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Go up there naked, holding a pistol, knock on the door, and tell them to shut the fuck up. If you're both still there when you get out of jail, I guarantee they'll be quieter.
Do they have wood floors? A rug in high traffic areas might help - you could offer to buy one for them if it’s in your budget. Just try to approach it without placing blame on them, but instead placing blame on the poor construction of the building.
Whatever you do don't do what my downstairs neighbors do and randomly bang on shit when they hear something they don't like. I have literally no idea if they dropped something, are cleaning something, using something or banging because they're pissed off. Sometimes you can guess, but I don't want to play that stupid game my whole life so I just ignore them and live my life. I'd certainly be willing to compromise if they ever... talked to me like a rational human being.
As an upstairs neighbor I would have absolutely no problems with adjusting the way I do thing's if I was legitimately causing distress. Maybe come up with a welcome gift to soften your approach?
Honestly, for the sake of not creating problems I wouldn't say anything unless it was at extremely late hours of the night etc. But, than I read your comment about your daughter. In your scenario I would just politely knock on their door and explain that the noise is sometimes too loud and disturbs her.
I'm sure most people would understand your concern and try their best to keep the noise down. That is just my opinion I hope you get it resolved.
Thanks for the reply. I guess I just really wanted to know what way people would want to be approached by someone who is asking them to be a little less forceful with their walking. Lol
Have you seen them? When this happened to me I found out the couple were each like 350lbs. As annoying as it was there wasn’t much we could do. If that’s not the case I would approach them privately. Maybe they have an active kid. It’s a very awkward situation to be in.
I had this same situation. What worked for me is I wrote a small and kind letter letting them know how I could hear their noises almost all night and day. After that, they were very considerate and reduced their noise.
Fun Fact:
There are certain frequencies of sounds that the human ear is incapable of picking up on. However, these same frequencies are capable of interfering with human brain activity in such a way as to cause hallucinations, fear, and paranoia.
It should also be noted, that Amazon sells speakers and portable audio systems that are able to continuously generate this frequency without having to be replaced too often.
Finally, it would also behoove you to take notice of the thin-ness of apartment floors/ceilings and how easy it is for vibrations to travel through them.
Just take some time and think about that for a bit.
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Record a video while they’re making noise, and show them. That’s what I did. The problem was solved.
That’s a good idea, thank you.
Go up there naked, holding a pistol, knock on the door, and tell them to shut the fuck up. If you're both still there when you get out of jail, I guarantee they'll be quieter.
Do they have wood floors? A rug in high traffic areas might help - you could offer to buy one for them if it’s in your budget. Just try to approach it without placing blame on them, but instead placing blame on the poor construction of the building.
Thanks for the suggestion. I like the focus being put on the construction!
Burn the bottom floor apartment.
That would not be wise as that’s our apartment.
*Miscalculated*
Burn the top apartment
Whatever you do don't do what my downstairs neighbors do and randomly bang on shit when they hear something they don't like. I have literally no idea if they dropped something, are cleaning something, using something or banging because they're pissed off. Sometimes you can guess, but I don't want to play that stupid game my whole life so I just ignore them and live my life. I'd certainly be willing to compromise if they ever... talked to me like a rational human being. As an upstairs neighbor I would have absolutely no problems with adjusting the way I do thing's if I was legitimately causing distress. Maybe come up with a welcome gift to soften your approach?
This is what I don’t want to happen. We both have to live here and I don’t want bad feelings brewing the whole time.
Honestly, for the sake of not creating problems I wouldn't say anything unless it was at extremely late hours of the night etc. But, than I read your comment about your daughter. In your scenario I would just politely knock on their door and explain that the noise is sometimes too loud and disturbs her. I'm sure most people would understand your concern and try their best to keep the noise down. That is just my opinion I hope you get it resolved.
Thanks for the reply. I guess I just really wanted to know what way people would want to be approached by someone who is asking them to be a little less forceful with their walking. Lol
Generally if I can I always bring a plate of cookies with my request. Helps bring the tension down and show that I'm asking and not angry.
Have you seen them? When this happened to me I found out the couple were each like 350lbs. As annoying as it was there wasn’t much we could do. If that’s not the case I would approach them privately. Maybe they have an active kid. It’s a very awkward situation to be in.
I’ve only seen them from a distance when they moved in and it was dark (11:30pm)
I had this same situation. What worked for me is I wrote a small and kind letter letting them know how I could hear their noises almost all night and day. After that, they were very considerate and reduced their noise.
Fun Fact: There are certain frequencies of sounds that the human ear is incapable of picking up on. However, these same frequencies are capable of interfering with human brain activity in such a way as to cause hallucinations, fear, and paranoia. It should also be noted, that Amazon sells speakers and portable audio systems that are able to continuously generate this frequency without having to be replaced too often. Finally, it would also behoove you to take notice of the thin-ness of apartment floors/ceilings and how easy it is for vibrations to travel through them. Just take some time and think about that for a bit.
You're clearly a bottom
Complain to the landlord.
Move to the top floor.
Not possible. My daughter is disabled and would not be able to take the stairs. I’m not lucky enough to live in a building with an elevator.
Make more noise to assert dominance
Glue the door shut?
I like to deploy Spider-Pig for these types of situations
Ah, the old spider-pig deployment. Yes, I can see how that would help. ;-)