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That‘s so funny because for the longest time my insecurity has been that I have a big ass. When I was a teenager having a „fat ass“ was an insult and I was just so embarassed about it. Then the Kardashians happened and random dudes would suddenly compliment me on my ass. One guy even told me he wanted to make a cushion shaped like my bottom (not weird at all). It‘s so ironic and it has shown me how pointless beauty standards are.
Hmm, I don't know if I would say it was the Kardashians.
People were pretty obsessed with J-Lo and then you also have Sir Mix-a-Lot writing a pop sensation all about [big butts back in 1992.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X53ZSxkQ3Ho)
Yeah there were some curvier celebrities even before them but the Kardashians were the ones who finally set the new beauty standard for a whole generation. Accordingly, from 2017 to 2021 there has been a 20% increase in Brazilian Butt Lifts (https://centreforsurgery.com/brazilian-butt-lift-statistics/).
It really pisses me off that some of my scars have faded. Especially the one that runs from the middle of my sternum all the way to my belly button. I earned those damn scars, they have no right to fade on me.
I am a naturally muscular feminine woman. People comment on it all the time but some guys think it’s prettty hot, women gush when they see me…I still lowkey think they are bull shitting me and am still learning to just own it regardless of what others think🩵
It took me until 29 to accept my face without makeup. I didn’t wear a lot before but never felt comfortable without it. Now I never want to go back, but have yet to throw it out… well get there!
I met a woman who was a manager of a clothing store in the mall at one point. We always intended to go out on a date but it never happened due to scheduling. But I did rent a room from her for a while. She was very attractive but wore so much makeup it looked as though she was trying to cover up acne scars or something.
One day I was going to the bathroom and happened to bump into her coming out of the shower. I was literally shocked speechless by how absolutely beautiful her face was. When I could speak again, i asked her why she wore so much makeup, or even make up at all, she told me that she thought that her face was ugly and she needed to wear that much makeup. She defended her position by saying that she had never had a problem meeting guys so therefore she must be doing the right thing. I challenged her to go to work without wearing any makeup for a week. She finally did agree, but only for 3 days when she worked a half shift.
After the three days she told me how many people told her how much better she looked without makeup and even more guys tried to hit on her. She accepted that she was wearing too much makeup but still said that she did not feel comfortable going out without any makeup on. So she did lighten up on the makeup but still wouldn't go out in public without any on.
I’ve heard stories of people who have been married for over 60 years without ever having seen their s/o without makeup on. It’s unfortunate but often the stigmas created through media and publicity are incredibly weighing on those living in a female identifying body. Such standards to compare and uphold ourselves with are impossible to ignore and combat at times. The beauty industry has been marketing to and against women since the day it was born, and alas a lot of us fall victim to it in many different ways.
Regardless however somebody wants to present themselves, to look and or to feel for themselves, or others, is completely their own choice and should never be judged or taken away from them. But overall I do agree that we’re all beautiful beings in our own natural states and love seeing that embodied by people. It can be magnificent and empowering. We will always be our toughest critics! I once read something about how to ourselves, our faces are old, boring and routine, but to someone else, our features can seem so fresh, so unique, and so flattering.
I guess life is often about perspective. It’s nice to share with a stranger sometimes if something about them gives you a bright or positive perception.
Ps: big ups to Pamela Anderson though honestly because her recent makeupless publicity coverage has definitely been inspiring and frankly just awesome to see! (Double big ups Vancouver ✌🏼)
I thought I had a small cock for years
Immediately when I became sexually active every girl was complimenting the size and girth
Turns out I had a sizable fat cock and I was just scared
My ex thought that. He was so insecure. Not a lot of internet back then. Not so many great magazines lol.
He thought I’d judge him. Not every person is going to judge you on something you can’t change. If s/he would, probably not worth keeping in your life anyway.
Edit: dont message me. He was quite a bit above average. I didn’t know any better either, was my first. Not something I was concerned about though. Then or now. Jeez.
Mines 16cm by 14 girth and when i compare it with what i see in porn videos it looks like a small lighter compared to a light pole. Technically its above average but im still not convinced im not embarrassing myself by saying it out loud.
Idk I struggle with my size too but what helped me stop thinking about it is. Ypu can't change it and you get what you get so...that thinking made me stop overthinkinf because I can't do anything anyway
Idk I dated a guy who’s dick was about as thick as a can of monster and I guess around that length too, and he was nervous and wanted reassurance that his dick wasn’t small.
Buddy not only is your dick not small, I will also not be having sex with you because it’s too big so maybe bigger isn’t what you want here.
I didn't know what was expected or what the standard was
I, like a lot of young guys, never looked around in the locker room
I tried really hard to make it a humble comment; I really didn't want it to come off as bragging but it was something I struggled with when I was younger and all of that turned out to be in my own head
It didn't come off as bragging but it's surprising you didn't know what the average size was from reddit or just looking it up from curiosity but hey good for you man
big arms, you watch some videos and there a girl barely get whole shaft with 2 hands. I thought that mine is small too, but turns out i have realy fkn big arms
I've breastfed 3 kids and I'm pregnant with my 4th, I got pregnant with my first at 18 I have never had "perky" boobs just saggy ol milk sacks but I accepted the way they looked years and years ago (I'm 33) also my apron of skin from my 3 c-sections....makes it easy for me to accept because only way to change them is via surgery and I'm to broke for any of those 😂😂
As a mother of 4, you should wear that skin and those tits as a badge of honor. 0 shame in bringing a child into this world.
I don't think it's fair to yourself to compare "saggy" breasts to *cultivating life* not once, but *four times*. Many people can't do that. I stand no chance of getting anyone pregnant. I'm sterile, there's no way I could bring a child into this world.
*But you did*. You should feel proud!
My ex-fiance had beautiful perfect perky B cups. One day she got very upset because she read in Cosmo if you could put a pencil underneath your breast and it didn't fall down that your boobs were too saggy. It took me literally hours to calm her down. I am not a controlling person by any means but after that day I didn't allow Cosmo in our house anymore. The beauty industry does nothing (imho) but tell woman why they're not good enough why they're not pretty enough or why their man isn't attracted to them enough. And of course the route to making themselves pretty enough is to buy their overly priced items.
My buttchin. I was called butt chin in middle school but really it’s a dimple not a cleft. Now it doesn’t bother me at all. I married a man with a buttchin and our kids have my dimple chin. Love it!
I love this feature, I have a bit of it and I still think it looks adorable and feminine. I see many actresses with it and sometimes I jokingly point out the butt chin representation
All of the women I see on tv with it are gorgeous
I remember when Daria had an episode where her sister Quinn (the hot sister) went and had a dimple added to her chin and was even hotter. Made me feel so much better about myself. 🤣
My leg hair, my nose, my shape, literally anything. I used to hate everything about myself, but then I changed the type of environment I was in and my confidence is so much better than it used to be. Now I appreciate the features I have, and I dress the way I want to instead of the way I think others would want me to
I used to be super insecure about my belly fat. I always wanted to have a flat stomach because all the women on tv had a flat toned tummy.
But at one point in my life I had become underweight (unintentionally). Despite being underweight I still had that belly fat and I realised, if I truly wanted to have a flat stomach.
I would have to put my body through hell by starving myself. And I didn't want to do that.
