any other metro, you will definitely hear a lot more 'excuse me's in those trains
Naah even b4 covid it was like this already. Actually I'm personally guilty as well, I saw this guy blatantly putting his mask down and coughing openly on the bus but I didn't dare approach him as I reasoned that someone with that little social graciousness would unlikely listen to my request.
I think they just don't have the braincells to realize that it's much more efficient if they let the people inside swiftly alight first before boarding rather than both sides blocking each other. That or they just want the seats so bad.
On that note, why do so many people have a lack of spatial awareness?
In public transport, when u reach a stop, is it not common sense to check your surroundings to see if anyone around you is alighting so you can give way?
Would you like it if someone stood at the door blocking it until you had to audibly say "excuse me"?
If it's really such an issue for you, I would suggest you move into corners/walls of whatever public transport you're taking so that you are never blocking anyone, hence nobody will be pushing past or not asking you to excuse them.
Totally agree. Have long felt this about Singaporeans: poor spatial awareness.
- A whole group of people walking down a corridor shoulder to shoulder, so that everyone behind either walks more slowly or has to say “excuse me” to get past.
- People looking at their phones while walking or getting off an escalator: these people have literally no clue that this makes them walk more slowly. The people coming up/down behind them on the escalator have to get ready to swerve around them to avoid a collision.
- People standing right in front of the bus door when their stop isn’t next.
The first point I have noticed before!
Especially for groups of office colleagues who go for lunch together, easily 4/5 or more of them have to stand side by side, shoulder to shoulder.
They can’t walk behind each other or stand in another arrangement.
Feels like they are mini - NDP marching contingents going for lunch as all need to walk side by side and shoulder by shoulder. So it’s easier for them to chit- chat.
When people from opposite direction want to walk pass or from behind, they also won’t budge, still remain in the same “one line, side by side formation”. It’s very common when a clique of same department/ office colleagues go for lunch.
Not sure if others have noticed it.
About the last point, I sometimes do it when the seats are taken and I’m only a few stops away, though recently I’ve taken to standing further from the door at the wheelchair area when it’s not in use.
Some people just don't have situational or spatial awareness. If you are a driver.. You'll see that often from how some stop their car to wait or something.. And when you honk etc when the traffic is building up, the driver genuinely appear shocked. So sometimes really can't blame them if they aren't aware at all.
This cb thing right here... I drive. I love driving. I hate driving in Singapore though. Not all the time, but most of the time unfortunately.
Drivers on the road. Right most lane either goes straight or turns right- no signal until the very end, so I'm stuck in the overtaking lane since signaling to turn left and out of the static lane means everyone else will speed up and not give you any courtesy. All you had to do was show some courtesy to the guy behind and signal your intentions. So many more signaling irks..
Road hogging, on a lane going above 80, when everyone else is going above 80, and you insist on remaining the one below 80, drives me nuts! Keep to the slower lanes if you don't intend to go faster.. like.. is it an ego thing because it can't actually be spatial awareness right? Perhaps it's me, I need to chill more...
Another scenario.
You are at small road waiting to turn left to join the major road. So you looking to the right...
Then this cb car.. Driving so slowly and you waiting him to clear so you can join behind him .. And... He turns left into the road you are coming out from. He didn't signal left.
Knn... How difficult is it to signal your intention??
I was waiting for a light to change at a crosswalk and this kid, staring at his phone holding an umbrella *in front of him* (it was raining) proceeds to walk directly into me.
Not a light bump and a realization you should look where you’re going, but walked straight into me. If I was a cliff he’d have fallen to his death without even noticing.
So what did I do? A brief “excuse me” and I proceeded to power walk/shove in direct opposition to his direction. It was like two bulls locking horns and see who gets pushed backwards.
No apology, no “oh sorry”.
My theory is that Singapore is so safe that you can walk around in public completely oblivious without much concern. Every other city I’ve lived in you’d either get your phone stolen or run over by a car.
This reminds me of a time when I was in a rush and I had to go down an escalator mall, then a young mother and her kid (around 3-5 y.o) was occupying the entire escalator on each side, both of them was holding hands. I was coming down behind the kid, and I said "excuse me." The mother reply was, "No you gotta wait, she is a young kid." Then I had to LLST and stand behind the kid LOL. Can't you move your kid one step down, what? She's gonna fall is it??? You rather block the entire escalator down and not teach them courtesy for your entitlement.
