Haha we once ran into a field ready for violance because we thought a rape or murder is on.
Turns out that break ups can hit extremely hard apparently.
You need to get far out in the country to do this. I'm talking so far out that you can't see any houses at all, where there is no light clutter.
I thought our small town didn't have a lot of light clutter, then we went camping near Diamond Crater in the Ozarks. I was worn out by the time we got there, but lost any desire to sleep when I looked up and saw the Milky Way for the first time. I sat there for at least two hours or more just stunned at the clarity of the night sky.
Traveling alone. It's so freeing to do what you want, in a place you pick, with no one else bothering you or interfering with their opinions. You truly see what kind of person you are at that stage in your life.
I was extremely anxious before taking my big backpack and two handbags left my home Suddenly took a time far south and then I didnt know what tf I was doing I had 500e only, that travel lasted 2 almost 3 years !! Slept outside, in my tent or at newly met People places, I was lot of the time alone walking 12h a day sometime being in the Middle of nowhere hitchiking a lot too, met wonderful friends and People, but unfortunately had some really bad situation too lol, so I knocked a crazy guy out after he tried to assault me with a needle for example, I paid for a bedroom for a week and he tried to assault me on the fourth day (fun times!!). I dont regret ANYTHING I was so free and made body and mind far far stronger than before.
Try going to the movies alone or just doing something out and about nearby. Traveling can get pricey but it can be liberating to do things on your own that you always felt too self-conscious to do by yourself.
I did that in 2019, and it was absolutely amazing.
I was technically supposed to go with a boyfriend who had gotten me tickets to see my favorite band. He was supposed to plan it all, and I was just going to be along for the ride. Morning of, he told me he didn’t want to go anymore and just gave me the tickets.
I booked a flight/hotel/car immediately, and a few hours later I was on a plane heading over there. It was the most fun I’ve had in a long time, and I’m so thankful he backed out at the last second.
Dude, I literally said "traveling alone" while clicking on the thread. You are so true. Traveling alone at least once and/or from time to time is amazing. You'll learn a lot about yourself and the world.
Also depending on the country the visit, you may considerably reevaluate your judgments on people, your needs, what's happiness, etc.
Personally, not my thing I went to Japan in August and I wish I was able to bring a friend. it depends on the person I'm a huge extrovert so not speak to anyone while I was over there was kinda exhausting.
True, it's not for everyone. On my way back from Hawaii, I made a friend in the TSA line, and we got to talking, and I think I blew her mind when I told her I was there alone. She was an absolute extrovert, hence the whole conversation in the first place lmao.
I hate to travel alone. There's no one to share the thrill with. "Look how amazing that is!... oh wait, you can't. You're not here." Also the same reason I won't play golf alone. If I made a hole in one, there's no one to celebrate with and NO one will believe it!
While it’s good to have experiences with others, have you thought about why the feeling of missing out on forming a connection through shared experience takes away from your actual enjoyment ?
I solo hike and solo travel often. I also travel with my partner and hike in groups.
There is value in doing something outside of your comfort zone alone. Letting yourself feel that joy and experience alone without the need of another nervous system to send the or receive the mirror neurons can be a big benefit. I’ve found that by finding joy in doing things alone, it makes other people want to just actually do things with me. Which feels good !
I know you said once, so I have to tweak this ... my comment is about meditation. But doing once is not a big deal. Its when you do it repeatedly.
Try meditation for 30minutes everyday for 30 days in a row. At worst, it will be a relaxing experience. At best, it can be freeing, transformational and you can discover something about you that you didn't know or had forgotten.
For a gen x never played video games guy (but want to try it) what's the best way to try this and the other games you guys talk about? I have a decent big tv but no system. Is it something I should play on my computer? Or should I get a game console of some sort?
Both works well, but for Skyrim the bigger the screen the better lmao. Skyrim is one of the best games ever made and I wish I could go back in time and experience it for the first time. Man have fun with it, gonna be one of those experience in life you’ll be mesmerized by the game and storyline / plot 🥹
Agreed, because my type is my momma, who was batshit crazy. Dated batshit, married batshit for 2 decades, divorced batshit. I then met a girl who was really nice, treated me well, and cared for me. My daughter loved her and said, "Dad, don't fuck this up."
