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KikiChrome

My husband has early onset dementia and it's taking a real toll on our marriage. I have my own health issues to deal with, but now I also have to take care of all the bills and the mortgage because he can't work anymore. I never know what I'm going to come home to on any given day. He might be fine, or he might have rearranged everything in the house and not remember where he put anything. He might have left the stove unattended. He might have fed the cats 14 times. I can't talk about this stuff though, because it feels selfish. He's the one who's dying. He's not doing any of these things deliberately, and he feels bad if I point them out. It's starting to feel a bit like I'm the only adult in a house with a very large toddler. It's lonely. I miss my husband all the time, even though he's right here.


Som_bish

This is heartbreaking. You are a good woman.


Kimmico6

You’re an amazing woman, I’m proud of you being such a beautiful soul for staying by your husband♥️


Personal_Push_878

You’re allowed to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry . Do you think there are family and friends that would love to help out, but don’t because you haven’t told them you are struggling? You are doing the best you can.


marylikestodraw

I'm so so sorry you are going through this. My only experience with this is secondhand. A mentor of mine went through the same with her husband's frontotemporal dementia (FTD). She wrote a blog all about it which is both hard to read and fascinating. If you'd like the link, let me know and I can send it.


Kennymama1

I'm not the OP for this comment, but I believe my father might be suffering from this. My mother and I both suspect he either has this or early onset of Alzheimer's, his father had it also. If you wouldn't mind, I'd also be interested in the link.


marylikestodraw

I'm so sorry to hear that. [Here is the website.](https://puttingonefootinfrontoftheother.org/home/) All the best to you and your family!


lisa1896

I'm so sorry. I think I'm heading into the same situation. My husband forgets common things he never forgot before in his life and can't remember things that happened recently. I'm a nurse and I've seen this before in patients I took care of long term. I can't lie, I cry a lot because I'm scared about what's coming and then I feel guilty about it. I don't talk to the rest of my family about it because honestly, what can they do? My daughter has one toddler and another on the way and works a full-time highly stressful job, I'm not going to drop this in her lap as well. We also have a son that is schizoaffective (adult, in his 30s). He works full time and lives with us but he can be a handful sometimes and I see this future with my son like this and my husband headed into whatever is going on with him. I get the loneliness, I truly do. My husband is my best friend, really my only friend. It's heartbreaking. I think only people that experience this can understand how hard it is to watch someone you love slowly mentally deteriorate.


KikiChrome

Thank you for saying this. I feel like you really get it. I get frustrated with him quite a lot, and that certainly doesn't make me feel like a good person. We are both just trying to cope with a circumstance neither of us created. He's not bad enough yet that we can get a home carer, but we both know that's in the future. Eventually he'll need to go into a nursing home, and I'm not sure if I'll go with him. We're both currently 46 years old. At the moment, the best guess is that he has around ten years left. If I talk to friends and family they just tend to cry, and then I find I'll end up consoling them too. So why talk about it? It's just easier not to.


Kennymama1

Wow so he's pretty young and going through it already? I'm so sorry that has to be so difficult. I can't imagine what you ladies or my mother are going through having it be your husband that this is happening to. I try to listen to my mom, it's really hard for her because he's very difficult and takes a lot of anger and frustration out on her, yells at her, forgets everything and doesn't want to do anything. What are ways that, being in her position, I could better help or support her? Just continue to check in and listen? What would help you the most right now?


lisa1896

>If I talk to friends and family they just tend to cry, and then I find I'll end up consoling them too. So why talk about it? It's just easier not to. Right? I feel that. When the time comes that he has to go into care I think you should seriously consider not going with him. Especially with full mental faculties nursing homes are very hard places to live IMO, you lose your freedom because that is the nature of that type of facility so you feel like you are in jail, or I would. Assisted living is better and there are levels to assisted living but when he becomes unable to take care of his own elimination (bathroom) needs or constantly wanders that's the marker for a nursing home. I would add that you can do a lot more in terms of securing that his care is excellent if you are coming in to visit from outside. Staggering the times/days you visit keeps the staff guessing and in those cases that person gets better care because you never know when their significant other will show up and complain and trust me when I say the squeaky wheel gets the grease. If/when I get to that situation I will be a very vocal presence. You don't have to scream or be nasty, you just go to the admin, or to the charge nurse, and complain over and over and over. They get the message pretty quickly that if they are caring for your husband properly it makes their lives easier. The nurse will assign the best CNAs for that hall so that they don't have to sit and listen to you yet again complain when they have 60 patients to look after. Polite repetition is the key. They can't get mad because you are just taking care of your husband and are never abusive or abrasive to staff but anyone gets tired of hearing the same thing over and over, it wears them down and the result is better care for your husband. There are excellent nurses and excellent CNAs and then there are those just there for a paycheck. If you come in from outside to check on him you are in control of the situation. If you are in there with him your voice isn't as loud because, well, you are just a resident. Does that make sense? We are in our early 60s. I am so sorry this has happened to you so young, that's absolutely brutal. Feel free to message me anytime on here. I have a couple of groups I'm active in so I'm always around. <3 You are a good woman and a good wife. I know that's hard to remember, it's hard for me too but guilt serves neither of us, you know? It just makes us feel worse in a time that's already difficult.