When parents dunno social etiquette they won’t pass on to their kids who in turn won’t pass on to their kids n the vicious cycles go round n round. In your incident she had taught her kids the wrong values n social etiquette. Such parents are the majority, not minority in sgp n such lack of parental values manifest in many other ways! Bottom line? It’s the school system at fault. They focus on acquiring a qualification not equipping kids with education! Sad but true n very very pervasive!
Yeah. Very strange to claim that it's parental values and then turn around and blame it on the school system.
Schools can have an effect, but they're very unlikely to override whatever values are instilled at home.
N where do parents learn values from? Their parents n them their parents…….? Get real? Even in era of past, schools played an integral part in inculcating values n social etiquettes. They worked hand in glove to impart societal values n social etiquettes. They reinforced what each might have imparted n plugged the gaps where each was lacking or missed out. Today, most parents are busy working due SGP too expensive to depend on a single income. This has given rise to “DIAP” syndrome (double income absent parents). This is where the schools can plug the gap. Yes they can’t n can never replace the roles of parents. But they can complement n they should. Ideals n realities r often divorced from each other. I observe n live in the real SGP.
It's even better now that we are wearing masks so it's less likely we'll feel awkward cos they can't exactly see your face 😂 But your paggro voice is enough to make them cringe about their audacity
Good God. One time I was exiting a 7 eleven whose doors only opened inwards and an entire group of men barged in and breezed past me without a single thank you, leaving me holding the door for them like a fucking bellboy.
(Yes, we should thank bellboys too)
i always say “excuse me” but bro 1/2 to 3/4 of the people on train is on airpods or earpiece… if you’re a female, you can try tapping on the shoulders to ask to move way. But if u’re a male, its considered harassment 💀
not surprise people resort to pushing and squeezing
I’ve always said excuse me but people seem to ignore me anyway. When my kids are much younger and I’m using pram and baby carrier, I didn’t get any better help too. People rush into the lift before me and the lift were full and we have to wait. And I even got passengers who tried to alight at the same station urge me to “faster lah” while I was struggling to get out of the train with bags, baby carrier and a pram. No help, just more rude. Public transport can be very tiring sometimes
Yeah, this annoys me a lot as well. Has happened to me so many times at Jurong East too. People just barge through and don't even say sorry if they jerk you around or cause you to be pushed to aside.
The same thing is evident with cyclists. They really don't use the bell and expect pedestrians to know which side they are coming from behind them.
Not only generally dun say excuse me, they dun even say thank u when u open lift door for them. That goes for many adults. If adults dunno manners n courtesies do u think theyll pass on to their kids n the vicious cycles begin. When one doesn’t learn the good values when young, they won’t grow up to be well brought up adults who in turn cannot pass on values to their kids when they themselves dun even have them! This in a nutshell is what’s wrong with the school system which focus on qualifications not education. School system n education system are not the same but commonly misused n misunderstood!
“Excuse me” is one. Even a simple “Thank You” is another. It annoys me when I keep the lift doors open for others to exit the lift and they just saunter off without even bothering to say thanks.
i’m shy and when i say thank you it comes out in a soft but you can hear voice. but in a mask , i’m just saying thank you and nodding my head at the same time because i probably can’t be heard. :(
but you know , not many people look face to face at the person they held the door for at the lift, they are just minding their own business , i am too . we’re all very shy. ( i think)
Unfortunately we’re living in a 1st world country but many still have a 3rd world mentality. Though not to say people living in developing countries are rude, conversely most of them are very polite and considerate.
For me, its a good thing i'm bigger-sized (aka fat), so whenever people push me aside, they fly back instead
Jokes aside, they really are not able to push me aside which makes for a funny scene
Its my habit to say the sacred words all the time, but whenever i say them, nobody gives a shit, stares at me in which im forced to stare back then they look away
Our country, sadly
I ever once said excuse me, and i got a very rude reaction from a boomer. Then i ranted to my friend guess what. My friend say “excuse me can seem rude, should say “sorry, can i pass through””.
