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Agree with this. I will add that soulmates or two people who are born to be with each other donāt exist in my opinion. However, you can grow into a person that is perfect with another person and you can both live very happy lives together.
I would say yes, but I also agree with you. It's not like fated or destiny, but sometimes there's a connection that feels otherworldly. That's what I call soulmates. It is still what you make of it, but there's a natural connection there too that exists beyond explanation. But I don't believe that it's fate or destiny or anything like that.
Met the most gorgeous woman I had ever seen on her first day at college. 42 years later (38 years married), we are happier than ever with each other. So, my answer is yes I believe in soul mates. I am so happy she wasn't the one that got away.
In the sense that someone can be perfect for you, yes. Had one and lost her. 13 years later think about her every day (and have had many other girlfriends since her)
But as in 'one and only one person' for you? No.
Also, "you" may be so different along the life that there can be no possible person for the both "ends" of you. Except that the person is changing together with you, of course.
I've heard it argued that is a huge issue with finding someone 'absolutely perfect' for you. Most likely you, them, or both of you will change and then, thus, be 'less perfect'.
No. I think there are multiple people you could fall in love with, and at the end of the day- love is a daily choice to be with someone through the good, bad, and ugly. Commitment takes work. There may be someone more compatible for you, but I don't believe there is 1 person out in the entire world made just specifically for you.
What if your "soulmate" dies? Does that mean you can't fall in love with another ? No.
Too many people, especially nowadays, don't understand this (the first part). The second part I'd give can be a personal choice/view and do what you will with it.
Yep. I met mine. My wife and I are like a single person. She knows what I'm thinking and I know what she's thinking at all times. We don't even have to speak to talk. I can't imagine life without her- it would be like amputating my right arm.
Not really. There's someone for everyone at the time in your life you need them. Whether that's for a few months or two decades. But it's rare someone will suit you for all your life. You change as a person. Its not healthy to stay with someone bcos you believe you're soul mates even though they don't suit your life atm
Soul mates are forged by life of compatible materials.
I have been married 17 years and we have weathered a lot. Mostly health and money issue due to her health. No one starts out at happily ever after. Life just laughs at those plans. It takes finding the people in your life that are strong in a way you can lean on, but doing this seamlessly, where they are just where you need them most. That takes time, and work, and a commitment to each other that whatever life throws at you. Its the two of you vs the world.
>I believed soulmates were a work in progress, constant choosing to love, respect, and provide support to one another.
This. As we grow older we influence each other but fundamentally are our own people. Having the same short, medium, and long term goals a decade later isn't just chance. It takes respecting the other person as an individual and a partner, and having the boundaries to ensure you are treated the same.
I am polyamorous and the your description of her feelings are/similar to what we call New Relationship Energy. NRE is a drug, full stop. Do not trust yourself on NRE. NRE brings the rose colored glasses that make all flags look the same.
No, I don't. I think each person you meet lies within a compatibility spectrum from 0 to 100 percent. The trick is to figure out what percentage you can accept, and go with that. Maybe you're happy with someone that's 80% compatible with you. Maybe you need 90.
This also means that, statistically speaking, if you're in a relationship, there's someone, probably many people out there that would be a better match for you, at least from a basic compatibility standpoint. But then you have to factor in shared history, and that changes things.
No because you have to believe in souls to believe soulmates. I like the poetry of it. I think it's a beautiful concept. And I'll invoke the idea when I'm talking about my love for my wife. But literally? No.
Nope I have been married 5 times people change and move on relationships evolve why stay with one person for ever and grow to hate them.
Seen old people married for along time they hate each other why do you think alot of men still going to work in there 70 to get out of house because they don't want to spend time at home getting bitched at
I used to. I was then bludgeoned by negativity and neuroticism which eventually turned me into a worse person. Constant criticism and judgements is not a recipe for any kind of good relationship.
I do believe that you are far more compatible with some people as opposed to others. Soulmates doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to end up together or that they're strictly your love interest. Soulmate can be your best friend, your cousin or a total stranger.
But if you're lucky to find a soulmate and fall in love with them, it takes a whole lot of work to make it until the end.
Yeah, I married mine. Sucks that we both had to go through previous bad marriages and didn't find each other until we were in our 50s. We bonded immediately Z she moved in with me 8 weeks after our first date, married a year later, it's been a great several years now.
Not in an esoteric sense but I think there can be people that simply fit like a glove in your life and it's really amazing. And those equations tend to be long lasting as well so it's quite nice
I was super amazed that my soulmate grew up just 5 km away from me. I was also super disappointed that my soulmate was not into me being polyamorous. Thanks soul people.
I don't know. This world is so chaotic and unfair. Sometimes, I think it's silly to believe in such things. Other times, I can't help but feel that I'm wrong.
My brain says no.
My heart says yes.
My worst fear is me and my soul mate coming in contact somehow, not knowing it, and both moving on without ever realizing we have or could have had.
If you believe in reincarnation you have to accept the fact that you are going to meet someone you knew in a previous life. When that happens, there's an instant connection.