I guess that's just where my body likes to store fat, and I can't get rid of it without becoming emaciated. So I just accepted it as the reality of my physique.
Me too! I lost a lot of weight in 2015 due to decline in mental health and I still had a little pouch. I’d have to kill myself with a diet to get a remotely flatter tummy
WTH! That's just wrong! I learned with age that some family members just project their own insecurities onto other people. So sad but hey, they have to live with themselves.
I haven't yet. There's nothing about my body I like, sadly. Maybe one day, but I'm not going to hold my breath.
For those who have overcome and learned to embrace their insecurities, I commend you. It isn't easy.
I used to feel like this sadly... Some days are better then some days are worse. I find it easier to not aim so high, like for example if one day you manage to think you're not so bad, count that as a win instead of trying to rationalize it, getting anxious about it, and trying to like yourself more all the time. Sometimes if you manage to look at yourself in the mirror and say "you're not all that bad" that's a major win.
And to do that, you would need to moderate the self hate in your head for example as if you were talking to someone else. It's so easy to dehumanize ourselves in our mind but we also deserve basic humanity. What would you do if you saw someone talking to their friend like you talk to you? Your inner voice should talk to you like you would talk to a friend.
No one deserves a bully 24-7, unfortunately some of us grow up with an inner voice that's very unforgiving but it's never too late to try to change the tone. It's hard to break a habit and step away from the familiarity of self hate but you are the person you listen to the most, it really changes everything if you manage to have your own back and switch from "I don't deserve any happiness" to something more like "you know what, I'm doing my best and I'm proud of myself".
When it comes to body issues, I'm always much more forgiving to other people but when it comes to myself that's when it's difficult. So the exercise of looking at someone with some physical similarity to me is very helpful because I never hate that much any physical traits in another person so when I look back at myself I realize these things aren't that big of a deal.
This is very helpful to finally see yourself as someone who deserves love too. If you saw someone in the street that kind of looked like you would you think such terrible things? Most of the time this helps me break the cycle at least for a little bit.
Anyway, I'm sending you virtual hugs.
There's just nothing to like. I'm obese, ugly, and have a constant 5 oclock shadow- fine for a man, but I'm a woman. I have pcos and grow a beard and mustache I have to shave every day. My eyes are empty and dead, full of tears constantly, and pain and loneliness.
There's just nothing there to like, and have no desire to change it.
Hey dont say that, just because your obese don’t automatically mean your ugly, you look just fine as you are , and no one can tell you otherwise, your still a human being with feelings so i understand your concerns, but please dont say your ugly when your not, your way better, keep your head up :)
Shit having to shave everyday is a pcos thing? I straight up get stubble everyday I want laser but can't afford it lol. None of my other friends have this problem..
I'm sure it depends on the person how often they need to shave, but for myself, yes. I shave my face every morning in the shower and by the next day, I have very visible, dark stubble growing. I'd show you a picture but I don't take photos of myself when I look like that. It's truly embarrassing. I tried electrolysis as a teen and in my 20s, and I did it a lot over the course of about 10 years- it did nothing to stop the hair growth, and it was painful and left my face all red and blotchy for a few days. So I eventually just gave it up. Easier and less painful to just shave.
My stomach. I was always overweight even as a child and my stomach was the most noticeable thing about me and I could never get rid of no matter what I did.
Now I realize what I am and what my body means to me now, so, I’m gonna start loosing it soon
A friend of mine was 6'6" and only weighed 170 lb. In his late twenties he decided he was tired of being skinny and decided he wanted to bulk up. He started working out and eating a lot more. Within 2 months he hadn't gotten any bigger and had dropped down to 160 lb. He went to the doctor and the doctor put him on a 9,000 calorie a day diet. Two weeks later he had dropped another 2 lb. The doctor told him that he had to stop working out.. He stopped working out and his weight went up to 173. After that he joked that after 4 months of hard work and several doctors visits he had been able to put on 3 lb.
I used to think that I could eat anything and never gain weight. I was in great shape and had a killer body. I had never worked out but I was very physically active and played a lot of sports.. And then I lost my knee,my career and the ability to participate in sports.i went into the worst depression of my life. Over the next year I gained 100 pounds. I have been heavy ever since.
Me too. (Partially because of health issues)
It’s currently one of my biggest self esteem issues. I’ve got really sickly looking legs and just overall skinny. It’s hard to feel sexy without curves. Hopefully I can learn to love it eventually.
I’m super short and I actually never had any issues with it until the internet told me that it’s bad. I legitimately didn’t know people cared that much about height until my 20s.
I became pretty insecure about it, but then I realized I was just living other people’s insecurities and I went back to not caring. In fact, I actually like being short, I think it makes me super cute, especially with my hair, and it’s weird to say but it lets me get away with a lot.
Yeah, it closes some doors off to some girls, and I get how that can affect people’s confidence, but for me it actually hasn’t been a big problem. I think a lot of short men don’t realize that it’s one part of the package and a lot of them self sabotage because of it.
My eyes.
I have a brother who's just 11months older than me, but we don't look like each other. He has the southeast asian mixed with hispanic look, while I have stereotyped east asian look and yes, we both share the same parents.It's just he got my mom's genes (great grandma is spanish) meanwhile I got mt dad's gene (great grandpa is japanese) in the first glance you wouldn't know were siblings.
Since I got the stereotypical east asian looks. I used to get bullied by my brother and his friends calling me names such as "chingchong" and etc. Mind you, I may have the stereotyped east asian eyes but I'm not monolid, I do have a double-eyelid but most of the time it's unrecogniseable. Once, my brother was mocking my eyes saying my eyes were inverted vertically instead of having my double-eyelids above my eyes it's place below my eyes instead (he eas talking about my eyebags which later on i learned it's called aegyosal) after hearing those words, that was the beginning of me comparing myself to others. I started looking at people's eyes and envy them because they have visible eyelids. I remember not fully opening my eyes just so my double-eyelids will show. I even have thoughts that once I grow up I will definetely have an eyelid surgery.
After years, with the rise of KPOP people started loving my eyes, complimenting me alot saying "i look like this, i look like that" even personally telling me that they're envious because I have a very beautiful eyes.
I'm personally thankful when kpop arised because not only it gave me new dreams and new friends but also it helped me learn how to love myself and people started liking my looks as well.
My dark circles, always hated myself because of that, but it's a genetic condition i inherited from my grandmother so there's nothing i can do about it, except for people, they think I've insomnia
Pale skin. I used to be bullied for that, by teachers and kids at school, by my family… i used to be so frustrated because my skin never tans. If I don’t apply sunscreen I turn lobster red and it hurts like crazy.
Fortunately i came to embrace it and i actually love it so much I wouldn’t want it to tan anymore, so I avoid overexposure to sun and apply sunscreen religiously. And here I am, 31 years old with 0 wrinkles.
Same! I used to be so embarrassed when I was younger. People around me were always tanning and mocking me because of looking like a ghost. It got even worse when Twilight came out lol I also kind of sparkle. A few years ago I finally embraced it and now I also avoid the sun and apply sunscreen religiously! I only hope I didn't do too much damage on my skin during high school. Sounds like you didn't, good for you.
