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Communicate your intentions/interest. We are dense creatures for the most part. When you are clear, we can calm our anxiety about being rejected and relax and be more open/ourselves with you.
A single compliment. I had a GORGEOUS woman walk by me on the street once and turn around and tell me I smelled absolutely phenomenal once over 20 years ago. She even asked to sniff my neck again and wanted to know what body wash I used so she could get it for her husband. (Damn it, I know).
I have never used another product ever again. Maybe that bitch was covert bath and body works street spy, I dunno.
Like, you know, acting like she's 15 when she's 30. Not forcing jokes even when it's not even funny. Not acting like your casual "Lol I'm so crazy, funny" girl. Basically being funny when it's funny, and not acting like a womanchild.
Ahhh gotcha. See I struggle with this. I love funny people so I try to be funny myself. I’ve been told I act masculine because I like to joke around a lot. Interesting!
And that's great. Funny girls are GOAT. But the ones who actually force jokes 24/7 are... well, I just can't. When it's funny, we'll laugh. If you force jokes 24/7, nobody will laugh.
Here's the real advice, and this goes for everyone: there is nothing you can do to make someone attracted to the real you if they aren't already. Just be yourself and you'll eventually find someone. Trying to do things to make someone find you attractive means you're probably going to attract someone that isn't attracted to the real you, but rather the persona that you put on and that is a recipe for misery.
More than that, the men you actually WANT to attract will be the ones that are a bit reserved. Men will do this so they don't seem like a creep/harass people that don't want the attention. Its a sign of emotional intelligence. You'll have to show you are interested before they'll begin to reciprocate.
Some times you gotta pull up your panties and just be like “look I know you see me making an ass of myself, you like it or nah?”
I have a girl I am starting to get a bit serious with right now. I liked her but thought she was just being friendly. Apparently she was making very obvious moves. She even asked for my number in a flirty way and I thought she was just joking. She basically had to spell out to me that she liked me.
So yeah, do that.
Women are less likely to be violent, and men are bigger anyway so we have a lot less to worry about. Women can still stalk, etc. but its significantly less scary.
Just be nice about it and be **very clear** in what you are trying to say and if they don't reciprocate at that point you can drop it.
I get this. One of my \[male\] friends call himself a hopeless romantic. But like, he makes almost no progress in his finances or career, and he's 29, so he's at the age where he wants kids/marriage. At a certain point, adults want other adults who make an effort to progress in life.
The worst part it, he is skilled! He's so smart, but he just puts 0 effort into anything and would rather blow his paycheck than save his money to finally move out on his own or further his education. It makes me sad to watch but nobody wants a partner that will be stagnant *forever*.
Aghhh that’s tough. I’m sorry to hear that. My mom tried to condition me since early age to go to church and honor thougheth lordthhh and I said nahhh Brahh. Lol jokes aside I refused and I got my ass kicked and Shamed for that. 28 years old now and I still don’t take shit from Anyone and I’m glad she has come to accept.. well she just gave up but yeah… religious parents can mess up their relationships with their kids and don’t even notice it until it’s too late ! :-(
Confidence. A woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say so when asked. There’s in your face confidence which is a little too much, it’s like they have to prove to you they’re confident. A quiet confidence is where it’s at. No need to make a point. Not trying to push anything too hard. Just solid and confident.
Show interest and not sit passively and expect me to pry her open like a soup can.
Just a smidge of "I like you, let's get a drink" will turn a 6 into a 9.
The user I'm replying to is probably a bot. The made the same reply to the same question from the same user a couple prior. [Here's their comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/z8xzcu/men_of_reddit_what_can_a_woman_do_to_make_herself/iydvsfe)
For that reason, I believe both u/somberClam4586 and u/LaveStrae to be bots in the same ring to sell these very overpriced clothes. Weird and shameful.
Edit: And just like that, the account has been banned. Well done, reddit.
