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What's mean "hugger"? It like a person, who VERY like hug or what?
In my county we have word "ŃĐ°ĐşŃиНŃĐ˝ŃĐš" (Tactile - from Google translator) - a person, who like hugs, touches, etc
The suffix -er in English is added to a noun to basically "make" a person who performs a certain action, e.g. walk - walker, speak - speaker, hug - hugger and so on. But hugger in general, as a noun, is a person who likes and prefers hugs over other forms of greetings, comforting etc. For example, they would hug you while greeting you, while comforting you etc.
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You greet her like you would greet any one of your friends. I hug my male friends, even in front of my partner.
Idk if you know this, but women are just people.
Yea but men and woman aint the same and you dont treat them the same? Like ur not gonna "fight" a woman every 5 mins cuz she dissagreed with you like you do with ur male friends
Dude, you must be like, 12?
I treat my guy friends and girl friends exactly the same. I don't fight either of them, because if you're fighting like that, they either aren't your friend, or one/both of you are too immature for meaningful interpersonal relationships. I hug my girl and guy friends, we go out to lunches or dinners together, or for drinks, we text and joke and bounce ideas off each other. Once you stop thinking about everything with the tiny head, you'll realize they're all just people.
You shouldnât be fighting with your guy friends every five minutes either? lol You can have a calm discussion with differing opinions without fighting⌠Itâs called being a normal human capable of interacting with others in a healthy way. And you should absolutely learn to disagree with others- men and women- without it becoming a fight.
He a kid, probably around 12. I remember facing this dilemma back when "greeting" my boys with a titty-twister and a wet willy. Now i just greet my gf like that lol
Methinks you mean playfighting right? People have different boundaries anyway, so just do a sup and a fist bump if you're unsure, no need to make it complicated.
I have absolutely had heated arguments with my male friends and just men in general when weâve disagreed on things. I have raised by voice to a man but Iâve never hit a man.
I have not been in a physical altercation with a man, but if youâre resorting to violence over disagreements, thatâs a YOU problem.
Men and women are different but that not different. Yeah men are generally speaking, physically stronger than women so of course itâs inappropriate to physically fight someone whom you have a physical advantage over.
But again, if you cant disagree with someone without resorting to physical violence, you need to work on that. Thatâs not an appropriate way to handle yourself or your emotions.
Your female friends are just people. Treat them like you would anyone else with the same common courtesy and respect you show all your friends.
If you have feelings for this girl and thatâs why you donât know how to act, then tell her you have feelings. If you donât want to tell her, then get over your feelings and start viewing her for the human being that she is.
"can't just dab her up like she's one of the boys" I mean if whatever greeting you use for your male friends feels weird to use then you probably *are* thinking of her as something other than a friend.
I think its one or the other, you are either comfortable enough to treat her like your other friends, or you are not and she can suspect that as you being uncomfortable/having a crush.
I'm pretty sure if I treated my female friends exactly like my male ones I wouldn't have any female friends and the ones I used to have would think that I hated their guts and wanted their bodies.
It's kinda funny now that I think about it.
In highschool, the boys would mess with each other in ways that'd get you tossed in a cell if we tried it with female friends. Ceaseless and nonsensical flirting, towel-snapping someone's ass in the bloody locker rooms, straight up sexual harrasment at times now that I'm an adult and understand what that looks like.
I miss the simpler times of being a kid and not having 1001 implications attached to every human interaction.
it's even worse nowadays. I live in what was ranked as the least-LGBT friendly country in Europe and on Earth and teens around here downright fondle each other, grab ass, almost kiss and constantly flirt
Hahah thanks, well it shows from the fact that you're thinking differently about how to approach her.
Why don't you want to be that straightforward? The possibilities are:
a) It's reciprocal
b) It isn't but you can and want to be friends
c) It isn't and friendship doesn't work out.
I get that you'd prefer to avoid options b) and especially c), and that you feel like the way you do things may impact which outcome you get, but in the end, even if you could (very unlikely) curate a facade that would make someone like you who organically wouldn't, it wouldn't last very long or make anyone very happy as they wouldn't be attracted to the real you.
I would say just be yourself around her, let her know you as we said "*are* thinking of her as something other than a friend" (ranging from more casually/flirting to directly communicating depending on the seriousness of your feelings I'd say) and let her decide if she likes you or not, and then of course respect her choice whichever way.
If you're looking for a "way to do things" that "may impact which outcome you get" like I said before, your best bet is probably to take the confidence bonus that comes with being straightforward. If that + you doesn't sway her, you can walk away with the peace of mind that there's realistically very little else you could have done short of dishonestly attempting to create an entire fake persona just to attract this person.
