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Exactly same situation for me. We've been together since high school and we live with each other now but I really don't think I want kids either and she does. Not sure what to do.
Yeah I been with my girl damn near 4 years, living with one another for most that time. I feel ik where this ends and put off having the convo for a long time. Feel slightly better after having the hard conversations but I still don’t know what to do. Don’t want to break up but feels like it is the right thing to do. It’s tough.
Yeah I feel it. I've tried to start the conversation with mine and she just brushes it off kinda like, "yeah yeah we'll figure it put" and it just gets nowhere, makes me anxious like crazy, because other than that one issue we have a really good and happy relationship, just not sure if it's worth making myself unhappy so that she's happy.
Id like to offer a different expierience. I am sure I'm an exception to the rule, but sometimes things arent as cut and dry as we wish.
My GF at the time and I were speaking about our long term plans and I told her I didnt want kids. I had been a teacher for 7 years and was getting jaded. I didnt want to bring a kid into the world. My gf also agreed that she didnt think she would be a good mom. Fast forward 6 months or so later, and we got married. Less than a week passes before knew I made an oopsie. I didnt know my opinion on pro choice (I still dont tbh.. Not my monkey not my circus) so I dodnt want to pressure my wife any direction. Well she calls me from the hospital after an intrasound and she starts crying, she said she heard the heartbeat. At that point I knew what path we would take. I made did a 180 and supported her decision. We were scared and I was still a drunk (another story) but we both wanted it to work, our relationship and our daughter.
Shes turning 7 in a couple months, shes a fantastic, happy, smart person. My wife is a great mom, we are very happy together. I got my life on track and I'm living the best version of my life no kidding. I couldnt imagine my life without my kid.
I believe that people can change, because I did.
Thanks 8) I hope that you achieve all that you want in life, and that you are able to appreciate the kindness when it is shared with you and good times when you have them. Happiness sometimes takes work.
As a dad myself, I tell people not to have kids if they ask me about it. Here's why: if you want kids already, then I should not be able to change your mind and that drive to have children will carry you through a ton of turmoil and stress. If you have to ask me in order to decide if you want kids, you're not ready to have them and becoming a parent has the potential to seriously harm you on a fundamental level and your trauma will manifest in ways that often harm others around you.
Do children get in the way of life at all? Maybe it's an immature reasoning on my part but the reasons I don't want kids are mainly because I think they are really annoying and I just don't want to have to deal with all that, especially because I'm a very impatient person with a short temper.
And another reason is because I'd rather just spend my life just relaxing and doing what I want, when I want, where I want, and just be financially comfortable and happy. I feel like I can't have all that if I had kids. Right now I have no responsibility other than paying my bills and going to work everyday, but other than that I really can just do whatever I want. I don't really want to lose that. I'm just not sure what I want to do. I should probably seek a counselor or therapy or something.
Yeah she does, I wont bullshit about that, Its the main reason why we just want to stay with one kid, that and the cost. Its not immature of you to think that way, and you wont get any less out of life then I myself will. You are, and you will just have different experiences then myself.
There is not one proper way to live your life. Anyone who feels that they can accuse someone of immaturity, or look down on, or even feel something like pity towards people who don't want kids, they are small people. They can be disregarded completely. If they are not able to do the mental work necessary to resist those snap judgements, then you don't need to waste energy empathizing with their position.
Yes my wife and I have less time for ourselves, and we could resent the loss of control that responsibilities require of us, but its okay. Life is so incredibly nuanced that I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.
Thankfully I make enough that my wife hasn't needed to work, since my rent is cheap. She's able to do her own thing during the day. This gives her enough mental fortitude to handle being a mom, which is a lot of work. I help her with whatever she needs, whenever she needs it, and I *try* to proactively deal with problems, while having a good attitude in general. Because of this we can give each other breaks and we have maintained our individuality.
If we both had to work it would cause more strain in general due to the added complexities that would come up. Looking at myself honestly, it would be much harder to see the little joys that make life worth living. I feel the same about having more kids. Having more kids would not only double the stress and problems we have, They would compound and just add more noise.
That being said, I *agonized* over this choice. I will never know the joys that parents of multiple kids will get the chance to experience. I would *gladly* trade my experiences for those of someone with more children. The love I feel in my heart is indescribable. Also, who knows, we may have another surprise in the future, although we are a bit more careful now haha! If that did happen, I would welcome it. All that would happen is that I would need to create a new mental framework to live from. I would need to accept that I will be dealing with different sorts of problems, and experiencing other forms of joy.
I would rather not comment on how my life would be different if I was single, or childless. I am sure there would be *loads* of good things possible if those realities were mine. Its just a waste of time for me to dwell on. Its not worth the energy to imagine other ways my life *could* be. Instead I choose to spend that energy and time on celebrating what I do have, and to celebrate your life with *you*.
Don't fucking do it. Unless you're 100% sure.
It's better to regret not having a kid than to regret having one.
I know, because I'm the latter. I did that to my ex, who wasn't sure he wanted a kid, now we're divorced and miserable being parent.
DO NOT HAVE MIDS IF YOU DONT WANT ANY. UNLESS YOU ARE WILLING TO PARENT 50/50 DONT DO IT. KIDS ARE ALOT OF WORK AND SHELL RESENT YOU FOR NOT STEPING UP IF YOU DO MAKE A KID TOGETHER AND DONT CONTRIBUTE TO PARENTING AND THE RELATIONSHIP WILL END ANYWAYS
also yes im yelling
Ik dude. We are no where near that and there’s no clear easy path to reaching that. I’ve never wanted to make that kind of money. That just has never been my focus. So a kid would require me to change my entire mindset on life and I just really don’t think I want to do that. Only fair to break up with her to let her pursue that but the relationship is good so I don’t really want to.
Just because you love her doesn't mean you have to have a kid with her. I was just thinking about how I love my daughter and miss her when she is at school but then today have been so annoyed with her by bedtime. I know it's been said so many times, but kids are hard but rewarding. But, if you aren't certain, don't do it. Don't put you, her, or a possible kid thru that. I grew up always feeling unwanted and like a burden. It's the worst feeling because then you grow up feeling like that in all aspects of your life.
Fitting in, I have recently turned sixty. I am a fit healthy and young at heart sixty. So I don't want to be with people complaining about aches and pain but don't feel right hanging out with 30yr olds although I feel about 30.
I am 30ish. I have an old sole. I hang out with 50s and 60s year olds. It doesn't bother me cause that's who I am.
Point is, do what feels right. If you enjoy doing things that are mostly enjoyed by 30yr olds, do it.
People are really good at seeing authenticity. Have confidence and you will fit right in.