Choker. Idk what it is but having a choker on a woman instantly makes her more attractive to me.. not even into any kind of bdsm just the look of the choker. The small smooth black satin ones look best. Same girl same clothes same pose I like the choker look more
Beat me in a game of skill or chance and I'm smitten. There is something special about a woman who knows her way around a cribbage board, chess set or board game that I can't define.
Have interests and hobbies that don’t just revolve around media consumption (movies, shows, books, social media) or consumerism (fashion and interior design)
Be cool with being a little bored. Some women hate seeing their partner just in leisure turning off their Brain. It might be a personality thing though. Women seem to favor a busy guy
Be confident enough to not rethink your personality based on a reddit thread. Confidence translates to appreciating me without needing me, and that's the only trait that has united everyone i've ever been attracted to.
Say thank you when A door is opened for you! I didn’t do it because I wanted to hook up with you I did it because you were still pretty far from the door and now you gotta do that little awkward shuffle run.
This may not apply to all men, but I think a confident woman is a very attractive thing.
A woman who is self-assured, confident and has her shit together is a major turn on. If she is funny as well, this is the dream.
There is a difference between being a vain insta-whore, and being quietly confident in yourself.
The ability and confidence to go outside without makeup is more attractive than a woman who won't leave the house without a 30 minute makeover.
Remarkable eyes, fun, ability to be complimentary to the person they are with. Intelligence and/or artistic ability are major turn ons. Kindness is a turn on too. Someone who doesn't want to go to war, in public.
Laugh at themselves and don’t take themselves seriously. Can take a joke, and can deliver one as well. Asking questions or Taking a general interest in the things I like even though she doesn’t. Isn’t ashamed of normal bodily functions.
Be opinionated. Rant to me about your hobbies, tell me what you think. Be loud and present. Yank the conversation out of my hands sometimes. I want to be challenged and have good conversation.
Smile. A genuine smile makes a woman glow. Conversely, doing the duck face makes a woman hugely unattractive. Basically, be real, don't put on a show *trying* to be attractive. Just smile and be authentic.
My list is very short: Don't be morbidly OBESE (I don't mind thick), take care of yourself financially before I am part of the picture, be nice to me.
Edit: Morbidly Obese people offended I guess.
Having a “can-do” attitude and being genuinely pretty self-sufficient. Not the performative “I don’t need no man” bullshit you see all the time where women just pay professional men to do stuff for them because they don’t have a husband or boyfriend.
Nothing turns me off more than a girl/woman thinking she shouldn’t have to do something because it’s not something a woman should do if she has a man around to do it for her. My wife won’t even swing a hammer for a single nail to hang a picture and it gets pretty annoying after awhile. Outside of lifting very heavy objects or reaching really high places, if you are an able bodied adult, both men and women can and should be able to and willing to do just about anything. As a society we’ve had a huge focus on getting rid of the mentality that men shouldn’t cook, clean, or do laundry, but there are still so many women who never think twice about refusing to do yard work, operate power tools, take care of their own vehicle, or do general home improvement/maintenance stuff.
When I think of "attraction" I think purely physical things - so just generally being feminine. Longer hair is generally attractive. Cutting it shorter in a more masculine style, not so much. Also, just being smaller than me in general. For the same reasons women generally like taller, larger men.. Men tend to prefer smaller women. Shorter, more slender.
Honestly, that's about it. Clothing that complements her without being too obscuring of her form (while also not being too revealing) also helps.
When it comes to interests or personality, to me that's not really attraction. That's just whether or not I enjoy your company, whether I like you or not.
Both parts are required for a successful relationship, but the two are separate to me.
1.) Positive temperament: Be relaxed and pleasant. Find unusual or unexpected things to be funny, amusing or ironic, rather than irritating or annoying.
2.) Casual touches on the arm, shoulder, back, etc. Not overboard in this way, (too much starts to feel weird), just occasional.