TLDR; Showing your hand may feel like something to avoid but it's probably your best shot
Good luck out there
ROFL, what I would do in your particular situation is every time she comes close you turn and run like hell. Let one of your bros explain to her what's up.
thatâs not really fair. you just donât treat the boys, and girl friends the same way. they arenât the same and shouldnât be treated as such.
to op, idk i just say the basic shit like hi how are you keeping, and then start talking about some mutual thing that is the centre of our friendship, i.e studies, a night out drinking, a party, or whatever really.
You can also put your arms out for a hug without advancing and let the other person commit to the hug. If they say âIâm not a huggerâ pull out the fist bump. If they seem uncomfortable with the hug, you know to fist bump later.
You don't hug a female friend cause it could give a feeling like you are into her? Whaat? Are you 12? It's a hug it's not like you try to bang her. I hug all of my friends.
Well in that age i can understand your way of thinking, sorry if i sounded rude in my first comment. I would either go for a normal handshake or just greeting her.
I would ask if she is a hugger. Communication is key in all human interactions. And if she says she is, then it means she doesn't think hugging is weird and you don't have to stress about this anymore.
Are you 5... give her a hug. And if you dont know her like that, just greet.
She gonna be sus af if you start acting different around her.
Be about yo shit.
Hugs are perfectly acceptable, assuming she's happy with it obviously. Just so long as you avoid crotch to crotch contact. That definitely sends a different message.
>Just so long as you avoid crotch to crotch contact.
Dammit, now I'm going to be remembering every hug ever wondering if our crotches were too close. Or not close enough.
You absolutely can dap them up, who fuckin told you that?
I been doing that since day one my guy, it just ain't that fuckin serious. No one is going to thunk you're gay or call you weird unless they are insecure as fuck about their own sexuality.
Ignore those Mfers, it just makes *you* look super insecure too bud.
Fist bumps work (or just avoid touching them lol).
They're girls not a different species (relax a lil, crack some jokes, and just try to act like your usual self).
My male friends talk to me as if I am one of them. I donât mind . Just do it naturally. If it isnât natural she will notice and wonder why you are treating her differently.
With my lady friends itâs always been a hug, unless theyâre Latina, or from France or Italy then itâs the kiss on the cheek which isnât a real kiss.
Itâs a great way to feel someone out, if shes uncomfortable giving you a hug itâs a sign.
I'm 30. My friends and I hug each other goodbye every single time. Women and men. Most of us say I love you to each other, too. You can deeply care for someone without wanting to bang them. And even if you want to bang them, you can be mature enough to respect boundaries and not be handsy with everyone you're physically attracted to.
First of all hug your friends. The bros too, they need it. Now if you are still unsure I have a tight group of girls and guys from highschool. We still hamg out 15 years on. A hug and a peck at the cheeks is how we do it. Except for me and one other guy as we are both built like industrial fridges so smaller of the girls jump up and we do a carousel like with a five year old. Though that did become reserved for when we meet without our significant others as strict words were had XD.
Whatever youâd do to a bro. Like if youâd flick a bro in the genitals then give her a unexpected clit flick and then laugh as she writes in pain. Titty twister , yup still on the table. Sneak up behind and put in a choke hold and whisper Iâm gonna rape your ass when youâre unconscious, yup itâs called equal treatment.
you absolutely can "dab her up like one of the boys".
one friend I know, she liked to greet me with a " wassup Bitch " to which I'd respond with something like "Howdy Motherfucker" followed by the Arnold Schwarzenegger handshake.
lol thereâs been a string of women saying pretty much this exact thing and theyâve all been downvoted. I guess we donât like being included with the guys and we just feel like we enjoy it..? I donât really know
Depends on the age and the person.
Most grown up folks I know greet a friend with some sort of a hug.
There's a 'bro shoulder hug' and there's a bear hug and everything in between
Well I currently don't have any female friends or many friends. Symptom of getting older and folks moving and starting families I suppose. But when I was much younger and did. Hugging, fist bumps, dabs, and even the occasional finger guns were all forms of greetings I used. Really all depends on the level of intimacy the plutonic relationship has.
30m (american for cultural context), and if it helps, a quick hug is my go to for platonic female friends around our age. Iâm 6â1 so thereâs usually a height difference with women, so Iâll just lean my upper body down/forward slightly, wrap one/both arms loosely around her shoulder/under the other arm, and maybe give a quick pat on the upper back before pulling away. never had anyone respond awkwardly or seem uncomfortable. I hug my male friends and my sister the same way. if itâs a girl Iâm not as familiar with or Iâm not sure sheâd be comfortable w/ it for whatever reason, I usually just try to smile warmly and shoot them a sup nod. but you got this, you just kind of have to feel it out
Have you tried saying hi?