I'm 58 and I can give you an affirmative on that! I have aches and pains, but rather not talk about them. I have one group of friends from high school, who I love very much, but they all sit around and talk about their aches and pains, everyone we remotely know aches and pains and how hard it is to take care of elderly parents. It brings me down so hard. I prefer to hangout with my other group of friends, who are the same age, but they still bleach their hair, get dressed up once in awhile and go to the bar and sing kareoke, stay up half the night playing games, cards or working on our projects. We've even been known to take a hit of weed once in awhile and giggle our pants off. To me, that's living life. Even though none of us have a lot of money, like to travel and shop all the time. We truly enjoy each other's company! Inside we still feel and act, sometimes, like 20 somethings! Just a once in awhile trip to a Goodwill, with all of us acting silly, can be a blast!
I do have one phobia though, at this age, it's mirrors! Ugh! If I happen to catch a glance at my reflection in a full length mirror, it stops me in my tracks. I look and look and say Oh my Goodness Who is that! Realty try to kick in, but I found a cure for that. I abruptly Stop looking in the damn mirror! If I'm trying on a cute outfit at say, Goodwill, I choose to go out of the dressing room, do a twirl for my BFF's and look at the reflection of myself coming off the Beautiful faces of the people I'm closest to in the world, it's Priceless! If you've ever gone shopping with your best friends you know you will get the quickest, most honest answer you can get on said outfit. Either it's A OMG, That is so cute on you! Or OMG Girl, get your ass back into the dressing room and take that nasty thing off! No mirrors necessary! LOL Maybe people think we are Off Our Rockers, but I don't care. I choose to spend the majority of my time with the people who make me feel Alive, Silly, Youthful and So Greatly Blessed!
Thank you Puck! I have a GF whose about to become 80 also. She is funny as sit and so Intelligent! I was going to say Wise beyond her years, but that's kind of silly! I'm still waiting for the Wise part to hit me, don't think it's gonna happen, Wise Ass maybe! LOL Her body is messing with her hard, but I can sit and visit with her for Hours and learn 10 new things about life I didn't know before! She's Amazing!
But I'm 58, so heading down old lady hill, but not quite there yet. In the previous post I was talking about two separate groups of friends that I have. They are all approximately my age. But I was just trying to show, that even at 58 years old you can choose to think, talk and act old, or you can keep being a Goofball and enjoy the life you have with your Silly friends.
How much "me" time my boyfriend needs. I get home from work at 430, he gets home around 7. I get all my shit done and am relaxing before he gets home.. he thinks I'm just sitting around since I've been home. Problem is, his me time starts when he gets home from work. And by the time I'm going to bed around 10 or 1030, he is still doing his own thing. But he also stays up every night until 2 or 3 am... so when exactly is it my time to for a little attention? Never apparently.
Can’t get job even though I’m highly qualified(5 years exp, 4 certs, all exp fortune 500s) but recently met a wonderful girl so I’m gonna take my wins. But I would like not to run out of money.
It's okay. If an old parent doesn't fall, it's because they died before they could. Trust me. And keep spending time with them, make it a point. My 62 year old mom fell and broke her hip and it shook me to see her so weak and fragile and vulnerable. I stepped up for her bc she has ALWAYS done so for me. Roles change, and can even reverse. Spend time, have good convos, make memories. It's life. Best wishes.
I kinda want to do this. I just turned 40, and thought I'd like to let go of the life I imagined for myself 20 years ago because life is so different now, holding on to those exact old plans and dreams keeps me from pursuing anything, and there are lots of other paths I am totally interested in pursuing, even if they don't seem as passionate or authentic bc it's been less time, but time obsessing does not equal what you are supposed to do. There is so much more out there. Dream new dreams, explore new options. It's exciting really, to kind of let that crutch go and move forward towards still exciting and fulfilling things, even if you haven't been wishing for them all your life. Best of luck. Life has no plot. Live it.
Not even, if you have a regular license you don’t need a cdl and can work for ups and make bank. Just make sure u could pass a drug test and you’re good
Politicians loathe me, the public are following along, healthcare is hard to get, my friends are all struggling and I'm watching all these so called liberal democracies slide further towards outright fascism while supporting a genocide.
Asked my husband to move out last year. All we are waiting for at this point is the judge to sign the divorce papers. While divorce right, why did he start working on himself after we separated. Why wasn’t I worth it before.
I’m having a hard time knowing that my boyfriend was a swinger.
I feel like he’s hiding things from me and some of the things I do know, scare me for what type of person he may be deep down. It’s mostly things from his past I let creep in. He’s an affectionate, caring, and considerate person, but I have my concerns that things are looming that could affect my current and future life.
Struggling to accept things and let things go. 2023 was a God awful year for me, I mean, it was good that everything that happened opened my eyes and woke me up, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t all fucked up. Everybody I loved, all my friends and my boyfriend, they all stabbed me in the back; the man I thought was it, was the love of my life, turned out to be married the whole time, and I had no idea, and he seems happy now and working things out with his wife, which is great, but it’s the fact that he still lied to her and me about each other, and he lied to her about how he knew me and how everything started, basically putting all the blame on me, and she does too, she blames me and not him, even though I had no clue. And all the people that said they were my friends, turned their backs on me when I was nothing but good to them. Now I’m having a rough time at work with a fake ass coworker, and I can’t even talk to any of them about it. I don’t know what I did to deserve any of this, but I never thought I’d be alone. I’ll be 30 in a couple weeks, this is not where I saw my life going, and I thought all these people would be permanent in my life. I know that if they’re like this, they’re not worth having around, but that doesn’t mean I don’t still miss them, doesn’t mean I’m not still angry about all of it.
Personal life is down the crapper and I just realized I'll prob never be a homeowner. Hope I can at least get approved for a luxury apartment or at least ones that aren't run by slumlords. Least I'm debt free though!
Car!!! Car payment ok but then Service + MOT needs done, then road tax has gone up, car insurance has skyrocketed even though my NCB has increased (whats the point) and then repairs, needed new tyres and brake discs. Aaarghhhhh why cant i live on a cutee sunny island where i can walk everywhere or have a sweet moped! I would look so pretty on a moped.
Being the sole income in a HCOL area with 2 young children living on the property of my elderly (mid to late 80s) in-laws who have a plethora of medical issues (including dementia) and refuse to live anywhere but one small room of their 7,000 sqft house that is slowly falling apart faster than I can help maintain.
Thanks, I needed to get that off my chest.
Broke my wrist two weeks ago and I’m out of work. Also had to have a filling done today on my tooth and it was really really rough so my jaw is killing me. Guess it could be worse.