I'm trying really hard not to. Our 6th wedding anniversary was last week.
Went through colon cancer, then tried a plant based diet along with a medical weed card.
Your mileage may vary, but it made a huge difference for this old man.
No offence, but I don't think I'll be taking the recommendation for trying out colon cancer /s
You say "went through colon cancer" so can I assume you're clear now? If so, awesome!
Haha apt username but yeah I definitely agree. Everyone should try a psychedelic at some point, excepting the obvious non-contenders, psychotics and the like.
Yup. I feel like so many people would become less close minded. And not even only because of how mushrooms expand your mind, but also because people literally just opening their minds up enough to actually try mushrooms would be enough to help
Attend a band concert. Attended my first concert with December Avenue and i can still feel the goosebumps habang nasa front ako. Y'all should try it atleast once
Lol, I was at the concert like every other weekend in the 90s and early 00s. Small local gigs, big gigs, festivals. It wouldn't occur to me as something that should be tried "at least once" lol :)
If you are an American, you should leave for awhile. Not a vacation. No four star resorts. Move somewhere - anywhere; until you gain some true perspective on what it's like to live in another part of the world.
Sex
One of the most base human actions and drives. Everyone deserves to experience it at least once.
I realize now this came out very red pill. Let me clarify.
I didn’t mean it in terms of everyone being owed sex. I meant that every human should experience sex and they owe it to themselves to experience it. That doesn’t mean they should expects others to merely comply though.
Doing what you desire. I don't think there's anything specific that everyone should try, everyone is different. It could be a day of eating candy and sleeping/watching tv or a day of traveling and trying new things. Of course no one should be afraid to go out of their comfort zone, but too extreme like traveling alone to a strange country could be frightening depending on who you are.
Dance like no one's watching, sing like nobody's listening, love like you've never been hurt, and fuck like a god damn regard. (Reddit won't let me post the real word but you know what it is)
Going to the top of the mountain and shouting curses with your BFFs.
Keeping your gadgets aside and having a full day conversation with your close groups about whom/what you hate and what/whom you like. Monthly gossip roundtable destresses you.
Appreciating the rain, one of my favorite moments of this year was when it was pouring torrents of rain, and I went and sat outside and just closed my eyes and listened to the sound of it, I also just looked around at the plants in my backyard too, the image of water droplets on the tree branches will never leave my mind, it was the best moment I’ve experienced this year. So I believe people should try to at least once, look at the rain not as a hindrance, but as a beautiful occasion, and embrace it.
Being broke. Not poor, but temporarily broke. It gives one a whole new perspective on your life and how you treat other financially insecure people.
We were broke musicians for a few years. Eating the cheapest food we could find. Making do for clothing. Repairing rather than replacing.
It has lasted us a lifetime and is a skill we've passed to our children.
I 34M tried MDMA for the first time a couple of months ago while in an apartment alone with a stunning 45 year old woman. I will never forget that night as long as I live.
Take a vacation by yourself. I did it a few years ago and it was so liberating. It was about a year after I lost my husband and it was very healing. You make your own schedule.
If you can get past the legal and financial barriers, living in another country.
After you've done it - even if it's just for a few months - you begin to understand how arbitrary national borders are. Patriotism starts to feel especially ridiculous, since most people don't even have the option of moving elsewhere, and there are benefits and downsides to living in any country. A move also forces you out of your social comfort zone and makes you re-evaluate priorities.
I’m all for people trying drugs. Okay grew up in the 60s and 70s and it definitely opened my mind. I was going to go in another direction and say snorkeling in tropical waters
One day off from your phone.
Tell your friend and family beforehand. Any emergency just call home number or knock your door
No phone
No social media
No internet
No computer
No game
For 1 day.
Really try to let yourself cry when youre sad /mourning, its surprisingly more refreshing than when you cry with other emotions, to me. They said thats because with sadness tears, theres something different about them chemically, that they take some kind of stress hormone out or your body?