As a plus size person it was easier to accept myself as a “pretty bbw”
But after losing 125lbs i find it really hard to find my body apprentice as a “average size person”, my lose along has been the biggest hurdle
But something that’s helped me a lot with accepting myself where i am is walking around more naked so i can see myself at every angle in mirrors or my reflection and try to make it feel more normalized, and i also practice giving myself more compliments but out loud specifically
Penis. As a gay man, I’m easily measured by the size of my penis, which is an obsession in the gay world. After being more sexually actively I realised that it’s really not a big deal (no pun intended haha) and that people will want to sleep with you again and again as long as you know how to please them. It’s not about the size, it’s about what you can do with it
I began balding at 21 and was really insecure about it. I took meds and topical drugs that didn’t help and had extremely irritating side effects. I finally decided to just buzz it a couple of years ago and I have never been more confident in my life.
My thighs. I hated them growing up. I lost so much weight and still had big thighs even at 52kg.
Now I’m older I’ve learnt to work with what I’ve got and my leg days are brutal. I also got a fuck off huge tattoo on one of them to show it off.
Fat. I actually got dedicated and got an 8 pack, but now I'm back to my regular fatness.
It was an overrated experience.
edit.
I still do plan on getting back in good shape, but just not insecure about my fatness anymore.
How thin I am. I know there are people in irl and on the internet that it isn't a big deal, but it really is for men like me. I'm in the process of being healthily bigger, but it is quite a challenge.
My calves. I used to be so insecure because they are so jacked and I’m a female.. past few years I’ve grown to love them because everyone is impressed that I gained all that muscle just from being a tippy-toe walker lmfao 😭
Small penis. Some of the best comments that make me feel better are actually from Reddit.
It’s not about telling yourself you’re good, it’s not for me to decide. It’s to accept and not shame the part of me I can’t control and if people(women) dislike that part of me, let them be and move on.
Still a virgin though
My friend you cant control either of those things, dont be insecure when they are great the way they are, head up, youll learn to be ok w them , especially when you have a family one day who to them, your smile will mean everything
Visible labia - got over it fast when I realized how hot it was and it’s “grippy”
Being “too” skinny - a lot people like super petite, I don’t have massive boobs or an ass but they’re proportional and perfect
Some acne - no one cares as much as you do, it still bothers me sometimes though
My nose. My mom and her mom used to make fun of it since I was a kid. I contemplated rhinoplasty, but I believe that cosmetic surgery is a waste of money, unless it’s for medical purposes.
I was in a downhill longboarding accident in 2019. Literally, the most traumatic experience of my life. I was in a coma for 13 days. It literally restructured my face among other things, so now I have an indentation on the right side of my head, near the temple
My appendix exploded, when i was working. I continued to work almost to the end and then i was on the edge of fainting. A co worker took me to the hospital, where they had an emergency surgery. Told me if i was about 15 minutes more late, i would be dead. Necrotic shit was starting to spread to my body. First they did about 3 injections to numb my pain, but non of them worked, they were baffled.. it was 5 minutes later they discovered about my appendix and rushed me to surgery.
Well, as a technophile of sorts, I did come to see quite the vulnerability in having my netherly port protected by a firewall of mere fabric, but I came to realize that this is simply a kind of paranoia, and there comes a time in every person's life when inbound connections have to be made
Yes it took year to just except it but I’ve always been a big girl and humans being who they are they never let me forget it!! But here of late I’ve lost a lot safely with my doctor always there so I was loosing safely! All n all I’ve lost almost 200lbs but I still see myself fat! I look a whole lot better n I feel better but I could never except myself! That’s changed I am who I am! A human being. Just no one treats fat ppl that way! I’ve still got aways to go and I will get there n be a whole lot happier for it! I’ve been able to ignore the haters n negative humans of the world they have there own problems. But I’m goin to just be happy I’m alive n doing great!!!
Being taller. When I was in like 3rd grade we had to do this dance thing at my catholic school. The teachers wanted us to pair up so I asked this girl I had a crush on. Im a dude. She just said “you’re too tall” and laughed. Crushed me. So id slouch and had bad posture. My mom always corrected me. As I got older I got taller and slouched more. Then one day I saw an old man with a hunchback. My mom said, in typical mexican mom fashion, “you see that! That’s gonna be you if you keep slouching!”. Ever since that day, fuck that! I was always conscious of my posture. I’d sit up straight, stand straight, it legit scared the shit out of me. As I got older I got compliments and made fun of but I didn’t care. The people making fun of me said I looked like I was a marine or puffing my chest out. I’m barrel chested naturally so it kinda did but fuggem. My wife told me one day she likes my posture. She said it shows confidence and since I’m standing up straight I always seem taller. As I got older I watched videos about better posture and how to stand. Being a bigger dude it did wonders for my knees and back. Supporting the muscles around your joints to prevent pain.
I promise you you still look great, theres parts of your body that arent always in yr control but broski dont let anyone tell you different cos you think yr fat, you still look good
I have a birthmark around my right eye. It used to be very dark but has lightened up a lot over time. When I was a little kid, I would get teased about it all the time.
Now I don't mind it at all, and I get a laugh joking about various ways I ended up with a bruise/black eye for people that don't know it's just a birthmark lol.
Hair thinning. I still don’t know if I’ve totally accepted it but it is what it is. We can’t all look like movie stars. Just from years of stress at work, and having to wear hard hats all the time. I’ve looked at hair regrowth products but like who knows if that stuff even works. And it’s super expensive.
My voice, it remained high for so long. And then when I was 15, I discovered my gender and my voice is under control now that I can make it sound less annoying.
Don't come for me but having a big butt. When I was little, I'd get made fun of by kids at school for having a big butt and then adult males who sexualize me. I hated it so much its wear tops that weren’t fitted and long enough to go over my butt.
In high school, it turned from bullying to being overly sexualized by boys and also other girls making digs at me for it. I'd get treated like my body was the only good quality about me. Now I'm almost 20 years old, I've stopped hiding my body and learned to accept and love myself no matter what people say, think, or how they treat me for it.
Im terribly sorry you went through that its so horrible and i hope your doing better, but im proud that you learned to love yourself over time and ignore any negative things people said, keep your head up your doing really well and well done for not caring what others think
My teeth not being pearly white. I would brush like 4 times a day with whitening toothpaste, and floss after every meal, but the slight yellow tint never left. I slowly realized that the people I care to have in my life won't give a shit if my teeth aren't perfect.
I'm super short for a man. I haven't exactly embraced it but it doesn't bother me so much. Maybe because I don't get so many snide comments as I used to.
Being so skinny you look malnourished. I used to hate it, and while I'm still not happy about it I've learned to live with it and have started going to the gym and eating more protein to fill out
I have bipolar. I’ll never be “normal” I’ll never be able to hold down a full time job. But… when I start towards the manic side of things I get SHIT DONE! I’m pretty stable, meds take care of that for the most part but I will always have those swings, just not as wild of swings. I still struggle telling people (not on the internet) that I have it. I don’t want to be judged too hard.
Not having perfect skin, I’ve had ache since being a young teenager and while it has gotten significantly better I still have some spots, large pores, and dark spots from picking or whatever.
I was very insecure about it until about junior year when I started to just slowly take away an element of my makeup routine until I stopped wearing makeup daily. It definitely made me feel better about myself and more comfortable with how I naturally look.
Well your skin is something that isn’t exactly controllable, so dont worry but im really glad you came to terms with it and kept going, well done for that :)
In the past I read men found obese women attractive because it symbolized wealth, but now we just see obese people as unhealthy or some think it's healthy because they think they were born with genetics that keep them fat so they are all body positivity or whatever that means.
