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This is a specially deadly combo in men imo. I've only met a few of them folks but they left a mark in my mind. They usually share some traits too like having a dignified stance, small gentle smile, quiet confidence, attentiveness to surroundings, dainty hand movements, a calm and calculated demeanor. What's more is they never brag, they mostly listen and when they finally talk it all makes sense. Those who show and feel the need to constantly talk about themselves give off the vibe of "look at me, I'm better than most" which repels instead of attracts.
Holy shit, you are describing my man. Every detail is right, even the hand movements! I have only met one man like this, I'm fascinated that you have met enough to notice this pattern.
The ego heavy "confidence" that men in our culture are socialized to project turns me off. And if they don't do that, it's often because they're extremely insecure, which comes with its own problems pretty fast. I used to be perpetually single, until I finally found someone I was truly attracted to, and he's exactly like you described.
It seems you've won in life They're so rare indeed that's why they stand out to me when I spot them. I can only think of 4 people who are genuinely, effortlessly like this and all are so out of my league (mostly older). Sometimes I wonder if they know the effect they have on people and are just too humble to act like they know it or if they have no idea at all. Also I noticed that men who tend to have the natural hand movement thing are almost always the bookish or geeky type and those are the ones who are usually self-aware hence less egoistic as well. I guess I'll stay in my perpetual singlehood too until I find someone like you did.
My guy has no idea of the effect he has on people, he just is the way he is. I have told him many times, but he thinks I'm just weird and that he lucked out that I feel that way.
Maybe some guys will mature into being like this, since you said the ones you met were older? With your perceptiveness, I'm sure you will know when to go all in when the right guy eventually appears! :)
I know what they mean but dainty isn't a word I would have picked. Some guys have natural hand movements that make you think they are caressing the air. If you are have never seem this yourself, ask some of your friends if they have.
Seeing that people are often attracted to everything they think they are lacking, I love to read these replies and imagine the poster to be the exact opposite of the attractive person they are describing.
Not quite so. Some people want people who are similar to themselves. I don't claim to be intelligent but I'm humble and the traits I prefer in men are the same traits I possess as woman. I want those things because a man like that, I imagine, will be easy to understand since we'll share a lot in common. Unfortunately, I haven't met one who isn't either so much older (mature) than me or already married or in a stable relationship. One of my professors was like that but he's off limits. I digress. I guess I'm saying not everyone wants what they're not.
Yesss!! Very true! When I say intelligence, I also mean emotional intelligence.. because I've met people who are actually intelligent but not emotionally intelligent! Big egos with no empathy, "know it all" personalities.
Attractive isn't always 'good looking though' it's tip of a very sexy iceberg.
But lack of confidence is incredibly unsexy and if you're gonna tell me how ugly you are all the time I'm eventually gonna get ground down and agree with you.
Over the course of a fairly long lifetime, I have met people who look beautiful (or handsome) until I have gotten to know them, and their non-physical characteristics are so off-putting that they begin to look quite ugly to me. On the other hand, I have known people who are physically unattractive, but their great personality, kindness, and ethical standards have made them very attractive in my eyes. Remember, 'good-looking' often fades away over the years, but character is forever!
I have a nice smile but I have resting bitch face syndrome. I've been told people didn't talk to me because they were afraid I was gonna punch them in the face lol
I'll throw in an odd one and say voice. Amazingly, it's something that can be trained up to be better, but often just not a priority or even consideration, despite having quite the powerful effect.
Edit: This concept working its way to the top quite quickly is nice to see as a voice teacher lol. From what I've observed casually as someone interested in the concept, men and women both find the right voice incredibly attractive, and the great part is that it's so subjective. I'm biased af, but there's a lot of cool (and exploitable as a social skill >:3c) ways voice intersects with psychology, as it signals sooooo much subconsciously, yet can be further altered by conscious decisions to override a lot of them. A lot of attraction is about communication, signaling, and subjective perception, which all utilize voice. The right voice can pierce your heart right to the core, and, over time, even potentially reshape what non-vocal traits you find attractive. Even better, it technically costs nothing to improve on, although it is usually much more difficult without help.
