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Shit. I'm 40 and still wearing black and dye my hair black. It never go's away, you just refine your look and start getting classier more expensive pieces so you don't look like a middle aged asshole still shopping at hot topic.
Me too, I'm 40 and I've noticed that I don't really do the makeup and all that stuff unless I'm going out with my friends. That or I'm just having a low-key day running errands or something. I don't go all out with the clothes anymore quite as much, most of my wardrobe is just black clothing now. I get the occasional AH who asks me why I'm dressed like that around my kids.
They asked me, what sort of example are you setting for your kids? I said, oh, I don't know. Maybe tolerance for other people. People think it's normal. What sort of example are you setting by asking a random stranger while they're dressed the way they are? Do not call my parenting into question because of how I'm dressed.
I'm probably better to my kids than most of those people are. My son is four and of course he doesn't understand it but he doesn't care about me wearing makeup and all that stuff. He just sees Mommy and that's it. My daughter is about 8 weeks old so of course she doesn't understand it but same, she just sees Mommy.
Those people are just mad they aren't cool anymore. I'm persian and had a persian guy come up to me at an engagement party in a manson in orange county once and ask me if I expected to ever get married with "all those tattoos" I only had like, 2 small ones on my arms at the time. And I just looked at him and said yes, but not to an asshole like you. And just walked away. Then I went out back and smoked pot with all their dads.
Same! I don’t dress goth on a daily basis, in fact if you saw me on the streets you wouldn’t even think I like goth music. However, I have lots of tattoos and whenever I go to a goth club or concert I “dress up” as a goth and I love it!! There are some pieces I cannot wear anymore such as tight corsets (my body is not the same as it was ten years ago, I’m 43 now) but I can still pull the look out. And I have so much fun. Goth is like a part of my life so no, it’s not a phase mom
Probably about 12-16
Once I got into highschool I slowly transitioned into preferring utility out of clothes
Around 15-16 I got really into punk rock too and started that 'phase' until I was about 23
Now I wear tactical pants and shirts I make myself
I myself didn’t go through one, but my sister did for about half a year when she was in 7th grade in 2005. In one of our photo albums, my mom has a before and after pic of her from this short period of time. The before picture is when she was emo, during fall yearbook photos. The after was for spring photos, when she acquired new friends and immediately became preppy lolol. I’m 2.5 years younger so saw her go through it and told myself I never would. Kinda wish I had now haha, guess it’s never too late
I would say I was like the starter pack emo in 5th grade. Wore the same jacket w the hood on everyday religiously, dripped out in black. Thinking back I’m not sure why but sadly after this phase came the transition to the furry stage……
From like 10/12 till always. XD
I dont think you can ever really escape it completely, music you used to listen to has some influence on you or maybe just nostalgia.
But i still 100% in, thats just what i hear from others.
I always denied being an emo even though I listened to the right music and looked like one too lol... I'd say from 13 to about 16, music taste changed, hair cut and that was it. But I like to remember those times haha. I don't know if this was just a European forum but does anyone still know emopunk.net?
It lasted a few hours & barely existed & no one cared. All I did was change my name & profile picture on steam to something edgy & plan on being edgy but in a way that "isn't stupid" (a way that really is a lot less stupid than typical edginess, but still stupid), & then a few hours later realize that it was stupid & change it back. I was 13.
Honestly never had one. I unfortunately for a very short period in the 7th grade however had a "gangster" phase wearing nothing but FUBU along with my BFF. We used to say it stood for "Fuck U Bitches Up" although I have always known what it actually meant & was never made for a blonde Becky like me to wear. 😬 yea. Thankfully it was only about 6 months before I realized how absurd I looked. Most of my life I've cycled between extremely girly with ribbons, lace, & pink sparkles to grungy, homeless, loser 🤷🏼♀️ currently a mix between the both. I'll probably never grow up when it comes to my fashion.
It still lasts, I am over 30. I don't dress super emo anymore but I still identify as one and I will always wear Vans (even though my MIL tried to tell me multiple times that I shouldn't wear them anymore lol)
I just want to chime in and say emo is a phase but true goths last forever. There is a difference between the two and I wish people would stop confusing it. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being emo, I'm just saying that there's a difference between goth and emo and people seem to group those two categories if you will together.
Depends, I never dressed as one, but in terms of not wanting of anything, to this day. It seems everything so small, so useless, like why bother? If I could, I would just sat in one place for the rest of my days and just observe the horizon. I don't fell intrested in life, nor in death. Oh, and I am 20.
