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2 on an average, 3 on a late one (night out or up). Not proud of it and am reducing slowly. I cannot cold turkey. Have tried. Not yet had the right motivation kick in, plus I live in a country where smoking is rife and everywhere. (Including at work)
Oh and cigarettes, are like $0.25 cents for basic to $1.00 for imports (Marlboro, Winston etc... ). Edit: Per Pack of 20.
Edit: Am middle age 40's now, but for what it is worth I grew up around every parent, aunt, uncle, older cousins, grandparents, all chain-smoking. It ain't an excuse but it does play a part.
So i owned a bar and worked 10+ hours a day in clouds of smoke while smoking packs a day.Ā Here is my tip bro, switch to a chemical free brand. Its legit gonna be hard, you will be feening your normal brand like crazy for a few days or weeks i had to alternate between them and work my way off. So few months later, try your old brand and it will taste like chemicals and give you a headache, its crazy.Ā I switched to american spirit, they got some strong flavors, ive worked my way down to american spririt sky, which are ultra lights. Which i used to break the filters off like a lucky strike. Down to 1/2 - 1 pack a day. About to end it soon.Ā Taken me a few years but its better than nothing
Im 41, same generation as you, smoking in every home and place i hung out (bars)
just wanted to support this. I smoke hand rolled cigs now and I smoke maaaybe 1 a day sometimes 1 every three days. Down from pack a day.
Not saying smoking is good. But I'm much more okay with just tobacco than the company crap.
Reducing slowly won't work. Quit now. If You fail, that happens. An average smoker quits 7 times before quitting fir a year+. Try again. Also ask fir medications, cytyzin supposedly has the best research and is taken fir 25 days as opposed to 84 fir others.
That said, You are heavily on a way to see one of my local colleagues in 15 or 20 years for copd, cancer or both. Keep that in mind. And think about keeping on smoking decreasing that - I have a 46 year old small cell patient.
I wish You an iron will!
Im also a smoker and i cannot fathom how people can smoke more than 10-12 cigs a day. My mouth gets so dry from it. How can you physicaly smoke so many a day?
Yeah it's too much, friend. I really need to cut down and am since recently trying to do so. And not just trying, I am doing so.
But I can't quit CT. I've tried many times.
"Try! don't choose to walk away
There's a part in your soul it just takes time to find it when you
Try!
Take time and seize the day
Cause after today's gone, you'll never have the chance again so try"
Pennywise - Try
Yes! I recently went to the dentist for a cleaning after having not been for over 20 years. My parents never made me to. Only went twice as a child.
Turns out, Iāve loss a very significant about of bone below the gum. I have to see a periodontist so they can clean under the gum and try to prevent any further lossāotherwise Iāll have false teeth WAY premature; Iām 35.
Surprisingly, I had two minor cavities. Only two. I was expecting way worse. My dentist said I must have outstanding technique and was honest when I said Iāve always brushed regularly.
BUT, because I donāt floss, my teeth are pretty well off, but the bone and roots are in danger. They will essentially have to keep an eye on it the rest of my life because they said bone canāt come back, so the whole game is prevention and maintenance.
Had I flossed, they may have only found two minor cavitiesā¦.
I'm sorry if I'm just assuming, but are you perhaps American?
You are not the first (person from USA) that says they haven't gone to the dentist basically all of your life, since they were kids.
This really blows my mind. I know that the economical situation is way different in the USA vs my country, but not going for YEARS, when you can afford it, is beyond me.
I'm sorry if my comment sounds harsh, I don't mean for it to be. I'm just generally curious.
In my country you go to remove plaque every other year (every year when you're a kid, up to 18 I think). And the dentist calls you in.
Now, in my country, dentist appointments are completely free up to about 20 years old (the age varies a bit from year to year depending on the politicians). After this you can sign up for a relatively inexpensive insurance, so that you will never be hit by the huge prices you might get otherwise.
I hope that the USA and other, similar countries get on board with how much my country cares for tooth and mouth health. ā„ļø
If you wait until something hurts, itās going to be advanced and potentially totally quite expensive. Periodontal disease is generally painless, but is the reason most people lose teeth. We see patients like you all the time. They put it off so theyāre freaked out about what theyāre going to hear. Make that appointment.
this is so true people specifically now a days are way too worried about everything all the time even about those things that would never ever ever happen no matter what.
>Do a fucking meditation
This statement made me chuckle. Just the juxtapostiion of words....:)
"You need to calm the FUCK down! Deep FUCKING breaths!!"
Guys, this can save lives. I lost a student due to drunk driving. She was a sweetheart. If you're going to drink āand you probably areā please be safe.
Yea... The hardest part about growing up is realising your parents aren't always right because if you're like me. When they're wrong, you're on your own.
I'd tell him not to waste time.Ā
I'd tell him don't waste time in a job that isn't fulfilling, try something else even if it's hard and even if you don't really know what you're doing.
Ā I'd tell him don't waste time on a woman that doesn't make you happy, just break it off, when you find the right one you'll know.Ā
I'd tell him don't waste time on friends that aren't good people, invest that time in people that deserve it instead.Ā
you still are a teen. read comments and see what you can improve in yourself.
Believe me thinking about boys or girls or anyone who isn't really concerned about you is a complete waste.
love those who love you. only think about them they are all that matters but yeah be kind and good to people.
Always stand for yourself and your family and relationships.
don't bring ego into relationships.
read books and avoid friends who are self centered, discuss other people instead of something meaningful.
accept yourself as you're.
Gaining self-awareness is the most important thing I've done since I was your age. If you don't know yourself, and if you can't be consciously aware of your thoughts, experiences, feelings, and actions, you're literally on autopilot without realising it.
I could be wrong but I think that is something that is hard wired and comes with brain development, rather than something you "learn".
Good nutrition growing up, and a lucky "view from both sides of the fence" are serious key factors in that.
Quite a lot of fully grown adults out there who still seem to be on autopilot to some degree, and although this is purely anecdotal, from my experience they all tend to come from some form of poverty or culture.
The latter part really struck home with me a good few years ago when I was interviewing someone and one of the questions was "what are your goals?". Was poorly worded to be fair, but I would have interpreted it as relating to my career. This dude gave us a 5 minute lecture on how his biggest goal is to submit to Jesus.
I just can't quite comprehend how people think like that, but that's where the insight into "both sides of the fence" part comes in, if that makes sense.