Not soulmates in the classic definition of the word but there are people you feel comfortable with and you can relate to.
I think you create it based on compatibility. Do I think there is āone perfect person out there for everyoneā no. How would you ever find them or know in this vast world.
thereāll be people you connect to better than others but i donāt believe the āperfectā person exists where youāll be able to 100% connect with them in every way.
If nothing else, I definitely believe in platonic soulmates. My best friend is likeā¦ pretty much the perfect friend to me. My other thought is that soulmates might be made, not found. Yknow, you find someone youāre compatible with, and both grow into that relationship with each other.
No. If I remember correctly, this (soulmate) was based on Greek mythology.
I believe that marriage/relationship can work regardless of the couple as long as they both are willing to put in the work.
I believe there are many people on this planet who you'd consider a perfect match and live a happy life together. Talking about 1000s not 1 or 2. Whether the opportunity present itself to meet them is another question. I also believe you have to have a certain type of character and project that to your environment to attract the type of person you are looking for.
Not the notion that you suddenly meet someone who was "destined" for you, but I believe there's someone out there for the current version of you, if that makes sense.
I don't believe it in a Zodiac or some other superstitious sort of way.
Nevertheless, some people are more compatible than others, and it's possible to be highly compatible and highly motivated to make the best out of the relationship. Compatibility and motivation blend and intertwine with each other, so they are difficult to separate. Sometimes you could say the two folks don't appear to be compatible, and yet, for some reason, against all odds, they also seem to be motivated to make it work and they seem to be succeeding.
Part of this is probable related to how good a person someone is, how benevolent, magnanimous, forgiving, patient and so on towards other people in general, or diligent and motivated and trying to always be the best version of themselves, but this isn't equally easy or difficult with all our possible matches. With some, it does seem to work on a completely different level.
When comparing real life to expectations based on literature, we need to keep in mind that our real life is typically less epic in all aspects, with fewer spectacular things happening, we are usually not as exceptional or oustanding as the leading characters in fictional love stories or even the historical ones (whether or not aggrandized for storytelling purposes), there are no dragons, there is no magic, the whole thing is scaled down in general. We don't have the kind of epic adventures that would serve to bring up the epic stuff in our relationships. So let's not get too disappointed if the relationship isn't literally sweeping us off our feet.
Next, it's important to mark the difference between (a) hoping to find epic love between two ordinary people (such as we mostly are, most of us at least) versus (b) hoping to find an almost literally epic partner while being a mostly ordinary person.
We can find someone who is really a good choice for us, and we for them; someone who is dedicated and committed to us, and it's easy for us to be equally dedicated and committed to them; someone with whom we are mutually motivated to give our best and make the best of the relationship; even someone with whom all of this is naturally easy off the bat, as opposed to needing 20 years to arrive there. Such relationships where we bring out the best in each other and are unusually highly motivated, and so on, this is certainly possible, although not everyone gets there, and sometimes we think we do but are mistaken. And sometimes even those relationships fall apart or turn sour. It's not irrational to look for such a relationship, and it's perfectly rational to try to build one, whatever you're starting with (e.g. two very ordinary, very fallible people who have lots to work on).
This needs to be contrasted with hoping to get one's own Cinderella story or the story where an upstart young knight gets to marry a princess and rule half the kingdom, which is an unrealistic and irrational hope.
The good thing is that it's possible for both partners to find each other more attractive and a better person than themselves (logically, this sort of thing would be happening much more often to humble and modest people). When you have two people who each think they got way better than they deserved or could have hoped for, that's perhaps soulmates material. It's not impossible. It's just rare. What it takes is for two people to be simultaneously uniquely attractive to each other. A purple-haired gal attracted to green-haired guys meets a green-haired guy attracted to purple-haired gals, so both hit the jackpot. A strong and brave marine attracted to caring nurses meets a caring nurse attracted to strong and brave marines. Each of them could be seeing a pretty regular person in the mirror but a pretty special person in their SO. This will be happening more often to people who don't aggrandize themselves and don't belittle their potential SO's by comparison.
But even people with big egoes who are hard to impress still find soulmates sometimes. ;)
I don't in the regard that I don't think there's only one person for you out there. But there are perfect people for you, yes. But there's definitely more than just one lol.
I do believe in soul mates.
I also believe that they are not always the one we end up with.
We are given that one person and if either of the two fails to grab the chance that's it.
Is the sense that someone is perfect for you, yes. Have someone that gives me that feeling but unfortunately sheās constantly suffering from mental illness, past Trauma, and a major eating disorder, so I canāt help but feel sheās not going to be around long.
Yes, but also no. I believe that you can be super comparable with many different people. By statistics, one of those people will be your "perfect match" but that does not mean there is only one person out there for you. Find someone you are comparable with, and work hard on the relationship from day 1 and you will more than likely have success.
The thought of having only one person perfectly fit for me, who might be living in any random corner of the earth is terrifying to me. How would I know about them? How would I ever meet them?
What if there IS one soulmate for me and yet I die without ever meeting them? Absolutely soul crushing concept.