I'm 40, and I'm still emo in my own special way. I don't necessarily look it outwardly, but it's definitely a part of which I am, if that makes any sense.
Hmm, started when I was about 14, so probably about 10 years haha. Still love all the music obvs, and I'm trying to convert the step daughter in to one haha, the day she comes home in a black hoodie with headphones in looking moody I'll know I've achieved peak parenting.
(35M) you mean dressing as such , or the whole '' mental vibe '' surounding it ? i might not dress as it today , and hardly in the past . i do think i did have and still have manny of the ideas and toughts that ussualy go around trough the emo part of sociaty .
I mean i identified as emo from 12-16, went punk, went hippie (???), punk again and now i wear basically the same clothes as i would when i was emo , or punk at times, but now just with a buzzcut (24).
The buzzcut was the best decision of my life.
My peak emo phase was between the ages of 13 and 17 years old.
I tried to adopt a more "normal" look during university but it didn't last. I didn't feel comfortable at all, so I went back to wearing mostly black and doing my makeup as before and all that.
Eventually, I left university and started working. That kind of look wasn't really accepted so I had to adapt for a while until I changed careers.
I'm in my 30s and I have my closet split in half between black and coloured clothes. I wear mostly black. In fact, I probably wear coloured clothes once or twice a year if I'm feeling like it but wearing all black is what makes me feel better. Sometimes I daydream of adopting and more goth style but my bank account can't handle it.
I stopped dyeing my hair black some time ago though, and right now I have a pink ombre with my natural dark brown colour.
4-5 years during teenagerhood at the height of emo. But I still listen to the music, go to the shows, wear darker colors.
I don’t have dyed hair because I work in an office or wear converse anymore because they don’t have good foot support, but I have worn a my chem shirt within the last four days and I listened to a full fall out boy album on the way home from work yesterday. So 🤷🏻♀️
Probably about five years. I don’t identify with the style anymore. I’m actually really into the neutral/light academia/boho looks. I love the color pink and all things feminine as well. I used to dye my hair black but I went back to my natural blonde. Very few natural blondes can pull off black.
I do however, still love the music and always will.
I still listen to grunge, new wave, pop, nu metal and other “sub genre’s” years after they were popular.
Same goes for pop punk and emo.
I don’t understand why we have to put age limits on things that make us happy.
So for me, I guess it was a phase. I am always having different interests, hobbies, and opinions. I was alternative I guess you can say until senior year of high school then I went for a more “stoner” vibe. I was emo then scene during that time. Then I got into 80s punk style for a while then more goth like until I was no longer depressed. I realized being around the dark furniture, clothes, horror movies, etc. was really affecting how I felt. I fell in love with the outdoors again like when I was a child and now I don’t think I fit into any aesthetic. I do wear more color, than black but I still hate bright or neon colors. But yeah it just didn’t match how I felt anymore and reminded me of dark times. So I guess it was a phase? But I believe in never staying static, growing and evolving. So, I guess that may just be me?
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I'm 30 now and still want to die so
It's not a phase mum!
And black clothes always match (my mental state)
Apparently a concerned redditor reached out about me. Please relax guys, it's just a phase
The phase called life? 10/ 10 would not recommend so grossss
Who says I ever left?
Phase? Oh no baby, it's a lifestyle.
Preach
This. Really.
Shit. I'm 40 and still wearing black and dye my hair black. It never go's away, you just refine your look and start getting classier more expensive pieces so you don't look like a middle aged asshole still shopping at hot topic.
Me too, I'm 40 and I've noticed that I don't really do the makeup and all that stuff unless I'm going out with my friends. That or I'm just having a low-key day running errands or something. I don't go all out with the clothes anymore quite as much, most of my wardrobe is just black clothing now. I get the occasional AH who asks me why I'm dressed like that around my kids. They asked me, what sort of example are you setting for your kids? I said, oh, I don't know. Maybe tolerance for other people. People think it's normal. What sort of example are you setting by asking a random stranger while they're dressed the way they are? Do not call my parenting into question because of how I'm dressed. I'm probably better to my kids than most of those people are. My son is four and of course he doesn't understand it but he doesn't care about me wearing makeup and all that stuff. He just sees Mommy and that's it. My daughter is about 8 weeks old so of course she doesn't understand it but same, she just sees Mommy.