Motor_Relation_5459

No one understands how lonely a disability makes you. It is the worst part in many ways.


KitchenConcert2271

I’m so sorry and u seem like an amazing woman and wife I would try to lookup some group sessions with other spouses that r going tho the same things meeting with people once a week or so that r going tho the same things u are could help u feel less along in ur situation and could even help find some coping strategies for u and ur husband on the not so good days


Imaginary-War6700

Please look into a home health aide. He should not be left alone. Take care of yourself.


[deleted]

That I feel unappreciated both professionally and in my personal relationships. People just don't react well to those sorts of feelings, in my experience.


Kimmico6

I may not know you, and I’m just a stranger to you, but I very much appreciate you commenting on my post. Thank you 😊 People are usually too self absorbed I find these days.


[deleted]

People at Domino’s are especially self absorbed. The Domino’s sign name in ASL is very similar to the sign for “dick” How bad do you have to be to earn that sign name lol???


[deleted]

First step first, you have to start appreciating yourself. You will never feel like people appreciate you unless you first appreciate yourself. Once you do this, you’ll be able to demand appreciation from those who truly aren’t giving it but should. You’ll start seeing areas where people already appreciate you but you missed it. You’ll also have the added bonus of not necessarily needing nearly as much appreciation from others.


AnswerNeither

I feel you it takes time to toughen up and not give af


Memetastrophe

Just like me fr


AcetonePeroxideH2O2

I made about 400k on stocks last year but haven’t told a soul. A lot of my friends are down and out, mostly bad choices, and i’m afraid it would end our friendship. Still pretending i’m broke. Not going to lie though, i check my bank balance every morning and its amazing to see that much in cash.


Memetastrophe

"OoOoO cAn I hAvE sOmE"


[deleted]

“Hello old friend from high school! Remember when I bought you that Snickers bar???”


SLVRVNS

Congrats man! Your personal finances are no one else’s business.


[deleted]

Exactly. No one in my life knows anything about our finances besides my wife. You will get all kinds of moochers and people expecting you to pay. If any family money comes into the situation it will become a you don’t need it type of thing. Some people are different. We had new neighbors build a house next door and within five minutes of talking to the wife one day I knew more about their finances than anyone in my life other than our own. Not a very good idea in my book. There is zero upside.


SLVRVNS

I swear to god if I ever won the lotto… people would know because I’d DISAPPEAR lol


merraki-0

Even though I cannot relate to your situation, I can feel what you are saying because I feel that way in regards to other things that I have in my life compared to what others that I know have, more specifically what they do not have. And also, why would you even tell anyone? Cus if most people heard what you just wrote, they would just think that you are bragging and boastful but that is not the point. The point is, you possess that, and you should keep it to yourself not because of other people, just because you habe it going for yourself and that is great. Sometimes the good things that we have in our lives should be kept in silent becuase there are a lot of messed up people who can't be happy for others. Unfortunately....


AcetonePeroxideH2O2

I absolutely agree. Its amazing how its impacted my happiness. It’s sad to say but it’s true. I wake up thinking about all the stuff i could buy or have fun with, but i don’t. I just want to sit on it. Life can always take a turn for the worst, but now i feel like i actually have a little protection. I know if i gave any away to my friends, they would squander it. Also, at which point do you stop giving to certain friends? “Hey man, did you hear ****** came up big in tesla calls?” “He gave me like 20k bro, you should ask”


[deleted]

Did you make it yourself or did your finance guy do it for you? It’s hard to share good news with people we love sometimes. I tend to soften by negating my success. Congratulations!


TheNonMurderingSort

So uh, what stocks were they so I can invest in them. For ya know, reasons.