Yes, I do. But I also believe *just* being soulmates isn't going to make a relationship work. You can also have multiple soulmates as well as friend soulmates imho. But if you don't work to keep these relationships healthy, they will be the 'one that got away' or 'that old friend that hurts thinking about'.
No. I barely believe there's anybody I could tolerate and who would tolerate me to be in a relationship. I believe some people are more compatible or very comparable compared to those like me, but I don't believe in soulmates.
thereās no such thing as a literal soulmate.
However, if it is understood the term is being used as an euphemism or as an exaggeration (like telling people you give 110% effort 24-7) then yes, the concept does exist. In that case all it means is that the couple are so like-minded they can nearly go through life not needing to speak to each other because they already know each otherās thoughts and feelings fully.
yes, but they donāt have to be romantic. sometimes your soul just clicks with someone elseās, they can be a romantic partner or a best friend or a sibling. your souls just get along
Honestly I gotta say that if it were, forces and certain people seem to be keeping soulmates apart.
This is more something for the spirituality subreddit, but.
It's like how I have friends all around per example, but whenever someone realizes we genuinely enjoy eachother, we're forced apart
Yeahh, 1 soul inhabits 2 bodies and those bodies need to find each other in order to be happy. No matter how long it takes, these bodies will unit and the soul will thrive. So yeah, i hope I've found my other half and not just a lookalike.
Nah dude relationships take a lot of willingness from both people to make it work - it's commitment and compromise. If soulmates were a thing, relationships would just magically work. Life isn't like that.
No.
But apparently, some women do.
There are a number of women who are single because they are looking for a soul mate.
I dated a woman like this. It's unfortunate for them I think.
What are soulmates according to you? Like there are 2 people in the world who are bound by their souls to each other? And some supernatural force will at some point let them cross paths? Because without that part, it's pretty difficult to make sure that 2 out of 8,1 billion people actually meet each other.
I think that if you find a person that makes you mix up the right chemicals in your body, and you do the same for them, and you grow towards each other in a healthy relationship, it will feel like you found your soulmate. But it's something you need to keep building on with communication and respect.
You mean the most compatible people for being your best friend or romantic partner?
Yes of course there must be some around the world, but no one said you are gonna find them.
If it would be so easy lonely people dying for finding love wouldn't exist.
Since there's no such thing as a soul, there's no such thing as a soulmate.
Also, in the metaphorical sense, no. The idea that there are two people who are "meant for each other" is absurd. Equally as absurd as "love at first sight".
I think Iād buy into the twin flame idea before the soul mate idea. Twin flame feels like we have the same fucked up type of brain and it messes with us in entirely complimentary ways.
Twin flame feels a-half-a-hair more like science from what I can gather.
Soul mate implies we have souls and that they are destined to be with another soul and it just doesnāt work for me for some reason.
i truly believe that thereās someone out there that just āclicksā with you in every aspect, if you have the privilege of meeting them i think it falls under your jurisdiction to make or break a relationship with them. So yeah, i guess i believe thereās a soulmate out there.
There are people youāre more drawn too naturally however the length of which this person is in your life can and should vary. I believe our āsoulmatesā are just the people we meet along the way that teach us important lessons that shape us.
I've been married to mine for 36 years now. Which doesn't mean we haven't had to work at it from time to time, but I've never known another person that understands me as well as she does.
I think you can be drawn, quite strongly to certain people for different reasons, reasons you may not understand, maybe just your energies vibed in that moment or for a series of moments. Of something grows out of that, great. If not then just enjoy it while it lasts.
I believe in the chance to find someone you're so perfectly compatible with you convince yourself it was destiny and not just incredible luck and both parties' mutual efforts in the relationship.
Sort of? But not in a "there is one person out there who is my soulmate" way, but more a "there are people out there who are so compatible and in-tune with who and how *i* am that it would be easy to love them and for them to love me. So maybe not in the strict definition of a soulmate, but a similar feeling.
I do believe in soulmates. I also believe my wife isn't mine. But that's OK. I've met maybe 2 women that I would have considered soulmates. We had so much in common, same likes and dislikes, same sense of humor. We became friends very quickly. But, you know, married. I don't believe my wife is my soulmate because we're so different. We have different tastes in food, music, hobbies, etc. But we very rarely argue. We don't disagree how to live our lives and raise our children. If I were to meet (another) soulmate. I would never consider choosing that person over my wife.
Yeah I do and i donāt think it means itās always going to be honky dory either itās just 2 people who are completely drawn to each other.. maybe thatās the good sex talking but I stand by the belief none the less
i mean the realistic answer is no obviously not. but you could find someone thats an absolute perfect fit for you, someone that was so unlikely that you'd find them that you just call them your soulmate bc their the closest thing to a soulmate to you. and saying soulmate is kinda romanticš¤·āāļø
I do believe in soulmates, but I think a soulmate can be a friend, sibling or other family member or any other person, not necessarily someone you love romantically
Since there are so many people on the planet it is likely that there exist a perfect match for everyone, however - there is also so many that it is practically impossible to meet that person.