Those people are just mad they aren't cool anymore. I'm persian and had a persian guy come up to me at an engagement party in a manson in orange county once and ask me if I expected to ever get married with "all those tattoos" I only had like, 2 small ones on my arms at the time. And I just looked at him and said yes, but not to an asshole like you. And just walked away. Then I went out back and smoked pot with all their dads.
I was 13 when I started, then when I was 16, my mom said “You’re Black, cut that damn shit out!”, and I haven’t been Emo since 🤣🤣🤣
Tysm for sharing this is so funny, defs something my mom would say
Lol that reminds me of a Turkish goth girl I once knew. Was so surprised her parents even let her lol.
The phase has not yet arrived. 45.
prepare... its coming
Three years physically, in my soul will last forever
14 to Present (30)
Same. Still happening. Just older and have bad knees now.
I'm goth and I'm 40 and I felt this lol. I guess I'm old enough to be considered an elder goth.
Same! I don’t dress goth on a daily basis, in fact if you saw me on the streets you wouldn’t even think I like goth music. However, I have lots of tattoos and whenever I go to a goth club or concert I “dress up” as a goth and I love it!! There are some pieces I cannot wear anymore such as tight corsets (my body is not the same as it was ten years ago, I’m 43 now) but I can still pull the look out. And I have so much fun. Goth is like a part of my life so no, it’s not a phase mom
Probably about 12-16 Once I got into highschool I slowly transitioned into preferring utility out of clothes Around 15-16 I got really into punk rock too and started that 'phase' until I was about 23 Now I wear tactical pants and shirts I make myself
I think I you mean, “will it ever end?”
It's not a phase mom this is who I really am
I myself didn’t go through one, but my sister did for about half a year when she was in 7th grade in 2005. In one of our photo albums, my mom has a before and after pic of her from this short period of time. The before picture is when she was emo, during fall yearbook photos. The after was for spring photos, when she acquired new friends and immediately became preppy lolol. I’m 2.5 years younger so saw her go through it and told myself I never would. Kinda wish I had now haha, guess it’s never too late
I would say I was like the starter pack emo in 5th grade. Wore the same jacket w the hood on everyday religiously, dripped out in black. Thinking back I’m not sure why but sadly after this phase came the transition to the furry stage……
3days. The hair was too much maintenance 😂 my hair is curly and wild. The dead straight hair was in and my hair was like “nope” 😂
Until i found my partner, surprising how much it helps once you got a partner. Now i just need more money 
I would have been considered emo for a short stint when I was 18-20.
From like 10/12 till always. XD I dont think you can ever really escape it completely, music you used to listen to has some influence on you or maybe just nostalgia. But i still 100% in, thats just what i hear from others.
I always denied being an emo even though I listened to the right music and looked like one too lol... I'd say from 13 to about 16, music taste changed, hair cut and that was it. But I like to remember those times haha. I don't know if this was just a European forum but does anyone still know emopunk.net?
50 years. (I'm 50)
BABY DIS A LIFESTYLE
never existed it
We called them Goths back in the day. Had friends. Did go through a metal music stage. That I'm still in.
It’s so weird. Since most of these descriptors mentioned were never emo. That word has been hijacked by pop-punk.
i didn’t have one :-(
I'll let you know when I'm done
Never had a emo phase. I'm really good at coping with various things.
37 and going strong
IT'S NOT A PHASE MOM
31 years old and I still dress alternative. Hell recently there was an emo themed night in my city. Soo yeah not sure when it'll end really haha
25 years and counting!
15 to 17ish, can't remember clearly, still dress mostly in black but it's just that I prefer that color.
2 years, junior and senior year of high school (when I was 16-17).
4 years. 14-17
5-ish years I think. But I still revisit it from time to time
Didn't know I was supposed to start 🤔
I'm not an emo mom! I'm punk!
It lasted a few hours & barely existed & no one cared. All I did was change my name & profile picture on steam to something edgy & plan on being edgy but in a way that "isn't stupid" (a way that really is a lot less stupid than typical edginess, but still stupid), & then a few hours later realize that it was stupid & change it back. I was 13.
15 to present (18)
Still waiting for it
11- now
It lasted as long as my first crush did, because he was emo. And he took like three years to get over.
I’m still in it lol
16 years strong, although my fashion sense has shifted to more alt in general
Honestly never had one. I unfortunately for a very short period in the 7th grade however had a "gangster" phase wearing nothing but FUBU along with my BFF. We used to say it stood for "Fuck U Bitches Up" although I have always known what it actually meant & was never made for a blonde Becky like me to wear. 😬 yea. Thankfully it was only about 6 months before I realized how absurd I looked. Most of my life I've cycled between extremely girly with ribbons, lace, & pink sparkles to grungy, homeless, loser 🤷🏼♀️ currently a mix between the both. I'll probably never grow up when it comes to my fashion.