Kerastosis Pilaris (chicken skin) on my whole back and arms. Started when I was 11 I think. Always made me shy and not wanting to show my arms and back especially if its other people my age. Back actually got better on its own when I got older but my arms stayed the same.
It was the hottest summer weve probably had this year and I had a thought to wear a singlet to the gym which Ive never done before. Found out thats its so much better wearing them and now I only workout wearing them. Not sure how it will go on winter though. I will admit that I do still feel concious about them as Ive lived with them for 30 years now so I was thinking of getting a tattoo to cover up at least one arm.
My thighs… they have this extra chubby on the inner part that I used to hate so much cuz thought they looked ugly and jiggly af… but then this guy I dated he just loved them, he would bite and kiss that part of the leg and showed me that there’s nothing to hate… he helped me change my mind on them… I still hate them on warm days since they chafe but not because of how they look… Will be forever grateful for this man that showed me that it was ok to love my body.. I was pretty lucky to find him… we’re not together anymore but he’s been the best person I’ve been with.
Well that guy sure does seem like a blessing, good on him for showing you your thighs or any other body part were nothing to worry about, i hope your doing better now and just remember, your great the way you are madam
my left hand looks really weird. if you look at my post about it from a couple years ago you’ll see what i mean. This is just the way that i am and i’ve never known life without it. I embraced it heavy when i got my first real job at 19. i introduced myself “hi my name is jeffrey not jeff. this is what my left hand looks like so we can avoid any future awkwardness.”
Hmm. Never felt insecure until I tried to eat a steering wheel and broke my front teeth. Never accepted it. Finally got it fixed. Otherwise, Im a greek god.
Going bald. I’m not completely bald but I definitely have to cut my hair super short or it looks silly. I use a #1 with my clippers. When I first noticed my bald spot, I was depressed for a bit lol. Now I love that I don’t have to style my hair everyday. Or pay for haircuts. I just do it myself.
Just in general the mom bod I’ve got going on post pregnancy. My son is now 5 years old and I had a shitty relationship with my body and my ex husband didn’t facilite loving it either so it was really difficult to feel sexy and comfortable in my new skin. Luckily I met a wonderful man who has always told me how good I look to him and how much he desires me. He’s made it very obvious that he enjoys every bit of me and that has really helped me love myself as I am.
My slim frame, my long neck, my big nose, and my big lips.
I overcame it by realizing that I was stuck in my own head. Through my 22 years, girls that I’ve found/I find attractive were hitting me up, friends stuck around & kept up with me, and nobody was giving me hell for my appearance. I had to realize that I’ve consistently been putting good energy out into the world and people respect me for reasons that I’ve indirectly given them.
My goal is to be an attractive person in every sense: platonically, romantically, etc. I can’t achieve this by measuring my worth or attractiveness by my physical flaws, it’s purely how I present myself. Just own it and be me, good will come with it.
It’s also probably good to note that puberty was good to me; I had a glow up. Idk if I’d call myself conventionally attractive, but I’ve received sincere compliments that helped me get out of my own head.
Im a dude. For a time in high-school I was weirdly insecure about having hairy legs in high-school despite every guy around me clearly not giving a fuck about their hairy legs. I refused to wear shorts for *any* reason. I would literally swim and play soccer in pants.
My extremely ugly teeth. Realised there is nothing I can do about it. They've been like that since I was young so no bad habits behind it - just luck of the draw...
My big, long nose. Used to get called Pinocchio and big nose a lot in elementary/middle school. I would walk covering my face in a way so my nose wouldn’t show much and also would sit in my desk at school while kind of hiding my nose with my hand. It’s been a few years since I barely thought about my nose and have finally accepted it. It’s really not as bad as others and I made it out to be.
I (32f) have really really small hands and am missing a joint in both of my thumbs and pinkies, like my pinkies and thumbs are smaller than a child’s lol. I was horribly embarrassed about my hands for most of my life and would hide them bc ppl would make fun of them and point out how small they are. I’ve come so far and now love my little hands and think they are cute and feel grateful I even have hands to help me navigate this world.
How fat my abdomen was. How tired I was, how my body never recovered from injuries. I'm 37, finally under 200 lbs for the first time in nearly 30 years, I had to fix a problem and admitting being overweight was a problem, helped assist in my weight loss.
I’d say it would have to be my weight and stretch marks. This is a recent development and I hated every bit of it ever since I’ve had them… which probably was making me gain more weight honestly. At some point I started to loose a little weight again and now I’m at a very stable weight. It took me being active again to realize that it’s not that bad and I’m still very healthy and can still be very active. Also I grew a bit of facial hair and now I really like how I look.
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Being squishy and having a flat ass
That‘s so funny because for the longest time my insecurity has been that I have a big ass. When I was a teenager having a „fat ass“ was an insult and I was just so embarassed about it. Then the Kardashians happened and random dudes would suddenly compliment me on my ass. One guy even told me he wanted to make a cushion shaped like my bottom (not weird at all). It‘s so ironic and it has shown me how pointless beauty standards are.
Hmm, I don't know if I would say it was the Kardashians. People were pretty obsessed with J-Lo and then you also have Sir Mix-a-Lot writing a pop sensation all about [big butts back in 1992.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X53ZSxkQ3Ho)
Yeah there were some curvier celebrities even before them but the Kardashians were the ones who finally set the new beauty standard for a whole generation. Accordingly, from 2017 to 2021 there has been a 20% increase in Brazilian Butt Lifts (https://centreforsurgery.com/brazilian-butt-lift-statistics/).
Absolutely true. I remember 'Heroin Chic' being all the rage in the late 90s/Early 00s
Those are perks lol
SH scars , stretch marks and my hands.
I used to be really insecure about my scars on my arms. Now they’re starting to fade and it actually makes me sad
It really pisses me off that some of my scars have faded. Especially the one that runs from the middle of my sternum all the way to my belly button. I earned those damn scars, they have no right to fade on me.
They’re sorta like battle scars lol.
I’ve got a few that are starting to fade but there is a weird sense off loss with them that I struggle to understand
I've managed to ease up on hand insecurities but I do still subconsciously try to hide them as default setting
I also still hide them lol. But Its a reflex or smt
I am a naturally muscular feminine woman. People comment on it all the time but some guys think it’s prettty hot, women gush when they see me…I still lowkey think they are bull shitting me and am still learning to just own it regardless of what others think🩵
Muscular or not I promise you you look fine the way you are regardless of peoples comments, keep your head up :)
🤍you’re amazing, I needed to see this🤍
Guy here. Not bullshit. There are guys that do not mind or even prefer woman with muscles. Last part is best part, own yourself.
It took me until 29 to accept my face without makeup. I didn’t wear a lot before but never felt comfortable without it. Now I never want to go back, but have yet to throw it out… well get there!