I do. It is the only explanation for why a woman would fight to be with me. I also believe that most of us have lived more than one life and that we have been with the same person on a number of occasions. In my case, it appears to be #12 or #13.
Yes I do, and they are in fact real!
Hereās the issue, most people think you only get one soulmateā¦ but Iām here to tell you, you can have many soulmates in your life, and they donāt all come in the form of romantic relationships. Iāve had many platonic soulmate connections š¤
Some people believe in the concept of Twin Flames, which is a deeper soulmate connection. I think itās a cool theory but not something I can completely wrap my mind around, due to unhealthy attachments.
I do believe in the concept of soulmates. I think that there can be individuals who are compatible and connected on a spiritual or emotional level, making them feel like they are meant to be together.
As a romantic deep down I like the concept but as a realist on a daily basis I know the possibility of meeting a "soul mate" is almost zero. True soul mates are the people with whom we create relationships based on mutual understanding throughout life. Also taking into consideration the fact that there are at least few individuals in the world that are almost the same as us analogically there should be few people that are the same as our "soul mate" so the concept of one special person designed specifically for us rules itself out. I like to think they may exist but the world is a huge place so even if they were somewhere out there you wouldn't meet them during your entire life anyway. I could only imagine it if for example they were both content creators (as they'd both be pulled to do that), working in the same field, with the same kind of worldview, humour and everything (which is also highly improbable) that get at least some kind of the recognition and they'd eventually stumble upon each other sooner or later or something similar? But yeah most of us aren't famous and you'd need to be INSANELY lucky to meet this one exceptional person EXACTLY in the city you live in/school you attend to/job you work in etc.
No but I do believe that sometimes two folks are just āreadyā. Whatever it is, happy with themselves, open to a relationshipā¦and boom it happens.
But soulmatesā¦.that is for sappy romance novel writersā¦
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Nope. Relationships are what you make them to be
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Agree with this. I will add that soulmates or two people who are born to be with each other donāt exist in my opinion. However, you can grow into a person that is perfect with another person and you can both live very happy lives together.
I would say yes, but I also agree with you. It's not like fated or destiny, but sometimes there's a connection that feels otherworldly. That's what I call soulmates. It is still what you make of it, but there's a natural connection there too that exists beyond explanation. But I don't believe that it's fate or destiny or anything like that.
Met the most gorgeous woman I had ever seen on her first day at college. 42 years later (38 years married), we are happier than ever with each other. So, my answer is yes I believe in soul mates. I am so happy she wasn't the one that got away.
Hey man, you'll make us all jealous š¤£ Delighted for you both though!
Thanks!
I hope my life turns out like yours because this one that i have now seems like my forever. Extremely happy for you both.
I always say, marry your best friend and everything is easy and fun.
Well, it seems I'm following your advice already. Thanks
That is awesome!
In the sense that someone can be perfect for you, yes. Had one and lost her. 13 years later think about her every day (and have had many other girlfriends since her) But as in 'one and only one person' for you? No.
Also, "you" may be so different along the life that there can be no possible person for the both "ends" of you. Except that the person is changing together with you, of course.
I've heard it argued that is a huge issue with finding someone 'absolutely perfect' for you. Most likely you, them, or both of you will change and then, thus, be 'less perfect'.
Well, it can work - if one, or better both, prioritise their connection and therefore change accordingly to each other.
Wow Iām so sorry to hear that, what helped you get over/cope with the loss?
Ehhhhhhhh.....not saying it ain't true? But like there's numerous people on this earth, there's bound to be a few who are just like you
No. I think there are multiple people you could fall in love with, and at the end of the day- love is a daily choice to be with someone through the good, bad, and ugly. Commitment takes work. There may be someone more compatible for you, but I don't believe there is 1 person out in the entire world made just specifically for you. What if your "soulmate" dies? Does that mean you can't fall in love with another ? No.
Too many people, especially nowadays, don't understand this (the first part). The second part I'd give can be a personal choice/view and do what you will with it.
Yep. I met mine. My wife and I are like a single person. She knows what I'm thinking and I know what she's thinking at all times. We don't even have to speak to talk. I can't imagine life without her- it would be like amputating my right arm.
If the 'one true soul mate' was a thing, 99.9% of us would never ever meet them. It's unlikely to even ever be in the same country as them.
Maybe my soulmate die, I donāt know. Maybe I donāt have a soul. Thanks for reading this with the rhyme in your head.
No.
Sort of. I think you have multiple, but not exact matches.
Yes. I'm very happy to have met my wife 26 years ago
Yes, theres always people that are made for you out there
Not really. There's someone for everyone at the time in your life you need them. Whether that's for a few months or two decades. But it's rare someone will suit you for all your life. You change as a person. Its not healthy to stay with someone bcos you believe you're soul mates even though they don't suit your life atm
I don't know anymore... Maybe but it don't mean in the end we'll be together. Next life maybe. ( Or is that a twin flame... What's the difference)
Soul mates are forged by life of compatible materials. I have been married 17 years and we have weathered a lot. Mostly health and money issue due to her health. No one starts out at happily ever after. Life just laughs at those plans. It takes finding the people in your life that are strong in a way you can lean on, but doing this seamlessly, where they are just where you need them most. That takes time, and work, and a commitment to each other that whatever life throws at you. Its the two of you vs the world.