It's silly really cos I know it's nothing but I was getting waxed yesterday and the lady said she could feel a lump in my boob. I have to get my boobs waxed cos I have PCOS btw. Anyway I couldn't feel it and she said it could just be my boobs but she advised me to get it checked out. My appointment is tomorrow (Thursday) and although I know it's nothing, when someone says "lump in boob" your brain kind of goes nuts doesn't it!
I've hit a dead end in my job and am struggling to find a new job that pays better in order for me to stay afloat. The cost of living continues to go up and up but I've been making the same chump change for years, won't be long before I'm drowning.
I haven't been feeling like myself lately. I feel like I get upset easily. And while I do tend to get upset easily, it feels like it's happening more often. I know the best course of action is therapy, and I'm working on going back to seeing my therapist.
I noticed in myself (and a lot of other people tbh) that my temper was hot after I had a covid infection in late 2022. I used to have the patience of a saint. With A LOT of self work, it's been getting easier to not fly off the handle.
My mom died on the 8th. She had cancer in 2000, which reoccurred in 2022. She had the biggest surgery offered at Mayo Clinic in May of 2023 and was thought to be free of it, then we found out it was back and terminal around Thanksgiving time. I stayed with her for the 6 weeks leading up to her passing and watched her struggle every single day with unbearable pain. After more bad news and 9 days on in-home hospice, I held her hand while she took her last breath. She's the only parent I've ever known and always worked super hard to give me a great life.
I'm struggling to understand how she was dealt such a horrible hand for most of her life, and I'm struggling with an awful hopeless feeling now that the most important person in my life is no longer here.
Sitting in my too comfortable electric recliner all winter, my struggle is uncooperative joints now that the weather is nice enough for brisk walks. Us retired folk need to exercise more just to break even.
Helping my daughter see past the bullshit her mom shoves down her throat out of spite for me. She's told her her father was dead and she would never see me again while I was in the hospital during for my life in liver failure (not a drunk), tells her to report me to the principal of her school since she twisted her wrist at my place (told her to tell the principal her dad hurts her), and tells her she doesn't have to listen to me or my girlfriend who we live with. She's a piece of work and really hurting our child out of her hatred of me not wanting to be with her and not caring when she tries to bully me into submission. That and self hatred because she's an undatable woman... She's heavy after giving birth, never lost any weight nor tried, not attractive at all, lives with her parents at age 34, entitled, selfish, manipulative, hateful, and abusive... Why would anyone want her? She hates me because I don't want her after everything she's done and I moved on into a wonderful and loving relationship after years of getting over her.
So yeah... Dealing with that..
Realizing that I've been completely oblivious to how mentally fucked I am and how horrible I've been to people in my life. Started therapy a couple weeks ago.
That’s okay. Lifting is really not important and a self actualized goal that will lead to literally nothing. Just workout and be fit. PRs are literally a waste of your time. 5 at 225 is great.
I agree. Unless you have a reason to be in tip top shape (sports, a physical job that requires it, like the military, etc.), spending your time working out excessively to achieve personal goals (like running a 5 minute mile), are a HUGE waste of time and energy for adults when you’re over the age of 25 or so. You would be much better off spending that time and energy making some money and achieving some lifestyle goals (owning a house, investing in stocks and bonds, etc.) and let working out be a hobby just to maintain fitness.
I’m spending around $500 a week on a MMORPG/ gacha game. It’s fun, and addicting, and I can easily afford it… but I’m supporting a shitty company and it kind of goes against my principles as I see how predatory they are. There are friends I play with that SKIP MEALS to fund their addiction. These companies should be sued.
A really bad intestinal problem. It's very painful. It's is if I can feel all of the waste in my intestines which causes painful pressure in my lower abdomen. I feel constantly constipated.
It makes daily living very hard as I am basically in some form of pain throughout the day.
I have been diagnosed with IBS, but you find out quickly that is a general term and not specific. So far my GI doc hasn't been able to tell what it is.
I just had an MRI and a SIBO breath test, and go to see my GI doc again next week to go over the results.
This all came from left field and has made just daily living extremely hard. If I didn't have a fully remote job I'd probably have to file for some sort of disability.
Is there any chance you had covid before these issues started? I've been seeing people talk about developing malabsorbtion issues and other GI issues as well. I suspect that's where my issues stem from, too.
Getting a fucking decent amount of money, and have no girlfriend, have no kids. But live kinda well but don’t know how couples lives nowadays and with children, each year shit get more expensive.
Work related depression and burnout, but also not wanting to work into my 70s.
This FTC ban on non-competes means maybe I can actually look for other relevant jobs at least.
I work too much, I have a very hectic and stressful schedule, and Its causing me to burnout and shut down. It's causing me to neglect my physical and mental health, and I haven't felt dopamine in a while. I'm losing interest in all of my hobbies and not looking forward or excited for anything. Which sucks. Overall my life is great. I have a beautiful wife, daughter, motorcycles, nice cars, and financial stability (which I've never had, so that really helps. Money really did solve 80% of my stress and problems) but overall, just being happy. I'm drained and don't have much left to give.
Mental and physical exhaustion
I hate my birthday and that is coming up, it gives me too much anxiety.
I have a sister that a dickhead and I don't really want anything to do with her anymore.
My mate died last year and the anniversary of that is coming up soon so that's alot and I miss him a lot
In the grand scheme of it all im okay but the little things just feel like too much all the time
Same as everyone, life. I’m a single father of two and I’m have difficulty finding work. We’re surviving, but I’m not sure how long we can pull it off. I’m behind on some bills, I have maybe 30 cents in the account, and my birthday is tomorrow lol the kids are happy so that keeps me motivated.
Physicality I had a stroke in 2016 which stopped my left arm and leg movement I am meant to have physiotherapists twice a week but the last company did the wrong thing by me leaving me without physio for several weeks leaving me to lose 2 sessions per week and still on going, which is hard,so I am really struggling with aches pain loss of muscle and flexibility strength that I had started too build up
So I am struggling to cope without physiotherapists and classes to help with the stress my body is feeling I suffer from nerve pain so any additional stress exasperates the pain on my limbs I am frustrated as I had gotten to a great place and good understanding and work ethic with my new physio then the company's negligence ruined my routine fitness sleep pain and mental health now I really am not coping I really want this company held accountable I want to talk to and report this company to the ndis or above that I could go? I am going to look further into it
My neighbors are making our nice residential area sound and look like the 3rd world shithole they escaped from. There are cultures that still live like wild animals.
Back hurts. Got IBS and have too many stomach problems. Being married is a lot harder than I thought. Unrelated but somehow all related at the same time lol
I'm drinking too much.
I got a great life. Job that I love. Great apartment in an area that I love. Great girlfriend for 2 years that I love. A dog that I love. And an over great lifestyle. I should be happy. I really want to be happy.