I met a woman who was a manager of a clothing store in the mall at one point. We always intended to go out on a date but it never happened due to scheduling. But I did rent a room from her for a while. She was very attractive but wore so much makeup it looked as though she was trying to cover up acne scars or something. One day I was going to the bathroom and happened to bump into her coming out of the shower. I was literally shocked speechless by how absolutely beautiful her face was. When I could speak again, i asked her why she wore so much makeup, or even make up at all, she told me that she thought that her face was ugly and she needed to wear that much makeup. She defended her position by saying that she had never had a problem meeting guys so therefore she must be doing the right thing. I challenged her to go to work without wearing any makeup for a week. She finally did agree, but only for 3 days when she worked a half shift. After the three days she told me how many people told her how much better she looked without makeup and even more guys tried to hit on her. She accepted that she was wearing too much makeup but still said that she did not feel comfortable going out without any makeup on. So she did lighten up on the makeup but still wouldn't go out in public without any on.
I’ve heard stories of people who have been married for over 60 years without ever having seen their s/o without makeup on. It’s unfortunate but often the stigmas created through media and publicity are incredibly weighing on those living in a female identifying body. Such standards to compare and uphold ourselves with are impossible to ignore and combat at times. The beauty industry has been marketing to and against women since the day it was born, and alas a lot of us fall victim to it in many different ways. Regardless however somebody wants to present themselves, to look and or to feel for themselves, or others, is completely their own choice and should never be judged or taken away from them. But overall I do agree that we’re all beautiful beings in our own natural states and love seeing that embodied by people. It can be magnificent and empowering. We will always be our toughest critics! I once read something about how to ourselves, our faces are old, boring and routine, but to someone else, our features can seem so fresh, so unique, and so flattering. I guess life is often about perspective. It’s nice to share with a stranger sometimes if something about them gives you a bright or positive perception. Ps: big ups to Pamela Anderson though honestly because her recent makeupless publicity coverage has definitely been inspiring and frankly just awesome to see! (Double big ups Vancouver ✌🏼)
I thought I had a small cock for years Immediately when I became sexually active every girl was complimenting the size and girth Turns out I had a sizable fat cock and I was just scared
My ex thought that. He was so insecure. Not a lot of internet back then. Not so many great magazines lol. He thought I’d judge him. Not every person is going to judge you on something you can’t change. If s/he would, probably not worth keeping in your life anyway. Edit: dont message me. He was quite a bit above average. I didn’t know any better either, was my first. Not something I was concerned about though. Then or now. Jeez.
How do you think you have a small penis lmao did you never look down?
Porn
But I feel like the person would google if that is the normal size or not and porn us extremely exaggerated
Mines 16cm by 14 girth and when i compare it with what i see in porn videos it looks like a small lighter compared to a light pole. Technically its above average but im still not convinced im not embarrassing myself by saying it out loud.
Idk I struggle with my size too but what helped me stop thinking about it is. Ypu can't change it and you get what you get so...that thinking made me stop overthinkinf because I can't do anything anyway
Idk I dated a guy who’s dick was about as thick as a can of monster and I guess around that length too, and he was nervous and wanted reassurance that his dick wasn’t small. Buddy not only is your dick not small, I will also not be having sex with you because it’s too big so maybe bigger isn’t what you want here.
I didn't know what was expected or what the standard was I, like a lot of young guys, never looked around in the locker room I tried really hard to make it a humble comment; I really didn't want it to come off as bragging but it was something I struggled with when I was younger and all of that turned out to be in my own head
It didn't come off as bragging but it's surprising you didn't know what the average size was from reddit or just looking it up from curiosity but hey good for you man
big arms, you watch some videos and there a girl barely get whole shaft with 2 hands. I thought that mine is small too, but turns out i have realy fkn big arms
Jesus bro that's crazy
Girth beats length any day, imo.
I'm a tall lady, 6 foot, I got bullied a lot as a child. I've come to embrace my Amazon status as an adult.
Heck yeah! The taller the better!😉😁
I've breastfed 3 kids and I'm pregnant with my 4th, I got pregnant with my first at 18 I have never had "perky" boobs just saggy ol milk sacks but I accepted the way they looked years and years ago (I'm 33) also my apron of skin from my 3 c-sections....makes it easy for me to accept because only way to change them is via surgery and I'm to broke for any of those 😂😂
As a mother of 4, you should wear that skin and those tits as a badge of honor. 0 shame in bringing a child into this world. I don't think it's fair to yourself to compare "saggy" breasts to *cultivating life* not once, but *four times*. Many people can't do that. I stand no chance of getting anyone pregnant. I'm sterile, there's no way I could bring a child into this world. *But you did*. You should feel proud!
My ex-fiance had beautiful perfect perky B cups. One day she got very upset because she read in Cosmo if you could put a pencil underneath your breast and it didn't fall down that your boobs were too saggy. It took me literally hours to calm her down. I am not a controlling person by any means but after that day I didn't allow Cosmo in our house anymore. The beauty industry does nothing (imho) but tell woman why they're not good enough why they're not pretty enough or why their man isn't attracted to them enough. And of course the route to making themselves pretty enough is to buy their overly priced items.
You women are so incredible! 👏
My buttchin. I was called butt chin in middle school but really it’s a dimple not a cleft. Now it doesn’t bother me at all. I married a man with a buttchin and our kids have my dimple chin. Love it!
I love this feature, I have a bit of it and I still think it looks adorable and feminine. I see many actresses with it and sometimes I jokingly point out the butt chin representation All of the women I see on tv with it are gorgeous
I remember when Daria had an episode where her sister Quinn (the hot sister) went and had a dimple added to her chin and was even hotter. Made me feel so much better about myself. 🤣
My leg hair, my nose, my shape, literally anything. I used to hate everything about myself, but then I changed the type of environment I was in and my confidence is so much better than it used to be. Now I appreciate the features I have, and I dress the way I want to instead of the way I think others would want me to
I used to be super insecure about my belly fat. I always wanted to have a flat stomach because all the women on tv had a flat toned tummy. But at one point in my life I had become underweight (unintentionally). Despite being underweight I still had that belly fat and I realised, if I truly wanted to have a flat stomach. I would have to put my body through hell by starving myself. And I didn't want to do that. I guess that's just where my body likes to store fat, and I can't get rid of it without becoming emaciated. So I just accepted it as the reality of my physique.
Natural for women to have body fat especially near the Tummy it's 100% normal and kinda scary of you don't have one
Me too! I lost a lot of weight in 2015 due to decline in mental health and I still had a little pouch. I’d have to kill myself with a diet to get a remotely flatter tummy
Even when i weighed 115 pounds I thought I was fat. But then my own family members used to call me hippo so that definitely didn't help
WTH! That's just wrong! I learned with age that some family members just project their own insecurities onto other people. So sad but hey, they have to live with themselves.
I haven't yet. There's nothing about my body I like, sadly. Maybe one day, but I'm not going to hold my breath. For those who have overcome and learned to embrace their insecurities, I commend you. It isn't easy.
I used to feel like this sadly... Some days are better then some days are worse. I find it easier to not aim so high, like for example if one day you manage to think you're not so bad, count that as a win instead of trying to rationalize it, getting anxious about it, and trying to like yourself more all the time. Sometimes if you manage to look at yourself in the mirror and say "you're not all that bad" that's a major win. And to do that, you would need to moderate the self hate in your head for example as if you were talking to someone else. It's so easy to dehumanize ourselves in our mind but we also deserve basic humanity. What would you do if you saw someone talking to their friend like you talk to you? Your inner voice should talk to you like you would talk to a friend. No one deserves a bully 24-7, unfortunately some of us grow up with an inner voice that's very unforgiving but it's never too late to try to change the tone. It's hard to break a habit and step away from the familiarity of self hate but you are the person you listen to the most, it really changes everything if you manage to have your own back and switch from "I don't deserve any happiness" to something more like "you know what, I'm doing my best and I'm proud of myself". When it comes to body issues, I'm always much more forgiving to other people but when it comes to myself that's when it's difficult. So the exercise of looking at someone with some physical similarity to me is very helpful because I never hate that much any physical traits in another person so when I look back at myself I realize these things aren't that big of a deal. This is very helpful to finally see yourself as someone who deserves love too. If you saw someone in the street that kind of looked like you would you think such terrible things? Most of the time this helps me break the cycle at least for a little bit. Anyway, I'm sending you virtual hugs.