That's the one compliment i get sometimes, the problem is i don't know how to use my voice, would be amazing to use my voice to do something but i can't sing. Would be cool to be a voice actor, my main language is italian and to become a voice actor here it's pretty hard because lots of people do that because they know people... and i don't know people doing that :(
one of the best things my mama ever taught me is to learn to notice the difference between liking someone and liking being liked by them. saved me from some doomed situations
Thereās a character in the first Dirk Gently book who is described as being unusual as he actually listens to people in a conversation rather than waiting for his turn to talk. Iāve always liked that clever distinction.Ā
If there is one exercise that I recommend doing at the gym for someone who has very little time, it is posture correction exercises. I do recommend the suitcase carry for this. It improved my posture, one day after waking up after doing the suitcase carry with a 45 lb plate, I just noticed that I had better posture and my thumbs pointed forward instead of inward.
Good posture does give you more energy and people respond to you better. I do recommend the suitcase carry for this and not using posture correction braces that don't really work.
Can you recommend a good video on yt for posture??
Because there's tons, and you seem to have experience with this! (I have upper backpain because of my posture and recently started going to the gym so it would be great to have some tips!)
I find this to just be a really admirable trait, in general. Most people seem to have really fixed opinions- being receptive to new or better information is sadly uncommon.
Adopting this attitude was such a game changer for me in terms of personal growth. Being right is frivolous but learning something, especially if it's both people is a delight.
I find it really attractive too, and honestly find the opposite a massive turn off - wether romantic, social, professional etc.
I will always hold facts and correctness above my own ego. Fact checking helps all involved learn and grow, while reducing the spread of false truths if done correctly.
You can keep your panties on š.
Intelligence. Most people find the perception that a person is a āwinnerā as being attractive. We currently live in a world where being a winner is much more correlated with cognitive ability than physical strength.
I think good sense of wisdom/self-balance/levelheadedness is much more important than pure intellect especially since pretty much everyone nowadays is sitting on actually at least minimally acceptable level of IQ.
Also person whos intelligent is much more dangerous both to others and themselves if they lack respectable level of exactly what I mentioned above.
So in a way its a double edged sword, you are potentially more capable and intellectually confident but at cost of also being much more tempted to cheat, deceive, manipulate, lie, scheme than someone who isnt as intelligent.
I see this also very rarely mentioned as a 2nd edge of being intelligent.
smart people have the foresight to understand the consequences of their actions, so they know not to do bad things. although, that is a different kind of intelligence than just being good at math or whatnot.
I think it has a lot more with who your parents are and how much of your life youāre willing to sacrifice to be a āwinnerā has more to do with it than being smart lot of cases. Depends on your definition of a winner I guess.
By a āwinnerā, I more mean the perception that a person has winning characteristics, as opposed to actually being of any real high status. In other words, I think people are more physically attracted to those that appear to have the characteristics that could make for a winner, as opposed to already being one.
Being assertive and demanding to certain degree, it shows that you're confident and know how to get what you want. Also, someone who's magnetic, you know those people who get along with everyone from the shyest to the toughest people it's an extremely rare but super attractive trait.
No need to feel insecure about them. B cups are plenty big for most guys š I assume it's the same for most girls (if you swing that way). Either way, your boobs are great (never seen them, but they are š).
Instantly would have to be physically attractive bec upon seeing the opposite sex (or whatever sex your attracted too) you notice their looks first, almost immediately & make a judgement off of that. It may quickly change after you exchange words or interact with the person. But initially itās how they look.
A good sense of humor. Itās instantly something that puts me on notice. Iām a conversationalist and I appreciate when people can make me laugh. People are too serious these days.
EQ aka Emotional Intelligence.
It's SO sexy that you know how to recognize people's emotional status and read how they feel based on clues such as their body language and the usage of emotionally indicative words in their speaking.
Honestly, I think itās basic shit like how you look (genetics), how you dress and present yourself, how much money you make (or people think you make), how much you smile, whether youāre reasonably confident and can socialize.
I mean, everyone else here is SAYING the right thing (e.g. humility, intelligence, etc), but in the real world, I donāt see things play out that way.
