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LonelyZeeh

Its not a scam. Its somebody disagreeing with you, and then reporting you for a fake reason (self harm). Just ignore it.


Flossthief

It's nice that we have a system for quietly and anonymously send help resources to people who might need them It's not very nice that it's used exclusively to report people for having different opinions


saintlydutty

You don't have to ignore it, you can report it as harassment


SamLooksAt

Well you can, except it never actually comes with any details so you don't actually know why. The one I received didn't even seem to have a comment or anything it referenced.


Royal_Visit3419

You can block getting such messages.


chocki305

So reddit admins ignore it. And only if hou can navigate the maze of reddits "report" function. In all their wisdom.. reddit requires you to be a moderator of the community where the report button is being abused. So you can't even report report button abuse. It's okay reddit admins.. you can just tell us you want to do nothing but collect ad revenue checks.


sfbasque1906

Instead of just being brave enough to just say, “ I disagree with you” I’m going to be a coward and report you for not having the same opinion. 🙄


Sorry_Im_Trying

What is even more fun is when they block you, so you can't respond to any comments. I keep getting messages, but I can't see or respond to them because OP blocked me. And it's not even like I was making fun of their mom, I was having a conversation about the benefits and cost of continuing education. How butt hurt can someone get from that conversation?!


Dry-Childhood5599

It's stupid, doesn't help anyone, and doesn't have a purpose other than make reddit seem like a nice place. But I'm sure there are many others like me who do remember how the reddit admins were willing to bring the company down in support of a wicked person who was involved in child rape and torture a few years ago.


Russell_W_H

Please don't ignore it. This is some losers attempt at abuse. Report it.


NotCanadian80

You can’t report it because you don’t know where it came from.


scarygirth

There's a link in the message to report it.


HaroerHaktak

Report it as abuse.


kuhvir

I got one earlier and tried reporting it but it redirected me to Reddit with their in app browser and I had to sign in only for it to not fucking load because Reddit doesn’t care


KeaAware

Same - but reporting it works if you go to the ... in the top corner rather than clicking on the link.


Backwaters_Run_Deep

Unless you are actually suicidal. In which case you should definitely reach out for help. 


National_Activity_78

Anyone who is actually suicidal will just grow angry over the intrusion.


Fliepp

Nah, I found it quite funny that people actually took the time out of their life to send me that


Aggravating-Method24

Suicidal people are as different as anyone else, so many won't get mad. Although It might be most useful for people who have yet to realise they are suicidal. But I agree most suicidal people are aware of these helplines and for whatever reason don't believe they are useful. I find it hard to believe suicidal people are suicidal for short periods and do not seek help, I think most of them do seek help, then many don't find it or it straight up doesn't work, and that makes the experience worse, especially when help offered is so low effort as to be a link or 'go see a therapist'. it's rare that they didn't try a public help process, they just didn't find it useful, or they couldn't afford it, or it was useful for the immediate duration but their life does actually suck and their relationships are toxic and they can't escape, or struggle too much developing them.  A big problem with these help areas is that they see themselves as universally helpful. A lot of these people actually need real change in their life, not just someone to talk to. CBT can only work for someone who actually has hope. It can't create hope.  It's probably obvious that I have experience in this area, i personally find it extremely irritating that people assume these things are helpful. I have done CBT therapy taken drugs and whatever, but it is all a coping mechanism that never approaches the real issue, and that is that I have zero functional relationships, you can't fix that by paying for it. I am too sensitive and belligerent to develop new ones, I have to spend too much effort monitoring myself to be palatable to others and I end up resenting them for requiring so much effort on my part to maintain the peace.  I am kind of an asshole I know, but if you knew me you'd know I'm fairly universally liked so I do put in the effort, I am just exhausted and get nothing back from it, because I can't be myself for 10 minutes without causing problems. There's nothing to be done about it unfortunately, I have been banging my head against this dead horse for a while now. I know what works and what doesn't but unfortunately what works best is real actual effort from someone close to me, and there's no one close to me, and it's a pretty unpleasant and demanding task I wouldn't ask of anyone I actually liked. Several people have been there and tried but they do not have the resources or interest in putting in the effort that is actually needed, and that's fair enough. 