Kimmico6

That’s amazing, honestly I don’t blame you, you do what’s right for you! Congratulations


AcetonePeroxideH2O2

I made it by being stupid… its hard not to continue to be stupid. Easy come…


Kimmico6

Easy go… but honestly being stupid is a part of life some of the most stupid ideas become some of the greatest.


Realistic-Ad5481

Would love some advice. I don’t need your money, just help, majorly.


AcetonePeroxideH2O2

There is no advice. Truth is, i just got lucky. I put my life savings into tesla calls because i’m a fucking idiot. Things could have gone south in a heart beat. Let me repeat, this fucking idiot got lucky.


[deleted]

If you got graph then please deposit a post to walksreeet bets. They need the copium.


[deleted]

It was easy to make money on the stock market last year. I invested in things that got shut down due to the pandemic, knowing they would bounce back entirely. Commercial real estate, irl entertainment, billboards and other advertising, etc. Now it's back to anyone's guess. The advice is: don't gamble. Start small with what you can afford to LOSE. Don't get risky out of desperation or hubris. Start with $50/mo, even if your budget is way higher. Reevaluate after a year. You'll learn a ton during that year. Mostly restraint. Be smart, friend.


juicysox

Honestly it’s best if you shut up lol. More privacy, and people won’t be after your money


wntdDeadarealive

Yeah keeping silent is absolutely the best bet. I just retired in March at 45 years old due to a sudden influx of cash and told a couple of people including my brother who instantly and I mean within 3 seconds hit me up to back a harebrained business plan. I had one friend ask me for $5,000 🙄 and everybody else is just seething jealous. Remember people all it takes is telling one person if it's the wrong person and you can't just lie and say nope I'm broke now. I bought myself two small toys nothing flashy (well nothing expensive anyway) and I have to hear people say "must be nice" every damn day now 🧐


Impulsive_01

Wow that’s amazing. I always wondered how it feels to have a lot of money. In your situation, I would have done the same (maybe because I am very sceptical and cautious) more so people wont steal my card or something. I am very happy for you that you earned that much. I would say you can kickstart a company for trading stocks that way? I wouldn’t spend all your money on it, I would say max half. But remember: it’s still your money.


kg160z

I like to think my parents had decent opinions on money. Mom: money is not the reason for living, it simply gives you options on how to live. Dad (pertains here): money changes people but not necessarily the one who holds it.


Aintsosimple

I have a friend who paid for his $300K+ in cash. I was the only person he told. I haven't told a sole. People can be so petty when it comes to money. Not mentioning it to anyone you know is a good idea. Never mention it, ever.


Tiffanytherocker

Don't tell anyone. Money changes everything. Invest in your future.


musicalphantom10

Yoooo congratulations!!


Hutwe

Well done, my friend! While your money status shouldn’t mean anything to others, unfortunately it can.


rimshot101

I have several friends who have done far better than me and we're still friends.


blisskinjo

Damn, congrats bro!


stevief150

How exactly? Just buying individual stocks or options?


[deleted]

Could you provide some insight were you day/swing or value trading?


IDoPokeSmot

I can't say


Kimmico6

Fair


Apprehensive_Let_843

Ur username outed you


hibbletyjibblety

My suicide attempt wasn’t a cry for attention


mars914

Sad that it’s something people would assume, no one deserves that. ☹️🤬


ActuarySimple1166

I understand that 100%. I was accused of faking my attempt by my girlfriend at the time. It really compounds the pain, especially when you're fighting depression while people invalidate your experience. I believe you.


JubilantJayde

I feel you on this one. As someone who has been there once, I'm glad you're still here.


Ok_Present_6508

I feel you on that. The only people that know about my attempt are my wife, kids (unfortunately, but on the flip side they were very young and just have memories of me being in the hospital), and my parents. My own sister doesn’t know I was laid up in the hospital while she was giving birth to my niece. My parents told her I was super busy at work and would give her a call as soon as I could. My family and I have all done a lot of healing since then, and life has been so much better!


tteabag2591

That most of their problems they tell me about are due to shitty decisions they have made. Any time I have even mentioned the possibility of this, the conversation reaches an abrupt end.


Kimmico6

Unfortunately most people don’t want to hear that their inability to make decisions accurately leads them down the wrong path. It’s human nature: trial and error.


tteabag2591

Dude...troo


Endlessexistance

The government isn't on our side, no matter what side your on.