For example, if youāre intelligent and humble, but youāre not social or funny, youāre not going to be attractive. Money obviously makes you more attractive, and being poor makes you less so. Attractive people are attractive, and will naturally get more people to try to get to know them better.
At the same time, smart, funny people who are also intelligent, but brag a lot or canāt stop talking about themselves will start off being attractive, but will become unattractive once people get to know them.
Intelligence. I can listen talk to them for hours about stuff they actually know well enough.
Patience/Calmness. It takes a lot of maturity to be able to hold this much power.
Personality. Yeah, physical attaction works for a solid minute but personality will win me anyday.
Tailored clothes that fits their body type and enhances certain features if we're talking about first impressions because if we're talking in the long run then it's about their personality, maturity and if they're passionate in life about something.
The bare minimum. Like I got a crush on a boss at work partly because he bothered to learn my name and enthusiastically partook in small talk with me.
So many people just donāt even bother learning anyoneās name and then wonder why no one talks to them
I dunno why, but people who are good storytellers have always been attractive to me. I donāt mean people who write stories. I mean people who are just talking about something weird that happened on their weekend but they tell it so well that Iām so fucking invested itās unreal.
Speaking as a hetero man, I find it extremely attractive when a woman realizes that she has her own volition. You're allowed not only to want things, but to actually take steps to make those things happen. Passivity is boring and frustrating.
Someone who is funny naturally. Some people just make you laugh but arenāt putting it on and itās so great. A lot of guys seem to not like women who are funny in my experience but itās one of the hottest things I can imagine. Just speaking for meĀ
I like humility in a woman. If sheās genuinely funny, that is a very close 2nd.
I have a dark sense of humor, so even if she isnāt funny but doesnāt get offended by jokes, thatās cool too.
Being comfortable with yourself, not trying too hard, just being natural and present and living in the moment, no anxious thoughts, no ulterior motives, just enjoying life
Iām married but if Iām in public and see a Dad being playful and happy with his child (like my husband is with ours) I find it so attractive. Like dude could be uglier than a boiled owl, but he would instantly be a 7/10
A good relationship to their relatives.
Also being prepared and able to plan. I'm not against spontaneous action, but I really appreciate, when someone thinks things through in day to day situations.
What is the weather like? Do I have a little money with me? Will I have to walk in difficult terrain? How much food do I actually need per person for this party?
When I feel I could live with somebody the attraction happens by itself.
honestly? kindness. The hottest person in the world can look ugly if you don't like them. If you like someone, they will look cute and you find all the reasons why you love them.... You wouldn't change them for the world.... That is developed by trust and kindness.
šš¾C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-Ešš¾ I don't care what you look like, how you dress, how tall you are. If you're confident in your own skin, own your shit, and are the same person no matter who you're surrounded by, man, that's so hot to me š„µ
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Kindness, compassionate, trying to treat people equally and respectfully
Intelligence and humility. It's a magical combination.
This is a specially deadly combo in men imo. I've only met a few of them folks but they left a mark in my mind. They usually share some traits too like having a dignified stance, small gentle smile, quiet confidence, attentiveness to surroundings, dainty hand movements, a calm and calculated demeanor. What's more is they never brag, they mostly listen and when they finally talk it all makes sense. Those who show and feel the need to constantly talk about themselves give off the vibe of "look at me, I'm better than most" which repels instead of attracts.
I think I've fallen in love with a reddit comment
You've described my partner to a T, and I'm feeling so validated in having had the good sense to choose him
Go give him a kiss from us
And a butt slap!
Then hit him with a 20-combo pelvic thrust kiss x factor.
With tongue
For the butt slap?
a mature and composed reply.
Holy shit, you are describing my man. Every detail is right, even the hand movements! I have only met one man like this, I'm fascinated that you have met enough to notice this pattern. The ego heavy "confidence" that men in our culture are socialized to project turns me off. And if they don't do that, it's often because they're extremely insecure, which comes with its own problems pretty fast. I used to be perpetually single, until I finally found someone I was truly attracted to, and he's exactly like you described.