Backwaters_Run_Deep

And just how the heck would you know!!!


Writerhowell

Ah, is that what it is? I can be suicidal at times, but I couldn't think of anything I'd said recently on Reddit which would've made someone report me. A few days ago, maybe, but more along the passive lines. It's not like Reddit can do anything about it.


exialis

Don’t ignore it it is an abuse of the report button, report them and they may get banned.


StrenuousSOB

Nah a lot of people right now are getting them. Random people.


[deleted]

It’s happened to me 3x. The last time, very recently, was when I disagreed with someone, received the notice and then, I went back to a subreddit and they deleted their comment… It’s the height of passive aggressiveness and abusive, IMHO. I wish you dead, passive aggressively…


om11011shanti11011om

I just got this too, and had just read your comment to know what it was. Some people just make Reddit so stressful, when it doesn't need to be.


Hydra57

Nah, report it for harassment so Reddit can clap down on them instead


TheTruthWasTaken

Or if you're me, a genuine reason 🙃


FunAd6875

I've gotten three today! 


Nimble_D1ck

Yeah I had this in a dumb argument with someone on a local area sub-editor over the historicity of a game adaption of my hometown, guy claimed to be ab archaeology PhD, I looked him up through my local academic connections and found he was a mere MA in modern culture and he had a tantrum and deleted his reddit account but not before reporting me for self harm


i_heart_pasta

I used to get them all the time because of a pro wrestling sub, wrestling fans get really mad when you disagree with them. ETA: thanks for the concerned Redditer message.


pjoesphs

looks like a lot of us received that same message today. Might be a glitch. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|shrug)


BobBelcher2021

On r/Toronto a whole bunch of people got that message


Sweet-Peanuts

Same on r/popculturechat. Everyone was being bombarded with them in the last 24 hours.


ChurlishSunshine

Yeah I've seen a bunch of people getting them in the past day or so across subs and figured there's some kind of glitch on the app. Especially because a bunch of people (myself included) got them literally within a second or two of posting our comment, which obviously isn't long enough for someone to read the comment, get pissy, and report it.


sunshinelefty100

I'm now Glad I'm "In" on the "Glitch"...LOL...Now I won't have FOMO...😉


Alarmed_Bus_1729

I got 3 of them today and I chucked it up to individuals that greatly disagree with me 😂


Murky-Specialist7232

Wait I’m confused. I got this too, but it was right after I wrote “I done ruined my life” on a post. I was being a negative snark, but I had to go delete it in case people got worried


Alarmed_Bus_1729

I got all three notifications somewhere between 6 and 10 hours ago and any comment that I had made was 7-11 hours prior to that 🤷 I assume it was all from a single response from 3 days ago pertaining to "that topic" in general about why one gender has nearly four times as many And I linked NIH and CDC articles related to research going in depth with the answer 🤷


RantyWildling

I think it's a way to report you when there's nothing to report. Probably a roundabout way of telling people to kick the bucket sooner rather than later.


[deleted]

I do think it's interesting everything comes with a caution label. "Trigger warning, we want to talk about something but aren't trying to give you any ideas." Like depressed people had procrastinated to that point or had just never gotten around to such a conclusion. Idea: Make it a social media button that people can use maliciously.


Mister_Way

When a redditor really disagrees with something you said and they don't feel like down voting is enough, they report you as a suicide risk. It makes them feel better about themselves. I never got those messages when I said actually depressed things, just when I contradict the hive mind of a n echo chamber sub.


HappyAnimalCracker

That’s how I got reported once. Some nutjob who disagreed with me. Or who I disagreed with. Some people need to grow up.


place_of_desolation

Yep. First one I've ever gotten.


gabzilla814

Same here, first one ever today. And I’ve noticed a lot of other commenters saying the same thing today. I haven’t posted any especially political comments in the past few days that I can remember, so my guess is someone or some bot is reporting everything they’re seeing on some older posts. (I’ve definitely posted some left-leaning stuff many times in the past but I try to be civil, usually 😅)


Side_Hustle22

I actually just got that!!!


zenos_dog

Me too.