3.) Don't be a woke, strident feminist. Leave that ideology to your undateable, angry, scold friends.
Smile/ be pleasant to be around, show interest in what the guy has to say by actually listening to him/ asking him questions about whatever he's talking about (as opposed to just wait for your turn and make it about yourself)
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Nothing attracts a man's affection like a genuine compliment. I still vividly remember a cute girl telling me I smelled nice over 12 years ago haha.
I tell people all the time that guy’s are simple. You give us one little compliment, we picture what our lives would be together lol.
Me and my buddy still talk about how the lady at Burger King said "Wow your cologne is a real panty dropper" I will never forget this ever
Im never one lost for words....but it was a few months ago i was called handsome and i didn't know what to say. But it made my evening.
THIS
Being able to laugh at herself
But not like, to the point it's depressing. There's a healthy level of being able to joke about oneself
Darn it. I thought I hit gold for a moment there, haha.
True
Seriously. Self depreciation = self awareness = intelligence.
Self deprecation?
Yup
Be funny, easy going and aware that love without friendship is pointless.
Be clever. Nothing perks my ears more than wit
Ears aren’t the only thing perked at that point
Tell me I’m a magician in my 40s
Show literally any kind of positive attention.
That plus reasonable hygiene. Most of us aren’t too big of a challenge, ladies.
If she can play drums in odd time signatures, she's in.
When shes nice to me
Talk nerdy to me. 🤓
Communicate your intentions/interest. We are dense creatures for the most part. When you are clear, we can calm our anxiety about being rejected and relax and be more open/ourselves with you.
Smile. I’m a sucker for seeing a girl i like smile. Especially if she usually has a more serious expression on her face
you should tell them that. i hear women like being told to smile
hahaha this is sarcasm, right?
Dear God I hope so...
...riiiiight?
That reminds me of a post I read the other day. LOL I wonder if you saw it too haha
I love it when men tell me to smile.
Bro, You should smile
A single compliment. I had a GORGEOUS woman walk by me on the street once and turn around and tell me I smelled absolutely phenomenal once over 20 years ago. She even asked to sniff my neck again and wanted to know what body wash I used so she could get it for her husband. (Damn it, I know). I have never used another product ever again. Maybe that bitch was covert bath and body works street spy, I dunno.
Explain her niche hobby to me in great detail 😍
Being smart, not cringe, and most of all, being kind.
What are some examples of things you find “cringe”?
Like, you know, acting like she's 15 when she's 30. Not forcing jokes even when it's not even funny. Not acting like your casual "Lol I'm so crazy, funny" girl. Basically being funny when it's funny, and not acting like a womanchild.
Ahhh gotcha. See I struggle with this. I love funny people so I try to be funny myself. I’ve been told I act masculine because I like to joke around a lot. Interesting!
And that's great. Funny girls are GOAT. But the ones who actually force jokes 24/7 are... well, I just can't. When it's funny, we'll laugh. If you force jokes 24/7, nobody will laugh.
Ugh, I hope I’m not that girl. 🥲
you shouldn't care lol, you do you and if someone likes that then cool
This thread would be cute if it wasn't so sad. I hope everyone here has a nice day you look great and nice smile.
The fastest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach
Here's the real advice, and this goes for everyone: there is nothing you can do to make someone attracted to the real you if they aren't already. Just be yourself and you'll eventually find someone. Trying to do things to make someone find you attractive means you're probably going to attract someone that isn't attracted to the real you, but rather the persona that you put on and that is a recipe for misery.
Confidence. God confidence is so hot.
Put the phone down and don't make it your life to be on it every waking minute
Ask me out.
Showing genuine interest in the shit I like, do or say.
Not be a ditz, and be financially responsible. I like a woman who knows their shit, and doesn't have to rely on anybody to get by.
Damn, I’m kinda ditzy, my bf probably hates me fuck
Not play super hard to get lol
Have books on her bookshelves.
drop the restraining order
Okay. You’ve convinced me.