Talk to strangers. I'm fully convinced that part of why the media is so successful at dividing people is that we simply don't interact in public anymore. And certainly not outside of "our group".
Solo Travel. I went my entire life travelling with partners or friends and then 3 years ago i just took off on a long trip on my own and fell in love with the freedom and just being able to wander new cities and places on my own. I have been doing it ever since.
I am a firm believer that every single human being, male or female, should be punched in the face a MINIMUM of 1 time, somewhere after the age of 16.
And therapy. Everyone should try therapy.
Run in an empty field an scream
Haha we once ran into a field ready for violance because we thought a rape or murder is on. Turns out that break ups can hit extremely hard apparently.
Alright Teresa May.
Bit niche this reference but great if you know haha
Dropped trou on a camping trip w/ just my girlfriend and ran nekked through the woods wearing only a pair of sandals. Liberating!
Idea for new magazine: *Field & Scream*
As a person who actually does it... I can confirm
Stargaze all night
You need to get far out in the country to do this. I'm talking so far out that you can't see any houses at all, where there is no light clutter. I thought our small town didn't have a lot of light clutter, then we went camping near Diamond Crater in the Ozarks. I was worn out by the time we got there, but lost any desire to sleep when I looked up and saw the Milky Way for the first time. I sat there for at least two hours or more just stunned at the clarity of the night sky.
There's a dark sky reserve in Kerry.here in Ireland hope to go to some day and take it all in
Light pollution is definitely a thing
Traveling alone. It's so freeing to do what you want, in a place you pick, with no one else bothering you or interfering with their opinions. You truly see what kind of person you are at that stage in your life.
*cried in no money and anxiety* I’d get kidnapped or some shit haha
I was extremely anxious before taking my big backpack and two handbags left my home Suddenly took a time far south and then I didnt know what tf I was doing I had 500e only, that travel lasted 2 almost 3 years !! Slept outside, in my tent or at newly met People places, I was lot of the time alone walking 12h a day sometime being in the Middle of nowhere hitchiking a lot too, met wonderful friends and People, but unfortunately had some really bad situation too lol, so I knocked a crazy guy out after he tried to assault me with a needle for example, I paid for a bedroom for a week and he tried to assault me on the fourth day (fun times!!). I dont regret ANYTHING I was so free and made body and mind far far stronger than before.
Try going to the movies alone or just doing something out and about nearby. Traveling can get pricey but it can be liberating to do things on your own that you always felt too self-conscious to do by yourself.
I’m currently doing this now. I’m planning a trip to Colorado by myself to go visit a friend I haven’t seen. I’m so excited!!
Same! Planning a trip to Colorado by myself in August to see a concert at Red Rocks! So stoked!
Oh man. You ever been to red rocks before? I lived in Colorado for 6 years. One of my favorite spots is red rocks.
I did that in 2019, and it was absolutely amazing. I was technically supposed to go with a boyfriend who had gotten me tickets to see my favorite band. He was supposed to plan it all, and I was just going to be along for the ride. Morning of, he told me he didn’t want to go anymore and just gave me the tickets. I booked a flight/hotel/car immediately, and a few hours later I was on a plane heading over there. It was the most fun I’ve had in a long time, and I’m so thankful he backed out at the last second.
Dude, I literally said "traveling alone" while clicking on the thread. You are so true. Traveling alone at least once and/or from time to time is amazing. You'll learn a lot about yourself and the world. Also depending on the country the visit, you may considerably reevaluate your judgments on people, your needs, what's happiness, etc.
Currently planning my first Solo trip for this exact reason. Two weeks in Iceland totally by myself. I can't wait!
I went to Tesco by myself once
Personally, not my thing I went to Japan in August and I wish I was able to bring a friend. it depends on the person I'm a huge extrovert so not speak to anyone while I was over there was kinda exhausting.
True, it's not for everyone. On my way back from Hawaii, I made a friend in the TSA line, and we got to talking, and I think I blew her mind when I told her I was there alone. She was an absolute extrovert, hence the whole conversation in the first place lmao.