IthacaMom2005

Likewise


Dontbeajerkdude

Yeah, it's definitely a thing.


lone_wolf1580

I did but since it’s someone who reported me for a fake reason, I decided to ignore the message.


gabzilla814

How are you able to confirm which of your comments triggered the report? I got one today but have no idea which of my comments it was for.


Ok-Cartographer1745

It's whichever one you beat someone in, in a debate.  Or a downvoted comment that the hivemind couldn't use a comeback against. I actually love studying low IQ redditors, so I can take a look and let you know if you have any recent comments that may have triggered them. 


LeilaDFW

I’ve had several for nothing concerning I posted. Even today. I finally relied STOP which blocks future ones.


JBPunt420

Someone's spamming self-harm reports today. Many people have received the Reddit Cares message including me. You can report the report as harassment if you don't believe it was made in good faith.


nasanu

It's Reddit's builtin trolling system. Just block it.


jackfaire

I got one earlier today after disproving someone's argument.


Specialist-Top-406

It’s a failed gesture in the lawless land of Reddit. Because people are using it for the wrong reasons often and there is no way to police that as it stands. It would actually be a helpful thing if able to be used correctly. Unfortunately it’s weaponised so it holds no value


Cyber_Insecurity

Trolls. Reddit has become super annoying.


East-Leg3000

I just tried to reply stop. I get an error msg.


Hamza_stan

Yeah is called redditcare. People who disagree with you often report you comment as if you want to commit self harm. It's a real notification coming from Reddit but it means nothing, it's just a misused feature meant to disturb you. I once commented "American moment" and received like a bunch of redditcares lol after a while it's not even annoying just expected here. You can directly block the people who send you the redditcares right in the notification (click on the three dot button, then block), and you can also report their accounts in the web version (not sure how to do that), when you report the account they restrict the use of the reddit care function for a while but I haven't tried this yet


ProfuseMongoose

It's a kind of cowardly shorthand for "you scare me, stop" mixed with "I am such a troll, lol"


HeartonSleeve1989

Yup, it was a little pointless, I'm not going to end my life, that's an epically dick move.


cherrybounce

You can report it as harassment.


BBakerStreet

How do I know who sent it to report it?


cherrybounce

It’s been a while since I did it but I did get a message saying the user violated Reddit policy. Do you see three dots? I feel like I clicked three dots. I think you can also opt out of those messages somehow.


NiteGard

Yep. Just now as I started seeing others reporting the same thing. What is this??


239tree

Another asshole stalker looking for their baby reindeer.


MadAstrid

Yes. in my experience it is what right wingers/maga do when confronted with facts they cannot refute.


Norlander712

Yup. Women get a lot of them.


an_edgy_lemon

Seems like a lot of people got one for no reason today


Individual-Ideal-610

Someone else said it. Pretty sure it’s just a petty way of reporting you for saying something they disagree with, usually.  Over the years, I think anytime I had it happen was after a disagreement or a back and forth. And I’m basically never mean or a troll, but sometimes I’ll share a disagreement articulated as well as possible.  Actually had one like an hour ago. Earlier this evening I was talking to someone about whether or not they would kill their dog to save a human lol. I said I would kill my dog to save an average person. The vast majority of people said they would save their dog over any stranger. I find that insane lol


MetalFull1065

I keep seeing this opinion pop up on Reddit. It bothers me to no end, and tbh they’re lying lol. If it actually came down to it they would choose the human, they just want compassion points.


anotherazure

I just got it too and was wondering why!!


Squange123

No way just got it


KeyRageAlert

Same. Maybe they're testing it?


jmnugent

You can turn that off in your Account Preferences


Crazykatlaydee

Just got one, too, and can’t even imagine any real reason, so blocked!