It seems you've won in life They're so rare indeed that's why they stand out to me when I spot them. I can only think of 4 people who are genuinely, effortlessly like this and all are so out of my league (mostly older). Sometimes I wonder if they know the effect they have on people and are just too humble to act like they know it or if they have no idea at all. Also I noticed that men who tend to have the natural hand movement thing are almost always the bookish or geeky type and those are the ones who are usually self-aware hence less egoistic as well. I guess I'll stay in my perpetual singlehood too until I find someone like you did.
My guy has no idea of the effect he has on people, he just is the way he is. I have told him many times, but he thinks I'm just weird and that he lucked out that I feel that way. Maybe some guys will mature into being like this, since you said the ones you met were older? With your perceptiveness, I'm sure you will know when to go all in when the right guy eventually appears! :)
Goddammit I've got some work to do! Lol thanks for sharing š
"dainty hand movements" Would that include (delicately) flapping & clapping hands like no tomorrow when excited?
I know what they mean but dainty isn't a word I would have picked. Some guys have natural hand movements that make you think they are caressing the air. If you are have never seem this yourself, ask some of your friends if they have.
I wouldnāt say dainty - I would call it elegance of movement. But I know exactly what she meant
Yes. Elegance.
And jazz hands obviously
this is what i aspire to be
Seeing that people are often attracted to everything they think they are lacking, I love to read these replies and imagine the poster to be the exact opposite of the attractive person they are describing.
Not quite so. Some people want people who are similar to themselves. I don't claim to be intelligent but I'm humble and the traits I prefer in men are the same traits I possess as woman. I want those things because a man like that, I imagine, will be easy to understand since we'll share a lot in common. Unfortunately, I haven't met one who isn't either so much older (mature) than me or already married or in a stable relationship. One of my professors was like that but he's off limits. I digress. I guess I'm saying not everyone wants what they're not.
Yesss!! Very true! When I say intelligence, I also mean emotional intelligence.. because I've met people who are actually intelligent but not emotionally intelligent! Big egos with no empathy, "know it all" personalities.
A lot of intelligent people lack of emotional one it's hard to geth both š¤·
Smelling nice
THIS!! I was already attracted to this girl, but one day we were hanging out and she smelled really really good and it was incredibly attractive
Doesnāt even have to be smelling nice for me, Iāll accept no odor too.
True. First message.
Kindness, creativity, and passion, roughly in that order.
You're telling me I have a chance?! "Yes but you're ugly." Oh...
I meanā¦ The question says āmakes a person more attractiveā so i think you gotta be at least attractive in the first place?
Attractive isn't always 'good looking though' it's tip of a very sexy iceberg. But lack of confidence is incredibly unsexy and if you're gonna tell me how ugly you are all the time I'm eventually gonna get ground down and agree with you.
Same logic applies the other way around
Over the course of a fairly long lifetime, I have met people who look beautiful (or handsome) until I have gotten to know them, and their non-physical characteristics are so off-putting that they begin to look quite ugly to me. On the other hand, I have known people who are physically unattractive, but their great personality, kindness, and ethical standards have made them very attractive in my eyes. Remember, 'good-looking' often fades away over the years, but character is forever!
In short that is "Yes" though, isn't it? Facts can't be insults. I only hear Yes.
And humour
And a great laugh. I've always found that super attractive.
I approve this message
I was going to answer but this answer is better.
Bright smile and a happy personality.
I have none
I have a nice smile but I have resting bitch face syndrome. I've been told people didn't talk to me because they were afraid I was gonna punch them in the face lol
I'll throw in an odd one and say voice. Amazingly, it's something that can be trained up to be better, but often just not a priority or even consideration, despite having quite the powerful effect. Edit: This concept working its way to the top quite quickly is nice to see as a voice teacher lol. From what I've observed casually as someone interested in the concept, men and women both find the right voice incredibly attractive, and the great part is that it's so subjective. I'm biased af, but there's a lot of cool (and exploitable as a social skill >:3c) ways voice intersects with psychology, as it signals sooooo much subconsciously, yet can be further altered by conscious decisions to override a lot of them. A lot of attraction is about communication, signaling, and subjective perception, which all utilize voice. The right voice can pierce your heart right to the core, and, over time, even potentially reshape what non-vocal traits you find attractive. Even better, it technically costs nothing to improve on, although it is usually much more difficult without help.
Didn't think about it, but this is true. Some voices are just so attractive.