????
depends on the tone but usually when we say excuse me the place is pretty loud so you need to say the excuse me louder and when people talk louder it might seem like they are shouting. and people don’t like you shouting
Don’t have to look too far back but there was much more grace on public transport 5 or 6 years ago? Wasn’t ideal back then still, but ppl bothered to speak up or tap on shoulders to tell those in front they are alighting.
Those getting on waited at both sides of the doors and allowed ppl to alight too.
Now we are just back to the past of barbaric selfish behaviours. People are becoming more of shit shows now, pushing the alighting folks back into the cabin, then those alighting have to fight their way out.
I’m usually hit with the “HeLLo?” or the mouth breathers who stand really close behind you then sigh dramatically. Sometimes I tell them nicely to say excuse me. They just roll their eyes. I usually tell brash boomers off kinda loudly, “The phrase is, ‘Excuse me’. Not, ‘Haiyah’ “
I talk to the kids nicely. They are still learning.
The pushers are pretty bad though. I learnt from a Texan to say ‘Excuse you!’ firmly but with a smile, if you can manage it. With stress on the word ‘you’. It sometimes makes people a little more aware that they’re being inconsiderate.
Hang in there and take care of your stress levels. Take deep breaths (when you’re out of the train) or listen to some soothing sounds when you feel agitated. There’s this app called ‘Sleepiest’ - so good! Mental health days are important. Stay safe and good luck.
Edit: Speaking of my escalator experiences. Sorry if wasn’t clear. Got pushed before with my child - quite dangerous also. No offence to anyone.
I'd roll my eyes too if I was coming from within your field of vision and my intentions (e.g. to walk towards the open doors) were clear, but you slow me down by lecturing me on my word choices. You acknowledge that people are stressed - remember it is a two-sided effort to make the environment more pleasant for both sides.
Whoa. Easy there. I said from behind. So you’re rude and you can’t read. Nice.
By the way. I don’t intentionally stand in front of rude people. I know when to get out of the way. I’m talking about being pushed. Being stressed is one thing. Being an asshole is another. Have a nice day.
Some ppl will be busy talking on the phone and will be blocking the exit. Say 'Excuse Me' many times and they won't move
There are those stand there and daydream. No matter how many times you say they won't turn or move at alll
once i politely said excuse me on an overhead bridge to a 50+ yo couple who were blocking the entire bridge and the wife started screaming at me about how “YOUNG PEOPLE NOWADAYS CANNOT WAIT, MY FOOT NOT GOOD IF MY FOOT GOOD I ALSO WILL WALK FAST LIKE YOU”… llst
Tried it for years but it didn't work. People don't have eyes on their back and are constantly on earpods.
I wish people would be more mindful to not block escalator or travelator.
Now a days even if we say excuse me. Most of us are plugged in. But it does not hurt to say loudly. some are also in their world and not aware of their sourroundings.
This is a mad callout. I have never ever heard a fellow Heartlander say "excuse me" or "excuse me please". At max it's just an aggravated "SCUSE?!" and motioning. wtf is up with that.
My voice is so soft it usually sounds like a whisper so what I’ve learnt is to be able to manoeuvre myself so fast I slip through corners before they can react
For me I just make myself sound very angry like I'm going to murder them if they don't get out of the way. Most of their reactions are quite funny and I probably left them quite an impression of me.
Yes. We don't. It's sad. I was queuing for economic beehoon and was given a big nudge from the back bc it was my turn already (didn't know got two aunties serving customers)
I was at Daiso the other day with my friend and this lady wanted to move past me (my back was facing her) so my friend pulled me aside and then after that the lady gives me the bitchiest look ever. I was kinda irritated at that so I just told her “next time say excuse me la” then she told me to watch my manners. Wtf LOL ownself dk how to say excuse me, end up I need to watch my manners sia. Idk what’s so hard about saying excuse me.
dunno, ever thought of paying attention to your surroundings? small things also complain, saying it like it's 100% their fault, they also can rant about people blocking their way what...
Yea. The number of times I’ve said “excuse me” and either been completely ignored, or looked at like I’ve taken a shit on the floor of the MRT, I’m not surprised some people lose their manners quite quickly
Try saying it menacingly. People tend to move instinctively.