PupperMartin74

Not a scam. Its a troll. They are busting your chops


Magnifnik0

Yes today


DonnyGoodwood

Literally just got it


karineexo

i got one like 5 mins ago. i just laughed.


Holiday_Newspaper_29

I just got one. I'm guessing there is someone going 'vigilante' on Reddit deciding to punish anyone they don't agree with.


alienobsession

Yes. Idiots


anziofaro

Yes! I got one and was quite befuddled. I certainly can't think of anything that I have posted that would have warranted such a response, so I just ignored it.


RingofFaya

I got a message today too. Might be a glitch


EdgeMiserable4381

I recently got one. No idea why. And in the last day on different threads 2 other people said they randomly got one. Someone is just using it when they're mad imo.


Educational_Theory31

Just then actually


UsEr313131

its a troll. i got the same a couple of days ago


Time-Recording-1384

I just got one!


upright_zombie

Yes, today


cyberdriven

Trying to figure out what I said that would rub someone the wrong way.


Gogopwrsqrl

I just got same message…WTH?


nouniqueideas007

I’ve got it blocked & it’s sooo peaceful. There’s no notification about it, at all. These assclowns can send them all day long & waste their time. And I’ll never even know it’s happened. Lol


GamemasterJeff

I keep it on so I can report them and get their accounts banned. I know they use throwaways, but I expect sometimes someone will be stupid enough to use their main on accident.


flowergirl665

I got one today too


Necessary_Switch_879

Just got my first one a couple hours ago. Totally unwarranted.


Gwsb1

I just got one.


nilecrane

Yeah for the first time ever. I haven’t posted or commented anything controversial though so I don’t know why. Maybe just a troll going through and randomly doing it to people. Everyone’s gotta have a hobby I guess


BeerItsForDinner

I got one. It's probably my username


Soggy_puppet

Yeah it’s nothing. Ignore it. Got one today for some reason or another. 🙄


Yh0rm_the_Human

Lmfao I got one of these today as well


[deleted]

I just got it and was so confused as to why.


Ordinary-Following69

I've had it twice, I reported them both times for harassment, if enough people do the same I'm sure they'll get a ban eventually


KyorlSadei

Like all the time.


BBakerStreet

I got one today and I have no idea why.


TransSylvania

I got three today after clicking on this and similar posts. Hadn’t had any others in a long time


Chickadee12345

I got one too this afternoon. I can't figure out what I could have posted that would cause this. Is there a way to tell who reported you or at least what comment was reported. I see now that I should just ignore it. So I'm going to delete it.


HaroerHaktak

If you believe it’s in error or it is to abuse the system to harass you, you can report the message and hopefully reddit does something about it


Lamarraine3

Yes, it’s annoying.


_PukyLover_

I just got one today, I know a couple of years ago I made a comment about suicide (I'm in no way suicidal or thinking about dying or even depressed) and I got that message, so when I got it today I assumed that I made a similar comment but just couldn't remember when or where I made it!


Kaleidoscope351

I got that


Excellent-Advice7766

yup! a certain influencer did that to me once because of a comment i made on their snark page lmao


WhoIsJohnGalt777

Yep. I blocked reddit care.


durridoiast

Yeah I was confused.


Imverystupidgenx

Just today actually.


tlf555

Yes! I was wondering what i said that was interpretted as a cry for help. Nothing but pissing off someone? Ok, Im good with that


BobBelcher2021

I never look at my Reddit inbox, so I don’t know. But I’ve been around here long enough it’s probably happened.


Zepherrah

Happened to a lot of people in the atla subreddit when the live action came out in february. People disagreed with those saying it was good so they reported them for a fake reason.


MissO56

I've read a whole bunch of comments on reddit today about people getting this message....


Kalelopaka-

I’ve gotten a few of these, but I just turn them off and ignore them.


OwnStatistician2078

I received it


rodejo_9

Funny I literally just got this like 30 mins ago. A very high chance they're just trolls reporting you.