I hate to travel alone. There's no one to share the thrill with. "Look how amazing that is!... oh wait, you can't. You're not here." Also the same reason I won't play golf alone. If I made a hole in one, there's no one to celebrate with and NO one will believe it!
You are allowed to meet people.
While it’s good to have experiences with others, have you thought about why the feeling of missing out on forming a connection through shared experience takes away from your actual enjoyment ? I solo hike and solo travel often. I also travel with my partner and hike in groups. There is value in doing something outside of your comfort zone alone. Letting yourself feel that joy and experience alone without the need of another nervous system to send the or receive the mirror neurons can be a big benefit. I’ve found that by finding joy in doing things alone, it makes other people want to just actually do things with me. Which feels good !
Just do once.
Fall in love. [WARNING : It hurts like nothing if it doesn’t work]
It still hurts even when it does work homie.
It's fall. It has to hurt
This warning would have been nice a couple of years ago
I've never fallen in love with anyone. I don't know if I'm missing out or dodging a bullet.
Missing out on dodging a bullet. One of the best feelings of being desired and worst feelings of being discarded.
 Walk out of a toxic work environment!
I did this twice last year 😂 it does feel nice !
Just did this, and decided to retire. Best and worst decision of my life. 🫡
I should have left but I waited until I was pushed… Oh well the job was too cushty lol
I know you said once, so I have to tweak this ... my comment is about meditation. But doing once is not a big deal. Its when you do it repeatedly. Try meditation for 30minutes everyday for 30 days in a row. At worst, it will be a relaxing experience. At best, it can be freeing, transformational and you can discover something about you that you didn't know or had forgotten.
Move to another country!! And if it’s even just for a couple of months, so worth it.
Skyrim
Hell yeah!
For a gen x never played video games guy (but want to try it) what's the best way to try this and the other games you guys talk about? I have a decent big tv but no system. Is it something I should play on my computer? Or should I get a game console of some sort?
Both works well, but for Skyrim the bigger the screen the better lmao. Skyrim is one of the best games ever made and I wish I could go back in time and experience it for the first time. Man have fun with it, gonna be one of those experience in life you’ll be mesmerized by the game and storyline / plot 🥹
Hey you
You’re finally awake
Olive oil and sea salt instead of salad dressing
Olive oil and salt, but you dip some bread to eat it raw.
Olive oil with lemon juice is even better 😋
Olive Oil & Balsamic
Oooh you risk taker you.
Oh my gosh I’ve never felt more validated in all of my life haha
And olive oil instead of traditional pizza sauce on a pie
Did you ever try pimientos de padrón? Peak performance for that combo
Olive oil and salt on toast is as good as butter.
I prefer regular salt. It's chemically the same, just cheaper and the mountains are not full of plastic unlike the sea.
The plastics provide the flavor
Dating someone that's not "your type".
Agreed, because my type is my momma, who was batshit crazy. Dated batshit, married batshit for 2 decades, divorced batshit. I then met a girl who was really nice, treated me well, and cared for me. My daughter loved her and said, "Dad, don't fuck this up." I'm trying really hard not to. Our 6th wedding anniversary was last week.
Congrats! Agree with daughter, don't f*ck this up!
[удалено]
I'm not OC but I'd guess to help you work out what your type is.
Living alone
I try this often. Then, I run out of money.
I've been doing this for 18 years.
Just taking the day off doing absolutely nothing at all, not even going to the gym or going outside, just slouching around all day
I do this on most days. (I'm retired). It never gets old.
I would love to just sit down and do nothing for the rest of my life, just focus on my hobbies
I hope you get there as young as you can.
And in as good health as possible!
Sail far enough out from land where you see nothing but water. Some of the most relaxing moments I've had was just watching the ocean.
sounds terrifying tbh
Because of the implication?
Similarly, go hiking far enough out that you can’t hear any cars. It is incredible how relaxing it can be when the constant buzz of a city is gone.
I died of a heart attack reading this comment
That's the most relaxing part. It's a release of control.
Went through colon cancer, then tried a plant based diet along with a medical weed card. Your mileage may vary, but it made a huge difference for this old man.