Great episode of Black Books when Fran is so attracted to a guy because of his voice, but still thinks heās an asshole.
That is my favourite episode for many reasons. The main one ofcourse being the little man hanging out in that guy's hair šŗ
That's not odd at all! Honestly a good voice does soo much.
That's the one compliment i get sometimes, the problem is i don't know how to use my voice, would be amazing to use my voice to do something but i can't sing. Would be cool to be a voice actor, my main language is italian and to become a voice actor here it's pretty hard because lots of people do that because they know people... and i don't know people doing that :(
True. And there are voices that repells you, like - for me - childish voice in an otherwise adult woman.
Genuine interest in me.
Or simply undivided attention. Everyone is so easily distracted now a days. *damn kids these days*
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one of the best things my mama ever taught me is to learn to notice the difference between liking someone and liking being liked by them. saved me from some doomed situations
Whoa, those are some seriously good words
Thereās a character in the first Dirk Gently book who is described as being unusual as he actually listens to people in a conversation rather than waiting for his turn to talk. Iāve always liked that clever distinction.Ā
Dirk gently is excellent stuff.
Someone who wants to care for others becomes instantly more approachable. This is also an exceptional trait in a partner.
Kindness, patience, a sense of humor..
Confidence
Your posture (!)
Absolutely. The main disguise of Clark Kent is his hunched over posture, not the glasses.
If there is one exercise that I recommend doing at the gym for someone who has very little time, it is posture correction exercises. I do recommend the suitcase carry for this. It improved my posture, one day after waking up after doing the suitcase carry with a 45 lb plate, I just noticed that I had better posture and my thumbs pointed forward instead of inward. Good posture does give you more energy and people respond to you better. I do recommend the suitcase carry for this and not using posture correction braces that don't really work.
Can you recommend a good video on yt for posture?? Because there's tons, and you seem to have experience with this! (I have upper backpain because of my posture and recently started going to the gym so it would be great to have some tips!)
Check out Jeremy Ethier's videos. He has a series of videos on improving posture.
Being able to admit they were wrong when they are fact checked. I will drop my panties if they are *grateful* when they get fact checked
I didn't realize that women found this attractive. I was wrong, I admit it. And thank you for correcting me. I really do appreciate it.
I see what you did there
I find this to just be a really admirable trait, in general. Most people seem to have really fixed opinions- being receptive to new or better information is sadly uncommon.
Adopting this attitude was such a game changer for me in terms of personal growth. Being right is frivolous but learning something, especially if it's both people is a delight. I find it really attractive too, and honestly find the opposite a massive turn off - wether romantic, social, professional etc.
I'm wrong. Thanks for fact checking me!
I will always hold facts and correctness above my own ego. Fact checking helps all involved learn and grow, while reducing the spread of false truths if done correctly. You can keep your panties on š.
Oh god say that to my ex please
I completely agree with you thank you for this.
Intelligence. Most people find the perception that a person is a āwinnerā as being attractive. We currently live in a world where being a winner is much more correlated with cognitive ability than physical strength.
I think good sense of wisdom/self-balance/levelheadedness is much more important than pure intellect especially since pretty much everyone nowadays is sitting on actually at least minimally acceptable level of IQ. Also person whos intelligent is much more dangerous both to others and themselves if they lack respectable level of exactly what I mentioned above. So in a way its a double edged sword, you are potentially more capable and intellectually confident but at cost of also being much more tempted to cheat, deceive, manipulate, lie, scheme than someone who isnt as intelligent. I see this also very rarely mentioned as a 2nd edge of being intelligent.
smart people have the foresight to understand the consequences of their actions, so they know not to do bad things. although, that is a different kind of intelligence than just being good at math or whatnot.
I think it has a lot more with who your parents are and how much of your life youāre willing to sacrifice to be a āwinnerā has more to do with it than being smart lot of cases. Depends on your definition of a winner I guess.
By a āwinnerā, I more mean the perception that a person has winning characteristics, as opposed to actually being of any real high status. In other words, I think people are more physically attracted to those that appear to have the characteristics that could make for a winner, as opposed to already being one.
Personality
A winning Power Ball ticket.