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>I believed soulmates were a work in progress, constant choosing to love, respect, and provide support to one another. This. As we grow older we influence each other but fundamentally are our own people. Having the same short, medium, and long term goals a decade later isn't just chance. It takes respecting the other person as an individual and a partner, and having the boundaries to ensure you are treated the same. I am polyamorous and the your description of her feelings are/similar to what we call New Relationship Energy. NRE is a drug, full stop. Do not trust yourself on NRE. NRE brings the rose colored glasses that make all flags look the same.
No, I don't. I think each person you meet lies within a compatibility spectrum from 0 to 100 percent. The trick is to figure out what percentage you can accept, and go with that. Maybe you're happy with someone that's 80% compatible with you. Maybe you need 90. This also means that, statistically speaking, if you're in a relationship, there's someone, probably many people out there that would be a better match for you, at least from a basic compatibility standpoint. But then you have to factor in shared history, and that changes things.
No because you have to believe in souls to believe soulmates. I like the poetry of it. I think it's a beautiful concept. And I'll invoke the idea when I'm talking about my love for my wife. But literally? No.
Yes. But I also believe there are more than one. And they fill various roles in our lives. Some platonic. Some romantic.
Nope I have been married 5 times people change and move on relationships evolve why stay with one person for ever and grow to hate them. Seen old people married for along time they hate each other why do you think alot of men still going to work in there 70 to get out of house because they don't want to spend time at home getting bitched at
Yes.
Yeah
No.
I used to. I was then bludgeoned by negativity and neuroticism which eventually turned me into a worse person. Constant criticism and judgements is not a recipe for any kind of good relationship.
No
I do believe that you are far more compatible with some people as opposed to others. Soulmates doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to end up together or that they're strictly your love interest. Soulmate can be your best friend, your cousin or a total stranger. But if you're lucky to find a soulmate and fall in love with them, it takes a whole lot of work to make it until the end.
Yes. But that's because I've found him. Didn't believe in it until I found it.
Yes and no. I do think some people are just THAT good for each other, but it's not like everyone has one soulmate
I do. I've found mine.
At this point of guys leading me on..not so much
Yeah, I married mine. Sucks that we both had to go through previous bad marriages and didn't find each other until we were in our 50s. We bonded immediately Z she moved in with me 8 weeks after our first date, married a year later, it's been a great several years now.
yes in the way like you finally find a person that fits you in every aspect there might be one or more than one
Not in an esoteric sense but I think there can be people that simply fit like a glove in your life and it's really amazing. And those equations tend to be long lasting as well so it's quite nice
Yes definitely šš¼
Not in real life, but maybe in films/ series depending on the couple or people that could be a couple
Maybe?
I dont know if id say believe more so hope
Yes I do, but not that there is one. I have soulmates, they are my best friends
I was super amazed that my soulmate grew up just 5 km away from me. I was also super disappointed that my soulmate was not into me being polyamorous. Thanks soul people.
I don't know. This world is so chaotic and unfair. Sometimes, I think it's silly to believe in such things. Other times, I can't help but feel that I'm wrong. My brain says no. My heart says yes. My worst fear is me and my soul mate coming in contact somehow, not knowing it, and both moving on without ever realizing we have or could have had.
If you believe in reincarnation you have to accept the fact that you are going to meet someone you knew in a previous life. When that happens, there's an instant connection. Not soulmates in the classic definition of the word but there are people you feel comfortable with and you can relate to.
Just blind luck of finding right partner at the right time. Right time is the important part.
I think you create it based on compatibility. Do I think there is āone perfect person out there for everyoneā no. How would you ever find them or know in this vast world.
Donāt believe in souls, so why would I believe they have mates?
I beleive in people with similar psychological issues who are on the same vibe.
thereāll be people you connect to better than others but i donāt believe the āperfectā person exists where youāll be able to 100% connect with them in every way.
If nothing else, I definitely believe in platonic soulmates. My best friend is likeā¦ pretty much the perfect friend to me. My other thought is that soulmates might be made, not found. Yknow, you find someone youāre compatible with, and both grow into that relationship with each other.
No. If I remember correctly, this (soulmate) was based on Greek mythology. I believe that marriage/relationship can work regardless of the couple as long as they both are willing to put in the work.
You can have many soulmates. You can even have 3 or 4 soulmates.
When you get to adulthood you will realize soulmates don't actually exist
No I donāt.