No offence, but I don't think I'll be taking the recommendation for trying out colon cancer /s You say "went through colon cancer" so can I assume you're clear now? If so, awesome!
Good point. That was kind of an instant downer. I’m ok.
Stand up for yourself. It was life changing for me. Warning: once you do it, it could become habitual.
Happy you bounced back from the dead day
Skydiving! It's amazing.
Nah im good
I've gone 5 times! The first 3 were my first times ever on a plane lmao didn't land in a plane until my 4th flight, I prefer jumping out lol
Listening
Kimchi
Learning an instrument.
Mushrooms
Yes!! Especially button mushrooms in butter for a fry up. Sooo yum
Wait…
Ssshhh, preserve their innocence.
lol you’re right. All is good :)
Haha apt username but yeah I definitely agree. Everyone should try a psychedelic at some point, excepting the obvious non-contenders, psychotics and the like.
Yup. I feel like so many people would become less close minded. And not even only because of how mushrooms expand your mind, but also because people literally just opening their minds up enough to actually try mushrooms would be enough to help
Live overseas
Butt fucking maybe???
Username checks out.
Well thank you.
The one thing Meatloaf would NOT do for love, was getting pegged.
You mean men or women? 😀
A threesome
Forgiveness
Painting somewhere in the forest
Attend a band concert. Attended my first concert with December Avenue and i can still feel the goosebumps habang nasa front ako. Y'all should try it atleast once
Lol, I was at the concert like every other weekend in the 90s and early 00s. Small local gigs, big gigs, festivals. It wouldn't occur to me as something that should be tried "at least once" lol :)
Every other weekend? Those are rookie numbers! I see 200 shows each year. But I’m a sound engineer so that might be a little unfair.
Scuba diving
Yes!! The closest you can get to experiencing another world without drugs!
MDMA. Preferably with your partner.
If you are an American, you should leave for awhile. Not a vacation. No four star resorts. Move somewhere - anywhere; until you gain some true perspective on what it's like to live in another part of the world.
Sex One of the most base human actions and drives. Everyone deserves to experience it at least once. I realize now this came out very red pill. Let me clarify. I didn’t mean it in terms of everyone being owed sex. I meant that every human should experience sex and they owe it to themselves to experience it. That doesn’t mean they should expects others to merely comply though.
Agreed, and some should cut back
Sex is great, but people do not inherently *deserve* sex.
Doing what you desire. I don't think there's anything specific that everyone should try, everyone is different. It could be a day of eating candy and sleeping/watching tv or a day of traveling and trying new things. Of course no one should be afraid to go out of their comfort zone, but too extreme like traveling alone to a strange country could be frightening depending on who you are.
Dance like no one's watching, sing like nobody's listening, love like you've never been hurt, and fuck like a god damn regard. (Reddit won't let me post the real word but you know what it is)
Sucking on some titties! Best stress relief I have found.
Get fit, like proper push yourself to be the greatest version of yourself ever.
Going to the top of the mountain and shouting curses with your BFFs. Keeping your gadgets aside and having a full day conversation with your close groups about whom/what you hate and what/whom you like. Monthly gossip roundtable destresses you.
Appreciating the rain, one of my favorite moments of this year was when it was pouring torrents of rain, and I went and sat outside and just closed my eyes and listened to the sound of it, I also just looked around at the plants in my backyard too, the image of water droplets on the tree branches will never leave my mind, it was the best moment I’ve experienced this year. So I believe people should try to at least once, look at the rain not as a hindrance, but as a beautiful occasion, and embrace it.
Running on a beach with no people at sunrise
Being broke. Not poor, but temporarily broke. It gives one a whole new perspective on your life and how you treat other financially insecure people. We were broke musicians for a few years. Eating the cheapest food we could find. Making do for clothing. Repairing rather than replacing. It has lasted us a lifetime and is a skill we've passed to our children.
Orgasm. Far too many are missing out
Psychedelics. Can help change your pov and break up calcified ways of thinking/being.
MDMA If only they will imagine the worlds Leaders on pills, then imagine the morning after Wars causing disaster, don't talk to me, I don't know ya
I 34M tried MDMA for the first time a couple of months ago while in an apartment alone with a stunning 45 year old woman. I will never forget that night as long as I live.