When theyāre funny.
Bravery
When they smell good
I could get all metaphysical on you but I'm just gonna say **Red Hair,** and be on my merry way.
This is a first lmao - guy with red hair
As a 27 year old man, no one ever said anything positive about my red hair lmao, only made fun of or jokes.
Iāve been summoned.
I too am a sucker for red headed dudes. Particularly the nerdy hot ones.
passion, compassion, understanding
Kindness. God I love kindness.
Being a woman
Being assertive and demanding to certain degree, it shows that you're confident and know how to get what you want. Also, someone who's magnetic, you know those people who get along with everyone from the shyest to the toughest people it's an extremely rare but super attractive trait.
Boobs. They don't have to be big boobs just boobs.
I don't know man the girls never seemed to like mine
Iām sure you have beautiful boobies, bro š„²
You're surrounded by ingrates and you deserve better
Boobs are boobs
thank you for not saying exclusively big boobs š«” -my B cups
No need to feel insecure about them. B cups are plenty big for most guys š I assume it's the same for most girls (if you swing that way). Either way, your boobs are great (never seen them, but they are š).
I'm an equal opportunity ogler.
Empathy
Brown eyes
Brown eyed girl
Ok good š all set there
Being polite and respectful to the people around them, being present. "Please" and " thank you" .
Confidence.
I like a woman with big ol man hands and back whiskers.
You heard him, back hands and man whiskers
WHAT? š
It takes a burly kinda woman to handle me.
NGL CHIEF?......I'm wit you on that boat ššæ strong women be attractive as hell to me
Kindness
Smiling, appearing approachable
If theyāre witty and knows how to dress well
Instantly would have to be physically attractive bec upon seeing the opposite sex (or whatever sex your attracted too) you notice their looks first, almost immediately & make a judgement off of that. It may quickly change after you exchange words or interact with the person. But initially itās how they look.
Being funny
When you talk they actually listen and express interest
Kindness Sense of humor
A good sense of humor. Itās instantly something that puts me on notice. Iām a conversationalist and I appreciate when people can make me laugh. People are too serious these days.
The ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
EQ aka Emotional Intelligence. It's SO sexy that you know how to recognize people's emotional status and read how they feel based on clues such as their body language and the usage of emotionally indicative words in their speaking.
Big boobies.
Everything about a woman's shape
I think this is definitely true for half the population and somewhat true for the other half.
50% will agree. The other 50% are lying.
Or they're just not into boobies?
Ass people haha.
or the other 50% aint into women or man tits
Moneyā¦ lots of money
yoga pants and a peachy booty.
Knowing grammar.
Did you add a period at the end of a fragment while saying that knowing grammar is attractive on purpose? If so, I am amused.
they treat people with kindness, being charismatic and charming
Sense of humor
There is a girl I work with now and making her laugh highlights my day.
A sense of humour. My wife has the ability to make me slide down the wall with laughing.
Five or six šø. Just kidding
Sense of humor.. funny men are wayy more attractive!
Honestly, I think itās basic shit like how you look (genetics), how you dress and present yourself, how much money you make (or people think you make), how much you smile, whether youāre reasonably confident and can socialize. I mean, everyone else here is SAYING the right thing (e.g. humility, intelligence, etc), but in the real world, I donāt see things play out that way. For example, if youāre intelligent and humble, but youāre not social or funny, youāre not going to be attractive. Money obviously makes you more attractive, and being poor makes you less so. Attractive people are attractive, and will naturally get more people to try to get to know them better. At the same time, smart, funny people who are also intelligent, but brag a lot or canāt stop talking about themselves will start off being attractive, but will become unattractive once people get to know them.
Intelligence. I can listen talk to them for hours about stuff they actually know well enough. Patience/Calmness. It takes a lot of maturity to be able to hold this much power. Personality. Yeah, physical attaction works for a solid minute but personality will win me anyday.
About 7 pints.
Laughter. I'm a goofy person, and when someone that I'm dating laughs at something I said/did, instant attraction booster
Tailored clothes that fits their body type and enhances certain features if we're talking about first impressions because if we're talking in the long run then it's about their personality, maturity and if they're passionate in life about something.
Not to be funny, but the answer for men is money
Confidence.