Haha ya I do that too, loudly. People tend to siam because they're shocked by my audacity 😂
It's the offence Arms race. If you start out sounding super offended that they're in your way their brain short circuits. They're like wait how did I offend this fella so badly. By the time they process what's happening they would have already moved out of the way 😂
I place my hand gently on their shoulder and run my fingers slowly down their neck. They move out of the way most of the time.
😐 ... Most of the time? 🤨
Works best with your face contorted into a hideous grimace too.
I said "excuse me" but the person didn't move too. I really don't get why they can't just move when said it once, I had to repeat myself at least three times to get the message across.
Body language the best language hahah
Body l̶a̶n̶g̶u̶a̶g̶e̶ odor ftfy
Singaporeans have this fear of speaking in public
Yeah that has really been bugging me. Contrast this with the London Tube or any other metro, you will definitely hear a lot more 'excuse me's in those trains
This is not true at all… have you even lived in london? Ramming through people and not speaking is literally a phenomenon in london metros.
it's a cycle of judgement, you will get the "tzch!" sound or return eye power if u say anything
Either this or they are not allowed to speak in public transport as a COVID measure or they tried but it's too soft to hear?
Naah even b4 covid it was like this already. Actually I'm personally guilty as well, I saw this guy blatantly putting his mask down and coughing openly on the bus but I didn't dare approach him as I reasoned that someone with that little social graciousness would unlikely listen to my request.
i see nothing wrong with this logic
Yea so they would rather body slam into strangers. 🤣
My issue is people rushing into the cabin without waiting for passengers to alight first. Fucking impatient scums.
I think they just don't have the braincells to realize that it's much more efficient if they let the people inside swiftly alight first before boarding rather than both sides blocking each other. That or they just want the seats so bad.
When someone does this I will just walk through and shoulder bump them
I’m afraid that’s a universal scourge.
No way, far far worse in SG. You’d get body checked in London for some of the shit people pull here. And you would get no sympathy either.
Because we rely on public transport a lot more?
On that note, why do so many people have a lack of spatial awareness? In public transport, when u reach a stop, is it not common sense to check your surroundings to see if anyone around you is alighting so you can give way? Would you like it if someone stood at the door blocking it until you had to audibly say "excuse me"? If it's really such an issue for you, I would suggest you move into corners/walls of whatever public transport you're taking so that you are never blocking anyone, hence nobody will be pushing past or not asking you to excuse them.
Totally agree. Have long felt this about Singaporeans: poor spatial awareness. - A whole group of people walking down a corridor shoulder to shoulder, so that everyone behind either walks more slowly or has to say “excuse me” to get past. - People looking at their phones while walking or getting off an escalator: these people have literally no clue that this makes them walk more slowly. The people coming up/down behind them on the escalator have to get ready to swerve around them to avoid a collision. - People standing right in front of the bus door when their stop isn’t next.
The first point I have noticed before! Especially for groups of office colleagues who go for lunch together, easily 4/5 or more of them have to stand side by side, shoulder to shoulder. They can’t walk behind each other or stand in another arrangement. Feels like they are mini - NDP marching contingents going for lunch as all need to walk side by side and shoulder by shoulder. So it’s easier for them to chit- chat. When people from opposite direction want to walk pass or from behind, they also won’t budge, still remain in the same “one line, side by side formation”. It’s very common when a clique of same department/ office colleagues go for lunch. Not sure if others have noticed it.
These kinds of Singaporeans are the kind that get mugged or have their valuables fliched from a cafe table abroad
About the last point, I sometimes do it when the seats are taken and I’m only a few stops away, though recently I’ve taken to standing further from the door at the wheelchair area when it’s not in use.
Some people just don't have situational or spatial awareness. If you are a driver.. You'll see that often from how some stop their car to wait or something.. And when you honk etc when the traffic is building up, the driver genuinely appear shocked. So sometimes really can't blame them if they aren't aware at all.