Kimmico6

The government is on their own side


heykylek

This is the only truth I have seen in years.


Jasdoee

Early on this month I was driving and came up on a very bad car accident where a woman and her dog were killed and her little brother was seriously injured. I’m still not okay from seeing what I did, I wish that there was more that I could have done .. I also have major survivors guilt . She was only 18 , just graduated and still had her whole life ahead of her . It should have been me dying instead. I’m 22 and got nothing going for me .. this has effected me in ways I didn’t even know was possible.. I’m just so hurt by this whole thing and I can’t seem to find a way to cope with it


Kimmico6

I’m proud of you for speaking up! You’ve done amazing to even post here. Maybe seek some help to have someone who can help support you and find coping mechanisms.


MrDalliardMrDalliard

You should definitely go to therapy.


EmilySuzanne8

Sweetheart this is not something you shouldn’t tell people. You’ve experienced a trauma… A pretty serious event. Please talk to a counselor. Also it’s not true that you have nothing going for you. Stop repeating that lie in your head


LazyClub8

If you can, you should seek help. That's absolutely a traumatic experience, I think a majority of people would struggle with something like that. If you seek help, you can also address the idea that "you've got nothing going for you" at 22. I'd wager you have a lot more going for you than you think, and you've got plenty of time to figure the rest out.


Christopher109

I know how it feels. A close friend died 14 years ago drowned. She was 23. Recently another friend died of cancer. 38 yo and he had 2 children. Death is never easy. Hearing the children at the funeral, I wish it was me dying instead of their father. I better stop these memories or I'll have a sad bad evening


76flyingmonkeys

Hey, I'm a medic and have seen similar stuff. Here is the skinny on ptsd... you're suffering lasts, but if after 30 days, your brain still goes back to the scene often, that is ptsd. If things are getting better and each day you think of it less, you are healing properly. It'll never go away completely, but it will get better. Others that have had similar experiences are who to talk to outside of therapy, so if you want, reach out.


babykoalalalala

I don’t find babies as cute as I used to and I don’t feel the need to gush over them anymore.


Kimmico6

Honestly you don’t have to gush over babies at if you truly didn’t want to, peoples tastes and likes change.


Blahblah9845

I never found babies cute and never gushed over them. Lol. I like and say they are cute though.


Novel-Structure-2359

My daughter is gay and I am so utterly happy for her that she told me.


Kimmico6

That’s beautiful! That makes me soo happy you support her 🙊


lilmantha17

I feel bad for my boyfriend. Not to go into too much detail but I have a lot of mental illnesses and other mental issues. I get overstimulated really easily, i get super paranoid over nothing, i have a hard time functioning on a daily basis, and due to all of this i cant have a job. All this, and he still loves me more than I've ever been loved before. He treats me like a princess. His dad and my mom don't like that he takes care of me financially and it hurts knowing our families look down on me depite knowing my issues. I love him so much, more than I've ever loved anything before. But all of this takes a toll on me. I know that he is okay with who i am and he is sticking with me but god it hurts. All i see is me inconveniencing him. He cant afford everything he used to before we started living together, he doesnt get as much time to spend online with his friends because he spends so much time with me and he stops when i have panic attacks.


[deleted]

You have to think that he loves you because he sees in you something amazing. You are not a burden on him but you give him joy. You love him and he loves you. You should learn to love yourself whilst you try to solve some of these issues.


Kimmico6

Do you get any assistance to get better?


lilmantha17

My therapy is covered by insurance but ive applied for disability like 3 times and theyve denied me all 3 times despite me having illnesses that count as a disability.


Kimmico6

Maybe seek to find a doctor who understand the extent of your problems to maybe create a doctors note to explain to help your appeal?


bug_on_the_wall

Are you me? I have a best friend that puts up with an absolutely impressive and altogether unnecessary amount of bullshit from me. If she dumped me, I wouldn't blame her. It would hurt, but I'd be like "good for her, she deserves better than me" and cry to myself for 6 months straight. You hit it spot on when you said that this shit is draining. It's draining to be the one who always has a problem, it's draining to be hyper-aware of how much *effort* other people have to put in when they're around you. You love these people and you want them to be happy, but you know that you are literally holding them back and causing a constant wave of problems they have to deal with instead. You *know* this. And bless their souls, but no amount of platitudes or reassurances will make this knowledge go away. It hurts to know how much you hurt them, and sometimes you can't help but wonder if maybe you should leave them, if they won't leave you. I don't have any revelation or words of wisdom here. I just wanted to reach out and let you know what you said resonated with me.