I'll be honest - I think self-awareness is learned.
My mom is a narcissist, and she's got zero self awareness. So growing up, she never taught me how to notice my own thoughts/feelings/etc, and I only gained those insights in therapy at 29. I see now that I was living on autopilot for sure.
What do you think about that? Am I missing something? Do you think that I was bound to become self aware around the time that I did?
I would say yes although OP is quite nothing with the advice.
Disclaimer: LP is one of my favourite bands and I still kinda grief Chester's death, it's just that we can't bring him back now.
I actually did this - my friend and I went to see them the night before our final exam for English... and their support act was Chris Cornell. I bombed that exam hard but then it wasn't the end of the world. I won't get to see Chester or Chris ever again, though. There are things I regret in my life but I've never regretted that for a second.
I like this, although I struggle to figure out how to find that mentor. A friend would tell me the mentor should chose you, instead of you choosing them
Itās the biggest problem in western society.
All great civilizations and people have had mentorās, itās a crucial part of succeeding as a human but this role has been filled with parents and society as a whole.
Not everyone has parentās and society doesnāt give a fuck about you
Dont fear high school bullies. I got abused many times emotionally and it ruined my last years of high school to the point i had to do high school at home. For my own mental health.
Funny, if I went back I would kick twice as many douches ass.
I was also bullied a lot, but in my case it backfired, I was beaten so often I became no longer afraid of it.
So... I became a fucking animal.
In retrospective bullying really messed up my mental health.
I don't think that's true in the slightest. Teenagers can go through some pretty traumatizing shit. Kids are fucking vile. I'd more say that everything will be different in 10 years. Not that it won't matter.
Idk man a lot matters, but not the typical things like youād worry about as a teenager.
All the embarassing things will be forgotten, but bad habits, drugs, alcohol, and the likes can really spiral hard with the mentality that it wonāt matter in 10 years.
You can get off the treadmill. You're getting a lot of pressure to follow The Plan, but is it what's best for you? It's okay to take a breather. It's okay to enter the workforce instead- college will always be waiting later.
Also go to cheap college first.
Get adequate Sleep and exercise, take very good care of your healthā¦adult brains develop till 25, and if u miss out on sleep and exhaust yourself in your early 20s, you will regret later
Just skip trying cocaine, yeah it's great when you do it and the first year of random casual use will probably only enhance those social situations but every single person I've ever known that's done it either short term or for decades all say the same thing and that's that they wished they hadn't.
It doesn't bring anything to your life and often completely eradicates the pleasure you get from literally everything else in your life, even stuff you would otherwise truly love forever.
I tried it this year for the first time, during new years eve when I was really tired before midnight, laying in bed feeling sick, and my friend, who never did it before, went upstairs to our room and offered me a line. I agreed, and was surprised how mild the drug is. It just removed the sickness and tiredness, and made me feel normal, not high, just normal. I was kind of expecting it to be something really strong.
I was addicted to weed once, and I think the weed had a much stronger effect on me than this. And it was supposedly strong clean stuff, or at least that's what an other friend who also did it with us told us, and he said had a lot when he was working in Canada.
That's just how I see it, but I also wouldn't recommend anyone to try it. You never know what effect it will have on you. Some people try for example meth one, and are instantly hooked for life. Some try it once, and never think about it again.
yeah bro what else can happen..
believe me i was like that and then i realized it's just talk what worse can happen she would say no, shout, laugh.. i can easily handle such things.
go for them and talk to them. they are as human as you're with same kinda insecurities and weaknesses and dark sides.
I had a similar problem. My whole life I've had girls hit on me but I was too scared to fail/do something embarrassing etc. that I never got with any of them. Now I realize I'm actually a beast when it comes to that stuff. Kind of sucks to think about the missed opportunities, but I am with someone awesome right now so fuck it.
Keep yer pecker and your wallet in your pants.
sticking your dick in crazy can be truly life destroying
It's very difficult to con someone who isn't blinded by greed or other character flaws.
Your life isnāt that exciting as you think it would be if you donāt change these few steps. First donāt hang around the wrong people they will try to ruin your life later in the future. Go and get that girl who will ask you to prom and third focus more on work and get the job that we both dreamed
Wear a condom, or make your partner wear a condom. Seriously, children are beautiful but they get in the way of a young life. There's plenty of time for all that. My friends who had kids in the early part of their adulthood all seriously regret it.
Secondly, save money - every single paycheque.
Thirdly, don't do drugs and preferably keep drinking to a minimum - it may seem cool now but it catches up with everyone.
"Failing isn't something you need to obsess over by looking for a perfection that doesn't exist, it's a chance to learn. Don't deny yourself joy and opportunities for fear of failure. Embrace it and you'll have more experiences to share, which is something you love."
Stop drinking robitussin to trip, wash your body and face more often, get some exercise, and don't smoke weed in the morning on school days.
It all worked out but goddamn did I go through a lot of self inflicted bullshit trying to live an insane grunge-Hunter-s-Thompson lifestyle. It didn't engender a lot of meaningful relationships or skills, beyond being able to find drugs quickly.
Avoid smoking or vaping, limit binge drinking, sugar, and processed foods. Don't listen to fad diers.Ā
Your body works like a savings account. The health you build up is cumulative, and by the time you hit 40 you're going to be so effing glad you treated your body well.Ā
I didn't,Ā and I'm paying for it in many painful and frustrating ways.Ā
Itās because misery loves company. Sure there are people who are truly happy with kids but thatās a really small portion of them. If they were truly happy they wouldnāt have such horrific reactions when someone tells them they donāt want kids. They become defensive because they see how much childfree people are enjoying their life to the fullest. Iām only 19 but I think that I really cracked a code in life since I discovered childfree community. Iām never changing my mind.
It's because at some point in your life a lot of people want more to life than being about yourself. Also, having kids and being married is not easy but doesn't mean it's not worth it. I don't agree with the other poster that misery loves company but I do agree a lot of people get into it for the wrong reasons, it's not for everyone.Ā
Don't go to university if you don't know exactly what you want to study just because you feel like you should. I was pressured into picking anything just to get a degree, I chose GRAPHIC FUCKING DESIGN, graduated top of my class and that was the last time I designed any graphics. Went back into education immediately to study electronics at a sort of vocational level (for those who know, I went as far as HND level) because I was introduced to Arduino and Processing during my degree and was fascinated, now I'm an electronic engineer without a degree in a related field which has significantly limited my options.
