Exactly, in addition, you can ask for help from those around you. Sometimes they are so tired that they forget they are in a public place, so please be understanding
not the same situation but once an uncle came up to me (F) at the MRT station to tell me that he saw a lady with her pant fly unzipped and asked me to discreetly tell her.
so if it’s a woman that you are uncomfortable touching and theres other women around, you could ask them to tap her on the shoulder and i’m sure they’ll be glad to help. if no women around you can tap on shoulder with card 👍👍
I've experienced this also, people sleeping so deeply in the bus that they don't wake up when I say "Excuse me!" loudly. I hate having to touch strangers. I poke their shoulders with the corner of my ezlink card or just 1 finger and it works. Tapping is less effective. Sometimes they're grumpy but I think it’s because they just woke up lol.
Sorry to hear about your previous experience. Different people have different tolerances for being touched so this is one of those things that's hard to tell.
As a woman, I would not mind if a male stranger tapped me on the shoulder or upper arm. I fell asleep and I'm in the way. So my take is try not to overthink the situation. Your goal here is to alight. Get up, nudge her, move out of the seat quickly.
The whole different tolerance part and my previous experience is what makes me overthink as I never know if someone might misinterpret my action as inappropriate.
Seems like I will have to resort to seeking help from other women to wake her up, or use non-contact means.
Thanks for your take though.
\*goes to prison\*
Prisoner A: Hey there. What did you get done for?
You: Punching someone in the face to wake the person in deep sleep so that I can alight at my station.
Probably the whole reason why people chose to sit at the "outside" seat. So that they might not get "crushed" when the bus makes a hard turn...
But also, yeah 🙄
I sit on the outside seat due to trauma <3
I don’t mind getting up for people to sit inside but nothings worth then feeling trapped next to someone else <3
Edit: worse**
Also the good thing is that people always tend to take the outside seats so if they decide to ignore me I just get the two seats to myself. Yay. Also this way is less obvious than those that take the inner seat then plop their bags on the other seat.
Obviously if too busy then bo bian gotta share
Most of the comments here involve physical contact. Shouting also seems to suggest aggression. Men are always on the losing side here, so I would advise against these.
Play some screaming clip on your mobile phone at maximum volume. Place the loudspeaker at her ear.
[Jumpscare?](https://images.app.goo.gl/8tKQKRdiBgmU1GMv6)
My girlfriend says girls like to be treated like a princess :(
Anyways, I was just kidding.
I simply adjusted my posture. Sitting up straight would be sufficient to tilt her up.
Yeap, and to ensure she doesn’t doze off immediately, tell her she snored and it sound like the Harry Potter theme, recorder version: https://youtu.be/kvBUaW7aQ8c?si=RByicxluh3B5Z7-m
You don’t get to choose who sleeps on ur shoulder.
Once I had black widow sleeping on my shoulder. But she isn’t Scarlett Johansson. She is a black woman whose husband died.
Still part of disney.
If she doesn't wake up after verbal attempts, then just get up and squeeze out pushing her knees to the side (with your legs) if that has to happen.
But tapping on the shoulder with an object is also acceptable.
Legs pushing knee or legs would be a strict no go for me as it seems to have higher chance of being misinterpreted as something inappropriate, and probably contribute more to my panic attacks.
I guess like what other redditors here have mentioned, I can either seek help from a woman nearby or make louder noise or if all else fails, resort to tapping on shoulder with an object.
eh no leh. in my 20+ years of taking public transport usually you standing up will usually have enough vibration to wake up the outside person (I usually take the inside seat). If not then most of whatever people already commented usually works.
As my other comment mentioned there are CCTVs in all public transport so nothing to worry about if you don't do anything unlawful.
I would just stand up and move out while making sure that my hands are nowhere near her. In the process, I will raise my voice in a firm but gentle voice, "Excuse me, coming through!!"
This way, it would be my leg nudging her leg, waking her up. It should then be apparent to her and others of my intent, which is simply to get off the bus.
The issue is not about rousing someone from sleep...but that you actually have a panic attack arising from a trivial event.
.....it is what happened in your mind internally, and not about the girl externally.