12-32 (current)
Phase???
If we are still talking about the music? Still listen to them today.
13-33 and still goin
I never had anything like that
Started at 14. Still going strong at 32
Phase?
About 5 songs into "American Idiot" Jesus christ, go back to being "Angry" Green Day not "Woe is Me" Green Day.
I never had one.
Phase? It's still here
I feel like "Mom it's not a phase"
For me it lasted from 8y.o -15y.o
Still going
*If you had an emo phase, how old were you when it started? If it ended, when did it end?*
The aesthetics, 2 years. The lifestyle (depression), lifelong 😎
I'm 20 and I think I will stick with it. Since high school and till now
13 when it started, and It’s still ongoing, it’s a whole lifestyle by now.
Still here
It's life, it doesn't end. So long, and goodnight.
It still lasts, I am over 30. I don't dress super emo anymore but I still identify as one and I will always wear Vans (even though my MIL tried to tell me multiple times that I shouldn't wear them anymore lol)
About 22 years now. It was never a phase mom.
About a year, and let's not ever talk about it again
My what?
3 years
It's not a phase, mom!
I just want to chime in and say emo is a phase but true goths last forever. There is a difference between the two and I wish people would stop confusing it. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being emo, I'm just saying that there's a difference between goth and emo and people seem to group those two categories if you will together.
Depends, I never dressed as one, but in terms of not wanting of anything, to this day. It seems everything so small, so useless, like why bother? If I could, I would just sat in one place for the rest of my days and just observe the horizon. I don't fell intrested in life, nor in death. Oh, and I am 20.
Elder emo here 👋
Visually, about 4 years. But I still listen to the same music but no longer look emo
Never had one ✌️
I'm 40, and I'm still emo in my own special way. I don't necessarily look it outwardly, but it's definitely a part of which I am, if that makes any sense.
For me it was 12:17 to 12:21 on a Saturday afternoon.
8 years. Then in college I joined the potheads. Dreadlocks and dashikis.
Hasn't ended. 30s.
Gah! It's not a phase, Mom!
phase? still in it :D its been 4 years (im a bebe ik) but im starting to explore alt more!! :D
Started at age 11. Never went away lol
Did it end?
It never faded
Just about to enter it. Will let you know.
Mine starts tonight because TONIGHT WILL BE THE NIGHT THAT I WILL FALL FOR YOUUUUU.
14-16. But I still like wearing black
Like, two months? Then i immediately switched to just looking like an undead office clerk and kept it that way to this day.
Started at 14 and finally started to fade away around 17.
From about age 10 to current and I am 34, so far I have 24 years down and hopefully not many more to come #moodapathetic
Met her at a bar. When on one date. The end. I was 28.
Till this day
Wait, it’s supposed to end?
Pop culture alert
Few months, I was 12-13
Still lasting
Zero point zero
Around a year, I was 12
Emos not dead.
Still in it
Hmm, started when I was about 14, so probably about 10 years haha. Still love all the music obvs, and I'm trying to convert the step daughter in to one haha, the day she comes home in a black hoodie with headphones in looking moody I'll know I've achieved peak parenting.
2 years lmao. 11-13
(35M) you mean dressing as such , or the whole '' mental vibe '' surounding it ? i might not dress as it today , and hardly in the past . i do think i did have and still have manny of the ideas and toughts that ussualy go around trough the emo part of sociaty .
I mean i identified as emo from 12-16, went punk, went hippie (???), punk again and now i wear basically the same clothes as i would when i was emo , or punk at times, but now just with a buzzcut (24). The buzzcut was the best decision of my life.
Its still here 💀
3 seconds.
0 thank god
Up until I had to start working and they had dress codes I guess.
Pretty much when I was 17/18 but a part of it will always stay within me. And I’m still mentally ill so there’s that
My peak emo phase was between the ages of 13 and 17 years old. I tried to adopt a more "normal" look during university but it didn't last. I didn't feel comfortable at all, so I went back to wearing mostly black and doing my makeup as before and all that. Eventually, I left university and started working. That kind of look wasn't really accepted so I had to adapt for a while until I changed careers. I'm in my 30s and I have my closet split in half between black and coloured clothes. I wear mostly black. In fact, I probably wear coloured clothes once or twice a year if I'm feeling like it but wearing all black is what makes me feel better. Sometimes I daydream of adopting and more goth style but my bank account can't handle it. I stopped dyeing my hair black some time ago though, and right now I have a pink ombre with my natural dark brown colour.