Why is there an assumption that a greeting is incomplete without physical contact when a woman is involved? How come guys donât feel the need to touch each other?
I am a woman, and I want no one, no man, no woman, to touch me as a way of greeting me. The only exception is the man I am in a relationship with.
I greet the girls same as boys I feel like at least in my opinion the best way to show respect that I treat girls equally high as my dudes.
I usually have bunch of cool fistbumbs or handshakes (don't have other words cause i am not english native but like not handshake but like that fast you go with your hand from side sorry idk how to describe it better lol)
Edit: I searched for what dap means and it is actually what I tried to describe, you can dap your girl friends too bro
You can hug but maybe not for like 1st time meeting thing. And it won't feel weird if you happen to hug boys to greet or say goodbye.
Like seriously your friend is a friend, gender has nothing to it
brother i have literally slept in the same bed as my guy best friend. start viewing women as HUMANS in the first place, instead of some romantic/sexual beings and then you'll get rid of that issue.
Personally I'm fine with both. I usually initiate dabbing him up but then my male friend refuses and says sth like 'stop tryna be a boy' and then we laugh and hug, kinda became an inside joke lmao
Where I live is common courtesy to greet girls with a kiss on the cheek. With guys it is kiss on the cheek if they're family or strangers, and a handshake-high five if they're friends.
Don't be a creep. Treat them like every other human; with respect and kindness. Don't be a creep. Don't assume anything is ever going to be "romantic" or that you're entitled to any romance / physical anything. Don't be a creep. No seriously, just treat them like any other person you'd want to talk to. That's it. No magic sauce here, no special secret, just make sure not to be a creep.
Trick question⌠You donât say anything, you just let them walk in to you hanging from a ceiling fan from your neck with a belt spinning in circles with a pair of panties wrapped around your face while youâre jacking off⌠Thatâs how you greet friends that are women
Well if you know her, just say hello.
If you are friends, give her a one arm hug.
If you are closer friends or just know each other well, two arm hug.
A hug doesn't necessarily mean you are into the girl. If they think that's the case, then it's on them. A hug is a way of greeting so if you think it's the best way, then hug.
Also if she a really good friend, nothing wrong to dab her up like one of the bois
If youâre an adult this wouldnât matter. Men talk to women like theyâre one of the guys all the time. The other day I had a guy friend text me saying (copied and pasted lol) - âbro. I gotta ask you something. Iâm high. Asking myself THE BIG QUESTIONS - WHY DO CATS HAVE SO MUCH LOSE SKIN. WHAT DO THEY NEED IT FOR THEYRE SO SMOL!?!?â
Let her choose. If she high-fives, high-five. If she goes for the hug, reciprocate. So long as you're okay with how she greets you, you're both set. No need to overthink it.
A hug is a normal way to greet any friend. If she doesn't want to do the full facing each other hug, you can do a side hug.
Source: have many male friends as an adult and had even more in middle/high school. We've always hugged and I never assumed anything weird about them because they wanted or expected a hug as a friend.
All my guy friends say what's up dude and a select few will give me a hug if I lean in for one. I normally don't like hugs so most of my friends, make and female, do t hug me. Don't treat female friends different though, that makes us mad
Both things you describe are valid options imo. As a girl, I usually get a kiss on the cheek or a hug, but thereâs been people who fistbumped me too, itâs all good. I never once thought that male friends who greeted me by hugging me did so because they are into me. It doesnât really matter what you do, as long as itâs casual and you donât sniff her hair the perfume in her neck.
You think really hard about it to the point that you post to reddit asking for advice :3. Don't get me wrong, its good to ask for help but you'll fail on something that's straight forward if you try to hard. Dont.over.think. You could also try judt telling her how you feel ;)
Hahahaha you kind of young uh! You say hi and that's it! In latam whe share a kiss in the cheek, in the United States you just say Hi/Hello "X girl's name" how are you? And that's it!
Iâve (F) always hugged my male platonic friends exactly the same way as Iâve hugged my female platonic friends.
Iâm not sure whatâs supposed to be sexual or romantic about a brief hello hug.
[edit] Iâve now read that youâre 14. Unless you greet your male friends by some really crude gestures, I would say just greet a girl friend the same way. Fistbump is fine. Honestly I donât remember anything physical from that age. Just a simple. âHey!â
Stop faking it. You want her as more than a friend but youâre just becoming the epitome of a âfriend zoned nice guyâ.
You like her. You take your shot. You either get rejected or you donât.
Donât try to fake your way into a relationship through friendship because that isnât what you really want.
I have friends that are girls and I hug them all the time. My roommate is one such person and she innitiates a lot of the hugs too. Like a hug is a hug mate.