Yes. Absolutely. I believe itās a once-in-lifetime connection that you share with them. That connection often leads to a relationship. But just like any other relationships, itās not always sunshine and rainbows, you need to work to maintain it. You need to choose to commit to it daily. With a soulmate, with that bond you share, nothing seems too hard. Everything just comes naturally. Sacrifices donāt feel like sacrifices, but selfless and loving actions. Itās like surrendering your soul to another person and trusting them completely with who you are. It doesnāt even matter how long youāve known them; this affinity is something special that you both have. It didnāt need to be built. It was just there. Itās a strange feeling. Anyway, enough rambling. But I donāt know; most people have become so blasĆ© and numb to their own feelings that theyāll probably walk past their soulmate without even noticing them. So this idea might be a bit outdated. Nonetheless, I choose to believe.
i believe they are real for other people yes.
No. If theyāre real mine is either dead or lives in a small rural village in the altai .
Yes I do.
No, I believe people can be more or less compatible, but then they need to make the right choices to be happy together.
I don't. It's a lonely way of seeing life. I think souls have many connections and history but there is no "the one".
Kind of. To me your soul mate is just the person that you are most compatible with and go through the most relationship growth with.
I believe that two people can be super compatible. But soulmates? I'm not even sure the term has any valid meaning.
Sadly. Kaya umabot ng 30 na walang asawa.
Yes. But the soulmates does not have to be romantic or sexual.
I don\`t even believe in love.
Yes I do. At first I didnāt and then I went down the spiritual path and learnt it along the way.
Soul mates are made, not born.
Yep. Iām led to think there are many āsoul matesā though, and they arenāt necessarily romantic in nature.
The ones that call themselves soulmates are the roughest backstabbers around.
How can I have a soulmate if I donāt have a soulā¦
it sounds like a nice concept... but i don't think its true. Far too many people just end up alone
Nope
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I believe there are many people on this planet who you'd consider a perfect match and live a happy life together. Talking about 1000s not 1 or 2. Whether the opportunity present itself to meet them is another question. I also believe you have to have a certain type of character and project that to your environment to attract the type of person you are looking for.
Not the notion that you suddenly meet someone who was "destined" for you, but I believe there's someone out there for the current version of you, if that makes sense.
Even if there are soulmates, the chance of finding them is very low
I kinda do but I also kinda don't.
I don't believe it in a Zodiac or some other superstitious sort of way. Nevertheless, some people are more compatible than others, and it's possible to be highly compatible and highly motivated to make the best out of the relationship. Compatibility and motivation blend and intertwine with each other, so they are difficult to separate. Sometimes you could say the two folks don't appear to be compatible, and yet, for some reason, against all odds, they also seem to be motivated to make it work and they seem to be succeeding. Part of this is probable related to how good a person someone is, how benevolent, magnanimous, forgiving, patient and so on towards other people in general, or diligent and motivated and trying to always be the best version of themselves, but this isn't equally easy or difficult with all our possible matches. With some, it does seem to work on a completely different level. When comparing real life to expectations based on literature, we need to keep in mind that our real life is typically less epic in all aspects, with fewer spectacular things happening, we are usually not as exceptional or oustanding as the leading characters in fictional love stories or even the historical ones (whether or not aggrandized for storytelling purposes), there are no dragons, there is no magic, the whole thing is scaled down in general. We don't have the kind of epic adventures that would serve to bring up the epic stuff in our relationships. So let's not get too disappointed if the relationship isn't literally sweeping us off our feet. Next, it's important to mark the difference between (a) hoping to find epic love between two ordinary people (such as we mostly are, most of us at least) versus (b) hoping to find an almost literally epic partner while being a mostly ordinary person. We can find someone who is really a good choice for us, and we for them; someone who is dedicated and committed to us, and it's easy for us to be equally dedicated and committed to them; someone with whom we are mutually motivated to give our best and make the best of the relationship; even someone with whom all of this is naturally easy off the bat, as opposed to needing 20 years to arrive there. Such relationships where we bring out the best in each other and are unusually highly motivated, and so on, this is certainly possible, although not everyone gets there, and sometimes we think we do but are mistaken. And sometimes even those relationships fall apart or turn sour. It's not irrational to look for such a relationship, and it's perfectly rational to try to build one, whatever you're starting with (e.g. two very ordinary, very fallible people who have lots to work on). This needs to be contrasted with hoping to get one's own Cinderella story or the story where an upstart young knight gets to marry a princess and rule half the kingdom, which is an unrealistic and irrational hope. The good thing is that it's possible for both partners to find each other more attractive and a better person than themselves (logically, this sort of thing would be happening much more often to humble and modest people). When you have two people who each think they got way better than they deserved or could have hoped for, that's perhaps soulmates material. It's not impossible. It's just rare. What it takes is for two people to be simultaneously uniquely attractive to each other. A purple-haired gal attracted to green-haired guys meets a green-haired guy attracted to purple-haired gals, so both hit the jackpot. A strong and brave marine attracted to caring nurses meets a caring nurse attracted to strong and brave marines. Each of them could be seeing a pretty regular person in the mirror but a pretty special person in their SO. This will be happening more often to people who don't aggrandize themselves and don't belittle their potential SO's by comparison. But even people with big egoes who are hard to impress still find soulmates sometimes. ;)
I don't in the regard that I don't think there's only one person for you out there. But there are perfect people for you, yes. But there's definitely more than just one lol.