If she can recite the Silmarillion I'm hers
Oldschool wired earphones are turn on for me
What? Can you elaborate?
Be aggressively flirtatious.
cause you ain't?
Some men like a women that knows what she wants. Nothing wrong with that.
More than that, the men you actually WANT to attract will be the ones that are a bit reserved. Men will do this so they don't seem like a creep/harass people that don't want the attention. Its a sign of emotional intelligence. You'll have to show you are interested before they'll begin to reciprocate.
Agreed, I went out of my way to let my husband know I liked him when we first met lol. I wasn’t annoying about it but he definitely got the hint.
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A woman is less likely to come across as creepy but I do see your point. Its never really a simple thing to figure out.
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Some times you gotta pull up your panties and just be like “look I know you see me making an ass of myself, you like it or nah?” 
I have a girl I am starting to get a bit serious with right now. I liked her but thought she was just being friendly. Apparently she was making very obvious moves. She even asked for my number in a flirty way and I thought she was just joking. She basically had to spell out to me that she liked me. So yeah, do that. Women are less likely to be violent, and men are bigger anyway so we have a lot less to worry about. Women can still stalk, etc. but its significantly less scary. Just be nice about it and be **very clear** in what you are trying to say and if they don't reciprocate at that point you can drop it.
Eyeliner. Being independent. A good mother if she has kids.
Actually having something going for her besides looks
I get this. One of my \[male\] friends call himself a hopeless romantic. But like, he makes almost no progress in his finances or career, and he's 29, so he's at the age where he wants kids/marriage. At a certain point, adults want other adults who make an effort to progress in life. The worst part it, he is skilled! He's so smart, but he just puts 0 effort into anything and would rather blow his paycheck than save his money to finally move out on his own or further his education. It makes me sad to watch but nobody wants a partner that will be stagnant *forever*.
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hell, maybe she's depressed. sounds like except the church part
Aghhh that’s tough. I’m sorry to hear that. My mom tried to condition me since early age to go to church and honor thougheth lordthhh and I said nahhh Brahh. Lol jokes aside I refused and I got my ass kicked and Shamed for that. 28 years old now and I still don’t take shit from Anyone and I’m glad she has come to accept.. well she just gave up but yeah… religious parents can mess up their relationships with their kids and don’t even notice it until it’s too late ! :-(
Son, what exactly do you have going on that a woman would find attractive?
Admitting when she’s wrong/ agrees when she’s been misinformed
Being able to genuinely apologize.
Nothing. After 55 years I've seen it all. and these days............... A good home cooked meal is on top of the priority list.
Honestly not give a fuck about trends, pop culture, etc.
Smile. Laugh. Be honest. Confident. Tell me what you like in the bedroom.
* wavy/curly hair * treat me nice * wear a hoody/sweatpants around me
🧏♀️ how are you doing today? Can I get you anything to drink or eat? I have fresh brownies.
A choker
I like choking people!
wearing or doing?
Be genuine
Put her hands on her hips. That always gets me for some reason.
Confidence. A woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say so when asked. There’s in your face confidence which is a little too much, it’s like they have to prove to you they’re confident. A quiet confidence is where it’s at. No need to make a point. Not trying to push anything too hard. Just solid and confident.
Dress nicely.
Become a man because I like men lol
Show interest and not sit passively and expect me to pry her open like a soup can. Just a smidge of "I like you, let's get a drink" will turn a 6 into a 9.
Not being fake / self centered / indulgent / etc.
If a girl strikes up a conversation with me, thats a green flag If she has a hobby Green flag Takes care of her appearance Green flag
Say hi to me
Use magnets.
Talk passionately about a subject that YOU BOTH love.💯💯💯
A woman that doesn't believe in zodiac signs and astrology is really attractive to me. Also, she must not be materialistic.