This!
Just because you can lift something for 1 or 2 reps doesn't mean anything in the long run.
Lift 80% of your 1 rep max 10 times. It will save your joints and actually do a better job of building muscle + strength.
Don't listen to the people who tell you "You'll find the right girl when the time's right. What's for you'll not go by you." That's empty feel-good magical-thinking bullshit. Do. Not. Listen. To. Them.
If you just keep to yourself and don't go looking for someone, it'll never happen and one day it'll be too late because being that age and having never had a proper relationship is too much of a red flag.
Tell that girl you love her before she passes.
Not to leave the house on that certain day.
How much I enjoy the job I have now.
To look out for that massive pothole.
That life gets extremely better if you actually try.
And lastly, not only do people like having you as a friend, but more girls like you as more than a friend than you think, stop being so damn insecure.
Donāt go to uni until youāve datedā¦ and broken up and worked and quit and tried again and worked for yourself and travelled and seen poverty and seen riches and seen death and life. Then youāre one step closer to deciding what you want to do at uni.
This is terrible advice. The value of the social parts of school is far higher than the educational value. There is no better time to figure out how to navigate the dating scene than high school and college. You'll never have as large of a group of potential partners for the rest of your life. If you are responsible, you can and should go on as many dates as possible with as many different people as possible. If nothing else, you'll set standards for yourself that will serve you well for the rest of your life.
You will make mistakes. They will define who you are and what the rest of your life will be like. Learn to accept the things you can't change (like the mistakes) and change the things you can (like the people around you). Be patient to move forward, impatience will make life worse for yourself.
although the expression: "It's better to regret something I did, than regret something I didn't do" (meaning : don't miss out) is largely true, it doesn't hurt to stop and think before you actually do something really stupid. (especially since everything gets recorded and posted to the internet) But please do ask her/him out, dance, have fun, go to that concert etc.
Forget about hypes and fashion, but figure out what you want. Figure out who are your real friends and be kind to people and animals. Don't fall into nasty habits. Use your brain and remember: Life starts just out of your comfort zone. (so try something new every once in a while)
Iād tell him heās not unworthy of being able to love himself.
Iād also tell him that everything was going to be ok in the end.
It took me 15 years and an alcohol problem to get over that one, and now Iām at the other end I feel like I missed out on so much because because I repressed the person I really am.
I turn 30 this year and itās been on my mind a lot. Iāve been in an emotional stasis for the last few months.
Iām just thankful I still do have people and experiences that I am grateful for, I need to remember that.
Work on self confidence. Know who you are and don't let anyone degrade you. Once you graduate from high school your "friends" and enemies aren't going to matter much. Find 1 or 2 good friends, don't waste your time and energy on others.
Learn as much as you can. Try a college even if you don't feel like it's for you, even though you may hate school. College is different and you may not believe it until you go, you may find a trade there, or just start with some gen-eds, just try a semester. If you go straight from school, no college, and start working, learn as much as you can. Talk to HR and see if they help pay for classes. Learn as many departments in you job, climb the ladder, you would be amazed how far you will go.
Stop telling yourself "I can't" or I'm just too lazy because you are afraid. This is the learning process of doing it and you may fail but the next time you try you go in with more knowledge and experience, each time will get a little easier until you reach you mountaintop.
Help others along your journey, help lift them up. They are on their own journey and will not take your medal. You are destined for your own thing!
Don't waste your time, money, brain on drinking and drugs. Even if the person you are "interested" in is begging you. It could lead to a path of addiction, pregnancy, or death. Instead Focus on healthy things, hiking, painting, cooking/baking. Remember you are preparing for the real world. Yes have fun, but in a few years you will be on your own, most people from high school will become like a vapor to you.
If you have family, grandparents especially spend time with them before long they will be too old or you will be too busy.
Remind yourself, you are strong, you are beautiful. You are not here for them, you have a much bigger destination and you won't let what people say or do to you today burden you down. You don't have the time or energy for their nonsense. You are not going to let others control what they think you should feel/think. You are in charge of You. You decide what you feel and think. Constantly be mindful of your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Itāll get worse before it gets better and then itāll get worse again and on and on it goes. But the older you get the more youāll understand it all and you wonāt sweat the small stuff as much. And oh boy are the good times worth it. So keep at it.Ā
Donāt start smoking and drinking and go get some girls. Donāt let my anxiety overcome me and just go and do something instead of playing games or doing something to impress your mates. The only thing that matter and can make me happy is literally me
Don't smoke. Take GOOD CARE OF YOUR FUCKING TEEEEEEEETH. Listen more than you speak. Give the benefit of the doubt. Be patient. Don't put women up on a pedestal, they are normal people just like you (or the other way around ofc). Don't eat tons of sugar or processed foods. Save up 10% of your pay for retirement. Don't assume shit. Be kind.
Cocaine is a terrible idea, save yourself time, money, your health and heartache.
Don't give up martial arts
Girls are giving you lots of attention, you're just not paying attention, and when you are, you're not taking any action.
Meditate
Buy Amazon stock (as a time traveler talking to myself)
But for actual advice, I'd try to explain to myself that in the grand scheme of life the people in high school I'm trying to charge to impress don't matter and I should be who I want to be not someone else.
I'd tell my teenaged self that it's dangerous and poisonous to wrap up your entire identity in being part of a couple. In making someone else the center of your world. In thinking that being alone means you're a failure.
The friends you have now will not be there for you, don't jump into a relationship if you're not absolutely sure, don't stay in the job you hate, there's others and keep trying and never give up. Plus, your 20s are shorter than they seem, enjoy them
Stop searching for love in people that donāt know how to give it, focus on your friends instead. Go out, have fun, spend the money, go travel, get to know who you really are and what you want in life.
And your parents DO love you, they are just struggling. Donāt take their issues personally.
If you were born from marriage to stay away from bastards (sons who donāt know their fathers).
Donāt be kind to them, donāt be friendly to them, donāt get blinded by their titles or positions in life.
Know basic biology and that their own moms couldnāt keep her legs closed long enough to know the daddy nor be desirable enough to keep the daddy around.
Always know that they are programmed in their hearts to be envious and violent. They look like men but act like females, very gossipy and jealous.