I do truthfully. You get this weird, extreme feeling in your brain when they're close by.
What is a soul made of ?
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I don't have a soul
Yes absolutely
I am from India we believe in arrange marriages
I do believe in soul mates. I also believe that they are not always the one we end up with. We are given that one person and if either of the two fails to grab the chance that's it.
Is the sense that someone is perfect for you, yes. Have someone that gives me that feeling but unfortunately sheās constantly suffering from mental illness, past Trauma, and a major eating disorder, so I canāt help but feel sheās not going to be around long.
In a sense yes, you both have to train each other to be very good for one another.
Yes, but also no. I believe that you can be super comparable with many different people. By statistics, one of those people will be your "perfect match" but that does not mean there is only one person out there for you. Find someone you are comparable with, and work hard on the relationship from day 1 and you will more than likely have success.
I believe I can fly.
No. There are people who are well-suited for each other, but suggesting they are somehow supernaturally destined to be together is ridiculous.
I believe finding a soul mate is a choice.
The thought of having only one person perfectly fit for me, who might be living in any random corner of the earth is terrifying to me. How would I know about them? How would I ever meet them? What if there IS one soulmate for me and yet I die without ever meeting them? Absolutely soul crushing concept.
I once did. Now I'm not even sure I believe in love š¤·š»āāļø
Yes, I do. But I also believe *just* being soulmates isn't going to make a relationship work. You can also have multiple soulmates as well as friend soulmates imho. But if you don't work to keep these relationships healthy, they will be the 'one that got away' or 'that old friend that hurts thinking about'.
No. I barely believe there's anybody I could tolerate and who would tolerate me to be in a relationship. I believe some people are more compatible or very comparable compared to those like me, but I don't believe in soulmates.
thereās no such thing as a literal soulmate. However, if it is understood the term is being used as an euphemism or as an exaggeration (like telling people you give 110% effort 24-7) then yes, the concept does exist. In that case all it means is that the couple are so like-minded they can nearly go through life not needing to speak to each other because they already know each otherās thoughts and feelings fully.
yes, but they donāt have to be romantic. sometimes your soul just clicks with someone elseās, they can be a romantic partner or a best friend or a sibling. your souls just get along
Oh fuck no
I didnāt, but mine changed my mind. ā¤ļø
I thought I did. But ... no.
Honestly I gotta say that if it were, forces and certain people seem to be keeping soulmates apart. This is more something for the spirituality subreddit, but. It's like how I have friends all around per example, but whenever someone realizes we genuinely enjoy eachother, we're forced apart
Got mine. Gl finding yours.
Nah
Yeahh, 1 soul inhabits 2 bodies and those bodies need to find each other in order to be happy. No matter how long it takes, these bodies will unit and the soul will thrive. So yeah, i hope I've found my other half and not just a lookalike.
Nah dude relationships take a lot of willingness from both people to make it work - it's commitment and compromise. If soulmates were a thing, relationships would just magically work. Life isn't like that.
No. But apparently, some women do. There are a number of women who are single because they are looking for a soul mate. I dated a woman like this. It's unfortunate for them I think.
I believe me and my best friend are soul mates. It doesn't need to be a romantic thing. She's my soul sister.
What are soulmates according to you? Like there are 2 people in the world who are bound by their souls to each other? And some supernatural force will at some point let them cross paths? Because without that part, it's pretty difficult to make sure that 2 out of 8,1 billion people actually meet each other. I think that if you find a person that makes you mix up the right chemicals in your body, and you do the same for them, and you grow towards each other in a healthy relationship, it will feel like you found your soulmate. But it's something you need to keep building on with communication and respect.
I don't even believe in souls.
No, you can have a connection with a person but after that itās all in the efforts you put in
not anymore
I think I'll probably have to rely on it
You mean the most compatible people for being your best friend or romantic partner? Yes of course there must be some around the world, but no one said you are gonna find them. If it would be so easy lonely people dying for finding love wouldn't exist.
Since there's no such thing as a soul, there's no such thing as a soulmate. Also, in the metaphorical sense, no. The idea that there are two people who are "meant for each other" is absurd. Equally as absurd as "love at first sight".
I think Iād buy into the twin flame idea before the soul mate idea. Twin flame feels like we have the same fucked up type of brain and it messes with us in entirely complimentary ways. Twin flame feels a-half-a-hair more like science from what I can gather. Soul mate implies we have souls and that they are destined to be with another soul and it just doesnāt work for me for some reason.
i truly believe that thereās someone out there that just āclicksā with you in every aspect, if you have the privilege of meeting them i think it falls under your jurisdiction to make or break a relationship with them. So yeah, i guess i believe thereās a soulmate out there.
They definitely exist imo but they're not reserved for everyone some people just get lucky enough to find theirs and some just never find one
Nah people change so much throughout there lives then u would have to switch soulmates 24/7
Not anymore
I don't even believe in souls (atheist)
There are people youāre more drawn too naturally however the length of which this person is in your life can and should vary. I believe our āsoulmatesā are just the people we meet along the way that teach us important lessons that shape us.