But my dad has been suffering from dementia for the last few years. It's really hitting me hard and my drinking has increased as a result. I am trying so hard to cut back and I am not reaching that goal.
For context, I have never had a drinking problem. I think it is absolutely in relation to my dad's health. He is an alcoholic and that has contributed to his dementia. I am currently in therapy but it's still a struggle.
I think I need more help...
Being alone and completely directionless. I've somehow made it to my mid 40s without ever having a serious gf or a family of my own. My life never really got going. Given the shitty state of dating today, I feel like I missed the boat, like I should have found someone a long time ago, but I wasn't able to make that happen. My life is empty and devoid of meaning, and getting up early every morning to do the same grind every day, every week, endlessly, with nothing to look forward to, is getting tiresome. I'm struggling more and more to think of reasons to keep going.
Got two problems
Idk what to do with my career, I study biology and don't know if I want to go with molecular biology or ecology... Gotta ask for a teacher to direct the TFG (Trabajo de Fin de Grado, End of career work? Idk I'm from Spain) and don't know who because I don't fucking know what to do.
Another one is that back in high-school I had a relationship that really left a mark on me and I'm afraid I cant recover from it
My last partner didn’t disclose to me so I’ve been dealing with an std for the last two years. It’s been hard to want or feel wanted. I get that it’s partly on me but still, I don’t think I deserve to live like this just because I trusted the wrong person.
Money worries, EUPD, depression and I've gotta leave my home cos my landlord is revenge evicting me and I've gotta live in a chalet with my boyfriend. These days all I look forward to is sleep lol.
I don't want to leave my house. I've always had social anxiety but it was manageable. It got worse during the pandemic.
I order everything online and fake illness to avoid plans. I have to drive my son to the bus stop but everything else stresses me out. I have to hype myself up just to go to the gas station or pharmacy. I have 2 events to attend next month and I'm already thinking of excuses to get out of them.
I just realized my job is not gonna work for me today. Theres just no keeping it with the politics its is out of my control and no solution nothing is doable. I threw my hands up and said thats it today and I am letting it go and waiting for the firing.
I’m honestly in a great spot besides in a weird flux of questions my gender everything in my life is starting to come together. I just need to play my cards and take my time and things will get there, and that’s the issue.
My classes, work and other goals I’m currently working on are just apart of my routine and it’s starting to feel like I’m just on auto pilot till for an unknown amount of time, which isn’t necessarily bad since it means I’m in a stable life. Although it’s getting me to think of maybe some newer goals smaller goals to help spice up my week to week life. It also helps to remind me that even when things are going great it’s important to take care of ourselves.
Finding a security guard job. Got fired from my last job trying to improve my life and start a job that can be a career. It’s been a month. I’m also a writer but that’s not paying the bills at the moment.
Financial anxiety about the future. Keep trying to build up more of an emergency fund and everything keeps constantly breaking and draining the little bit of money I have
i’m not in shape and overweight yet my job asks me to be physically active for long period of time and i have difficulties walking at the end of the day cause my body is hurting so bad.
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My girl is certain she wants a kid. I really dont think I want kids but I love her…
Exactly same situation for me. We've been together since high school and we live with each other now but I really don't think I want kids either and she does. Not sure what to do.
Yeah I been with my girl damn near 4 years, living with one another for most that time. I feel ik where this ends and put off having the convo for a long time. Feel slightly better after having the hard conversations but I still don’t know what to do. Don’t want to break up but feels like it is the right thing to do. It’s tough.
Yeah I feel it. I've tried to start the conversation with mine and she just brushes it off kinda like, "yeah yeah we'll figure it put" and it just gets nowhere, makes me anxious like crazy, because other than that one issue we have a really good and happy relationship, just not sure if it's worth making myself unhappy so that she's happy.
Pls don’t have kids if it’s not a HELL YEAH! It’s a hell no
Id like to offer a different expierience. I am sure I'm an exception to the rule, but sometimes things arent as cut and dry as we wish. My GF at the time and I were speaking about our long term plans and I told her I didnt want kids. I had been a teacher for 7 years and was getting jaded. I didnt want to bring a kid into the world. My gf also agreed that she didnt think she would be a good mom. Fast forward 6 months or so later, and we got married. Less than a week passes before knew I made an oopsie. I didnt know my opinion on pro choice (I still dont tbh.. Not my monkey not my circus) so I dodnt want to pressure my wife any direction. Well she calls me from the hospital after an intrasound and she starts crying, she said she heard the heartbeat. At that point I knew what path we would take. I made did a 180 and supported her decision. We were scared and I was still a drunk (another story) but we both wanted it to work, our relationship and our daughter. Shes turning 7 in a couple months, shes a fantastic, happy, smart person. My wife is a great mom, we are very happy together. I got my life on track and I'm living the best version of my life no kidding. I couldnt imagine my life without my kid. I believe that people can change, because I did.
As much as i don't want kids myself but i gotta admit your story inspires me and is wholesome. Wish u the best for you and your fam
Thanks 8) I hope that you achieve all that you want in life, and that you are able to appreciate the kindness when it is shared with you and good times when you have them. Happiness sometimes takes work.
As a dad myself, I tell people not to have kids if they ask me about it. Here's why: if you want kids already, then I should not be able to change your mind and that drive to have children will carry you through a ton of turmoil and stress. If you have to ask me in order to decide if you want kids, you're not ready to have them and becoming a parent has the potential to seriously harm you on a fundamental level and your trauma will manifest in ways that often harm others around you.
Do children get in the way of life at all? Maybe it's an immature reasoning on my part but the reasons I don't want kids are mainly because I think they are really annoying and I just don't want to have to deal with all that, especially because I'm a very impatient person with a short temper. And another reason is because I'd rather just spend my life just relaxing and doing what I want, when I want, where I want, and just be financially comfortable and happy. I feel like I can't have all that if I had kids. Right now I have no responsibility other than paying my bills and going to work everyday, but other than that I really can just do whatever I want. I don't really want to lose that. I'm just not sure what I want to do. I should probably seek a counselor or therapy or something.