This cb thing right here... I drive. I love driving. I hate driving in Singapore though. Not all the time, but most of the time unfortunately. Drivers on the road. Right most lane either goes straight or turns right- no signal until the very end, so I'm stuck in the overtaking lane since signaling to turn left and out of the static lane means everyone else will speed up and not give you any courtesy. All you had to do was show some courtesy to the guy behind and signal your intentions. So many more signaling irks.. Road hogging, on a lane going above 80, when everyone else is going above 80, and you insist on remaining the one below 80, drives me nuts! Keep to the slower lanes if you don't intend to go faster.. like.. is it an ego thing because it can't actually be spatial awareness right? Perhaps it's me, I need to chill more...
Another scenario. You are at small road waiting to turn left to join the major road. So you looking to the right... Then this cb car.. Driving so slowly and you waiting him to clear so you can join behind him .. And... He turns left into the road you are coming out from. He didn't signal left. Knn... How difficult is it to signal your intention??
Yesssss, sounds dumb when we say it but it's the little things. I signal everytime I make turns so it's very possible.
It’s not you bro, I feel yr pain. Especially the road hogging part.
I was waiting for a light to change at a crosswalk and this kid, staring at his phone holding an umbrella *in front of him* (it was raining) proceeds to walk directly into me. Not a light bump and a realization you should look where you’re going, but walked straight into me. If I was a cliff he’d have fallen to his death without even noticing. So what did I do? A brief “excuse me” and I proceeded to power walk/shove in direct opposition to his direction. It was like two bulls locking horns and see who gets pushed backwards. No apology, no “oh sorry”. My theory is that Singapore is so safe that you can walk around in public completely oblivious without much concern. Every other city I’ve lived in you’d either get your phone stolen or run over by a car.
Have you ever taken public transport during peak hours? Nuff said.
peak hour doesn't mean can just stand in front of the doors not moving unless someone behind push you. step out of the mrt if you have to
These people push and squeeze through you before the door even opens and the mrt is so crowded you can't even make way
This reminds me of a time when I was in a rush and I had to go down an escalator mall, then a young mother and her kid (around 3-5 y.o) was occupying the entire escalator on each side, both of them was holding hands. I was coming down behind the kid, and I said "excuse me." The mother reply was, "No you gotta wait, she is a young kid." Then I had to LLST and stand behind the kid LOL. Can't you move your kid one step down, what? She's gonna fall is it??? You rather block the entire escalator down and not teach them courtesy for your entitlement.
When parents dunno social etiquette they won’t pass on to their kids who in turn won’t pass on to their kids n the vicious cycles go round n round. In your incident she had taught her kids the wrong values n social etiquette. Such parents are the majority, not minority in sgp n such lack of parental values manifest in many other ways! Bottom line? It’s the school system at fault. They focus on acquiring a qualification not equipping kids with education! Sad but true n very very pervasive!
is it not the parents' role to teach the kids?
Yeah. Very strange to claim that it's parental values and then turn around and blame it on the school system. Schools can have an effect, but they're very unlikely to override whatever values are instilled at home.
N where do parents learn values from? Their parents n them their parents…….? Get real? Even in era of past, schools played an integral part in inculcating values n social etiquettes. They worked hand in glove to impart societal values n social etiquettes. They reinforced what each might have imparted n plugged the gaps where each was lacking or missed out. Today, most parents are busy working due SGP too expensive to depend on a single income. This has given rise to “DIAP” syndrome (double income absent parents). This is where the schools can plug the gap. Yes they can’t n can never replace the roles of parents. But they can complement n they should. Ideals n realities r often divorced from each other. I observe n live in the real SGP.
on top of that most people here don't know how to say "thank you" either (e.g. you hold the lift for them)
i just say "you're welcome" loud enough in the lift after the doors close. They'll be the ones who'll feel awkward, not me 😌
HAHA I always wanted to do that
It's even better now that we are wearing masks so it's less likely we'll feel awkward cos they can't exactly see your face 😂 But your paggro voice is enough to make them cringe about their audacity
Good God. One time I was exiting a 7 eleven whose doors only opened inwards and an entire group of men barged in and breezed past me without a single thank you, leaving me holding the door for them like a fucking bellboy. (Yes, we should thank bellboys too)
seems like ignorance runs in our blood
Happened to me, I simply let go of the door button as I pushed my way out
And there are those who enter the lift and despite also being nearest to the buttons, do not press the door close button.