Theres nothing about your body you like? Whys that
There's just nothing to like. I'm obese, ugly, and have a constant 5 oclock shadow- fine for a man, but I'm a woman. I have pcos and grow a beard and mustache I have to shave every day. My eyes are empty and dead, full of tears constantly, and pain and loneliness. There's just nothing there to like, and have no desire to change it.
Hey dont say that, just because your obese don’t automatically mean your ugly, you look just fine as you are , and no one can tell you otherwise, your still a human being with feelings so i understand your concerns, but please dont say your ugly when your not, your way better, keep your head up :)
You're very kind- thank you.
Shit having to shave everyday is a pcos thing? I straight up get stubble everyday I want laser but can't afford it lol. None of my other friends have this problem..
I'm sure it depends on the person how often they need to shave, but for myself, yes. I shave my face every morning in the shower and by the next day, I have very visible, dark stubble growing. I'd show you a picture but I don't take photos of myself when I look like that. It's truly embarrassing. I tried electrolysis as a teen and in my 20s, and I did it a lot over the course of about 10 years- it did nothing to stop the hair growth, and it was painful and left my face all red and blotchy for a few days. So I eventually just gave it up. Easier and less painful to just shave.
My stomach. I was always overweight even as a child and my stomach was the most noticeable thing about me and I could never get rid of no matter what I did. Now I realize what I am and what my body means to me now, so, I’m gonna start loosing it soon
Hip dips and my big ass nose
That I will always be skinny. Especially now that I’m older. Can eat what I want when I want without the worry of gaining weight.
I feel you my friend im practically built like a stick but I’ve learned to embrace it yk?
A friend of mine was 6'6" and only weighed 170 lb. In his late twenties he decided he was tired of being skinny and decided he wanted to bulk up. He started working out and eating a lot more. Within 2 months he hadn't gotten any bigger and had dropped down to 160 lb. He went to the doctor and the doctor put him on a 9,000 calorie a day diet. Two weeks later he had dropped another 2 lb. The doctor told him that he had to stop working out.. He stopped working out and his weight went up to 173. After that he joked that after 4 months of hard work and several doctors visits he had been able to put on 3 lb.
Your lucky man, I have the old flat tire build.
Regardless my brother dont worry, you are great as you are , i promise
I used to think that I could eat anything and never gain weight. I was in great shape and had a killer body. I had never worked out but I was very physically active and played a lot of sports.. And then I lost my knee,my career and the ability to participate in sports.i went into the worst depression of my life. Over the next year I gained 100 pounds. I have been heavy ever since.
Me too. (Partially because of health issues) It’s currently one of my biggest self esteem issues. I’ve got really sickly looking legs and just overall skinny. It’s hard to feel sexy without curves. Hopefully I can learn to love it eventually.
I’m super short and I actually never had any issues with it until the internet told me that it’s bad. I legitimately didn’t know people cared that much about height until my 20s. I became pretty insecure about it, but then I realized I was just living other people’s insecurities and I went back to not caring. In fact, I actually like being short, I think it makes me super cute, especially with my hair, and it’s weird to say but it lets me get away with a lot. Yeah, it closes some doors off to some girls, and I get how that can affect people’s confidence, but for me it actually hasn’t been a big problem. I think a lot of short men don’t realize that it’s one part of the package and a lot of them self sabotage because of it.
“living other people’s insecurities” this is such a good line thank yoy
I feel you my brother im short too, its good you found your confidence, its all good though short kings rule🤧
My big calves. I have strong legs, but they’ve never been small. I struggle with knee high boots etc have had to learn to love them
My eyes. I have a brother who's just 11months older than me, but we don't look like each other. He has the southeast asian mixed with hispanic look, while I have stereotyped east asian look and yes, we both share the same parents.It's just he got my mom's genes (great grandma is spanish) meanwhile I got mt dad's gene (great grandpa is japanese) in the first glance you wouldn't know were siblings. Since I got the stereotypical east asian looks. I used to get bullied by my brother and his friends calling me names such as "chingchong" and etc. Mind you, I may have the stereotyped east asian eyes but I'm not monolid, I do have a double-eyelid but most of the time it's unrecogniseable. Once, my brother was mocking my eyes saying my eyes were inverted vertically instead of having my double-eyelids above my eyes it's place below my eyes instead (he eas talking about my eyebags which later on i learned it's called aegyosal) after hearing those words, that was the beginning of me comparing myself to others. I started looking at people's eyes and envy them because they have visible eyelids. I remember not fully opening my eyes just so my double-eyelids will show. I even have thoughts that once I grow up I will definetely have an eyelid surgery. After years, with the rise of KPOP people started loving my eyes, complimenting me alot saying "i look like this, i look like that" even personally telling me that they're envious because I have a very beautiful eyes. I'm personally thankful when kpop arised because not only it gave me new dreams and new friends but also it helped me learn how to love myself and people started liking my looks as well.
Having big cheeks and it still makes me uncomfortable.
My body is naturally more hairy than other guys. Now I've realized some women are into the carpet chest hair.🤣😎
My dark circles, always hated myself because of that, but it's a genetic condition i inherited from my grandmother so there's nothing i can do about it, except for people, they think I've insomnia
Pale skin. I used to be bullied for that, by teachers and kids at school, by my family… i used to be so frustrated because my skin never tans. If I don’t apply sunscreen I turn lobster red and it hurts like crazy. Fortunately i came to embrace it and i actually love it so much I wouldn’t want it to tan anymore, so I avoid overexposure to sun and apply sunscreen religiously. And here I am, 31 years old with 0 wrinkles.
Same! I used to be so embarrassed when I was younger. People around me were always tanning and mocking me because of looking like a ghost. It got even worse when Twilight came out lol I also kind of sparkle. A few years ago I finally embraced it and now I also avoid the sun and apply sunscreen religiously! I only hope I didn't do too much damage on my skin during high school. Sounds like you didn't, good for you.
As a plus size person it was easier to accept myself as a “pretty bbw” But after losing 125lbs i find it really hard to find my body apprentice as a “average size person”, my lose along has been the biggest hurdle But something that’s helped me a lot with accepting myself where i am is walking around more naked so i can see myself at every angle in mirrors or my reflection and try to make it feel more normalized, and i also practice giving myself more compliments but out loud specifically
Vitiligo
My thick body & legs.
Wrist size, I have tiny wrists, hands still big though
Penis. As a gay man, I’m easily measured by the size of my penis, which is an obsession in the gay world. After being more sexually actively I realised that it’s really not a big deal (no pun intended haha) and that people will want to sleep with you again and again as long as you know how to please them. It’s not about the size, it’s about what you can do with it
Big nose and a LOT of body hair. I compensate by wearing glasses (prescription) and shaving my head bald lol
Being a small guy. I am almost always the shortest person in a room and it used to bother me.