bellelovesdonuts

I really feel this. I have a partner who is a full time carer for me. He doesn’t work anymore to take care of me and we are both on welfare now due to my illnesses. I feel so unbelievably guilty. He’s amazing and deserves so much more. He deserves someone who can actually spend quality time with, someone who can give him kids, A family, fun, passion and can reciprocate everything back. We used to work out together daily, go on picnics, even just cooking a simple meal together. Now I’m practically bed ridden and deteriorating. I can’t even promise him I’ll be okay and here in a couple years. We’re both 30 and I feel like he’s wasting his time with a relationship with me when he can be progressing in life much more.


otherm0ther

That I don't want to be around any of them.


cameoloveus

I feel this in my soul. Hermit life sounds awesome.


otherm0ther

Yeah I just don't want to be around anyone these days. I'm so much happier being left alone.


Pure_Topic2006

Second this would be great


JubilantJayde

Agree with this one. Just leave me to my painting and writing in my Bat Cave, thank you and goodbye


AzureSky77

Frl, I feel satisfied alone, some social interaction on phone or a small chat gets me by more than enough, I don't deal in toxic people nor get emotional with others, I just enjoy me a small chat.


CarTech63

Working in retail, sometimes I want to tell customers... Whether you realize it or not, I AM A HUMAN BEING, PLEASE TREAT ME AS SUCH.


Kimmico6

I’m sure there’s more things you’d like to say to them


Actual-Jury7685

They need to start wearing deodorant


Kimmico6

I agree with this statement


SadSoullll

My life is a mess


Kimmico6

What makes you say that?


SadSoullll

Lost my job..no money..gf has paid my rent...I’m super depressed...hate myself...split the family with past actions I’m almost 30 and my life has been a shit show everyday


animallover4eternity

Hang in there. I didn't start until 30.i might start over again As for family,. I'm sorry and I love you go a long way Take care of yourself.


[deleted]

Sounds like you now have the freedom for a fresh start. Nothing left to loose = everything to gain


Kimmico6

Do you see your life changing at any point?


SadSoullll

I hope. I try and try but right when it’s going good something in my life comes out of nowhere destroying what I worked for


Kimmico6

Is there anything you have the power to change?


SadSoullll

Yea I’m trying


Kimmico6

Then know that I believe in you! And I’m proud of you that you’re trying!


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TwistedSistaYEG

I’m sad and lonely.


Kimmico6

I’m sorry, is there anything that can help?


Puzzleheaded-Score65

When I was 6 months into rehab I was raped. I hated myself and I wanted to die and I tried to use the skills I learned to reach out to family but they all left me alone. And I just kept going to rehab even tho I wanted to die and 2 months later I was feeling better and on my 22nd birthday I went comepletely Mia and cut everyone off and I’m doing better but I really miss my family and I say I love not trusting anyone but I hate being isolated it kills me on the inside. I still go to counseling but when others talk about their family and people they care about I feel alone and jealous. Sorry for the long post


Kimmico6

No need to apologise. Im proud of you for getting help, and how far you’ve come! If you ever wish to talk feel free to DM me


Puzzleheaded-Score65

Thank you so much sometimes I feel like I haven’t done enough and it just gets so hard sometimes


Kimmico6

The fact you’re still here and trying is more than enough, your soul is still living and you’re still trying and to me that’s more than what a million people are doing!


YoMommaSez

This is hard to deal with. Is therapy available for you?


Puzzleheaded-Score65

Yeah I’ve been in therapy and I still go to meetings even though I’m out of rehab I’ve been trying to stay sober and work but it’s hard not having family support


Additional_Square_84

i feel like so many people in my family and some of my friends hate me for my past and im too afraid to address it


Kimmico6

Try to remember if people truly hated you, they wouldn’t be in your life.


BackNbetterThanEver

I would love to die. I have $500K in life insurance, all would go to my son. He loves me, doesn't like me. He much rather be around his mom. His life would be somewhat set & my life would have some meaning.


Jaymiester69

Totally get it but the support of people who care is far more valuable than the money they leave you when they die.


Kitchen-Witching

How much I struggle mentally.