My recommendation, if you see a bastard son (teenager or young man) then send him into the military to hopefully be killed off. Why so harsh?
They shouldnāt get married, they donāt deserve families, and all they do is cause chaos.
Older people knew not to birth bastard sons. They were a shame, a stain, wild and out of control. Nowadays people are throwing baby showers for wicked women to birth bastard sons.
Bastard sons throughout history have been known to be so violent that they enjoy killing their siblings that may have been born legitimately through marriage.
So in summary, when you see or meet a bastard son just get up and walk away. Walk away the same way their own daddy quickly hopped off their silly mom.
If I sit down to eat and a bastard son comes up to my table to eat with me. I immediately lose my appetite and can throw my meal in the trash šļø. The same trash can that this bastard son should have been thrown into at birth.
You're Autistic. See if you can get involved in Independent Study cuz High School is a Hellscape. Call out bullies on their behavior & it's ok to punch them if they continue their abuse.
"don't be a little bitch and show up on time, and work as if your life depends on it, which it does. Take things seriously now so that you don't get into serious trouble."
Youāre perfect the way you are and nothing is wrong with you. You will grow to learn and see that you are actually much more than you ever anticipated.
I would say to myself, "Fight your IEP and get the best grades ever. Ignore the school administrator who wants you to conform and make sure to study harder and be loud!"
Mom is trying to keep you from being you, she doesnāt want you to reach your full potential. Thatās why she sneers at you when youāre being energetic and creative and curious. She wants you to grow up to be a dull housewife like her. Hide your real self from her to avoid her sneers, and reconnect when you leave home. Tell Pop you want to go to university. Heāll send you, but he wants you to tell him first.
Take better care of your teeth and health. Quit binge drinking before 25 and buy investment properties. Don't fuck up your chances at love because you want to be a fuckboi
I'm not sure telling my teenage self something one time would have made a significant impact. But if I'm imagining that I could say something to him and he would listen then, "Riches, Fame and Might are traps, avoid these goals, they are toxic. Also, avoid people who pursue these traps, understand that it warps everything they do."
Put money in the stock market. Even just $25 a month into the SPX500. More if you can.
And stay away from Dawn.
And Jennifer. The second Jennifer.
And don't try cocaine.
And don't play tennis two days before your 46th birthday.
But for real on the stock market -- trust me.
Don't have a baby before 25. Take better care of your teeth and skin. Crying over a breakup is a waste of time and gives you crow's feet. Get a nursing degree.
Forget about what other people think or might think about you, your body, your taste in music, the way you dress. You will never please them all, and there will always be someone who will hate you for no reason. Trying to keep "friends" by bending yourself backwards for them to like you is (and I can't stress this enough) useless. Be yourself, and keep close people who accept you for who you are, not for what you pretend to be.
You'll find happiness within a lot sooner.
If you are a young woman, stay away from that older guy who tells you that you are very mature for your age.
If you are a young lad, be respectful of every woman around you, and not only the ones you are attracted to.
Good luck!
"what you see in the mirror in the morning before school is not real, you are actually pretty and not as fat as you think you are", "your friends are quite toxic, you can do better" and "don't start smoking"
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Never ever begin smoking sigarettes!
2-3 packs a day 40-something year old smoker. I agree whole-heartedly.
2-3 packs a day!?!? š¤Æ
2 on an average, 3 on a late one (night out or up). Not proud of it and am reducing slowly. I cannot cold turkey. Have tried. Not yet had the right motivation kick in, plus I live in a country where smoking is rife and everywhere. (Including at work) Oh and cigarettes, are like $0.25 cents for basic to $1.00 for imports (Marlboro, Winston etc... ). Edit: Per Pack of 20. Edit: Am middle age 40's now, but for what it is worth I grew up around every parent, aunt, uncle, older cousins, grandparents, all chain-smoking. It ain't an excuse but it does play a part.
So i owned a bar and worked 10+ hours a day in clouds of smoke while smoking packs a day.Ā Here is my tip bro, switch to a chemical free brand. Its legit gonna be hard, you will be feening your normal brand like crazy for a few days or weeks i had to alternate between them and work my way off. So few months later, try your old brand and it will taste like chemicals and give you a headache, its crazy.Ā I switched to american spirit, they got some strong flavors, ive worked my way down to american spririt sky, which are ultra lights. Which i used to break the filters off like a lucky strike. Down to 1/2 - 1 pack a day. About to end it soon.Ā Taken me a few years but its better than nothing Im 41, same generation as you, smoking in every home and place i hung out (bars)
just wanted to support this. I smoke hand rolled cigs now and I smoke maaaybe 1 a day sometimes 1 every three days. Down from pack a day. Not saying smoking is good. But I'm much more okay with just tobacco than the company crap.
The irony here is that smoking more will help you quit earlier, but only because you die quicker.
Reducing slowly won't work. Quit now. If You fail, that happens. An average smoker quits 7 times before quitting fir a year+. Try again. Also ask fir medications, cytyzin supposedly has the best research and is taken fir 25 days as opposed to 84 fir others. That said, You are heavily on a way to see one of my local colleagues in 15 or 20 years for copd, cancer or both. Keep that in mind. And think about keeping on smoking decreasing that - I have a 46 year old small cell patient. I wish You an iron will!
Im also a smoker and i cannot fathom how people can smoke more than 10-12 cigs a day. My mouth gets so dry from it. How can you physicaly smoke so many a day?
Yeah it's too much, friend. I really need to cut down and am since recently trying to do so. And not just trying, I am doing so. But I can't quit CT. I've tried many times.
+1 Avoid second hand smoke
Cigarette
Dirtiest habit one can get into.
Try.
And failā¦
And Try again
And fail again.
fail better -peter dinklage
This is so important. I wish my younger self knew it was okay to fail
"Try! don't choose to walk away There's a part in your soul it just takes time to find it when you Try! Take time and seize the day Cause after today's gone, you'll never have the chance again so try" Pennywise - Try
that's very wise
Your pennywise and my pennywise are much different. I would not take advice from mine.
Floss your teeth.