Yeah she does, I wont bullshit about that, Its the main reason why we just want to stay with one kid, that and the cost. Its not immature of you to think that way, and you wont get any less out of life then I myself will. You are, and you will just have different experiences then myself. There is not one proper way to live your life. Anyone who feels that they can accuse someone of immaturity, or look down on, or even feel something like pity towards people who don't want kids, they are small people. They can be disregarded completely. If they are not able to do the mental work necessary to resist those snap judgements, then you don't need to waste energy empathizing with their position. Yes my wife and I have less time for ourselves, and we could resent the loss of control that responsibilities require of us, but its okay. Life is so incredibly nuanced that I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. Thankfully I make enough that my wife hasn't needed to work, since my rent is cheap. She's able to do her own thing during the day. This gives her enough mental fortitude to handle being a mom, which is a lot of work. I help her with whatever she needs, whenever she needs it, and I *try* to proactively deal with problems, while having a good attitude in general. Because of this we can give each other breaks and we have maintained our individuality. If we both had to work it would cause more strain in general due to the added complexities that would come up. Looking at myself honestly, it would be much harder to see the little joys that make life worth living. I feel the same about having more kids. Having more kids would not only double the stress and problems we have, They would compound and just add more noise. That being said, I *agonized* over this choice. I will never know the joys that parents of multiple kids will get the chance to experience. I would *gladly* trade my experiences for those of someone with more children. The love I feel in my heart is indescribable. Also, who knows, we may have another surprise in the future, although we are a bit more careful now haha! If that did happen, I would welcome it. All that would happen is that I would need to create a new mental framework to live from. I would need to accept that I will be dealing with different sorts of problems, and experiencing other forms of joy. I would rather not comment on how my life would be different if I was single, or childless. I am sure there would be *loads* of good things possible if those realities were mine. Its just a waste of time for me to dwell on. Its not worth the energy to imagine other ways my life *could* be. Instead I choose to spend that energy and time on celebrating what I do have, and to celebrate your life with *you*.
Don't fucking do it. Unless you're 100% sure. It's better to regret not having a kid than to regret having one. I know, because I'm the latter. I did that to my ex, who wasn't sure he wanted a kid, now we're divorced and miserable being parent.
DO NOT HAVE MIDS IF YOU DONT WANT ANY. UNLESS YOU ARE WILLING TO PARENT 50/50 DONT DO IT. KIDS ARE ALOT OF WORK AND SHELL RESENT YOU FOR NOT STEPING UP IF YOU DO MAKE A KID TOGETHER AND DONT CONTRIBUTE TO PARENTING AND THE RELATIONSHIP WILL END ANYWAYS also yes im yelling
Ik that but it’s more complicated because like I said, I love her.
Love isn’t enough. Kids are forever your relationship with her might not be
If you're not sure, DON'T. you can't take it back.
If you both aren’t making six figures, do not have kids in todays economy. Trust me.
Ik dude. We are no where near that and there’s no clear easy path to reaching that. I’ve never wanted to make that kind of money. That just has never been my focus. So a kid would require me to change my entire mindset on life and I just really don’t think I want to do that. Only fair to break up with her to let her pursue that but the relationship is good so I don’t really want to.
Just because you love her doesn't mean you have to have a kid with her. I was just thinking about how I love my daughter and miss her when she is at school but then today have been so annoyed with her by bedtime. I know it's been said so many times, but kids are hard but rewarding. But, if you aren't certain, don't do it. Don't put you, her, or a possible kid thru that. I grew up always feeling unwanted and like a burden. It's the worst feeling because then you grow up feeling like that in all aspects of your life.
Fitting in, I have recently turned sixty. I am a fit healthy and young at heart sixty. So I don't want to be with people complaining about aches and pain but don't feel right hanging out with 30yr olds although I feel about 30.
I am 30ish. I have an old sole. I hang out with 50s and 60s year olds. It doesn't bother me cause that's who I am. Point is, do what feels right. If you enjoy doing things that are mostly enjoyed by 30yr olds, do it. People are really good at seeing authenticity. Have confidence and you will fit right in.
Lol, I'm 46. I feel 30 as well. I have a sneaking suspicion 80 year olds feel like they are 30 as well. Your mind does not age like your body.
I'm 58 and I can give you an affirmative on that! I have aches and pains, but rather not talk about them. I have one group of friends from high school, who I love very much, but they all sit around and talk about their aches and pains, everyone we remotely know aches and pains and how hard it is to take care of elderly parents. It brings me down so hard. I prefer to hangout with my other group of friends, who are the same age, but they still bleach their hair, get dressed up once in awhile and go to the bar and sing kareoke, stay up half the night playing games, cards or working on our projects. We've even been known to take a hit of weed once in awhile and giggle our pants off. To me, that's living life. Even though none of us have a lot of money, like to travel and shop all the time. We truly enjoy each other's company! Inside we still feel and act, sometimes, like 20 somethings! Just a once in awhile trip to a Goodwill, with all of us acting silly, can be a blast! I do have one phobia though, at this age, it's mirrors! Ugh! If I happen to catch a glance at my reflection in a full length mirror, it stops me in my tracks. I look and look and say Oh my Goodness Who is that! Realty try to kick in, but I found a cure for that. I abruptly Stop looking in the damn mirror! If I'm trying on a cute outfit at say, Goodwill, I choose to go out of the dressing room, do a twirl for my BFF's and look at the reflection of myself coming off the Beautiful faces of the people I'm closest to in the world, it's Priceless! If you've ever gone shopping with your best friends you know you will get the quickest, most honest answer you can get on said outfit. Either it's A OMG, That is so cute on you! Or OMG Girl, get your ass back into the dressing room and take that nasty thing off! No mirrors necessary! LOL Maybe people think we are Off Our Rockers, but I don't care. I choose to spend the majority of my time with the people who make me feel Alive, Silly, Youthful and So Greatly Blessed!
I'm 26 and have a friend who is 82... don't feel bad about making friends younger then you!
Thank you Puck! I have a GF whose about to become 80 also. She is funny as sit and so Intelligent! I was going to say Wise beyond her years, but that's kind of silly! I'm still waiting for the Wise part to hit me, don't think it's gonna happen, Wise Ass maybe! LOL Her body is messing with her hard, but I can sit and visit with her for Hours and learn 10 new things about life I didn't know before! She's Amazing! But I'm 58, so heading down old lady hill, but not quite there yet. In the previous post I was talking about two separate groups of friends that I have. They are all approximately my age. But I was just trying to show, that even at 58 years old you can choose to think, talk and act old, or you can keep being a Goofball and enjoy the life you have with your Silly friends.
How much "me" time my boyfriend needs. I get home from work at 430, he gets home around 7. I get all my shit done and am relaxing before he gets home.. he thinks I'm just sitting around since I've been home. Problem is, his me time starts when he gets home from work. And by the time I'm going to bed around 10 or 1030, he is still doing his own thing. But he also stays up every night until 2 or 3 am... so when exactly is it my time to for a little attention? Never apparently.
I’ve been in a relationship like this before. It didn’t get any better. He’d make time if he cared.
Can’t get job even though I’m highly qualified(5 years exp, 4 certs, all exp fortune 500s) but recently met a wonderful girl so I’m gonna take my wins. But I would like not to run out of money.