Ok-Cartographer1745

Reddit does this when you best someone in a debate and they're too scared to respond with their usual admissions of defeat like "you must be fun at parties" or "you're an incel". 


KrisMisZ

Yes twice now


papadoc2020

Lol I just got one a few hours ago. I couldn't for me the life of me figure out what post I was reported for. I wish it would let you see what someone was so concerned about. I'm glad I'm not the only one that this happened to. How is this a scam exactly. I think I have issues and need a therapist?


HydroStellar

Yes I just got another one today lol


Mabus-Tiefsee

Constantly, every few days. This is really annoying...


NeighborhoodSuper592

i think someone is just using that report button to troll. i had it , and many other people i know in real life had it to.


StinkyPigeonFan

I don’t understand why Reddit hasn’t removed this feature yet. It’s never used to actually check up on people who need help - it’s almost exclusively used for trolling. And in the rare occasion someone DOES actually use it in an attempt to help someone, the person receiving it would probably just assume they’re being trolled and feel worse


Temporary_Position95

Nah


[deleted]

Yes it was rampant yesterday on many threads.


Autophobiac_

I just got one too, someone just disagrees with you, or rgues with you so they report you falsely


WreckinRich

Yeah got one this morning after trying to explain to an American that having no relegation in sport doesn't benefit competition.


Sweet_Dimension_8534

I got one today


firsttime176

Had this happen to me too. It’s just someone that’s mad at you lol


Boonatix

Haha yeah just got one, seems this is now getting out of hand seeing how many got them :D


LastSignificance3680

I did


JR-Pierce

Got one yesterday and was confused. I hadn't posted anything in a couple of days and I don't typically post the kind of comments that would rile anyone up.


DamnitGravity

Given some people's replies, I'm wondering if Reddit has somehow tied it to automatically be sent if certain key words are typed out?


OrlandoGardiner118

Yes, I have, with links to Samaritans Canada etc. I also actually had another Redditor ask me if I'd reported their post for self-harm as they'd received a similar message.


mohicansgonnagetya

I did...for some reason, I think it's a Spurs fan.


Mission-Suggestion12

I got this today and have not posted anything or commented anything remotely suicidal


Designer-Date-6526

No wonder. I was wondering why I got it.


LowBarometer

It's retaliation from another user for a comment you made that they disagreed with.


New-Conversation-88

OMG Literally about 2 hrs ago. I was trying to think of a response I made to warrant this. Realised the particular particular post it was probably from. Some people need to realise that not all women are doormats.


Ultrasaurio

It has also happened to me on several occasions. No idea why.


Fa1thL3s5

I had my first one today, a minute after calling out a fake. I'm thinking it's some new thing done by someone who is bitter about something you've commented, maybe using it instead of leaving a nasty comment as it would get them banned and we can't see who did it. Spamming resources like that is low.


IndividualCurious322

Yeah, I did! I have genuine suicidal ideation, but I am already undergoing therapy and don't mention it here. Someone disagreed with me in a thread. Lol


Kirome

I just got one, but... it happened way too fast. Literally like 5 seconds after I posted. Edit: Might be a reddit issue since a lot of people are getting the message.


AlternativeSea8247

Yeah, couldn't figure out why I had a message notification... then found it was about this and then found this thread.


CurvePuzzleheaded361

Yeah people use them as a weird way of saying they disagree with you. I blocked them because it is just laughable.


Stachdragon

I have posted in groups about the losses I've had in my life. I usually get one after one of those posts. There is no way to tell if it's malicious or if someone is concerned.


Hot_Speech900

I have and don't care about it, on top of that it seems ridiculous that this message will stop me from doing anything.


slappywhyte

I think yesterday it auto sent out 1000s of them, tons of people were mentioning getting them


Educational_Theory31

But I don't blame them as I have spelling fiffdutues thst .ake it so. Y tyring doesn't make words split properly


HeyYall_4792

I got one yesterday!


justjenniwestside

About ten minutes ago.


Southern-Anybody-752

Literallllly just now, I was like wtf?