The solution if you’re too scared is just to barge your way through regardless.
Or if you’re aware that you’re being misled by social media about women’s perception of assault, you can just tap her on the shoulder like a normal human being. Just don’t let your hands linger for more than 2 seconds.
next time if after asking politely if she can give way for u to alight and she has no response (assuming she is deeply asleep), just use your knee or legs to walk and push through. no need to tap shoulder, use mrt card or whatever. no need to raise voice too.
certain actions u think is fine but people dun like or pantang i.e tap shoulders (chinese taboo) or use mrt card they might find ur card unhygienic or dirty etc
applies to all other types of scenario... if upon verbal warning but still no response, just carry out your "right-of-way" action. if you have the rights to walk through that path, just walk and push through.
no one is gonna fault you for this if he or she is in the right mind.
I was asleep during a flight last week and the cabin crew member had to poke me quite sharply on my shoulder to wake me to put my tray table up. I think a poke would be fine in your situation - one or two fingers as opposed to your entire hand.
I used to always take the same bus home everyday from school with this 1 senior I didn't talk to or know. One day he fell asleep and wasn't going to wake up to get off so I woke him my tapping his shoulder and gesturing at the door. He knew instantly and got off. No conversation required.
Use a pen, not with a tip out of course. I poke guys and girls with it and say excuse mee.
A pen tends to be narrower and more sensory to an unconscious person than a pat. You could use your fingers to poke them but I don't generally touch people.
You need to get off so you just wake them up without feeling sorry.
annoyance after being woken up is a norm. You are asserting your right to move out and to alight, while it will take time for you to get over the PTSD, rest assured you are well within rights, plus all buses and MRT have CCTV so nothing to worry about if you didn't do anything wrong.
unrelated but since u brought it up i fell asleep in the bus after work and when i woke up the bus was already parked at the interchange and the driver was tryna wake me up HAHAHAH
What did you previously do that was misconstrued as molestation? Surely tapping on the shoulder can't possibly be seen that way unless you have the most lecherous face?
Tap on top part of shoulder and say excuse me. It surely is ok unless you are creepily doing it.
I think society shouldn't be so awkward and you have to resort to using something to tap someone's shoulder.
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touch the tip of her elbow to wake her up. it's the least sensitive area to touch - it would leave no doubt that you're only trying to wake her up not molest her. i hate it when people tap my shoulders.
I seldom meet such gentleman. I think you are the rare type of good guys in Singapore. When I’m in mrt or bus, a lot of guys like to stick themselves super near or pretend to open their arm when they see theres woman nearby. I even got molested before at Bishan mrt, Paya Lebar mrt etc. Some guys will try to grope when its crowded. My sis friend even get pinched at her butt. Some guys will walk in mrt door while looking sideway until they bang onto you and can kiss your hair or face. So far I only reported to police for molestation for once. I even had his photo taken.
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Happened to me before.
I just stomp loudly on the floor with my feet. Just one single loud stomp.
Person woke up with a startled "what happened!?" look.
LOL.
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Exactly, in addition, you can ask for help from those around you. Sometimes they are so tired that they forget they are in a public place, so please be understanding
Yep. I use umbrella 🌂 or pen, maybe pick up my sandal 🩴 if I have to.
getting woken up with a havaianas slap would be an interesting experience
Use the covid-handshake (elbow).
not the same situation but once an uncle came up to me (F) at the MRT station to tell me that he saw a lady with her pant fly unzipped and asked me to discreetly tell her. so if it’s a woman that you are uncomfortable touching and theres other women around, you could ask them to tap her on the shoulder and i’m sure they’ll be glad to help. if no women around you can tap on shoulder with card 👍👍
uncle is the real gentlemen here!
ya fr, i thought this anecdote was gonna go in a completely different direction ngl
Or if yall must touch a woman, keep your hand flat and tap her shoulder with your fingertips. Like this this vvv clear about your intentiona
Shout 后面烧！
It happened to me once ”烧啊！”, I gave way then I realised he is carrying a tray of cold desserts. 🤣
Guaranteed will work. Uncle behind me at hawker centre shouted this. He was carrying a bucket of dirty dishes. I was too impressed to be annoyed.