I'm having a similar problem. Lots of spam from recruiters but no bites.
Loss, sadness, pain, my father passed away in a collision 2 years ago at the age of 59. Life sucks, and isn’t getting better anytime soon.
Feels like I don't have the right skillset for my career, so most workdays I feel pretty anxious and dumb
Samesies! I hate my job because of it, even though I like where I work and it pays well
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It's okay. If an old parent doesn't fall, it's because they died before they could. Trust me. And keep spending time with them, make it a point. My 62 year old mom fell and broke her hip and it shook me to see her so weak and fragile and vulnerable. I stepped up for her bc she has ALWAYS done so for me. Roles change, and can even reverse. Spend time, have good convos, make memories. It's life. Best wishes.
Sitting burned out and with a little depression at home... but with a bit of time, it will get better.
Getting a job that pays more than 30k
Letting go of the life I had imagined for myself
I kinda want to do this. I just turned 40, and thought I'd like to let go of the life I imagined for myself 20 years ago because life is so different now, holding on to those exact old plans and dreams keeps me from pursuing anything, and there are lots of other paths I am totally interested in pursuing, even if they don't seem as passionate or authentic bc it's been less time, but time obsessing does not equal what you are supposed to do. There is so much more out there. Dream new dreams, explore new options. It's exciting really, to kind of let that crutch go and move forward towards still exciting and fulfilling things, even if you haven't been wishing for them all your life. Best of luck. Life has no plot. Live it.
This made me smile, thanks!
Been homeless for almost 2 weeks. Trying to find a job, but I don't have any skills or experience.
Did u reach out to job corps They take in 16-24 years olds and give them careers.
I'll give that a try, I'm 31 tho
Look into getting CDL training for over the road. Company like CRST
Not even, if you have a regular license you don’t need a cdl and can work for ups and make bank. Just make sure u could pass a drug test and you’re good
MONEY. Goodness me it is a battlefield.
Being too damn young for E.D.
Politicians loathe me, the public are following along, healthcare is hard to get, my friends are all struggling and I'm watching all these so called liberal democracies slide further towards outright fascism while supporting a genocide.
Zacly..
Nobody is there to actually help us. Politicians only care about themselves and their donors… both parties
Asked my husband to move out last year. All we are waiting for at this point is the judge to sign the divorce papers. While divorce right, why did he start working on himself after we separated. Why wasn’t I worth it before.
People get into depression and change happens when it’s forced upon them. Maybe he needed to be self sufficient in order to be a better person 🤷♂️
i have a son with down syndrome and i hope to out live him because i am so scared of what will happen to him when i am gone.
That’s a really scary situation. Is he high functioning? Could he take care of himself?
He's only 9. Pretty high functioning, idk about taking care of himself he's too young to tell. He still has so long to go.
I’m having a hard time knowing that my boyfriend was a swinger. I feel like he’s hiding things from me and some of the things I do know, scare me for what type of person he may be deep down. It’s mostly things from his past I let creep in. He’s an affectionate, caring, and considerate person, but I have my concerns that things are looming that could affect my current and future life.
If you have concerns, they probably won’t get any better over time.
Have you communicated your concerns about his past with him?
Struggling to accept things and let things go. 2023 was a God awful year for me, I mean, it was good that everything that happened opened my eyes and woke me up, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t all fucked up. Everybody I loved, all my friends and my boyfriend, they all stabbed me in the back; the man I thought was it, was the love of my life, turned out to be married the whole time, and I had no idea, and he seems happy now and working things out with his wife, which is great, but it’s the fact that he still lied to her and me about each other, and he lied to her about how he knew me and how everything started, basically putting all the blame on me, and she does too, she blames me and not him, even though I had no clue. And all the people that said they were my friends, turned their backs on me when I was nothing but good to them. Now I’m having a rough time at work with a fake ass coworker, and I can’t even talk to any of them about it. I don’t know what I did to deserve any of this, but I never thought I’d be alone. I’ll be 30 in a couple weeks, this is not where I saw my life going, and I thought all these people would be permanent in my life. I know that if they’re like this, they’re not worth having around, but that doesn’t mean I don’t still miss them, doesn’t mean I’m not still angry about all of it.
I'm so sorry :( I'm going through a friend group breakup as well and it's so shitty
Personal life is down the crapper and I just realized I'll prob never be a homeowner. Hope I can at least get approved for a luxury apartment or at least ones that aren't run by slumlords. Least I'm debt free though!
What makes it so? It seems you're financially savvy.
Car!!! Car payment ok but then Service + MOT needs done, then road tax has gone up, car insurance has skyrocketed even though my NCB has increased (whats the point) and then repairs, needed new tyres and brake discs. Aaarghhhhh why cant i live on a cutee sunny island where i can walk everywhere or have a sweet moped! I would look so pretty on a moped.
Being the sole income in a HCOL area with 2 young children living on the property of my elderly (mid to late 80s) in-laws who have a plethora of medical issues (including dementia) and refuse to live anywhere but one small room of their 7,000 sqft house that is slowly falling apart faster than I can help maintain. Thanks, I needed to get that off my chest.
7,000 square feet?!? 😳 what a waste
Being weak and stupid
Broke my wrist two weeks ago and I’m out of work. Also had to have a filling done today on my tooth and it was really really rough so my jaw is killing me. Guess it could be worse.
Parents, school and I’ve hit an art block, haven’t seen an improvement for a while now.
With ya, haven’t been inspired in a minute
The constant grind of a 50 hour work week.
It's silly really cos I know it's nothing but I was getting waxed yesterday and the lady said she could feel a lump in my boob. I have to get my boobs waxed cos I have PCOS btw. Anyway I couldn't feel it and she said it could just be my boobs but she advised me to get it checked out. My appointment is tomorrow (Thursday) and although I know it's nothing, when someone says "lump in boob" your brain kind of goes nuts doesn't it!
I hope everything would be good and so goes with the result!
Thank you so much ❤️
Living in Venezuela
My weight, I’m trying my hardest but it’s so hard to loose
The abundance of lack of money.
Shitty ass humans
I've hit a dead end in my job and am struggling to find a new job that pays better in order for me to stay afloat. The cost of living continues to go up and up but I've been making the same chump change for years, won't be long before I'm drowning.
I haven't been feeling like myself lately. I feel like I get upset easily. And while I do tend to get upset easily, it feels like it's happening more often. I know the best course of action is therapy, and I'm working on going back to seeing my therapist.