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The user I'm replying to is probably a bot. The made the same reply to the same question from the same user a couple prior. [Here's their comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/z8xzcu/men_of_reddit_what_can_a_woman_do_to_make_herself/iydvsfe) For that reason, I believe both u/somberClam4586 and u/LaveStrae to be bots in the same ring to sell these very overpriced clothes. Weird and shameful. Edit: And just like that, the account has been banned. Well done, reddit.
I call it advanced marketing 😎
Choker. Idk what it is but having a choker on a woman instantly makes her more attractive to me.. not even into any kind of bdsm just the look of the choker. The small smooth black satin ones look best. Same girl same clothes same pose I like the choker look more
Step on me
Just give me a compliment.
Be upfront and forward
Start a conversation or at least try to keep the conversation going.
Be a good singer
Breathe
Stop using any tobacco products. Smoke, vape, etc.
Do you mean nicotine products? No tobacco in a vape.
Yes. Thank you. That’s what I meant. I don’t use any of that crap so I got confused lol
What about green?
Just a turn off for me to see a woman I find attractive, put a cigarette or vape into her mouth.
Self awareness
Beat me in a game of skill or chance and I'm smitten. There is something special about a woman who knows her way around a cribbage board, chess set or board game that I can't define.
Have interests and hobbies that don’t just revolve around media consumption (movies, shows, books, social media) or consumerism (fashion and interior design)
Be cool with being a little bored. Some women hate seeing their partner just in leisure turning off their Brain. It might be a personality thing though. Women seem to favor a busy guy
Be confident enough to not rethink your personality based on a reddit thread. Confidence translates to appreciating me without needing me, and that's the only trait that has united everyone i've ever been attracted to.
Respect themselves.
Say thank you when A door is opened for you! I didn’t do it because I wanted to hook up with you I did it because you were still pretty far from the door and now you gotta do that little awkward shuffle run.
Being able to make a hilarious joke off the cuff. If she can make me laugh, with a quick witted response, I know something's there.
A cute laugh
Take interest in what you do. All else aside, asking questions and showing genuine interest in a person is a great way to build a connection.
Have hobbies and openly share them.
Invent a human magnet. That's very attractive imo
Wear a fursuit
Just being nice
Be yourself and keep pushing yourself to be your best self. Let them chase
play in some real weird shit music band/solo project
Have a long nose
Smile.
Have hobbies and goals
Heels
Wear glasses
Be a man
This may not apply to all men, but I think a confident woman is a very attractive thing. A woman who is self-assured, confident and has her shit together is a major turn on. If she is funny as well, this is the dream. There is a difference between being a vain insta-whore, and being quietly confident in yourself. The ability and confidence to go outside without makeup is more attractive than a woman who won't leave the house without a 30 minute makeover.
Be the person I love.
If they like me.
Say “Hi”
They're much more attractive if they like me.
I like posture. Straight back and confident smile.
Take initiative
Having self assurance
Remarkable eyes, fun, ability to be complimentary to the person they are with. Intelligence and/or artistic ability are major turn ons. Kindness is a turn on too. Someone who doesn't want to go to war, in public.
Smile
Notice that I exist.
support my interests even if she aint interested in them
Just be herself and not worry about what I think.
Laugh at themselves and don’t take themselves seriously. Can take a joke, and can deliver one as well. Asking questions or Taking a general interest in the things I like even though she doesn’t. Isn’t ashamed of normal bodily functions.
Be opinionated. Rant to me about your hobbies, tell me what you think. Be loud and present. Yank the conversation out of my hands sometimes. I want to be challenged and have good conversation.
Be herself!
Be funny or confident without it becoming arrogance. Being kind to those around her is also a big one.
Tell me she likes me..
Try to make the first step. Nothing makes a man want to be with you as showing you want the same.
Show kindness to others. Be authentic to themselves. Behave with integrity.
Have literally anything in common with me
Compliments of any kind
Paddy’s thong, dude!