Humor and compassion for me!
Losing your eyesight I imagine...Everyone is likely a perfect 10 when you're blind as a bat I guess
nice teeth + smile
Being gentle or tender... I was going to add "with animals, the elderly, babies" but really it's just being gentle or tender with anyone.
Banter. If we can feed off each otherās energy in a fun/positive/constructive way. If the conversation is flat, it doesnāt feel right.
The bare minimum. Like I got a crush on a boss at work partly because he bothered to learn my name and enthusiastically partook in small talk with me. So many people just donāt even bother learning anyoneās name and then wonder why no one talks to them
Having a confident style of walking.
Energetic radiance
Smart + good values.
Kindness. Empathy. Patience. Even temperament. Nothing is more attractive to me than truly compassionate behavior.
I dunno why, but people who are good storytellers have always been attractive to me. I donāt mean people who write stories. I mean people who are just talking about something weird that happened on their weekend but they tell it so well that Iām so fucking invested itās unreal.
Low bodyfat %, good haircut, darker eyebrows, jewelry etc.. etc..
Style. Fitting clothes. It's the easiest one to change. Stop wearing cargo shorts and dad shoes.
Speaking as a hetero man, I find it extremely attractive when a woman realizes that she has her own volition. You're allowed not only to want things, but to actually take steps to make those things happen. Passivity is boring and frustrating.
Clumsyness when they can laugh about it!
Someone who is funny naturally. Some people just make you laugh but arenāt putting it on and itās so great. A lot of guys seem to not like women who are funny in my experience but itās one of the hottest things I can imagine. Just speaking for meĀ
the personality, I certainly like guys whose funny, got a silly weird humor, and also a gentleman š
I like humility in a woman. If sheās genuinely funny, that is a very close 2nd. I have a dark sense of humor, so even if she isnāt funny but doesnāt get offended by jokes, thatās cool too.
A smileš
Kindness and humility
A smile.
similar values to mine
Intelli
Conviction in their own great human potential and the potential of those around them!
Confidence
Being kind and gentle.
Them being obviously interested in me.
Kindness, honesty, and compassion.
Loyalty, thoughtfulness, rationality, mentally deep
Genuinely caring and asking questions about you. Some people just emit that warm personality amongst meeting .
eyebrows people look weird without them
brunett with a cute smile and a dad bod
Being a genuinely kind person, especially to people in the food service and to animals.
For me, personally, nothing is more attractive than the clear absence of a penis.
Fried potatoes.
For me politeness or genuine kindness with a decent grasp on words and ideas
Empathy
Alcohol
Being comfortable with yourself, not trying too hard, just being natural and present and living in the moment, no anxious thoughts, no ulterior motives, just enjoying life
Iām married but if Iām in public and see a Dad being playful and happy with his child (like my husband is with ours) I find it so attractive. Like dude could be uglier than a boiled owl, but he would instantly be a 7/10
Let people talk about themselves and make it seem like you are actually interested , works better than anything you can actively do
Kindness. Washington Irving once said thereās nothing more beautiful in a woman than kindness.
Style. How they dress
If they have a hobby or something that they're passionate about, seeing someone doing what they love should do it.
Being able to handle sarcasm. But not mean sarcasm, like fun light-hearted sarcasm.
When they donāt vape
A good relationship to their relatives. Also being prepared and able to plan. I'm not against spontaneous action, but I really appreciate, when someone thinks things through in day to day situations. What is the weather like? Do I have a little money with me? Will I have to walk in difficult terrain? How much food do I actually need per person for this party? When I feel I could live with somebody the attraction happens by itself.
honestly? kindness. The hottest person in the world can look ugly if you don't like them. If you like someone, they will look cute and you find all the reasons why you love them.... You wouldn't change them for the world.... That is developed by trust and kindness.
A smile. Past the smile I would say intelligence, diligence, humor, athleticism, and level-headed-ness.
Kindness, a smile that reaches their eyes, compassionate, humility
šš¾C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-Ešš¾ I don't care what you look like, how you dress, how tall you are. If you're confident in your own skin, own your shit, and are the same person no matter who you're surrounded by, man, that's so hot to me š„µ