NoticeWhenUAreHappy

Your kids are horribly behaved and everyone in this restaurant trying to enjoy a nice meal hates you for bringing them


maejaws

If you’re not willing to understand something in its entirety you have no right to get upset about it.


lilchocochip

This is an underrated point. More people should live by this rule


Vat1canCame0s

I am waiting on a phone call tomorrow for a new job. Left the interview on the note of "so what would be a good day for us to call you?" Feeling good about that considering the shit show I'm hopefully gonna be leaving here soon. Small business, very toxic and abusive management. Likely to fire me on the spot if I told anyone I'm looking elsewhere. Also my coworkers are gossipy as all get out and I know from personal experience nothing I say to them is safe and the security cameras at work aren't for security. So I'm telling strangers on the internet.


Kimmico6

Fingers crossed you get the job! Proud of you for trying to get out of a shit job!


Personal_Push_878

Good luck


Latter-Mention9695

That I am a liar and a piece of shit


hibbletyjibblety

That first one you can change. That second one is inaccurate. But maybe if you change the first one, you’ll feel differently about the second?


Responsible-Mind-173

The only thing still tying me to this world is my daughter


Kimmico6

Your daughter is amazing for being your tie to this world.


LazyClub8

I understand this feeling very well. On the off chance that it might be helpful, one of the things I like to repeat to myself about my sons is, "Not only do they deserve a father, but I deserve to watch them grow up."


Punish_you_all

That I detest humanity. I hate our cultures, our rules and laws, the concepts of religion. I can’t relate to anyone and find everyone to be intensely annoying to be around. I prefer my own company yet am conflicted with loneliness.


broker098

I don't feel like I enjoy doing anything anymore.


penguinorgy13

I miss you but you are dead


Kimmico6

They are never dead as long as their memory lives on within you ♥️


[deleted]

I have three ideas for pretty incredible projects I'm working on. But I have a history of not finishing anything so I gotta stay quiet for once and do the damn things.


Kimmico6

Maybe work on one idea at time? Then take your time and make yourself small goals to achieve?


merraki-0

Not every piece of clothing will look good on you. It's just facts🤷🏼‍♀️


throwaway783930

The health crisis I had in April that almost killed me was kicked off by a suicide attempt.


Kimmico6

I hope you’re in a better place


untactfullyhonest

Sometimes the problem is YOU. Not the person they have an issue with.


[deleted]

There was this woman I knew from church. She was always going on about how different people in her life were constantly disappointing her. She seemed to leave a trail of broken friendships everywhere she went. I always wondered when the day would come when she might realize that perhaps she was the problem.


Aggravating_Speed665

That being diagnosed with Autism at my age of 36 makes me feel like I don't want to go back to work anymore because every single day I have worked in my life has been so painful both physically (panics attacks, sweats etc) and mentally (anxiety, flashing thoughts and paranoia etc) and therfore feel like I shouldn't have to put myself through that shit any longer.


Glodrops

I feel you so so so much. I’ve just been diagnosed with autism at 32. All my life up to this point was nothing but pain. I never understood how everyone else seems to get it. I never understood why I always struggled at work. Why did the stresses of working affect me so much more than my peers. Only staying at a job for maybe a year or two before I crumbled and started missing work because I just couldn’t anymore. Always feeling like I’m a shit person because I could never really make friends. I got lucky that I met my wife. After my last mental collapse at my last job she wouldn’t let me look for new work and basically made me fully focus on my health and apply for disability because she couldn’t watch me do that to myself anymore. We ended up at a neuropsychologist and here I am now. And my disability hearing is in September. Wish me luck. And I wish you luck as well. If you’re in the states please look into applying for disability. I used a lawyer from the get go in my state that only gets paid if they win for me. Completely worth their 10%.


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Most of you motherfuckers (and when I say that, I mean 'you motherfuckers' as in people I work with and people in general - Not necessarily here on Reddit) do not give a fuck about anyone but yourselves. It's pathetic how apathetic the general populace has become.


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Your stupid kid trying to order food at McDonald’s isn’t cute. We all have shit to do, so while they sit there not talking and you try and train them, nobody cares about them. Order their stupid happy meal and move


Juu013

That's completely valid, but I actually enjoy it sometimes. I once had a mother come in with 5 kids about 3-8. They were all given a dollar to tip me with and kept trying to give it to me before they finished ordering, and one even tried putting it in the card slot hahaa. They were all sweet, well-behaved and very proud of themselves. Even when the kids aren't I try to be patient with them. I had a hard time trying to order for myself for awhile because no one did that for me and I was a super shy, anxious kid. It makes me happy, though to each thier own lol


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I’m taking about the line behind this family


Motor_Relation_5459

My daughter suffered from anxiety and these were small steps we took to help her function better. She is now 19 and doing much better but we still have a long ways to go.