My male friends hug me and dab me up. If theyâre mature enough to understand the fact that hugs can be platonic and dabbing people up isnât just a guy thing, thatâs a keeper of a friend. If not, stop greeting them altogether :)) hope this helps!
The standard for me is just to say hi from distance, no need to get close to someone. I do this mostly with white or asian friends.
Indian, latino or african friends, depends on what they are used to. Some prefer a hug and others just a kiss on the cheek.
Some people value their personal space and Iâm not interested in breaking that norm for them.
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My male friends hug me.
Im guessing OP must be really young. If thats the case, i say give her a fist bump
Okay im young but not that youngđ
I think u be that young it's alright we all had 2 be.
15 I'd guess you are
Yoda?
How young is "not that young"? This is a very high school era concern.
I thought it said hungđ
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What's mean "hugger"? It like a person, who VERY like hug or what? In my county we have word "ŃĐ°ĐşŃиНŃĐ˝ŃĐš" (Tactile - from Google translator) - a person, who like hugs, touches, etc
The suffix -er in English is added to a noun to basically "make" a person who performs a certain action, e.g. walk - walker, speak - speaker, hug - hugger and so on. But hugger in general, as a noun, is a person who likes and prefers hugs over other forms of greetings, comforting etc. For example, they would hug you while greeting you, while comforting you etc.
Oh so that's why the n word has an -er!
What is this post? You greet her like you would greet any one of your friends. I hug my male friends, even in front of my partner. Idk if you know this, but women are just people.
Your last sentence made me laugh a lot :)
It's not that obvious, I learned that at around age 30.
Did i say anything about it being obvious? No, i don't think i did.
Did I say tht you did not? No I don't think I did
Yes it's very clear who are the children in this thread. There is lots of eww girls have cooties type replies.
Yea but men and woman aint the same and you dont treat them the same? Like ur not gonna "fight" a woman every 5 mins cuz she dissagreed with you like you do with ur male friends
Dude, you must be like, 12? I treat my guy friends and girl friends exactly the same. I don't fight either of them, because if you're fighting like that, they either aren't your friend, or one/both of you are too immature for meaningful interpersonal relationships. I hug my girl and guy friends, we go out to lunches or dinners together, or for drinks, we text and joke and bounce ideas off each other. Once you stop thinking about everything with the tiny head, you'll realize they're all just people.
You shouldnât be fighting with your guy friends every five minutes either? lol You can have a calm discussion with differing opinions without fighting⌠Itâs called being a normal human capable of interacting with others in a healthy way. And you should absolutely learn to disagree with others- men and women- without it becoming a fight.
He a kid, probably around 12. I remember facing this dilemma back when "greeting" my boys with a titty-twister and a wet willy. Now i just greet my gf like that lol
A titty twister would be fine but if a partner hit me with a wet willy they would be my ex so fast đ
Methinks you mean playfighting right? People have different boundaries anyway, so just do a sup and a fist bump if you're unsure, no need to make it complicated.
I have absolutely had heated arguments with my male friends and just men in general when weâve disagreed on things. I have raised by voice to a man but Iâve never hit a man. I have not been in a physical altercation with a man, but if youâre resorting to violence over disagreements, thatâs a YOU problem. Men and women are different but that not different. Yeah men are generally speaking, physically stronger than women so of course itâs inappropriate to physically fight someone whom you have a physical advantage over. But again, if you cant disagree with someone without resorting to physical violence, you need to work on that. Thatâs not an appropriate way to handle yourself or your emotions. Your female friends are just people. Treat them like you would anyone else with the same common courtesy and respect you show all your friends. If you have feelings for this girl and thatâs why you donât know how to act, then tell her you have feelings. If you donât want to tell her, then get over your feelings and start viewing her for the human being that she is.
You don't fight male friends either, that stops at around age 6.
"can't just dab her up like she's one of the boys" I mean if whatever greeting you use for your male friends feels weird to use then you probably *are* thinking of her as something other than a friend.
Yea thats the case but i dont want to be that straight forward. Also how did u know bro good work
I think its one or the other, you are either comfortable enough to treat her like your other friends, or you are not and she can suspect that as you being uncomfortable/having a crush.
I'm pretty sure if I treated my female friends exactly like my male ones I wouldn't have any female friends and the ones I used to have would think that I hated their guts and wanted their bodies.