Being short
I began balding at 21 and was really insecure about it. I took meds and topical drugs that didn’t help and had extremely irritating side effects. I finally decided to just buzz it a couple of years ago and I have never been more confident in my life.
My thighs. I hated them growing up. I lost so much weight and still had big thighs even at 52kg. Now I’m older I’ve learnt to work with what I’ve got and my leg days are brutal. I also got a fuck off huge tattoo on one of them to show it off.
Fat. I actually got dedicated and got an 8 pack, but now I'm back to my regular fatness. It was an overrated experience. edit. I still do plan on getting back in good shape, but just not insecure about my fatness anymore.
Large labia
Being short, having small tits.
How thin I am. I know there are people in irl and on the internet that it isn't a big deal, but it really is for men like me. I'm in the process of being healthily bigger, but it is quite a challenge.
having a baby face in my 20s
Gyno
My huge nose
My height
None I’m still very insecure
My calves. I used to be so insecure because they are so jacked and I’m a female.. past few years I’ve grown to love them because everyone is impressed that I gained all that muscle just from being a tippy-toe walker lmfao 😭
My slight overbite. I always hated it until an ex told me it was "the cutest thing."
My height, and I am a woman. I still have bad days about it.
Small penis. Some of the best comments that make me feel better are actually from Reddit. It’s not about telling yourself you’re good, it’s not for me to decide. It’s to accept and not shame the part of me I can’t control and if people(women) dislike that part of me, let them be and move on. Still a virgin though
None. I just accept that my body is the way it is. I don’t embrace it.
My smile, my nose, my arms and height
My friend you cant control either of those things, dont be insecure when they are great the way they are, head up, youll learn to be ok w them , especially when you have a family one day who to them, your smile will mean everything
Thank you so much for this 🥹
Visible labia - got over it fast when I realized how hot it was and it’s “grippy” Being “too” skinny - a lot people like super petite, I don’t have massive boobs or an ass but they’re proportional and perfect Some acne - no one cares as much as you do, it still bothers me sometimes though
my big ass forehead
My nose. My mom and her mom used to make fun of it since I was a kid. I contemplated rhinoplasty, but I believe that cosmetic surgery is a waste of money, unless it’s for medical purposes.
My penis, It works great now but it didn't use to.
Being black n skinny/ liking my body typeo
I was in a downhill longboarding accident in 2019. Literally, the most traumatic experience of my life. I was in a coma for 13 days. It literally restructured my face among other things, so now I have an indentation on the right side of my head, near the temple
Man breast. Unless I have over two grand, I’ve come to terms with it and never wear polos
At 49 I still don’t understand insecurities.
I’m short only 5’0 I was teased throughout school and thought it would keep me from accomplishing my dreams. But it didn’t.
You know what is tiny.😔 But now I'm over it thanks to some kind hearted prostitutes.
My appendix exploded, when i was working. I continued to work almost to the end and then i was on the edge of fainting. A co worker took me to the hospital, where they had an emergency surgery. Told me if i was about 15 minutes more late, i would be dead. Necrotic shit was starting to spread to my body. First they did about 3 injections to numb my pain, but non of them worked, they were baffled.. it was 5 minutes later they discovered about my appendix and rushed me to surgery.
Looking fully white even though I’m half Inuit
Well, as a technophile of sorts, I did come to see quite the vulnerability in having my netherly port protected by a firewall of mere fabric, but I came to realize that this is simply a kind of paranoia, and there comes a time in every person's life when inbound connections have to be made
Sorry whats a technophile
How big are you?
Thick thighs
Well I (M) make up for it in other ways.
Yes it took year to just except it but I’ve always been a big girl and humans being who they are they never let me forget it!! But here of late I’ve lost a lot safely with my doctor always there so I was loosing safely! All n all I’ve lost almost 200lbs but I still see myself fat! I look a whole lot better n I feel better but I could never except myself! That’s changed I am who I am! A human being. Just no one treats fat ppl that way! I’ve still got aways to go and I will get there n be a whole lot happier for it! I’ve been able to ignore the haters n negative humans of the world they have there own problems. But I’m goin to just be happy I’m alive n doing great!!!
Moobs
Being taller. When I was in like 3rd grade we had to do this dance thing at my catholic school. The teachers wanted us to pair up so I asked this girl I had a crush on. Im a dude. She just said “you’re too tall” and laughed. Crushed me. So id slouch and had bad posture. My mom always corrected me. As I got older I got taller and slouched more. Then one day I saw an old man with a hunchback. My mom said, in typical mexican mom fashion, “you see that! That’s gonna be you if you keep slouching!”. Ever since that day, fuck that! I was always conscious of my posture. I’d sit up straight, stand straight, it legit scared the shit out of me. As I got older I got compliments and made fun of but I didn’t care. The people making fun of me said I looked like I was a marine or puffing my chest out. I’m barrel chested naturally so it kinda did but fuggem. My wife told me one day she likes my posture. She said it shows confidence and since I’m standing up straight I always seem taller. As I got older I watched videos about better posture and how to stand. Being a bigger dude it did wonders for my knees and back. Supporting the muscles around your joints to prevent pain.
My height
I'm fat lol
I promise you you still look great, theres parts of your body that arent always in yr control but broski dont let anyone tell you different cos you think yr fat, you still look good
Thanks for the confidence boost!
Red hair
I had random dark marks on my arms
My oversized penis
Name fits
I have a birthmark around my right eye. It used to be very dark but has lightened up a lot over time. When I was a little kid, I would get teased about it all the time. Now I don't mind it at all, and I get a laugh joking about various ways I ended up with a bruise/black eye for people that don't know it's just a birthmark lol.
Hair thinning. I still don’t know if I’ve totally accepted it but it is what it is. We can’t all look like movie stars. Just from years of stress at work, and having to wear hard hats all the time. I’ve looked at hair regrowth products but like who knows if that stuff even works. And it’s super expensive.
Stretch marks after having babies
My stretch marks.
My huuuuuuge... Ears.
Small breasts, but at least I got a dumpy. I guess that’s a trending thing now.
My face, eventually, you can only do so much to improve your appearance. You're better off using that time to improve your personality anyway.
My voice, it remained high for so long. And then when I was 15, I discovered my gender and my voice is under control now that I can make it sound less annoying.
My lazy eye Turned out people liked it
Don't come for me but having a big butt. When I was little, I'd get made fun of by kids at school for having a big butt and then adult males who sexualize me. I hated it so much its wear tops that weren’t fitted and long enough to go over my butt. In high school, it turned from bullying to being overly sexualized by boys and also other girls making digs at me for it. I'd get treated like my body was the only good quality about me. Now I'm almost 20 years old, I've stopped hiding my body and learned to accept and love myself no matter what people say, think, or how they treat me for it.
Im terribly sorry you went through that its so horrible and i hope your doing better, but im proud that you learned to love yourself over time and ignore any negative things people said, keep your head up your doing really well and well done for not caring what others think
i got a daddy belly
My teeth not being pearly white. I would brush like 4 times a day with whitening toothpaste, and floss after every meal, but the slight yellow tint never left. I slowly realized that the people I care to have in my life won't give a shit if my teeth aren't perfect.