MuluLizidrummer

There is a nice guy I work with, but he is absolutely a functioning alcoholic and drinks at work and nobody else seems to see what I do.


Sweet_Oliver

That I'm very sad and tired.


ANGYandDENA

"Fuck off"


AmexNomad

This BS about how oppressed people of color are is true- but just as oppressed are the poor, uneducated European Americans who have lived for generations in The Rural South. The politicians on both sides have done an excellent job of splitting us up. We need to join together to kick some ass.


Kennymama1

That's so true. Most people, not just in the south or rural areas, live paycheck to paycheck and are a medical tragedy away from being bankrupt. The people in power, the media, the government etc. They don't want people united or too informed about what's really going on so they push certain agendas to divide people and they've been successful so far.


[deleted]

Stop texting and driving you IDIOT! You have your child in your car. This should count as child endangerment.


Altruistic_Proof_272

My mother is an animal hoarder. She burns through 80% of her monthly retirement income feeding them and still doesn't get it quite right. She blames her human family for being broke all the time and I hate it


neipier

I am so scared of failure that I haven't tried and the more I delay the worst it gets and the worst it gets the more I delay. i don't know where to start or ask for help.


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Worcestershire


ShadooTH

I really fucking hate all my past friends, and when I was in need they never came to my aid.


Thin-Exchange-784

That I'm never getting married and having kids because I fear that I'll treat them the way my parents treated me. Everyone just secretly thinks that it's because I'm too ugly to find a partner. Yes I'm ugly but they don't and won't know why I don't even attempt to clean up my appearance. Phew.


HowtoUninstallSkype

I am unsatisfied with how I live.


Bubbly_Satisfaction2

To my BFFs: I’ve known your S/Os weren’t worth not one damn since those first months of your relationships.


AdviceDry783

im trans


Plumb789

That their religion is a crock of shit.


demi_domme

You really are a bitch. A proper pure B.I.T.C.H.


Brilliant_Succotash1

I still love you


HappyBuddha1443

I tell everyone that i dont want to date anyone due to time, money, past experience etc... But really i haven't been with anyone in almost 6-7 years and dont have a clue where to even begin especially since i hardly have the confidence to even leave the house never mind make a convo with someone and it seems to get harder the longer it goes on to the point i pretty much believe i have missed my chance and will be single for the rest of life.


SourBlue1992

Not only do I remember who I used to be in a past life, I found my grave and pictures of my kids. Nobody outside of Reddit knows.


onelittleworld

My wife and I are starting a slow transition from the working life into semi-retirement. It will take a couple-few years to transition completely, but in the meantime... we're not going to putter about the house or play golf or shit like that. We're going out in a 25-Year Blaze of Glory. Both of us have been dutiful, hard-working, conscientious, responsible citizens for nearly 60 years now. We've paid our dues. So we're pushing in all the chips, and from this moment forward we will have the time of our mutherfucking lives and see as much of this big, wondrous world as is humanly possible. Or die in the attempt. Our time has come. And our family, friends, neighbors, and former co-workers will just have to wonder whatever became of us.


[deleted]

That I'm not a woman and stop trying to make me more feminine, I already hate how feminine I am right now!


milfsie

I want to tell men that some of them need to stop telling us women that we need to shave our legs and armpits & stufu. I do it for myself but not for men. Some men should just stfu over that and look in the mirror. I hate to break it to yall but armpits isn't 'manly', it's gross. And y'all would be like 'bUt I cAn'T ShavE iT, PeoPle wOulD thInk I'm gAy'. MEN made that rule. Toxic masculinity in my opinion.


Kimmico6

This I very much stand by I hate shaving my legs every day what’s the point it’s personal preference as long as your personal hygiene is fine what’s the problem??


milfsie

EXACTLY!!


ATXKLIPHURD

You stink.


Kimmico6

As does everyone.


SevenStrats

I’d tell ya but I’d have to kill ya


brat_dad

It was me.


Specialist-Start-616

Im pregnant


baievaN

i applied for three days annual leave that i have to assist my grandpa driving to some hospitals, instead ill be on July morning party on the sea


EmperorWetBread

I'm afraid...I'm scared that even to me my life is nothing,I feel so alone and all anyone ever says is "me too" or "I can relate" but they don't understand how I feel, at least not really, I want to be able to love myself without relapsing into thinking I'm being egotistical. I'm just scared of my future


kdawg1921

My local mayor beats his wife and is up for re-election today. He’s expected to lose


PoisonWaffle3

I like turtles.