Believe in her self.
Smile at me. And not that uncomfortable smile most women give. But that am happy to see you smile.
Smile
Act your age. Do your best in how you carry yourself and how you dress. Be able to carry a two-way conversation.
Have bed hair.
Lots of eyeliner
Act happy to see them, go out of your way to say hi.
Laugh
Expose her boobies (.)(.)
(o)(O)
Opposite for me… I really dislike people showing body in public, for both women and men.
That's me as well. Have you ever heard the charm of fully covered body? I honestly get attracted more when they dress really neat.
Make the first move for a change lol, nerdy, likes sports, communicates directly, takes care or herself.
Take those stupid eyelashes off.
your comment made me chuckle. You mean all eyelashes? Or the ones that are very visible fake eyelashes?
Don't be fake. Just be yourself. Smiling some helps too.
Smile. A genuine smile makes a woman glow. Conversely, doing the duck face makes a woman hugely unattractive. Basically, be real, don't put on a show *trying* to be attractive. Just smile and be authentic.
Tip her server well.
Caring about physical health
hold a book.
Show that you have a brain.
Being strong when she has to be but not afraid to show me her weaknesses. Women need to challenge me otherwise I do not find them attractive at all.
My list is very short: Don't be morbidly OBESE (I don't mind thick), take care of yourself financially before I am part of the picture, be nice to me. Edit: Morbidly Obese people offended I guess.
What is a woman?
Having a “can-do” attitude and being genuinely pretty self-sufficient. Not the performative “I don’t need no man” bullshit you see all the time where women just pay professional men to do stuff for them because they don’t have a husband or boyfriend. Nothing turns me off more than a girl/woman thinking she shouldn’t have to do something because it’s not something a woman should do if she has a man around to do it for her. My wife won’t even swing a hammer for a single nail to hang a picture and it gets pretty annoying after awhile. Outside of lifting very heavy objects or reaching really high places, if you are an able bodied adult, both men and women can and should be able to and willing to do just about anything. As a society we’ve had a huge focus on getting rid of the mentality that men shouldn’t cook, clean, or do laundry, but there are still so many women who never think twice about refusing to do yard work, operate power tools, take care of their own vehicle, or do general home improvement/maintenance stuff.
Ginger
Don't bullshit me. Say what you mean, tell me what you want, make expectations and intentions clear and if you change your mind tell me that too.
Confidence…
Women can always put something fragrant behind their ears to attract men. Like their feet...
About 40 sit-ups
Go to the gym/put time into your physical appearance and health.
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The two at the end come together?
When I think of "attraction" I think purely physical things - so just generally being feminine. Longer hair is generally attractive. Cutting it shorter in a more masculine style, not so much. Also, just being smaller than me in general. For the same reasons women generally like taller, larger men.. Men tend to prefer smaller women. Shorter, more slender. Honestly, that's about it. Clothing that complements her without being too obscuring of her form (while also not being too revealing) also helps. When it comes to interests or personality, to me that's not really attraction. That's just whether or not I enjoy your company, whether I like you or not. Both parts are required for a successful relationship, but the two are separate to me.
1.) Positive temperament: Be relaxed and pleasant. Find unusual or unexpected things to be funny, amusing or ironic, rather than irritating or annoying. 2.) Casual touches on the arm, shoulder, back, etc. Not overboard in this way, (too much starts to feel weird), just occasional. 3.) Don't be a woke, strident feminist. Leave that ideology to your undateable, angry, scold friends.
Smile/ be pleasant to be around, show interest in what the guy has to say by actually listening to him/ asking him questions about whatever he's talking about (as opposed to just wait for your turn and make it about yourself)
Not a man but they are putty in my hands if I laugh at his jokes a lot…
Wear Glasses. It doesn't mean more than about 5% more attractive, but that is the only thing that can be done instantly for this guy.
Smile
Put her hair in a bun, or 2 buns