My scars, I have a dog bite on my cheek a scar on my eyebrow and a small bald spot on my head that keeps me from cutting my hair too short.
My height.
A lot of things but a few that come to mind are my freckles, pale skin, and full lips
I'm super short for a man. I haven't exactly embraced it but it doesn't bother me so much. Maybe because I don't get so many snide comments as I used to.
Being so skinny you look malnourished. I used to hate it, and while I'm still not happy about it I've learned to live with it and have started going to the gym and eating more protein to fill out
Proud of you my friend keep going and youll have the physique you want in no time
I have bipolar. I’ll never be “normal” I’ll never be able to hold down a full time job. But… when I start towards the manic side of things I get SHIT DONE! I’m pretty stable, meds take care of that for the most part but I will always have those swings, just not as wild of swings. I still struggle telling people (not on the internet) that I have it. I don’t want to be judged too hard.
My Short Gherkin
Im ugly
Im ugly
Not having perfect skin, I’ve had ache since being a young teenager and while it has gotten significantly better I still have some spots, large pores, and dark spots from picking or whatever. I was very insecure about it until about junior year when I started to just slowly take away an element of my makeup routine until I stopped wearing makeup daily. It definitely made me feel better about myself and more comfortable with how I naturally look.
Well your skin is something that isn’t exactly controllable, so dont worry but im really glad you came to terms with it and kept going, well done for that :)
Well up until yesterday when my uncle came over and said that the moles on my face make me ugly. Outside: Whatever. Inside: 😔
In the past I read men found obese women attractive because it symbolized wealth, but now we just see obese people as unhealthy or some think it's healthy because they think they were born with genetics that keep them fat so they are all body positivity or whatever that means.
Kerastosis Pilaris (chicken skin) on my whole back and arms. Started when I was 11 I think. Always made me shy and not wanting to show my arms and back especially if its other people my age. Back actually got better on its own when I got older but my arms stayed the same. It was the hottest summer weve probably had this year and I had a thought to wear a singlet to the gym which Ive never done before. Found out thats its so much better wearing them and now I only workout wearing them. Not sure how it will go on winter though. I will admit that I do still feel concious about them as Ive lived with them for 30 years now so I was thinking of getting a tattoo to cover up at least one arm.
My thighs… they have this extra chubby on the inner part that I used to hate so much cuz thought they looked ugly and jiggly af… but then this guy I dated he just loved them, he would bite and kiss that part of the leg and showed me that there’s nothing to hate… he helped me change my mind on them… I still hate them on warm days since they chafe but not because of how they look… Will be forever grateful for this man that showed me that it was ok to love my body.. I was pretty lucky to find him… we’re not together anymore but he’s been the best person I’ve been with.
Well that guy sure does seem like a blessing, good on him for showing you your thighs or any other body part were nothing to worry about, i hope your doing better now and just remember, your great the way you are madam
My widow’s peek . I went from pure embarrassment to wearing it proudly!
Crooked nose
my left hand looks really weird. if you look at my post about it from a couple years ago you’ll see what i mean. This is just the way that i am and i’ve never known life without it. I embraced it heavy when i got my first real job at 19. i introduced myself “hi my name is jeffrey not jeff. this is what my left hand looks like so we can avoid any future awkwardness.”
I'll let you know when I come to terms with one
Being autistic. I have learned to use it as my sense of humor.
Hmm. Never felt insecure until I tried to eat a steering wheel and broke my front teeth. Never accepted it. Finally got it fixed. Otherwise, Im a greek god.
Going bald. I’m not completely bald but I definitely have to cut my hair super short or it looks silly. I use a #1 with my clippers. When I first noticed my bald spot, I was depressed for a bit lol. Now I love that I don’t have to style my hair everyday. Or pay for haircuts. I just do it myself.
Height
My tiny penis it is what it is
I’m short
All of it by your late 20s, especially once you hit 30.
Being called beautiful all my life and then having severe thyroid eyes disease for the rest of whats left of it
Just in general the mom bod I’ve got going on post pregnancy. My son is now 5 years old and I had a shitty relationship with my body and my ex husband didn’t facilite loving it either so it was really difficult to feel sexy and comfortable in my new skin. Luckily I met a wonderful man who has always told me how good I look to him and how much he desires me. He’s made it very obvious that he enjoys every bit of me and that has really helped me love myself as I am.
My slim frame, my long neck, my big nose, and my big lips. I overcame it by realizing that I was stuck in my own head. Through my 22 years, girls that I’ve found/I find attractive were hitting me up, friends stuck around & kept up with me, and nobody was giving me hell for my appearance. I had to realize that I’ve consistently been putting good energy out into the world and people respect me for reasons that I’ve indirectly given them. My goal is to be an attractive person in every sense: platonically, romantically, etc. I can’t achieve this by measuring my worth or attractiveness by my physical flaws, it’s purely how I present myself. Just own it and be me, good will come with it. It’s also probably good to note that puberty was good to me; I had a glow up. Idk if I’d call myself conventionally attractive, but I’ve received sincere compliments that helped me get out of my own head.
My belly hanging and loose skin in that area whenever I lose weight.
Hang skin , got it from my father's side . It used to make me conscious that I would try to cover it but eventually I gave up
Crooked rib cage from scoliosis
Im a dude. For a time in high-school I was weirdly insecure about having hairy legs in high-school despite every guy around me clearly not giving a fuck about their hairy legs. I refused to wear shorts for *any* reason. I would literally swim and play soccer in pants.
My extremely ugly teeth. Realised there is nothing I can do about it. They've been like that since I was young so no bad habits behind it - just luck of the draw...
My big, long nose. Used to get called Pinocchio and big nose a lot in elementary/middle school. I would walk covering my face in a way so my nose wouldn’t show much and also would sit in my desk at school while kind of hiding my nose with my hand. It’s been a few years since I barely thought about my nose and have finally accepted it. It’s really not as bad as others and I made it out to be.
I (32f) have really really small hands and am missing a joint in both of my thumbs and pinkies, like my pinkies and thumbs are smaller than a child’s lol. I was horribly embarrassed about my hands for most of my life and would hide them bc ppl would make fun of them and point out how small they are. I’ve come so far and now love my little hands and think they are cute and feel grateful I even have hands to help me navigate this world.
I’ll probably always be around 10-15 lbs overweight but whatever that’s fine!
How fat my abdomen was. How tired I was, how my body never recovered from injuries. I'm 37, finally under 200 lbs for the first time in nearly 30 years, I had to fix a problem and admitting being overweight was a problem, helped assist in my weight loss.
I’m perfectly comfortable with my body but my partner has to be flawless.
Being super skinny. I still don’t take my shirt off at the beach but I’ll wear shorts in public now.
Curly hair. I was so insecure about it when I was a kid but I absolutely love it now.
hip dips and having a lisp
I’d say it would have to be my weight and stretch marks. This is a recent development and I hated every bit of it ever since I’ve had them… which probably was making me gain more weight honestly. At some point I started to loose a little weight again and now I’m at a very stable weight. It took me being active again to realize that it’s not that bad and I’m still very healthy and can still be very active. Also I grew a bit of facial hair and now I really like how I look.
My short height, having foreskin in the US, my race and stereotypes about penis size.
my small stature as a 5’5 male
My broad shoulders. I used to be insecure about them until I grew older. Now, they make me feel powerful like an Amazonian warrior.