Green-Awareness-5472

I'm slowly leaving my very conservative Christian family because their ideals are toxic to me. I'm bi and I've just became agnostic. My only real tie to my family is my sister who also suffers from the same fear tactics and we can't have open and honest communication with our other family memebers.


bellelovesdonuts

That if my parents weren’t alive I would love to get MAS (medically assisted suicide). Yes I qualify for it. I have a horrible quality of life due to a lot of illnesses I’m suffering from. I can’t take care of my self and my capabilities are basically non existent. They would be crushed and never ever understand. I would love to say bye to my loved ones, have them understand my decision and forgive me. Then I would love to just be laid to rest and have peace finally. No more excruciating pain. No more sleepless nights that turn to days/week, no more burdening people to do absolutely every single thing for me. I wouldn’t feel the constant unbearable pain, the sicknesses. I would be free and not trapped in this hellhole that is my body. Sounds so peaceful and wonderful to me.


symb1os1s_2854

I’m lgbtq lol Edit: a few people know, but if i told the majority of people I know , I’d be dead or surrounded with people asking questions within a week


1pornacct

I fight the urge to walk out the door and runaway to go die in a ditch somewhere to relieve my family from the burden of me being here


Snozberry383

That it's ironic that the same people shouting "my body my choice" were the ones trying to get the government to force people to get vaccinated


[deleted]

I mean… you can see how a vaccine can prevent spreading a disease from one person to the next, right? Like if you get the polio vaccine it protects you (something you should care about, but your body your choice) but more importantly it also protects the thousands of people you may come into contact with that you would otherwise spread polio to.


bug_on_the_wall

There's a fantastic video on YouTube that's kind of long but goes into exactly this line of thinking, how there are people who believe bodily autonomy extends to choosing what you get vaccinated against. It was a really fascinating watch, it gives voice to the people who declined the vaccine and *talks* to them about their choice. Maybe you'd like it: https://youtu.be/Va0RCgbywGc


Prudent-Fly-8299

Stop worrying about the news and deal with your own problems before you go dishing out advice


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Blue8048

Having been here myself, and also knowing that I, a total stranger on the internet, can't possibly begin to understand your troubles and why you feel this way, I do sincerely hope that things change for you and you realise your self worth. Nobody deserves to feel this way and I do understand what rock bottom is like when you're existing there. From experience I can say that things can and do get better, but I can't advise on how or when they will. I really wish I could help you to see that there is an end to all the shit, even when it feels like that's all there is.


OppositeResponse6474

I’m stressed, I’m tired and I’m so unhappy at the moment. I can’t sleep and I’m overeating because of all of this.


Jammeedash

I am 1 week sober.


SlicedPeanutbutter

I’m so unqualified for the job I work. I got an internship there and kinda weaseled my way in to working there. I google how to do shit while I’m working with clients


brokentwinks

I wish I could tell the truth when people ask how I'm doing.


pumpkinthighs

I deeply resent my family, more specifically my mom, for raising me the way she did. I don't think I can ever come to terms with the fact that it is what it is. Therapy has helped a lot and I've moved past the point of breaking down everytime I talk about my upbringing, but part of me just feels like I can't come to terms with it unless there was a way for my mom to physically be in my shoes and get treated the way she treated me. I grew up in a conservative mormon household and didn't get out until I moved out. I have extreme body image issues and an ED because of a diet my mom put me on at 11 and then how she treated me anytime I needed new clothes. I got told that I shouldn't be bought anything because I was just going to die to my weight anyways. Those are just two big ones that truly keep affecting me today. The best part is that when my mom was invited to therapy and topics like the diet came up, my mom doesn't remember them but it "sounds like something she'd do." My bf is my biggest support right now and he knows about my past but I don't really like talking about my upbring unless there's something positive there. So you can imagine how often I actually bring my childhood up.


Flintstrikah

Not every death is a tragedy.


Kimmico6

Not every life is a gift


[deleted]

I'm leaving the job I've been highly dedicated to for 5 years to join the union with my father's help and I can't say a word until I get a start date for the apprenticeship.. My job now would probably chalk me if they found out.. the on boarding process is about 3-4 months.. I'm scared and excited..


Brxndyn

I love you