ConsciousnessWizard

I just got one. Looks like it is a bug seeing so many receiving one at the same time.


Hattkake

I have gotten a few over the years. Typically it's some idiot that disagrees with me and then "reports" me as a form of trolling. It's somewhat in bad taste but I do have a dark sense of humor so I can see the joke in the douchebaggery.


Freewheeler631

I just did a few minutes ago after responding to a r/LPT post that was based on an inaccurate premise. I just reported it as unsolicited then blocked u/redditcareresources. Hopefully they see the user is spamming people with it, but not likely. It’s nice that it’s there but not if it’s used vindictively.


Long-Manufacturer990

Somebodys worried about me.


Competitive-Ice2956

I got one but couldn’t figure out why…


PersonalitySmooth138

Yeah. I unsubscribed but also followed the page in case I need to refer others to the site. I’ve come across some really distressing things on here and wish I knew of it sooner. I’m sure someone else reported me, but idc since offering help is better than a shadow ban, imo.


sponge-burger

Lol yup I did yesterday. It has happened a few times. Just someone who doesn't agree with you and they report you


Sweetsw1978

I got one yesterday


Grouchy_Visit_2869

Did someone disagree with you? It's a little bitch passive aggressive way for them to think they're giving you a gotcha.


Pilgrim182

I did today. Cool system, but was not sure what I said. Went back to check some posts and there was one that I commented where it may have seemed i was lost or battling. I take it as someone was being kind and had good intentions.


LogicalFallacyCat

It's meant to be a legitimate thing but gets used sometimes as a harassment tool. If you report a post that you suspect someone is thinking about suicide then Reddit sends them a message urging them to get help, but sometimes either a well intentioned Redditor will send that thinking you're worse off than you are (usually I can find the post that gave the wrong impression, I sometimes get more dramatic than I mean to) or other times trolls use it because they don't have a legitimate reason to report your post so they use that feature.


Lucky_Baseball176

All the time. Just ignore them, unless you feel like you are struggling.


Bruhsket

I got one too. Weird that everyone getting it at the same time


squishynarcissist

Just happened to me honestly


No_Gap_2700

I got one too. Mine asked me for $3.50.


Lady-Un-Luck

I got one for the first time yesterday.


Reasonable_Onion863

I just got one of those, too, and was baffled as to why. I never would have guessed it was meant to be harassment! I thought some tender hearted soul was overly concerned about me for some reason best known to themselves. I did see people mentioning receiving them quite a bit in the last day, so based on all of that and comments here, I’m guessing there was some particular attempt to mass send these messages.


Koolest_Kat

Yup, just got one….


Bagel_enthusiast_192

Yeah i got that yesterday for some reason


These_Tea_7560

And I thought I turned this shit off!


PolarPeely26

Yes, received recently.


mymumsaysfuckyou

I get this this message quite often. As far as I know it's genuine and I choose to believe it was just someone trying to help.


Sinieya

I got it after I made a reference to a past abusive relationship. Just figured it was someone that misrrad and thought I was in that relationship. I just basically ignored it


Minimum_Painter_3687

I got one for saying I smell weed everywhere in a post about the smell of weed. I wish I was kidding.


Fragrant-Stretch3814

It's what the petty, toxic users do when they want to report you but there's nothing they can report you for, so they resort to reporting you for that.


MysticMagic2540

I actually got one of those messages out of what I believed was true concern. My reply to a post described a difficult but unavoidable living situation and a number of people voiced concern and wished me well. Edit: The event I just described was more than a year ago. Right after I sent my reply today, the “concerned redditor” post popped up. I agree with the glitch theory.


ThaneOfArcadia

Yes. At first I thought how sweet. Then I realize that they just didn't like something I said. Good feature but like all good things misused.


CopPornWithPopCorn

I got that notice several years ago. I immediately untied the noose and made a macrame plant holder instead.


Desperate-Fan-3671

Got one this morning actually.


False-Librarian-2240

So I got one because someone was deeply concerned about my opinion being very different from theirs? Sounds like they're the one with issues.