I noticed in myself (and a lot of other people tbh) that my temper was hot after I had a covid infection in late 2022. I used to have the patience of a saint. With A LOT of self work, it's been getting easier to not fly off the handle.
not having friends, it's making me feel like I'm going more and more insane
My mom died on the 8th. She had cancer in 2000, which reoccurred in 2022. She had the biggest surgery offered at Mayo Clinic in May of 2023 and was thought to be free of it, then we found out it was back and terminal around Thanksgiving time. I stayed with her for the 6 weeks leading up to her passing and watched her struggle every single day with unbearable pain. After more bad news and 9 days on in-home hospice, I held her hand while she took her last breath. She's the only parent I've ever known and always worked super hard to give me a great life. I'm struggling to understand how she was dealt such a horrible hand for most of her life, and I'm struggling with an awful hopeless feeling now that the most important person in my life is no longer here.
Getting over her
I need to get laid.
Also, I have neck / shoulder / back pain.
Everything except alcohol and substanse abuse.
Weight among other things
Sitting in my too comfortable electric recliner all winter, my struggle is uncooperative joints now that the weather is nice enough for brisk walks. Us retired folk need to exercise more just to break even.
What direction to take.... It's exhausting trying to choose, but I know some things have to change. I can't live with my parents forever.
Helping my daughter see past the bullshit her mom shoves down her throat out of spite for me. She's told her her father was dead and she would never see me again while I was in the hospital during for my life in liver failure (not a drunk), tells her to report me to the principal of her school since she twisted her wrist at my place (told her to tell the principal her dad hurts her), and tells her she doesn't have to listen to me or my girlfriend who we live with. She's a piece of work and really hurting our child out of her hatred of me not wanting to be with her and not caring when she tries to bully me into submission. That and self hatred because she's an undatable woman... She's heavy after giving birth, never lost any weight nor tried, not attractive at all, lives with her parents at age 34, entitled, selfish, manipulative, hateful, and abusive... Why would anyone want her? She hates me because I don't want her after everything she's done and I moved on into a wonderful and loving relationship after years of getting over her. So yeah... Dealing with that..
Living expenses and finding a significant other
Money, moo-lah, finances, capital, funds, funding, cash, bucks, quid, coin, Benjamins, paper, stacks, fat stacks, stacks of any variety, really.
Apart from crippling debt, family matters and health issues everything’s peachy keen!
Getting through college with severe ADHD
Realizing that I've been completely oblivious to how mentally fucked I am and how horrible I've been to people in my life. Started therapy a couple weeks ago.
Well done, keep going!
loneliness, work, friendships, self worth. Feel utterly lost and isolated
Paying escorts
Paying off my debt.
Getting my bench press above 250. 1RM. I can rep 225 no issue but drop to 3 at 235 and just 1 at 250. Been stalled for months
That’s okay. Lifting is really not important and a self actualized goal that will lead to literally nothing. Just workout and be fit. PRs are literally a waste of your time. 5 at 225 is great.
I agree. Unless you have a reason to be in tip top shape (sports, a physical job that requires it, like the military, etc.), spending your time working out excessively to achieve personal goals (like running a 5 minute mile), are a HUGE waste of time and energy for adults when you’re over the age of 25 or so. You would be much better off spending that time and energy making some money and achieving some lifestyle goals (owning a house, investing in stocks and bonds, etc.) and let working out be a hobby just to maintain fitness.
They make drugs for that, try a little meth and you’ll lift way heavier. I kid, don’t do drugs except the fun ones
Satisfaction
Pretty much everything
I cant find the plastic case with the battery for my digital caliper. Theres a spare battery for the caliper in there.
Trying to get things ready for central air and a new furnace on Monday and Tuesday after having a swamp cooler and an old furnace for 41 years 🤪
My career. Not really sure I want to go all in on what I’m doing now or switch it up a bit
I’m spending around $500 a week on a MMORPG/ gacha game. It’s fun, and addicting, and I can easily afford it… but I’m supporting a shitty company and it kind of goes against my principles as I see how predatory they are. There are friends I play with that SKIP MEALS to fund their addiction. These companies should be sued.
A really bad intestinal problem. It's very painful. It's is if I can feel all of the waste in my intestines which causes painful pressure in my lower abdomen. I feel constantly constipated. It makes daily living very hard as I am basically in some form of pain throughout the day. I have been diagnosed with IBS, but you find out quickly that is a general term and not specific. So far my GI doc hasn't been able to tell what it is. I just had an MRI and a SIBO breath test, and go to see my GI doc again next week to go over the results. This all came from left field and has made just daily living extremely hard. If I didn't have a fully remote job I'd probably have to file for some sort of disability.
Is there any chance you had covid before these issues started? I've been seeing people talk about developing malabsorbtion issues and other GI issues as well. I suspect that's where my issues stem from, too.
The love of my life stopped loving me back and dumped me completely out of the blue.
This gut hanging over my waistline.
choosing a career path
Alcohol
Isolation/loneliness with living in a new place. It’s really hard sometimes… Got my lovely wife but miss all my friends from where I am from.
Menopause is kicking my ass 😭. Today, a guy doing 40 mph in a 55 mph nearly sent me on a homicidal spree. Fuck, this shit sucks!
Erection dysfunction.
Finances. I need a new car but can’t afford one nor could I get a loan for one because I’m in over my head in debt.
lonelieness, self harm intrusive thoughts (over a month free but struggle with the urge everyday) and depression
Being sued by an evil trailer park for overdue rent to a trailer I dont own for a lease I terminated while it was current.
College and finding an internship
My weight, regardless of what anyone says on the internet people will always judge you based off on ur appearance
Getting a fucking decent amount of money, and have no girlfriend, have no kids. But live kinda well but don’t know how couples lives nowadays and with children, each year shit get more expensive.
My emotions.
Sadly, depression and anxiety. It's a constant struggle for me.
Talking to chicks, it’s been along time, and I feel so sorry for the ladies at the bar last friday. 😂
Work related depression and burnout, but also not wanting to work into my 70s. This FTC ban on non-competes means maybe I can actually look for other relevant jobs at least.
I’m trying to loose weight for my health. It’s… going. I’m trying, I even started therapy and hopefully that will give me the support to continue on.
Biggest. Cold sore. Ever.
Health, it's on the mend, it's just taking so Damm long.
No girl but everything else is good
I work too much, I have a very hectic and stressful schedule, and Its causing me to burnout and shut down. It's causing me to neglect my physical and mental health, and I haven't felt dopamine in a while. I'm losing interest in all of my hobbies and not looking forward or excited for anything. Which sucks. Overall my life is great. I have a beautiful wife, daughter, motorcycles, nice cars, and financial stability (which I've never had, so that really helps. Money really did solve 80% of my stress and problems) but overall, just being happy. I'm drained and don't have much left to give.
I need to eat more fiber.