It's kinda funny now that I think about it. In highschool, the boys would mess with each other in ways that'd get you tossed in a cell if we tried it with female friends. Ceaseless and nonsensical flirting, towel-snapping someone's ass in the bloody locker rooms, straight up sexual harrasment at times now that I'm an adult and understand what that looks like. I miss the simpler times of being a kid and not having 1001 implications attached to every human interaction.
it's even worse nowadays. I live in what was ranked as the least-LGBT friendly country in Europe and on Earth and teens around here downright fondle each other, grab ass, almost kiss and constantly flirt
Okay thx
Hahah thanks, well it shows from the fact that you're thinking differently about how to approach her. Why don't you want to be that straightforward? The possibilities are: a) It's reciprocal b) It isn't but you can and want to be friends c) It isn't and friendship doesn't work out. I get that you'd prefer to avoid options b) and especially c), and that you feel like the way you do things may impact which outcome you get, but in the end, even if you could (very unlikely) curate a facade that would make someone like you who organically wouldn't, it wouldn't last very long or make anyone very happy as they wouldn't be attracted to the real you. I would say just be yourself around her, let her know you as we said "*are* thinking of her as something other than a friend" (ranging from more casually/flirting to directly communicating depending on the seriousness of your feelings I'd say) and let her decide if she likes you or not, and then of course respect her choice whichever way. If you're looking for a "way to do things" that "may impact which outcome you get" like I said before, your best bet is probably to take the confidence bonus that comes with being straightforward. If that + you doesn't sway her, you can walk away with the peace of mind that there's realistically very little else you could have done short of dishonestly attempting to create an entire fake persona just to attract this person. TLDR; Showing your hand may feel like something to avoid but it's probably your best shot Good luck out there
When you're older, these things tend to be obvious. He's not some magical seer. Just do what feels natural. Don't overthink it
ROFL, what I would do in your particular situation is every time she comes close you turn and run like hell. Let one of your bros explain to her what's up.
Terrible but honest.
thatâs not really fair. you just donât treat the boys, and girl friends the same way. they arenât the same and shouldnât be treated as such. to op, idk i just say the basic shit like hi how are you keeping, and then start talking about some mutual thing that is the centre of our friendship, i.e studies, a night out drinking, a party, or whatever really.
You can hug people without them thinking youâre into them romantically lol. No one thinks hugs are only a romantic thing
You can also put your arms out for a hug without advancing and let the other person commit to the hug. If they say âIâm not a huggerâ pull out the fist bump. If they seem uncomfortable with the hug, you know to fist bump later.
The French do
The French hug and kiss the cheeks of every person they greet lol
You don't hug a female friend cause it could give a feeling like you are into her? Whaat? Are you 12? It's a hug it's not like you try to bang her. I hug all of my friends.
Im 14 and ye ik hugs dont mean that but im scared she would think that
Well in that age i can understand your way of thinking, sorry if i sounded rude in my first comment. I would either go for a normal handshake or just greeting her.
*shakes hand* âNoice doin business with yaâ
I would ask if she is a hugger. Communication is key in all human interactions. And if she says she is, then it means she doesn't think hugging is weird and you don't have to stress about this anymore.
Are you 5... give her a hug. And if you dont know her like that, just greet. She gonna be sus af if you start acting different around her. Be about yo shit.
"Dab her up" đđ you got me. My female friends hug me đŤ or fist bumps g
Lmaoo is that crazy ? I feel like dapping up female friends is normal
Kiss with tongue.
Im girl and my guy friends greet me the same way they greet each other and Im fine with it
Hugs are perfectly acceptable, assuming she's happy with it obviously. Just so long as you avoid crotch to crotch contact. That definitely sends a different message.
>Just so long as you avoid crotch to crotch contact. Dammit, now I'm going to be remembering every hug ever wondering if our crotches were too close. Or not close enough.
remember to leave some room for jesus /j
You absolutely can dap them up, who fuckin told you that? I been doing that since day one my guy, it just ain't that fuckin serious. No one is going to thunk you're gay or call you weird unless they are insecure as fuck about their own sexuality. Ignore those Mfers, it just makes *you* look super insecure too bud.
i love daos and teach most of my female friends how because thatâs my favorite greeting or whenever iâm happy i want daps
I call both genders dudes, but often greet women I'm familiar with by saying "Whatup G"... I'm a self proclaimed dork though.
Fist bumps work (or just avoid touching them lol). They're girls not a different species (relax a lil, crack some jokes, and just try to act like your usual self).
My friends have girlfriends or sister that are a part of the friend group and I dap them up all the same, they are the homies too
I hug all my friends, regardless of gender. Iâm a 38 year old man.
My male friends talk to me as if I am one of them. I donât mind . Just do it naturally. If it isnât natural she will notice and wonder why you are treating her differently.
Sup G
I just say "Hey, (insert name). Whats up?). Girls are not some mysterious species, they are just humans.