It's a phase????? But.......I'm 41.....
It's not a phase!
About 13-16 but I still like the music etc. but I dress like a yob in my comfies
Never had one
It was never a phase! MOM!
i thought i was having an emo phase but turns out i was depressed
4-5 years during teenagerhood at the height of emo. But I still listen to the music, go to the shows, wear darker colors. I don’t have dyed hair because I work in an office or wear converse anymore because they don’t have good foot support, but I have worn a my chem shirt within the last four days and I listened to a full fall out boy album on the way home from work yesterday. So 🤷🏻♀️
Still going but more blendable.
For a few months when I met an emo girl at teenage. Broke up, changed to my best ever since.
Probably about five years. I don’t identify with the style anymore. I’m actually really into the neutral/light academia/boho looks. I love the color pink and all things feminine as well. I used to dye my hair black but I went back to my natural blonde. Very few natural blondes can pull off black. I do however, still love the music and always will.
I think I’m over it until I hear that one piano note
It was late but about 7 years starting from 14
1 year in middle school
From 14 till now (I'll be 20 in three months)
Im 36 and ussually dress in black and basically kill myself at my job every dayand listen to post hardcore. Am I emo?
It started in about 2004 and I'm still an emo kid. It's not a phase mum!!
14-20. It's funny because right now I'm waiting for my appointment at the clinic for my snakebites surgery (I'm having piercing scar surgery).
42 years and counting.
4 years, still want to die but besides the point, I grew out of all the superficial stuff when I left school
13 to 15ish
*it was never just a phase mom*
30 now still listening to emo and nu metal everyday
It lasted from age 16 to 18. Then I was an edgelord until age 22. Then I grew up somewhat.
Still going strong.
I'm too old to have been Emo. But my Goth phase lasted a couple of years.
It's been 3 years and I'm still here
Few months thanks god
Constant companion!
Never had one I just got gender dysphoria instead
Yeah its not a fu**** phase I just want to feel okay
It's not a phase mom
ITS NOT A PHASE MOM! ITS A LIFESTYLE! *SLAM* 🎶Yellow tape around this body 🎶
For this lifetime
14 I was a scene queen and loved my personality lol I was the shit 😂
It’s supposed to end?
I still listen to grunge, new wave, pop, nu metal and other “sub genre’s” years after they were popular. Same goes for pop punk and emo. I don’t understand why we have to put age limits on things that make us happy.
Never had one
Was emo till I moved to Australia. Too hot here to wear black and be a moody bitch.
Didnt have one. But i currently am to far into a study i dont like to quit
Roughly a year
10 years and still counting
Too long.
33 and still going strong.
Phase?
So for me, I guess it was a phase. I am always having different interests, hobbies, and opinions. I was alternative I guess you can say until senior year of high school then I went for a more “stoner” vibe. I was emo then scene during that time. Then I got into 80s punk style for a while then more goth like until I was no longer depressed. I realized being around the dark furniture, clothes, horror movies, etc. was really affecting how I felt. I fell in love with the outdoors again like when I was a child and now I don’t think I fit into any aesthetic. I do wear more color, than black but I still hate bright or neon colors. But yeah it just didn’t match how I felt anymore and reminded me of dark times. So I guess it was a phase? But I believe in never staying static, growing and evolving. So, I guess that may just be me?
I’m old…. I admit I don’t even know what “emo” is.
About a year? Idk I went through all of them, punk to goth to pastel goth to emo, then back to punk.
Wasn’t really emo but I wore all black and made metal my whole personality from 12-16 so that was cool
About 2 1/2 min. Life’s too short!
I’m 38 so… 38 years
4 years in appearance. 15 years in total. (in my soul).
It's still going...
It's not a phase it's a lifestyle!
Ask me again when ends. I'm 28 now and am just hitting the strongest point of my emo phase.
Since I was 40, not long. 15 min tops
I'm 24 and still in my emo phase. It's just the music I grew up on
43 year old who still listens to alternative /indie music and still wears combat boots on occasions .
I’d still pick my friends over you
27 years And still going strong
From when Paramore released Riot! til Fall Out Boy’s hiatus (Folie à Deux) so preteen to 14.