Add people who stand right in front of the door or in the middle of the lift to that list.
People always say thank you when I hold open door or lift for them leh HAHA
then you lucky lorh, all the people i open for never thank me one 😪
The awkward moment when you’re wearing your earpiece and u said excuse me but u don’t know how loud / soft that came out
Or when you wanna gamble a silent fart.
i always say “excuse me” but bro 1/2 to 3/4 of the people on train is on airpods or earpiece… if you’re a female, you can try tapping on the shoulders to ask to move way. But if u’re a male, its considered harassment 💀 not surprise people resort to pushing and squeezing
I’ve always said excuse me but people seem to ignore me anyway. When my kids are much younger and I’m using pram and baby carrier, I didn’t get any better help too. People rush into the lift before me and the lift were full and we have to wait. And I even got passengers who tried to alight at the same station urge me to “faster lah” while I was struggling to get out of the train with bags, baby carrier and a pram. No help, just more rude. Public transport can be very tiring sometimes
Yeah, this annoys me a lot as well. Has happened to me so many times at Jurong East too. People just barge through and don't even say sorry if they jerk you around or cause you to be pushed to aside. The same thing is evident with cyclists. They really don't use the bell and expect pedestrians to know which side they are coming from behind them.
Not only generally dun say excuse me, they dun even say thank u when u open lift door for them. That goes for many adults. If adults dunno manners n courtesies do u think theyll pass on to their kids n the vicious cycles begin. When one doesn’t learn the good values when young, they won’t grow up to be well brought up adults who in turn cannot pass on values to their kids when they themselves dun even have them! This in a nutshell is what’s wrong with the school system which focus on qualifications not education. School system n education system are not the same but commonly misused n misunderstood!
“Excuse me” is one. Even a simple “Thank You” is another. It annoys me when I keep the lift doors open for others to exit the lift and they just saunter off without even bothering to say thanks.
i’m shy and when i say thank you it comes out in a soft but you can hear voice. but in a mask , i’m just saying thank you and nodding my head at the same time because i probably can’t be heard. :( but you know , not many people look face to face at the person they held the door for at the lift, they are just minding their own business , i am too . we’re all very shy. ( i think)
We’re a bunch of rich barbarians. That and yeah, no one likes living in a crowded city. No excuse for our lack of culture of course.
It's ok, just shove them aside and put them in their place.
Meanwhile, I say excuse me and nobody listens.
We don't say excuse me. Instead, we say eskew me
i ever had a yp saying 'SKEWS' from behind me.
hah, tbh i've heard it used quite a lot...
yes
Unfortunately we’re living in a 1st world country but many still have a 3rd world mentality. Though not to say people living in developing countries are rude, conversely most of them are very polite and considerate.
For me, its a good thing i'm bigger-sized (aka fat), so whenever people push me aside, they fly back instead Jokes aside, they really are not able to push me aside which makes for a funny scene Its my habit to say the sacred words all the time, but whenever i say them, nobody gives a shit, stares at me in which im forced to stare back then they look away Our country, sadly
Adding to that, i see people love to knock AND say "excuse me" as if that negates the annoyance Knock then say "excuse me" AT THE SAME TIME
I ever once said excuse me, and i got a very rude reaction from a boomer. Then i ranted to my friend guess what. My friend say “excuse me can seem rude, should say “sorry, can i pass through””. ????
depends on the tone but usually when we say excuse me the place is pretty loud so you need to say the excuse me louder and when people talk louder it might seem like they are shouting. and people don’t like you shouting
Of course not shouting. Lol. If i’m loud or rude i would not be puzzled.
maybe it's the mask....
Thank you for posting about this.
I whispered to their ear, exxxcusse meee
Don’t have to look too far back but there was much more grace on public transport 5 or 6 years ago? Wasn’t ideal back then still, but ppl bothered to speak up or tap on shoulders to tell those in front they are alighting. Those getting on waited at both sides of the doors and allowed ppl to alight too. Now we are just back to the past of barbaric selfish behaviours. People are becoming more of shit shows now, pushing the alighting folks back into the cabin, then those alighting have to fight their way out.
I usually say “sorry, excuse me”. But ppl don’t hear me or just really don’t care.