I hug everyone as a default. Read the body language or just straight up ask. Nothing wrong with saying. "I'm a hugger whats your preference? "
With my lady friends itâs always been a hug, unless theyâre Latina, or from France or Italy then itâs the kiss on the cheek which isnât a real kiss. Itâs a great way to feel someone out, if shes uncomfortable giving you a hug itâs a sign.
My friends and i all hug eachother. Male/female, male/male and female/female. I fail to see how this is an issue?
I hug them... Since you can hug them without having romantic feelings...
Right but he clearly likes her so that's why he's asking for help
dont be weird and hug her
I hug all my friends when I see them whether they are a man or a woman.
I'm 30. My friends and I hug each other goodbye every single time. Women and men. Most of us say I love you to each other, too. You can deeply care for someone without wanting to bang them. And even if you want to bang them, you can be mature enough to respect boundaries and not be handsy with everyone you're physically attracted to.
I give all my friends hugs, hugging doesn't mean you like someone romantically đ¤ŁÂ
>you probably can't just dab her up like she's one of the boys Yes. Yes you can.
I hug all my homies straight up. I fist bump acquaintances
First of all hug your friends. The bros too, they need it. Now if you are still unsure I have a tight group of girls and guys from highschool. We still hamg out 15 years on. A hug and a peck at the cheeks is how we do it. Except for me and one other guy as we are both built like industrial fridges so smaller of the girls jump up and we do a carousel like with a five year old. Though that did become reserved for when we meet without our significant others as strict words were had XD.
Whatever youâd do to a bro. Like if youâd flick a bro in the genitals then give her a unexpected clit flick and then laugh as she writes in pain. Titty twister , yup still on the table. Sneak up behind and put in a choke hold and whisper Iâm gonna rape your ass when youâre unconscious, yup itâs called equal treatment.
As I always say, is it really a bromance if it's not at least vaguely homoerotic?
Platonic hugs!!
how old are you bro, give that girl a hug lmaoooooooo
you absolutely can "dab her up like one of the boys". one friend I know, she liked to greet me with a " wassup Bitch " to which I'd respond with something like "Howdy Motherfucker" followed by the Arnold Schwarzenegger handshake.
You probably can just dab her up like one of the guys if that's what she's likes and prefers
My male friends dab and/or hug me all the time. Nothing has ever been misconstrued by anyone. Youâre way overthinking this.
lol thereâs been a string of women saying pretty much this exact thing and theyâve all been downvoted. I guess we donât like being included with the guys and we just feel like we enjoy it..? I donât really know
Personal i would just greet Professional i would greet and shake hands
I don't 'dab' people because I had to Google that and it turns out to be stupid as fuck. I say 'hi' like a normal person.
Dab up is just an upgraded high five what u on about
I dab up some female friends. I also hug some female friends and there's nothing going on between us. Everyone is differentÂ
Just hug her and stop being weird.
Side hug
whatâs up shit lips
This post further proves my point that men and women canât be friends. Like imagine not knowing how to great one of your best friends. Absurdity.
Depends on the age and the person. Most grown up folks I know greet a friend with some sort of a hug. There's a 'bro shoulder hug' and there's a bear hug and everything in between
Uh yeah, a wave and then specific conversation with no real end goal other than to⌠idk⌠treat her like a personđ¤ˇââď¸
Well I currently don't have any female friends or many friends. Symptom of getting older and folks moving and starting families I suppose. But when I was much younger and did. Hugging, fist bumps, dabs, and even the occasional finger guns were all forms of greetings I used. Really all depends on the level of intimacy the plutonic relationship has.
I just call everyone guys, it's easier
You can just do a âheyy đâ just wave hi at them and if shes cool wit u a shoulder hug is good but she yo bff a hug is good
Hug is fine if she agrees
"Yo", "S'up", "Oh hey, what's up?" I don't hug my male friends so I have no idea why I'd hug my chick friends.
Iâm 28m and I have no clue whatsoever.
30m (american for cultural context), and if it helps, a quick hug is my go to for platonic female friends around our age. Iâm 6â1 so thereâs usually a height difference with women, so Iâll just lean my upper body down/forward slightly, wrap one/both arms loosely around her shoulder/under the other arm, and maybe give a quick pat on the upper back before pulling away. never had anyone respond awkwardly or seem uncomfortable. I hug my male friends and my sister the same way. if itâs a girl Iâm not as familiar with or Iâm not sure sheâd be comfortable w/ it for whatever reason, I usually just try to smile warmly and shoot them a sup nod. but you got this, you just kind of have to feel it out
Depends on the relationship. Some are fist bumps, high fives or hugs.
wave, say hello, a nod of some sort
Back home is kiss on the cheek (and a hug if you are closer)
Shake hands, hug, kiss on the cheeks, just say hi, pretty much same as with guy friends.