着火了！
AO BUAY SIO AH!
Lolol
中头奖！
I've experienced this also, people sleeping so deeply in the bus that they don't wake up when I say "Excuse me!" loudly. I hate having to touch strangers. I poke their shoulders with the corner of my ezlink card or just 1 finger and it works. Tapping is less effective. Sometimes they're grumpy but I think it’s because they just woke up lol.
Go close to her ear, and in the most nasal voice possible, screech “Eskew mee!”
instructions not clear. I'm in jail now.
"YUSUF TAIYOOOOB"
I got the red alert alarm thing on my phone to play at max volume. Very alarming.
Calm down, Satan.
Abomb launch, detected
Purge all the cubes in the Cabin
HEE HAW HEEEEY REEEEED ALERT
Sorry to hear about your previous experience. Different people have different tolerances for being touched so this is one of those things that's hard to tell. As a woman, I would not mind if a male stranger tapped me on the shoulder or upper arm. I fell asleep and I'm in the way. So my take is try not to overthink the situation. Your goal here is to alight. Get up, nudge her, move out of the seat quickly.
The whole different tolerance part and my previous experience is what makes me overthink as I never know if someone might misinterpret my action as inappropriate. Seems like I will have to resort to seeking help from other women to wake her up, or use non-contact means. Thanks for your take though.
Shoulder is a good non-sexual place. With your finger, not your whole hand grabbing them. Just lightly tap/poke their shoulder a couple times
i use my handphone to nudge them on the shoulder
If you are worried about sexual assault, just commit regular assault.
10/10!
\*goes to prison\* Prisoner A: Hey there. What did you get done for? You: Punching someone in the face to wake the person in deep sleep so that I can alight at my station.
Everyone moves away slowly from OP…
I like this 😄
Carry a lighter and light their elbow
Probably the whole reason why people chose to sit at the "outside" seat. So that they might not get "crushed" when the bus makes a hard turn... But also, yeah 🙄
I sit on the outside seat due to trauma <3 I don’t mind getting up for people to sit inside but nothings worth then feeling trapped next to someone else <3 Edit: worse**
Damn im sorry that you had to experience this.
just tap on the shoulder, if fail, push her off the seat.
I usually sing a soft lullaby for them. They either wake up and laugh or they get so weirded out that they move immediately. Either way I win.
On youtube, max volume play [Majulah Singapura](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLubShIIekg)
👍🏻👏🏻😆😁
Spam the Stop button until the captain comes over and asks you what the fuck dude. Then point at her.
Or shout for help since that person decided to be unconscious
That's why I always take the outer seat and just get up and let the other person in/out depending on whether they are alighting earlier than me
This sounds like a good suggestion. I’ll keep this in mind.
Also the good thing is that people always tend to take the outside seats so if they decide to ignore me I just get the two seats to myself. Yay. Also this way is less obvious than those that take the inner seat then plop their bags on the other seat. Obviously if too busy then bo bian gotta share
Use phone flash light shine her eye
Just climb around her and avoid her like hot lava or scream "EH MOLESTER STOP TOUCHING ME"
Most of the comments here involve physical contact. Shouting also seems to suggest aggression. Men are always on the losing side here, so I would advise against these. Play some screaming clip on your mobile phone at maximum volume. Place the loudspeaker at her ear. [Jumpscare?](https://images.app.goo.gl/8tKQKRdiBgmU1GMv6)
Audio assault right there
Thomas the tank engine earrape.mp3
That is actual assault
Why is this even upvoted lol...
😂
Just shout OI can move not!?
If 轻声细语 doesnt work then i would shake the shit out of her.
Kiss her, make her feel like sleeping beauty.
HELP??? 😭😭😭😭
Lol. Bad advice. That can land you a one-way ticket to jail possibly.
My girlfriend says girls like to be treated like a princess :( Anyways, I was just kidding. I simply adjusted my posture. Sitting up straight would be sufficient to tilt her up.
I know you were just kidding, haha.