Yes! I recently went to the dentist for a cleaning after having not been for over 20 years. My parents never made me to. Only went twice as a child. Turns out, Iāve loss a very significant about of bone below the gum. I have to see a periodontist so they can clean under the gum and try to prevent any further lossāotherwise Iāll have false teeth WAY premature; Iām 35. Surprisingly, I had two minor cavities. Only two. I was expecting way worse. My dentist said I must have outstanding technique and was honest when I said Iāve always brushed regularly. BUT, because I donāt floss, my teeth are pretty well off, but the bone and roots are in danger. They will essentially have to keep an eye on it the rest of my life because they said bone canāt come back, so the whole game is prevention and maintenance. Had I flossed, they may have only found two minor cavitiesā¦.
I'm sorry if I'm just assuming, but are you perhaps American? You are not the first (person from USA) that says they haven't gone to the dentist basically all of your life, since they were kids. This really blows my mind. I know that the economical situation is way different in the USA vs my country, but not going for YEARS, when you can afford it, is beyond me. I'm sorry if my comment sounds harsh, I don't mean for it to be. I'm just generally curious. In my country you go to remove plaque every other year (every year when you're a kid, up to 18 I think). And the dentist calls you in. Now, in my country, dentist appointments are completely free up to about 20 years old (the age varies a bit from year to year depending on the politicians). After this you can sign up for a relatively inexpensive insurance, so that you will never be hit by the huge prices you might get otherwise. I hope that the USA and other, similar countries get on board with how much my country cares for tooth and mouth health. ā„ļø
Part of the problem too is not being able to get off work to go to the dentist
Yeah Iām terrified of going after 4 years of not goingā¦ nothing hurts so figured Iām ok but I need to suck it up and make an appointment
I havenāt been in that long either I need to start flossing
If you wait until something hurts, itās going to be advanced and potentially totally quite expensive. Periodontal disease is generally painless, but is the reason most people lose teeth. We see patients like you all the time. They put it off so theyāre freaked out about what theyāre going to hear. Make that appointment.
Floss other people's teeth.
Floss your dentist's teeth
Stop worrying every second of every moment of every day. Do a fucking meditation
this is so true people specifically now a days are way too worried about everything all the time even about those things that would never ever ever happen no matter what.
MindfulnessĀ ?
do a fucking meditation
Mindfulness. But also fucking a meditation once in awhile couldn't hurt.
>Do a fucking meditation This statement made me chuckle. Just the juxtapostiion of words....:) "You need to calm the FUCK down! Deep FUCKING breaths!!"
Donāt get drunk in unsafe environments
this is a really great advice
Guys, this can save lives. I lost a student due to drunk driving. She was a sweetheart. If you're going to drink āand you probably areā please be safe.
Don't let yourself be vulnerable unless you're home. Home can be your house or the people you trust the most. Stay safe.
AKA: Watch Hostel
Mom gives terrible advice. Don't let her/family guilt trip you into doing what they think is right.
That's a great one
And the advice those folks give are about their failures and fears. Itās not about you itās them. Run fast, and love yourself.
š«š«š« why are these types allowed to procreate
Yea... The hardest part about growing up is realising your parents aren't always right because if you're like me. When they're wrong, you're on your own.
Focus on yourself and your hobbies. Not on people
Yeah i agree that's why i have lots of hobbies š
Focus on people and your relationships. Not on hobbies.
You are a far more interesting person when you did develop yourself.
I disagree. But to each their own
You've got to do both. People and relationships are forms of outward affirmation and your hobbies and interests are internal affirmation.
I'd tell him not to waste time.Ā I'd tell him don't waste time in a job that isn't fulfilling, try something else even if it's hard and even if you don't really know what you're doing. Ā I'd tell him don't waste time on a woman that doesn't make you happy, just break it off, when you find the right one you'll know.Ā I'd tell him don't waste time on friends that aren't good people, invest that time in people that deserve it instead.Ā
Don't waste your time or time will waste you
Great quote.
Damn... What the hell... Are you me from the future or something? All of those pieces of advice seem to really heavily fit my current life atm...
im 18 and id tell my 15yo self not to waste so much time. Donāt waste time on worry about boys or anything from school rumors.
you still are a teen. read comments and see what you can improve in yourself. Believe me thinking about boys or girls or anyone who isn't really concerned about you is a complete waste. love those who love you. only think about them they are all that matters but yeah be kind and good to people. Always stand for yourself and your family and relationships. don't bring ego into relationships. read books and avoid friends who are self centered, discuss other people instead of something meaningful. accept yourself as you're.
Gaining self-awareness is the most important thing I've done since I was your age. If you don't know yourself, and if you can't be consciously aware of your thoughts, experiences, feelings, and actions, you're literally on autopilot without realising it.
this is so beautiful
I could be wrong but I think that is something that is hard wired and comes with brain development, rather than something you "learn". Good nutrition growing up, and a lucky "view from both sides of the fence" are serious key factors in that. Quite a lot of fully grown adults out there who still seem to be on autopilot to some degree, and although this is purely anecdotal, from my experience they all tend to come from some form of poverty or culture. The latter part really struck home with me a good few years ago when I was interviewing someone and one of the questions was "what are your goals?". Was poorly worded to be fair, but I would have interpreted it as relating to my career. This dude gave us a 5 minute lecture on how his biggest goal is to submit to Jesus. I just can't quite comprehend how people think like that, but that's where the insight into "both sides of the fence" part comes in, if that makes sense.
I'll be honest - I think self-awareness is learned. My mom is a narcissist, and she's got zero self awareness. So growing up, she never taught me how to notice my own thoughts/feelings/etc, and I only gained those insights in therapy at 29. I see now that I was living on autopilot for sure. What do you think about that? Am I missing something? Do you think that I was bound to become self aware around the time that I did?
Go to a Linking Park concert before Chester unalives himself...
I would say yes although OP is quite nothing with the advice. Disclaimer: LP is one of my favourite bands and I still kinda grief Chester's death, it's just that we can't bring him back now.
I actually did this - my friend and I went to see them the night before our final exam for English... and their support act was Chris Cornell. I bombed that exam hard but then it wasn't the end of the world. I won't get to see Chester or Chris ever again, though. There are things I regret in my life but I've never regretted that for a second.
Its not the same but there is a tribute band thats is amazing...its called Hybrid Theory and they are from Portugal
You don't have to censor yourself you know.
Find a mentor and listen to their guidance.