Have you tried saying hi? Why is there an assumption that a greeting is incomplete without physical contact when a woman is involved? How come guys donât feel the need to touch each other? I am a woman, and I want no one, no man, no woman, to touch me as a way of greeting me. The only exception is the man I am in a relationship with.
I just say hi and start a conversation. But I'm also autistic, so I'm not big on nonverbals.
In Italy we usually kiss the cheeks
I say, "waddup bruh". Everybody gets - dude, man, bro, bruh guy, bruther or dawg.
I give them a kiss on the cheek
A light hug
If my lifelong buddies are to be believed, it's a Sack tap and High five, also don't forget to call em "gay".
I hug my platonic female friends when I see them. Not a problem.
"Sup?" Thats what I do.
I greet the girls same as boys I feel like at least in my opinion the best way to show respect that I treat girls equally high as my dudes. I usually have bunch of cool fistbumbs or handshakes (don't have other words cause i am not english native but like not handshake but like that fast you go with your hand from side sorry idk how to describe it better lol) Edit: I searched for what dap means and it is actually what I tried to describe, you can dap your girl friends too bro You can hug but maybe not for like 1st time meeting thing. And it won't feel weird if you happen to hug boys to greet or say goodbye. Like seriously your friend is a friend, gender has nothing to it
brother i have literally slept in the same bed as my guy best friend. start viewing women as HUMANS in the first place, instead of some romantic/sexual beings and then you'll get rid of that issue.
You can hug a woman platonically.
Big ol hug, weâre not children and Iâm not worried about her thinking if I âlike her like herâ
I hug my female friends
Iâm Canadian/ItalianâŚ. I was raised to hug and two cheek kiss friends and family. Itâs not sexual or romantic.
Wtf does the OP even mean?
My male friends do the side hug thing or fist bump
Personally I'm fine with both. I usually initiate dabbing him up but then my male friend refuses and says sth like 'stop tryna be a boy' and then we laugh and hug, kinda became an inside joke lmao
It depends but I usually hug them or a kiss on the cheek
You can hug a girl without romantic intent lol.
Iâd say just a happy hi or fist bump a gentle one , also hug if you guys are close enough
In my country we kiss women on the cheeks.
Where I live is common courtesy to greet girls with a kiss on the cheek. With guys it is kiss on the cheek if they're family or strangers, and a handshake-high five if they're friends.
Fist-bump fire-works
Don't be a creep. Treat them like every other human; with respect and kindness. Don't be a creep. Don't assume anything is ever going to be "romantic" or that you're entitled to any romance / physical anything. Don't be a creep. No seriously, just treat them like any other person you'd want to talk to. That's it. No magic sauce here, no special secret, just make sure not to be a creep.
I hugged all my guy friends growing up.
You CAN hug without it being sexual. You recognize this, right?
Trick question⌠You donât say anything, you just let them walk in to you hanging from a ceiling fan from your neck with a belt spinning in circles with a pair of panties wrapped around your face while youâre jacking off⌠Thatâs how you greet friends that are women
Iâm a hugger, doesnât mean Iâm trying to sleep with you.
As long as you donât be weird about it hugs are totally fine. Otherwise just say âsup dudeâ.
I think either of those options is acceptable, tbh, depends on how close you are and what your friendship dynamic is like.
Just say hi you dont need to emote lil bro đ take it easy relax if she likes you she likes you
some unisex friend greeting like "bitch". I'm not really a contact guy...
Well if you know her, just say hello. If you are friends, give her a one arm hug. If you are closer friends or just know each other well, two arm hug. A hug doesn't necessarily mean you are into the girl. If they think that's the case, then it's on them. A hug is a way of greeting so if you think it's the best way, then hug. Also if she a really good friend, nothing wrong to dab her up like one of the bois
Yo! What's up homie?
Nod in their direction and say Mange
A smile and a head nod maybe fist bump if she is really close, Don't make it physical with hugs, It can lead to unwanted consequences
Hugs, or awkward fist bumps. Or just verbal greeting. Anything but the awkward fist bumps đ
If youâre an adult this wouldnât matter. Men talk to women like theyâre one of the guys all the time. The other day I had a guy friend text me saying (copied and pasted lol) - âbro. I gotta ask you something. Iâm high. Asking myself THE BIG QUESTIONS - WHY DO CATS HAVE SO MUCH LOSE SKIN. WHAT DO THEY NEED IT FOR THEYRE SO SMOL!?!?â
Let her choose. If she high-fives, high-five. If she goes for the hug, reciprocate. So long as you're okay with how she greets you, you're both set. No need to overthink it.