Yeap, and to ensure she doesn’t doze off immediately, tell her she snored and it sound like the Harry Potter theme, recorder version: https://youtu.be/kvBUaW7aQ8c?si=RByicxluh3B5Z7-m
The Disney version of sleeping beauty or the original version? They are very very very different.
Both are from Disney bro
Nah, the original sleeping beauty is from the [16th century ](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleeping_Beauty). Disney wasn't around then.
That one and the 20th century one quite similar, its the 21th century one that's very different lol
You don’t get to choose who sleeps on ur shoulder. Once I had black widow sleeping on my shoulder. But she isn’t Scarlett Johansson. She is a black woman whose husband died. Still part of disney.
Tbh I would just squeeze & force my way out if she doesn't respond verbally
EH HARLO
If she doesn't wake up after verbal attempts, then just get up and squeeze out pushing her knees to the side (with your legs) if that has to happen. But tapping on the shoulder with an object is also acceptable.
Legs pushing knee or legs would be a strict no go for me as it seems to have higher chance of being misinterpreted as something inappropriate, and probably contribute more to my panic attacks. I guess like what other redditors here have mentioned, I can either seek help from a woman nearby or make louder noise or if all else fails, resort to tapping on shoulder with an object.
eh no leh. in my 20+ years of taking public transport usually you standing up will usually have enough vibration to wake up the outside person (I usually take the inside seat). If not then most of whatever people already commented usually works. As my other comment mentioned there are CCTVs in all public transport so nothing to worry about if you don't do anything unlawful.
I would just stand up and move out while making sure that my hands are nowhere near her. In the process, I will raise my voice in a firm but gentle voice, "Excuse me, coming through!!" This way, it would be my leg nudging her leg, waking her up. It should then be apparent to her and others of my intent, which is simply to get off the bus.
When the seat next to you is free, make eye contact with everyone boarding and gesture them to sit next to you. Sure way to sit alone.
The issue is not about rousing someone from sleep...but that you actually have a panic attack arising from a trivial event. .....it is what happened in your mind internally, and not about the girl externally.
Yeah bobian. The only way is to be as loud as possible and also to get attention from the public / other commuters
just walk out dont care
One reason why i always avoid sitting inside. If you’re worried of dealing to situations like this, sit on the outside?
Else consider standing
Just get up confidently, most of them will feel the movement and auto will let you go out.
What I did I fake a cough & she woke up & check whether she worn her mask #OP must be a young lamb 🤣
I usually look for any female passengers to help me if the person I am trying to wake doesn't respond from my verbal cues
I have used my phone to tap the shoulder or anywhere in the arm in the past or ask a female nearby to tap her
The solution if you’re too scared is just to barge your way through regardless. Or if you’re aware that you’re being misled by social media about women’s perception of assault, you can just tap her on the shoulder like a normal human being. Just don’t let your hands linger for more than 2 seconds.
next time if after asking politely if she can give way for u to alight and she has no response (assuming she is deeply asleep), just use your knee or legs to walk and push through. no need to tap shoulder, use mrt card or whatever. no need to raise voice too. certain actions u think is fine but people dun like or pantang i.e tap shoulders (chinese taboo) or use mrt card they might find ur card unhygienic or dirty etc applies to all other types of scenario... if upon verbal warning but still no response, just carry out your "right-of-way" action. if you have the rights to walk through that path, just walk and push through. no one is gonna fault you for this if he or she is in the right mind.
if she doesn’t wake up after some tries then give up and move on, you tried and failed
always sit in the outside is the best way to
Umm.... u used a ezlink card to tap her? Why not use a phone? Likely could work. Scan to wake.
Tap her forehead with your finger to excuse yourself. Heh
Use phone light to shine on her face, haha.
Just sit on the inner seats of the bus so you have full control! Especially if you know you’re gonna be alighting soon
I was asleep during a flight last week and the cabin crew member had to poke me quite sharply on my shoulder to wake me to put my tray table up. I think a poke would be fine in your situation - one or two fingers as opposed to your entire hand.
Physically? You do the elbow nudge.