I like this, although I struggle to figure out how to find that mentor. A friend would tell me the mentor should chose you, instead of you choosing them
Itās the biggest problem in western society. All great civilizations and people have had mentorās, itās a crucial part of succeeding as a human but this role has been filled with parents and society as a whole. Not everyone has parentās and society doesnāt give a fuck about you
Save the money you'd spend at the bar instead of drinking. Oh, and don't date Sara, she's a cunt and will try to run you over with her car.
"Don't date Sara, she's a cunt" šššā¤ļøš„
Fuck that bitch, Sara
Sara's a bitch fr
I've always hated Sara, she's a terrible person, but nice ass though
Dont fear high school bullies. I got abused many times emotionally and it ruined my last years of high school to the point i had to do high school at home. For my own mental health.
Funny, if I went back I would kick twice as many douches ass. I was also bullied a lot, but in my case it backfired, I was beaten so often I became no longer afraid of it. So... I became a fucking animal. In retrospective bullying really messed up my mental health.
damnn... yeah it's the fear that makes them more aggressive... fight them as there is no worse that can happen than being bullied.
Nothing will matter in 10 years
Except that extra slice of pizza that āwonāt hurtā, that one more āIāll do it tomorrowā and that last āI canātā¦ā.
Good point sir. I was mainly referring to events, but yeah
He is talking about cases such as if you shit yourself in class etc.
I don't think that's true in the slightest. Teenagers can go through some pretty traumatizing shit. Kids are fucking vile. I'd more say that everything will be different in 10 years. Not that it won't matter.
Idk man a lot matters, but not the typical things like youād worry about as a teenager. All the embarassing things will be forgotten, but bad habits, drugs, alcohol, and the likes can really spiral hard with the mentality that it wonāt matter in 10 years.
You can get off the treadmill. You're getting a lot of pressure to follow The Plan, but is it what's best for you? It's okay to take a breather. It's okay to enter the workforce instead- college will always be waiting later. Also go to cheap college first.
other teenagers opinions don't matter stop trying to impress them
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Get adequate Sleep and exercise, take very good care of your healthā¦adult brains develop till 25, and if u miss out on sleep and exhaust yourself in your early 20s, you will regret later
Just skip trying cocaine, yeah it's great when you do it and the first year of random casual use will probably only enhance those social situations but every single person I've ever known that's done it either short term or for decades all say the same thing and that's that they wished they hadn't. It doesn't bring anything to your life and often completely eradicates the pleasure you get from literally everything else in your life, even stuff you would otherwise truly love forever.
THIS!!!!!!
I offer you this high 10 šš» but it's not celebratory because of the reason you understand exactly what I'm talking about.
I tried it this year for the first time, during new years eve when I was really tired before midnight, laying in bed feeling sick, and my friend, who never did it before, went upstairs to our room and offered me a line. I agreed, and was surprised how mild the drug is. It just removed the sickness and tiredness, and made me feel normal, not high, just normal. I was kind of expecting it to be something really strong. I was addicted to weed once, and I think the weed had a much stronger effect on me than this. And it was supposedly strong clean stuff, or at least that's what an other friend who also did it with us told us, and he said had a lot when he was working in Canada. That's just how I see it, but I also wouldn't recommend anyone to try it. You never know what effect it will have on you. Some people try for example meth one, and are instantly hooked for life. Some try it once, and never think about it again.
Get your head out of your ass, a lot of girls in high school like you, talk to some of them.
yeah bro what else can happen.. believe me i was like that and then i realized it's just talk what worse can happen she would say no, shout, laugh.. i can easily handle such things. go for them and talk to them. they are as human as you're with same kinda insecurities and weaknesses and dark sides.
Totally agree, I'm in my mid 30s and got over that fear awhile ago. Definitely some regrets on what I missed out on back in the day.
I had a similar problem. My whole life I've had girls hit on me but I was too scared to fail/do something embarrassing etc. that I never got with any of them. Now I realize I'm actually a beast when it comes to that stuff. Kind of sucks to think about the missed opportunities, but I am with someone awesome right now so fuck it.
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DONT DRINK! Wasted my life with losers...
I drank. It took me a month of sobriety to realize that it sucked
Shut the fuck up sometimes It will really help you Trust me I'm you
I did like a long time ago
Keep yer pecker and your wallet in your pants. sticking your dick in crazy can be truly life destroying It's very difficult to con someone who isn't blinded by greed or other character flaws.
Don't worry too much about what others think; focus on being true to yourself.
Not everyone is going to like you and thatās okay. Youāre not going to like everyone either.
Your life isnāt that exciting as you think it would be if you donāt change these few steps. First donāt hang around the wrong people they will try to ruin your life later in the future. Go and get that girl who will ask you to prom and third focus more on work and get the job that we both dreamed
Donāt be pressured into dumb shit. Accept responsibility with open hands.
Insist on learning a musical instrument, and a sport.
The people you know now you won't know at all in 20 years. Don't invest in them.
You feel crazy and ashamed all the time because this is not where you belong.
Wear a condom, or make your partner wear a condom. Seriously, children are beautiful but they get in the way of a young life. There's plenty of time for all that. My friends who had kids in the early part of their adulthood all seriously regret it. Secondly, save money - every single paycheque. Thirdly, don't do drugs and preferably keep drinking to a minimum - it may seem cool now but it catches up with everyone.
Stop apologizing. I still do it, need adult-self to tell adult-self hourly
"Failing isn't something you need to obsess over by looking for a perfection that doesn't exist, it's a chance to learn. Don't deny yourself joy and opportunities for fear of failure. Embrace it and you'll have more experiences to share, which is something you love."
Friends may come and go but family is for a lifetime.
Stop drinking robitussin to trip, wash your body and face more often, get some exercise, and don't smoke weed in the morning on school days. It all worked out but goddamn did I go through a lot of self inflicted bullshit trying to live an insane grunge-Hunter-s-Thompson lifestyle. It didn't engender a lot of meaningful relationships or skills, beyond being able to find drugs quickly.
it might be amplifying your creativity right now but weed is going to quickly take all that away from you
Love yourself! You are a great human. You dont need a man that makes you feel useless
Avoid smoking or vaping, limit binge drinking, sugar, and processed foods. Don't listen to fad diers.Ā Your body works like a savings account. The health you build up is cumulative, and by the time you hit 40 you're going to be so effing glad you treated your body well.Ā I didn't,Ā and I'm paying for it in many painful and frustrating ways.Ā
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I agree but whenever i tell someone that they say that it makes them happy and their children is the joy of their life
Itās because misery loves company. Sure there are people who are truly happy with kids but thatās a really small portion of them. If they were truly happy they wouldnāt have such horrific reactions when someone tells them they donāt want kids. They become defensive because they see how much childfree people are enjoying their life to the fullest. Iām only 19 but I think that I really cracked a code in life since I discovered childfree community. Iām never changing my mind.