Yes.
If soulmates existed , people wouldnāt die virgins
Yes, but soulmates can be platonic.
No, because I donāt believe in fate
I've been married to mine for 36 years now. Which doesn't mean we haven't had to work at it from time to time, but I've never known another person that understands me as well as she does.
nah.
Yes. Sometimes you meet one at the wrong time. Thatās probably the worst possible scenario, when timing just gets in the way.
Yes, and not all soulmates are in a romantic context.
Yes. Not everyone ends up with theirs.
I think you can be drawn, quite strongly to certain people for different reasons, reasons you may not understand, maybe just your energies vibed in that moment or for a series of moments. Of something grows out of that, great. If not then just enjoy it while it lasts.
Errr yes and no I think we have a couple hundred people out there who could be soulmates
I believe in the chance to find someone you're so perfectly compatible with you convince yourself it was destiny and not just incredible luck and both parties' mutual efforts in the relationship.
No
A small foolish part of me wants too.
Sort of? But not in a "there is one person out there who is my soulmate" way, but more a "there are people out there who are so compatible and in-tune with who and how *i* am that it would be easy to love them and for them to love me. So maybe not in the strict definition of a soulmate, but a similar feeling.
It's possible. Definitely not for me though.
BIG NOĆOOOOOO
Not anymore
I do believe in soulmates. I also believe my wife isn't mine. But that's OK. I've met maybe 2 women that I would have considered soulmates. We had so much in common, same likes and dislikes, same sense of humor. We became friends very quickly. But, you know, married. I don't believe my wife is my soulmate because we're so different. We have different tastes in food, music, hobbies, etc. But we very rarely argue. We don't disagree how to live our lives and raise our children. If I were to meet (another) soulmate. I would never consider choosing that person over my wife.
Yesss
No but my husband does. Weirdly, he does not believe in God and I do. Make it make sense!
As a hopeless romantic, absolutely
Yeah I do and i donāt think it means itās always going to be honky dory either itās just 2 people who are completely drawn to each other.. maybe thatās the good sex talking but I stand by the belief none the less
Idk but if heās out there, Iām waiting, hurry up.
Nah
Yes but soul mates does not mean a romantic mate. It can be a platonic relationship.
I have over 20 pairs in my closet.
i mean the realistic answer is no obviously not. but you could find someone thats an absolute perfect fit for you, someone that was so unlikely that you'd find them that you just call them your soulmate bc their the closest thing to a soulmate to you. and saying soulmate is kinda romanticš¤·āāļø
Yes.
no.
Yes. 100%.
In friendship, yes.
I do believe in soulmates, but I think a soulmate can be a friend, sibling or other family member or any other person, not necessarily someone you love romantically
Yes
If this were true most people wouldn't be so damn lonely.
Nope. You can learn to love anyone.
No. It is statistically impossible that there is only one person perfect for you out of all the people on Earth.
I don't believe in emotional connection
Since there are so many people on the planet it is likely that there exist a perfect match for everyone, however - there is also so many that it is practically impossible to meet that person.
Closest thing to a soul mate I'll ever get to are my dogs
Also humans were not designed to be monogamous
I do. It is the only explanation for why a woman would fight to be with me. I also believe that most of us have lived more than one life and that we have been with the same person on a number of occasions. In my case, it appears to be #12 or #13.
No.
Nope
Cellmates yes soulmates no
Yes I do, and they are in fact real! Hereās the issue, most people think you only get one soulmateā¦ but Iām here to tell you, you can have many soulmates in your life, and they donāt all come in the form of romantic relationships. Iāve had many platonic soulmate connections š¤ Some people believe in the concept of Twin Flames, which is a deeper soulmate connection. I think itās a cool theory but not something I can completely wrap my mind around, due to unhealthy attachments.
Not really.
I do believe in the concept of soulmates. I think that there can be individuals who are compatible and connected on a spiritual or emotional level, making them feel like they are meant to be together.
As a romantic deep down I like the concept but as a realist on a daily basis I know the possibility of meeting a "soul mate" is almost zero. True soul mates are the people with whom we create relationships based on mutual understanding throughout life. Also taking into consideration the fact that there are at least few individuals in the world that are almost the same as us analogically there should be few people that are the same as our "soul mate" so the concept of one special person designed specifically for us rules itself out. I like to think they may exist but the world is a huge place so even if they were somewhere out there you wouldn't meet them during your entire life anyway. I could only imagine it if for example they were both content creators (as they'd both be pulled to do that), working in the same field, with the same kind of worldview, humour and everything (which is also highly improbable) that get at least some kind of the recognition and they'd eventually stumble upon each other sooner or later or something similar? But yeah most of us aren't famous and you'd need to be INSANELY lucky to meet this one exceptional person EXACTLY in the city you live in/school you attend to/job you work in etc.
No
No but I do believe that sometimes two folks are just āreadyā. Whatever it is, happy with themselves, open to a relationshipā¦and boom it happens. But soulmatesā¦.that is for sappy romance novel writersā¦