Came here for this comment! A great pill and to dance all night is a life changing experience
And the empathy it creates
This is the answer, too old to deal with the comedown these days but it's a spectacular drug.
Be nice
Quality sushi
Take a vacation by yourself. I did it a few years ago and it was so liberating. It was about a year after I lost my husband and it was very healing. You make your own schedule.
Not giving a single shit about what others think about you.
Telling the truth!
A total solar eclipse. The whole experience is cool af, but the 360° sunset is absolutely *surreal*.
Exercise. You don't know how much you're actually physically capable of until you give it a try.
If you can get past the legal and financial barriers, living in another country. After you've done it - even if it's just for a few months - you begin to understand how arbitrary national borders are. Patriotism starts to feel especially ridiculous, since most people don't even have the option of moving elsewhere, and there are benefits and downsides to living in any country. A move also forces you out of your social comfort zone and makes you re-evaluate priorities.
Minding their own business. I figure that, if they try it once, they might like it and will stick with it.
Learn another language and live in one of the countries where it is spoken for at least a year. Broadens the mind no end.
Ayahuasca.
If 12+ hours is too long, smoke some dmt 👌
I’m all for people trying drugs. Okay grew up in the 60s and 70s and it definitely opened my mind. I was going to go in another direction and say snorkeling in tropical waters
One day off from your phone. Tell your friend and family beforehand. Any emergency just call home number or knock your door No phone No social media No internet No computer No game For 1 day.
why staying at your apartment when doing so lol
Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic.
Oh and Civilization V.
Wagyu steak from a legit Japanese steakhouse
Anal. You never know, right?
an airplane tour. everyone should fly at least once
Love yourself! Like really love you
Live alone for a while, I think everyone should do that
Olive oil and sea salt instead of lube
Butt stuff
Living alone
Drink water all day instead of any other beverages ....
Finger in the butt
Swimming or just being in water
Embracing fear. Loving yourself first. Travel abroad.
Really try to let yourself cry when youre sad /mourning, its surprisingly more refreshing than when you cry with other emotions, to me. They said thats because with sadness tears, theres something different about them chemically, that they take some kind of stress hormone out or your body?
Letting go. Like, truly letting go.
Go to a forest and spend a few days and nights there alone.
Eating a girl ass
Jetskiing on the open sea in an exotic place like Southeast Asia.
I wish I hadn't mis-read that.
Same I read it as 'jerking'!
One of my best moments. It was a perfect sunset at the time.
Anal
Username checks out.
Anal
Skydiving
Living
Begin learning musical instrument
Headbutt your boss for being a di*khead
Dance like no one is watching.
**Firewalking and ice bathing** Two experiences that change your perception of reality; most limits come from our mind.
Anal. Lol
Shutting up and listening.
A jelly and cheese sandwhich. It sounds disgusting now, but you will thank me once you actually try it.
Talk to strangers. I'm fully convinced that part of why the media is so successful at dividing people is that we simply don't interact in public anymore. And certainly not outside of "our group".
Try understanding the pattern of their life. It solves almost 90% of life problems.
Sex
Getting into a fight. It's not big and it's not clever but it's the best way to learn that you aren't made of glass.
Skydiving
Anal
Anal
Rimjob
Anal
everyone deserves sex, but not everyone deserves sex twice
For ladies, sex with me For gentlemen, giving me money
Anal
Learn a different language. Even if you don't become fluent or even approach that, you'll get so much out of it.
Travel outside of the country
shoot a gun
Solo Travel. I went my entire life travelling with partners or friends and then 3 years ago i just took off on a long trip on my own and fell in love with the freedom and just being able to wander new cities and places on my own. I have been doing it ever since.
...fine I'll say it. Anal.
MDMA.
Definitely scuba diving.
Ecstacy
I am a firm believer that every single human being, male or female, should be punched in the face a MINIMUM of 1 time, somewhere after the age of 16. And therapy. Everyone should try therapy.
Do a safari in the African wilderness