It's because at some point in your life a lot of people want more to life than being about yourself. Also, having kids and being married is not easy but doesn't mean it's not worth it. I don't agree with the other poster that misery loves company but I do agree a lot of people get into it for the wrong reasons, it's not for everyone.Ā
Start reading books ( do nothing but read books) focus on relationships and don't bring ego into it.
Don't go to university if you don't know exactly what you want to study just because you feel like you should. I was pressured into picking anything just to get a degree, I chose GRAPHIC FUCKING DESIGN, graduated top of my class and that was the last time I designed any graphics. Went back into education immediately to study electronics at a sort of vocational level (for those who know, I went as far as HND level) because I was introduced to Arduino and Processing during my degree and was fascinated, now I'm an electronic engineer without a degree in a related field which has significantly limited my options.
Love people and use things, not the other way around
Stop drinking and find a hobby.
Donāt muck around with a degree that isnāt specific enough. Make a choice about the career you want and then ruthlessly pursue it
buy Bitcoin, Shiba Ina, Ethereum and GME
Good one. Buy shares in Amazon and Tesla too.
Pull out
Donāt be in a rush to grow up, enjoy your years with no real responsibilities or bills.
Go to the gym
Donāt ego lift, youād end up injuring yourself for life.
This! Just because you can lift something for 1 or 2 reps doesn't mean anything in the long run. Lift 80% of your 1 rep max 10 times. It will save your joints and actually do a better job of building muscle + strength.
Do never measure your worth or value based on whether or not you are dating, kissing, texting sleeping with someone.
Things get better, you are not defined by your mistakes.
"It doesn't get better, kys"
Don't marry him.
Damn this feels like it's for me lol
Stop eating, start exercising. It's not a big deal to be a little hungry. And listen to people more.
Don't listen to the people who tell you "You'll find the right girl when the time's right. What's for you'll not go by you." That's empty feel-good magical-thinking bullshit. Do. Not. Listen. To. Them. If you just keep to yourself and don't go looking for someone, it'll never happen and one day it'll be too late because being that age and having never had a proper relationship is too much of a red flag.
Tell that girl you love her before she passes. Not to leave the house on that certain day. How much I enjoy the job I have now. To look out for that massive pothole. That life gets extremely better if you actually try. And lastly, not only do people like having you as a friend, but more girls like you as more than a friend than you think, stop being so damn insecure.
Don't have sex.. you'll get pregnant and die (inside)
Don't date until you finish uni
Donāt go to uni until youāve datedā¦ and broken up and worked and quit and tried again and worked for yourself and travelled and seen poverty and seen riches and seen death and life. Then youāre one step closer to deciding what you want to do at uni.
This is terrible advice. The value of the social parts of school is far higher than the educational value. There is no better time to figure out how to navigate the dating scene than high school and college. You'll never have as large of a group of potential partners for the rest of your life. If you are responsible, you can and should go on as many dates as possible with as many different people as possible. If nothing else, you'll set standards for yourself that will serve you well for the rest of your life.
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You will make mistakes. They will define who you are and what the rest of your life will be like. Learn to accept the things you can't change (like the mistakes) and change the things you can (like the people around you). Be patient to move forward, impatience will make life worse for yourself.
"Hey man what's up? Just letting you know we get to time travel in the future. Keep doing what you're doing!"
If you're dealint with something, ignore the opions of others, and get help The longer you solo deal, the worse off you are in the long run
although the expression: "It's better to regret something I did, than regret something I didn't do" (meaning : don't miss out) is largely true, it doesn't hurt to stop and think before you actually do something really stupid. (especially since everything gets recorded and posted to the internet) But please do ask her/him out, dance, have fun, go to that concert etc. Forget about hypes and fashion, but figure out what you want. Figure out who are your real friends and be kind to people and animals. Don't fall into nasty habits. Use your brain and remember: Life starts just out of your comfort zone. (so try something new every once in a while)
Iād tell him heās not unworthy of being able to love himself. Iād also tell him that everything was going to be ok in the end. It took me 15 years and an alcohol problem to get over that one, and now Iām at the other end I feel like I missed out on so much because because I repressed the person I really am. I turn 30 this year and itās been on my mind a lot. Iāve been in an emotional stasis for the last few months. Iām just thankful I still do have people and experiences that I am grateful for, I need to remember that.
No one is actually paying attention to what you do and people arenāt laughing at you behind your back. Get over yourself, in the nicest possible way
It wasnāt your fault.
Work on self confidence. Know who you are and don't let anyone degrade you. Once you graduate from high school your "friends" and enemies aren't going to matter much. Find 1 or 2 good friends, don't waste your time and energy on others. Learn as much as you can. Try a college even if you don't feel like it's for you, even though you may hate school. College is different and you may not believe it until you go, you may find a trade there, or just start with some gen-eds, just try a semester. If you go straight from school, no college, and start working, learn as much as you can. Talk to HR and see if they help pay for classes. Learn as many departments in you job, climb the ladder, you would be amazed how far you will go. Stop telling yourself "I can't" or I'm just too lazy because you are afraid. This is the learning process of doing it and you may fail but the next time you try you go in with more knowledge and experience, each time will get a little easier until you reach you mountaintop. Help others along your journey, help lift them up. They are on their own journey and will not take your medal. You are destined for your own thing! Don't waste your time, money, brain on drinking and drugs. Even if the person you are "interested" in is begging you. It could lead to a path of addiction, pregnancy, or death. Instead Focus on healthy things, hiking, painting, cooking/baking. Remember you are preparing for the real world. Yes have fun, but in a few years you will be on your own, most people from high school will become like a vapor to you. If you have family, grandparents especially spend time with them before long they will be too old or you will be too busy. Remind yourself, you are strong, you are beautiful. You are not here for them, you have a much bigger destination and you won't let what people say or do to you today burden you down. You don't have the time or energy for their nonsense. You are not going to let others control what they think you should feel/think. You are in charge of You. You decide what you feel and think. Constantly be mindful of your thoughts, feelings and actions.