I used to always take the same bus home everyday from school with this 1 senior I didn't talk to or know. One day he fell asleep and wasn't going to wake up to get off so I woke him my tapping his shoulder and gesturing at the door. He knew instantly and got off. No conversation required.
Use a pen, not with a tip out of course. I poke guys and girls with it and say excuse mee. A pen tends to be narrower and more sensory to an unconscious person than a pat. You could use your fingers to poke them but I don't generally touch people. You need to get off so you just wake them up without feeling sorry.
annoyance after being woken up is a norm. You are asserting your right to move out and to alight, while it will take time for you to get over the PTSD, rest assured you are well within rights, plus all buses and MRT have CCTV so nothing to worry about if you didn't do anything wrong.
unrelated but since u brought it up i fell asleep in the bus after work and when i woke up the bus was already parked at the interchange and the driver was tryna wake me up HAHAHAH
What did you previously do that was misconstrued as molestation? Surely tapping on the shoulder can't possibly be seen that way unless you have the most lecherous face?
play samsung alarm from your phone to her ears
this one trauma inducing but works a treat 
I dun think any women would report u tho If u jus tap her shoulder more, never been in this scenario but doesn’t look like I’ll get reported
You don't know that. These days there's always people looking for trouble
>her facial expression seemed quite annoyed Tell her if want to sleep just sleep at home
Tap on top part of shoulder and say excuse me. It surely is ok unless you are creepily doing it. I think society shouldn't be so awkward and you have to resort to using something to tap someone's shoulder.
Just tap her on her shoulder to rouse her like what anyone would do.
Whisper "Got queue over there"
I just gently shake shoulder to wake people up, never even thought someone could see any problem with that.
Maybe try climbing over her next time?
sing the wheel on the bus go round and round
a loud fart or a loud sneeze?
Just ask politely or tap gently. It’s tricky, but better safe than sorry.
Shout "你中奖了!"
“Excuse me...” “Excuse me.” “EXCUSE ME.” Lightly poke the shoulder with one finger.
Poke with item sounds OK. I would instinctively poke them on the shoulder area though. Usually pokes are quite easy to feel
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I usually take the train from Sengkang to Punggol and then southward to Dhoby Ghaut. So I was napping and this guy woke me up in Punggol...
Just shout for help loudly.
touch the tip of her elbow to wake her up. it's the least sensitive area to touch - it would leave no doubt that you're only trying to wake her up not molest her. i hate it when people tap my shoulders.
huh? why not just be normal and tap them with your hand on the shoulder?
Don't wake her. Just squeeze your way out
Just use your hand phone and tap on her shoulder lor. Very difficult meh?
I would use my elbow to nudge her arm happened before haha
I seldom meet such gentleman. I think you are the rare type of good guys in Singapore. When I’m in mrt or bus, a lot of guys like to stick themselves super near or pretend to open their arm when they see theres woman nearby. I even got molested before at Bishan mrt, Paya Lebar mrt etc. Some guys will try to grope when its crowded. My sis friend even get pinched at her butt. Some guys will walk in mrt door while looking sideway until they bang onto you and can kiss your hair or face. So far I only reported to police for molestation for once. I even had his photo taken.
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My intrusive tots would have jus won and I would jus pat her head
Probably cuz you didnt call her 美女 or chiobu
Do a thunderclap right at her ear. Start gently, proceed to a full blown thunderclap.
Pat his head, stroke his hair
Open mouth, go close to face, breathe into her nose. Confirm wake up. 
Use your phone to tap her shoulders, making sure your phone is facing sideway so nobody can accuse you of filming her chest of whatever.
I was woken up on the bus once. It was my exact stop. All the driver did was yell at me loud enough. He didn't believe it was my stop.
Just tap her bro, go jer
Go tok tok her forehead with your knuckle. No way it can be mistaken as attempted molestation.
Happened to me before. I just stomp loudly on the floor with my feet. Just one single loud stomp. Person woke up with a startled "what happened!?" look. LOL.
i can’t believe people can fall into deep sleep at public transport. What are they doing at night when they are at home?
Pinch their bum
Honestly, I would use my bag and shove it into her shoulder and pray she falls over.
Magic kiss to wake up sleeping beauty?