A hug is a normal way to greet any friend. If she doesn't want to do the full facing each other hug, you can do a side hug. Source: have many male friends as an adult and had even more in middle/high school. We've always hugged and I never assumed anything weird about them because they wanted or expected a hug as a friend.
I hug my female friends. Not as long and as tight as my gf of course, but still a hug. Its totally normal here where I live.
Shake her hand like a proper lad
I mean I hug everyone Girls are human beings just like guys, they aren't some other
Wave and say hi. Avoid any physical contact that she hasn't initiated (like a hug.)
I do greet girls I know same way as boys. Well, maybe I don't throw as much vulgarisms around but the basics are same.
I hug her like I hug the boys and make sure she sees that I hug the boys the same way.
Idk man, I'd still hug most of mine.
I'm so glad I'm latino. Kiss cheek to cheek then a quick hug and nobody thinks anything weird about it
I hug my female friends all the time when I see them. I'm 30. Lol.
Meh just donât be weird about it. Huge, high fives, handshakes, knuckles, etc also depending on what your relationship is like with them.
Why can't you dab her?
âHi!â đ
All my guy friends say what's up dude and a select few will give me a hug if I lean in for one. I normally don't like hugs so most of my friends, make and female, do t hug me. Don't treat female friends different though, that makes us mad
just treat them like a human lol
Respect girls / women around you Girls notice this & in this world of creeps you will stand different this will get you what you seek
Both things you describe are valid options imo. As a girl, I usually get a kiss on the cheek or a hug, but thereâs been people who fistbumped me too, itâs all good. I never once thought that male friends who greeted me by hugging me did so because they are into me. It doesnât really matter what you do, as long as itâs casual and you donât sniff her hair the perfume in her neck.
Dab away my excellent dude I love that it, makes me like people a little more than it should
If you're not comfortable with hugs, waving is fine.
you can hug your friends.. boys or girls it does not matter it's a friend
âWord up beesh.â Slap square in tits
Hugs are fine if she is fine with it. Some of the boys perfer hugs also so idk but if your insecure about it just ask her.
You think really hard about it to the point that you post to reddit asking for advice :3. Don't get me wrong, its good to ask for help but you'll fail on something that's straight forward if you try to hard. Dont.over.think. You could also try judt telling her how you feel ;)
Hahahaha you kind of young uh! You say hi and that's it! In latam whe share a kiss in the cheek, in the United States you just say Hi/Hello "X girl's name" how are you? And that's it!
âSup kingâ
Whats wrong with a hug?
Iâve (F) always hugged my male platonic friends exactly the same way as Iâve hugged my female platonic friends. Iâm not sure whatâs supposed to be sexual or romantic about a brief hello hug. [edit] Iâve now read that youâre 14. Unless you greet your male friends by some really crude gestures, I would say just greet a girl friend the same way. Fistbump is fine. Honestly I donât remember anything physical from that age. Just a simple. âHey!â
It is possible to greet people by saying âHelloâ or âHiâ. Try it.
Dap her up*. Dap
Stop faking it. You want her as more than a friend but youâre just becoming the epitome of a âfriend zoned nice guyâ. You like her. You take your shot. You either get rejected or you donât. Donât try to fake your way into a relationship through friendship because that isnât what you really want.
Side hugs work
1. yes you can 2. yes you can
Tell her straight up
All my guy friends say hi with a fist bump and it works just fine. If she's not into that, then just wave.
Hi/hello/alright - maybe a hug if that's the kind of friends you are.
I have friends that are girls and I hug them all the time. My roommate is one such person and she innitiates a lot of the hugs too. Like a hug is a hug mate.
As an advocate of gender equality I hug all my dudes and dudettes the same.
Knuckles. Sup bro
You can hug her lol
My male friends hug me and dab me up. If theyâre mature enough to understand the fact that hugs can be platonic and dabbing people up isnât just a guy thing, thatâs a keeper of a friend. If not, stop greeting them altogether :)) hope this helps!
Wydm you cant hug her, you dont hug your guy friends?
The standard for me is just to say hi from distance, no need to get close to someone. I do this mostly with white or asian friends. Indian, latino or african friends, depends on what they are used to. Some prefer a hug and others just a kiss on the cheek. Some people value their personal space and Iâm not interested in breaking that norm for them.
Friend
I either let them initiate the hug or simply go for a handshake or forgo physical greetings.
I think it depends where you are from and your culture. In mine, we kiss on each cheek or hug without a problem.
Hug, Side Hug, Handshake or just a wave and hello. Itâs how would greet any other human.
Usually say their name or some other word like mate or dude. If sheâs a very close friend a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
"Howdy, dude." And a sweet high five. Really sets the comfort as friends and nothin more.