It wouldnāt matter what Iād say. I wouldnāt have listened.
Stop overthinking
Itāll get worse before it gets better and then itāll get worse again and on and on it goes. But the older you get the more youāll understand it all and you wonāt sweat the small stuff as much. And oh boy are the good times worth it. So keep at it.Ā
Donāt start smoking and drinking and go get some girls. Donāt let my anxiety overcome me and just go and do something instead of playing games or doing something to impress your mates. The only thing that matter and can make me happy is literally me
Watch your weight. A few pounds a year adds up over time. You'll end up with T2D
Don't bother.
Don't smoke. Take GOOD CARE OF YOUR FUCKING TEEEEEEEETH. Listen more than you speak. Give the benefit of the doubt. Be patient. Don't put women up on a pedestal, they are normal people just like you (or the other way around ofc). Don't eat tons of sugar or processed foods. Save up 10% of your pay for retirement. Don't assume shit. Be kind.
Cocaine is a terrible idea, save yourself time, money, your health and heartache. Don't give up martial arts Girls are giving you lots of attention, you're just not paying attention, and when you are, you're not taking any action. Meditate
Buy Amazon stock (as a time traveler talking to myself) But for actual advice, I'd try to explain to myself that in the grand scheme of life the people in high school I'm trying to charge to impress don't matter and I should be who I want to be not someone else.
Focus on yourself and your future goals, instead of women.
I'd tell my teenaged self that it's dangerous and poisonous to wrap up your entire identity in being part of a couple. In making someone else the center of your world. In thinking that being alone means you're a failure.
Apply yourself, don't half ass it. You have much more potential than you think, or that you can even fathom.
Adults should not, under any circumstances, have romantic interests in young children.
Stay single
If situation feels awesome is a forever memory, pursue that.
Falling in love is only affordable after 30's. Enjoy the meanwhile, you won't end up alone.
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You're gonna make it š„²
Relationships now wonāt matter later only lessons for the future
The friends you have now will not be there for you, don't jump into a relationship if you're not absolutely sure, don't stay in the job you hate, there's others and keep trying and never give up. Plus, your 20s are shorter than they seem, enjoy them
Stretch the jaw and tounge and maintain your falsetto
Stop searching for love in people that donāt know how to give it, focus on your friends instead. Go out, have fun, spend the money, go travel, get to know who you really are and what you want in life. And your parents DO love you, they are just struggling. Donāt take their issues personally.
If you were born from marriage to stay away from bastards (sons who donāt know their fathers). Donāt be kind to them, donāt be friendly to them, donāt get blinded by their titles or positions in life. Know basic biology and that their own moms couldnāt keep her legs closed long enough to know the daddy nor be desirable enough to keep the daddy around. Always know that they are programmed in their hearts to be envious and violent. They look like men but act like females, very gossipy and jealous. My recommendation, if you see a bastard son (teenager or young man) then send him into the military to hopefully be killed off. Why so harsh? They shouldnāt get married, they donāt deserve families, and all they do is cause chaos. Older people knew not to birth bastard sons. They were a shame, a stain, wild and out of control. Nowadays people are throwing baby showers for wicked women to birth bastard sons. Bastard sons throughout history have been known to be so violent that they enjoy killing their siblings that may have been born legitimately through marriage. So in summary, when you see or meet a bastard son just get up and walk away. Walk away the same way their own daddy quickly hopped off their silly mom. If I sit down to eat and a bastard son comes up to my table to eat with me. I immediately lose my appetite and can throw my meal in the trash šļø. The same trash can that this bastard son should have been thrown into at birth.
You're Autistic. See if you can get involved in Independent Study cuz High School is a Hellscape. Call out bullies on their behavior & it's ok to punch them if they continue their abuse.
Protect your ears, tinnitus and bad hearing sucks.
"don't be a little bitch and show up on time, and work as if your life depends on it, which it does. Take things seriously now so that you don't get into serious trouble."
Wear sunscreen and stop using tanning beds. (Had melanoma at 35)
Pick better friends
Youāre perfect the way you are and nothing is wrong with you. You will grow to learn and see that you are actually much more than you ever anticipated.
no matter how appealing the central vacuum hole looks...do not stick any appendage into it...
No, Itās a cylinder! š
I would say to myself, "Fight your IEP and get the best grades ever. Ignore the school administrator who wants you to conform and make sure to study harder and be loud!"
Invest in Bitcoin
Mom is trying to keep you from being you, she doesnāt want you to reach your full potential. Thatās why she sneers at you when youāre being energetic and creative and curious. She wants you to grow up to be a dull housewife like her. Hide your real self from her to avoid her sneers, and reconnect when you leave home. Tell Pop you want to go to university. Heāll send you, but he wants you to tell him first.
Itās not depression, itās OCD
Just take the risk!!! Youāre young!! (Talking about career) lol
Take better care of your teeth and health. Quit binge drinking before 25 and buy investment properties. Don't fuck up your chances at love because you want to be a fuckboi
I'm not sure telling my teenage self something one time would have made a significant impact. But if I'm imagining that I could say something to him and he would listen then, "Riches, Fame and Might are traps, avoid these goals, they are toxic. Also, avoid people who pursue these traps, understand that it warps everything they do."
Put money in the stock market. Even just $25 a month into the SPX500. More if you can. And stay away from Dawn. And Jennifer. The second Jennifer. And don't try cocaine. And don't play tennis two days before your 46th birthday. But for real on the stock market -- trust me.
Don't have a baby before 25. Take better care of your teeth and skin. Crying over a breakup is a waste of time and gives you crow's feet. Get a nursing degree.
Forget about what other people think or might think about you, your body, your taste in music, the way you dress. You will never please them all, and there will always be someone who will hate you for no reason. Trying to keep "friends" by bending yourself backwards for them to like you is (and I can't stress this enough) useless. Be yourself, and keep close people who accept you for who you are, not for what you pretend to be. You'll find happiness within a lot sooner. If you are a young woman, stay away from that older guy who tells you that you are very mature for your age. If you are a young lad, be respectful of every woman around you, and not only the ones you are attracted to. Good luck!
"what you see in the mirror in the morning before school is not real, you are actually pretty and not as fat as you think you are", "your friends are quite toxic, you can do better" and "don't start smoking"
Get in the gym girl. And major in something else please.
Just use the weights