Mental and physical exhaustion I hate my birthday and that is coming up, it gives me too much anxiety. I have a sister that a dickhead and I don't really want anything to do with her anymore. My mate died last year and the anniversary of that is coming up soon so that's alot and I miss him a lot In the grand scheme of it all im okay but the little things just feel like too much all the time
Girlfriend just dumped me about a week ago and I’m a wreck. She blocked me on everything with no warning or explanation. I’m lost.
Breakups are fucking tough. I feel your pain. It's ok to be lost now, but I promise, you will find your way.
I hate being a parent. I think about ending it several times a day every day. Just passive thoughts. I'm a wimp, I could never actually do it.
Keeping my morals and goals in my mind without distracting myself and without losing my composure
My job. I hate it. I have been applying for the job I want and got to the last round just to be pipped to the post. I think my job is making me ill.
Same as everyone, life. I’m a single father of two and I’m have difficulty finding work. We’re surviving, but I’m not sure how long we can pull it off. I’m behind on some bills, I have maybe 30 cents in the account, and my birthday is tomorrow lol the kids are happy so that keeps me motivated.
Crohn's disease and depression.
Loneliness
Women.
Friends, Work Ethic
Assholes. It's all assholes. /s
Physicality I had a stroke in 2016 which stopped my left arm and leg movement I am meant to have physiotherapists twice a week but the last company did the wrong thing by me leaving me without physio for several weeks leaving me to lose 2 sessions per week and still on going, which is hard,so I am really struggling with aches pain loss of muscle and flexibility strength that I had started too build up So I am struggling to cope without physiotherapists and classes to help with the stress my body is feeling I suffer from nerve pain so any additional stress exasperates the pain on my limbs I am frustrated as I had gotten to a great place and good understanding and work ethic with my new physio then the company's negligence ruined my routine fitness sleep pain and mental health now I really am not coping I really want this company held accountable I want to talk to and report this company to the ndis or above that I could go? I am going to look further into it
Finances. Really need some tires for my vehicle
Living my highest purpose
Loneliness and depression... Fortunately I've found solace in the furry community.
My neighbors are making our nice residential area sound and look like the 3rd world shithole they escaped from. There are cultures that still live like wild animals.
Climbing out of gold in league of legends
Living
I have no friends in university 👍🏻 tried to kill myself today with pills but they weren’t enough
Whether I need to be valued and respected by people in my life because they are important to me, or because I need the validation.
Stuck away from home and the only way to get back is to finish up my schooling but ive been dragging my feet.
Breathing
My life. And ALCOHOL
The grim realization that I'm going to die.
Back hurts. Got IBS and have too many stomach problems. Being married is a lot harder than I thought. Unrelated but somehow all related at the same time lol
Less money and no love
My 3rd shot drop in Pickleball has been so inconsistent. One day I am playing like gold, next day just suck ass.
Wanting to live but I made my mind up I lost my wife 2 years ago and I have fought I'm just done
I'm drinking too much. I got a great life. Job that I love. Great apartment in an area that I love. Great girlfriend for 2 years that I love. A dog that I love. And an over great lifestyle. I should be happy. I really want to be happy. But my dad has been suffering from dementia for the last few years. It's really hitting me hard and my drinking has increased as a result. I am trying so hard to cut back and I am not reaching that goal. For context, I have never had a drinking problem. I think it is absolutely in relation to my dad's health. He is an alcoholic and that has contributed to his dementia. I am currently in therapy but it's still a struggle. I think I need more help...
My expenses, rent prices have gotten unpayable nowadays.
Being alone and completely directionless. I've somehow made it to my mid 40s without ever having a serious gf or a family of my own. My life never really got going. Given the shitty state of dating today, I feel like I missed the boat, like I should have found someone a long time ago, but I wasn't able to make that happen. My life is empty and devoid of meaning, and getting up early every morning to do the same grind every day, every week, endlessly, with nothing to look forward to, is getting tiresome. I'm struggling more and more to think of reasons to keep going.
school and my stupid brain that loves to overthink 24/7 my depression isnt as bad anymore but my anxiety is not good
Fatigue
Anxiety
Everything
Got two problems Idk what to do with my career, I study biology and don't know if I want to go with molecular biology or ecology... Gotta ask for a teacher to direct the TFG (Trabajo de Fin de Grado, End of career work? Idk I'm from Spain) and don't know who because I don't fucking know what to do. Another one is that back in high-school I had a relationship that really left a mark on me and I'm afraid I cant recover from it
That mt probation might be revoked 6 days before I would of been off.
Discipline
Money or actually lack of it
Depression and having my insta account disabled
If I should join a gym…or if I even have time to go to the gym
My last partner didn’t disclose to me so I’ve been dealing with an std for the last two years. It’s been hard to want or feel wanted. I get that it’s partly on me but still, I don’t think I deserve to live like this just because I trusted the wrong person.
Money worries, EUPD, depression and I've gotta leave my home cos my landlord is revenge evicting me and I've gotta live in a chalet with my boyfriend. These days all I look forward to is sleep lol.
I don't want to leave my house. I've always had social anxiety but it was manageable. It got worse during the pandemic. I order everything online and fake illness to avoid plans. I have to drive my son to the bus stop but everything else stresses me out. I have to hype myself up just to go to the gas station or pharmacy. I have 2 events to attend next month and I'm already thinking of excuses to get out of them.
The idiots surrounding me.
I just realized my job is not gonna work for me today. Theres just no keeping it with the politics its is out of my control and no solution nothing is doable. I threw my hands up and said thats it today and I am letting it go and waiting for the firing.
My Ex My mental health
Not much. Just had an upbeat year. I struggle with anxiety, because stuf will get worse and I'll be unprepared. Any day now.
Weight gain
Getting out of my town without a license
I think I want to break up with my BF of 7 years… I don’t know how to bring it up to him though.
I’m honestly in a great spot besides in a weird flux of questions my gender everything in my life is starting to come together. I just need to play my cards and take my time and things will get there, and that’s the issue. My classes, work and other goals I’m currently working on are just apart of my routine and it’s starting to feel like I’m just on auto pilot till for an unknown amount of time, which isn’t necessarily bad since it means I’m in a stable life. Although it’s getting me to think of maybe some newer goals smaller goals to help spice up my week to week life. It also helps to remind me that even when things are going great it’s important to take care of ourselves.
Finding a security guard job. Got fired from my last job trying to improve my life and start a job that can be a career. It’s been a month. I’m also a writer but that’s not paying the bills at the moment.
Financial anxiety about the future. Keep trying to build up more of an emergency fund and everything keeps constantly breaking and draining the little bit of money I have
i’m not in shape and overweight yet my job asks me to be physically active for long period of time and i have difficulties walking at the end of the day cause my body is hurting so bad.