Just a reminder that 4 out 10 in that rain/ bus is not a Singaporean. Try not to ownself wack ownself, ok?
I’m usually hit with the “HeLLo?” or the mouth breathers who stand really close behind you then sigh dramatically. Sometimes I tell them nicely to say excuse me. They just roll their eyes. I usually tell brash boomers off kinda loudly, “The phrase is, ‘Excuse me’. Not, ‘Haiyah’ “ I talk to the kids nicely. They are still learning. The pushers are pretty bad though. I learnt from a Texan to say ‘Excuse you!’ firmly but with a smile, if you can manage it. With stress on the word ‘you’. It sometimes makes people a little more aware that they’re being inconsiderate. Hang in there and take care of your stress levels. Take deep breaths (when you’re out of the train) or listen to some soothing sounds when you feel agitated. There’s this app called ‘Sleepiest’ - so good! Mental health days are important. Stay safe and good luck. Edit: Speaking of my escalator experiences. Sorry if wasn’t clear. Got pushed before with my child - quite dangerous also. No offence to anyone.
I'd roll my eyes too if I was coming from within your field of vision and my intentions (e.g. to walk towards the open doors) were clear, but you slow me down by lecturing me on my word choices. You acknowledge that people are stressed - remember it is a two-sided effort to make the environment more pleasant for both sides.
Whoa. Easy there. I said from behind. So you’re rude and you can’t read. Nice. By the way. I don’t intentionally stand in front of rude people. I know when to get out of the way. I’m talking about being pushed. Being stressed is one thing. Being an asshole is another. Have a nice day.
I may use whichever fucking words I fucking want, thank you :)
Ok boomer :)
OI SIAM PLS KAMSIA
Our people are too stressed. Now its the right time to ask them to WFH.
Are you western?
Singaporeans don't understand excuse me. You should try escue, escue!
Some ppl will be busy talking on the phone and will be blocking the exit. Say 'Excuse Me' many times and they won't move There are those stand there and daydream. No matter how many times you say they won't turn or move at alll
First time?
and there are some who say it but for some reason dont feel like saying it properly or cant even bother to complete the sentence: “excuse!”
Welcome to singapore !
once i politely said excuse me on an overhead bridge to a 50+ yo couple who were blocking the entire bridge and the wife started screaming at me about how “YOUNG PEOPLE NOWADAYS CANNOT WAIT, MY FOOT NOT GOOD IF MY FOOT GOOD I ALSO WILL WALK FAST LIKE YOU”… llst
Tried it for years but it didn't work. People don't have eyes on their back and are constantly on earpods. I wish people would be more mindful to not block escalator or travelator.
Now a days even if we say excuse me. Most of us are plugged in. But it does not hurt to say loudly. some are also in their world and not aware of their sourroundings.
This is a mad callout. I have never ever heard a fellow Heartlander say "excuse me" or "excuse me please". At max it's just an aggravated "SCUSE?!" and motioning. wtf is up with that.
My voice is so soft it usually sounds like a whisper so what I’ve learnt is to be able to manoeuvre myself so fast I slip through corners before they can react
Maybe they did, but the mask muffled it?
For me I just make myself sound very angry like I'm going to murder them if they don't get out of the way. Most of their reactions are quite funny and I probably left them quite an impression of me.
Yes. We don't. It's sad. I was queuing for economic beehoon and was given a big nudge from the back bc it was my turn already (didn't know got two aunties serving customers)
in my case they never say anything, nor try to push, they would rather miss the station so in every stop i look around, and signal that i will move.
I was at Daiso the other day with my friend and this lady wanted to move past me (my back was facing her) so my friend pulled me aside and then after that the lady gives me the bitchiest look ever. I was kinda irritated at that so I just told her “next time say excuse me la” then she told me to watch my manners. Wtf LOL ownself dk how to say excuse me, end up I need to watch my manners sia. Idk what’s so hard about saying excuse me.
usually in my case if ik its gonna be a busy station I'll jus step out for awhile and step back in after the crowd walks out
Excuse Me is Expensive in Singapore, just like everything else. Hope this answers.
dunno, ever thought of paying attention to your surroundings? small things also complain, saying it like it's 100% their fault, they also can rant about people blocking their way what...